Lily Lesbian 411- How to tell your parents you're a lesbian

[kimchee123456789]

@KyoKyoProductions thats how u feel :)

[perrypub]

Im not hating or nuthing but people usually say that being gay or lesbian is in them its natural. its not true there has not been a gene found that promotes gayness or being lesbian thats All im sayin so dont be putting this stuff in peoples minds

[bmxblaster79]

Arrow tegan and sara!

[KyoKyoProductions]

im scared im actually 11 and i like someone but i dont know what my mom would say and im rlly scared or young but i want to tell her early so she wont ell at me later when im older and hate me for not telling her sooner PLZ REPLY i need help!

[OldSemeofOz]

it's tough, i try dropping hints about the fact that i'm a lesbian because being blunt about it with my parents would never work, their so religious. i take massage therapy classes and sometimes when they ask me how school was i say "great i got to massage this really pretty girl" so far it seems like they ignore it but maybe deep down they're figuring it out.

[rochelleheremaia]

I think all us Biz and Lesbians have difficulties talking to our parents.......

I find it hard to tell my parents because their very ago ppl

[jena9956]

I just told my mom I'm bi today.

I'm 12 and so she told me to wait a few years to see I am or not.

I feel so stupid for saying that, because I have a boyfriend.

So really, unless I was dating a girl I didn't need to.

God I'm an idiot...

[Jadeqorawwrxo]

My mum and Dad always say they'd be fine if I was bi . But they tend to change their opinion a lot. and It's awkward considering I now have a girlfriend. it's got a lot harder..

[iiGothicLover]

Well, I'm a lesbian and I haven't told my parents yet. I am too scared to tell them. My dad likes to make joins about gay people and call them names, for that reason I am scared to tell them, I wish it was easier to tell parents about this stuff, Have any idea of how I should tell them?

[OldSemeofOz]

@iiGothicLover drop hints maybe, just to see how they react. after my massage therapy class one time my parents asked me how i was liking school and i said "i love it i get to massage pretty girls all day" they gave me a weird look and then ignored it but hopefully they'll understand me on their own someday

[Janemetalcat798]

I recently told my mom I was bisexual and I was dating my best friend in the world and she told me she was "a mother in denial". I couldn't believe it. And as soon as I get back from a trip my mothers gonna bash me up. Big time.

[Dracbloody]

How do I approach it? I already met this wonderful girl (not really, she was my friend for about 2 years and I confessed 1.5+ years ago) and we're doing a long distance relationship. I face disowning and discrimination from my 2 brothers and my mom the most. I faced child abuse a lot during 10-early 13 year old.

[Dracbloody]

I have extreme difficulty talking to my parents about being a lesbian since I'm 13 so they will probably just be like, "oh, she'll grow out of it." And I know my father won't like it, but he will accept it. Most likely, my mother will freak, and quite possibly beat me with the vacuum just like when I was young.

[ChelseasInsanity]

@Dracbloody I think it alot of times does not have to do with age, it just depends on the parents... I told my mom I was lesbian when i turned 15 (like 3 months ago), and she told my dad to come and and talk about it. It ended pretty bad, my parents basically will not even let me speak to them about it, or talk about it with my friends. I personally think theyr'e homophobic. Long story cut short, i'd advise you to wait... Seriously. I regret not waiting longer because now things are rocky here

[SuperBen601]

wow can u go with me i want to be a lesbian your fine lily lesbian!!!

[A7Xgirl543]

ill never be able to tell my g maw (I live with her) shes the most homophobic person i know, if she ever finds out im bi shel kick me out for shure

[toucanfeathers102]

wait your a lesbian?

[alievicky2]

im so sad my mom doesnt except that i am lesbian:(

[emowolf123456]

I tried to tell my mom I was bi and she said " no it's against the bible" and I said fine

That's not fair

[NUTTYoPIRATEoSAUCE]

@xactleee easily.how can anyone take any joy in multiplying, when the human race is currently over- populating it's self, and there are millions of children in foster care and impovershed countries who need a loving home. i wouldn't reproduce because i find it immoral in this day and age. people should foster or adopt children if they have such a need to nurture something.

[YurinaSensei]

your cute :)

[toxicserenity09]

Thank you so much for the help/advice! Wish me luck I'm coming out this weekend to my family! Much love girl :D

[MultiBrenda1970]

ditch the background music

[sargentbarbie]

im bi, but i lean more towards women. and my parents are really homophobic. they always throght i was going out with this guy coz i stayed round his house and we were always holding hands and stuff but the thing is hes gay, and when my parents asked me i told them. coz he never denyed it. but then they started makin homophoibic comments about him, and now i feel as if its impossible for me to come out. this would make them kick me out for good if they found out. what should i do? xx

[singuy1111]

ok like im a guy but im bi and like my mom is rlly homophobic and so is my dad and like my mom is all like oh no u cant do this its against are religeon and stuff what should i do?

