I recently found out that my parents are getting a divorce and it's not for normal reasons. My mom is a drug addict and my mom doesn't want us around her. I can't seem to find a way to coop with it. like today in class, my english teacher asked why I was barely turning in any assignments. I broke down into tears and I couldn't even get the words out.
My name is Jayde and I am 15. I am in a new relationship, only a few weeks in and my boyfriend his the most sweets person you would ever meet but I have been reflecting in on my self and I just don't feel ready for a new relationship at this point in my life. I really really like this boy and I think its the right thing at the wrong time. I'm afraid if I do tell him how I'm felling and we do part, I know when I'm ready for a relationship my chance with him will be gone. HELP??:)
Dear Buck, my name is Steve I'm from England I moved to canada 6 months ago and I love this girl in England and I can't stop thinking about her I cry when I think of her do I love her please help ?? Thanks
My name is Allison and i'm 16. I'm getting ready to go to college within the next year and a half because i'm graduating early. i've always been stuck at home and i want to go to an out of state school and live out my life and make it what i want it to be.but my parents won't allow it. How can i change their minds? please help!!!!
I tried to be Catholic for a long time, but I just can't be, I tried being in my church choir and that was just very uncomfortable. Some family members repeatedly tell me things about it in a mocking way. One of my sisters has told me that I will be Catholic until I'm 18 and can make my own decisions. All this is stressing me out, especially with all my extra things at school, please help me with how to deal with this.
I'm 15 years old and my mother passed away a bit over 2 months ago, she meant the world to me so to have her pass away is hard. I also recently decided to let my brothers and sisters know that I'm not catholic, I'm actually atheist agnostic, but they don't really want to accept it and just say kind of say that I'm child, I don't know what I'm talking about and that I need god in my life to help me cope with the recent difficulties in my life. I have been this way for several years now
Hey Buck, I shit pebbles and can't stop falling down stairs. I can't have kids and coffee gives me diarrhea. I can't afford life insurance and I'm racially intollarant, not to mention I wrecked my car three times this year.
im 15 with trust issues. in may of 2010 my mom killed herself. this hit me really hard because she was all i had to talk to, i have 3 brothers and a dad. then,i became best friends with someone at my school.she helped me through a lot, but i then found out that she had been telling everyone things i told her. my bf of 1 month broke up with me recently.cuz i didnt really ever talk to him much, i was so afraid he would get close 2 me then hurt me just like my mom & friend. what do i do?
Hey Buck. I'm 15 and bi and have only come out to a few of my closest friends. My only friend who is also bi gave me advice to the same question I'm going to ask you but it hasn't been working. How do you get over someone who doesn't feel the the same way you do? I tried to keep as distanced from him as possible but I can't get him out of my mind. What should I do?
Thanks for the help! I love your videos; they always make me laugh.
@MrRyangproductions a litle red thing that u get by being sucked on like try sucking on ur arm for 30 seconds, the nu sould get one its no big deal :P if u gaveit o urself haha
So, I am feeling pretty good right now because I have lots of new friends. But even the slightest thing reminding me of last year makes me spiral out of control. I feel like I can't move forward and I am too afraid to ask out the guy I have a major crush on because I am afraid I will be rejected and things will start to feel like that.
Please answer this question . I have been having a hard time lately.
I am almost 14 years old and at the beginning of eighth grade, I transferred schools. The reason that I transferred was because I was bullied by numerous people and rejected by my ex-friends. This left me feeling pretty emotionally wrecked and now that I am at a new school, I am happy and I am starting to pick up the pieces. I have one person at school who I knew beforehand and she has been my BFF since we were six.
Dear Buck, My school is preforming "Little Shop of Horrors" for our musical this year. I've been going to each audition and practicing and practicing but I feel like i won't get a part. I feel like there are other girls better for me, and that our choir teacher likes better than me. If I don't get a part how can i deal with it? I'm so stressed out I cry. This musical means everything to me. HELP!
Dear Buck, (or anyone) I'm really paranoid. I'm originally from NJ and I lived next to a drug house for the first 13 years of my life. My family and I were always afraid they would come in and try to hurt us. Also, a girl got shot by her ex in my neighborhood. So as you can tell it wasnt a nice place 2 live. Now I'm afraid of nice people. Like my neighbors. They are really nice and we are supposed to go to their house for Christmas dinner. But IDK I'm still paranoid about it. Thanks. <3- Sierra
Dear Buck, My dad got out of prison a few months ago and has been trying to come and see me and i really have no interest in having him in my life (mainly for safety) He even showed up at my home when i was alone. luckily my neighbor was home and called the police when she saw him. I even deleted my facebook because he keeps trying to add me. What should i do?
My friend is off to go to Bahrain with his father to handle the uprises, and he's not even 13 years old yet. This sounds very childish, but we promised to stay together forever (And he gave me a pretty necklace to make me feel better), and what if he dies there? He's not going to be directly involved since that's his dad's job, but I'm so afraid that this will all just turn into "Just A Dream" by Carrie Underwood. My heart breaks from thinking about him.
I just wanted to say thank you. I watch your videos all the time and they always leave me in a happy mood. I have a problem, this may sound really odd but i need help flirting. Like this guy likes me ( i think) And when he says something cute i dont know what to do so i try to make a joke and he kind of gets mad.(which i understand) So what how do I keep things light flirty and i dont loose my personality in the process??
Dear buck. I'm insecure. I don't like what it's turning me into. I used to be confident, But I didn't realize I have been becoming quieter and I can't hide my insecurities behind my enthusiasm anymore. I don't think I'm pretty and sometimes I feel useless or worthless. I don't think I'm conventionally girly, and maybe there's something wrong with me but I like to cater to what other people think of me. I've tried to break out of it for years now... And I think I finally have and that's why I ha
To @Italktopixels : hehe I think of you are a nerd, maybe going to a school well known for being filled with nerds or with a higher aggregate score will allow you to fit in well! That way you dont have to worry about the new school. And as for if you should miss prom etc, yes. Because years down the road it's not the friends you graduated with but the friends you keep in contact with that count. So let it come naturally who you'll grow up with rather than let these events bond you, cos those bo
Leah, don't send it to him. I understand you probably want to show him what he did to you to help him feel remorse but I feel it carries the risk of giving him power, either in thinking he still has an effect on you or that he'll get a perverted kick out of reading your recounting of what happened. Concentrate on healing yourself and continuing to move forward. He doesn't deserve any of your time or effort.
Buck you're amazing. Your videos make my day and I think you one of the most wonderful people in the world. Never stop what you're doing, people need you <3
Lea, send it to him, you have come through this and you want him to know that you beat him. He is punished and you have grown. Let him know of the pain he caused and the pain you worked to get past to get strong. Let him know that you made it and you beat him.
When i was 12, 13 I was depressed and i cut, tried suicide and other things. I depended on guys to like me and make me feel good about myself because of my low self esteem but alot of the time it lead me into relationships where I was used and in one case I was sexually abused. But now I'm 16 and I'm in a great relationship and with his help for the first time I'm enjoying life. But I'm afraid that some day i'll lose him and everything will go back to the way it was. What do I do?
@TheAngelLover3 I'm 13 now, so u may not believe that im giving this info, but dont do anything to mess up your relationship. don't be afraid of messing up.
@TheAngelLover3 You have gotten SO far and have this great relationship, you don't really need to worry to much about it, sounds like he loves you and you love him, but it if somehow, god for bid, goes wrong, you are so much stronger now and you know how to avoid those guys that will use you and abuse you. But if you are still worried, talk to him about it, he has helped you this far, I'm sure you will continue to and love you.
u shud go to HendersinMusic on youtube, hes really great and if u say something about him on ur show or peron75 hell get his big break! i havent ever met him, but iv heard all of his songs and remixes and hes amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!just saying :P
im a 14 year old girl and i live in Denmark. my situation is difficult i hope you will help me. about a year ago my mom and stepdad got divorced,then a month after they got divorced my mom found a new boyfriend. and then half a year ago we had to move with him And i hate living here ive changed school 4-5 times and i just dont feel i belong here im depressed and suicidal I want to move back to my stepdad but i know she'll get mad at me when i tell her
I am gay, but I haven't come out. I have a comfortable group of friends, and we all hang out with each other every lunchtime. But one of the girls has fallen for me, and wants to go out! She is very nice, if not naïve, so i dont want to be mean to her, but i don't want to get her hopes up! So I don't know what to do! Please help?! I don't want to come out yet, and she won't take no for an answer, because all my friends are encouraging me to go out with her!
@TheAmazingMrJack i havent given much advice before you might want to consider telling her but tell her to keep it a secret you dont have to come out all at once
also another is to literally just let it work itself out no 1 can force you to say yes and she cant really go after ya forever
@TheAmazingMrJack I think that if you don't want to come out yet, you can only just keep strong and just tell her that you don't feel that way about her or something. Also, before he came out my gay friend had only one friend who knew and they pretended to date to avoid things like that... it's probably a bad idea, but it worked for him!
