Forum on: Loneliness

[ThelivingMj]

I love being all by myself:)

[VLOGABIZ]

It comes when we need to relax, and when we are not creating, it can be very healthy or not , its how you use your own time, as the outcome you will receive.

[horuslovechild2]

7 billion souls on earth and we all feel lonely... kinda strange really...

[velvetnectar81]

I hate being left alone with myself. I'm kinda lame.

[danceswithcrayons]

I speak to this loneliness when it happens (very rare). Many years ago, it was a desire, felt like this place was not my home somehow and wanted to go home. I didn't speak about it. Solitude though, is different; something I seem to need because I'm sensitive, need to unwind and also not very verbal. Exploring emotions, pictures, thoughts, music or following ants outdoors for the fun of it (they are very kind and industrious little creatures). I also love being with people. Thankyou Paulo

[shawnk82]

Thank you Paolo

[inspiredbymj]

It is both ways, a burden and an escape, also, a boon at times. TO me it is undefined and every individual is alone irrespective of the conditions they are in. All in all you are alone.

[Getsurenka25]

Loneliness is when i look at myself and discover that my heart wants to return to the past but i cannot or that my soul yearns for something that I want to become but I cannot. In both occasions, out of fear or out of inability.

[jazzmanzoot]

"The Individual, has always had to struggle, to keep from being Overwhelmed by the Tribe. If you try. You will be Lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But, No price is to high, to pay fpr the Privelege of owning Yourself"

Friedrich Nietzscher

Lone Wolf.

Charles UK

[afshin72ca]

I think some of us don't have the skills to communicate with others.

[Evalyra]

I think you can feel lonely even if you're in a crowd. For me, though, loneliness is a way of freedom. I can be myself. That doesn't mean I'm a hermit, I do have my friends but as soon as you're among people, you're playing a role. You're either a friend, son/daughter, a parent, a teacher, a waiter, whatever. Being alone means you don't have to be anything and that's the closest you can get to yourself. On the other hand, many roles may constitute your actual identity. Both is possible, depends.

[TheAshworthBoy]

@Evalyra Hell yeah, you hit the button on that one. Well said (:

[yuetching]

@Evalyra Oh my god I agree so much it's like with others, sometimes you can feel tired coz you are caring for them and also meeting their expectations or societal expectations. while, when I am alone, I can care for myself. That's why even though I feel lonely, I backpack alone. x

[fatabass]

I have been alone for so long I dont even recognize that I am alone.

[Italianp01]

I think Lonelines is a awful pain

[MsDaryna]

Yeah, it can be both... But I've noticed a strange thing: when I really have a need to be with someone, when I feel very lonely, all my friends are unavailable. Either they are busy, or out of town. So I am left with this heavy and uncomfortable loneliness. Other day, when it doesn't really make a difference to me, whether to be alone or to be with someone, all of a sudden I become very popular among my friends:-), and I have some events to attend, etc. Really weird.

[FlowerPowerII]

I read your books! :)

[Strawie]

I love being with myself, it makes me appreciate the company of others better!

[dandanwii]

I don't know why... but... I feell myself better alone...

[bonita182hu]

sometimes I feel more lonely when I'm surrounded with people than when I'm actually alone.... too sad...

[stan2craz]

i know exactly what you mean. I have that feeling most of the time around people, except around a couple of close friends.

[jehorei]

For me, loneliness has two sides. The positive side is that loneliness let's me reflect about life and know more about myself, the negative effect is that delving in too much results in self-centeredness.

[tamcho27]

to be alone doesnt always mean that you are lonely. i love to be alone sometimes - reading your books,listening to music or dancing all by muself - i love to think and talk to my soul and to god and its always the best to do that when you are alone - or someone might think you are crazy. :)) but there are times when i feel so lonely and so out of place - when the silence is no longer relaxing - its screaming in my ears & makes me want to close my eyes and forget everything. then i pray & smile.

[bqureshi390]

ive been alone for almost a year now, in the sense that i really have no one to talk to..for a year, and its killing me.

[PhilJonesIII]

I always enjoyed my own company. Always the maverick and certainly not ever a team player. Then I met someone that, well, opened my eyes I guess and for 5 years we were inseparable. The perfect complement. She died in 2007.

Every experience since has been lessened because I cannot share it. I hate the 'empty me' that existed before her though still an independent maverick.

No room to write all. Use the 'lonely' time to become a better quality person. We are richer for what they gave us.

[Wizard7AlchemyPoet]

Lonliness is based on the false assumpyion that we are all seperate from each other.....

