Predictably, I enjoyed this video. Thanks for linking me to it! I need to get around to watching my friends' older videos from before I subscribed to them/knew who they were. Considering new forms of social networking/technology and the impact they have on us is always an interesting topic!
What you're saying Facebook says about society was evident from "celebrity culture" long before Facebook existed: nosiness, voyeurism, exhibitionism, the unnecessary interest in other people's lives. It's just that now, we're able to do this stuff with our friends, not just famous people.
Since it seems as if you've reached your friend's quota on FB I'm gonna go ahead and post this vid on my wall for all 81 of my closest pals to see. ^_^
i love the random, "enter your text here" talk bubble towards the beginning haha. i totally agree with the whole "friends" concept online. I try to filter people more heavily when it comes to that.. but i tend to fail.. im pretty sure i have a lot more "youtube friends" then my filter should have allowed.
{sighs} Guilty as charged. Though I define Facebook stalking as going through someone's profile, wall, photos, etc. who you aren't "friends" with (in the Facebook sense) and with whom you no longer have a relationship (virtual or otherwise).
Somehow I have still managed to keep my facebook to 200 friends. Its still mostly people I know from High School in University. Although, I am hardly ever on it
As eery as it is at times when someone admits they have/do "Facebook stalk" me I've experienced more people I have a great amount of respect for telling me this. Its comforting to know that the intimate details I decide to share with the FB world do not go unappreciated. In a melodramatic way it reminds me that people are naturally kind. More often than not, anyway.
That makes perfect sense. I also understand having more respect for people who have the courage to be honest about what they do when no one is looking (to a degree).
@charlottepoet good point. I wonder if voyeurism is either too big of a word or too close to the truth for it to be referred to as "facebook voyeur" instead of "facebook stalker"
i only stalked one time that i can really think of when a friend of mine defriended me and my husband still had them. turns out they didn't defriend me it was some kind of facebook glitch but for a while i was watchign them...watching them :)
Great thoughts! I agree -- making content public, whether it's on Youtube or on Facebook, implies an audience. It's one thing to say "So how was that party I wasn't invited to, but photos of which I was looking at on Facebook?" and another to comment on friends' content.
I really don't like how they want us to "reconnect" or even suggest friends. i just dislike the lurking aspect of Facebook, even though I participate in it. I want to delete it, but then that would subsequently delete contact between me and people to whom I actually want to talk! I guess it's just an ongoing cycle.
Talking to a friend about my youtube videos can be a little odd depending how they feel about it. If they say oh I saw your video and I think it was cool then I'm elated. On the flip side I've had friends say, I saw your video and thought it was a bit creepy, that doesn't leave me with much room for a reaction. It's a topic I've wanted to discuss in a vid, is this creepy?
making videos is the opposite of creepy. You're putting yourself out there. That reminds me of something in one of justtubed's vlogs ("Everytime I read your vlog it's awkward. It's like Bruno" wtf?)
Maybe those friends aren't comfortable with their role as voyeur?
Yeah I think it's exactly that, they project their discomfort onto my behaviour. I don't really mind though, it challenges them. (Hope that makes sense I'm a wee bit tired).
I think it depends on the relationship you have with a person. If I look at a person's photos and I don't speak to them very often I might not comment because I don't want them to think I'm annoying. It doesn't really make sense because if they did it to me I know I'd be delighted by the interaction. I'm not in the habit of adding people from high school that I didn't bother talking to in highschool, I don't know why those people add me. As for the reconnect function, I close it every time.
I also understand this, because I do it to...except that I will add people from high school that I didn't really talk to (I won't seek them out, but yeah...) I think that I don't comment on those people because I don't want them to realize I was lurking and think I'm creepy, but, just what you said, I was thinking about it the other way, and I of course wouldn't think that of someone commenting.
I love to comment i am a comment whore in fact if there was AA meeting for people who are comment whores I would go daily, with out the interaction of two way comenting i un-subscribe to people after one month unles they are to me very cool,
facebook i dont use often as i dont like to play games, and if some one is not a friend i dont add them, but yesterday i did add an ex who looks as wonderful as she did 10 years ago, and there is a story behind the guy she is with now!
I don't consider checking people out on facebook as stalking, especially if you accept someone's friendship. You're inviting them to look. BUT if you use the information to stalk, then yeah, it's a problem. There are some people I'm friends with that I could literally follow if I wanted to. "Going to the mall to buy pants!" "JC Penny's has a lot of good deals right now." Those people are asking for trouble. (not from me though, I swear haha!)
That's such a good point. I never considered how much we overshare and how that could lead to danger (though I might have alluded to it in my video)....and people have GPS on their phone that shares that info with fb/twitter ....you would have a super easy time doing so.
is it like...you say you are someone you aren't and befriend them? or your profile isn't really filled out? or do you not have to be friends with them to see their stuff.
well, i made a fake one and befriended everyone who i coudlnt look at.......hmmmm maybe i am some sort of creep-o, but i cant help it. I like to see where the people I knew in high school are in life, so i can tell whether or not my life up until this point has been a complete fail. compare and contrast. maybe even a venn diagram? just kidding...sort of...
I have recently started trying to cut down my friends list and the "Reconnect" box is very helpful for this.
