Three Keys to Success

[TooMuchGass]

the best way to succed. Give up

[JosephaEdman]

All 3 are really very important. I think the 2nd one, EQ, is probably the most important one. Thanks for the insight.

[carnypimp]

I need to work on my EQ!

[maximuswynn]

You're right! I haven't seen anyone successful and stupid, unless they were doing something dirty.

[TheEvilJuergen]

Probably everything needed for successful working these days comes down to cognitive, emotional and behavioral components.

(cognitive: IQ, learning, reflecting, knowledge, etc.; emotional: associating the knowledge and skills with feelings, internalizing, EQ, social communicative skills, etc.; behavioral: putting cognitve and emotional compoenets into action by doing something; learning by doing; internalizing and automatizing)

First think, then feel, then do!

Nice vid!

[TropicalBuddha]

I agree so much with E.Q. I think that's an area I need to work on. I am surrounded by extra-serious people who need someone with a very vibrant personality to get them out of their element. As a more quiet person, my greatest weakness is the inability to bring the light out of other very serious (I may say dark) people.

[tlg847]

Recognizing your own emotional repertoire is crucial for changing atmosphere. If you don't have those gifts, who does? How can you enable others to transform the mood if you can't do so yourself? Leaders don't just DO THINGS, THEY ARRANGE FOR THINGS TO HAPPEN. The more senior the leader, the more arranging. Good luck.

[TropicalBuddha]

One of the issues I face as an employee is severe under-staffing. Companies are so bent on saving money that they end up spreading people too thin. People end up quitting as a result of being worked almost literally to death.

[thehornypuppy]

Mmm...don't mean to be rude but...i thing this is just a common sense thing...and i harldy beleive that you can teach (and i don't mean YOU) how to be innovative...smart...or any of those attributes, like, you can't teach someone how to be skillful...you can damn sure train them.

[tlg847]

Well semantics aside ("teach," "train") I beg to differ. I believe people can learn to innovate; doesn't mean everyone becomes Edison, but certainly can get better at it than they are today. Adopting and practicing a mindset improves its use. Thanks for the comment.

[greenbrick]

i've heard a phrase called AQ that in my experience is a HUGE element. AQ stands for adversity quotient. Without this, the smartest, most innovative, and most relationship savvy person can crumble apart when dealing with tough situations in there professional and personal life. I'd add it to your list.

[tlg847]

Sorry I missed this. Many put "resilience" under EQ. That sounds similar to your interesting AQ. Thanks.

[f1rewa7ker]

Shut the fuck up you stupid bitch. That's key #1.

[tlg847]

Hi. sorry I missed this. Glad you're enjoying my videos. My book Work Different: Design for the Rest of Us is available on Amazon. Thanks.

[terwilligar1981]

Ok. I will keep this in my mind. It makes sence from a certain stand point. But what good is anything without communication. That is the number 1 thing to success in my opinion...EQ...then again your second point is hitting upon communication yes?

[tlg847]

Yes, in my view, communication is fundamental and rooted in EQ, understanding others and thinking about ways to connect with them effectively. Thanks.

[terwilligar1981]

No sir. Thank you!

[geezerart]

You are right on Tom. I do believe it's so important to have all those quality's to be successful. Learning new things can be so exciting and I think is a key to keeping us on top of game. But some of the seminars that employee's are made to attend are just so boring! They just want out of the building! lol What do you say about that?

[tlg847]

Seminars! Off-sites! Don't get me started, Freida. Almost invariably well-intentioned distractions. Sure people need to learn how to do things, mostly in the EQ and NQ zones, but the most effective manner for enabling that learning is in regard to real work. So, it's not about some trumped up BS, but about helping people learn new tools to become successful in projects that matter. I could go on...

[iloveperkins]

Now I'm positive I'm going to be unsuccessful in the workplace!

[tubeeorrnottubee]

I'm a lot the same as That80sGuy.. when the pressure's on, and ten things pile on all at once, I freeze up, and my normal receptors, usually pretty intuitive, and logical, seem to fly out the window! When I have something I've gotta do, and it's gotta be just-this-way, and it's gotta be now.. it seems inevitible that something always goes awry! My freak-factor is my worst enemy!:-{

[SaveT2]

Three keys to success: 1. Keep celebrities away from YT (This is a place for the everyday person to come and express themselves along with others) 2. Stop the random, unfair bannings (Seriously, this needs to stop now. It's only getting worse.) 3. Stop with the double standard. YT has no problem banning people who have done NOTHING wrong but will let their little youtube celebrities use spam bots and other things that violate their own policy.

[That80sGuy1972]

I got all three... until the pressure comes. Then my IQ drops some and my EQ and NQ vanish.

[tlg847]

Breathe, man, breathe. Gotta try to slow down under pressure...that's the secret. Make. Everything. Happen. Really. Slowly.

