It goes like this: If a man rejects a woman and later changes his mind and tries to get with her she won't take him back EVER.... However, if a woman rejects a man and decides later she wants him back the man in most cases will take the woman back. BOOYAH!!
If someone rejected me at first, it's HIGHLY unlikely I'd give them a second chance. If they were so judgmental from the get-go, then that's not the character of someone I'd want to have around me or allow the privilege of getting to know me. So I'd probably move on.
in this position. i 'rejected' a girl 3/4 years ago. hate the word reject but i nicely said no to her because she was not the same religion as me. but as iv got older and more mature, i dont believe that should be an obstacle. but recently we started talking again and she has helped me out and picked me up when i was down. so boy its a funny position to be in.
I don't think many girls give a guy a second chance after he already rejected them, especially if the girl has other options
years ago I got in touch with a girl on myspace that I basically didn't talk to when we went to school, because i had a girlfriend at the time, she gave me almost every non verbal sign in the book
she seemed in awe of me until she started to realize i wasn't going to ask her out
she just ignored my message and denied my friend request
hmm.. that's interesting. But just to say from one girl's perspective and point of view.. i would never get with a guy who rejected me once and 10 minutes later decides he wants me back. If he can so easily change his mind, he's likely to do it again, and again, and i, and i hope most girls, are smart enough to realize they're worth more than that!
for example, once a girl conducted a very intensive formal interrogation at our first conversation and at that moment i hoped we would never talk again.
but otherwise that girl was very intelligent and might have been a very interesting company.
later i regretted that, under the unexpected pressure i was at that moment, i didn't figure out that i could just have said a few words about it, and she would have got the point.
That's an amazing transformation! Enjoy your new you and be/act happy as you should be. Disregard the past as I am sure you could relate now why some people fount you unattractive. They just couldn't help it, even if they didn't want to be mean.
I don't agree here. If the 3rd group rejected that girl, they should be the last option for her. The 1st group might consist of all types of men, so they would deserve a chance. But definitely, the 2nd group is the best kind of men: they were conscious of here existence and let her know it, even when she didn't feel good about herself for being that overweigh.
What if a guy who use to stink and dress bad, then starts taking care of himself, bathing, and dressing good...and now women are interested in him. Should he be bitter at women, or be proud he made the change and enjoy the benefits. Be proud you made the change and enjoy the benefits, skinny girl. (Yes, it is the same thing.)
@SkinnyGirl125 I think you should open up to them, except the ones that were clearly rude to you. Can't blame someone for not being interested, but regardless of your past size, being rude to you was showing poor character. Good men are polite to people regardless of appearance.
That kind of language might be hard to forgive to most girls (as it should), so perhaps you should work on making sure that you don't have such outbursts in the future.
What if I acted polite with her because I thought she was just acting polite. Then I realized that she was showing signs of interest and now I want to go out with her. This happened about 3 months ago too.
I totally agree. I mean, even if he/she was to say "I have changed my mind" and so on and so forth, how can you be sure that they won't change their mind later? I believe that in a way its selfish and insulting because its like as though something can happen ONLY when its ok with them, when your feelings were completely disregarded before. If a guy rejects me then there is NO chance in HELL id give him the time or day. He can live with the regret. Just thought id put in my 2 cents thats all :)
exactly how do you know you just werent the second choice? lol thats why you should take into account why the person changed there mind, and if they want a second opourtunity, its your judgement call!
