Sure these things aren't true but personally I've never heard anyone say they =were= true. Maybe they're assumptions that people with no experience might have, maybe they're fears that the concerned would harbour. I've literally never heard anyone say *all* trauma makes PTSD, nor that *all* PTSD requires professional help, etc.
I'll take his word that some US TV talking head said the third one. The lesson there is don't get your info from TV esp. not US!
Well therapist!! HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN A WAR? HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN A DANGER OF BEING RAPED AND THEN YOUR BREASTS CUT OFF AND YOUR NECK SLOUGTHERED?? HAVE YOU EVER HAVE TO HIDE YOURSELF IN A BASEMENT? HAVE YOU EVER CROWL ON THE STREET BECAUSE IF YOU STOOD UP SNIPERS SURROUNDING YOUR CITY WOULD SHOOT YOU?? HAVE YOU EVER HAD BULLETS PASSING NEXT TO YOUR HEAD? HAVE YOU SEEN YOUR MOTHER KILLED? HAVE YOU SEEN FINGERS AND HUMAN BRAIN LOOKING LIKE A JELLY ON THE STREET WHERE YOU HAVE TO CROWL. GRANATES
hi billOHanlon i have to say your completely right i use to have PTSD and to my surprise during one of many days where i pleaded for it to just F OFF it actualy did i didnt even know what PTSD was i just thought it was my existance and having that be my reality and so during a episode as i was relfecting thinking mk ive had this all my teen life and if this is my existance for ever onward i dont want to exist and from that it was like my subconcious had scared the PTSD away
O'Hanlon is not saying "just get over it", for those making these comments, they didn't listen closely to what he had to say, nor is he stigmatizing people with the problem. For those who don't know, he's considered one of the top therapists and trainer of psychotherapists in the country and studied with Milton Erickson (look him up). I doubt that he has no concern for people's suffering, as some have claimed, I've met him and admire his work. Check out his other posts before judging.
I suffered really badly from anxiety after leaving a violent boyfriend, and although I still have flashbacks and feel agitated sometimes, it's nothing like when I first left. Time is a healer and I do appreciate the good people in my life a lot more now, and consider my actions towards people. I didn't want PTSD, but I got it through living in a stressful environment for so long. The brain heals just like any other organ when it's aloud to function properly.
I thought this would be worth a mention. I discovered that (for me at least) when having a flashback and you're shaking and feeling sick, sweating etc, fill a basin with warm water, and put your feet in it. It worked for me, just totally took me out of it. I had a flashback at a relatives house (mid convo, not cool), and she noticed that I was shaking. I tried to shrug it off as cold, but I think she knew that something was up, and gave me a basin of hot water to put my feet in.
PTSD is not something that you can ever get over. I know, since I've had it for 2 years. I cannot talk about what happened to me without shaking and sweating, and it takes hours to calm down. I have at least one instance of anxiety a day, and often spend hours feeling uneasy and paranoid. I get flashbacks and nightmares, and I find it very hard to have any social life at all. I have a lot of friends that I don't talk to anymore because I can't be the person that I was before.
@SuperGeo1987 Have you gone to therapy or had EMDR? I know it's torture and it may sound like I'm trying to put your experience down, but in the grand scheme of things 2 years is not enough time to say that you will never get over something, or even worse that something is impossible for anyone to get over.
look up 'trauma releasing exercises' by dr berceli. If you are at home just allow the shaking to happen and observe what your body is doing without thinking you're going paranoid. The trembling and shaking is because ur body wants to process and release the emotions. B surpressing them, they stay locked in the body and you remain traumatized. These exercies allow you to release them
I can understand what he's saying about "not everyone needs therapy". But I think the word "resilience" that keeps getting thrown about these days is a very unfortunate choice. It can make it sound as if those who are strong enough can deal with it and not get therapy. I think the matter is far more complex than that.
Some contributing factors can be the duration of the trauma, the severity of the trauma, any other incidents that happened around the time, how other people responded, etc.
