Nonviolent Communication Part 3 Marshall Rosenberg

[psbzu]

Thank you Mr.Marshall Rosenberg!

Let´s all play The Fun Game and play it fast!!!

Inspiring to say the least.

[patkerr2007]

It's French philosopher PierreTeilhard de Chardin that Marshall Rosenberg speaks of.

[whoknowswhathappened]

Does anyone know the guy he mentions who Thalar Shadan, or something like that, I must have the spelling wrong because I'm not able to find him on Google.

[Zander242]

We don't need to go back. We need to go forward. Much here makes sense, and it should add the consideration of Value Level Systems as discovered by Clare W. Graves. Marshall is very Level 6 (Green).

[TheLindal111]

After hearing him, I am practicing his teachings and it is changed the people. I look at the needs now.

[coreluminous]

equality has to be defined. it's not a question of levels of measurement , it's a question of recognition of the inherent VALUE of each particpant in life's dance, and thus a way of appreciating the diverse ways in which all life nurtures more life for all life. It's also a means to discern those behaviours that are not mutually nurturant, that reduce the viability of others life processes, that seek gain at anothers expense.

[maarikaaa]

All the signs are indicating that in the future we will be living peacefully in a system that fulfils everyone's needs (a resource-based economy). That, or we destroy ourselves and this planet (also a realistic possibility because people in power positions are NOT sane).

[MillyVanillification]

Absolutely right. Competition is the source of all our troubles. What we'd need is cooperation, not competition.

[ecxod]

I didnt like the part he say he aint do it for the money.

If thats true,monk, why the fuck dont you put your shit under CC and keep everything copyrighted !

[Darkhorse21x]

@ecxod

There are other reasons to copyright a work that you may not have considered. One is to keep the work original as you inteded it to be. That is to say, If you have a copyrighted original, you have evidence when someone changes your work and attributes it to you. This is a need he may require to be fulfilled. secondly, just because he is seeking a return for his labor does not mean that this is his primary need. He may do this work to fulfill a higher need. Nothin wrong with getn paid

[ecxod]

@Darkhorse21x

Even Roseberg is confusing traveling with fun and work.

His basic idea is to take time to listen to the peoples problems and answer in a way they are not sure if you are all right in your mind. Thats no reason for a copyright. But you must read what I say. I said put it under CC and keep it copyrighted under CC. so people have the original but can copy it.

[Darkhorse21x]

@ecxod

Your post is confusingly written and imho, is nonsensical. Is english your second language or have you merely been educated in the public school system in Duhmerikuh? He has developed a process of conflict resolution and regardless of your interpretation of it's value, the process can be copyrighted.

Some works are copyrighted and given away for free by the author. The reason for the copyright is to prevent OTHERS from selling their work for profit when it is meant to be gratis.

[petrus4]

@ecxod Do you feel a need to obtain this material without having to spend money for it?

[juneride]

He thinks like a Unabomber who thought the mankind will be happier if we go to our old PRE-SCIENCE way of life. Not exactly, of course, but in many ways similar.

[Darkhorse21x]

@juneride

I don't see where going back to social customs of the past equated to giving up scientific or technological advancements we have attained so far. I comprehend that he is asking us to change the way we look at the world around us, not give up technological advancements.

I have a Katana hanging on my wall because i see it as a work of art and exquisite craftsmanship, however, it would never occur to me to use it as a weapon to punish others even though I could.

[longbluefingers]

watched it twice to digest all the ideas...

i love it!! thank you for uploading!

[sadunkal]

Now this is a wonderfully sane video... yet somehow many of the comments are exceptionally insane. Interesting contrast.

[CleverDjembe]

@sadunkal

HA! ... fuck

[florianwink]

I believe this is quality content, it alows oneself to be honest with yourself ,,and that my friend is very hard to do" (Bruce Lee)

[florianwink]

Dear reader, please find out which need of Barzacus is being met by his very action.