Gina, wouldn't it be nice if it was that easy!? I've been there tried that after rejecting a girl, I said sorry but I think that made me appear like a did something wrong...I wouldn't have been better off just saying I changed my mind and feel differently..When you come right out and say sorry it's easy for them to put blame on you for hurting them and than they can move on from you
I would text her with something like "Hey, how's it going?" Or something like that. If she replies positively, then you're on. If she replies negatively, like "who r u" or something, then u just answer something like "don't you remember me?" and if she still doesn't remember you, consider that a rejection. Or maybe she will, who knows. Whether or not, you will know when ur rejected ;)
samazn20, her answers seem blunt and like she is not interested. plus she isnt initiating any contact, which is a big hint. i like to follow the rule of not contacting somebody more than twice before they contact me back. also, the "whos this?" is your cue to put that girl in the past man!
i haven't made any contact to her or does she. But i'm planning maybe i should give her a call before friday and ask her out for a couple of coffee, you know..just to hang out (i dont ask girls hey let's go on a date lol
Just to add one thing: Arkady mentioned in an earlier video that some girls don't initiate contact although they might be interested, because they like to be "bossed around" so to speak :P Because it might turn them on that the man is the deciding, leader personality in the relationship. So if she doesn't initiate contact at once, it doesn't have to be a negative sign at all. But it depends on the situation...
I think you're definitely right when you say it depends on the situation. My experiences have taught me to be really nonchalant about things tho.. So for example, if I meet a girl and I like her, I would call her or message her, etc. If no response, I always give her the benefit of the doubt and try again the following week, or maybe even a few days later depending on the situation. From that point on, I wont make anymore contact with her unless, of course, she contacts me first.
She said "ya" Then finally texted back "Maybe i got the wrong number, it's cool have a good one" so what do you think....? do you she probably deleted my number or..something else that might have explained y she doesn't who that person is..
Please help :) i'm 20 years old she's probably 18 .. anyone got any suggestion ? please give me some advice..that will help me :)
and i said"Oh i see, well maybe another time then" then tonight wich is sunday i asked her "how's ur weekend?" she was like "who's this " i was kind of surprised and replied back to her "ru serious?
i texted her again at 10 pm "do you dance?" she said "ya" and i asked her "well if you dont have any plan tonight, you should come with me and my friend to the club" she replied"I would but have to wake up at 7 am for practice"
I texted a few days later asking her if she got a call from the manager and so on.. but a week or two i texted her "hey, have happythanksgiving" She replied "you too" then on that friday night
Hey, Arkady i know you probably got a lot of messages from ur fans and maybe dont have time to read all. But, i really need ur help about this girl that i got her number from the group interview at the retail store at the mall.
maybe if she works at the retail store or where she works in the mall if she does that is, you should maybe visit and get something and say heyy long time no see and pick it up from there and talk to tell her maybe like "theres this movie on later would u want to join me " ?
This happened to me once, only the other way around. The first time she rejected me and I moved on. A few weeks later she comes up to me and says she made a maistake but I rejected her this time becuase I had found someone else. Now she doesn't want to talk to me, I guess she is upset. Does anyone think I did something wrong? I think my actions were justified but her friends keep calling me a jerk and they want me to apologize to her...but I think I didn't do anything wrong...any opinions?
i dont think u did anythin wrong... but its better just to apologize to them just in case. her friends might have heard a different story then what actually happened so that is a possibility as to y they call u a jerk
Well that happened 3 months ago, I would apologize but now everytime I try to even look at one of them they just turn in the opposite direction. I would apologize to ALL of them, but they are just too complicated.
Women like that like to reject guys endlessly until the guy gives up on her and stops playing into her little mind games. They get off on it. Then when they realize that guy has moved on and has discovered a much better woman they get maniacaly jealous and try to destroy the guy's new found love/relationship, because all she ever cared about or wanted in the first place was to control you.
Your'e right. I guess she's only mad because I didn't want to be her stupid lap dog. I mean yeah, if a guy really likes a girl i would understand it if they didn't give up on her that easily, but there has to be a limit. I guess she wanted me to beg or something. Thanks.
This girl I'm dating is playing me like a deck of cards. One week she's single, one week she is in a relationship and one week she is wants friendship and one week she's interested in going out with me. I follow up and she cancels.
It used to bother me but now I don't give a hoot about whatever she decides. I will be civil with her and be friends but I won't perceive it more than what it is. To clarify the situation, she said she is in an open relationship.
dont even be friends with someone like that. ppl like that are a waste of space in this earth, and dont deserve the best. ditch her, even if she calls you. she calls you becuase you are her sloppy seconds.