[lineup71]

Thanks for the advice, but im still not sure how they will will react if i tell them im lesbien

[BrittanyGillisVEVO]

PinStripePineapple: just tell them! It will be a little scary, but they will accept you and your sexuality if they honestly love you. Just, study your mothers behaviour for about a mnth, and see when she's her happiest. Then plan what you will say. That's all I got :p

[Samm5469]

I've watched most of your videos, and I think your just so cute. I was really wondering if there was any way we could chat. I don't know how many women you have been with but I have been with several, and maybe if you have some questions I could help you out. If you don't have questions I have a few for you. I'm 19. I don't want to hook up with you or anything like that (I know how this must sound, lol.) but I'd really like to talk to you and get your opinion on some stuff. Thanks. Samm.

[gemys18]

i'm lesbian and im also finding a way to tell my parents about it. your advice helped me (:

[PinStripePineapple]

I'm bi and I'm dating a wonderful girl. Her mother knows about us and says we can't have sleepovers or be together for long amounts of time without my parents knowing too. They don't know I'm bi and my mum is a little homophobic. I'm scared. What should I do?

[gemmaclair1]

hey i told my mum that i was lesbian in like a really casual way and she didnt say anything or do anything. that was about 4 months ago and shes still telling me that "when you get married to a guy you love..." and all that. i guess i dunno what i should do about it. she might be ignoring it or just thinking that im being stupid. what should i do???

[smething23]

@gemmaclair1 -- If I were in your position I would just let it be. she's not making you do anything or think anything you don't want to do or think. I'd say that sounds fine. Problems may arise when you are about 30 and you continue to date women and it finaly starts to sink in for her. but for now just roll with it :)

[gemmaclair1]

@smething23 thanks :)

[avrilrockz5]

@gemmaclair1 It's just a disgusting phase. There really is no such thing as actually being bisexual, gay, or lesbian.

[gemmaclair1]

@avrilrockz5 fuck off yh? if your so against it then why the hell you watchin this vid?

[avrilrockz5]

@gemmaclair1 I was watching this video because I thought it would be hilarious.

[Trying2FindWhoIam]

@avrilrockz5 maybe you thought it would be hilarious, but some people are really confused and in need of some guidance

[avrilrockz5]

@Trying2FindWhoIam What's there to be confused about. I guess since they're sick freaks.

[Trying2FindWhoIam]

@avrilrockz5 you know what, I hope you turn out to be gay, not because you could ever deserve anyone, but just so you can know how it feels when people like you make your feel horrible about yourself.

[Trying2FindWhoIam]

@avrilrockz5 It's because of people like you that I almost commited suicide. Now whenever some kid commits suicide for being gay I want you to pretend that's me, because it could be, and I want you to know that you are personally responsible. Would you feel to happy about how you've been making people feel then?

[avrilrockz5]

@Trying2FindWhoIam Yes, almost. You didn't. See I honestly believe it's just a sick phase some people go through. If it's not a phase then it's a mental illness. If you tried to commit suicide, then get help because you're not normal if you tried.

[MrZack57]

@avrilrockz5 and u faild -_-

[OldSemeofOz]

@gemmaclair1 mine's they same way, she thinks if she ignores it it'll go away. but (with mine atleast) it probably wouldn't be a good idea to just come out and say it bluntly or repeatedly. i'd wait and the next time she makes a remark like that tell her again in a respectful way.

[ScouttheDoggieFan]

Wow it was so easy told my parents that i was bi :) they arn't religious or anything :D my dad was chill about it as long as i dont like any of his friends that come over every thursday xD. My mom was a little hocked since i had like 5 girl friends. But guys just storm in while yourparens are having sex and say god dammit dad mom iam gay kthxbai

[HalleLovesPocky]

I'm scared to tell me parents...I mean I know my dad is a little homophobic but I'm not sure about my mom.. My parents are split so I'm not sure if they would kick me out

[smething23]

@HalleLovesPocky : If your dad is a little Homophobic he might be a lot homophobic when it comes to his daughter. My dad has nothing against gay people but he freaked out when he found out about me. If you are thinking them kicking you out is a possibility don't say anything. If you haven't graduated High School yet I always suggest concentrating on school while doing some dating nothing serious then when you're older it's better to tell them.