Thanks for the comment and the sub.

[That80sGuy1972]

I thought I subscribed a long time ago... your "cliche" video.

As for the slowing things down with a deep breath, I usually do that. The problem is that I am a cook. In the kitchen, if they see you are keeping a cool head, they turn the pressure up because they think you are not trying hard enough... at least I think that's why.

[tlg847]

Oh, a cook. Wow, that is pressure. Ever read Anthony Bordain's book, Kitchen Confidential? It's really interesting. Keep breathing! Thanks.

[That80sGuy1972]

Nope. Now I have another book on my "Books to Read" list. Thanks. :)

[SaveT2]

SAVE T2 MOTHERFUCKER

[gonzagirl]

I disagree. There are only 2 keys to success. Ambition and fortitude. You should look for people who have this, and harness it to work for the company.

[ockteby]

I just wanted to add something else after watching this video again. I have been on YT just over a year, and my profile page says it's been viewed 7,208 times. But when I check my total video views its 38000. This tells me someone is staying around to listen to my content. I have never been featured by YT, but RENETTO featured me once, for a day.

I don't have a phone bank driving my views. O well, I am rambling.

[tlg847]

Ah yes, the old "channel" vs. "video" view thing, Frank. The first is the number of times your channel page itself has been viewed, the second, the number of times your videos have been viewed. To me, meaningless stat. People definitely listen to your stuff, but you might consider ramping up with one of those phone banks!

8^)

[SomethingSea]

:) lol

[SomethingSea]

lol North

[tlg847]

Hey...just tryin' to help.

:-|

[Anatolia90105]

hei dude do you know what way the next bar?

[tlg847]

North.

[taragolden]

tom,, i think you seem like such an interesting guy, but you lost me with with that obnoxious ad..

[tlg847]

Thanks, tara...we're all learning about these ads together.

[taragolden]

i know a number of people feel that Yt has already " sold out" but i think we can retain a large measure of control over our own work.. and when we permit ads of services and products we dont sincerely belive in, then i think that takes US in the direction as the networks.. as far as i know the money isnt much anyway.. so i have to ask those who have agreed to the ads,, do you find it worth it?

[tlg847]

I didn't sign up to be a partner to make money. The number of views my videos get will yield paltry sums (I'm hoping to break $1.00 for my first quarterly YT check!) I did it because I believe in content creators sharing in YT's revenue and to be a full member of this community. Ads are a huge part of our society and always will be. I accept that as a given. Thanks.

[AsianReligion]

Thank you for this video. The workplace, especially Corporate America, is a very tough place. So much negative ego-centered culture. Sometimes I think all that corporations care for are people who can deliver results, without any care for how they treat people.

[tlg847]

I think it's smart for corporations to focus on results. The key is, what delivers results? My thought is that treating talented people like they matter is the best way to get great results. Not every company believes that. They get to live with those beliefs and their consequences. Thanks.

[AsianReligion]

I agree. Treating talented people like they matter is really the best way they will stay with the company. Treating them like crap, on the other hand, is an easy way for those corporations to lose people.

[tlg847]

Call me simple, but that's the way I see it.

[AsianReligion]

And it's interesting - corporations are understandably very particular about saving money and resources, and yet they don't do everything it takes to achieve both...but wait, they of course can outsource all their talent to India.

[SomethingSea]

Wish I were as interesting as you and as funny as kevjumba. But if that happens I do worse. Great vid, and the other vids that I have seen are really good too.

Keep posting!

[tlg847]

Thanks very much...sorry it took so long to respond...very busy week.

[SomethingSea]

Oh that's fine. Within a week is pretty good I'd say.

[ogier1]

agreed about bush, hehe

You can use EQ by keeping good relationships and control bad traits and nevertheless neglect moral responsability.

Here in Germany the elites are fast despising moral responsability as an obstacle to gain maximal shareholder value. And we have no foundation-culture (contrary to the US)!

[ogier1]

Three important factors.

For a discussion, if bush has high IQ, if Zuckerberg and Gates have high EQ, unfortunately the comment space is to small.

We have to highlight MORAL SENTIMENTS in today`s elites.

[tlg847]

I think moral sentiment would be a legitimate aspect of EQ. Bush has low every Q, imo.

[popebenadict16]

umm, my firm looks for people with a strong back and not much IQ. laters tom

[tlg847]

Ah yes, the old MQ requirement: Muscular Intelligence!

Thanks, Your Holiness!

[cambridgee]

Tom,

as always, enjoyed your bringing thoughtful commentary/advice to youtube. I hope viewers appreciate the free advice that large corporations often pay large sums to train their management staff. being smart, working well with those above AND below you and being open minded to new ideas is good sound advice.

peace.

[tlg847]

Thanks, your support is much appreciated.

