Relationship Wars: Black men vs Black women

[cocoaj13]

Once upon a time, we used to know, to love someone is to identify with them. Now days, men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed. Aren't that ironic?

[MrHolipsism]

@Thatbitch2010 And you don't? You are cerebral, huh? Then I invite you to tune into The Zone with Dev this Thursday at 10pm Call in # (347) 884-8830. We talk about socio-economic and political topics and current events and ain't a cerebral Sista to be found. BUT...when the topic turns to Dick and Pussy ya'll come out in droves. I'm calling boo-sit on you until I hear you tune in.

[MsKateRoberts]

Im sorry but black women are not attracted to Lil Wayne and 50 Cent. If you said TI or J Cole then yoou are talking.

[MrHolipsism]

@MsKateRoberts I stand corrected, but...the point still remains. ;-)

[MsKateRoberts]

@MrHolipsism Yes dear Lil Wayne and 50 Cent just have nice bodies but we are not attracted to them. Rugged men that we are attracted to are Cameron, TI, J Cole. What are we supposed to do? I cannot date an ugly man and I never will. I'd rather be single than to have an ugly man. Sorry!

[MsKateRoberts]

@Thatbitch2010 I agree with you.

[niokolas]

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[niokolas]

ive come across plenty of smart guys that are attractive but you are right for both men and women...

oh hers the nok and ife kingdom... below

[niokolas]

weve been giving a fantasy about attraction... like you said ppl in love with idea of what and how and who they are to be attracted to is that close to what you said...

thats why we should look at and utilize our ancestors true connection to west africa like lookiing at the ife, yoruba, ghana kingdoms, zimbabwes kingdoms and other central and south african cultures not just east and north Africa cultures...

[niokolas]

Applause...

Im African American female and you are correct...

Good man doesnt make you wet and good women doesnt make you hard...

thats is a true...

i dont know what attraction is because in this society we are told how to feel attraction...

[carmentoffee]

On point, but in my opinion the biggest pink elephant is the self hate we display and indulge in everyday. The few that do understand their pros and cons continunously run into psychologically sick people, at least that is my thought.

[carmentoffee]

Absolutely agree with self realization is the key!

[NYC042477]

BINGOOOOOOOO

[MsRoyalTreasure]

But ma thing aside from a man with intellect and a purpose in life. Ive always had a thing for guys with braids or well set long locks that is SO SEXY to me, and wen he has a body.( he dont got to be buff buff or nothin jus a nice body).

[MsRoyalTreasure]

Yea dat is different to yo average female i noticed most of the time ESPECIALLY wen they young most women like bad boys. Some girls do to be followers and some do becuz of the conception. I wasnt neither, i wudnt want a guy tough wit no brains.

[MsRoyalTreasure]

i had a guy that worshipped the ground i walked on , except i was actually very attracted to him too he was smart and fine buti ended up moving and we never got to date.. i jus always found smart, intellectual black males to be sexy since elementary, and funny ones since highschool, but really i prefer the smart ones more lol.

[MrHolipsism]

@MsRoyalTreasure Then we need to talk because you are obviously a RARE woman. lol

[positiveblackman1]

well all of my previous girlfriends have been black,apart from one (she was half black half white) so you might aswell call her black...but yeah i think its a generation thing...i'm 19 from england and in my opinion you don't get better than a black woman but that's my opinion...the black girls do alot for us over here when we get into sticky situations and believe me alot of us do get into stick situations

[cocoaj13]

hey man i gave u a thumb up on that. that is a good analysis, and it is a reality. people do! have a tendencies to move towards whatever they are attractive to.... i agreed.

[Wisebrother78]

Best vid I've seen on this subject! I began to acknowledge my bullshit back in my early 20's. I'm a boob man so as long as a Sista had some nice boobs I was down no matter what her personality was. I ignored a lot good,decent,intelligent Sistas for some ignorant Sista just because she had nice boobs. The sluts NEVER liked my ass but I just kept on chasing them. Than I got bitter because I felt no one liked me like a lot of these cats on YT. The whole time it was my own damn fault..smh..lol.

[MrHolipsism]

@Wisebrother78 Welcome to the boo-sit Brothahood, Family! I'm a member too! My achilles heel is ass and legs. LOL

[Mhendeb]

I've made this point about how Black Women want Tupac with a degree, and how Black Men want a Hoe for a housewife for a while now.

