Social Skills

[GetTheHook]

Thanks for sharing your story. This takes a lot of balls.

[jaihu420]

WOW Great video I know where you`r coming from.

Keep up the videos

[electromikey]

I somehow watched all of that even though i didn't plan to, nice video. I like the bit where you say that the bully, the day after being beaten up by you, wanted to be friends with you. I find it so hard to make friends, i guess i should try this tactic (it's one of the few i haven't tried xD

[jessymgm]

it breaks my heart to hear your story, probably because i relate to it, buy hey check Abraham Hicks, great life perspective....

[MrMathieuLucas]

The 3rd experience that formes you has isolated itself and now seak you to come closer to this 3rd thing, but it evoids your reaching out ...

It's time to exept the bully as your equel.

[zowni25]

Its so odd isnt it... I'm Listening to Your video so far im 9 minutes in and from what you say it reminds me exactly of what junior high/middle school was for me 6 years ago was like.. me and my only friend basicly were in our own little world . I think we even gave many of the kids who treated us badly just as much crap as they gave us, even though we didnt even know what was going on.. It hurts flash forwarding eight years ahead knowing now how hard it was cause i couldnt socialize with most

[zowni25]

@zowni25 people and because of that we always were in the mindset that things would be better.. to this day i wondered why i always was so much happier back then i still have no idea why. perhaps it was cause we didnt know how everyone viewed us or cause we didnt know we were exactly that different from others.. still i know at some point ill have to force myself to start talking to others more outward.. I mean i have a group of 10 really close friends but i want to expand to others hopefully

[smo1765]

lol man Im right back in grade school myself

[FleshMob]

And then I deciced to do something about it, becasue I looked skinny, I started going to gym, wokring out. Nothing, maybe 1-2 pounds. I forgot about the whole thing. Then, after moving in other flat, I decided that I was going to sleep less, I forced my self to sleep maximum 10 hours, I really slept less then before. And, I measured my self....I gained 15 pounds. It really struck me, that story of yours, maybe sleep is somehow connected to diet, weight... weird, really weird.

[FleshMob]

It is interesting story that lost 20 pounds over short period of time, while sleeping 12 hours a day. I had a similar experience. I started sleeping 10-12 hours a day when I moved to Belgrade, and I lost about 10 pounds. I continued sleeping that much for about 7-8 months, weight stayed the same.

[spiked415]

In both experiences you physically enforce your will on another person. The reason that the kids wanted to become friends with you is a very primal one.

When confrontation takes place between two wolves, the one that triumphs is the dominant one and the one that submits is the submissive one.

The wolf is a social animal that travels in a pack just as people are social animals. When you "submitted" those two boys, the natural place in the pack was to submit to you, aka "Become your friend".

[wakclips]

How the hell do you get to put up a 26 minute clip? You ain't RUSH!

[Broatch6]

shit happens. you know it does . that time you slept for 12 hrs + lost wait. too much smack bob. dont say you wernt using. save that for the parole hearing. cant believe you never had a tap. everyones had a lesson. like i said shit happens. now. times rite to watch another vid. time to get more edukation. cheers mate.

[euripideesshreds]

I appreciate your thing you're doing here . My social skills suffered as I prefered isolation to the bulshit game playing that seemed to make the world work for so many . But it's all an illusion - the tests we went through formed our fundimental personalities and it is not false to feel ripped off. Now the whole world has a progressively creative / adversarial build up as we achieve the culmination of our era . I am so

amazed to see the real skills becoming relavent to the next faze of it all

[euripideesshreds]

After the 78 -79 fire that totaled w. Broadbeach I moved to Pt. Dume and continued the quest to

self educate. School seemed to be so full of harassments and distractions that it was impossible for me to get an education and I decided to become as dangerous as possible to have the option to snuff any and all further harassment ASAP. All this saved my life. You

probably met me, who knows . Now it is similar but I live in Hawaii and remain isolationist as possible as ignorance seems to be shiek .

[euripideesshreds]

I grew up in Malibu also, had a beach shack west of Broadbeach road . Born in 51 I was older than you and I was a total surfer . You really resonate with me . But I went through the junior high thing in the Palisades -Paul Revere. All I wanted was to be left alone after the hazing . I got over the drug crap early too .