Blair Warren's ,,needs"

1) a need to feel needed

2) a sense of hope

3) a need for a scapegoat

4) a need to feel noticed and understood

5) a need to know things they're not supposed to know/ things others don't know

6) a need to be right

7) a sense of power

Certainty/Comfort. Variety Significance Connection/Love Growth Contribution

[Barzacus]

Regarding his take of violence, again, I must disagree. I will never turn the other cheek. I reserve violence to counter severe injustice. In self-defense, and in defense of my home and my loved ones, I would kill without hesitation.

[weestro7]

You definitely have a good point, and I wonder how you might think differently if you consider his perspective as an American. Most Americans who pay attention to books like Rosenberg's will be well off enough to be able to take security and safety for granted. For example, even a fist fight is very rare in my experience living in many places in the States. Certainly, his book is not so good for those living in danger of attack.

[roxasroks]

Well that only means you don't understand his point.

[Barzacus]

I must say that this individual has a warped sense of reality.

To start with, there will NEVER be equality. One, because we are born into inequality (family's socio-economic status). Two, because of inherent abilities (intellectual and physical), and Three, because of geographical conditions (flood wipes out your crop, and you have a lot of unmet needs, all of a sudden).

This world is full of unrealistic needs. We live in own reality. I need a Mercedes (I think) but a bicycle will suffice.

[thoughtspek]

@Barzacus What does equality mean in this context? Instead of thinking in absolutes, consider that humanity simply needs MORE equality. There is no such thing as 100% equality in any society. There IS such thing as meeting COMMON needs, but society is currently failing to do that because it has evolved from a competition-survival mentality. This mentality is destructive and obsolete, we need to grow up ASAP. The sooner we understand this globally, the sooner we can provide for EVERYONE'S needs.

[justintempler]

@thoughtspek See I actually do spend the time to research. When I debate someone I've done my homework. If someone is respectful towards me, I'll be respectful towards them.

If I get someone like Sidionian who calls everyone he disagrees with mongoloid, ape, troll, cretin, I'm more than happy to give back what is given me. Disrespect me and I'll disrespect you right back.

You seem like a decent guy whose heart is in the right place, we just have differing views of justice and equality.

[nVei06]

you're a irrational dogmatic person. all you're saying is that you're right because you create all truth. i say that is vulgar. you can not be trusted. you are viciously evil. we're not getting anywhere.

[nVei06]

now you have to define optimal. again the point is that you''re side stepping the point. You can not be reasoned with, there in lies the problem.

[nVei06]

when i said extricate, i meant, to hades. Your value in this world is a vulgarity.

[FrancescoTenore]

Definition of "healthy" as I used the word- the result of the pure need of a child being met optimally by the parent or caretaker as nature expresses and commands it. What would you define as healthy?

[nVei06]

we have a language barrier. you say selfish is to believe in truth. we say selfish is to be hypocritical. using one sided logic. you don't have terms. we are enemies. do you see the problem. that is the base and heart of you.

[FrancescoTenore]

I'll continue a conversation if you want to send me messages directly. Peace to you

[nVei06]

agan, my solution is to find and identify you. what do we do with selfish dishonest creatures when we find them? what do you suggest. educate them, treat them? extricate them? what do we do with you evil things? the problem causers.

[nVei06]

i'm 'bad' because i labeled you 'bad' OH no!

i'm bad because of the same thing you're guilty of, you';re a hypocrite, by you're definition. an incongruousness nonsense you preach. And i claim you are bad because you're a liar, not appealing to universal objects. we getting somewhere?

[FrancescoTenore]

I'm doing my best to take the value in what you are saying, and what I am interested in is what you have to say about education. What are the schools like where you live? Also I'm getting that you may be worried that i would judge you, and think there is something wrong with you. Is that true?

[nVei06]

liar, is a word. a liar can say anthing, and by his standard, it's true. that's what real liars are. they lie all the time and they know how to do it well. We have a problem because i called a filthy dog a filthy dog? why did i call you a filthy dog? answer me. I told you already but you're going to have a long winded run about.

[nVei06]

where did you go my evil friend?