Just make the terms simple: if she wants a booty call without dating, you're interested in seeing her. If not, no go. This prevents you from losing time and expending energy on conversation/dating/wondering where she's at. You have to do this with women like that. If she doesn't respond, nothing is loset.
.. hopefully, this time, this comment doesn't end up on the top level of the "comment tree". I'm responding to CaptZor:
Just make the terms simple: if she wants a booty call without dating, you're interested in seeing her. If not, no go. This prevents you from losing time and expending energy on conversation/dating/wondering where she's at. You have to do this with women like that. If she doesn't respond, nothing is lost.
It goes like this: If a man rejects a woman and later changes his mind and tries to get with her she won't take him back EVER.... However, if a woman rejects a man and decides later she wants him back the man in most cases will take the woman back. BOOYAH!!
MrMiddleweightchamp 1 week ago
If someone rejected me at first, it's HIGHLY unlikely I'd give them a second chance. If they were so judgmental from the get-go, then that's not the character of someone I'd want to have around me or allow the privilege of getting to know me. So I'd probably move on.
bg11215 1 year ago
in this position. i 'rejected' a girl 3/4 years ago. hate the word reject but i nicely said no to her because she was not the same religion as me. but as iv got older and more mature, i dont believe that should be an obstacle. but recently we started talking again and she has helped me out and picked me up when i was down. so boy its a funny position to be in.
DJDiversity09 1 year ago
I don't think many girls give a guy a second chance after he already rejected them, especially if the girl has other options
years ago I got in touch with a girl on myspace that I basically didn't talk to when we went to school, because i had a girlfriend at the time, she gave me almost every non verbal sign in the book
she seemed in awe of me until she started to realize i wasn't going to ask her out
she just ignored my message and denied my friend request
MikeG82 2 years ago
nice job dear
shoaib8381 2 years ago
i don't know i would think this person would want me as a rebound for the girl he didn't like after being rejected in my opinion.
paulababe1985 2 years ago
hmm.. that's interesting. But just to say from one girl's perspective and point of view.. i would never get with a guy who rejected me once and 10 minutes later decides he wants me back. If he can so easily change his mind, he's likely to do it again, and again, and i, and i hope most girls, are smart enough to realize they're worth more than that!
mimiskie 3 years ago 2
maybe you did something insanely wrong yourself.
for example, once a girl conducted a very intensive formal interrogation at our first conversation and at that moment i hoped we would never talk again.
but otherwise that girl was very intelligent and might have been a very interesting company.
later i regretted that, under the unexpected pressure i was at that moment, i didn't figure out that i could just have said a few words about it, and she would have got the point.
orkishiswithk 2 years ago
What if I ( a female) lost a lot of weight (which I have been doing) and there are two types of men showing interest in me now
1) new ones I never met before
2) old ones I used to run into, hi and bye, but now they are trying to make small talk/get to know me
3) the ones who pretty much ignored me/were rude to me, now hold doors, smiling,
How do i act, ps, I gone from a size 18/20 heading to a size 4
SkinnyGirl125 3 years ago 4
That's an amazing transformation! Enjoy your new you and be/act happy as you should be. Disregard the past as I am sure you could relate now why some people fount you unattractive. They just couldn't help it, even if they didn't want to be mean.
arkady39 3 years ago 2
@arkady39
I don't agree here. If the 3rd group rejected that girl, they should be the last option for her. The 1st group might consist of all types of men, so they would deserve a chance. But definitely, the 2nd group is the best kind of men: they were conscious of here existence and let her know it, even when she didn't feel good about herself for being that overweigh.
davidattends 1 year ago
I d say 2 is the best.
Probably do not keeptoo much interest in 3.I do not mean that you make enimity with 3 , but do not go for 3.
