Finding Your 'Soulmate'

[uranne]

just wondering ... have you met your right person by using the techniques you mentioned? thanks. :)

[datkid56]

How do I explain To you My position In life.

[datkid56]

Words that Are true, I sufferd With this A few Year back, I found Someone, she's Gone from My life "I can't Contact her" I don't Give in To this Shit any More. But it Would have Been nice If i Found you Then, because Back then I suffered.

[rebirthofdsoul]

@vagabondsteve - Love will come for those who find unconditional love for imperfect things like ourselves...when u know that you are whole and complete then u want someone to share it with the expanding love you feel for the whole universe...we should wake up and open our eyes that the current situation is blocking us to experienced our authentic selves which is all love..namaste laura

[kameraklips]

Great video, as usual. My question is, if we are supposed to be a group species, why are we so rejecting of each other?

[SniffSnaffSnugg]

Soon you will learn that you cannot change other humans. So i cannot change you ;) This is your path and you will walk it. I like your video.

[chimpanze34123]

Steve actually has some good points on this subject.I actually met someone I felt was my soul mate and I still wasn't happy.

[thethirdq]

Great Video I really enjoy it! Hope you enjoy ours…

[thethirdq]

Awesome video! Please keep me posted...

[robert1268]

Your teeth and mouth look like Keifer Sutherland's when you speak. : )

[mariete116]

thanks steve,lovely video!I get your point and its so important to be ok with yourself coz if you re not, you wont be able to be in harmony with someone else, but still even if you re really cool with being single there still this deep desire to love and be loved by someone,you know aI dont know is it possible to be 100 per cent ok?I mean not to be a bit sorry about that from time to time.just for a little while,I dont know.. I guess its just a part of it, isnt it?

[vagabondsteve]

@mariete116 It's a biological force that wants us to mate. It's okay to have this yearning while not allowing your contentment to be attached to it. Awareness is the key. Of course it's also okay to be sad from time to time. Married people are also sad from time to time.

[mariete116]

@vagabondsteve Yep, not allowing your contentment to be attached to it. Thats it... Coz things arent better or worse, they are just different and every circumstance, everything is a gift... and who doesnt love gifts? Thanks steve, good luck to you, have lovely days :)

[imisrael92]

i dont think theres anyone out there for me just a bunch of kaniving sluts!!!!! im going to die alone

[adultdating100]

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[thegothicangle]

u know something...i am 27 years old and i was always on a mission to find the right man cause i am scared of dying alone..and now u gave me such a wakeup call..i thank you soo much for that...<3<3<3

[TheLizzieisawsome]

1. are u a christian?

2. what would you say to someone who compares herself to everybody who is better than her?

3. what would u say to a 13 year old gil who gets compared to better ppl by her mother?

(please help )

[balrajpillai]

Hey, nice talk! I really loved it!

I got a question.

What about my situation, I have a girlfriend, I love her ALOT. I don't wanna leave her.

And she thinks the same as well. We're just fine and happy as always..

BUT, as time pass by, there are sometimes, the reaction she shows  towards our discussions and chats makes me feel as if im NOT the one for her, like im NOT meant for her and stuff like that..

Does that mean she's not the right soulmate for me?

Its not a big issue, im just concerned

[Onlyoneowner]

I am searching for my soul mate al long time but ppl don't know about what i am doing i watch most of all in there eyes if i look to somebody if i feel something but i don't know what it is my teacher is also like us like me but he is master :P i sad to him whats love how do you get a feeling for a girl he sad it's instinct i don't know what it is but it's weird if you are in love.

[Onlyoneowner]

If PPL think that 50cent or justin bieber or lady gaga are happy it's not true they have reached there dreams BUT they have also problems The F..... problems following you and me and everyone. ppl are making problems without knowing that's a problem and the problems are everywhere if you do nothing that's also a problem :S.

And i am 17.

[Onlyoneowner]

OMG I have that with F....... word BUT!! that sucks the most.