Learned to read pre-school at home with Homer and got into archaic weaponry . I taught myself to carve miniatures on the beach and

hung out at Encinal as a refuge and redeemed.

[codemonkeyslikeme]

i watched all of it, it was rather amusing!!!

[n01ca22]

You just have a lot of time on your hands lol jk

[robsvafan]

".....oh hello" hahaha

[treefrog887]

Thanks for sharing. You painted a very detailed picture. It's nice to see the man that you have become!

[minomeshank]

yeah i find it near impossible to vocalise the genius of my perceptions

[minomeshank]

aside from that, do you think you've changed at all. you still seem like you've got the whole Aleister Crowley image thing going on.

not to mention i'm sure you still have those "depraved" sexual fantasies.

how is superlunary by the way?

[learnermind]

I have also had similar problems, I got lost in the library reading books, no friends, wearing very thick glasses, not taking care of my look, living in isolation, going through fantasies and illusions, then when day I see a nice girl and I dedcided to change and try to get myself out of isolation and be normal

[ssips720]

dude, U R A  GOD

more advice vids.. u are amazzzing.. u give me hope that iintelligence exists!!!!!!!!!!!!! more like thisss more adviceeee for usss thank u

[RyunSharp]

So bullies are just attracted to power. They befriend what symbolizes power. Most Primitive.

[Jenfucius]

I could relate.

When your a vey Introverted person its worth trying to learn to be more Exoverted.

Theres alot of good self improvement/self help books out there these days.

I would encourage others with similar problems to check out books on developing social skills, making friend's (see "How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends" by Don Gabor etc.

Books on dealing with social anxiety or getting cognitive therapy. It helps alot.

[yjacket10]

Add me to the list of youtube viewers who, as a general rule refuse to watch a post more than 5 minutes long....however, found yours to be both intellectually worthy and somewhat familiar. I think, your story includes a common theme for many. You have a talent that if you are not already using to help young people, you should consider doing so. Empathy is a emotional skill useful when reaching out to kids at risk.

[edihedihedih]

its private pyle, not private joke. had to correct that =D

[johnsmdm]

your story is a story of probably millions..

[lambknot]

Very inciteful, cheers!!!

[flam3srock]

I am going through my own transformations right now. This video was so illuminating, thankyou. I would love to hear more from you on this topic.

[flam3srock]

Oh my fucking god... this is basically my junior high story. From the creepy looking kid, to the pseudo-friends in grade 7, to no friend in 8.. to the weight loss.. to being 'scary', to people thinking I was a stoner. The whole self-conscious/healthy person dichotomy. The high school 'coming out of isolation wish'. The main differences between us are age and height.

[EntertainedWatcher]

oh this one was good! and very funny at times, rofl ;)

[PennyRoyaleTea]

It's really funny how these bullies work. Becoming friends with a bully is one thing...It actually makes sense to become friends with a bully (for bodyguard reasons) But bullying someone yourself just to end up on their doorstep (and be their friend) is another... Thats just stupid.

[PennyRoyaleTea]

There was this tall chinese kid in my 6th gr class.

He saw that I had this real "tough" guy persona about me and sought to try & knock it down for some reason... We got in an argument one day and from that came a physical fight that lasted only 15 secs... The next day I was completly baffled at the fact that he wanted to be my friend! I turned him down though, because he just wasn't worthy of being seen with the likes of me :)

[TruthDevours]

Power reading. Wow. From a high school perspective that sounds...horrible. I'd probably turn something like that into power dreaming. Dreaming about my face sinking into the pages, words crawling over my brain, and mutated neon colored word beasts falling out of my mouth. And I'd probably be drunk.

[gobblegobblechew]

off subject

The quality of your video is amazing. Picture quality.

I see you are using a Mac. Is that the major factor? Could you help me to understand your video settings?

[MetaBob]

My setup:

I don't have a webcam. I use my Canon GL2 camcorder, recording at 30 fps progressive in NTSC DV (720x480 pixels). I do all my editing at that resolution, using Final Cut Pro. Then, before uploading, I downcovert to 320x240 MP4, two-pass H264 compression, using VisualHub, which is great and you can buy off the web for $23 bucks.

