Wow...i am speechless. Correct me if I am wrong, did you say that your own father works as a preacher?! If he is, what kind of man he is since an incest is illegal and sin I think that's what the Bible said. How come is that he never admitted at psychatric ward? HE SHOULD!!
yes, you were molested. you felt violated. your boundaries weren't respected and you knew your father wasn't looking at you platonically. consequently you experienced psychological and emotional trauma. if you didn't tell the social worker and later on went away to a deaf school out of state, it would have gotten much worse. it was a matter of time. he damaged you big time. if your family doesn't believe you, that's damaging, too. you need to be believed in order to heal.
@mishkazena That make sense, that is what hurting me the most, my own family doesn't believe me. Actually, my mother does. She just chosen to look the other way, that hurts even more. At least, now I am truly healing. :)
@mishkazena That make sense, that is what hurting me the most, my own family doesn't believe me. Actually, my mother does. She just chosen to look the other way, that hurts even more. At least, now I am truly healing. :)
My late father used to abuse me with my physical all my life due to communication abuse cuz he did not learn ASL and how to communicate with me during my childhood. That brings me a painful of memory on my childhood!
Dolly, I just woke up recent and got a dreaming before I woke up... In my dreaming my late father said to me, "You are getting out of my house right now!" His facial expression was shown angry when he walked and passed by me here, we wore nice dress. Then I woke up and know that my late father is not here... He can't control my life period! That way he was used to say to me "Get out of my house" many times before he died!
THANK YOU for making this vlog because there are many deaf female (and some male as well) teenagers who are confused about what are the really appropriate behavior between fathers & daughters (& sons in some cases). You are one very brave woman to speak out about this sensitive topic. Kudos to you! Hugs!
@mewznpurrz Thank you. I sometimes wish I have someone like me when I was teen. But everything happens for a reason. Thank you for your support. hugs.
After I watch your powerful vlog I became speechless. Your father used to be my good friend for many years I always thought he is wonderful father and husband but I was wrong. Right now, I felt discomfort to be friend with him anymore. Long time ago, my two friends warned me about your father I disbelieved them but I realized they did tell me the truth. Wow! I am deep sorry to see you in suffer. My prayer must be with you!
@PACKERSAS Ah yes. I know he seems like a wonderful guy. I am really sorry for those who is friend with him. It is fine if he is true to himself in both public and private. But he is so wonderful in public and horrible in private. But thank you.
Your vlog really shocked me... you could have better than what you already went all things which is not supposed to be....It will turn around to hit him bad in last part that he asked for it.
Dolly, be strong and be standing up and tell everybody who you are...
¡Que fuerte! Bueno, espero que ese video-blog te desahogas y ya verás cual es tu camino correcto, eso es lo más importante lo que ves claro e implicado en tus derechos. Estoy de acuerdo con el Sr. Carl sin embargo, hay que pensar bien y medir las consecuencias que puedan ser viables para tu vida. Siga con ánimo y lo más importante es pensar en ti misma, no de los demás. Un saludo desde España.
I must agree with Carl for report your father to the cop. No matter what happen. Your vlog is powerful. You make me tear also make me mad more. I understand what your emotion damage.
he was grooming you, slowly testing and violating your boundaries. the people who told you 'you are pretty and thin' *shaking my head* what on earth were they thinking?
this must have taken a lot of courage for you to open up. for that, i applaud you. you did the right thing. chances are high he'll do that to another girl. i am sorry this happened to you xoxo
@mishkazena I never really look at this way that he was grooming me and all that. Now that I look at this way, you are right. I often ask myself, Is this still consider as molesting? Or attempted to molest?
And yes, it took a lot of courage and strength to do this. I am glad I did this. No regret. xoxo
"Oh you're thin and pretty" This blew my mind. This phrase I will never look at this way again. Powerful vlog. Thank you for sharing. Our voice needs to be heard.