I have never been lonely since i realized that we are all connected in a very deep way and the energy of the universe is within and around us all the time... :) Much love

[danijellakajishommy]

i...loveee.....this...man!!!!!­

[SonidoLapizlazuli]

So much depends what is going on in my life and how my relationships are going... whatever is going on in some ways is more intense when I am alone... so if I am happy this can be very intense in the privacy of my contemplation, and then if I am sad, it can be so deep, sometimes almost unbearable when I am alone, then I do really feel lonely...

[loulaziz]

hey , as someone had said it's better to be lonely than to have bad companions.

Sometimes i prefer to be lonely, because i need to talk to myself,talk to God, fix thoughts in my mind, cry for a while....But other times i'm fleeing loneliness when i'm feeling disturbed about something, being with people let me forget about it but i know it doesn't solve anything

and sometimes you are lonely even if you are surrunded with thousand of people, you feel nobody understands you ....

[Allyredstar]

I totally agree with you and you say it in a very nice way, compliments!.

[loulaziz]

oh, thank you dear !!

[jimmyh2o]

The only cure for loneliness, is to become aware that you are unconsciously choosing to experience it.

[shasaki2]

It is most definitely a blessing. When you are alone it's much easier to connect with things, evoke emotions inside you. But with someone else, they may affect your feelings, and you may be fake and try to agree with them to be friendly. But you are only your true self, when you're alone.

But I don't consider alone to be completely true. God is always with us all.

[Sazede]

I think that most people they really go searching for themselves knowing themselves!!! when they are alone you can be surrounded by the many people and still feel alone and sometimes you can be alone but feel complete, i do think spiritual person like to be alone with there thoughts that's when all there idea's comes in !!!

[dlsarmiento]

When I am alone I feel more fragile, much more in contact with myself and with the world around me. Sometimes, I see my ghosts, my fears, my worst thoughts, my darkest side. But somehow I have learned to deal with that.

I have cultivated meditation trough the years and -gradually- I have been in contact with myself. It is scary sometimes, but I mostly get the feeling that I am discovery the wisdom of silence. And I like it.

[gimicoffee83]

when you can come to a state of loneliness and you can really rely on your self for motivation, support, etc you have come to a place where being true to yourself is much more easier. I myself, at times, could feel lonely..most of my days are spent at the university library working, thinking, researching, and reading...but when i do start feeling these emotions i stay strong. i play my guitar, journal about my day, read quotes or simply talk to god. but this always reminds me that im only human.

[Akkass1]

sometimes, i need and feel to be alone with my head, and myself, being lonely is sometimes great for me, but in other times, i feel really lonely, and i need someone to talk to, and all i do is read a book, so i think most of the time i am lonely, and i think to me it's great .. but not all the time ..

[RESTLINXXX]

if people would stay alone at home and think about all the things that happen to our world i believe humanity would be far better than that,but most people always want to talk with friends maybe because they are hollow and empty .I agree with mr coelho's opinion when i read the alchemist almost one year ago i prefered stay at home dont know why.(sr for my english)

[TheFlarey]

You must be alone to reflect and to think.

But you cannot always be alone or you will go crazy - you will become angry and hate yourself and maybe commit suicide out of helplessness.

Worse if you are alone too often you may begin to resent others who are happily and innocently living fulfilled lives and think harming them is right because you have no solution to your problems.

Loneliness and despair is at the root of why Hitler turned to evil and why Germans sold their souls to Nazism.

[kamilkap87]

... makes you lose yourself even more.. there is so much beauty in being with other people learning about life as a complex phenomena through them as each of us is a part of the mystery of life... its important & interesting to know others thoughts and feelings trying to identify with them..

[kamilkap87]

... people have 1000 friends on facebook or myspace, they twitter constantly and feel the desire to express every though , each moment in their life in public... we are giving away our privacy... our moments of loneliness to the public... and I'm afraid thus we are loosing ourselves...

SO I think being alone is important at least for an hour each day.. maybe being alone with nature, with your arts, thoughts, etc.. on the other hand living your live lonely & alone...

[kamilkap87]

I've been feeling alone/ lonely for a long time.. then new people entered my life and I wasn't that alone anymore..but still lonely.. and when I finally wasn't that lonely anymore I began to miss my "moments of loneliness" to come to grips with my feelings, my desires , myself....

Today's world can be overwhelming ...

[RudyDestine]

i feel a little alone sometimes. but i read and i study things i like. i think being alone is just me time, i try to use loneliness as a time to just think and relax!