@MusingsofCris Well , I've got one better. Cami's Dad never remembers her birthday..EVER..and it's on Sept 11th. You'd think that was was an easy one to remember, even if it wasn't his own daughter.
Take care my brother from a darker mother. We'll have to get together soon...
@BoozyBeggar-today was another snow day... My office closed for the whole day, but it got a lot better at about 1pm... hopefully your new appointment wasn't today...
definitely sounds like a slap in the face from your dad so you're right to take it that way. the solace is that life will inevitably have bummers and calamities so there's no need lamenting them. it's a shitty circumstance but it can't stop you from pursuing and achieving a happy life.
I wish you would do more videos. I like your conversational style and appreciate the way you discuss everyday observations. Today's video reminds me of an issue I have with my husband and son. They Never remember my birthday. Year after year, I know I will be disappointed and irritated. They say *Just remind us!*. But, no. That wouldn't be the same.....if they got me a card because I reminded them, the card would be a piece of paper, empty of sentiment for me. I try not to care.
The issue with you and your dad is a pretty good example of that weird kind of personal dilemma. I don't think you're overreacting to be hurt by that, though as you said there's no clear way to resolve it. I still don't think there's any harm in talking about it though; privately of course. I feel like candidness is extremely important whether or not you feel as if you're blowing it out of proportion. If you reflect on it and find that you were overreacting for some reason it's a chance to grow.
And of course if you talk and still feel as if you aren't -- you're at least being honest about it. Otherwise it seems as though you're hiding who you are from someone. I make no claims to know how close you two are, but shouldn't a friendship or any close relationship be about sharing with someone the person, not that you'd like them to think you are, but who you actually are?
@NumenDivinum (pt 1 of 2) - If I were to tell my dad that it bugged me, he would immediately apologize and put pictures of me and my brother on his page. We are sons from his first marriage, a marriage to a woman he hated. He talked about her horribly when we were little, but he loved us. He remarried while I was still a baby, and he considers my stepmother the love of his life. That's cool, and they had two kids.. cont
@NumenDivinum (pt 2 of 2)- I would wonder sometimes if I was part of a time he would rather forget. He gets a facebook account, and he posts things from when he was a kid, a marine in Vietnam, a section dedicated to my step-mom, and a folder for his kids. My brother and I aren't on anything. Left to his own desires, this is what he chooses to do. I want him to want to include us, but I have to make peace with the fact that it hasn't occurred to him.
@CognosSquare - listen, it isn't that I care so much about my dad's photos... he posts a lot of photos. I am not filled with anticipation waiting for my dad to post new photos. That isn't the point. If he made a list of his kids and left me and my brother off of it, I would be just as offended. but like I said... it is stupid, and who gives a fuck? Relationships are what they are...
Oh, and congratulations on the snow. I love it. Wichita just got a Blizzard a few days ago and it was like heaven, the only time I'd gone for a walk in years. I can't stand clear skies, but overcast, snow, and rain is just amazing. It makes me feel more secure, as if a big shell is protecting me. The wind chill biting at my face keeps reminding me of how my head is a shell for my thoughts.
I could just wander the streets for hours during a cold day.
This is the kind of stuff that I'm not interested in dealing with. I made a facebook account a long time ago because a friend told me to do so, but not having many friends, I had no idea what the point of it was. About a year later a bunch of people back from High School were friending me, people I didn't even know. It was ridiculous. I don't want to talk to these fucking people.
I haven't logged in again after the first time, I don't even know if there's an option to delete it. Annoying.
Dude, just post an album on Facebook called "My Dad" and just leave the fucking thing blank
DeadChewy 1 year ago
@DeadChewy - now that's fucking funny!
MusingsofCris 1 year ago
@MusingsofCris Well , I've got one better. Cami's Dad never remembers her birthday..EVER..and it's on Sept 11th. You'd think that was was an easy one to remember, even if it wasn't his own daughter.
Take care my brother from a darker mother. We'll have to get together soon...