ITalkToPixels: Snak med din far, fortæl ham hvordan du har det. Et godt råd hvis du vælger at snakke med din far er, at du skal slappe helt af og ikke hidse dig op, du kunne måske komme med et kompromis f.eks. at hvis han lader dig blive på din nuværende skole vil du hjælpe mere til der hjemme eller gøre mere ud af dine lektier. Ellers prøv at snakke med dine venner, i kunne lave lektier sammen og på den måde vil du også "lære" at være mere social - det hjalp mig. Håber du finder ud af det (:
ITalkToPixels: Ask ur friends to help u with school work or let them know to stay at this school u have to bring up ur grades. Ur friends just might help you.
There's this girl I really like and she's my first real crush. She's dating another girl, and she would never like me. Every time I see her I feel very happy, and very depressed. I know it's unhealthy for me to keep thinking about her like this, because we see each other on a regular basis. I'm afraid I'm going to hurt myself.
My Ex bf has dated 2 of my friends, After they broke up, they became friends again. I am not friends with him tho. I want to be friends again cuz we r in the same circle of friends, and i miss his friendship. We were together for 6 months and we became rather serious. I still see him in school and think about going up to him again, and talking. i don't any convos we've had have been awkward... Can u give me any advice on how to become friends with him?
I really like this guy and he's perfect to me I would do anything for him. but half the girls in drama club love him, including my close friends. His sister thinks we're friends even though I only met her this year and I think she's annoying, and she doesn't want me near him. Also, he's a senior and I'm only a freshman. His las GF dumped his cuz she was going to collage, so I feel he doesn't want a relationship. How can I get him to like me back? Is it even worth it?
@xXxbellaxlunaxXxAre you close? Because if you are, I'd just drop hints to him that you like him e.g. "So, Can I talk to you for a sec? Okay, I like this guy.."etc. If he doesn't ask you out it's either he's stupid, or he doesn't like you. (This would be a few weeks later) At which point you should probably just say to him "It was you who I was talking about before. I like you. Do you like me back?" I know it seems scary but I'd just go for it. You have nothing to lose
love him and most of them are my friends. I liked him before I became friends with his little sister (who is my age) but the truth is she's really annoying and she doesn't want me near him. Is there away I can get him to notice/like me the way I notice/like him? I like him alot but i don't want to hurt people.
I really really really like this guy. he's perfect to me in every single way and I want him to be my boyfriend. But there's some problems. One is that he's a senior and I'm only a freshman however There is only about a 2 or 3 year age difference. but, since he's a senior he'll be going off to collage. he had a girlfriend last year who dumped him because she was going away to collage so I feel like he doesn't want a relationship. Another problem is that half the girls in drama club l
I'm a weird nerd, though I wouldn't consider myself a nerd because I'm not that smart. c: @ITalkToPixels whatever you decide, it all be for the better good. I chose an university away from the close friends I had at home, and over time (even though it took quite a bit of time), I made new friends that I'm quite close to now. It takes time, but you'll find you're own little niche eventually. c:
My best friend is amazing and I love her to bits but she's started being a bit big headed (like saying "Wow, I look so nice! Are you jealous?")and I feel awkward around her. I still want to be friends with her but I just don't know what to say to her. I know if I tell her that she's being big headed she'll fall out with me.
I'm starting to feel like she's really vain, but I also really still want to be her friend. What should I do!?
Lately, I've been having loads of fights with my best friend. She leaves me out all the time and takes things too seriously. Like, I was joking about her wanting to go out with someone and she said "EW! You B*****d"(She's only 11!) I told my mum and she told me to ignore her. I tried to do this but she "got upset" and spread rumors about me D: She's a drama queen and I'm starting to dislike her, which I don't want to happen because we used to be so close and have so much fun D:
@SugarSpice0826 Since I wrote this, he has got a girlfriend! Not just anyone...but my enemy! She's also called Amy. And she's so mean to me. She makes me feel weird around her and gives me funny looks. Plus, she recently stole my best friend off me! She knows I like him! D: What should I do!? D: D: D: D:
To the person who asked about conversations: I was always the quiet, awkward one while I was growing up. Someone gave me advice once that helped me alot and Buck mentioned it briefly, but that's that everyone likes to talk about themselves, so asking simple questions about their lives is good way to get the other person talking if you feel awkward talking yourself. And then conversation becomes more comfortable from there.
dear "Italktopixels" you have your whole life to make friends. take your time with the score now, it's very difficult and tedious to finish school and have bad / not so good reviews. like buck says friends and other things such as sport takes a lot of your time. so go for the score. friends, that I wrote.. yo have your whole life to find them Yeey you! :D
Dear Buck, I'm 16 and a dude and I recently had a brake up. We have been in a relationship for 1.5 years, until recently when I had health issues, depression and stress. It got to the point where we ran into some issues and we broke up. She said to me that everything was going to be fine and we would be friends. Ever since then she is with another person after a month of the break up. Do you think it was wrong for her to move on so fast? and do you think we should still be friends?
@UpWithTheBirds I don't think it's wrong that she moved on, she can't be stuck in a dead relationship forever. It's not like she was with this new guy an hour after you two broke up. And yes, if being friends WORKS (which all too often it doesn't) then by all means, be her friend.
@Leighislistening2 Rapists act one of two ways. 1) they feel guilt after seeing how they have hurt you OR 2) they take pride in knowing how they have affected you. Either way, he doesn't deserve to know how you're feeling. If he feels guilty, he deserves to stay that way. If he's glad to have messed with your head, he DEFINITELY doesn't need to know how you've been hurt or how you're doing now after such a traumatic event.
Dear Buck, one of my old friends killed himself last week. We were really close his Senior year, but when he left for college we had a falling out, and I acted really immature and bitchy towards him. We hadn't talked for over a year when he died, and he thought I hated him.. I went to his memorial and it brought back all these memories, and I realized I miss him so much, but now there's nothing I can do about it. All this guilt and regret is eating me alive. Do you have any advice? <3 Jessica
@spongelover87 I fully understand you, I've been through it all. instead of waiting for someone to notice just tell your teacher/parents. I also find it easy to just avoid bullies when you can till they forget why they bully you. it worked for me :)
Dear buck, everyone in my class/grade bullies me I try to hide my pain but sometimes I just cry teachers don't notice and won't listen Im really scared someone will physically abuse me instead of just verbally I'm sad HELP!!!!!!
@usernamekatniss darn im in a similar situation accept hes one of my close friends and ill i can say is get closer to him then drop some hints, flirt. after that im not sure. hopefully once you are closer he'll make a move. Hope it helped! :)
Dear buck my name Is Margret and I'm in band and play the trumpet. There's another guy there who also plays the trumpet I realy like him. He's smart and funny and I think he likes me too. How do i know for sure that he likes me to. Were kinda friends and we have slot of fun with each other when were together. We always get in trouble for talking but we can't help it. What the buck I hope I've given u enoph info to help.:( :(
hey Buck, im in 9th grade nd the guy I've liked since 6th grade started going out with one of my best friends. I've really liked him for so long nd it kills me everytime I see them. What do I do?
i hope you don't think I'm being stupid or irreverent but this really confused me. I'm from England and nobody from where i live knows what a "Hickey" is? what is it?
i am a liar, idk why i lie, when i talk to people i really derail and start excagerating greatly but thats not much of a problem cause everyone does that in one way or another. the problem is when i start feeling insecure about something i cant get myself to tell anyone, even the people i really trust.. i feel like i have to be perfect i think.. and i would be letting people down if they knew everything about me.. but then the little things also gets left out in the end...
Lea, do not give the rapist that power over you, even calling him "my rapist." it's good to write your reflections and may help to purge the pain and help you get some perspective on your life now by letting it go. but sending it to him is absolutely unnecessary and harmful to you. why maintain a relationship to this person?
I am 13 and lately have Found myself staring at a girl in my class. She comes over to me every day and puts her arm around me or hugs me. She has a lot of other boys crushing on her. We talk alot but i cant tell if she likes me or not. Whenever she hugs me i kind of push it off because i get nervous around her. I want to ask her out but dont know if she likes me. Please help.
I am in my 8th grade year before highschool.i have a friend who is bullied at school. He thinks he is really cool but i see him get pushed into lockers and called names. When some one is mean to him i do not stick up for him because my other friends will think i am wierd. Should i stick up for him and risk loosing my friends or leave him alone?
@Yyous0stupid i definitely think you should stick up for your friend. maybe you could step up and change the opinion or behavior of your other friends so that instead of losing them, you convince them that the bullying isn't cool and they should just let other's alone. you could become a leader, a trend setter! and if you are risking losing your friends by sticking up for someone, they're not your real friends anyway.
@Yyous0stupid you can anonymously report the bullies to the principal/vice principal/teacher so that your friends don't know and you can still help your friend thats being bullied
@SugarSpice0826 thanks I'll keep that in mind. It was just that..I'm not really in need of a boyfriend but if I do like someone then one of those two things happens so I started getting very depressed. But thanks for replying it means a lot
I like your answer to the personal question. Everyone has a different idea of what happiness is and it's okay if my idea of happiness is different than some else's. It's what makes us unique. Thanks for another great video :)
To the girl who has issues starting conversation: I used to be very socially awkward, but now am 22, in my senior year at university, and very successful in my job, internship and social life. Something that helps is to embrace the awkward. This might sound weird but it works. Whenever I am being weird or awkward I kind of point it out and laugh at myself. People love to laugh and it eases the tension. I'm not saying pick yourself apart but a good sense of humor about yourself can go a long way.