DhaItalianStallion 2 years ago
What if a guy who use to stink and dress bad, then starts taking care of himself, bathing, and dressing good...and now women are interested in him. Should he be bitter at women, or be proud he made the change and enjoy the benefits. Be proud you made the change and enjoy the benefits, skinny girl. (Yes, it is the same thing.)
vanillahunk 2 years ago 3
@SkinnyGirl125 I think you should open up to them, except the ones that were clearly rude to you. Can't blame someone for not being interested, but regardless of your past size, being rude to you was showing poor character. Good men are polite to people regardless of appearance.
Mystefier 1 year ago
wot if i said fuck off and die, but now i want her?
GLOWORM360 3 years ago 2
That kind of language might be hard to forgive to most girls (as it should), so perhaps you should work on making sure that you don't have such outbursts in the future.
arkady39 3 years ago 21
What if I acted polite with her because I thought she was just acting polite. Then I realized that she was showing signs of interest and now I want to go out with her. This happened about 3 months ago too.
powersticks 3 years ago 2
I'm a male and if a woman rejects me there is no chance not even on her life that I will show interests in her.
SmokenJoseph 3 years ago 8
me neither in terms of dating but what if shes drunk and just wants 2 fuck u?
vermonofdeceit 3 years ago 2
lol
AllstarJJ 3 years ago
Well it depends,if I am sober and she is drunk I wont take advantage,but,if i am drunk and out of my mind as her then why not?
But the reality is ,that when she is sober,she doesn't want anything to do with me. ( shurgs)
SmokenJoseph 3 years ago
yeah i hate getting rejected too,but theres plenty of fish in the sea,and trust me,the most beautiful women are alwyas the biggest sluts and bitches.
vermonofdeceit 3 years ago
and every single guy will continue to chase them and wonder why there is no good girls left in the world.
Most men chase the same women and complain.
SkinnyGirl125 3 years ago
I totally agree. I mean, even if he/she was to say "I have changed my mind" and so on and so forth, how can you be sure that they won't change their mind later? I believe that in a way its selfish and insulting because its like as though something can happen ONLY when its ok with them, when your feelings were completely disregarded before. If a guy rejects me then there is NO chance in HELL id give him the time or day. He can live with the regret. Just thought id put in my 2 cents thats all :)
ANIMEGIRL385 2 years ago 10
totally agree.
soonerGLO 2 years ago
exactly how do you know you just werent the second choice? lol thats why you should take into account why the person changed there mind, and if they want a second opourtunity, its your judgement call!
southsidebaby17 2 years ago 11
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ANIMEGIRL385 2 years ago
isn't it very difficult for a guy to say sorry or admit that they were wrong?
Ginavaclose 3 years ago
Gina, wouldn't it be nice if it was that easy!? I've been there tried that after rejecting a girl, I said sorry but I think that made me appear like a did something wrong...I wouldn't have been better off just saying I changed my mind and feel differently..When you come right out and say sorry it's easy for them to put blame on you for hurting them and than they can move on from you
Gwhat1935 3 years ago
No,I don't think so,I am a male and If I am wrong then I will admit it and say that I am sorry.
SmokenJoseph 3 years ago 5
Honestly it depends on the person Gina i personally dont mind admiting im wrong, but theres alot of different people.
forgotm 3 years ago 3
im a woman and if u rejected me the first time i would ignore u and flirt with ur friends also ....
80s90shousemami76 3 years ago 17
haha touche
thatsodiesel 3 years ago
lolllz haha thats a good one! Thats wut any girl should do to teach the guy that rejected her a lesson lol!
