Men Fall Out Of Love 46 Months After Meeting A Woman

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@weatherbellygirl

Thanks for your insightful questions.

If a man only feels affection, a man can still want to have sex with her. Men want to have sex because of the sexual pleasure they feel, which is a different positive mental effect than love or affection. Love is triggered when a man in love concludes that is woman is happy. Affection is triggered by the sight or sound of a familiar person. Sexual pleasure is triggered by the sight of a woman or having sex.

[weatherbellygirl]

due to circumstance and then later they are reunited will his feelings kind of be frozen in place at the point that they were separated if it was before the four year mark?

[weatherbellygirl]

And one more thing... If a man falls in love with a woman and then is separated from her d

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@weatherbellygirl

I do not think that a man's love is paused if he is separated from the woman he loves before the four year mark. I believe the clock keeps ticking and his love expires after four years even if he is separated.

[weatherbellygirl]

I want to ask something else as well. Who is more likely to forgive their partner for infidelity, a man or a woman? Also does a woman feel affection for man as well? Because I am involved with a guy who I have been with for two years and I have been friends with on and off since I was thirteen. I feel very strongly for him and he for me.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@weatherbellygirl

Women are more likely to forgive a man for infidelity. Only men in love feel jealousy.

Yes, women feel affection for men. The longer you have known someone, the stronger the affection they trigger in you. The guy you have known since you were 13 will trigger strong affection in you - almost as much as your family does.

Regarding high social status, I think that if you met Brad Pitt, he would trigger much stronger infatuation than previous relationships.

[ayviamelody]

@TheChaosPokemaster why are u so offended? saying "men" is just a word. No one said they were bad men just because they aren't in love. being in love is a feeling which is neither right or wrong and men as well as women need to accept that and not pretend. and of course every guy is going to say they're different and not like all other men lol

[ayviamelody]

@TheChaosPokemaster thats only 6 months.he's talking about after a couple of years it will change. and how is it sticking up for women?That actually sucks for women cuz women are more emotional and they want love.It's just simple fact for everyone. So on both sides, men need to stop pretending to love just so they can get what they want, and women need to realize they can't give men what they want just for love and they need to accept its only their presence that keeps the guy there after years

[ayviamelody]

AnotherMarkDevon is a right!!! :) Being in love and affection are different!

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@ayviamelody

Thank you ayviamelody for the support.

[ayviamelody]

@TheChaosPokemaster Not that different. In behavior all hetero men are very SIMILAR to other hetero men in what they want, think, and handle things. Fact is, love is temporary and people need to learn to accept that and stop trying to act like they're all good and perfect and will always feel and do exactly the same thing they did to a woman in the beginning of dating them. Lots of men are all talk but their actions show different & the truth. Same in some women whenever they fall out of love.

[C0LL1N]

I don't even know how to respond to this.

[mysteriousbabykitten]

this is exactly what i needed to hear. me and my husband have been talking about splitting up because he didnt think he loved me anymore. he said he still cared about me but he didnt know if there was any love anymore. i had him listen to this and he said that was how he was feeling. hopefully this will help us stay together.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@mysteriousbabykitten

As it appears you have realized, men will not end up being happier if they leave a woman they no longer love.

If a man leaves and falls in love with a new woman, he will end in the same situation in 4 years.

He will be with a woman he no longer loves who only triggers moderate affection after 4 years.

If he had stayed with the previous woman, she would trigger stronger affection because she would have been with him for 8 or more years.

[fredric1984]

I wonder what a similar analysis would reveal in a homosexual relationship; either male-male or female-female.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@fredric1984

When a hetero couple "falls in love", men feel love until month 46 and women feel infatuation until month 8.

Consequently, a childless hetero couple faces a 38 month gap when the man is happy and the woman is not.

By comparison, two men or two women "falling in love" do not face a 38 month gap.

Two men both feel love until month 46.

Two women both feel infatuation until month 8.

All couples continue to feel the weaker emotion of affection when love and infatuation stops.

[Serina769]

Why are there so many men falling in love with women who are older and can't have children then? A child takes more genetic material from the mother than the father. Men don't have babies, women do and most women seem to focus more on the child rather than the man which probably causes him to throw his dummy out and look for attention elsewhere. Woman fall in love for a couple of years then it changes to affection when the children arrive. Your ideas are old fashioned

[7702hydra]

not true i fell in love with a girl ive known since like 4 years ago and a relationship started not so long ago so i dont belive in u and im a male ok

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@7702hydra

If you did not spend significant time with her 4 years ago, she could effectively be a stranger to you.