@Leighaislistening2 I don't think you should send him the letter. He's wronged you and scarred you in a way that has had a profound impact on your life and you should not give him the satisfaction of knowing you still think about him. Writing is good, and I want you to keep writing about your feelings and anything else you want to write about. its very theraputic. i'm running out of space here but god bless you and no, don't give that fuckhead the satisfaction of knowing he's on your mind.
@inlivingwearedying: I think you should talk to here about it. Who knows? Maybe you do really love her. If you feel like your sure, than make the decision about going all the way.
dear buck, im really confused.. i recently dug deep and came out that i like girls! ( im a girl), but im not complelty sure, ive been going out with this girl named sam for a couple months, and its really hard because i really think i would only really know if we whent all the way together, but at the same time, shes a virgin, and i love her, and im not sure if im really gay, so if we did do it , i wouldnt wanna gamble her first time on that, im not sure what to do, please or anyone help me #ilu
@inlivingwearedying Do men sexually excite you at all? If you are in a relationship with a girl over a boy, I'm guessing you are at least bisexual. When you decide you love eachother enough to go all the way, I'm sure you will be fine. Just make sure it is what you both want and you are comfortable with the decision. I wouldn't tell her of your fears, as it would scare her.
@inlivingwearedying Don't worry you don't have to make a decision now, don't worry about labeling your self as gay or not life will work itself out when it's ready!
Buck I think a simple life is a comfortable life. I didn't want kids all throughout my 20's and then after being married 5yrs I decided I wanted a baby. We lost our first baby to stillbirth and then we had our second baby girl. She is a total diva, but to be honest we are still simple and (dare I say) kind of boring people and WE LOVE OUR LIVES!!! LOL We are the same as you. Instead of dogs we have 2 cats. We just enjoy watching TV and hangning out with each other. I think that is great. :)
@Leighaislistening2 I totally agree with Buck. He doesn't deserve to know how you feel. You should keep the satisfaction for yourself that you have gone on with your life. You are such a strong person to be able to deal with this and go on. Good luck to you. Prayers and HUGS!!
@TheSingingChipmonk ADD often comes with depression-like symptoms. Talk to a psychiatrist or a doctor about it. I have beed living with ADD for almost 15 years, and I am seeing someone for it. And talk to your friends about it!
Hi Buck, I agree about your opinion not to send the letter to the rapist. That letter is for her, her family, close circle of friends, support group, etc. If she wants, she could burn the letter and let it disappear into the ether. It might help her in her quest to "let go." The rapist has his own path of repentance to walk, and she owes him nothing. He must learn how to be a human being again and take responsibility for his heinous crime--ON HIS OWN. Cyber hugs for survivors out there
My sister is currently in the hospital recovering from major surgery. I only told two of my friends about this because I knew they would be there to support me. One of the friends has been so helpful to me whenever I need to talk and is always asking how my sis is. The other friend has been sick alot lately. She is flaunting her "sickness" and trying to make people feel bad for her. This makes me so mad that she has no idea what really being deathly sick is like. Should I talk to her
My sis is currently in the hospital recovering from major surgery. I only told two of my friends about this because I knew they would be there to support me. One of the friends has been so helpful to me whenever I need to talk and is always asking how my sis is. The other friend has been sick alot lately so she is feeling very bad for herself. She is basically flaunting her "sickness" to everyone and trying to make people feel bad for her. This makes me so mad that she actually has n
My sister is currently in the hospital recovering from major surgery. I only told two of my friends about this because I knew they would be there to support me since my family is really unstable right now. One of the friends has been so helpful to me whenever I need to talk and is always asking how my sis is. The other friend has been sick alot lately and has low blood sugar so she is feeling very bad for herself. She is basically flaunting her "sickness" to everyone and trying to m
I am a 6th grade girl and I feel absolutely positively alone. My friends avoid me and don't seem interested in even being my friends anymore! My one best friend is a boy and I am completely in love with him. He understands me more than my own family! I would be fine with just having him, if I wasn't so emotionally awkward around him. ANY ADVICE? ANYONE?
Dear Buck, (or anyone) I am 13 years old. I have a friend, she wants a boyfriend so bad that she is not falling in love with the people, she is falling in love with the idea of love. She thinks she is ugly, when I think she is gorgeous and I have stayed up till 3am with her on the phone because she hates herself and cries. It kills me to see her this way. How do I tell her that she's in love the idea of love without being mean, and feel better about herself?
@loveboburnham Hey Sarah my name is Sarah to! I have also had a friend similar to this and you're doing all the right things being there for her, being postive and trying to make her feel better. But the only person you can change is yourself not any other person in this world. I would try to talk to her and say something like hey this is your life you get one chance lets not waste it trying to fall in love and hating ourselves. Life will happen by it's self!
@loveboburnham you need to tell it to her straight, explain why you are telling her this and say that she will find a boyfriend in her own time. If she rushes she'll just end up doing something she'll regret
Dear Buck, lately one of my friends has been really mean to me. Like when we were at my friends I overheard her calling me fat, I know I am a little overweight but it is in my genes I know it is no excuse for being overweight but I am trying to lose weight I am in two sports and go to the weight room three days a week. But, I am so confused because I am really good friends with her.... I don't think she realizes that what she is saying is hurting me but it makes me feel bad... Love, Ray
@MissRaelynBerry Talk to her. If she is truly your friend, then she'll listen. If not, then maybe it is time to part ways. I know that sounds harsh, but friends don't stab friends in the back. Major props on your crusade to stay healthy. Your friends should be supporting you, not dissing you. <3 Sugar
leigh dont send itt!!! he would only get satisfaction out of it . thats how these twisted freaks work. its all about power and if you show him he still affects you then youre giving him ultra power DONT DO ITT!!!!
@mirosango14 Sometimes they blow me off but I really try to stay friends with them. They never bossed me around or made fun of me. But sometimes I feel that they ignore me and instead they usually hang out with her.
I am 19 years old and a freshman in college. Right before the semester began my Father lost his job.This means at the new year our health insurance is gone. I applied but was denied for my weight. My family has coverage but I dont. Where do I go for here. I have been trying to get to a healthy weight and this is my first "adult" problem. My weight has caused me to hurt myself in the past and I dont want to go down this road again, but I feel like there are no options....
@shadowchic I bet your college has a gym, right? Insurance is complicated and a mess, but while you're figuring that out I bet you can take some classes at the gym or do some reading on an exercise bike. Also, I know my university has an insurance plan, so you might be able to find an alternative healthcare option through your school. When you feel there are no options, find people who know about options! Asking questions (like this one) is the perfect start to getting a solution.
@shadowchic Look for options within your college. They often have programs available. If not, keep looking. Ask for help from people at the student health center. They may have ideas. But just remember, you are special! And keep a positive outlook! <3 Sugar!!
@stalkerninjas61 it shouldn't matter to you who your friends hang out with. as long as they aren't as mean to you as your ex-friend was, I think who they hang out with is their business. and if you care for your friends, then you'll respect that.
but have they been rude to you? blown you off, taunted you, bossed you around...?
Im in highschool and a relitivitly smart person i believe. I made good grades when the year had begun but now im alsomt failing my easiest classes. Im just not modivated enough! So i guess my question is HOW CAN I BE MODIVATED! I need to get good grades this year. It has finnally become my first balanced year gettingover eating disorders and suicide attepmts. Please help!
@lauraANDmadi Hey, girl! I'm not Buck but I might be able to offer some advice. It sounds like you have the right idea in wanting to get good grades (goals, woo!) but getting to that point is hard. You could ask a parent to "monitor" you in the afternoon so you can do homework and study without distractions. A friend could also do that! I think it sounds like you need someone to be accountable to other than yourself while you're working things out like a tutor or motivated friend. Good luck!
@lauraANDmadi Try doing a little "self-bibery" like "if I do all my homework in this class, I can have a cookie, or watch my fave movie!" it sounds corny, but it works. Also schedule time to do the work. If you have a planed time to do the work, you are more likely to get it done! <3 Sugar
Buck, i think it`s so great that you`re so happy with where you are in your life. It makes me happy to hear that! It just instantly makes me smile. I hope that when I`m older I`ll have a life that I enjoy as much as you do with yours :)
@Leighislistening2 I'm going to diverge a little from Michael here. I think it's not necessarily a bad idea, but you need to know where he's at. Is there any way you could ask someone at the prison how he's feeling about it? Three years seems a little soon for me for him to really have come to terms with what he's done and begun to atone for it. But if that's where he's at, it might be an alright idea.
@ITalktopixels I think if you move schools you will be able to make new friends, despite what you think. I'm unfamiliar with Danish schools,but it sounds like your father is trying to shift you into an advanced track? If you're already struggling with maintaining social relationships, that mightn't be a good idea, but if your grades need improvement, switching schools might work.