[dexarouskies]

sounds reasonable

[tooomp]

Great video and the comments are just as valuable if not more so.

My advice for raising one's EQ would be to try to help others as part of your work. Success transcends dollars and cents when we can help others, and failure then becomes not helping others.

[tlg847]

Yes...great comments here. Helping others is both the source, and ultimate expression, of EQ. Thanks.

[mikma]

MIKMA WAS HERE

[tlg847]

Mik, was sarrycrey correct? Did your comments really disappear?

[mikma]

yes every thing I have ever said in video comments are channle pages mike

[breezin48]

Exactly. You need them all. I have a friend who's at the top of his field nationally. His IQ's high (so is his competition's) But his EQ and NQ are higher than most others and that's why he outdoes them.

[tlg847]

Hey, how are we going to keep our business growing if we don't create anxiety? You, of all people, claiming you lack those attributes: smart, humble, cutting edge innovator? Come on, you can't shine me on, old man!

Talk soon.

[renetto]

When watching your videos... I always find myself wondering... how much would TrueTalk Consulting have charged me for the same info... I almost always feel so guilty getting such great advice for FREE...

[tlg847]

It's that pusher mentality, renetto: give 'em a free taste and hit 'em up big time when they come back. And, btw, if you feel too guilty, I can tell you where to send the check!

[tinykarianne1]

Tom, your the greatest!

=)

[tlg847]

Kind of you to say that. Thanks.

[MrRay47]

Tom, I recently retired from a career where I always had work that was meaningful and interesting. That was success for me. I'd like to add one trait which unfortunately I found lacking in way too many people. The willingness to work as hard and as long as it takes to get the job done right. So many times someone has asked me "How did you know that?" and often the honest answer was because I spent the whole night of the whole weekend working on it. aloha :)

[MrRay47]

But obviously I didn't spend much time proofreading that last comment.

Since I have 500 more characters: If advancement in a large organization is your idea of success I'd say that EQ will trump the other two. As

[MrRay47]

a techie I worked with many intelligent and innovative people but the people who moved up furthest were those with outstanding EQ's. They knew how to get the most out of their subordinates IQ's and NQ's and how to present it within the organization. aloha :)

[tlg847]

I agree: EQ can either hinder or supercharge the other two capabilities. Smart people don't fail because they forget how to be smart; they fail because they forget how to be people.

[tlg847]

The long-standing requirement of "work ethic." No doubt about it, Ray. Ever notice how "lucky" you get when working hard?

And, your definition of success should be top of mind for every young person: a life of interesting, meaningful work. Money comes and goes; purpose and meaning sustain us.

Thanks.

[Ringollo]

Tom, you're freakin awesome. Most insightful and intelligent dialogues on YouTube. I'm usually wary of any "success" ideas that don't ring of common sense; but intelligence, emotional intelligence, and openness certainly do.

[tlg847]

Thank you. I think "quick success" plans are a joke. For us, focusing on the fundamentals of business and relationships is the answer.

[khayav]

You're always so informative.

[tlg847]

Appreciate your support, khaya.

[macflyfilm]

Great video, thanks Tom.

[tlg847]

Thanks very much.

[Annaconda1984]

4.20am (-: you make me want to find out more and more about every concept you discuss in your videos. Very interesting as always

[tlg847]

Very kind of you to say...thanks. Now, go to bed!

[gguider]

Very interesting!! Like the google thought as it makes me think about my 'place' at work.. I wish it was so here that people are encouraged and enabled!! but the empires and ego's are defended very well!!

[tlg847]

The armies of the empire are always adept at defense; it's their futile hope for salvation. Thanks.

[gguider]

too true!! But it's such a shame to see people become dis-heartened and leave..

So much talent and potential lost.

[tlg847]

As consultants, our job is to make the connection between the disheartened departees and lost revenue. Actually a pretty easy case if you can get leaders to focus. Thanks.

[ockteby]

This is another excellent video.... As you know, Tom I retired from one of the largest and most prestigious privately owned companies in the world. I like to think I had a good degree of all the attributes you mentioned. BUT seven months after retiring I was called back to do some work, and I no longer felt like I was plugged in. I think it was the influx of a new group of whiz kids. Not that I was one. :)

[tlg847]

Interesting, Frank. Had you unplugged that NQ and started focusing your energies elsewhere? Thanks, as always, for watching and for the kind comments.

[jrsnyderjr]

Recently I decided to stop working with major corporations because they mouth what you are stating and want the results, the managers on the lower levels I work with parrot it back but act differently. Instead their actual behavior is a reward system that is personality based and counter-productive, frustrating me and the people working for them. Then at results time blaming behavior begins...the pattern was repeating itself too much for me.

[jrsnyderjr]

Smaller or medium sized organizations that are newer or "hungry" are more willing to think in terms like this. Additionally I think they're willing to take on people who may need to grow in EQ and NQ and work with that as long as the basics are there.