In which case, you could fall in love with her 4 years after meeting her.

If you did spend significant time with her during the last 4 years, then she will trigger moderately strong affection in you.

Affection is weaker than love and triggered differently.

Affection is just triggered by someone's presence. Love is triggered by someone's happiness.

[jwardmagic07]

What about women falling out of love? Could you make a video for that? I think this is very much true, as much as I'd like to not believe it...a lot of this is purely based on physiological triggers. Very strong ones none the less.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@jwardmagic07

Yes, I will probably make a video about women falling out of love.

Until then, you can read about it in chapter 13 of The Origin of Emotions, which you can download for free.

Women feel infatuation for men, not love.

While men feel love when a woman is happy, women feel infatuation when they attract a man's attention.

Women stop feeling Infatuation for any one man or "fall out of love" after 8 months.

Since men fall out of love after 46 months, this leaves a 38 month gap.

[laketrash1987]

i dont believe in this at all. I still believe in real love. Call me old fashioned but this is far from the truth.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@laketrash1987

The truth is that is 50% of marriages end in divorce and divorce peaks 4 years after marriage.

[DavinaFaerie]

@AnotherMarkDevon That's definitely true. I did my research & you are 100% spot on.

People: Rather then having a close minded view & only wanting to know what you want to know,how about you take this information & work it to your advantage?

I wasn't 100% sure about this at first either, but now Iam fully aware & Iam thankful.

The question I have for the author is: How do we have our male partner stay in love?

If you can tell us this then you must know how we can prolong the love right?Thx:0)

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@DavinaFaerie

After men fall out of love at month 46, they still feel affection.

Making affection stronger is the easiest way to "prolong the love".

The more interaction you have someone, particularly face-to-face contact with eye contact and conversation, the stronger the affection you trigger in them.

Eating meals together facing each other is an easy to build the interaction that makes affection stronger.

[Kyjo34]

We fall for looks and attention and then when that wears off we are too comfortable and lazy to look for someone else. We get real lazy and I am sure love would have to knock at most of our doors before we got off the couch ha ha. Once you get older and wiser you realize that all relationships are hard to maintain and it is better to keep what you got and work at it.

[thatxxanaxxchick]

This video makes me very upset and disappointed... I have been in a very complicated dilemma the past few days about whether or not to pursue a long distance relationship and based on my past history with men i thought i couldnt do it but then i said what the hell, love doesnt come around everyday (even though i have a fear of getting hurt) ... this video just makes me want to be alone for the rest of my life...

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@thatxxanaxxchick

It was not my intention to cause upset or disappointment - I apologize.

My intention was to help people who believe that love lasts forever avoid disappointment.

If a man knows that love stops after 46 months, for example, he won't think the woman is the problem.

He will realize that he moves to a new woman, he will end in the same situation 46 months later.

He will therefore be more inclined to stay with the woman who triggers strong affection in him.

[TheCRBrown]

@lilboricua2531 Exacty! Cyber high-five?

[imissmymarine]

i think that your talking about yourself! ive known my husband for 10 yrs and we fell in love!!!! he still is in love with me!

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@imissmymarine

I am sure that you and your husband feel strong postive emotions when you see each other - particularly after being together for 10 years.

And that emotion, affection, will grow stronger the longer you've known each other.

The video only points out that love, a much stronger positive emotion, stops in men after they've known a woman for 46 months.

I expect your husband would agree that the fireworks he felt when he first met you have now turned to glowing embers.

[imissmymarine]

@AnotherMarkDevon I actually showed my husband this aswell as his battle buddies and they all found that this is all bull..... they have all said they still love there wives and we all have been together longer then 46 months.... when you show me scientific proof then i might believe you.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@imissmymarine

Thanks for for sharing the video with your Marine.

The best proof that love does not last forever is the 50% divorce rate.

The best proof that men fall out of love after 46 months is the fact that divorce peaks 4 years after marriage.

Please remember that men continue to feel the moderately strong emotion of affection after 46 months, which most people think is love.

While love is triggered by someone's happiness, affection is just triggered by someone's presence.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@lilboricua2531

Men will always been interested in sex with a new woman if they find her attractive.

When men fall in love, they are socially monogamous, not sexually monogamous.

While a man is in love, he wants to make the woman he loves happy or avoid making her unhappy.

Consequently, men in love are more reluctant to cheat to because it might make the woman they love unhappy.

However, if they believe they can cheat without being the woman love knowing, they will.

[DavinaFaerie]

How do you know this is accurate?

I know it's in a book, but is there scientific research for this?