One I'd like to say, ILY!!!! <3 and two I was wondering if this is ridiculous. I met a boy at a ice rink last week and i havent stopped thinking about him!!! i only got his first name, so i cant find him on twitter or FB or buzz or any of that, and i didnt get his number, but we rlly hit it off. Is it ridiculous to c if i can find him again at the rink cuz I kinda think i might maybe luv him....
@legodmyeggo Well, I don't think you should talk of love with someone you only met once, but I think what you're feeling is pretty common. If you really like him, go ahead and try to hang out at the ice rink again to see him, but be prepared to accept that it may have been just for that one day. Especially since you guys didn't trade any contact info, I'm thinking this might just be a day crush.
@DunkRyan thanks for the advice and i think i will get over it eventually... but it kinda sux. i go to that rink almost every week so i'm bound to c him. maybe hopefully it will b more! thanx 4 the advice cuz i do get short crushes all the time
@legodmyeggo No problem. "You're beautiful", the James Blunt song, is about this exact type of thing (except with the roles switched and even less interaction). Best of luck.
for the rapist question: i really don't think sending the letter is a good idea.. through it you could create a new kind of connection and tie to you for him and give him the advantage of knowing how you feel and how he had affected you.
What does it mean when a guy signals to another guy, 'are you okay with this girl' it happened to me last night and the guy I was with nodded when he said it...apparently it's guy code..
@VivaLaVieBoheme49 I highly doubt that seeing as he texted me the minute we got home, and has continued to text me through out the day, and putting his arm around me as we walked home...
@RazzleDazzale Guy here... I'm not really sure what you're talking about. I can think of two things that it might have meant. First is the signaler was checking to make sure the guy you were with liked you and didn't need to have his friend come take him away from you. Second is that it was some possible kind of "dibs" code? I need more information to help any more than that.
@DunkRyan Well we had met once at a party before, and our friends were trying to get us together, we were sitting alone, and it was rather awkward for a while, but we talked. Another guy, (a friend of his) comes over, and begins I wouldn't say flirting with me, but being friendly then he sort of starting do these odd hand gestures and pointing at me to the guy I was with and he just nodded and I was like 0.0. We went home together(dropped me at my house)
@RazzleDazzale Thanks for the additional details. It's still hard to tell without seeing it myself, but it sounds like maybe the other guy was interested in you and was seeing if the guy you were with was interested in you as well. Or, again, it could still be that he was making sure he didn't have to bail his friend out and was being nice as a diversionary tactic. I'm leaning more towards the first option. Either way, it doesn't seem like a big deal.
I'm 17 and my dad died when i was 8. Is it lame that i'm still really hung up on it and cry all the time? I recently overcome some serious anger issues over his death and i'm starting to wonder if these issues have really gone. Should I talk to my mum about this kind of thing to do with him? Or should i just leave it and hope for the best?
@mrkennedyiloveyou It is completely normal to have those kind of reactions and feelings, I know if my dad died I would never get over it. It is not an issue missing him, (well the anger was but not the crying) and talking about it is completely healthy. All it means is that you are human:)
@mrkennedyiloveyou I would talk to your mom, it's always natural to mourn loved ones, and everyone is different when it comes to mourning, but to cry "all the time" about it when it was 9 years ago makes me think there are definitely some issues that could be resolved and that this is not just about him being gone. My guess is you're transferring the anger to sadness, but I'm no expert. Don't beat yourself up over crying over it, but try to keep getting help, too.
@mrkennedyiloveyou GET HELP! I don't mean that in a mean way, but get some one to talk to, be it your mum, a counselor or even a therapist. Don't let this things fester, it can come back later worse than ever. Time and talking are the only ways to get over these things. <3 Sugar!!
Im 16 years old and im in total love with my bf but my parents dont know and dont like him. We have went out in the past and he didnt really make a good repression ( in the local library my dad saw him acting like he was going to grab my butt). He has helped me through a lot and has always been there for me. i dont want to loose him but i also dont want my parents mad at me... What can i do????
I'm 13 years old and I go to middle school. A lot of my friends and other people at my school have boyfriends or girlfriends, and I feel left out a lot because I don't have one. I think it's because I'm short and ugly (at least I think I am), and I don't like to speak out like everybody else. What should I do?
@leighislistening2 I think you should burn the letter or attatch it to a ballon and let it go :)
TheTrueNirvana 1 month ago 2
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Dear Buck,
I recently found out that my parents are getting a divorce and it's not for normal reasons. My mom is a drug addict and my mom doesn't want us around her. I can't seem to find a way to coop with it. like today in class, my english teacher asked why I was barely turning in any assignments. I broke down into tears and I couldn't even get the words out.
So how could I help coop with it?
~One of your biggest fans, Denim
Nerdgurl100 1 month ago
Dear Buck
My name is Jayde and I am 15. I am in a new relationship, only a few weeks in and my boyfriend his the most sweets person you would ever meet but I have been reflecting in on my self and I just don't feel ready for a new relationship at this point in my life. I really really like this boy and I think its the right thing at the wrong time. I'm afraid if I do tell him how I'm felling and we do part, I know when I'm ready for a relationship my chance with him will be gone. HELP??:)
JaydeSherry15 1 month ago
Dear Buck, my name is Steve I'm from England I moved to canada 6 months ago and I love this girl in England and I can't stop thinking about her I cry when I think of her do I love her please help ?? Thanks
xGJMo 1 month ago
Dear Buck,
My name is Allison and i'm 16. I'm getting ready to go to college within the next year and a half because i'm graduating early. i've always been stuck at home and i want to go to an out of state school and live out my life and make it what i want it to be.but my parents won't allow it. How can i change their minds? please help!!!!
kat95a 1 month ago
I tried to be Catholic for a long time, but I just can't be, I tried being in my church choir and that was just very uncomfortable. Some family members repeatedly tell me things about it in a mocking way. One of my sisters has told me that I will be Catholic until I'm 18 and can make my own decisions. All this is stressing me out, especially with all my extra things at school, please help me with how to deal with this.
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Dear Buck,
I'm 15 years old and my mother passed away a bit over 2 months ago, she meant the world to me so to have her pass away is hard. I also recently decided to let my brothers and sisters know that I'm not catholic, I'm actually atheist agnostic, but they don't really want to accept it and just say kind of say that I'm child, I don't know what I'm talking about and that I need god in my life to help me cope with the recent difficulties in my life. I have been this way for several years now
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Rofl
J1arrod 1 month ago
What do I do?
J1arrod 1 month ago
Hey Buck, I shit pebbles and can't stop falling down stairs. I can't have kids and coffee gives me diarrhea. I can't afford life insurance and I'm racially intollarant, not to mention I wrecked my car three times this year.
J1arrod 1 month ago
@youngastonight lol
J1arrod 1 month ago
dear buck,
im 15 with trust issues. in may of 2010 my mom killed herself. this hit me really hard because she was all i had to talk to, i have 3 brothers and a dad. then,i became best friends with someone at my school.she helped me through a lot, but i then found out that she had been telling everyone things i told her. my bf of 1 month broke up with me recently.cuz i didnt really ever talk to him much, i was so afraid he would get close 2 me then hurt me just like my mom & friend. what do i do?
youngastonight 1 month ago
hey buck
joepic19 2 months ago
Hey Buck. I'm 15 and bi and have only come out to a few of my closest friends. My only friend who is also bi gave me advice to the same question I'm going to ask you but it hasn't been working. How do you get over someone who doesn't feel the the same way you do? I tried to keep as distanced from him as possible but I can't get him out of my mind. What should I do?
Thanks for the help! I love your videos; they always make me laugh.
Yours truly,
Stuck like Glue
LordGagaBegstoDiffer 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
what is a hickey?
MrRyangproductions 2 months ago
@MrRyangproductions a litle red thing that u get by being sucked on like try sucking on ur arm for 30 seconds, the nu sould get one its no big deal :P if u gaveit o urself haha
nikkicocoa7 2 months ago
So, I am feeling pretty good right now because I have lots of new friends. But even the slightest thing reminding me of last year makes me spiral out of control. I feel like I can't move forward and I am too afraid to ask out the guy I have a major crush on because I am afraid I will be rejected and things will start to feel like that.
How do I feel better about myself?
Should I ask out this guy?
Mcd.
MsComedyDoc 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
Please answer this question . I have been having a hard time lately.
I am almost 14 years old and at the beginning of eighth grade, I transferred schools. The reason that I transferred was because I was bullied by numerous people and rejected by my ex-friends. This left me feeling pretty emotionally wrecked and now that I am at a new school, I am happy and I am starting to pick up the pieces. I have one person at school who I knew beforehand and she has been my BFF since we were six.