Tamanna19 3 years ago 5
@80s90shousemami76 That's "taking it badly".
drfragment123 1 month ago
dude, a girl asked me out and i said no, later i realised wat mistake i made so i asked her out and she said no.
gamzmasta 3 years ago 6
LOL
Saberdud 3 years ago 6
All viewers you should read from the bottom to the top... lol sorrry
samazn20 3 years ago
This is what I would do:
I would text her with something like "Hey, how's it going?" Or something like that. If she replies positively, then you're on. If she replies negatively, like "who r u" or something, then u just answer something like "don't you remember me?" and if she still doesn't remember you, consider that a rejection. Or maybe she will, who knows. Whether or not, you will know when ur rejected ;)
AmitNO 3 years ago 2
Good, good not bad i like it lol persistent
samazn20 3 years ago
hmm some times i give my number under pressure and then i never accept go out.just i feel sorry to say no right away.
carina81gr 2 years ago
samazn20, her answers seem blunt and like she is not interested. plus she isnt initiating any contact, which is a big hint. i like to follow the rule of not contacting somebody more than twice before they contact me back. also, the "whos this?" is your cue to put that girl in the past man!
maXrUm 3 years ago 2
Thanks for you advice.. But she was cute and seems like a nice girl lol
samazn20 3 years ago
hmmm. just curious.. after you texted back and said "maybe i got the wrong number..." have you made any contact with each other?
maXrUm 3 years ago
i haven't made any contact to her or does she. But i'm planning maybe i should give her a call before friday and ask her out for a couple of coffee, you know..just to hang out (i dont ask girls hey let's go on a date lol
samazn20 3 years ago
Just to add one thing: Arkady mentioned in an earlier video that some girls don't initiate contact although they might be interested, because they like to be "bossed around" so to speak :P Because it might turn them on that the man is the deciding, leader personality in the relationship. So if she doesn't initiate contact at once, it doesn't have to be a negative sign at all. But it depends on the situation...
AmitNO 3 years ago 5
I think you're definitely right when you say it depends on the situation. My experiences have taught me to be really nonchalant about things tho.. So for example, if I meet a girl and I like her, I would call her or message her, etc. If no response, I always give her the benefit of the doubt and try again the following week, or maybe even a few days later depending on the situation. From that point on, I wont make anymore contact with her unless, of course, she contacts me first.
maXrUm 3 years ago 2
She said "ya" Then finally texted back "Maybe i got the wrong number, it's cool have a good one" so what do you think....? do you she probably deleted my number or..something else that might have explained y she doesn't who that person is..
Please help :) i'm 20 years old she's probably 18 .. anyone got any suggestion ? please give me some advice..that will help me :)
samazn20 3 years ago
and i said"Oh i see, well maybe another time then" then tonight wich is sunday i asked her "how's ur weekend?" she was like "who's this " i was kind of surprised and replied back to her "ru serious?
samazn20 3 years ago
i texted her again at 10 pm "do you dance?" she said "ya" and i asked her "well if you dont have any plan tonight, you should come with me and my friend to the club" she replied"I would but have to wake up at 7 am for practice"
samazn20 3 years ago
I texted a few days later asking her if she got a call from the manager and so on.. but a week or two i texted her "hey, have happythanksgiving" She replied "you too" then on that friday night
samazn20 3 years ago
Hey, Arkady i know you probably got a lot of messages from ur fans and maybe dont have time to read all. But, i really need ur help about this girl that i got her number from the group interview at the retail store at the mall.
samazn20 3 years ago
maybe if she works at the retail store or where she works in the mall if she does that is, you should maybe visit and get something and say heyy long time no see and pick it up from there and talk to tell her maybe like "theres this movie on later would u want to join me " ?
i would do something like that good luck to you!
MetalHead1515 3 years ago
thanks dude that's a really good tip i'll try that
samazn20 3 years ago 2
"Hey, I changed my mind. I got to know you better and I really like to know who you are."
"Oh, that's so sweet of you but I'm not interested in you anymore. Piss off."
Mjkseven 3 years ago 13
"No problem... have a nice day."
arkady39 3 years ago 11
Oh dear, been there and done that
yumna567 3 years ago
By the way, great advice, Arkady thanks for the upload.
psychodemon23 3 years ago
This happened to me once, only the other way around. The first time she rejected me and I moved on. A few weeks later she comes up to me and says she made a maistake but I rejected her this time becuase I had found someone else. Now she doesn't want to talk to me, I guess she is upset. Does anyone think I did something wrong? I think my actions were justified but her friends keep calling me a jerk and they want me to apologize to her...but I think I didn't do anything wrong...any opinions?
psychodemon23 3 years ago
i dont think u did anythin wrong... but its better just to apologize to them just in case. her friends might have heard a different story then what actually happened so that is a possibility as to y they call u a jerk
dlvlne666 3 years ago
Well that happened 3 months ago, I would apologize but now everytime I try to even look at one of them they just turn in the opposite direction. I would apologize to ALL of them, but they are just too complicated.
psychodemon23 3 years ago
You did nothing wrong.