Thanks. :0)

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@DavinaFaerie

The 46 month claim is a logical assertion based on evolutionary principles.

Explaining the assertion are the fact that 9 months are required for gestation, 33 months are required for children's first set of teeth to erupt and 4 months are required for a woman to become visibly pregnant.

Supporting the assertion is the fact that the peak year for divorce is 4 years after marriage.

Nobody has done fMRI scans, for instance, to measure the mental change when love stops.

[1misanthropist]

Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love. But I've never seen a person who was BOTH rational AND in a relationship/ in love.

[lilsweeti13]

ok ok woh, so its only going to be love if it ensure the female surrounding family members survival. because a man WILL Not fall in love with a woman that conflicts with surrounding womans desires.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@lilsweeti13

Guys go back their exes because they feel loneliness which is stopped by feeling affection.

And exes trigger strong affection because guys spent so much time with them.

Guys do not feel the very strong emotion of love when they return to exes.

Guys only begin to feel those fireworks when they meet a new woman and date her 4 months.

[lilsweeti13]

herse my issue, after having had experience with a lot of different people, I still have no concept of what type of person I actually am, all I know is I could be a combination of a lot of diferent peoples type. I know for fact people angry for different reasons, but all you can know is if the interaction is positive.

[MCsuperChristina]

Don't you think this is a little deterministic?

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@MCsuperChristina

This is no less deterministic than 9 months of gestation.

[djkissbird]

Men just want SEX thats why!

[MrBigtube17]

i thought was about connections. the one that makes ur heart go bop bop,,,,,

[ayviamelody]

I'm a woman and this is so TRUE! xD men that say its not really don't know what being in love is that's why. They just think they're in love or want to say they are so they can just look good with their ego. Love is different from affection!! pay attention people.. he didn't say the guy would be unhappy or divorce after 46 months, but he said it's not love they're feeling when they start getting lazy to do nice things, its affection knowing she's there with him physically. 

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@ayviamelody

Thanks for the support!

[aonutube]

Am I the only one who is still in love with a woman after 10 years?

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@aonutube

After 10 years, you will feel affection, not love.

Affection is triggered by the sight or sound of a familiar person. The love that men feel is triggered by the conclusion "my woman is happy".

Love motivates you to make someone happy. Affection just motivates you to be with them.

Love is a much stronger positive mental effect than affection.

Affection grows stronger the longer you've known someone. So it feels quite strong after 10 years, however it is still weaker than love.

[666jimmysmusicgirl]

Anyone ever heart of a Takotsubo cardiomyopathy??

[EpicDisaster153]

im sorry but this video is not rightyou cant speak for ever guy when u dnt know every guy few odd ones in world but not all fall out what evidance is there to support every man

[fayesd1]

thank you so much, i stumbled across this and it has made me see things in such a better light

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@fayesd1

Thank you for the positive feedback!

[animalliberation0961]

Makes sense to me. Problem is, Jennifer is a butter face, and Angelina is slutty and has great blow job lips.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@animalliberation0961

Jennifer Anniston and Angelina Jolie both triggered visual sexual pleasure in Brad Pitt.

He fell in love with Angelina because he spent at least 40 hours a week with Angelina while filming Mr & Mrs Smith.

He would have fallen in love with Jennifer if had spent 40 hours a week with her filming a movie.

Actors often fall in love with their co-stars, but only the first movie they film together.

Their co-stars are not strangers when they film their second movie.

[animalliberation0961]

I like strange, too.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@animalliberation0961

Strange or novel women trigger stronger visual sexual pleasure in a man than familiar women.

That's why blondes were preferred for many decades - most women were brunettes, so blondes were less familiar or more novel.

This has changed since so many women die their hair blonde.

Now redheads are the most novel or strange.

Men prefer novel or strange women because they are new genetic material to mate with, which increases the genetic diversity of a man's offspring.

[ericau2000]

stop bitchin , you cant stop genetics

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@ericau2000

Thanks for the support!

[xevanescencex4evax]

i hate men! never will i go there again

[animalliberation0961]

@xevanescencex4evax

Oh, hahaha, sister! I feel ya! I like c*cks...But men are such a needy, skeezy bore.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@xevanescencex4evax

You might hate men, but biology will force you to them.

You cannot ignore the strong emotion of infatuation, which you feel whenever you conclude that a man is attracted to you.

And the higher a man's rank, the stronger the infatuation you feel.

Just a glance from a high-ranking man will trigger strong infatuation in you.

You are here today because your ancestors could not ignore the effect of infatuation.

Ancestors that could ignore infatuation did not reproduce.