Whatever your camera, though, one simple way to make your vids look better is to shoot with as much light as possible.

[gobblegobblechew]

looks great...Thanks for the info...Ill give it a try.

[DrKrentist]

Amazing. Facinating, really. Subscribed.

[Eclipse807]

We have something in common. I'm doing vlogs to practice speaking... I enjoyed your story!

[atypicalguy]

I feel you.

[atypicalguy]

btw, it was private pyle you were thinking of from full metal jacket. joker was the main character who wore the glasses and went to vietnam

[comradejim]

Great video, you earned yourself a new subscriber. Glad to see you overcame the bastards.

[Jonase123]

That's a great story!

Thanks.

[peakoil76]

If you ever need help brainstorming for your projects, let me know. I'm a horror buff, that also has an interest in writing. So I can throw you some ideas, if you hit a wall. It's just my name at AOL. Take care, and good luck with your project deadlines. P.S. I will be gone from the 26-31, should you need ideas.

[slothafur]

Diet Dr. Pepper is the elixer of life! I remember the same sort of experiences myself - I empathize with you (frightening yes). My highschool looks like a concentration camp (8.5' iron fences, mobile (golfcart) 'security guards keeping people in; I'm glad to be out. Your power reading class sounds like every "regular" class I ever witnessed. You had to take accelerated classes to be stimulated at all. Yetis are badasses. "Uber bully . . . and he would be my minion" AHHAHAHA.

[psikyc]

oh hello..hahah. ooooooooh duuuuuuuuuude. hahaha. hey bob, that's a good story i enjoyed it.

[Montagraph]

Bob, you have a great speaking voice, you should look into doing voice overs professionally!

[PackratCND]

Damn Bob - you were a "Bad Ass" in high school ! COOL......

[Castaa]

I think you should throw fakesagan somewhere? If you do, video tape it.

This is such an interesting video. I assume a person is one way and their past in entirely different.

I was pretty much an average Joe in junior high school and high school. Just wanting to be a part of the cool kids but never being quite accepted because I tried to hard. But thankfully never once an outcast.

[XxTrailofDeadxX]

Great stories.. thanks man.

[docrufus]

Ya- perhaps cyber space creates an arena of ownership akin to driving a car- a shared road space with a 'don't violate my space' territorial mentality- a primal, animal response to leave piss markers all over the place or lash out over any perceived slight.

Maybe it's just bad driving?

[docrufus]

Hey- maybe it's just road rage?

[peakoil76]

oh yes, I also had a wild imagination about a few girls in my art class.  (and every other class) :o)

[kingsize566]

YT=school re-enactment. Kids spend their days playing most of the time and adolescance is that strange period between play and being "grown up". So you-tube is what we do to "play" (as we are given the feedom to do so) whilst being grown up (some of us). Welcome back to the world of play!

[peakoil76]

thanks for sharing your story.  mine is quite similiar. I was also a loner, withdrawn. I've always had a wild imagination, which probably helped me cope with being the loner I was...and to some degree still am.

[bubonicnate]

I am reminded of a Nirvana song when I think back to junior high Track #4 on Bleach - "School": Won't you believe it It's just my luck [4 times] No recess [3 times] Won't you believe it It's just my luck [4 times] No recess [3 times] You're in high school again [8 times] No recess [7 times] But you have to really hear it to get the deeper meaning I think... I'm gunna post a video response to this one... My first video response ever! woo hoo!

[Hermgirl66]

Interesting vid, Metabob. I know about being bullied. It seems the YTA community is re-creating these jr high dramas, and I'm really getting sick of it.

[Hermgirl66]

I am sure there are plenty of YTatheists that act like adults, such as you and BK, but I am really getting sick of little popularity whores like Hardcase.

[MetaBob]

I think it's actually standard bully behavior, how the leader of bully gangs gets chosen. For that matter, really, it's just a another version of standard "male bonding" behavior. Or of how "the King of Pwnage" gets chosen. I see fakesagan still thinks, or claims he thinks, that I'm trying to own him.

I hope what I'm actually trying to do won't be too devasting to his fragile self-image.