MsComedyDoc 2 months ago
Dear Buck, My school is preforming "Little Shop of Horrors" for our musical this year. I've been going to each audition and practicing and practicing but I feel like i won't get a part. I feel like there are other girls better for me, and that our choir teacher likes better than me. If I don't get a part how can i deal with it? I'm so stressed out I cry. This musical means everything to me. HELP!
jswizzletdrizzle 2 months ago
P.S. I love you <333
Softballgrrl31 2 months ago
Dear Buck, (or anyone) I'm really paranoid. I'm originally from NJ and I lived next to a drug house for the first 13 years of my life. My family and I were always afraid they would come in and try to hurt us. Also, a girl got shot by her ex in my neighborhood. So as you can tell it wasnt a nice place 2 live. Now I'm afraid of nice people. Like my neighbors. They are really nice and we are supposed to go to their house for Christmas dinner. But IDK I'm still paranoid about it. Thanks. <3- Sierra
Softballgrrl31 2 months ago
Dear Buck, My dad got out of prison a few months ago and has been trying to come and see me and i really have no interest in having him in my life (mainly for safety) He even showed up at my home when i was alone. luckily my neighbor was home and called the police when she saw him. I even deleted my facebook because he keeps trying to add me. What should i do?
Lilllipop873 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
My friend is off to go to Bahrain with his father to handle the uprises, and he's not even 13 years old yet. This sounds very childish, but we promised to stay together forever (And he gave me a pretty necklace to make me feel better), and what if he dies there? He's not going to be directly involved since that's his dad's job, but I'm so afraid that this will all just turn into "Just A Dream" by Carrie Underwood. My heart breaks from thinking about him.
How can I handle this? </3
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Hey Buck
I just wanted to say thank you. I watch your videos all the time and they always leave me in a happy mood. I have a problem, this may sound really odd but i need help flirting. Like this guy likes me ( i think) And when he says something cute i dont know what to do so i try to make a joke and he kind of gets mad.(which i understand) So what how do I keep things light flirty and i dont loose my personality in the process??
Actressintraining994 2 months ago
Dear buck. I'm insecure. I don't like what it's turning me into. I used to be confident, But I didn't realize I have been becoming quieter and I can't hide my insecurities behind my enthusiasm anymore. I don't think I'm pretty and sometimes I feel useless or worthless. I don't think I'm conventionally girly, and maybe there's something wrong with me but I like to cater to what other people think of me. I've tried to break out of it for years now... And I think I finally have and that's why I ha
zara2935 2 months ago
To @Italktopixels : hehe I think of you are a nerd, maybe going to a school well known for being filled with nerds or with a higher aggregate score will allow you to fit in well! That way you dont have to worry about the new school. And as for if you should miss prom etc, yes. Because years down the road it's not the friends you graduated with but the friends you keep in contact with that count. So let it come naturally who you'll grow up with rather than let these events bond you, cos those bo
zara2935 2 months ago
Leah, don't send it to him. I understand you probably want to show him what he did to you to help him feel remorse but I feel it carries the risk of giving him power, either in thinking he still has an effect on you or that he'll get a perverted kick out of reading your recounting of what happened. Concentrate on healing yourself and continuing to move forward. He doesn't deserve any of your time or effort.
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BlackLeatheRose 2 months ago
Buck you're amazing. Your videos make my day and I think you one of the most wonderful people in the world. Never stop what you're doing, people need you <3
tayuyaXkimimaro 2 months ago 6
Dear Buck,
Can you use your magical gay powers to make it snow on Cape Cod this week so I can get out of school and have a white Christmas?
Thank you,
Jennifer
Kippz214 2 months ago 57
@Kippz214 oh! and nj too!
gleek1020 1 month ago
Lea, send it to him, you have come through this and you want him to know that you beat him. He is punished and you have grown. Let him know of the pain he caused and the pain you worked to get past to get strong. Let him know that you made it and you beat him.
Slagarchan 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
When i was 12, 13 I was depressed and i cut, tried suicide and other things. I depended on guys to like me and make me feel good about myself because of my low self esteem but alot of the time it lead me into relationships where I was used and in one case I was sexually abused. But now I'm 16 and I'm in a great relationship and with his help for the first time I'm enjoying life. But I'm afraid that some day i'll lose him and everything will go back to the way it was. What do I do?
TheAngelLover3 2 months ago
@TheAngelLover3 I'm 13 now, so u may not believe that im giving this info, but dont do anything to mess up your relationship. don't be afraid of messing up.
ClassicGabriel 2 months ago
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@TheAngelLover3 You have gotten SO far and have this great relationship, you don't really need to worry to much about it, sounds like he loves you and you love him, but it if somehow, god for bid, goes wrong, you are so much stronger now and you know how to avoid those guys that will use you and abuse you. But if you are still worried, talk to him about it, he has helped you this far, I'm sure you will continue to and love you.
BlackLeatheRose 2 months ago
Dear buck,
u shud go to HendersinMusic on youtube, hes really great and if u say something about him on ur show or peron75 hell get his big break! i havent ever met him, but iv heard all of his songs and remixes and hes amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!just saying :P
DTGducttapegirl 2 months ago
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Dear Buck
im a 14 year old girl and i live in Denmark. my situation is difficult i hope you will help me. about a year ago my mom and stepdad got divorced,then a month after they got divorced my mom found a new boyfriend. and then half a year ago we had to move with him And i hate living here ive changed school 4-5 times and i just dont feel i belong here im depressed and suicidal I want to move back to my stepdad but i know she'll get mad at me when i tell her
how do i tell her i want to move?
katja2skov 2 months ago
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katja2skov 2 months ago
OMG I love this cause that question that RTdances asked i need help with the same thing! Luv ya buck, stay awesome!
MissToxicFunk 2 months ago
Dear Buck, or anyone,
I am gay, but I haven't come out. I have a comfortable group of friends, and we all hang out with each other every lunchtime. But one of the girls has fallen for me, and wants to go out! She is very nice, if not naïve, so i dont want to be mean to her, but i don't want to get her hopes up! So I don't know what to do! Please help?! I don't want to come out yet, and she won't take no for an answer, because all my friends are encouraging me to go out with her!
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@TheAmazingMrJack i havent given much advice before you might want to consider telling her but tell her to keep it a secret you dont have to come out all at once
also another is to literally just let it work itself out no 1 can force you to say yes and she cant really go after ya forever
Dman31619 2 months ago
@TheAmazingMrJack I think that if you don't want to come out yet, you can only just keep strong and just tell her that you don't feel that way about her or something. Also, before he came out my gay friend had only one friend who knew and they pretended to date to avoid things like that... it's probably a bad idea, but it worked for him!
TickleButton2 2 months ago
ITalkToPixels: Snak med din far, fortæl ham hvordan du har det. Et godt råd hvis du vælger at snakke med din far er, at du skal slappe helt af og ikke hidse dig op, du kunne måske komme med et kompromis f.eks. at hvis han lader dig blive på din nuværende skole vil du hjælpe mere til der hjemme eller gøre mere ud af dine lektier. Ellers prøv at snakke med dine venner, i kunne lave lektier sammen og på den måde vil du også "lære" at være mere social - det hjalp mig. Håber du finder ud af det (:
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ITalkToPixels: Ask ur friends to help u with school work or let them know to stay at this school u have to bring up ur grades. Ur friends just might help you.
peachie2225 2 months ago
hey buck :)
meherdev7 2 months ago
lea, DO NOT give him that letter! it would only give him satisfaction and might do it again! D:
alcantaroot 2 months ago
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Dear Buck,
There's this girl I really like and she's my first real crush. She's dating another girl, and she would never like me. Every time I see her I feel very happy, and very depressed. I know it's unhealthy for me to keep thinking about her like this, because we see each other on a regular basis. I'm afraid I'm going to hurt myself.
-Emi
Empep12 2 months ago
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Empep12 2 months ago
Dear Buck or anyone,
My Ex bf has dated 2 of my friends, After they broke up, they became friends again. I am not friends with him tho. I want to be friends again cuz we r in the same circle of friends, and i miss his friendship. We were together for 6 months and we became rather serious. I still see him in school and think about going up to him again, and talking. i don't any convos we've had have been awkward... Can u give me any advice on how to become friends with him?
iamwerido 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
I really like this guy and he's perfect to me I would do anything for him. but half the girls in drama club love him, including my close friends. His sister thinks we're friends even though I only met her this year and I think she's annoying, and she doesn't want me near him. Also, he's a senior and I'm only a freshman. His las GF dumped his cuz she was going to collage, so I feel he doesn't want a relationship. How can I get him to like me back? Is it even worth it?
-Amy
xXxbellaxlunaxXx 2 months ago
@xXxbellaxlunaxXxAre you close? Because if you are, I'd just drop hints to him that you like him e.g. "So, Can I talk to you for a sec? Okay, I like this guy.."etc. If he doesn't ask you out it's either he's stupid, or he doesn't like you. (This would be a few weeks later) At which point you should probably just say to him "It was you who I was talking about before. I like you. Do you like me back?" I know it seems scary but I'd just go for it. You have nothing to lose
Amy
P.s. Love your name;D
TheArianaGFan 2 months ago
love him and most of them are my friends. I liked him before I became friends with his little sister (who is my age) but the truth is she's really annoying and she doesn't want me near him. Is there away I can get him to notice/like me the way I notice/like him? I like him alot but i don't want to hurt people.