[daboss0708]

Now thats REAL TALK!!

[WeAllHavePain1]

Our people in general I dont think we got this way overnight it can be fixed I think it balls down Spiriturally also we have lost our culture true language hertiage etc...as a people we dont know self like I stated before so what we love we hate we've been taught/programmed to do so&our people feed right into it so Well we become our worse enemies other so its not just in relationship sense Our people need help its many of areas but what do I know Im just another BlackWomen that dont know sh...

[WeAllHavePain1]

We have to get to know Each other as a people Man&women&child we have to embrace Us 1st We have find Self Worth build our self-esteem Up most men wont admit but some dont like themselves we have to see that we amy not always get along we may have own own ideas thoughts so sfourth we may do things differently Man&women but we come from same source we have to Try I dont see other races of Men coming on here degrading their women like some do us I dont see women from other races same thing MADNEZZ

[WeAllHavePain1]

1st As a People We have to Learn&Try to ACCEPT Ourselves we have to be Real with Us beofre we can be real with others We have be real with our maker Great Vid again Brotha I just left U comment i hope U received but Id like say this alot of our people arent right within themselves I think alot off that has been put on us thru living in this soceity brought over here not knowing self not truely knowing where we camne from&so fourth we hate our own people who look like Us we have stop blamegame

[WeAllHavePain1]

I have say this also Im young women alot of this Brotha with their bodies all tatotted up with pants hanging down playing play station all damn day I have say what women in her right mind wants boy like that alot of us Women&Men arent in our right frame of minds not just blackwomen we hear alot of this youtube thing but alot of us as a people dont know what we really want when it balls down to it but your right Im glad you addressed few of these problems w/Us Brotha U have blessed day

[MrHolipsism]

@WeAllHavePain1 Thank you, Queen! 

[WeAllHavePain1]

@MrHolipsism NoPrb King :-)) Bless You alot of your Vids you make are very Interesting Indeed really gets people to think Our people@that but one thing Ive learned over several months maken Vids inpast myself everyone isnt going to always agree not really something just learned here but just in general when I would make Vids Brotha oh Brotha I would catch hell mostly from Brothas some Sistaz but Ive learnt I think LoL U have alot of Great Points that need to be broght fourth we need to Heal

[MrHolipsism]

2 people dislike Black Men and Black Women at Peace with each other.

[WeAllHavePain1]

Peace Brotha How Ru Today? Blessed I hope I happen to come across this Video on a friends page of mine I have say Wowww alot fo things You siad are So Real&Im a BlackWomen I have openmind you make since I cant gice you thumbs down I gave U Ups lol but anyways u made gd points I cant say there's no gd brothas out here that would be lie thats not truth Im a Good women so2speak so there has be lots of Great Brothas out there We need communication stop walkn away from one another be adults

[BigBlaqueKat]

@iLLWiLLdaReaL Hmmm...maybe it's not that you're nice. You don't sound nice at all. Maybe it's just that you're not that appealing. Men use the word 'nice' to cover up for being inept at getting women.

[LBTALKS]

heat

[moondear2000]

@mr holipsism..thanks bro ..i dont know whats wrong with the guy..he is perfect thankfully am not so i can move on quite well..thanks for your time!

[moondear2000]

@mrHolipsism..i met this guy in church ,,infact last night i ended up telling him to stop bugging me coz he was blaming me for not having a relationship with him and saying we could have been far by now..and he could be marrying me by now if i hadnt rejected him forgetting he is the one who has not was not communicating in the first place..he thinks its my fault the relationship didnt work out at first...i dont know why..i told him he should repect me enough to want to communicate with me..

[MrHolipsism]

@moondear2000 He sounds like a lame to me, Sis. Consider yourself lucky, wipe the sweat from your brow and go, "Whew!" I really don't understand why these so-called "nice guys" make things so damn hard. When you are dealing with two grown people things tend to work rather simple, ya know?

[BlackSkinnedWarrior]

Damn! I don't think there is one video that you've put out that I've disagreed with, keep spittin that fiya brother!

[moondear2000]

THERE is a guy who likes me but am not attracted to him..we agreed to be in a relationship..but he was not communicating for months immediately after that ,..then when i asked him why he said..am nagging him..so its not all the people that say i love you who turn out fine ...that my experience..the dude is back saying we should try again but i told he hould be friends so we can develop a friendship than be in the same situation again..whats you take on this,,? the guy seems reluctant again..