[liketheuniverse11]

Awww! It must be wonderful to be your friend!! You seem to know all the right things to say... <3

[kevinc1001]

The only people who get dates are usually good looking rich people. Especially if your male. Women can just stand there doesn't matter if their fat or ugly some guy will find them attractive. Guys like me we have no chance and it has nothing to do with confidence, is just a word that gets misused it only works for muscle headed jerks with money plain and simple.

[ChrisTheEnigma]

@kevinc1001 If your walking through life like this you've really shot your leg before the race

The "rich guys get the girls" view is just an excuse created by the mind out of fear and laziness so you dont have to put the work in(monkey mind).

ill echo for the thousandth time as i have for friends and family LOOKS AND MONEY HAVE ZERO FACTOR WHATSOEVER. I dont mean to preach but i feel it is my duty since i was at your stage myself.

Essential video: /watch?v=boXH-YhJp_s

[kevinc1001]

@ChrisTheEnigma See I have to disagree, with having no Money and looks has a zero factor, Come on dude seriously you know that's Bull. if that was true than how come I'm 25 and never had a girlfriend??? And please don't say its because of confidence Crap, I've had it and still get shut down, and it didn't matter what the women looked like. Fat, skinny, pretty etc. Its all bull plain and simple.

[ChrisTheEnigma]

@kevinc1001 "25 and never had a girlfriend?" that has nothing to do with money and looks you fool. Ever thought maybe your a piece of shit person?

[kevinc1001]

@ChrisTheEnigma Fuck You asshole. What makes u an expert asshole. I'll be waiting for a response douchfuck.

[ChrisTheEnigma]

@kevinc1001 oh shit did i hurt your feelings ? :( Go eat some more food maybe that'll help fill the void in your self esteem

[kevinc1001]

@ChrisTheEnigma Did I say that jackass? You come on here acting like your gods gift to women? Tell me what makes u so special towards women?  And second who says I'm even fat moron. Your lucky I don't find your sorry ass, Because u would never see day light again. But your probably a little bitch anyways right?

[ChrisTheEnigma]

@kevinc1001 HAHAHAHAHAAHAH way too funny. thanks for the laugh, nice talking to you

[kevinc1001]

@ChrisTheEnigma Listen fagot from hell. i wasn't joking. Let me guess your like 12 right??? Once again Fuck you.

[ChrisTheEnigma]

@kevinc1001 You're one charming virgin.

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[Alexisme1001]

People seek salvation in relationships,because they are motivated by self-interest and are dissatisfied with their own limitations and the limitations of the relationships that they have now.The naive desire to find someone ideal is replaced, as the person matures,with a more practical wish to find someone who will better one's situation, or with whom one may build something better.The dissatisfaction remains,however. Realism requires disillusionment, because illusions are fed to us from birth.

[Alexisme1001]

We are children of our times. A person's desire to find a "soulmate"- a perfectly compatible emotional, spiritual, intellectual, sexual messiah who will never leave - reflects a desire to live in a kind of paradise, a world of plenitude, in which such people exist. This ideal may motivate progress in the grand scheme of things, but on an immediate practical level, it is unrealistic, because we currently live in an "economic" universe, defined by scarcity, selfishness, and hierarchies.

[LoveRise]

Insightful and authentic presentation. Thank you! Warmly, Laurie

[veronicachic]

Are you a motivational speaker?

you're really good, im lovin' your vids, especially for a girl like me where my head is always stuck in the clouds, idealistic approach to life. I need to listen to someone who will ground me and bring me back down to earth :)

thank you xxox

[vagabondsteve]

@veronicachic No, just a guy on YouTube. Thanks for taking the time to comment.

[MoRpHeUsss22]

Tell me when you were successful in findind your soulmate, than I´ll try it too...

[TadRapidly]

"soulmates" should be called "storymates". ;-) If you meet someone who believes and is willing to validate your story then THAT'S THE ONE! Search over!

[philylennon]

Your awsome man!!