[nVei06]

do you understand that coca cola does not like it when a free guy has their beverage? do you understand? \

[FrancescoTenore]

Coca Cola would have anyone drink their crap just as long as they get paid by it, and the those who would call themselves the NWO are interested in any free person drinking what would kill them, quickly or slowly.

[nVei06]

what i propose we do about it is to teach only truth in schools. We concentrate on teaching, the states truth. so that's a problem. We need to teach logic. Our population can not think. they are very small minded. It's very easy to instruct critical thinking. We don't do it, and it's imperative. We need to identify the subjective thinkers. The ones who propagate this idea. We need to have them identified and understood.

[FrancescoTenore]

Meeting the basic needs of a child is to allow natural wonder for life to guide their development of logic.

The word Educate(greek root) means -to bring fourth from. What happens systemically in education especially in socialist public school systems is the cramming of information into the psyche's of children which is traumatic, and and inhibits healthy integration in the body and in the world.

[nVei06]

this is a ridiculous chaotic express. Traumatic an healthy are terms you are defining. I said, we should teach logic and your said, we should teach ego-truth. again, this is the base and heart of you. what is the solution? i say extricate you.

[FrancescoTenore]

Thus you have the seemingly "brain dead", or passive worker bee that doesn't even a chance to live life as him or herself. Humanity is suffering a primal pain collectively, and we act this out in our false identities, thus the incessant fight for survival.

[nVei06]

Holy shit, you just defined HIMSELF, other individuals, to be be only justfied specifically within the ego of the powerful hive. You're a thinking being? you're a corrupt machine. humanity is suffering a primal pain? let me teach you. I control the plagues because i'm the only honest person. You people are worth less than cochroaches. I can kill you will a plague of coacheroaches.

[nVei06]

a socialist is a cockroach. do you understand? you are cockroaches. This guy in the video, what he does behind closed doors? he'll defend everything. Truth is not an object to him. He probobly owns china girls in china.

[nVei06]

It's NOT about basic human needs not being met. it's about injustice.

[nVei06]

It's basic human needs not being met, you misinformed. i clarified that. Misinformation leads to injustice. This is a concern.

[nVei06]

words like value, do not mean anything. to you, you define it, you are holy because you say so. That's end line.

[FrancescoTenore]

nVei I am interested in what you have to say, and I appreciate your passion for honesty and your value for life. I'm a bit worried that you may be grouping me and others under a pre-conceived image, despite the fact you don't really know the vast majority of what I am about and probably what most others on commenting on here are about. I'm worried about this because whatever you and I may have to offer to help change the state of things in humanity, will not be fully heard and benefited from.

[nVei06]

No my simple friend. You have incorrect assumptions. What is Life? that's a question. we have a discrepancy. You assumed something and misconstrued something. Language is very difficult. You claim i do not know the vast majority of what you';re about. I do not agree, i think i do know the vast majority of what you are. There will be proof. You cap it off with a false statement that my preconceptions if you are the problem. Grow up you simpleton liar. You filthy dog.

[nVei06]

The socialist state doesn't value the individual, it values propaganda, it value only it's self and it's agenda. They define truth. All values is the state collective. Even on paper that's bad, in reality, it's worse. that's who's calling the shots. you my friend a servant of their evil machinations. i do not value your life. You do not value mine.

[nVei06]

I have a concerned that people will breed out brain dead people like you. who define evil as those who oppose the socialist state. I'm not concerned for your well being. i'm concerned for the honest man. Not for you. I do not value your life.

[nVei06]

this guys is absurd, but what's more absurd is that level of idiocy of you people.

[FrancescoTenore]

nVei06 perhaps you are concerned for people's well being and you don't want others falling into believing misinformation that causes them confusion and pain? Are you concerned that immediate basic needs for people like food and water are not being met, and perhaps you are not sure if this kind of work can meet those basic needs?

[nVei06]

yes, you understood that i did have those concerns. this guy had to teach you that? outrageous.

[FrancescoTenore]

i see thanks for clarifying that for me. if you have any ideas in addressing these issues, I'd love to hear about them, as you seem to really care about them. What upsets you most about misinformation and even basic human needs not being met? What do you think we can do?