[xevanescencex4evax]

@AnotherMarkDevon

What if I'm numb from feeling much sense of emotion towards them because of what they've put me through.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@xevanescencex4evax

You will be numb for a while - particularly if you have felt the emotion of heartbreak - which is triggered in women who feel infatuation for a guy who courts another woman.

However, your numbness will eventually fade and you be able to feel the positive emotion of infatuation again.

It may take a while for the right guy to come along who can rebuild your trust, but he will.

[xevanescencex4evax]

@AnotherMarkDevon yeah i guess i'll learn from mistakes but will trust again just be aware

[Realisticmale]

Cry if you must...but this man is 100% correct.I see the majority of responses are from women who are threatened by the thought their partner may subscribe to this rational. They should be. They do.

Ladies, it doesnt mean he will leave you. it just means love fades. Companionship takes its place. How can all of you not know this?

Ladies, get on with things..you are nesters, speaking generally.

Men are geared differently. Love/sex and "new relationship energy, or NRE as its called is a fact

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@Realisticmale

Thanks for the support!

[MsLifeandsoul]

What a load of crap, I wonder where he gets this information from! There are no rules or regulations about how relationships work, everyone is different and everyone has a different way of dealing with certain things. One thing is for sure though, persistence and good communications seem to be the key factors in any sucessful relationship...

[VictorSobakus]

@MsLifeandsoul oh lol, there are no rules to relationships? are you completely out of your mind? try cheating on 10 people in a row. or showing your dick to 10 persons you've known for a long time. see if you figure out the rules yourself.

[MsLifeandsoul]

@VictorSobakus You completely misunderstood my meaning. I'm talking about healthy relationship, what you are talking about is an imbacile who can't keep it in his pants. One rule comes to mind in that particular setting.....don't walk from that kind of relatinship...run...

[VictorSobakus]

@MsLifeandsoul I'm not talking about keeping it in your pants, what I'm talking about is that there are strict rules about any relationship, and if the only rule you can see is the one that says that cheating on a person will lead to a break-up, that doesn't mean it's the only one. Another one says you have to court someone in special ways to get married, you can't approach a random person, give them a bucket of water and instantly get married lol. You're retarded for saying there are no rules.

[pishob]

love is like ocean

if you love because butifulity >>>> love goes when beautifulity goes

this is owning love which is self love or need to gain

women love because she looks for wizard who can makes every thing she dream about come true>>> love goes when she improves to herself other wise .

so >>>>> real love is unconditional love >>>> giving love >>>

>>>> trusty love >>> forgiving love >>>>> unlimited love >>>> unsened love >>>> un regratable love >>> a life love >>> GOD LOVE THE CREATOR

[Bee11x]

...so you're saying men can only fall in love with women with an hourglass figure? this is absolute bullshit.

my parents have been married for 30 years and are absolutely still in love. they've even renewed their vows.

i agree a lot of marriages end in divorce but i believe this isn't because they've fallen out of love, it's because they were never truely in love in the first place. i'm a very strong believer in "if you're not in love now you never were". it takes a while to find your soulmate

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@Bee11x

This video asserts that men stop feeling the very strong emotion of love 46 months after they meet a woman.

After 46 months, men continue to feel the weaker emotion of affection, which is what people are referring to when they are still in love after being together for many years, like your parents.

Love is triggered another person's happiness. Affection is just triggered by another person's presence.

While love stops, affection grows stronger the longer you have known someone.

[0emmma]

i swear you worng! my sister and her mate have bwwn married for 7 year with two kids dated for 5 years so who got it worng you did..

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@0emmma

The video only asserts that men stop feeling the very strong emotion of love 46 months after meeting a woman.

The video does not assert that men automatically leave a woman after 46 months.

Roughly half of marriages do not end in divorce, for example.

The video does assert that men who fall in love are less motivated to make their woman happy 46 months after meeting her.

At month 46, your sister's mate would have gone from being crazy about your sister to just being happy with her.

[666jimmysmusicgirl]

Actually. I believe you're talking about 'sex-drive'... not Love. Some people mistake the two because 'sex-drive' can often feel like falling in love but...

Love has been prooved by fascinated scientists recently that- in actual fact- love is actually an insanity some people have in their brain much like a phobia or a disability such as autism or schizophrenia, apart from it is much more common. There is no treatment and it is perfectly normal but no-one can ever possibly stop having it.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@666jimmysmusicgirl

In my book "The Origin of Emotions", I describe three positive emotions or sensations that women trigger in men: love, affection and sexual pleasure.

Love is triggered by the conclusion "my woman is happy".