[zestron]

I find it hard to go out there and get rejected when I don't have much to say to people in my classes. It lowers my self confidence and makes me feel boring

[vagabondsteve]

@zestron The only way you get better at something is through practice. First start with approaching people outside of your school. It also helps to meet people through similar interests. Like art classes, meetup dot com, etc. Each rejection is not rejection. The goal is to overcome fear; whether you get rejected or not is irrelevant.

[suziheslop]

@zestron awwww ;____;

[SubconsciousDweller]

nice! what a cool guy! im goin to go out and get rejected!!

thanks bro!...lol

[SubconsciousDweller]

its about becoming the right person!!! Very nice!! i agree 100%

thank you!

much light and Love to you!

[SelfHelpCollective]

This is the first time I've listened to you vagabondsteve. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and for encouraging us to look into ourselves for ours! Look forward to watching more...

Steve

PS I reckon a great way to meet women/men is by posting videos like this! ;-)

[vagabondsteve]

@SelfHelpCollective Thank you for your support!

[mela2828]

:) so did you find your soulmate?

[sjtherage]

Yes, me too, of what is real.

[good2freelance]

Are you partnered vagabondsteve ?

You are the type of person i want LOL (embarrassed)

[TRUESports09]

you enlighten me more and more with each video i watch. great job

[sweetfairyish]

Great advice :) Thank you .

[Charlierosea]

lol! I want to procreate with as many beautiful women as possible

[ladd428]

You always hit it right on the head. Every... single... time. One question I have is do you think it's possible to find a person that you really want to be with, the person that's right for you, after only several relationships? I would really appreciate your insight on this.

[vagabondsteve]

@ladd428 Absolutely! It's really less about the other person and more about one's lack of relationship experience. It could be the right person but will your mind always wonder what if... because you lack the relationship experience to truly appreciate how great this person is?

[ladd428]

@vagabondsteve I used to be a "what if" person, but I'm no longer one to question what you cannot truly know. I really don't think that I would wonder, because I truly do know how great this person is. I'm still not sure what is going to happen exactly, of course, but I do know what I want. Thank you so much.

[vagabondsteve]

@ladd428 Trust your intuition and remember all things are temporal.

[niknakattack73]

This one is my favorite video of yours so far. I'm enjoying solitude in my life right now and it's been hard to keep the men away. lol I'm so happy to have found your channel! Keep up the good work

[vagabondsteve]

@niknakattack73 Thank you!

[huntforlight]

Thanks Steve, I agree with you on so many levels. You do have to work on yourself, you do need to let go of your ego. But, I think that you also need to believe in a little magic. When the right person comes along, it will be when you least expect it. You need to trust that there is a connection to a special person out there and until you find that person, you will not believe it can happen. But you can never go searching for them.

[vagabondsteve]

"When the right person comes along, it will be when you least expect it." This is a common myth. It's like saying you'll find the right job when you least expect it. Yes, occasionally this can happen. But at the core it's a numbers game. You have to take risks, make yourself available, lower your standards, and put forth the effort.

[venuscoffee]

Great video! I kinda think it's about dropping your ego, and instead letting your authentic self come through. It's also about getting to know yourself, and developing ourselves so that we can attract another whole person. But it's really no surprise we all have such a hard time finding that soulful spiritual partner, because almost everyone is struggling spiritually too.

[DouglasUrantia]

I have found that people in bars are far more friendly and helpful than people in churches.

[vagabondsteve]

You probably then have never approached a beautiful woman at a bar in Los Angeles.

[DouglasUrantia]

Ok, we're even.....

[DJBerber]

Really enjoyed this video, trying to be honest to that innermost person that is the real challange, if you are honest and people who are likeminded see that in you it all seems to fall into place, we need to stop putting on a role to make someone like us, we should be just as we are, honest and real. kudos

[darkvader47]

I'm Speechless Steve! Excellent!

[kccrboy]

Another excellent dose of wisdom. Thank you!!

[secretsareboring]

Steve, you're like a great combo of new age and science mixed together. Or maybe a reformed new-ager? I don't know. But you're right about soul mates. And that's also why I think the search is not worth the effort ;-) If you can stand being alone - I reckon that's an OK way to live. People will think it's strange, and label it as all sorts of things. But their opinion doesn't count, hey.