Is it not even worth it? :(
-Amy
xXxbellaxlunaxXx 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
I really really really like this guy. he's perfect to me in every single way and I want him to be my boyfriend. But there's some problems. One is that he's a senior and I'm only a freshman however There is only about a 2 or 3 year age difference. but, since he's a senior he'll be going off to collage. he had a girlfriend last year who dumped him because she was going away to collage so I feel like he doesn't want a relationship. Another problem is that half the girls in drama club l
xXxbellaxlunaxXx 2 months ago
@ITalkToPixels excuse my wrong usage of your/you're ... >____>
jaack3on 2 months ago
I'm a weird nerd, though I wouldn't consider myself a nerd because I'm not that smart. c: @ITalkToPixels whatever you decide, it all be for the better good. I chose an university away from the close friends I had at home, and over time (even though it took quite a bit of time), I made new friends that I'm quite close to now. It takes time, but you'll find you're own little niche eventually. c:
jaack3on 2 months ago
Dear buck please do a book review of the book tiger tiger by margaux fragoso please.
cooldaddyjames2814 2 months ago
'My husband is hilarious and I'm like hilarious too' <3
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Dear Buck,
My best friend is amazing and I love her to bits but she's started being a bit big headed (like saying "Wow, I look so nice! Are you jealous?")and I feel awkward around her. I still want to be friends with her but I just don't know what to say to her. I know if I tell her that she's being big headed she'll fall out with me.
I'm starting to feel like she's really vain, but I also really still want to be her friend. What should I do!?
TheArianaGFan 2 months ago 54
@TheArianaGFan Tell her that you're uncomfortable when she says crap like that. Because you know it's really HER jealous of YOU ;)
Empep12 2 months ago
@TheArianaGFan A: Tell her to fuck off.
B: Tell her to fuck off.
TheDarklord0211 2 months ago
@TheDarklord0211 lmao :D but i still want her to be my friend!<3
TheArianaGFan 2 months ago
D.B.
Lately, I've been having loads of fights with my best friend. She leaves me out all the time and takes things too seriously. Like, I was joking about her wanting to go out with someone and she said "EW! You B*****d"(She's only 11!) I told my mum and she told me to ignore her. I tried to do this but she "got upset" and spread rumors about me D: She's a drama queen and I'm starting to dislike her, which I don't want to happen because we used to be so close and have so much fun D:
HELP?
Amyxo'
TheArianaGFan 2 months ago
@SugarSpice0826 Since I wrote this, he has got a girlfriend! Not just anyone...but my enemy! She's also called Amy. And she's so mean to me. She makes me feel weird around her and gives me funny looks. Plus, she recently stole my best friend off me! She knows I like him! D: What should I do!? D: D: D: D:
TheArianaGFan 2 months ago
@TheArianaGFan sorry what was your original problem i cant find your first comment
SugarSpice0826 2 months ago
it would actually be really awesome if there were a Youtube University O-o
katja2skov 2 months ago
I'M A WEIRD NERD :D
ketsuekishicuna 2 months ago
and Buck I don't know if you're going to see this, but you've improved so much since your very first Dear Buck... :)
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x5n4p3 2 months ago
To the person who asked about conversations: I was always the quiet, awkward one while I was growing up. Someone gave me advice once that helped me alot and Buck mentioned it briefly, but that's that everyone likes to talk about themselves, so asking simple questions about their lives is good way to get the other person talking if you feel awkward talking yourself. And then conversation becomes more comfortable from there.
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ookaminukiba 2 months ago
dear "Italktopixels" you have your whole life to make friends. take your time with the score now, it's very difficult and tedious to finish school and have bad / not so good reviews. like buck says friends and other things such as sport takes a lot of your time. so go for the score. friends, that I wrote.. yo have your whole life to find them Yeey you! :D
OaaaGoaaa 2 months ago
I don't think that shifting schools in the middle of senior year would help your grades, they might just hurt them :(
leatherback8 2 months ago
Dear Buck, I'm 16 and a dude and I recently had a brake up. We have been in a relationship for 1.5 years, until recently when I had health issues, depression and stress. It got to the point where we ran into some issues and we broke up. She said to me that everything was going to be fine and we would be friends. Ever since then she is with another person after a month of the break up. Do you think it was wrong for her to move on so fast? and do you think we should still be friends?
UpWithTheBirds 2 months ago
@UpWithTheBirds I don't think it's wrong that she moved on, she can't be stuck in a dead relationship forever. It's not like she was with this new guy an hour after you two broke up. And yes, if being friends WORKS (which all too often it doesn't) then by all means, be her friend.
Empep12 2 months ago
Leah don't send it to him. You don't want him to know you're thinking about you
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@Leighislistening2 Rapists act one of two ways. 1) they feel guilt after seeing how they have hurt you OR 2) they take pride in knowing how they have affected you. Either way, he doesn't deserve to know how you're feeling. If he feels guilty, he deserves to stay that way. If he's glad to have messed with your head, he DEFINITELY doesn't need to know how you've been hurt or how you're doing now after such a traumatic event.
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Dear Buck, one of my old friends killed himself last week. We were really close his Senior year, but when he left for college we had a falling out, and I acted really immature and bitchy towards him. We hadn't talked for over a year when he died, and he thought I hated him.. I went to his memorial and it brought back all these memories, and I realized I miss him so much, but now there's nothing I can do about it. All this guilt and regret is eating me alive. Do you have any advice? <3 Jessica
jeszilestrange 2 months ago
leah I don't think you should send it. It would give him the wrong feeling that what he did is still affecting you
bradyprince 2 months ago
P.s I'm socially awkward and have only 1 true friend ever she is mean sometimes I'm also a nerd everyone hates me
spongelover87 2 months ago
@spongelover87 I fully understand you, I've been through it all. instead of waiting for someone to notice just tell your teacher/parents. I also find it easy to just avoid bullies when you can till they forget why they bully you. it worked for me :)
ketsuekishicuna 2 months ago
@ketsuekishicuna thank you so much for responding i needed the help a lot :) im not bullied anymore i stood up to the people thaks again
spongelover87 2 months ago
Dear buck, everyone in my class/grade bullies me I try to hide my pain but sometimes I just cry teachers don't notice and won't listen Im really scared someone will physically abuse me instead of just verbally I'm sad HELP!!!!!!
spongelover87 2 months ago
@spongelover87 learn martial arts. kick them. and smile :)
Empep12 2 months ago
@usernamekatniss @ketsuekishicuna.....Thanks for the help guys(:
loveboburnham 2 months ago
What do I do about my best friend (since 2nd grade) moving across the country?
miskevinjonas 2 months ago
Dear Buck (or anyone)
I really like this guy and I think he might like me, he's really shy and I don't know how to tell him. HELLPPP PLLLLLLEEEAASSSE!!!
usernamekatniss 2 months ago
@usernamekatniss A love letter usually lets them know that you like them but your a little shy or just find whatever courage you can and tell him
ketsuekishicuna 2 months ago
@usernamekatniss darn im in a similar situation accept hes one of my close friends and ill i can say is get closer to him then drop some hints, flirt. after that im not sure. hopefully once you are closer he'll make a move. Hope it helped! :)
SugarSpice0826 2 months ago
@usernamekatniss just say "I like you". If he likes you too, he'll smile :)
Empep12 2 months ago
Dear buck my name Is Margret and I'm in band and play the trumpet. There's another guy there who also plays the trumpet I realy like him. He's smart and funny and I think he likes me too. How do i know for sure that he likes me to. Were kinda friends and we have slot of fun with each other when were together. We always get in trouble for talking but we can't help it. What the buck I hope I've given u enoph info to help.:( :(
maggle1000 2 months ago
See guys? if you stop cutting and starving, YOU GET A HUG FROM BUCK!! :D
katelynmarierose 2 months ago
hey Buck, im in 9th grade nd the guy I've liked since 6th grade started going out with one of my best friends. I've really liked him for so long nd it kills me everytime I see them. What do I do?
monkeylova123456789 2 months ago
i hope you don't think I'm being stupid or irreverent but this really confused me. I'm from England and nobody from where i live knows what a "Hickey" is? what is it?
Hungergamesaddict2 2 months ago
@Hungergamesaddict2 It's a blemish on the skin, usually the neck area, caused by suction on the skin during kissing.
MasterPatch 2 months ago
@Hungergamesaddict2 a hickey is like a bruise from someone who has sucked on your neck. (PS I LOVE THE HUNGER GAMES!!!)
usernamekatniss 2 months ago
I hope you get your own television show, Buck. I barely watch television but I would totally watch your show.
Marurawru 2 months ago
dear buck or anyone
i am a liar, idk why i lie, when i talk to people i really derail and start excagerating greatly but thats not much of a problem cause everyone does that in one way or another. the problem is when i start feeling insecure about something i cant get myself to tell anyone, even the people i really trust.. i feel like i have to be perfect i think.. and i would be letting people down if they knew everything about me.. but then the little things also gets left out in the end...
