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  • It Gets Better, says Kate Bornstein...mazl tov, playa

  • Im not gay

  • this made me feel so much better, thank you <3

  • awesome person, we need more like you in this f***ed up world!!! ;-)

  • You just watch this video and you are impossible not to love, I want to be like you when I grow up :) Thank you for existing, you are an amazing beautiful person.

  • i really needed this. i cant thank you enough.

  • i wish you were my mom... <3 

  • I'm not religious in any way... but that is the most amazing, wonderful, sweet thing to offer anyone...

  • I've always liked this video, but I really needed it today. I don't quite know what I'm going to do next, but I feel a little more equipped to figure it out now. Thank you so much for the love and support. I hope I can meet you in person one day and tell you that you saved my life.

  • YOU'RE MY HERO.

  • Thank you Kate!!

    Thank you Bree for sharing!!

    Your get out of hell free card touches my heart

    Its good to know someone is caring!!

    I love you too xoxox

  • I know its been over a year since this video was posted, but every time I'm feeling extremely down I come back to it, it makes me feel far more better about myself than I thought possible. Thank you.

  • thank you, so much.

  • Thank you for being alive and for being you xox.

  • You're a doll, really! oh God I love you Kate ;)

  • Wow, your THE shit.

    LOVE YOU!!!!

  • are you a transvestite?

  • How does this not have more than a million views?

  • Umm...I think there's another rule that you're not mentioning: Don't do drugs. I know that you can't succeed in life by getting loaded. Don't be mean? That's a distant second. But thanx for the get out of hell free card anyway.

  • Are you a tv? You look like one...just sayin'.

  • thank you for touching.

  • What an awesome person you are.

  • This is just too wonderful for words.....mostly I'm left with a strong feeling that I really, really want to be besties with Auntie Kate. So very glad you exist, Miss Kate.

  • Thank u so much =)

  • Thank you so much you are amazing these it gets Better videos are helping me so much

  • I needed this. Thank you

  • This is just... ♥ You're a beautiful person, Auntie Kate, and I'm so glad I found this video. I've been convinced lately that it's not going to get better, but I think with this get out of hell free card, it'll start to. ♥

    Thank you again for being the person you are!

  • Oh, how I LOVE The Gender Outlaw herself! Jesus H. Christ, Kate, you're The Bomb! I'm age 56, nearly 2 years on HRT myself and may or may NOT have SRS. Yours was done by Dr. Eugene Schrang? Then, the plumbing works and so does the electricity.

    This God trip you describe is THE THING, above all else, bumming me out. Transition cost me my 20+-year marriage and much else ... sigh. What can I say.

    My all-time favorite T-girl is Kate Bornstein. Hail to The Gender Outlaw! Lacey.

  • I absolutely love this. It makes me feel so much better when I watch it...because of things that I can relate to. And the realness of it. Thank you so much for posting this... I <3 you so much!!!!

  • Every time I contemplate doing "the honorable thing" I always come to the conclusion that there's no future in it.

  • You are brave, brilliant, and most importantly SO CUTE! Thank you kate.

  • Kate , I could never explain to you what this video did to me. I love you, you are wonderful. most beautiful person I have ever seen. and thank you for being the one to save me again xoxo -3

  • This is the best and most beautiful thing I have ever seen :) i might need this in the future :) You are such an incredible person <3 THANK YOU!!!!!!!

  • you've saved me so many times. you are so beautiful and glamorous and wonderful. i wish you could be my aunt or grandma or somehow be part of family and a mentor to me.

  • Dear Aunt Kate,

    There aren't enough characters for stupid youtube comments for me to tell you how much your book and this video mean to me. I had a horrible day today, baked a cake, at all of it, killed all of those motherf***ers, and then. . . cried out of angst. I finished your book afterwards, and watched this video and my tears became those of happiness. Thanks so much. This all made it a lot more worth living.

    Thanks,

    -Jess

  • you are gucking awsome

  • Thank you for this; it made my day! If everyone had an aunt like you, the world would be a kinder, better place.