Thanks also for encouraging words regarding ability to overcome PTSD. I have been supressing memories of the root causes and the effects of PTSD since my earliest childhood all my life and am at a point where it is truly haunting me EVERY DAY. It is as though I can no longer hide from it. So, I do need to have hope that I could have a normal ife.
You are right re positive as PTSD (among the other problems) made me strong ... though I prefer a normal life.
I have PSTD and must say that I agree with what this dude is saying. I have has this disorder for over 15yrs now and yes I can take away positive's from the abuse. It made me stronger mentally but it has also made me emotionally numb. So where they is a positive they is always a negative.
I think we all are numb. We spend all our lives building this iron curtain around our heart to protect us from being hurt. But you then realise that is better to have emotion than none at all.
"Not everyone" means that - that doesn't mean "no-one". It's the same kind of statement as "Not everyone that contracts cancer dies from it", or "Not everyone that smokes 40 a day actually gets lung cancer" - which are valid statements. From what I know about it (I have PTSD and I've read into it), whether or not the trauma becomes chronic depends as much on what happens after the trauma (support and validation from outside, personal coping mechanisms etc.) as the trauma itself.
o'hanlon, you are full of b.s. unless you have ptsd, you don't know wtf you are talking about. your "suggestions' are worthless. you are worthless. don't answer desperate emails; your main concern is money and being seen on oprah. you have no real concern or care for those of us suffering! i think you are a piece of......
Wisely spoken textbook answers.I do not think you have experienced chronic, severe PTSD. But you do earn all the good points because I think you care. On the other hand if you agreed there wasn't a cure you would be out of business. You might also want to explain the difference in degrees of PTSD.
I have PTSD, but I avoid the subject at all costs. I do the avoidance thing. So for you to say I'm stuck in the past is -um- not true. I also don't have PTSD to the debilitating degree that some do, but it's definitely an issue in my life, which is why I'm trying at great pain to myself to learn something. I wish this could have helped more. None of these videos on You Tube seem to offer solutions.
one important thing is to understand, that a trauma is caused by an event which destroys an essential part of the selfconcept of the affected person, it doesn't matter if this is physical or psychical.
I strongly disagree that not everybody needs to go to therapy to get help for trauma. That ties into the same old "just get over it and carry on" garbage that many victims/survivors get when they try to get help and NOBODY listens.
Overduechange, I think you've misheard what this bloke has to say. The fact is, not EVERYONE needs therapy. Some DO, some DON"T. Please explain how this equates to "just get over it etc etc". Please allow people to get over their trauma in a way that works for them, and dump the therapeutic fascism.
Sure these things aren't true but personally I've never heard anyone say they =were= true. Maybe they're assumptions that people with no experience might have, maybe they're fears that the concerned would harbour. I've literally never heard anyone say *all* trauma makes PTSD, nor that *all* PTSD requires professional help, etc.
I'll take his word that some US TV talking head said the third one. The lesson there is don't get your info from TV esp. not US!
fourplusseven 1 month ago
Well therapist!! HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN A WAR? HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN A DANGER OF BEING RAPED AND THEN YOUR BREASTS CUT OFF AND YOUR NECK SLOUGTHERED?? HAVE YOU EVER HAVE TO HIDE YOURSELF IN A BASEMENT? HAVE YOU EVER CROWL ON THE STREET BECAUSE IF YOU STOOD UP SNIPERS SURROUNDING YOUR CITY WOULD SHOOT YOU?? HAVE YOU EVER HAD BULLETS PASSING NEXT TO YOUR HEAD? HAVE YOU SEEN YOUR MOTHER KILLED? HAVE YOU SEEN FINGERS AND HUMAN BRAIN LOOKING LIKE A JELLY ON THE STREET WHERE YOU HAVE TO CROWL. GRANATES
Sitaramdasi 4 months ago
hi billOHanlon i have to say your completely right i use to have PTSD and to my surprise during one of many days where i pleaded for it to just F OFF it actualy did i didnt even know what PTSD was i just thought it was my existance and having that be my reality and so during a episode as i was relfecting thinking mk ive had this all my teen life and if this is my existance for ever onward i dont want to exist and from that it was like my subconcious had scared the PTSD away
likewaterjkd 4 months ago
Thank you!!! This video gave hope... Thank you so much!!!