[agenttachyon]

Private Joker didn't off Sargeant Hartman, that was Lawrence.

[MetaBob]

Oh right. I met I looked like "Gomer Pyle" in his last phase.

[Ch2Diacorda]

"uberbully" lol

Thanks for sharing, Metabob. I enjoyed your video.

[MetaBob]

Thank you, Ch2Diacorda -- but oh shit! I realize I promised you a reply eons ago. I'm no good with email in the first place, and I've been getting bunches of PM ever since I joined this Jerry Springer show. I hope to talk to you about actual stuff soon.

[IChoseTheRedPill]

That was pretty wild... I was a loner for part of my early life due to a divorce between parents... I pulled it together though as you did... Thanks for sharing that with us...

[boredgurl24]

very insightful

[MetaBob]

Thank you. Though I seem to remember you mocking the shit out of me on some AA thread.

[boredgurl24]

don't recall doing any such thing. I think you are referring to a comment I made on his "Metabobbing for apples" vid which verbatim was: "funny... u r not anywhere near as hot as goat or chaddag, but u r funny (and usually intelligent), and u apparently can use that tongue..." So I don't see how that was mocking you at all. Why, just today i defended you on Fakesagan's vid... I have nothing against you.

[MetaBob]

Oops. Sorry, I have a terrible time keeping people's usernames straight.  Yes, I saw your comments to fake. I see you've noticed that they're all members of the "He-Man Woman Haters Club." The little rascals.

[xxNosoulxx]

Hi Bob. I went to the INnOUT Burger drive-in yesterday and ordered a Root Beer with my Double Double Burger and fries. I got Dr.Pepper instead. The burger and fries were great, but the Dr.Pepper just wasn't the same. Sadly, I hadn't tasted the soda before driving away from the window. I could have driven around and complained,or gone into the place. I just didn't and used the Dr Pepper to wash down the burger and fries. I went there again today and all went well. Root Beer rules.

[MetaBob]

Blasphemy against Dr Pepper can never be forgiven.

Also, root beer has no caffeine.

[leporidus]

You mean there's really such a thing as an INnOUT-Burger joint? I always thought Chevy "Fletch" Chase was making a joke in that movie.

Oh, just found the Wikipedia In_and_Out_Burger page. I'm astonished, though, that in Europe we do have McD's, B'King, KFC and SubWay (my favorite), but no In-N-Out's akaik.

[xxNosoulxx]

Europe is missing out on a good thing. The name does give me a giggle.

[Aedak33]

Honestly, it sounds very similar to my childhood. I grew up moving around every few years though, so I always lost all of my friends every time.

[Aedak33]

I have the same problem. I wouldn't say I have bad social skills but I have trouble talking articulately about certain topics. I think I'm getting much better though thanks to youtube "Vlogging."

[ryanwtyler]

you swung him by his wrists into the trunk of a tree? how utterly bizare? why not the standard, much less complicated, punch to the face? something along those lines

[MetaBob]

Like I say in the video, I hit like a girl. During my road-rage period in college, I reached through the window of a driver who had deliberately tapped my bumper, grabbed him by the hair, and banged his head like a bell-clapper against the window frame. Then challenged him and his friend to follow me off the road to take their shot. They didn't. (This was before the days of armed road rage.)

[ryanwtyler]

im trying to visualise the scene in my mind. it is very hard. how did you get a hold of both his wrists? did you go straight for the wrists?

[MetaBob]

One wrist.  I'm the center pivot and he's running bakwards till he trips and then I spin him like a rag doll. Me big, him small.

[adventureindustries]

I watched about 90+/- minutes of Metabob today (a bunch of vids back to back). It was better than any mainstream movie. Thanks, Metabob. Keep doing your thing.

[MetaBob]

Stick with me. I am the fount of all time-killing.

[ryanwtyler]

is there such thing as an intellectual accent? if there is you have it

[MetaBob]

It definitely has something to do with brain wiring rather than birthplace. I grew up in Malibu, so theoretically I should talk like a surfer dude.