  • OMG, you lady are amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Wow this is the best it gets better video yet. You told it like it is. Sometimes no matter how much they say things are magically going to get better they also get worse. There is always bad times but you are saved if you remember the good. But what if I don't want to get outta hell free? I've been told pretty much everyone I know is going to hell by a campus preacher who chases students around campus and It got me to thinking. If everyone I know is going to hell then hell has to be fun.

  • I love this video! Your advice to not be mean should be taught in every school every where!

  • Oh oh oh oh and I just noticed that you were @ Elliot Bay Books in Seattle last year and I missed it! Eeegad! Don't expect you to answer this, but will you be doing a book tour next summer for your memoir? Would love to meet you.

  • Oh man. I just finished Gender Outlaw and was thinking 'Hmm, I wonder what Kate Bornstein is like nowdays...' Thank you internet. As a 17 year-old freak watching this video and seeing that you are possibly even more badass than ever I am filled with hope that it doesn't have to all go downhill. I tend to watch these 'It Gets Better' videos with a raised eyebrow...but I think this is actually what people need. Permission to do what needs to be done to save themselves. Much love. <3

  • i cried while watching this video . Thanks alot . It really touch my heart

  • I'm Crying... jeez. been a long time since that happened. I took the get out of hell card :') but couldn't use it. i couldn't let someone do my time. thats horrible :') You're a wonderful person... jeez :') ah. You deserve a nobel prize or something on this video alone i've not even watched your other stuff yet. You're an amazing person!! Thankyou <3 <3

  • You Saved my life.

    i love you

    ur an angel from above,

    ur awesome

  • @TheShortyFilms1 I'm really glad to hear you're alive, and I hope you get at least one giggle a day from now on. As to the angel part, yeah, well you were my angel when I read your comment. xoxo K

  • @katebornstein Thank you <3

  • Oh my god I love you you need to be my grandmother

  • @YouMayApplaud Oy, that would be so much fun. K

  • Dear BanditDarko, No need to be sad. You told me, and I heard. Thank you—your words mean a lot to me, too. As do all the sweet words that people are leaving here. xoxo Auntie Kate

  • @katebornstein Glad my words made their way to you after all (: Thank you again, take care

  • I'm not even gay, her word mean hope, confort and are an ispiration to everyone who feels alone and miserable in general.

    In a way it's kind of sad because I won't ever be able to tell her how much her words meant to me today.

  • She reminds me of my grandma in a way. All I want to do is hug her :)

  • Kate, You are an inspiring woman. I have read some parts of Hello Cruel World from Goggle preview books, I couldn't buy it because I live with someone who's transphobic, but the book helped me accept myself more when I just learned about my gender identity and this video is also inspiring :) I hope to hear more from you soon.

  • Dear Kate,

    I am truly amazed by your firece ways and I am so thankful I've found you!

    I've just read "gender outlaw" (I know, only now? I am only in my mid.-twenties, so pleeze forgive me*), and there were so many things in it that where so enlightening and heartthrillingly true, I still do not understand why ppl do not act on it and we finally abolish the gender-binary. Would make a lot of things so much easier for a lot of ppl.

  • Wow, truly amazing. So eloquently said, everything. Incredibly moving and enthralling. Kate, you pulled me in from, "hello." Please keep speaking and spreading your passion. Much love

  • This video always makes me smile.

  • Awesome!

  • Wow. I love this. I'm not gay, but thank God for people like you. I'm sure you've touched countless lives in the gay and lesbian community. Thanks for opening your heart to them!

  • I've read her books (some of them at least), "Gender Outlaw", "My Gender Workbook", and "Nearly Roadkill"... own those three in fact... and I loved her books.

    I love her message and I so want to believe that it really will "get better." I just don't know if I can always believe it.

  • @kairiroses I've thought that before too... But I always found something, sometimes a really crazy, silly, stupid something and it worked. Maybe not right away, sometimes it takes a while, but it always worked. Kate saved my life, not just the first time when she showed me how to make my own life worth living, for ME, but every time after that, when I didn't slide down as far cause I knew how to catch myself. It really does get better ;)

  • @kairiroses hang in there sweetie. and if you can find a copy of "hello cruel world", i just read it and it was really great. x

  • this woman.