[oboegirl1994nm]

@smething23 Yeah, my dad is a lot homophobic as it is, and he doesn't know that I'm gay. He has said that, in a hypothetical situation, he would kick me out if I was gay.

I guess I should get nice and comfy in the closet, since I will be there for a while! (I'm out at school, though, it's just when I go home for breaks and what-not).

Thanks for sharing this vid :)

[Trying2FindWhoIam]

@HalleLovesPocky well, your parents might freak out, which is too bad, but probably true. I had a friend who told his parents he was gay and his parents kicked him out. If your mom is ok with it you could just tell her, and maybe that could work. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do

[KiddieKattKosplay]

i have a question should tricking my parents to knowing im a lesbian help or will it makes things worst

[smething23]

@KiddieKattKosplay-- you mean you'd like to trick your parents into finding out your a lesbian? Like make it as though they found out on their own? If this is what you mean then I would say it's better for you to tell them rather than them "finding out" this way you have ToTAL control over the situation.

[dcampbell84]

I can barely hear your voice over the background music... waaay to damn loud... Thanks for sharing anyway.

[smething23]

@dcampbell84 --- haha yea I've gotten that comment before I have since learned how to control the volume. thank you :)

[dadcool12345]

it help alot now my parents are kl about it but how do i tell my skl friends without them freaking out and saying erhhhhh tht grim

[smething23]

@dadcool12345 -- It's so great that your parents are okay with it!! that is the most important part. As for your friends you may as well just come out and say it. If they can't hack it they are not your most desired friends. Even if you're "alone" for a little it will make you a stronger, better person. Then you will meet new people who love and respect who you are. There is nothing worse for your soul than making it live a lie.

[dadcool12345]

@dadcool12345 thankz ur an insperation to me thankz a lot

[smething23]

@dadcool12345-- you're welcome it's good to hear :)

[Mylolover247]

thnx,you r an awsome lesbian!

[smething23]

@Mylolover247 -- haha thanks a lot!

[dadcool12345]

thank you xx

[smething23]

@dadcool12345 -- always a pleasure!

[Crusher0160]

Your Hot u can be whatever u want to be

[smething23]

@Crusher0160 grazie and yes, I planned on it.

[JadeTheSlayer]

My mother FORCED me to tell her...Then she told me...No you're not...what the hell happens then???

[smething23]

@JadeTheSlayer haha she FORCED YOU!?!?! I guess she must have assumed but didn't want to hear the truth anyway. sound like a typical mom. a little crazy but funny at the same time. her response is not all that terrible. it could be soo much worse. ever here the expression "don't tell me, show me" looks like you'll have to implement this :) the more you show her you can live a happy healthy life as a lesbian the more she will believe it and accept it :) Good luck :)

[JadeTheSlayer]

@smething23 SOOO I showed her...She AGAIN told me no and I needed to "Straighten" myself up WTF? Then when I told her no we got into a fight and she bit me ._.' Wanna tell me what I do now?

[smething23]

@JadeTheSlayer -- She sounds like she may be a tad irrational. the biting concerns me. my mom used to do shit like that too. 1-800-342-3720. call that # if it ever gets out of hand. if you are able to live a functional life under her roof only without the desired acceptance you may as well keep the peace and avoid telling her about your sexual life. Time will pass you will get older and you'll spend most of your life surrounding yourself with things that make you happy and you can forget this.

[castiljm5]

your really cute... :)

[smething23]

@castiljm5 thank so much!! ;)

[mj097]

you're cute :) 

[smething23]

@mj097 why thank you!!!

[smething23]

@mj097 thank you! :)

[AylaHuffMusic]

Well if i were to see ur video before i wouldnt have done it the wrong way lol. I actually tried killing myself cuz i was a lesbian and i told them at the hospital. Btw nice Music T&S RULE!!!

[smething23]

@AylaHuffMusic : Yea that is definitely the wrong way to do it. I'm sorry it went that way. I definitely considered suicide as an option because when my dad found out I lived in an emotionally and physically abusive hell. I pulled through it for 2 years and now i'm 18 I live on my own and am doing great in college. Most importantly i'm having fun being a lesbian :) I'm glad you liked the video! I wasn't sure how helpful it would be.

Tegan and Sara!!!!!.... I am really in love with them! :)

[smething23]

Just a side note: If you are telling your parents or about to tell your parents just remember to keep calm and no matter how strange, mean, or wonderful your parents are you have to sit them down and have their full attention and tell them the truth.