Affection is triggered by the sight or sound of anybody familiar.

Visual/audible sexual pleasure is triggered by features that separate women from men, such as protruding breasts. Penile pleasure is triggered by sex.

This video focuses on love, not sexual pleasure.

[666jimmysmusicgirl]

@AnotherMarkDevon But, you see the thing with that is... I never said anything about sexual pleasure I said 'sex drive' which is completly different and is what makes young teenagers 'fall in love' when they are begining to feel the emotions adults feel towards each other.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@666jimmysmusicgirl

I thought sex drive refers to the drive to feel the positive sensation of sexual pleasure.

I agree that the drive to feel sexual pleasure motivates everyone, but particularly males, to want to spend time the opposite sex.

And I agree that this drive is strongest in young teenagers.

However, I don't think this strong presence of this drive means that young teenage males don't fall in love.

[666jimmysmusicgirl]

@AnotherMarkDevon I wasn't the one saying they don't!! They can, I know one who has!! Make your mind up!!

[986401]

what hes saying actually makes sense. everything stems back to survival which is why we still exist beyond caveman days. why do most men like a woman with a perfect body? without really thinking about it, its probably because it shows them that she has good genetics and would produce healthy children. also a rich man, to a woman, shows that the man would be a great provider for the children. i didnt exist back in caveman days but im sure women found the best hunter to be most attractive.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@Beamster420

The data that supports the assertion that men fall out of love 46 months after meeting a woman is divorce data which shows that divorce peaks 4 years after marriage.

Please bear in mind that I do assert that men do continue to feel the weaker emotion of affection after 46 months.

The 33 month age for the complete eruption of a child's first set of teeth comes from the American Dental Association.

[wirlwirlwirl]

@AnotherMarkDevon Surely it cannot be so generic, I mean I won't just debump your argument maybe I would feel much stronger emotion to someone I met recently if I were to fall in love with her, I do believe science is in everything I mean if it wasn't then you must believe in something supernatural such as fate but you still cannot generalise a whole gender just like that

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@wirlwirlwirl

Gestation is 9 months long for virtually all women. The first set of teeth completely erupt by 33 months for virtually all children.

Wouldn't you expect the parental emotions which support the process of gestation and teeth eruption to also have a duration that is the same for virtually all parents?

If you this makes sense to you, then the question becomes what is that universal duration.

I assert that men love for 9+33=42 months. Add 4 months to fall in love = 46 months.

[wirlwirlwirl]

So there must be something wrong with me since I have fallen in love with a person who has been my friend for the last 6 years

[Zadeass]

@wirlwirlwirl yep LOL

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@wirlwirlwirl

Someone you have known for many months does trigger the positive emotion of affection when you see or hear them.

However, you will only start feeling the much stronger emotion of love for someone who you met less than 5 months ago.

[373682kid]

i fell in love with this girl when i was 13, first laid eyes on her, im 17 and that love has now been stronger than ever

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@373682kid

Men can't fall in love until they reach puberty.

Assuming you had reached puberty by age 13 and you did fall in love with her about 4 years ago, then you would be just about to fall out of love with her when you are 17.

[morrismagic08]

A pebble is but a stone but two make a rock. Remember that!

[xantoniax2006]

haha, I think this is humour?

oh please god ...

[isergioman]

que????



[annamerialopedo]

so your saying to fall for you and you live in thailand

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@annamerialopedo

I don't understand your question/statement. Why fall for me? And why live in Thailand?

[cyclepod1]

Mine said he starting thinking about our relationship being difficult after 2 years and 2 years later I got dumped. I think there is some truth in this. He has commitment issues too anyway. I had some hope really. Now I accept that most men will break up a relationship for 'minor reasons' so they can go hunting again. I am know thinking of spending my life alone as fed up with their sense of incommitment. They cannot even be commited even if they have kids.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@cyclepod1

You are right not to rely on a man to be with you for life.

However, you are wrong to assume the alternative is to be alone.

You can still cultivate friendships, which are based on the emotion of affection, with men or women.

Affection is triggered by the sight or sound of a familiar person.

And the longer you have known someone, the stronger the affection they trigger in you when you see or hear them.

Affection often keeps couples together after men fall out of love.

[MultiRee123]

There goes my love dream out the windown -.-

[Zoidle]

@MultiRee123  i know right

[ceasormayhem101]

9 minutes of we fuck and leave your ass for someone else who's prettier

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@Barneynaga

When a hetero couple "falls in love", men feel love until month 46 and women feel infatuation until month 8.

