mulatto diaries #112 stephanie part two

[jWestdd]

And quite making excuses for the N word. Even at that young age when White children use this word, it is meant to hurt.

[CheezInspector]

Good interview Stephanie. Much insight.

[demaification]

that just how it is today society let hope it will change that all this black enough not a enough black all this white enough not a enough white is basically b.s.

[liligrl90]

i hate whn i hear ppl say being "mixd" technically most blks r "mixed" it doesnt juss mean 2 races mixd is a mix of alot of things look at creoles (sp?)

technically their mixd..my mother is half native & blk & her mther is ful blk and her dad is half blak..my dad is blak so "technically" im "mixd" mixd-blak n white sum try 2 go as white bt no white or blk persn is ganna look @ u and blive ur white juss friggin be happy with the way u look stp being ashamd of any1 of the races blk or white

[LaReginaPatrizia]

I sort of agree with her about being suppressed growing up black. I can't speak for all but if you are black and grow up in a low income community and are different than other blacks, by the way you speak, by having different interests and musical tastes, others can make you feel different. I grew up in such an environment and since, I didn't particularly like rap, dance well or apeak a lot of slang, I was told I acted like a white girl.

[callmeservant]

Your definitly not alone to add on to the fact that I didn't particularly like rap, and I'm very well spoken I had long hair so alot of people treated me differently and I would always get people asking me if I was mixed. Alot of black kids would automatically see me and want to just be me up or degrade me. But I know it was just the area I lived in it was just hard growing up like that. So I know what you mean.

[blackcherrybliss]

@LaRegina. This is also my experience while growing up. Except I liked/like rap & hip hop alot! However, we'll be listening to LL Cool J, Salt n Pepa, or Eric B.& Rakim one day. The next day I want to listen to Wilson Phillips or Debbie Gibson and I get looked at like I was crazy and called a white girl. I would open my mouth to speak the way I was taught & get mimicked.

[blackcherrybliss]

So, in my case (back then) I tried to do things that were (stereotypically) considered "black." I absolutely hate BET now, but I looked to that channel as a teen as many other young blacks. So I also appreciate Stephanie's message at the end which was so wonderful. "Stay true to yourself." No matter what other's may think of you or consider to be "not black enough." I mean, what the hell does that mean anyway? Just be...

[melionsden]

Leo Tolstoy: "All happy families are alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."

A quote from Anna Karenina. Conflicts may result in differences in personality, social backgrounds e.g. class, cultural differences due to racial differences although I doubt that is stronger a factor than personality and social class.

[accidentsafe]

Wow, I never thought that growing up in the black community suppresses you--I just thought it was outside racism but now that I think about it, she's completely right. You have to talk black, act black, listen to black music. People call you stupid and in the black community black often equals ugly, stupid, and poor a lot of times. We need to change how we view ourselves and how we treat each other.

[BronzeSista]

Again, this is racist thinking, that all black people are the same. I like celtic irish music, classical , latin, Indian music,  and I'm Black. People can call you whatever they like...its what you answer to that matters.

[BronzeSista]

The reason some biracial people here want to be white so badly is because of racism. Some have been raised to believe Black blood makes you inferior; therefore you must deny and pretend you dont have it, and whatever you do, dont associate with Black people, and no one will notice youre part Black, and you have a Black parent. Pssst somebody might find out and cast you aside.

[AlSmithy1]

The reason some [blacks] here want [biracials] to be [black only] so badly is because [these blacks] have been raised to believe Black blood makes you inferior, therefore [these blacks want you to] deny and pretend you dont have [anything but Black blood], and whatever you do, dont associate with [people who arent black], and no one will notice youre [something other than] Black, and you have a [non-]Black parent. Pssst [some of these blacks] might [get angry] and [call you a race traitor].

[BronzeSista]

AlSmithy, I for one would rather not deal with someone who will separate themselves from their own Black Parent, due to racism. Should the Black parent call them a race traitor too? They should acknowledge both parents, but don't treat the Black parent as if they are inferior or they don't exist. Many of them in appearance look Black, but try to separate themselves, as if no one will notice the blackness.

[BronzeSista]

Just because your skin is White you think you know the reality of White people in America? I suppose you think they all believe as you do, think again, America is not your Reality. We are a race obsessed society, and if you relocated to the USA thinking skin color doesnt matter youd get shunned by the very people with the same skin color you think you know.

[BronzeSista]

I dont know how you can generalize about Black Americans, when you do not know the history about race and racism in America. Black people in this country were forced to accept race mixture; it has been going on in our group since slavery, and now we willfully accept it. Black

AidanNagol --Americans come in many different shades. It was not until many of the biracials were raised to be racist towards their Black heritage that they felt they did not fit in with Black people.