Women like that like to reject guys endlessly until the guy gives up on her and stops playing into her little mind games. They get off on it. Then when they realize that guy has moved on and has discovered a much better woman they get maniacaly jealous and try to destroy the guy's new found love/relationship, because all she ever cared about or wanted in the first place was to control you.
KreepGamer 3 years ago
word
awesomemaximumdude 3 years ago
Your'e right. I guess she's only mad because I didn't want to be her stupid lap dog. I mean yeah, if a guy really likes a girl i would understand it if they didn't give up on her that easily, but there has to be a limit. I guess she wanted me to beg or something. Thanks.
psychodemon23 3 years ago 2
You give very good advice, keep giving us those good advice,Thanks!
dwightdee 3 years ago
You rock Arkady! I think on Monday, I'm gonna ask the girl I like out.
nessnomar 3 years ago
Why are you so amazing? hehehe :)
VampMila 3 years ago 4
Happy Thanks Giving Arkady :D
KumandanteRaymundo 3 years ago
Thanks! You too.
arkady39 3 years ago
Happy thanks giving Arkady
Saberdud 3 years ago
This girl I'm dating is playing me like a deck of cards. One week she's single, one week she is in a relationship and one week she is wants friendship and one week she's interested in going out with me. I follow up and she cancels.
It used to bother me but now I don't give a hoot about whatever she decides. I will be civil with her and be friends but I won't perceive it more than what it is. To clarify the situation, she said she is in an open relationship.
CaptZor 3 years ago
Run!!! Seriously, you don't need that.
FHfan731 3 years ago 7
Yeah boy, especially since you know what to expect from her wants the point? You already know whats she like so RUNNNNNNN!!! lol
jokerface 3 years ago 4
thats good isnt it ? u can have relationship-free sex with her. lol
nikjey 3 years ago 4
fornication?
KumandanteRaymundo 3 years ago
dont even be friends with someone like that. ppl like that are a waste of space in this earth, and dont deserve the best. ditch her, even if she calls you. she calls you becuase you are her sloppy seconds.
JinXuanJun 3 years ago
Just make the terms simple: if she wants a booty call without dating, you're interested in seeing her. If not, no go. This prevents you from losing time and expending energy on conversation/dating/wondering where she's at. You have to do this with women like that. If she doesn't respond, nothing is loset.
seattlesteve4 3 years ago
.. hopefully, this time, this comment doesn't end up on the top level of the "comment tree". I'm responding to CaptZor:
Just make the terms simple: if she wants a booty call without dating, you're interested in seeing her. If not, no go. This prevents you from losing time and expending energy on conversation/dating/wondering where she's at. You have to do this with women like that. If she doesn't respond, nothing is lost.
seattlesteve4 3 years ago
thanks :) :D
johnnycpk 3 years ago
Hmmm...is this video a sign? LOL
I THINK a guy I went out on 1 date with THINKS I'm not interested.
He asked me out again, but never called. I didn't call him either. No big deal. But, I thought it was kinda weird b/c he's such a gentlemen.
Not sure if he's playing hard to get or just assuming I'm not into him.
Is this possible? Or do I need to turn my ego down? LOL
iluvlycheenuts 3 years ago 5
i'll go out with you and do you.?
souljasai 3 years ago
WHat is the probability of meeting someone special on black Friday early in the morning besides the pushing and shoving?
JulOyt 3 years ago 2
Slim to none, too hectic on black Friday. People are in too much of a rush.
FHfan731 3 years ago