Childless hetero couples have a 38 month gap when the man is happy and the women is not.

Two men "falling in love" do not face a 38 month gap. Both men feel love until month 46.

[CassidyEcho]

Okay, and where did you get these facts from? Honestly, this gives us women a lot of hope for our future.....

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@CassidyEcho

The video provides the logic that supports the assertion that men fall out of love after 46 months.

A key fact underlying the 46 month assertion is that children's first set of teeth completely erupt by 33 months age. Add 9 months for pregnancy and 4 months to fall in love equals 46 months.

The video also describes the weaker emotion of affection which does continue after 46 months.

The video also refers to evidence of the 46 month cycle - divorces peak 4 years after marriage.

[CassidyEcho]

@AnotherMarkDevon Yeah, we got that. but where did you get these facts from?

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@CassidyEcho

The facts on age at which a child's first set of teeth fully erupt came from the American Dental Association.

The facts on divorce came from the federal census departments of the US, Canada and New Zealand.

[tacos256]

@AnotherMarkDevon and then you put the pieces together...

[TheCRBrown]

Im guessing the 20 dislikes to this video are mostly by women . . . And to be honest I would agree with them - this theory gives women no hope/security for the future and portrayed as being used by men

I sort of agree with the biological scientific foundation to your theory - but ONLY in relation to animals. Humans have a far deeper level of cognitive ability and need for psychological wellbeing in a relationship - this is something this theory/video PROFOUNDLY underestimates

[bluemalawi]

lol...this will be my second comment on this....honestly guys,there is no use at all getting upset or trying to reason with this "anothermarkdevon" cause he has obviously been misinformed or been let down in the past and if that is so,that i truelly feel sorry for you,dont wish hurt uppon anybody.But I really think that you might need some proffesional help!!

[656annuo]

i like ur theories. but though the evidence u explained to me in the comment section and video makes sense logically they not very convincing due to lack of hard facts. i personally agree with u due to personal experience but as u know anecdotal evidence counts for nothing in science. i would some statistical figures and research in u have any

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@656annuo

I did provide the fact that in countries such as the US, Canada and New Zealand, the divorce rate peaks 4 years after marriage.

[bluemalawi]

@AnotherMarkDevon I think that this is a load of crap.Love is something from the heart and what you are doing here is "boxing" that love .Is this your way to make love more "system-like"and is this your way of making it ok for men to leave woman and children behind.all this gibbarish your speaking is all very much shallow indeed. How is ur love life??? mmm

[TheAquatree]

you seriously think men dont feel love when they see their kids?? Maybe this is true for you , maybe you grew up in a home like this... You sound like someone who has severe emotional problems, You cannot fit every man in one box, stereo types like this are a fallacy.. just because you feel and act this way does not mean that every man does, Human beings are much more complicated and versatile than that.

[cpkcpk32]

LOL!! you actually think you know why brad pitt fell in love with whoever and on what movie set this happened!! get laid.

[irksomesmirksome]

What about love between two women or two men?! *Shakes fist!*

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@irksomesmirksome

When a hetero couple "falls in love", men feel love until month 46 and women feel infatuation until month 8.

Childless couples have a 38 month gap when the man is happy and the women is not.

Two men "falling in love" do not face a 38 month gap. Both men are happy until month 46.

Two women "falling in love" do not face a gap either. Both women stop feeling infatuation at month 8.

All couples continues to feel the weaker emotion of affection after love and infatuation ends.

[irksomesmirksome]

@AnotherMarkDevon I'm sorry but this is not accurate... ....I don't know whether this is accurate for you as the heterosexual man that you are but I've been infatuated with the man I love for three years... ..he still makes me smile from the inside of my heart & out when I see him, I don't have an hourglass figure & never did and I feel his heart race when he holds me near, I know that he still loves me too..

[irksomesmirksome]

@AnotherMarkDevon ...we both genuinely 'like' one another's company & like going out & showing one another off... ...my father told me something very important when I was younger.. ..he said that everyone sees the world through different eyes & feels love through different hearts & should you find the right one? You never fall out of love or feel lonely ever again.. ...I knew my partner for two years before he worked up the courage to ask me out.. We use to talk a lot, we were close.

[irksomesmirksome]

So by your logic because I've known him for three years he'll fall out of love with me around this time next year? Stop wanting to go out with me, stop making me feel completely loved & special and start becoming more open to the idea of seeing another woman with an hourglass figure? ...well if you wanted to crush women the world over- I'd say this is the video to get them to watch..

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@irksomesmirksome

I am not suggesting that men immediately lose all interest in a woman exactly 46 months after meeting her.

