@Dondria Debates: Secret Accounts in a Serious Relationship (Episode 7)

[dees878]

drinking is not a sin, getting drunk is a sin. and it is not a sin to divorce if there was infedelity. the bible says this.

[beenn15]

no one can actually follow the principles in the bible these days... They are antiquated and all we can do is make excuses for how we can't live by them...

Get real... and acknowledge that you're using reason to guide your decisions... you're already doing it... just fess up to it.

[pianogurl1786]

divorce is okay under certain conditions. if you're beating on me oh yes divorce is okay. if you're not happy then, get help. the bible says that divorce is okay if your spouse commits adultery and or abusive relationships

[JayyBayyAbsTrAcT]

arent we not supposed to divorce unless the spouse commits adultery? or sumn like dat

[kenyamilann]

I never read in the bible that drinking was a sin? lmao wtf? and on top of that, How you goin say Divorce is ok so that you wont be unhappy all your life? That goes into me saying that Woman and men get married just to do so. Marraige is not about a wedding it's about making a commitment before god that this is the person yo uwill be with for the rest of your life. How can you go from forever, to not wanting to be married what so ever. Smfh.

[JayyBayyAbsTrAcT]

@kenyamilann Its not a sin to drink period, but you kno da bible tells us not to put ourselves in a predicament where we may sin, its not the drinkin thats the sin, its what we may do while we are drunk you feel me. Though You Should Not Indulge Consistently. for also drinking to much may cause a fatal side effect, and can harm you, which is your choice to drink or not. if you get to that point, (everybody's body is different), then you are basically committing suicide. you feel me?

[blessedbree]

Love those earrings!! #ImJustSaying

[shaneikmusicchannel]

these people had some good points.

[LoveAngel21]

I think having a secret account is viable if the person you are with shows you that they are not capable of spending the money you both share wisely. Otherwise, honesty is always keen. Secret accounts give the impression of a secret life. And if you have nothing to hide then there shouldnt be anything thats secret. If you have seperate accounts both parties should know about it.

[jadams25able]

you should never have a secret account with your spouse. It's not honest, and it's a bad impression going into a marriage. After all, people date with intentions to marry, so be honest as if you were married.

[c0c0puffz]

You should always have a stash just in case he leaves you. It's not a secret.

[godschildkimmy]

i think if u wanna have one...have one....it aint any different from signing a pre nup now is it?

[DonnWalkerTV]

Love you Dondria : ).....phone number?? lol

[BROWNSKIN628]

i think that in a relationship nothing should be hidden from one another..the truth should always be told because it's hard to trust someone after they have something hidden.its fine to have your own account but their should never be a secret in a relationship..

[bfly1]

If I get married my husband and I will have our own accounts its not gonna be a secret. We both are gonna be aware that we have our own account and money. If you make your OWN money it should go into your OWN bank account simple.

[shashabae]

I think that u should be able 2 have a secret account bacause u never no wats going to happen and wen it going to happen so have one for an rainy day or wen every thing goes wrong and u need da money

[bfly1]

@shashabae You shouldnt get married if you have to hide money from your spouse thats just stupid. Just both have your own account it doesnt have to be hidden.

[JazMonae1]

NOTHING should be secret in a marriage. It wont survive those. I'd say its best to just have separate accounts!

[Adiamondzz11]

No, definitely not. Because a secret account means exactly that a secret, you're not able to trust your secret with your spouse or wife and so that can be tied into the relationship. A relationship without trust, well there's no point in keeping it.

[Markindafree]

hey she read my comment : )

[samantha219109]

If someone is hiding a bank account from the person they're married to then they are most likely preparing themselves for a divorce. With that being said, the couple should have never gotten married because obviously the trust was never strong enough in the first place.

[TheEuropeanlove]

Wow such a beautiful young lady, you have really grown since I started watching you.

[waqqid2008]

I think that you should always be open and honest about anything that you do, especially in a relationahip because if you are not honest within the relationship how can that person trust you. With that said that I also think that you should always have a backup plan because you don't know what will happen not just in a relationship but in life. I feel that its always good to have a plan A B C and D because you never know what the next day will bring. I love you Dondria more than you know.