Gungbjornen 9 months ago
O'Hanlon is not saying "just get over it", for those making these comments, they didn't listen closely to what he had to say, nor is he stigmatizing people with the problem. For those who don't know, he's considered one of the top therapists and trainer of psychotherapists in the country and studied with Milton Erickson (look him up). I doubt that he has no concern for people's suffering, as some have claimed, I've met him and admire his work. Check out his other posts before judging.
alansalmi 11 months ago 4
f-tard
MrInthenameofthefree 11 months ago
Sounds like he just wants to tell people with PTSD to just "get over it". Obviously he has zero personal experience with this at all.
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stanny111 1 year ago
I suffered really badly from anxiety after leaving a violent boyfriend, and although I still have flashbacks and feel agitated sometimes, it's nothing like when I first left. Time is a healer and I do appreciate the good people in my life a lot more now, and consider my actions towards people. I didn't want PTSD, but I got it through living in a stressful environment for so long. The brain heals just like any other organ when it's aloud to function properly.
bluegreen925 1 year ago
This guy is completely full of sh*t. Better connections with loved ones because of "the trauma" ? Typical load of garbage.
JamesB609 1 year ago 2
ptsd is absolutely totureous at times.
pricelesspam 1 year ago
I thought this would be worth a mention. I discovered that (for me at least) when having a flashback and you're shaking and feeling sick, sweating etc, fill a basin with warm water, and put your feet in it. It worked for me, just totally took me out of it. I had a flashback at a relatives house (mid convo, not cool), and she noticed that I was shaking. I tried to shrug it off as cold, but I think she knew that something was up, and gave me a basin of hot water to put my feet in.
SuperGeo1987 1 year ago
PTSD is not something that you can ever get over. I know, since I've had it for 2 years. I cannot talk about what happened to me without shaking and sweating, and it takes hours to calm down. I have at least one instance of anxiety a day, and often spend hours feeling uneasy and paranoid. I get flashbacks and nightmares, and I find it very hard to have any social life at all. I have a lot of friends that I don't talk to anymore because I can't be the person that I was before.
SuperGeo1987 1 year ago
@SuperGeo1987 Have you gone to therapy or had EMDR? I know it's torture and it may sound like I'm trying to put your experience down, but in the grand scheme of things 2 years is not enough time to say that you will never get over something, or even worse that something is impossible for anyone to get over.
suzywao 1 year ago
@SuperGeo1987
look up 'trauma releasing exercises' by dr berceli. If you are at home just allow the shaking to happen and observe what your body is doing without thinking you're going paranoid. The trembling and shaking is because ur body wants to process and release the emotions. B surpressing them, they stay locked in the body and you remain traumatized. These exercies allow you to release them
dromycatcher 1 year ago
I can understand what he's saying about "not everyone needs therapy". But I think the word "resilience" that keeps getting thrown about these days is a very unfortunate choice. It can make it sound as if those who are strong enough can deal with it and not get therapy. I think the matter is far more complex than that.
Some contributing factors can be the duration of the trauma, the severity of the trauma, any other incidents that happened around the time, how other people responded, etc.
Bhilithinn 2 years ago
Thanks for posting.
Thanks also for encouraging words regarding ability to overcome PTSD. I have been supressing memories of the root causes and the effects of PTSD since my earliest childhood all my life and am at a point where it is truly haunting me EVERY DAY. It is as though I can no longer hide from it. So, I do need to have hope that I could have a normal ife.
You are right re positive as PTSD (among the other problems) made me strong ... though I prefer a normal life.