@mkrajnak This is why I became very insecure about my looks. Now I am loving myself, inside and outside. I only wish my mother never have a mind like this, to tell me that her daughter is thin and beautiful, and that is why her husband is "attracted" to her. How would a mother do this to a child? I cannot do this to my girls.
Dolly, you re not only one that went thru...I went thru almost the same, what I do is fighting with people, and feel hated in my teen years. I feel you dear....Gladly you opened up your feelings and help other teenagers. You re so brave, and smart...That is what I love about you. I love you and here s my hugs. You re not alone in this world with same experiences as me. OXOXO mom
Wow...i am speechless. Correct me if I am wrong, did you say that your own father works as a preacher?! If he is, what kind of man he is since an incest is illegal and sin I think that's what the Bible said. How come is that he never admitted at psychatric ward? HE SHOULD!!
DeafGothic28 1 month ago
@DeafGothic28 Yes. But I have no idea if he is still preaching, last I heard, he was still teaching the bible classes.
d0llym0rr0w 1 week ago
yes, you were molested. you felt violated. your boundaries weren't respected and you knew your father wasn't looking at you platonically. consequently you experienced psychological and emotional trauma. if you didn't tell the social worker and later on went away to a deaf school out of state, it would have gotten much worse. it was a matter of time. he damaged you big time. if your family doesn't believe you, that's damaging, too. you need to be believed in order to heal.
mishkazena 1 month ago
@mishkazena That make sense, that is what hurting me the most, my own family doesn't believe me. Actually, my mother does. She just chosen to look the other way, that hurts even more. At least, now I am truly healing. :)
d0llym0rr0w 1 week ago
@mishkazena That make sense, that is what hurting me the most, my own family doesn't believe me. Actually, my mother does. She just chosen to look the other way, that hurts even more. At least, now I am truly healing. :)
d0llym0rr0w 1 week ago
Yes, your hometown police.
cns2cns2 1 month ago
Thank you all for the comments. I do feel very overwhelm with love and support. Thank you all very much. Much love to you all.
thelaughingmooon 1 month ago
Dolly, sorry to know, but glad that u did has spoke, dont let to keep u quiet too longer..real Bravo..
NativeWarrior76 1 month ago
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deafnewspaper 1 month ago 4
@deafnewspaper :)
thelaughingmooon 1 month ago
My late father used to abuse me with my physical all my life due to communication abuse cuz he did not learn ASL and how to communicate with me during my childhood. That brings me a painful of memory on my childhood!
LChaim2007 1 month ago in playlist Liked videos
Dolly, I just woke up recent and got a dreaming before I woke up... In my dreaming my late father said to me, "You are getting out of my house right now!" His facial expression was shown angry when he walked and passed by me here, we wore nice dress. Then I woke up and know that my late father is not here... He can't control my life period! That way he was used to say to me "Get out of my house" many times before he died!
LChaim2007 1 month ago in playlist Liked videos
THANK YOU for making this vlog because there are many deaf female (and some male as well) teenagers who are confused about what are the really appropriate behavior between fathers & daughters (& sons in some cases). You are one very brave woman to speak out about this sensitive topic. Kudos to you! Hugs!
mewznpurrz 1 month ago
@mewznpurrz Thank you. I sometimes wish I have someone like me when I was teen. But everything happens for a reason. Thank you for your support. hugs.
thelaughingmooon 1 month ago
After I watch your powerful vlog I became speechless. Your father used to be my good friend for many years I always thought he is wonderful father and husband but I was wrong. Right now, I felt discomfort to be friend with him anymore. Long time ago, my two friends warned me about your father I disbelieved them but I realized they did tell me the truth. Wow! I am deep sorry to see you in suffer. My prayer must be with you!