[Royalteeme]

Who even made the rule for joint accounts?? I believe couples should have there own accounts!! as long as the bills etc. are being paid every month he/she doesnt have the right to tell his/her spouse how to spend there money! that to me is controlling!

[leeannm05]

I have a remark to the first comment person... Domestic violence isnt the only reason the Bible says that adultery should be the only reason for divorce. And I feel adultery and domestic violence are groumds for divorce.

[Vinaluv]

I believe in separate accounts but no secrets

[DJKevWest]

I'm not for secret accounts. It just creates tension and the chance for distrust when and if the account is discovered. The idea for a serious relationship is no secrets.

[ariellehallies]

Im getting married soon & we have joined some accounts but not all. Which alleviates the need for a secret account. I am against them, because it shows your spouse that there id a lack of trust & whats companionship without trust?...

[mrswimberly08]

great question i think it depends on who you are married to if your finances are on point and you guys both equally spend or use the money as needed then no but if you have a person who likes to spend and doesnt have their priorities together or they take from you then i dont see a problem with it and once the marriage becomes solid again then you can let that person know this is what i have saved because you werent doing so

[Musicfanatic777z]

a guy's perspective: We were born individuals so that we can make individual decisions. A spouse shouldn't be concerned about what their mate has financially. Therefore, a "secret" account is well within your individual rights to have. "YOUR rights," and strictly meaning your personal money (not that of your spouse due to malicious intent or establishing your very own, homemade 401K plan at your spouse's expense). Just stay within your own financial boundaries and all will be tolerable.

[haitizfinest188]

no I don't think it's good to have secret account. That to me means your hiding something. Especially with the intent of "JUST IN CASE",That means you are not confident in the relationship that you two have and your not working hard enough to keep it solid. I'm not at all saving that you shouldn't be prepared, but there's no need for secrecy. There should be no secrets in a union because your both are now one. I think it's okay if both parties do have a separate account.

[Doowyahllerret]

depends on how yu makin that secret money, and if there was no issues tho then there shouldnt be a problem. but yu shouldnt really keep shit secret in a serious relationship

[loveofyourlife23]

Its not right to have money that your girl/guy knows about. If there is a shared responsibility. Then all money goes to help. There's no reason to hide money unless.. There's something else your hiding. Secret accounts are unnecessary. And disrespectful. Its showing your hiding things and what else could you actually be hiding.

[moshionamani]

Having a separate account is ok it's the secret part tht Im ify about. Thts lyk living a secret life. I believe n being as honest as i would wnt my significant other to b with me. We must remember to treat ppl the way u wnt to b treated wtbs the answer lies n the real question which now applies: wat would u do nd feel if u found out ur significant other had a secret account?

[singingcatori52]

I'm young and still have much to learn but I feel as if a secret account means you have something to hide. Be open with your spouse tell them you have an account that you would like to keep personal and if they have a problem with it you can work it out from there. besides secrets always have away of getting out of their box...

[nyeelah1795]

just tell your spouse that you have a secret account and say that they can not hav access to it because if that spouse found out that you had a secret account later it will blow up to alot of drama so just state that you have the account and even say why you have the account i mean having a seperate account doesnt mean its a "just in case" account but you might have certain reasons why you want money where is dont let that one secret or create an obstacle in your marriage which you couldve avoid

[nyeelah1795]

i like the comment from lorealparisdior

[kooleybabii]

I agree mostly with the first person. In the Bible, the only thing I've seen that allows for a divorce is if the man cheated on the woman or vice versa (Matthew 5: 31-32). As far as violence, that's why you go to the Lord in prayer beforehand & let Him bring you a husband, though you should get out of the marriage, you may not be able to re-marry. Marriage was & still is to us Christians, intended to be a permanent arrangement. 

[writeserengeti13]

When a couple operates, in any way, as if they are not one, the relationship will fail. Period. Yeah you have have separate accounts, but having a secret account denotes mental and physical separation so that relationship is destined to fail.

