Man Crush

[BritLes9]

I'm a lesbian and I find most men repulsive and ugly and I could never love a man or have sex with one BUT I find Enrique Iglesias handsome :) no other male celebs except for him, I think cause his sort of feminine looking and has pretty eyes and lashes

[Neisza]

I believe that I've read in some interview that Diamond identifies herself as lesbian, so here's the answer why she's calling it sexual fluidity, not just different degrees of bisexuality. If you're somewhat attracted to men, with "sexual fluidity" argument you could still say that you're lesbian.

[Neisza]

I've read that book, and actually informations that Diamond herself provide are against her statement about "sexual fluidity", because, as she pointed out, only women who were not exclusively attracted to one sex were "fluid", and general pattern of attractions of all women during long period of time remains the same - those who were more into women remains that way, as those who were more or less 50/50.

So what's the difference from Kinsey's continuum?

[greeneyedeartha]

there is a such thing as bi....

[enajhalle2006]

keep it up jess!! I always listen to you..=)

[TandSaremylife]

jess you reallyy inspire me ! :) to be completely honest i totallyyy look up to youu. you really are one amazingg, intelligent woman ! keep it upp <3

[mudvaynechick]

Hey great book, I recently picked it up and it has some amazing stuff. They have it at most Borders.

Great advice.

[liljellybeenz]

i never find myself dissagreeing with you. u always give great advice and i love how much thought u put into it. it shows how much u care. thanks! :)

[JenWilliams08]

Great Vid. Great Advice. Thank you! Happy Holidays Jess :)

[kxali]

i was with a girl for 3 years and she totally left me for and screwed a dude. bummer eh?

[marisolvelazquez218]

Wow! You're really organized in your thoughts & liked how it was really informative!

Great advice!!!!

:)))

<3

[pete275]

Is that a popped collar? classy.

I think this is a case of putting the carriage before the horse with the labeling.. you're not supposed to act according to whatever label you got put on, it's the other way around..

[Culpamia111]

This video yet again proves why your my favorite beaver, Jess!

[jessiono]

I have no opinion on this.

But you are so nerdy and cute looking.

[skipperdoofus]

look who pops the collar now :)

[yesmamyes]

here's my two cents on this matter...

the only thing that i noticed you didn't mention in this video was the fact that just because she is attracted to men now, doesn't mean she's not attracted to women still...

there is still that concept of either bi-sexuality that comes in to play

or for me, it was pansexuality (i identify as queer though). i date and am attracted to men, women, transguys, transwomen, and anyone who doesn't define to a gender identity.

[AmandaWiddifield]

slightly complicated... no big :)

[whatzername922007]

I can't lie either, I like your old hair. too. But your new hair looks good, as well! :D I love you either way :)

[xaznhottiesx]

yuck! jess, why do u still have an SAT book??

[lindseyclark08]

Sexual fluidity=pansexualism in my opinion. I think a lot of people feel comfortable with a label. I guess it's sort of comforting and if you break the rules of your "label" then you feel doubt in terms of your identity. I dunno. I have so many thoughts on this.

[cautiousplay]

I appreciate honesty :) I'm actually not done with how I want my hair - it's in an in-between stage. I'm not quite ready to get it styled.

[DaniFloatedAway]

I'm so happy you had this topic this week, because I'm going through this right now, and it's really driving me insane. I've identified myself as a lesbian for a while now, but then one of my best friends started developing a crush on me.. And I love his personality, i've grown attatched to it, but then when i actually think about being with a male.. it kind of grosses me out. And he wants to turn this into a relationship, but he kissed me once, and I just felt so out of place&awkward... :/

[tetsubo57]

My sister spent 15 years in exclusively lesbian relationships. She broke up with her last girlfriend over infidelity. Her next date was a man. They eventually got married and now have a son.

The heart doesn't follow social conventions.