VashTheAnimelover 2 months ago
Lea, do not give the rapist that power over you, even calling him "my rapist." it's good to write your reflections and may help to purge the pain and help you get some perspective on your life now by letting it go. but sending it to him is absolutely unnecessary and harmful to you. why maintain a relationship to this person?
ubuibme 2 months ago 22
Dear buck,
I am 13 and lately have Found myself staring at a girl in my class. She comes over to me every day and puts her arm around me or hugs me. She has a lot of other boys crushing on her. We talk alot but i cant tell if she likes me or not. Whenever she hugs me i kind of push it off because i get nervous around her. I want to ask her out but dont know if she likes me. Please help.
-cookie
Yyous0stupid 2 months ago
Dear buck,
I am in my 8th grade year before highschool.i have a friend who is bullied at school. He thinks he is really cool but i see him get pushed into lockers and called names. When some one is mean to him i do not stick up for him because my other friends will think i am wierd. Should i stick up for him and risk loosing my friends or leave him alone?
Luv u
Yyous0stupid 2 months ago
@Yyous0stupid i definitely think you should stick up for your friend. maybe you could step up and change the opinion or behavior of your other friends so that instead of losing them, you convince them that the bullying isn't cool and they should just let other's alone. you could become a leader, a trend setter! and if you are risking losing your friends by sticking up for someone, they're not your real friends anyway.
ubuibme 2 months ago
@Yyous0stupid you can anonymously report the bullies to the principal/vice principal/teacher so that your friends don't know and you can still help your friend thats being bullied
iloveyouily 2 months ago
@SugarSpice0826 thanks I'll keep that in mind. It was just that..I'm not really in need of a boyfriend but if I do like someone then one of those two things happens so I started getting very depressed. But thanks for replying it means a lot
loloknowsme 2 months ago
I like your answer to the personal question. Everyone has a different idea of what happiness is and it's okay if my idea of happiness is different than some else's. It's what makes us unique. Thanks for another great video :)
maireadmcdonough 2 months ago
Please find yourself a psychologist, professional help: locator. apa. org/
galindes 2 months ago
plzz talk abouut finali of ANTM
sheilayoyo 2 months ago
To the girl who has issues starting conversation: I used to be very socially awkward, but now am 22, in my senior year at university, and very successful in my job, internship and social life. Something that helps is to embrace the awkward. This might sound weird but it works. Whenever I am being weird or awkward I kind of point it out and laugh at myself. People love to laugh and it eases the tension. I'm not saying pick yourself apart but a good sense of humor about yourself can go a long way.
m00nbeam42 2 months ago
@Leighaislistening2 I don't think you should send him the letter. He's wronged you and scarred you in a way that has had a profound impact on your life and you should not give him the satisfaction of knowing you still think about him. Writing is good, and I want you to keep writing about your feelings and anything else you want to write about. its very theraputic. i'm running out of space here but god bless you and no, don't give that fuckhead the satisfaction of knowing he's on your mind.
TomBom14 2 months ago
@inlivingwearedying: I think you should talk to here about it. Who knows? Maybe you do really love her. If you feel like your sure, than make the decision about going all the way.
Hope this helps!
Quinn
hopeimakeusmile56 2 months ago
dear buck, im really confused.. i recently dug deep and came out that i like girls! ( im a girl), but im not complelty sure, ive been going out with this girl named sam for a couple months, and its really hard because i really think i would only really know if we whent all the way together, but at the same time, shes a virgin, and i love her, and im not sure if im really gay, so if we did do it , i wouldnt wanna gamble her first time on that, im not sure what to do, please or anyone help me #ilu
inlivingwearedying 2 months ago
@inlivingwearedying Do men sexually excite you at all? If you are in a relationship with a girl over a boy, I'm guessing you are at least bisexual. When you decide you love eachother enough to go all the way, I'm sure you will be fine. Just make sure it is what you both want and you are comfortable with the decision. I wouldn't tell her of your fears, as it would scare her.
yaxofossiad 2 months ago
@inlivingwearedying Don't worry you don't have to make a decision now, don't worry about labeling your self as gay or not life will work itself out when it's ready!
Hope this helped!
-Sarah
usernamekatniss 2 months ago
Buck I think a simple life is a comfortable life. I didn't want kids all throughout my 20's and then after being married 5yrs I decided I wanted a baby. We lost our first baby to stillbirth and then we had our second baby girl. She is a total diva, but to be honest we are still simple and (dare I say) kind of boring people and WE LOVE OUR LIVES!!! LOL We are the same as you. Instead of dogs we have 2 cats. We just enjoy watching TV and hangning out with each other. I think that is great. :)
sadiesmommi 2 months ago
@Leighaislistening2 I totally agree with Buck. He doesn't deserve to know how you feel. You should keep the satisfaction for yourself that you have gone on with your life. You are such a strong person to be able to deal with this and go on. Good luck to you. Prayers and HUGS!!
sadiesmommi 2 months ago
@TheSingingChipmonk ADD often comes with depression-like symptoms. Talk to a psychiatrist or a doctor about it. I have beed living with ADD for almost 15 years, and I am seeing someone for it. And talk to your friends about it!
sugarhigh10 2 months ago
Hi Buck, I agree about your opinion not to send the letter to the rapist. That letter is for her, her family, close circle of friends, support group, etc. If she wants, she could burn the letter and let it disappear into the ether. It might help her in her quest to "let go." The rapist has his own path of repentance to walk, and she owes him nothing. He must learn how to be a human being again and take responsibility for his heinous crime--ON HIS OWN. Cyber hugs for survivors out there
danagirl23 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
My sister is currently in the hospital recovering from major surgery. I only told two of my friends about this because I knew they would be there to support me. One of the friends has been so helpful to me whenever I need to talk and is always asking how my sis is. The other friend has been sick alot lately. She is flaunting her "sickness" and trying to make people feel bad for her. This makes me so mad that she has no idea what really being deathly sick is like. Should I talk to her
lovedanc1 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
My sis is currently in the hospital recovering from major surgery. I only told two of my friends about this because I knew they would be there to support me. One of the friends has been so helpful to me whenever I need to talk and is always asking how my sis is. The other friend has been sick alot lately so she is feeling very bad for herself. She is basically flaunting her "sickness" to everyone and trying to make people feel bad for her. This makes me so mad that she actually has n
lovedanc1 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
My sister is currently in the hospital recovering from major surgery. I only told two of my friends about this because I knew they would be there to support me since my family is really unstable right now. One of the friends has been so helpful to me whenever I need to talk and is always asking how my sis is. The other friend has been sick alot lately and has low blood sugar so she is feeling very bad for herself. She is basically flaunting her "sickness" to everyone and trying to m
lovedanc1 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
I am a 6th grade girl and I feel absolutely positively alone. My friends avoid me and don't seem interested in even being my friends anymore! My one best friend is a boy and I am completely in love with him. He understands me more than my own family! I would be fine with just having him, if I wasn't so emotionally awkward around him. ANY ADVICE? ANYONE?
hopeimakeusmile56 2 months ago
Dear Buck, (or anyone) I am 13 years old. I have a friend, she wants a boyfriend so bad that she is not falling in love with the people, she is falling in love with the idea of love. She thinks she is ugly, when I think she is gorgeous and I have stayed up till 3am with her on the phone because she hates herself and cries. It kills me to see her this way. How do I tell her that she's in love the idea of love without being mean, and feel better about herself?
-Sarah
P.S. I <3 your vids.
loveboburnham 2 months ago 30
@loveboburnham Hey Sarah my name is Sarah to! I have also had a friend similar to this and you're doing all the right things being there for her, being postive and trying to make her feel better. But the only person you can change is yourself not any other person in this world. I would try to talk to her and say something like hey this is your life you get one chance lets not waste it trying to fall in love and hating ourselves. Life will happen by it's self!
Hope this helped
-Sarah
usernamekatniss 2 months ago
@loveboburnham you need to tell it to her straight, explain why you are telling her this and say that she will find a boyfriend in her own time. If she rushes she'll just end up doing something she'll regret
ketsuekishicuna 2 months ago
Dear Buck, lately one of my friends has been really mean to me. Like when we were at my friends I overheard her calling me fat, I know I am a little overweight but it is in my genes I know it is no excuse for being overweight but I am trying to lose weight I am in two sports and go to the weight room three days a week. But, I am so confused because I am really good friends with her.... I don't think she realizes that what she is saying is hurting me but it makes me feel bad... Love, Ray
MissRaelynBerry 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@MissRaelynBerry Talk to her. If she is truly your friend, then she'll listen. If not, then maybe it is time to part ways. I know that sounds harsh, but friends don't stab friends in the back. Major props on your crusade to stay healthy. Your friends should be supporting you, not dissing you. <3 Sugar
sugarhigh10 2 months ago
leigh dont send itt!!! he would only get satisfaction out of it . thats how these twisted freaks work. its all about power and if you show him he still affects you then youre giving him ultra power DONT DO ITT!!!!
Joeluvrxoxo 2 months ago
@mirosango14 Sometimes they blow me off but I really try to stay friends with them. They never bossed me around or made fun of me. But sometimes I feel that they ignore me and instead they usually hang out with her.
stalkerninjas61 2 months ago
Hey Buck,
I am 19 years old and a freshman in college. Right before the semester began my Father lost his job.This means at the new year our health insurance is gone. I applied but was denied for my weight. My family has coverage but I dont. Where do I go for here. I have been trying to get to a healthy weight and this is my first "adult" problem. My weight has caused me to hurt myself in the past and I dont want to go down this road again, but I feel like there are no options....