PACKERSAS 1 month ago
@PACKERSAS Ah yes. I know he seems like a wonderful guy. I am really sorry for those who is friend with him. It is fine if he is true to himself in both public and private. But he is so wonderful in public and horrible in private. But thank you.
thelaughingmooon 1 month ago
your message is powerful!! I am sure your message is helping many teenagers. You brave!
DEAFWOMYNPRIDE 1 month ago
Your vlog really shocked me... you could have better than what you already went all things which is not supposed to be....It will turn around to hit him bad in last part that he asked for it.
Dolly, be strong and be standing up and tell everybody who you are...
Lacksb 1 month ago
¡Que fuerte! Bueno, espero que ese video-blog te desahogas y ya verás cual es tu camino correcto, eso es lo más importante lo que ves claro e implicado en tus derechos. Estoy de acuerdo con el Sr. Carl sin embargo, hay que pensar bien y medir las consecuencias que puedan ser viables para tu vida. Siga con ánimo y lo más importante es pensar en ti misma, no de los demás. Un saludo desde España.
EugenioRavelo 1 month ago
I must agree with Carl for report your father to the cop. No matter what happen. Your vlog is powerful. You make me tear also make me mad more. I understand what your emotion damage.
LeafsFanForever1974 1 month ago
It is never too late to report your father to the police. Carl
cns2cns2 1 month ago
@cns2cns2 I seconded Carl's comment.
mkrajnak 1 month ago 2
@cns2cns2 Just call the police station in Florida?
thelaughingmooon 1 month ago
My dear, You are in my heart. That message is very strong. Oh my dear, you are still beautiful. I hope that your dad got this message.
My2BlackPearls 1 month ago
@My2BlackPearls I told him many times thru email and vp. He don't seem to really cope with it. I don't know if this will. Thank you. Hugs.
thelaughingmooon 1 month ago
he was grooming you, slowly testing and violating your boundaries. the people who told you 'you are pretty and thin' *shaking my head* what on earth were they thinking?
this must have taken a lot of courage for you to open up. for that, i applaud you. you did the right thing. chances are high he'll do that to another girl. i am sorry this happened to you xoxo
mishkazena 1 month ago
@mishkazena I never really look at this way that he was grooming me and all that. Now that I look at this way, you are right. I often ask myself, Is this still consider as molesting? Or attempted to molest?
And yes, it took a lot of courage and strength to do this. I am glad I did this. No regret. xoxo
thelaughingmooon 1 month ago
"Oh you're thin and pretty" This blew my mind. This phrase I will never look at this way again. Powerful vlog. Thank you for sharing. Our voice needs to be heard.
mkrajnak 1 month ago
@mkrajnak This is why I became very insecure about my looks. Now I am loving myself, inside and outside. I only wish my mother never have a mind like this, to tell me that her daughter is thin and beautiful, and that is why her husband is "attracted" to her. How would a mother do this to a child? I cannot do this to my girls.
thelaughingmooon 1 month ago
Dolly, you re not only one that went thru...I went thru almost the same, what I do is fighting with people, and feel hated in my teen years. I feel you dear....Gladly you opened up your feelings and help other teenagers. You re so brave, and smart...That is what I love about you. I love you and here s my hugs. You re not alone in this world with same experiences as me. OXOXO mom
ykstopaim 1 month ago
@ykstopaim Mom, thank you very much. <3 Are you fully healed from it? And glad to know I am not alone in this. :)
thelaughingmooon 1 month ago
@thelaughingmooon hey girl am I fully healed from it? I guess not...and will never heal at all. It is big scar in me from too many people. Smile XO
Miapotsky 1 month ago
You are VERY BRAVE WOMAN!!!
KenX50 1 month ago
You are a HERO!
kyungdon21 1 month ago
Wow! Your story makes me sad and break my heart!!! I pray for you to get healing from wounds where you go through.
LChaim2007 1 month ago
Oh fuck. That's awful. You are a survivor, a brave and strong one. By coming out in public, you stopped being a victim. ~hugs~
ellisusa 1 month ago 3