[RRuthie1234]

in a community where I've felt so uncomfortable with expressing my feelings towards, youtube has given me that freedom to not feel targetted, if that makes sense.either way, thank you Jess <3

[OMGomgOMGuGuys]

Yes Yes yes yes yes..... Thank you for filing your role as a leader perfectly thank you thank you

[dancerbel]

I admire you and your wisdom so much Jess!

[ilhsfm]

your advice is golden.

[AssAlot89]

DONT LEAVE THE PERSON YOU LOVE FOR THE PERSON YOU LIKE, BECAUSE THE PERSON YOU LIKE WILL LEAVE YOU FOR THE PERSON THEY LOVE. ----word

[rainbowlover87]

you look good with longer hair...

[frickinscrewed]

you are supercool.

well said on everything. thank you.

[wayfarer628]

i agree. it's not a phase. i know that she loved me.

[wayfarer628]

I was with a girl for three years and then she left me for a guy. i just didn't understand how this could happen. he was a conservative baptist. it crushed me. she had always told me she thought that she was born gay. I was the one that was more unsure of my sexual identity. She can only see me as a girlfriend so she won't talk to me. I really grew from that break up and helped me understand myself. It's been a year since we broke up and I'm still grieving. I have trouble understanding her.

[Prolui]

Jess you're amazing. Most thorough vlogger ever. (x

[blotterbook]

i really like the things you say about pulling away from labels. i wish so much that we lived in a world where everyone thought like this- a world where we don't always have to go around explaining why we love who we love.. i've been meaning to buy diamond's book for ages.

[Pauluk33]

dam, you look nice with your hair back and spex, blimey. if you attracted to both, aint you a bi, or whatever the term is?

[darthragnhild]

it seems you miss what that would make this person, a bisexual.She was always bisexual just didn't know it till then cause that does happen in life.I have know people who went though a good part of their life thinking they are straight or gay and later learned they are attracted to the same gender or other gender.Never understand why bisexuals are always ignored or not just brought up

[cautiousplay]

While I get why you would say that, it's not necessarily true. Being attracted to one guy after years of being a lesbian, doesn't make her bisexual. I think we're giving too much credit to this crush.

[darthragnhild]

you may be right but it does show that some bit of her sexuality is left unchecked.I as a lesbian do think to some point still geared to want to breed, it's part of being human and that may be what it is but my main complaint is how she skirted around that maybe she was a bisexual also like that word is an evil word one dares not say

[jillsr]

Well, said Jess. Especially the tact part. :)

[TheShiloe]

very well said.

[yogangel7]

labels are good for groceries not for ppl!

[s8ntmark]

Haha, Jess looks so nerdy cute :D

[jeremy1350]

I think also age comes to bear on this if this young woman is not emotionally mature and she has found herself in crush mode. I would also ask where the crush resides? physical, sexual, mental... I always say that if you need to go outside your relationship for something then you don't deserve to be in a relationship to begin with. I wonder if she is missing something crucial that may have precipitated this crush. What is she missing in her relationship that she may be searching for outside?

[visualxjinsei]

@jeremy1350 This is a really good comment. I agree with that you're saying.

[cautiousplay]

Very well said. Another reason why this topic needs more than several minutes to discuss :)

[hheatherx]

Thank you Jess! This has really helped me and I look forward to sharing this information with others, esp. with GSA. You've summed up everything perfectly! Also thanks to Mary for helping. You two are such a good team! Merry Christmas!

[KirneH004]

Hi, Jess--

Feelings aren't phases; they're valid and important. Honesty is the most important thing.

Henrik

[Bitemeartzombie]

Thank you so much, you say everything that I wish I could say in front of the camera :)

[upsidedownfrontwards]

i will so be watching this weeks videos over and over

[blacksnow42]

totally agree with the phase thing. Whether its temporary or permanent, it's still an experience and to dismiss it all as a phase takes away the opportunity to learn from it. great video jess!

[SalamanderNatsu]

yay :)