[nVei06]

it's NOT about basic human needs not being met. You said that, not me. That is a problem. It's about allow injustice to thrive. The word justice is a subjective matter to the socialists. That is a problem for people whom would appreciate true justice. Do you see the problem?

[nVei06]

you guys are amazingly stupid. it's very troubling. he's taking myths and dogma and you people accept it. No one ever 'benefited' from taking from someone else? well good, so don't do it, you leeches. how bout give instead of take. this guys idea of work is a bit funny. his work doesn't feed anyone but someone pays him to do it. I wonder who? who has the money to pay this guy?

[nVei06]

you guys should all be considered to be certified idiots. he's not talking about anything intelligent or profound. he's not offering anything useful. he doesn't address how solve problems. he's getting you idiots to subscribe to socialism, that's all he's doing. We should discuss things? oh wow, that's novel. Did he think of this wonderful solution? according to you people, he did. i've never seen such evil (this guy is evil, i'm sure he practice strange voodoo.) and you people are stupid. wow.

[no1demic]

How much better a world we could be living in...Amazing!

[totallyfrozen]

Unfortunately, until the entire world embraces and uses this great idea, the aggressive people will take advantage of and destroy the nonviolent people. Rosenberg doesn't take into account the selfish, prideful nature of all humans. This idea may work in a loving relationship, but it's not possible to change the world with this because the whole world will NOT follow this path--it's against the nature of humans. There will always be someone who wants to rule and will kill to do so.

[rspawn]

Nonviolent communication is a way to turn violent communicators into nonviolent communicators.

There will probably always be sociopaths, but most people respond very well to compassion and empathy.

[totallyfrozen]

That "label" might be convenient, but I'm not talking about sociopaths. I'm talking about the average person. Everyone is motivated by a payoff in one way or another. A person will do whatever benefits them and makes sense to them. If responding to your compassion makes sense, then they will. If they can get more from taking advantage of you they will. That's not what God wants and it's not what we want; but it's true.

[branded72]

tatallyfrozen - I am in complete agreement with you. The largest problem is Population. It is so much easier to step upon someone's head to stand a little taller when in a crowd. Basically, the more people you get crammed onto a fixed amount of real estate, the less accountable for their actions people become. It's just a fact. Rats in a cage......

[billyjo1881]

THANK YOU MARSHALL...

[drmgiver]

My only criticism with this clip is when he mentioned we have enough food, well unfortunately we will not have enough food for the world if we continue to burn it for oil. Then we will have a crisis that he will most definitely acknowledge.

[amazeblaze]

Well from what my nonviolent teacher said to to my class, there is enough food. The thing is that the workers in the fields get like ten percent of what they make. The landlord then sells the 90 percent to supermarkets in the industrial nations. I believe what the nonviolent people cause they're really honest joes. Also they are the ones talking to real people instead of looking at numbers and graph charts.

[amazeblaze]

Oops what the nonviolent people say

[BobGnarly8]

this is so amazing. i suggest every1 start from the first video (part 1). I feel enlightened

[Finlad]

This video is great I use these methods and ideas to connect with Aliens and UFOs. I know that you're watching me! You guys!

[caverly]

Marshall's perspective of being aware of my joy in helping others and this meaningful purpose inrichs my life beautifully. his gentle and loving way have transformed my life wonderfully and his communication insights and techniques let me love others so much better. i love you Marshall for the contributions you've given me and many others....

[BytomGirl]

caverly, I feel the same way, his workshop helped me love poeple and myself in the process, to be sensitive to their needs,

feel empathy and feel joy when I do something nice for somebody. Thanks to him I never react with anger and try to understand those who don't treat me right, try to understand why they act the way they do and show them unconditional love.

[paulagloria]

Thank you for posting this video. I use this technique to connect with the CIA! I know they are spying on me and I always hope I can take advantage of the situtation by being aware of what needs of theirs I could possibly help meet

[kozan00zenji]

Yeah. You got the point.