Thanks,
R
shadowchic 2 months ago
@shadowchic I bet your college has a gym, right? Insurance is complicated and a mess, but while you're figuring that out I bet you can take some classes at the gym or do some reading on an exercise bike. Also, I know my university has an insurance plan, so you might be able to find an alternative healthcare option through your school. When you feel there are no options, find people who know about options! Asking questions (like this one) is the perfect start to getting a solution.
censorama 2 months ago
@shadowchic Look for options within your college. They often have programs available. If not, keep looking. Ask for help from people at the student health center. They may have ideas. But just remember, you are special! And keep a positive outlook! <3 Sugar!!
sugarhigh10 2 months ago
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stalkerninjas61 2 months ago in playlist More videos from peron75
@stalkerninjas61 it shouldn't matter to you who your friends hang out with. as long as they aren't as mean to you as your ex-friend was, I think who they hang out with is their business. and if you care for your friends, then you'll respect that.
but have they been rude to you? blown you off, taunted you, bossed you around...?
mirosango14 2 months ago
Dear buckyy ,
Im in highschool and a relitivitly smart person i believe. I made good grades when the year had begun but now im alsomt failing my easiest classes. Im just not modivated enough! So i guess my question is HOW CAN I BE MODIVATED! I need to get good grades this year. It has finnally become my first balanced year gettingover eating disorders and suicide attepmts. Please help!
xoxo :3
lauraANDmadi 2 months ago
@lauraANDmadi Hey, girl! I'm not Buck but I might be able to offer some advice. It sounds like you have the right idea in wanting to get good grades (goals, woo!) but getting to that point is hard. You could ask a parent to "monitor" you in the afternoon so you can do homework and study without distractions. A friend could also do that! I think it sounds like you need someone to be accountable to other than yourself while you're working things out like a tutor or motivated friend. Good luck!
censorama 2 months ago
@lauraANDmadi Try doing a little "self-bibery" like "if I do all my homework in this class, I can have a cookie, or watch my fave movie!" it sounds corny, but it works. Also schedule time to do the work. If you have a planed time to do the work, you are more likely to get it done! <3 Sugar
sugarhigh10 2 months ago
ps. Buck can we meet your husban???!!!!!! PLEAASEEEE <3
mandycat96 2 months ago 49
@mandycat96 havent we already?
drummerxkun 2 months ago
@mandycat96 He's in a few videos. Search his vids for "hubby" or "husband", you'll find them.
DunkRyan 2 months ago
Don't send it. He doesn't deserve to know that he still affects you! Stay strong <3
mandycat96 2 months ago
Buck, i think it`s so great that you`re so happy with where you are in your life. It makes me happy to hear that! It just instantly makes me smile. I hope that when I`m older I`ll have a life that I enjoy as much as you do with yours :)
JMClover101 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
Can we meet your husband?
annabananailu 2 months ago
@PennyMTodd Seriously, thanks for your advice. Anything helps :)
rustyredguitar 2 months ago
@Leighislistening2 I'm going to diverge a little from Michael here. I think it's not necessarily a bad idea, but you need to know where he's at. Is there any way you could ask someone at the prison how he's feeling about it? Three years seems a little soon for me for him to really have come to terms with what he's done and begun to atone for it. But if that's where he's at, it might be an alright idea.
DunkRyan 2 months ago
@ITalktopixels I think if you move schools you will be able to make new friends, despite what you think. I'm unfamiliar with Danish schools,but it sounds like your father is trying to shift you into an advanced track? If you're already struggling with maintaining social relationships, that mightn't be a good idea, but if your grades need improvement, switching schools might work.
DunkRyan 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
One I'd like to say, ILY!!!! <3 and two I was wondering if this is ridiculous. I met a boy at a ice rink last week and i havent stopped thinking about him!!! i only got his first name, so i cant find him on twitter or FB or buzz or any of that, and i didnt get his number, but we rlly hit it off. Is it ridiculous to c if i can find him again at the rink cuz I kinda think i might maybe luv him....
legodmyeggo 2 months ago
@legodmyeggo Well, I don't think you should talk of love with someone you only met once, but I think what you're feeling is pretty common. If you really like him, go ahead and try to hang out at the ice rink again to see him, but be prepared to accept that it may have been just for that one day. Especially since you guys didn't trade any contact info, I'm thinking this might just be a day crush.
DunkRyan 2 months ago
@DunkRyan thanks for the advice and i think i will get over it eventually... but it kinda sux. i go to that rink almost every week so i'm bound to c him. maybe hopefully it will b more! thanx 4 the advice cuz i do get short crushes all the time
legodmyeggo 2 months ago
@legodmyeggo No problem. "You're beautiful", the James Blunt song, is about this exact type of thing (except with the roles switched and even less interaction). Best of luck.
DunkRyan 2 months ago
for the rapist question: i really don't think sending the letter is a good idea.. through it you could create a new kind of connection and tie to you for him and give him the advantage of knowing how you feel and how he had affected you.
aslc99 2 months ago
ATTENTION ALL GUYS:
What does it mean when a guy signals to another guy, 'are you okay with this girl' it happened to me last night and the guy I was with nodded when he said it...apparently it's guy code..
RazzleDazzale 2 months ago
@RazzleDazzale there is no such thing as 'guy code', it just means theyre toying with you and to GTFO of the situation.
VivaLaVieBoheme49 2 months ago
@VivaLaVieBoheme49 I highly doubt that seeing as he texted me the minute we got home, and has continued to text me through out the day, and putting his arm around me as we walked home...
RazzleDazzale 2 months ago
@RazzleDazzale Ever hear the phrase 'He wants in your pants?' guys like that will do or say anything to get there.
VivaLaVieBoheme49 2 months ago
@RazzleDazzale Guy here... I'm not really sure what you're talking about. I can think of two things that it might have meant. First is the signaler was checking to make sure the guy you were with liked you and didn't need to have his friend come take him away from you. Second is that it was some possible kind of "dibs" code? I need more information to help any more than that.
DunkRyan 2 months ago
@DunkRyan Well we had met once at a party before, and our friends were trying to get us together, we were sitting alone, and it was rather awkward for a while, but we talked. Another guy, (a friend of his) comes over, and begins I wouldn't say flirting with me, but being friendly then he sort of starting do these odd hand gestures and pointing at me to the guy I was with and he just nodded and I was like 0.0. We went home together(dropped me at my house)
RazzleDazzale 2 months ago
@RazzleDazzale Thanks for the additional details. It's still hard to tell without seeing it myself, but it sounds like maybe the other guy was interested in you and was seeing if the guy you were with was interested in you as well. Or, again, it could still be that he was making sure he didn't have to bail his friend out and was being nice as a diversionary tactic. I'm leaning more towards the first option. Either way, it doesn't seem like a big deal.
DunkRyan 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
I'm 17 and my dad died when i was 8. Is it lame that i'm still really hung up on it and cry all the time? I recently overcome some serious anger issues over his death and i'm starting to wonder if these issues have really gone. Should I talk to my mum about this kind of thing to do with him? Or should i just leave it and hope for the best?
Love your videos
-Love Katie :) xx
mrkennedyiloveyou 2 months ago
@mrkennedyiloveyou It is completely normal to have those kind of reactions and feelings, I know if my dad died I would never get over it. It is not an issue missing him, (well the anger was but not the crying) and talking about it is completely healthy. All it means is that you are human:)
-Aairo
VivaLaVieBoheme49 2 months ago
@mrkennedyiloveyou I would talk to your mom, it's always natural to mourn loved ones, and everyone is different when it comes to mourning, but to cry "all the time" about it when it was 9 years ago makes me think there are definitely some issues that could be resolved and that this is not just about him being gone. My guess is you're transferring the anger to sadness, but I'm no expert. Don't beat yourself up over crying over it, but try to keep getting help, too.
DunkRyan 2 months ago
@mrkennedyiloveyou GET HELP! I don't mean that in a mean way, but get some one to talk to, be it your mum, a counselor or even a therapist. Don't let this things fester, it can come back later worse than ever. Time and talking are the only ways to get over these things. <3 Sugar!!
sugarhigh10 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
Im 16 years old and im in total love with my bf but my parents dont know and dont like him. We have went out in the past and he didnt really make a good repression ( in the local library my dad saw him acting like he was going to grab my butt). He has helped me through a lot and has always been there for me. i dont want to loose him but i also dont want my parents mad at me... What can i do????
Love ur videos!
-Carman<3
pinkchick4333 2 months ago
@pinkchick4333 Be patient. Maybe they will come around one day.
VivaLaVieBoheme49 2 months ago
Dear Buck,
I'm 13 years old and I go to middle school. A lot of my friends and other people at my school have boyfriends or girlfriends, and I feel left out a lot because I don't have one. I think it's because I'm short and ugly (at least I think I am), and I don't like to speak out like everybody else. What should I do?
TLKMewthreeWarrior 2 months ago