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HigherGlobal 2 years ago
Thanks doc, wise words
iwanwh 2 years ago
I have PSTD and must say that I agree with what this dude is saying. I have has this disorder for over 15yrs now and yes I can take away positive's from the abuse. It made me stronger mentally but it has also made me emotionally numb. So where they is a positive they is always a negative.
kellswalter 2 years ago
I don't understand do you feel its positive to be emotionally numb
breakofdawn26 2 years ago
No thats the negative, but it can be helpful when it comes to distressing memories. Makes it easier to deal with.
kellswalter 2 years ago
I believe I'm emotionally numb as well. But good advice
breakofdawn26 2 years ago
I think we all are numb. We spend all our lives building this iron curtain around our heart to protect us from being hurt. But you then realise that is better to have emotion than none at all.
kellswalter 2 years ago
I'm really wondering after reading your first comment how did you deal with pstd for 15 yrs. Where you in therapy all those yrs
breakofdawn26 2 years ago
"Not everyone" means that - that doesn't mean "no-one". It's the same kind of statement as "Not everyone that contracts cancer dies from it", or "Not everyone that smokes 40 a day actually gets lung cancer" - which are valid statements. From what I know about it (I have PTSD and I've read into it), whether or not the trauma becomes chronic depends as much on what happens after the trauma (support and validation from outside, personal coping mechanisms etc.) as the trauma itself.
davex158 3 years ago
o'hanlon, you are full of b.s. unless you have ptsd, you don't know wtf you are talking about. your "suggestions' are worthless. you are worthless. don't answer desperate emails; your main concern is money and being seen on oprah. you have no real concern or care for those of us suffering! i think you are a piece of......
SomeWantDeth 3 years ago
Wisely spoken textbook answers.I do not think you have experienced chronic, severe PTSD. But you do earn all the good points because I think you care. On the other hand if you agreed there wasn't a cure you would be out of business. You might also want to explain the difference in degrees of PTSD.
knowledgewatcher 3 years ago 2
clear accurate concise... well done, Thank you Bill.
Best regards,
D. Woodward (PTSD - recovering well)
mukappa56 3 years ago
I have PTSD, but I avoid the subject at all costs. I do the avoidance thing. So for you to say I'm stuck in the past is -um- not true. I also don't have PTSD to the debilitating degree that some do, but it's definitely an issue in my life, which is why I'm trying at great pain to myself to learn something. I wish this could have helped more. None of these videos on You Tube seem to offer solutions.
jedimasterbooboo 3 years ago
Very interesting!
nieblanegra 3 years ago
Are you speaking from experience/have you ever been diagnosed with PTSD?. I have and your video has only helped to add to the stigms in society.
Taminga9 3 years ago 2
one important thing is to understand, that a trauma is caused by an event which destroys an essential part of the selfconcept of the affected person, it doesn't matter if this is physical or psychical.
GoetzimRegen 3 years ago 2
What does he tell male rape victims to do? Just get over it and eventually it will go away?
OverdueChange 4 years ago
I strongly disagree that not everybody needs to go to therapy to get help for trauma. That ties into the same old "just get over it and carry on" garbage that many victims/survivors get when they try to get help and NOBODY listens.
Very poor advice IMO.
OverdueChange 4 years ago
Overduechange, I think you've misheard what this bloke has to say. The fact is, not EVERYONE needs therapy. Some DO, some DON"T. Please explain how this equates to "just get over it etc etc". Please allow people to get over their trauma in a way that works for them, and dump the therapeutic fascism.
fredkeys 4 years ago 2
Bill is avery compassionate, helpful man.
oceanbodysurfer 4 years ago
This is very timely as I have seen all these myths expressed by veterans or those who work with veterans.
pauloswego 4 years ago
This is excellent.
bearfire1954 4 years ago
A very good information.
APMHA 4 years ago
Extremely interesting video. Very helpful. nv
nevadawier 4 years ago