[MrHolipsism]

@moondear2000 How did he initially express his interest in you? I'm curious. It seems odd that a fan would get cold feet when the object of their desire wants to deal with them. Especially odd when they dare say something like you are "nagging" them. I'm just curious as to how you found out this person was really feeling you like that from the beginning. Holla back. ONE

[est1985trill]

100% true. Real talk but how long did it take Laura to start liking Steve Urkel? Oh yeah he had to change into that personal fantasy she had of her ideal mate first. Lol I'm glad me n my girl found each other already.

[TeamAfrikaMemphis]

I agree with this video and this is for the most problem why the state of the Afrikan family is in such a bad place. "Attraction" as a basis of chosing a mate is a totally European concept. It is not Afrikan. So when we as Afrikans use European ways in our lives, the results are always going to be a mess.

[MrHolipsism]

@TeamAfrikaMemphis Thank you, Fam!

[blkgodus]

People seem to think that an individual is going to make them happy, despite the fact they are not happy with themselves. Great vid though!

[blkgodus]

People who are attracted to those who mistreat them or is not good for them have some issues with loving themselves. Because when a person really love themself, and I mean, truly love every inch of their being, there is no way their vagina would get wet or dick would get hard for someone who doesn't love or mistreats them. Black people in general physcological wiring is messed up. Too many years of trying to fit an African minds into a Eurocentric society...

[MrHolipsism]

@blkgodus Thank you, Family!

[willtheezy99]

I don't see anything wrong with wanting to be attracted to the person your with, I think people just need to be better judges of character. Just because you a bad boy don't mean you aint a good dude, people just need better discernment skills.

[MrHolipsism]

@willtheezy99 I agree

[Zecalran]

@MrHolipsism you should aslo make one on BLACK MAN VS BLACK MAN!! peace bro...

[MrHolipsism]

@Zecalran How so? Holla back, Fam. ONE!

[Zecalran]

@MrHolipsism because I've seen how alot of brothers don't stand together or behind each other! I've seen how they turn on one another man and that's my point!

[MrHolipsism]

@Zecalran Hmmm...it is interesting you would say that because we are on the same page in that regard. I was going to do a video about a code of conduct among Brothas specifically.

[Zecalran]

@MrHolipsism then plz do it peace bro! gr8 videos btw I really like them and their messages!

[Zecalran]

@MrHolipsism u really gotta make that video man on black man vs black man! Just speak about the reality of it like you've done here and that would hit harder than any code of conduct but I'm glad to see black ppl are waking up! thanks bro for all these vids gr8 work man!

[ShinIsTrue]

@MrHolipsism we have the same views I have a video called uncut rant that saying we both fucked up

[MrHolipsism]

@ShinIsTrue Thank you for putting me on to your video, Fam. FIRE!

[ShinIsTrue]

@MrHolipsism No thank you! Bro it's good to see others on the damn pink elephant that they act like is not there. I put this on my facebook letting these people know. We on some bullshit!

[shemika341]

Finally! A bm video about bm &f relationships that is mature, honest, unbiased and fair to both genders. Excellent work and great assessments.

[vanity40ful]

U make perfect sense !!!!!



[bigvinamac]

@HEAVENLYTRUTH1 thank you. i hate thugblamers because a lot of them are hypocrites and are no better than the thugs they bitch about.

[BeaSiegal]

There is still a few other things that haven't been said: Treaty the black opposite sex with contempt just because their black. Saying things just to piss each other. Placing expectations on each other based on race. Not being honest about what you have to offer-if anything. Treating the opposite sex based on what you think they deserve instead of what they are actually worth.

[ifama]

If your dick or your money is all you got to bring to the relationship, I don't NEED either. What I do need is a man who understand WORKING TOGETHER and NATION BUILDING. Who knows who he is and knows OUR ENEMY and has ideas on how to WIN. We put our heads together to make life EASIER, cause at the end of the day, that is what I think it should be about. I wouldn't dare think of putting all the weight on my man and I am definitely NOT gonna allow all the weight to be pt on me. MAAT is the goal.