[allcityny]

TRUST!!! HOW CAN YOU EXPECT TO HAVE TRUST IF YOUR UNTRUST WORTHY?

[doiloveu]

I think that you can have a secret account only when its used for good use. Like on "Jumping The Broom" Angela had a secret account only for when if the family happens to go broke it was for recovering. But.. Other than that I would disagree. Secret accounts could land into a world of trouble. So i said only for a good use.

[Schanice26Videos]

reminds me of Kelly from the game "mad money" lmaoo her secret account from Jason pitts!

[wcbarrolle]

if your are MARRIED THEN yes its a problem but if ya just together and living together then that is for the birds. i have 5, 6, 7 accounts that i wont tell my boyfriend about. kick rocks.

[BADINCORPORATED]

In my opinion as long as the bills are being paid for (on time) with the help of both parties then a separate personal account is fine. BUT I do not feel like it should be a secret. I think if you can't be open & honest with your partner about that then that's a whole different issue.

[deejea08]

what is your opinion about these debates?

[HALLA25]

Hey Dondria my name is Niecy Williams. No! No secrets accounts! I think that a married couple should be open and honest about finances! A marriage should never be based on secret and lies. If anything that is something that will tear a couple apart. Honestly if your keeping a secret that means your afraid of your marriage, or afraid of your husband or wife in a sense or you just cant trust them. Just be honest and say listen I have this account Im keeping for my future,but dont hide it 4 what?

[y3rlo]

backup. most def. you can depend on that person for ever. if you guys are married and the other person f's up financially then you have that extra to help out with buttttt its always good to have one in secret cause hey who knows what they can do and you end up being on your own. you got something to fall back on. financially speaking.

[big8stane]

I feel like with a married or engaged couple there should be no secret accounts because you then have a relationship based upon lies and that is the person you're supposed to spend your life with. Now with any other relationship I feel that is fine, because you aren't vowed to that person and you dont know if that relationship will last.

[xXSavageJayXx]

Dondria needs to MARRY ME!!!!

[blackafroninja1]

SO SEXI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!­

[Try2MakeSenseOrSTFU]

If you feel you need to hide money from someone that you're supposed to trust then really...what's the point? Because the way I see it, hiding money is just a symptom of a greater problem → A SERIOUS LACK OF TRUST. Either you can't trust her, or she shouldn't trust you because you're just being sneaky and selfish. Get out now before it gets ugly. The only reason you should ever need a "secret account" is to save your dough so you can move! lol How do I know this?

[AaireBabe]

i dont think that people should have secret accounts... but i do think that they should have their own personal accounts in addition to a joint account. no secrets.. it never ends well!

[msindianbeauty]

If there's sex going on outside of your marriage... get a divorce!!

[Betty3Jean]

loving the hair and make-up Dondria!! Beautiful!!

[daonlyjuicy100]

I feel that if you are not married there is nothing wrong with having a secret account. I mean there may be things that your significant other may not share with you at the time. In a marriage, it would be different because in a case like that a couple because one union.

[brandonlamarmusic]

WHAT ABOUT SECRET FACEBOOK ACCOUNTS??????? LOL

[LovelyAprilBaby]

I don't think they should be secret. But separate, ooo yea. I always say, if/when I get married, I will def have my own account. Ain't no need for it to be secret, because I would let my spouse know up front, we will not be joining out money. You keep your money in your account, pocket, or whatever, and i'll keep mine in my own account. But I dont think there should be secret accounts in a relationship!!!

[ambi101]

no secret accts when you're in a relationship that's my thing

[MrJMel901]

YEAH ALWAYS HAVE A PLAN B!!!!!!

[DeLoreanPromo]

Heyyyyy D.

[koolaidofthegtwins]

dondria what is your contact/collab/booking information!???

[hamybabe]

@koolaidofthegtwins in the Info Box

[shaneikmusicchannel]

@koolaidofthegtwins it's in the description boX CLICK the more info icon