  • I came out of the closest,four days ago.

    My friends disowned me for it,so ive been watching these videos,but yours made me cry,i loved it,i love you:)xx

  • Does it get better?, I can remember days when I worked at a forge and a punch press for my dad. Asking myself, how long can this go on? I was a 19 yr old with absolutely no future. The work was hard, noisy, hot, oily and dirty. I was HS drop out, I had rotten teeth. a social outcast with the draftboard after me. Gee! all this and I get dragged over to Vietnam to get butchered. Somehow I survived and it got better.

  • Hey I just ordered Hello Cruel World at the book store today! :] They didn't carry it and I was right there shopping for school stuff anyway so...I thought, "Well hey why not?" Who knows it could come in handy some time. Or yeah I could just read while bored out of my skull during class. lol xD It's what I do pretty much all the time anyway.

  • Let's Be BESTfriends =] haha

    great video

  • I would like to know if you did a purif (purification rundown).. and if you think it helped you have a better life, in any way. And did you receive any auditing and if you think it made any help in you with your life.

  • I wish you were my mom :(

  • Anything baby<3

  • You are a legend Miss Bornstein!! :)

  • You are so cool! You're a huge inspiration to me and I wish you every happiness in the world!

  • This makes me cry every time. I love you. <3

  • thanks...u saved my life <3

  • you are amazing, i watch this video every time i feel like giving up (:

  • I love you. You're so full of love. Someday I would like to be someone who can practice love like you do.

  • I love you! Thanks so much for your message to folks! xoxoxo

  • I love you...I feel better now

  • You are awesome!

  • I'm a mess!

    Crying, hating, wanting stuff i know people will hate me for..

    But this, this helped, thank you! I took the card, put it in my heart, and you are the best person ever!

    Thank you, you really saved me here....

    <3<3<3<3

  • @MeAndMeAgen I hope that you are doing better now, MeandMeAgen

  • {HUGS}

  • you're the coolest 62 year old i have ever seen.

  • Love it!

  • @girllovetokio Back of the line, i got here first! :D!

  • 18 people don't care about there/our lifes

  • what a truly beautiful person. this is so inspirational, thank you so so much.

  • "kiss kiss, Auntie Kate"

    omg I'm crying :'3

    ADOPT ME PLEASE!

  • @girllovetokio I've been thinking it over, and I don't think the adoption would make it through the court system—we're both too freaky. BUT, I am totally your Auntie Kate and you are totally my dear niece. xo K

  • Thank you :)

  • You are perfect oh my god.

  • I have hope now. I can't thank you enough. I really can't. I love you, from the bottom of my heart. I'll never, EVER forget you. You're my angel. Thank you. So much.

  • Kate, you are so beautiful and wonderful and brilliant. Thank you for you being you!

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  • I love her! Her book "Gender Outlaw" is one of the best  and most inspirational books on gender I have ever read.

  • your amazing ! such a beautiful inspiration!!!!<3

  • Love her!

  • I liked her, until she mentioned God. This has nothing to do with anything.

  • @BeckeeeJade But it sort of does! A lot of people use religion to justify homophobia and intolerance. I am an atheist, but I support Kate drawing the distinction between religion and bigotry

  • I took the heart and put it in mine and felt better.

  • I like you very much. Watching this video has really helped me with my problems. Thank you so much!

  • the world needs more people like her. i love you too

  • you have saved my life today

  • Your amazing. such a role model.

  • We love this!

  • Kate is amazing. I've seen her live, in person. She is amazing, and inspiring. I absolutely love her. And, I own a get out of hell free card:)

  • My absolute favorite one.

  • LOVE.

  • please be my grandma! (:

  • I burst into tears watching this. Thank you.

  • thanks 

  • hey i just saw you today i love you! welll you know sisterly love!

  • Absolutely marvellous!

    Thanks a lot!

  • I don't even have words to explain what I'm feeling at the moment..

    Thank you so much. You are amazing.