[ifama]

Damn Bro, you are right, they are both full of shit. Unbelievable. I agree with the number one pink elephant. It's all about excitement, programmed excitement. I agree Bro, I agree. Leg and Ass man, LOL. My cryptonite (sp) is SMART MEN. Well,,,they appear smart, but give it a minute and I learn how UNINTELLIGENT they are by the things they DO. I don't believe in the shortage of males, there are plenty of them, lol. There is a WOMAN and MAN shortage. Where my worshipper, Bro. I am looking for em.

[ifama]

@ifama GIVE HIM SOME ASS? GIVE HER SOME DICK??? LAWD, don't we gotta move past the physical? Personally, I don't want a worshipper, that can turn pathological, LOL. I have SEEN it happen!!! They call it FATAL ATTRACTIONS!!!! And that is the problem period, we been worshipping shit, Jesus, God, another human being, etc. NO NO NO!!! I would say if your inclined to worship anything, worship your children. THEY ARE YOURS. HOW ABOUT THAT? LOL. Great Vid Bro.

[morningafter86]

5 STARS!!!!!!! TRUTH ABSOLUTE TRUTH. GOD, I've been waiting for a truthful video for the longest.

[Auntkekebaby]

All I can say is YUP. No one wants the 'nerdy' person but that nerdy person can wear you OUT! Best sex I've EVER had. I need someone I can talk to AFTER I have sex with him.That's the sexiest part. I want a critical thinker with some skills I can work with. I know my body (key) You have to know how to tweak your skills with each new relationship. We got to stop this fantasy shit. I've given the nice guy some ass ok! LOL

[ShinIsTrue]

PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[enyawix]

Great job this video was a home run.

[rfrantzt]

Ps- Speaking of elephants, this obesity thing is killing the game.

[rfrantzt]

Holip's mind is always l laser sharp. The solution is for us "good brothas and sistas" to hit the gym.

Furthermore, many brothas are conditioned top be attracted to white features, which are often accompanied by white values. Many sistas are devout feminists who bring that same vibe to relationships. We all must strive to deprogram our minds from the features we have been taught to desire, e.g. straight hair and light skin or trick ass and/or self-destructive personas.

[BeaSiegal]

@rfrantzt

Honestly the features aren't an issue. There are black women with all kinds of looks getting dates and rocks, yours truly included. I don't think black men as a whole are attracted to just "light, small, and straight", not even the majority. Feminism isn't an issue when a girl likes a guy, she'll put in work to keep him grinning. No woman has anything to gain by catering to a guy she ain't diggin.

[Sammagoose]

This topic almost makes me want to make YT vids because you can't get all of your thoughts about it in with just a paragraph but thanks for this vid.

[pharaohdojah]

YOU RIGHT ITS ALL PHYSICAL AND THATS WHY RELATIONSHIPS DONT WORK OUT ... I THINK YOU SHOULD BE ATTRACTED TO A PERSONS METAL AS WELL AS THE SPIRIT NOT JUST THE PHYSICAL

[blacksncommercials]

Glad you addressed this, great video!

[TheQueenIsWithin]

Its ironic that despite you saying that this is not a topic you were looking forward to discussing, its one of the very few and best commentaries on the subject. This supports the view that one must think before they speak.

[raisismith]

Women being able to earn their own money and acquire material possessions on their own is one of the reason that they've become more selective in terms of mates, because they no longer have to chose a mate for financial reasons. More and more, women are placed in leadership positions, and it becomes difficult for them to allow their mate to lead inside the household as the man This financial and social freedom has caused women to become more promiscuious and give themselves without commitment.

[kingru77]

Once again another jewel dropped. Great perspective as usual and yes nice legs and a mean walk are something for the eye to behold....lol

[Sammagoose]

I don't make vid's. I don't even have a camera but for as much as I learn from the the bro's online, and I learn a lot. In fact I love what you guys are doing here but this topic seems to be the one thing that women should probably step up on.

[hueybrown12]

FIRE once again!!!

[KickWhitesOutAfrica]

“What is GOOD for us... is not what we’re attracted to.”

I couldn’t have said it better myself. A wise, fair and intelligent video. It’s refreshing to hear a brotha think outside of the box rather than see only what society wants him to see.

[MC0090]

classic .... 

[solreavir]

Brilliant Vid Man Acknowledged

[KN0WLEGE562]

lol wow man you hit it right on the dam nose! great vid..i couldnt agree more

[TribeTPaul]

BOOOOOOOOOOOM! Truth Bomb has been dropped. We got to deal with this.