I am suggesting that men become gradually less interested in pleasing their women after 46 months.

I realize that this is an unpleasant thought for many people, particularly women.

However, I thought it better to know that the men stop loving women after 46 months than to assume that love is eternal and then be disappointed when you find out it isn't.

[irksomesmirksome]

@AnotherMarkDevon ...true love is eternal for those of us who have experienced it or are experiencing it. Love is not a science. Women will never accept that in order to stay genuinely loved they'll have to bed hop every four or so years. The thought of another man touching her when she's genuinely in love with someone disgusts her as does the though of anyone else touching him- In "46 weeks" or whenever.. ...are you suggesting that women/men should keep this in mind- honestly?

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@irksomesmirksome

Yes, I am "honestly" suggesting that men and women keep in mind that men only feel the fireworks of love towards a particular woman until MONTH 46 of a relationship.

[irksomesmirksome]

@AnotherMarkDevon ...as a woman there's nothing in life that scares or hurts me more than having to believe that what you're saying in this video is true.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@irksomesmirksome

Would it scare or hurt you more to learn that children do not love their mothers?

[irksomesmirksome]

@AnotherMarkDevon There's a flaw in that argument...I'm a child-I love my mother, Sir.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@irksomesmirksome

The positive emotion children feel towards their parents is affection, not love.

Affection is triggered by the sight or sound of a familiar person.

The longer you've known that person, the stronger the affection is.

Parents trigger strong affection in their children since they have spent many years together.

Love is much stronger than affection and triggered differently.

While affection is triggered by someone's presence, love is only triggered by someone's happiness.

[irksomesmirksome]

@AnotherMarkDevon ..I love my Mother, Sir.

[cpkcpk32]

someone's never found love.....

[weatherbellygirl]

Also, you are misguided in the fact that after four years in a relationship a man does not need to do anything to make his mate happy because just seeing her is enough because of his affection for her. Not many marriage's would last if the man did not try to please his woman after four years. I know the divorce rate is high but its not that high yeesh :(

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@weatherbellygirl

I did not mean to state that men do not need to make their mate happy after four years.

I just meant to explain that men stop feeling the fireworks of love after four years and are therefore less motivated to make their mates happy.

Before four years, men want to make their mates happy regardless of what their mate does.

After four years, men will only want to make their mates happy if their mates return the effort.

[weatherbellygirl]

@AnotherMarkDevon You say that if a man is truly in love with his mate, she could, please excuse the language, turn into to the most abusive bitch in the world and he would still desire to please her for the next few years? I would like to meet such a man. I disagree with your statement that men do not need support from their mate. The support they require differs from that of a woman, however, they require it just the same. Not trying to play devils advocate here, these are just my observations

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@weatherbellygirl

I never meant to suggest that the positive mental effect of love that men feel is so strong that they would tolerate "the most abusive bitch in the world". It does make men want to buy women presents, for instance.

When I say men don't need support, I mean they didn't need the support of another person to survive in the distant past. A woman looking after an infant did need the support of the father to survive. Consequently, men love women and women love their children.

[weatherbellygirl]

Also wondering, do you feel women fall in love with their children? I feel I could delve deeply into this discussion. Alas, I am limited by the amount of characters I am allotted on this site. I am afraid you may have not researched this topic from enough angles to be truly able to understand what I have to say. There are many aspects and extenuating circumstances that explain human emotion and behavior. I don't believe evolutionary theory is able encompass them all.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@weatherbellygirl

Yes, I feel that women love their children - but only until a child is 33 months old. After that mothers only feel the weaker emotion of affection when they see or hear their children.

I believe emotions explain most, but not all human behavior. For example, people often feel the emotion of revenge, but do not act on it.

[weatherbellygirl]

Do you believe that fathers love their children as well or just the mothers? The reason I asked you before if you had children was I wanted to know if you had experienced love for a child yourself or just through text. You are incorrect about mothers love. I have three children and I tell you from experience you are incorrect. Facts do not back up your thesis either. It is true that a child's full set of milk teeth are errupted by the time a child is usually three years of age.

[weatherbellygirl]

However, offspring of all species continue to produce the stomach enzyme that is necessary to break down lactose until they begin to lose their milk teeth, in humans around five to seven years of age. In all mammals except humans, mothers nurse their young until this happens. In some species if circumstances are favorable they will continue after this point. I must say that however well spoken, part of your theories are lacking. I recommend more research before claiming expertise my friend.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@weatherbellygirl

No, I do not believe that fathers love their children. Paternal love did not evolve because fathers best support their children indirectly by supporting the mother. Fathers do feel affection when they see or hear their children. And affection grows stronger over time.