[tlg847]

I think the key is to recognize that EQ and NQ are the new basics. It's not enough just to be smart anymore. Those skills can be automated or outsourced. Everybody should be focusing on augmenting their IQs to demonstrate real, unique, value. Thanks.

[tlg847]

Sounds very, very familiar.

[kenrg]

NQ is a great concept, but I think there's probably another, related fourth Q, that would have something to do with knowing your market niche. It's related to the others, but it's the ability to serve your chosen segment, and understanding the skill set to do that effectively.

[tlg847]

Self-world fit insight; yeah. I think that's grounded in the self-awareness aspect of EQ. What do you think?

[hellyersonline]

i like the Google maps analagy, I'm thinking a lot about work at the moment and it may have helped put things in perspective... thanks

[tlg847]

"Nested contexts" is the way our firm talks about those circumstances, Dave. Glad it may have helped.

[BMac199]

I don't know if you have been for a while or not but congrats on becoming a partner Tom. Also, great video as usual.

[tlg847]

Thanks very much. I just became a partner in last week or so. The Partner Program has really opened up, with the goal being universal access very soon.

[BMac199]

Awesome.  Well congratulations!

[PiFan7]

I think my IQ and NQ are A-OK, but my EQ is in the ER and needs CPR PDQ!

[tlg847]

OMG...LMAO!

[GHortaV]

You better call the FBI or the CIA before your EQ is DOA. In that case RIP. hahaha

[divalolo]

A GSOH makes all the difference...

[robrobbins]

I don't consider myself to be part of the organization. I act like an industrial spy and learn how the business operates and develop my own skills so I can run my own business.

[tlg847]

This, my friend, is a very clever maneuver! I believe you are not alone in this tactic. Many in corporations look to be undercover!

[GHortaV]

Another great video! keep it up! :)

[tlg847]

Many thanks...

[talk74]

thanks for some great insight.

however, i wonder if these strengths only really play for you if your employer understands them and is looking for them?

[tlg847]

In today's workworld it's unusual to find an employer who's not at least looking for the RESULTS that being proficient in these three areas can deliver. Thanks.

[talk74]

I agree. I don't see good quanties of IQ or EQ being a problem. But NQ! Are all managers happy when someone rocks the boat, or when innovation appears to clash with core values?

[ASECONDCHANCEAROUND]

i learn so much from you : )

[tlg847]

Thanks, Sonia. t

[creegirl9]

really interesting... I see now I lacked a bit in the NQ at my last job.... however... my boss discouraged any input and innovativeness from the women on my team. it really de-motivated me.

[tlg847]

If leaders lack competence in any of these three areas they certainly can't encourage the people on their teams to be strong on those areas. It's a big leadership challenge today. Thanks.

[creegirl9]

thats why he had the highest turnover of people in the dept. and yet amazingly kept getting promoted himself.

[tlg847]

That's exactly what dysfunctional organizations do, sending loud/clear signals to everyone about what really matters. Startling, actually.

[anmoose]

Well said, Tom. As a golf course Superintendent, I find all three of the Qs getting heavily exercised, and the EQ can sometimes be a bit hard to maintain. There ARE those occasional overwhelming urges to strangle the nearest golfer. LOL

Moosie

[tlg847]

Oh my goodness, I can only imagine the strain on the EQ in that circumstance! I wonder how you're using your YouTube experience to help develop your NQ?

[anmoose]

Golfers can strain it immeasurably. :-)

I mainly use YouTube to escape it all, though I do have an unrelated channel JUST for the golf course. The NQ comes naturally, the result of years spent in electronic engineering, and my total failure to learn how to STOP being a student. I graduated from college ages ago, but I can't seem to graduate from life.

[mixedpixel]

Isnt that frutratiing for a company who pays you when you tell them this? no one can raise his IQ now matter how much they pay you ;-)

Oh, and i disagree. I believe that motivation comes first and then intelligence. I've seen too many intelligent 'assholes' in my career so far ....

[tlg847]

I agree re: IQ...it's the other two areas that can be improved dramatically. EQ and NQ are, therefore, the keys to success. EQ is what takes the "asshole" out of the "intelligent asshole." NQ is what keeps us searching for new ways to add value through novel ideas. Thanks!

[ophelia219us]

Very well stated.

[tlg847]

Thanks very much.

[EddyBergman]

This is a very helpful video. I'm curently looking for a new job and I can use these tips in preparing for job interviews. Although I'm nowhere near a corporate level; I think those things also apply to lower rated jobs. (I'm a proces operator. You know, part of a team that controls the proces in a chemical factory)

[tlg847]

Thanks for the comment, Eddy. I'm very happy that you found this helpful. I think the three areas have relevance at any level. Best of luck with your job search.