[AidanNagolxxx]

I don't have to live in your country to understand it's history. In fact being an outsider I can view it without the obvious bias you have. And I firmly believe the majority of white Americans would accept racial diversity in their families. Your mind set belongs back in the 50's. It's people like you who perpetuate racial problems in society.

[sidittygal]

Having almost exclusively dated white men, I can say that not all families are loving and accepting of IR marriage or relationships. My husband's stepfather has an issue with us having a child now for no other reason than the child will have a tough time "being black". He also felt our marriage was against the Bible, but couldn't tell us what part of the Bible in which it was said we should be married. Not to mention me and my husband aren't Christian, so it didn't matter anyway.

[hunnibunninooner]

second that =D...,

well i appreciate you took the time to talk to all past and future interviewees

xx

[frenchie510]

this is my favorite interview of yours (besides the one with philip of course, lol).

[ZingZee123456789]

WOW! Great interview. One of your best!

What she said at the end about blacks having to supress who they are and how that supression grows into anger is SOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE. I got goosebumps when she said it because its spot on and makes soo much sense!

[BuffyunaTV]

I loved this interview, and it was so inciteful what she said about blacks having to conform to a certain image.

[blackcherryblitz]

Yes!!

[blackcherrybliss]

Good interview, Tiff!! I agree. This young lady is wonderful and so are YOU!!!

[BronzeSista]

I thought this interview was much more honest, like the story she told about the white boy whose parents didn't want him dating Black girls, because in their eyes you're not white, therefore if you married their son the feel/fear that the grand child wouldn't be white either. The same thing happened to my biracial friend. The boy's father told him that he would cut him from the family will if he continued to date a black girl. Biracial means nothing to white folks when it comes to marriage.

[AidanNagolxxx]

@bronzeSista "Biracial means nothing to white folks when it comes to marriage.", that is a rather huge generalization. How do you know how most white people think? As a white person I would say most white people would have no problem with someone biracial dating or marrying in their family. If you want to generalize then I would say it would be more likely black folk who would have more of a problem with it.

[BronzeSista]

You are right I should not generalize, but in the United, States I would say at least 98-to-99% have a problem with their children marrying and having children with Black people. Years ago, I can remember many whites telling me I dont have a problem with Blacks marrying Whites, as long as they dont have children.  They would say I want my grandchildren to be white, and some still feel the same way. I see that you live in Australia, maybe there is no racism there.

[MedusasSnakePit]

No racism in Australia? If you do an internet search, you will find that Australia is one of the most racists countries in the world

[AidanNagolxxx]

Yes!, we are one of the most racist countries in the world. With all the political correctness and affirmative action we have. If your white you are treated under the law as a second class citizen.

[tianitra]

@MedusasSnakePit Did that person ask the aborigines if there was racism in Australia?

[transendingtime]

Because I'm multiracial and every American white person I've ever met (liberal, conservative, etc.) has called me black despite the fact that my features anywhere else have gotten me denoted as latino or at the very least partially white. Further, "black" people, as we all are commonly denoted, have a history of dating "monoracial" American blacks and biracials with little or not problems. As a white person you can't tell me about bi/multiracial issues. It doesn't make any sense.

[seygra20]

all i got to say is that biracial ppl in d caribbean have a much stronger identity and isnt faced with the constant battle of being black enough, indian enough, white enough, etc diversity is celebrated too bad its not celebrated in the usa

[seygra20]

stephanie seems soo down to earth and laid back

[TheSoctress]

Tiff,

Where do you find people to do interviews?

[Quietstorm92]

I'm the opposite when it comes to who I'd date.... I'd love to find a Black woman who DOESN'T like Rap. I can't stand Hip Hop. I use it as a weeding out tool the opposite way, lol.

One of many reasons why I prefer non-Black women.

On the question at the end about the perils of being Black in America....she hit the nail right on the head.

[sidittygal]

You can't find a black women who doesn't like rap. I call BS. You prefer non black women because you don't like black women. Just say that instead of using a BS excuse.

[maichai13]

I second your call...

[sidittygal]

I just find it frustrating when people do that. I am a black woman married to a white man, currently pregnant with his child. Black men have no bearing on why I am married to a white man. I don't have to disparage, stereotype, or insult black men to justify my marriage. Why does he have to do it to justify his dating choices?

[Crazzzybabie]

he doesn't have to do anything. just ignore those people

[ohveryyoung]

she's a beautiful person, inside and out

[curlmebella]

I really liked her comments about suppression.I dont know that blks actually become "angry blk men/women" I think that is a stereotype,however I do believe that blks have to suppress who they are.I can watch teenage white boys walk down the street and jump up and hit street signs but if my son did it he would be stopped by the police for attempted vandalism-that type of thing.Good thing she had this interview she never would have known how much race played a part in her life. God bless you Tiff!

[djslyfox]

yep thats why when you are black you walking on a very thin line....anything you do is magnified