[AntaresInScorpius]

cool story bob

[robion2020]

MB, thank you for sharing some of your personal stories. inciteful in regards to your evolving perceptions towards human groups.  (reminds me of the PBS series covering the dynamics of the wolfpack). What a YT weekend for you my friend!! Bon chante' pour tu, r2020

[MetaBob]

Thanks. Just as a changeup I should try to stick in another vid I've been meaning to do forever. Before getting to the final round with fakehardcase. It's about the Axelrod experiment into the possible evolutionary origins of altruism, and interesting side issues illustrated by Internet behavior.

[blueadept111]

I can relate to all of this, except besting the bully. Fascinating stuff.

[MetaBob]

You should have ingratiated yourself with a group of dim-bulb tough guys and manipulated them psychologically to destroy your enemies. Then, unlike me, you would have grown up to be a "winner" like Carl Rove or Howard Stern.

[oogashakaooga]

What about that desperate loser begging for aceptance only to have it denied by some random skank on the phone? Wasn't it you?

Because that's who I am laughing at... lol!

"Please, tell me how lovable am I! I need to be loved!"

lol!

[Mjhavok]

You are a liar and a fraud. I have listened to your videos and the resulted in the opinion that you fail at being a human being.

[oogashakaooga]

But am I lovable or not, Geek? I am still waiting for the answer... lol!

How much lovable, on a scale of 1 to ten? lol!

[Billy7766]

That was a pretty honest and deep account of life MB.

[oogashakaooga]

I second that.

[MetaBob]

Thank you. Am I beginning to redeem all the mindless drama? Because I'm trying to.

[oogashakaooga]

TheRatFacedGeek, you still didn't answer my question: am I lovable? lol!

On a scale 1 to 10, how lovable am I? lol! Infinitiy, maybe? lol!

Btw, you should try asking this BEFORE you rush yourself like desperate loser saying "I love you" to any skank you happen to latch onto... lol!

Otherwise it is like your last attempt: the girl goes like "ok, whatever"... lol!

[coaxx]

hey this is a great video.

it inspired me to tell my story which is somewhat the same, so i hope you watch my video in a couple hours :p

[MetaBob]

I'm looking forward to it.

[premed411]

I have never watched, without interruption, a YT vid longer than 15 min, till now.

[MetaBob]

Thanks. But I wish I could do more five-minute vids.

[Mjhavok]

TheFriendlyGeek begone you troll.

[Hermgirl66]

"Begone you troll?" You sound like you're on an episode of Masterpiece Theatre. Yet you're the one acting like one of the delinquints that Metabob describes here.

[Mjhavok]

I'll post a response to this comment once I buy a moron/english dictionary.

[vidensodoacer]

It seems to me that most people have a misfit story to share. In my opinion, I think the ego is a puppet so people who are insecure or have problems with their mind need -something- to hold on to. Some lash out with bullshit, obviously.

[vidensodoacer]

Everyone thought I was a complete stoner, too.

[Cubit100]

In the first few minutes I was trying to think of a smart-ass way to comment on billing you for my acting as your shrink. However, the saga became a chapter of an interesting window to the world. Thus, you need to add a Paypal link, so I can pay my $1 per chapter....

[snow3585]

lol

[Xeno711]

Great Vid!

I can kinda feel with you. I was a loner myself at school, allying myself with the other 'outcasts' as the 'normal' people just didn't fit with me.

Back then I felt left out. Nowadays don't want to be part of it. Content to be alone, my only problem is finding a place to live a life.

(only 50 more years....There *has* to be something to spend this time with.)

[MetaBob]

I think the majority of on-screen YouTubers are here to work out issues of social interaction and self-image that they haven't worked out in real life. In itself, that's nothing to be ashamed of. (But let's not get started about all the anonymous headcases.)

Not all YouTubers by any means, though. There are many sensible, seemingly completely well adjusted vloggers who I love to watch. And most of them would never let themselves be drawn into the kind of drama I've dived into now.

[MetaBob]

I hope that by the end of this my motives become clear, at least to perceptive people.

[leporidus]

What a (in parts) familiar story...

What a weekend. Good night. Time to take a nap myself. Zz-|

[TheFriendlyRatFace]

*sniff* *sniff* Do I smell cheese? Oh its just Jordi!

[oogashakaooga]

I bet you can smell a lot with those huge nostrils of yours, FriendlyRatFace... lol!