[vagabondsteve]

Thank you for your support and comments. While I agree that being alone is necessary during certain stages of life. Sharing our path with a kindred spirit is a rewarding spiritual practice. It teaches us how to cultivate a servant's heart.

[Basie10]

Sorry for double-posting, but I had to say this.

Whenever you try to be like someone else you are not respecting your own uniqueness. When you are being yourself, whatever comes up is exactly the right thing. However, being yourself is not something that you can fake, it is the easiest thing in the world, but it takes real courage and maybe even a sense of vulnerability. Godspeed.

[vagabondsteve]

Thank you for commenting. Couldn't have said it better myself.

[Basie10]

"the fastest way to success is to double your rejection rate"

reminds me of something I heard once it was something along the lines of "failure is the means to success"

It might seem a little cynical, but I totally agree with what you're saying, that a true, authentic relationship cannot be formed until you honestly respect yourself enough that you just don't care what others think about you. If you really know who you are, it doesn't matter who other people think you are...

[macdaddylorenzo]

6:40 "Finding the right person is a numbers game."

Thanks for the pertinent reminder! I'd forgotten but a real estate agent friend of mine once told me those EXACT words about 3 years ago.

Also, Warren Buffet, possibly the greatest investor & financier ever, once said on Charlie Rose: "If you try to kiss enough girls, you'll eventually find one who wants to kiss you" (he was saying that as an analogy for investing: if you make enough lowball bids you'll eventually score on one).

[MammaNole]

AWESOME! ;) Tx Steve! May all the joy of the world envelope your heart!

[vagabondsteve]

"He will come when you are ready"... is a myth. Sure it happens to some, but why not increase your odds. All good things come to those who keep on keeping on.

The romance comes AFTER you meet him. The search is simply a numbers game. Don't let the movies, romance books, and wishful thinking fool you.

For those who don't want to put in the leg work must ask themselves how badly they want to meet their 'soulmate'. Good things normally don't just fall out of the sky into our laps.

[MammaNole]

Hey Steve, I do agree with you. I like romance, but understand what you are saying. I'm into making friends and seeing how things go. I'm not sure I believe in soulmates anymore...

[Charlierosea]

@MammaNole Its one of those things, youre never gonna know, but who cares, who knows the meaning of life, the meaning oviously is what you believe in. I don't belive in soul mates because its like trying to control reality, fuck it.

[xShane1122x]

Another great video Steve. One of my favorites.

[Luv4Learning]

I like the statement about doubling your rejection rate. That's a great way to learn how to be yourself, and teaches you who you really are, separate from others.

[jogayot]

/me touches screen. feel my rejection!

[binsk]

Wonderful advice!

[jakluk4]

= )

[faszika]

you really seek out rejection twice a day? =o

[misseptember]

yea man those who are not worried to make a fool out of their selves, will acheive much greater then those who constently seek the approval of others. There starts the path to an authentic life!

[vagabondsteve]

Yes, when I was actively seeking a mate. Not during my times of solitude or when I had a girlfriend. Rejection eventually doesn't even phase you with enough practice. The key is to just approach the person right away without thinking about it. Once the mind/ego kicks in it then becomes more difficult. Authentic living is also a great practice in being unphased by rejection.

[chessdude67]

Thanks Steve.

I'm sending this video to a friend who needs to see it. Very helpful.

Excellent!

[vagabondsteve]

Thanks for sharing the video.

[InformedParent]

I completely agree. Makes perfect sense. Our society doesn't value solitude and even equates it with anti-social behavior. I have a little boy I plan on homeschooling and everyone's main concern is if he's going to be socialized or become a weirdo. There's alot more weirdos/sheeple created in schools. Also I used to be a huge romantic comedy fan. I realize now how the ideas I got from these ruined alot of my relationships. Anyways great insights. Thanks.

[11Firat58]

Good video........................i was also that 'soulmating' kinda guy. nope...didn't go that great....i left that way of thinking and started developing myself into a greater self. Nice to see this kind of thoughts...