[weatherbellygirl]

Are you scientist, where are you coming up with your information? Where did you get your definition for love? Do you believe in G-d, are you spiritual at all? Have you ever been in a relationship? Do you have children? Please answer as I am curious to know. Please do not be insulted, but it sounds like you are getting most of this information from other people and text books as apposed to real life experience.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@weatherbellygirl To answer your questions, I am not a scientist. I came up with my information after studying evolutionary theory at Harvard. I do not believe in God. I am not spiritual at all. I have been in numerous relationships. I have fallen in love with two women. I felt the fireworks of love stop after 46 months in both cases. I do not have children. (I don't why this question is relevant.) I got my information from other people, books and real life experience.

[656annuo]

the ppl who comment saying that love has nothing to do with science are small minded. wat is love but a series of chemical reactions in the brain? love has everything to do with science.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@656annuo

Thanks for the support!

[656annuo]

in ur ebook u say that women cannot fall in love and they only can feel infatuation. can u explain y u say this?

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@656annuo

Love rewards you for making another person happy. It evolved to ensure that children have full-time care from two parents. Maternal love encourages mothers to look after children. Monogynic love encourages men to support mothers. Men don't need support. So women do not love men.

Women do need to make a man fall in love, which is what infatuation does. Women feel infatuation when men enjoy looking at them, which is the behavior that causes men to fall in love.

[Crystalhearts10]

One day, you will fall in love. Not in LUST( wich is what I think you are confused with) but the actual love. Your life will take a whole new direction, and 46 months later, the SAME woman to whom you fall in love with will prove yourself wrong.This will happen but only if you actually consider and believe what I am saying to you now. Otherwise prepare to be alone,maybe not physically but mentally.

P.S.:if all men fall in love for only 46 months how would you explain Gay couples?

-Crystal

[EverythingConsidered]

Sadly, I do believe Mark to be right on the money as evidenced by my own experiences in relationship and witnessing the relationships of others. I get the strong feeling that many mistake the "affection" he points out for "love". Note he did not say that relationships must end when love ends. Whether you care to admit it or not, everything that is part of the natural world is indeed science and love can most definitely be explained in simple, scientific terms.

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@EverythingConsidered

Thank you for helping to clarify that many people mistake affection for love.

Thanks also for pointing out that I do not say that relationships end when love ends.

[izextasy]

Did you ever considered that what you identify as "a love" coming from a man could be just a sex drive? While love is not only a passion, but also intimacy, commitment & much more...

[AnotherMarkDevon]

@izextasy

Yes, I realize that men feel attracted to a woman for sexual pleasure and love.

In fact, my video explains that visual sexual pleasure, that is looking a woman's hourglass figure, is what makes men fall in love with a woman.

Sexual pleasure makes a man want to make himself happy by having sex with a woman.

Love makes a man want to make his woman happy.

That desire to make a woman happy creates the passion or intimacy you refer to.

[TheDudeFrom0Z]

bullshit, im in love with a girl ive known since kindergarden.

[wolfster111]

love cannot be explained

FOOL

[Phrix0s]

Been 7 years man and I still love my girl more than anything in this world.

[GuitarSaver]

I highly doubt love has anything to do with science.. but still, nice video.

[Chis13omLovely]

What the hell love is not science its life and life is not science either

[PTRNovi]

@Chis13omLovely

He makes crazy generalizations and attempts to explain love using evolutionary psychology.

Science is a process by which we discover things, and nothing can not be studied. Love itself is not science it is an emotion but it does follow the laws of nature. Love is a process of our brain and other contributing parts in the body. Human love is not perfect, and our will is not completely free. We are not magic. We are bound by laws.

[VictorSobakus]

@Chis13omLovely You're probably retarded, but I'll try anyway: "science is a systematic enterprise that builds and organizes knowledge in the form of testable explanations and predictions about the universe" ©Wikipedia. In a more accessible to you language this means "science explains life". And if you think that you're some kind of a special miracle and your emotions, behaviour or your favourite colour can't be systematically explained then I'm afraid I'll have to break it to you: you're wrong.

[ladybeanpod]

No no no!! The video is just fine...it was only a buffering issue *blush* Thank you!!!

[ladybeanpod]

This video is fantastic!!! Thank you!! So much!! This video pop on at the best time. Thank youfor this break down...Very well done...But sadly...very sadly...your video stops just before the conclusion @ 7 minutes!! HELP!! please fix it...I am looking forward to the conclusion!