  • i sincerely wish i had the pleasure of meeting you. your words have truly made me feel inspired and its so rare for anyone to make me feel that way. thank you so much for sharing your kind words.

  • this is so inspirational. if only there were more people like this the world would be such a nicer place to live in.

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  • i met her once, shes fantasticc

  • You are incredible.

    Thank you so much.

    But really, thank you.

  • I'm sitting here, bawling my eyes out. This woman, whom I'll likely never have the pleasure of meeting, told me and a hundred and five thousand other souls that she loves me, and she loves us. Is it sad that I would take her advice and her love and her acceptance over that of my own parents? If that's what it takes to make my life worth living again, then so be it I say. That's just what I'll do. Thank you, Kate. I love you too.

  • I love you Auntie, thank you for your gritty wisdom.

  • Amazing, thank you. x

  • I bought the book and I've been reading it. It's amazing! :)

  • Am I the only one who actually raised my hand to take the "card" from her and place it in my heart?

  • @Atlanta23410 I did it too :D

  • Wish I could afford the book :/

  • I really...really...like you. I wish more people your age could be like you, because you are an AMAZING person!

  • You know, I really feel like you love me even though you don't know me.

  • You're just amazing!

  • this is amazing!!!

  • I felt like she was looking right at me, talking to me. I cried.

  • Why hasn't this got more views? Seriously. Way more people need to see this, it's beautiful.

  • I love you!

  • You and your book are both absolutely amazing!!!!! Keep it up!

    ~Eli

  • This is beautifully amazing. i love it

  • what is the url to your blog and where can I buy the book? (:

  • Where can you get this book? :|

  • she's a fucking inspiration.

  • Damn it, this video was going great and then God had to get involved.

  • @stickyickypurp hey ...shes an athiest dont mean to put her out there....but even she talks about God..even though ...however she calls herself athiest she does believe in many gods

  • You're beautiful inside & out:)

  • This is very important for many people, thank you!

  • Thank you so much.

  • I love you. I love you for the courage you had to make this video and for understanding from millions of miles away when people around me everyday don't even notice. Despite not feeling suicidal, I've had a really rough week and I really appreciate this, thank you.

  • I love you, Kate Bornstein. I'm sitting here, a Gender Outlaw, crying in happiness. So thank you.

  • I adore this. On a bad day like today, seeing something like this meant the world to me. You are an inspiration and you are such a beautiful person.

  • You are freaking amazing.

  • I think this is appropriate song, after you watch video :D

  • I just saw her speak last week at American University and she is even more amazing in person. What an inspirational women with such an empowering message!

  • Why are you so amazing?

  • I love you.

  • wow. im amazed and so inspired.

  • i love you

  • :) YOU'RE GREAT!

  • She is amazing-333

  • like if you actually stuck your hand out when she gestured she was giving the 'get out of hell card' to the screen! (^_^)

  • @lampfara I DID ! THUMBS UP !

  • thanks for the get out of hell free card. :)

  • I love her.

  • I am so totally inlove with you and your message.

    And yes i just got your book.....you amaze me.

    Thank you!

  • Kate is such an inspiration to anyone who feels different. I love you <3

  • Thank you! you are truly an inspiration...

  • Kiss kiss to you darling <3 I love you :).

  • FU

  • ive been really down lately, both of my parents think im suicidal, i want to go to therapy. my life has been pretty bad lately, but after watching this i believe it will get better. thank you :D

  • You're absolutely amazing, inspirational, and powerful. This video is amazing, thank you.

  • Where can I have the book?

  • My dad is trans and you remind me so much of her. This made me cry this morning because I miss her so much because she's all the way across the country from me. thank you so much for this message.

  • I LOVE YOU

  • why serve time for our mistakes? I'm putting that card on hold, its half way to my heart. Why would you go to hell for us. That deal you said was a huge! Wouldnt you raher go to heavan and see god? For all those things your doing for us. I hope god takes you by the hand one day, bringing you to heavan during the time your serving us. That card, I hope I accept it soon. Thankyou. <3 <3 <3 <3