DeadChewy 1 year ago
@DeadChewy - we do...
MusingsofCris 1 year ago
Texas doesn't know how to deal with snow. DT Dallas was shit. I missed an appointment on friday that's gonna take awhile to reschedule.
BoozyBeggar 1 year ago
@BoozyBeggar-today was another snow day... My office closed for the whole day, but it got a lot better at about 1pm... hopefully your new appointment wasn't today...
MusingsofCris 1 year ago
definitely sounds like a slap in the face from your dad so you're right to take it that way. the solace is that life will inevitably have bummers and calamities so there's no need lamenting them. it's a shitty circumstance but it can't stop you from pursuing and achieving a happy life.
halladaylover 1 year ago
I wish you would do more videos. I like your conversational style and appreciate the way you discuss everyday observations. Today's video reminds me of an issue I have with my husband and son. They Never remember my birthday. Year after year, I know I will be disappointed and irritated. They say *Just remind us!*. But, no. That wouldn't be the same.....if they got me a card because I reminded them, the card would be a piece of paper, empty of sentiment for me. I try not to care.
8journey8 1 year ago
@8journey8 -PRECISELY!
MusingsofCris 1 year ago
The issue with you and your dad is a pretty good example of that weird kind of personal dilemma. I don't think you're overreacting to be hurt by that, though as you said there's no clear way to resolve it. I still don't think there's any harm in talking about it though; privately of course. I feel like candidness is extremely important whether or not you feel as if you're blowing it out of proportion. If you reflect on it and find that you were overreacting for some reason it's a chance to grow.
NumenDivinum 1 year ago
@NumenDivinum
And of course if you talk and still feel as if you aren't -- you're at least being honest about it. Otherwise it seems as though you're hiding who you are from someone. I make no claims to know how close you two are, but shouldn't a friendship or any close relationship be about sharing with someone the person, not that you'd like them to think you are, but who you actually are?
NumenDivinum 1 year ago
@NumenDivinum (pt 1 of 2) - If I were to tell my dad that it bugged me, he would immediately apologize and put pictures of me and my brother on his page. We are sons from his first marriage, a marriage to a woman he hated. He talked about her horribly when we were little, but he loved us. He remarried while I was still a baby, and he considers my stepmother the love of his life. That's cool, and they had two kids.. cont
MusingsofCris 1 year ago
@NumenDivinum (pt 2 of 2)- I would wonder sometimes if I was part of a time he would rather forget. He gets a facebook account, and he posts things from when he was a kid, a marine in Vietnam, a section dedicated to my step-mom, and a folder for his kids. My brother and I aren't on anything. Left to his own desires, this is what he chooses to do. I want him to want to include us, but I have to make peace with the fact that it hasn't occurred to him.
MusingsofCris 1 year ago
Sweet that you care so much about your dads photos.
CognosSquare 1 year ago
@CognosSquare - listen, it isn't that I care so much about my dad's photos... he posts a lot of photos. I am not filled with anticipation waiting for my dad to post new photos. That isn't the point. If he made a list of his kids and left me and my brother off of it, I would be just as offended. but like I said... it is stupid, and who gives a fuck? Relationships are what they are...
MusingsofCris 1 year ago
Oh, and congratulations on the snow. I love it. Wichita just got a Blizzard a few days ago and it was like heaven, the only time I'd gone for a walk in years. I can't stand clear skies, but overcast, snow, and rain is just amazing. It makes me feel more secure, as if a big shell is protecting me. The wind chill biting at my face keeps reminding me of how my head is a shell for my thoughts.
I could just wander the streets for hours during a cold day.
Deldrone 1 year ago
This is the kind of stuff that I'm not interested in dealing with. I made a facebook account a long time ago because a friend told me to do so, but not having many friends, I had no idea what the point of it was. About a year later a bunch of people back from High School were friending me, people I didn't even know. It was ridiculous. I don't want to talk to these fucking people.
I haven't logged in again after the first time, I don't even know if there's an option to delete it. Annoying.
Deldrone 1 year ago