I also like it when facebook will say "reconnect with person you see regularly at work." I talked to her this afternoon facebook, I don't need to type more messages to her now.
I now use twitter to indulge my nosy-ness (nosiness?) instead of facebook. I try and use facebook for interacting with people I actually know (who I then stalk - smaller pool same behaviour).
I like that idea...if they come up in the reconnect box, you probably don't need them. Ha.
I have experienced that too-- someone who I spend time with in real life on the suggestions "You haven't talked on facebook lately" .... it's like...why is it important that we do our interacting here? Sometimes FB thinks rather highly of itself.
People who find me on facebook get to be bored stiff by the gagillions of unoriginal, unartistic, uninteresting pix I have posted of my kids and my garden, not to mention my overly frequent, overly self-occupied, overly dull status updates. Are you tempted, stalker girl? :-D I've been catching up on your vids - think I'm about half-way - and haven't commented on all that I have watched. Should I go back and leave 'just so you know I was here' messages? I don't always have anything to say...
no, it's not lurking if you comment sometimes:) And thanks for watching my older videos!!!
I understand not wanting to type something if you don't have anything to say. I rarely comment on =3 because my response is never interesting or creative.
I can admit that I am facebook stalker,but honestly when your choices are stalk the random people you at least have some general knowing of or play farmville and mafia wars; i willing choose to stalk.
I absolutely hate those fb games. For me, that was the day facebook died.
And facebook became so much better to me the day it started allowing you to add more pictures --- and tag people in them to boot? that's about when everyone stopped using myspace :)
I had a conversation with facebook "stalking" with my mom over winter break. She's a teacher at both a middle and highschool, so she has to fend off the kids who see her interacting with her teacher colleagues. One comment I thought was hilarious in this talk we had was, and I quote, "I don't know why [my ex-boyfriends from college] want to be my friend, they probably just want to see if I got fat"
She fends them off virtually. I don't think that she would be a licensed teacher anymore if she physically fended off mobs of kids. The school board might look down upon that.
Guess its only really stalking if anybody found my face book ,but then again I wouldn't be upset,I would be amaze that they took the time to find me. So now I must go to home depot so I can buy some more dead bolts...hehehehe
her voice is cracking, kind sounds a little like shes about to cry
SummernlightningUSA 2 weeks ago
well im not one!! :C
RA913Foster 10 months ago
typical facebook whore
IFistTHeInnocent 1 year ago
I watch you!!!! *creepy face* #CreepyIsFun
Predictably, I enjoyed this video. Thanks for linking me to it! I need to get around to watching my friends' older videos from before I subscribed to them/knew who they were. Considering new forms of social networking/technology and the impact they have on us is always an interesting topic!
ianswertobob 1 year ago
Really great video Emily.
Thank you for being one of those who actually brings something different to the table. I've always liked that about you. #CIF
lexaguitar16 1 year ago
What you're saying Facebook says about society was evident from "celebrity culture" long before Facebook existed: nosiness, voyeurism, exhibitionism, the unnecessary interest in other people's lives. It's just that now, we're able to do this stuff with our friends, not just famous people.
EyeMonniker 1 year ago
I love this vid, thanks for justify me a little...I feel less stalkerish....sorta
keeporjot 2 years ago
Since it seems as if you've reached your friend's quota on FB I'm gonna go ahead and post this vid on my wall for all 81 of my closest pals to see. ^_^
textuallyactive88 2 years ago
i loved the image of the facebook side bar haha! "You haven't stalked her on Facebook lately. Feel like a creeper." Love it! 5 stars!
ckXcore 2 years ago
YES! Thank you so much for noting!
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
I mean noticing.
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
@ChateauOfADoubt yeah! i try to pay attention to detail. i actually had to look back at it again to figure out why you had it up! haha.
ckXcore 2 years ago
i love the random, "enter your text here" talk bubble towards the beginning haha. i totally agree with the whole "friends" concept online. I try to filter people more heavily when it comes to that.. but i tend to fail.. im pretty sure i have a lot more "youtube friends" then my filter should have allowed.
ckXcore 2 years ago
{sighs} Guilty as charged. Though I define Facebook stalking as going through someone's profile, wall, photos, etc. who you aren't "friends" with (in the Facebook sense) and with whom you no longer have a relationship (virtual or otherwise).
TheAnonymousUs3r 2 years ago
Somehow I have still managed to keep my facebook to 200 friends. Its still mostly people I know from High School in University. Although, I am hardly ever on it
Newmicon 2 years ago
I bet that has a lot to do with it. It seems that people find you when you comment on other people's pictures, walls, and the like.
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
I am a shadowy and lurking character.
vonnegutjr 2 years ago
thanks for peeking your head out of the darkness ;)
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
This is so true! I love your point of view on this!
miralaralen 2 years ago
now i feel like i have to comment or i'm stalking. comment... check!
stendhalvictim 2 years ago
As eery as it is at times when someone admits they have/do "Facebook stalk" me I've experienced more people I have a great amount of respect for telling me this. Its comforting to know that the intimate details I decide to share with the FB world do not go unappreciated. In a melodramatic way it reminds me that people are naturally kind. More often than not, anyway.
waynestock94 2 years ago
That makes perfect sense. I also understand having more respect for people who have the courage to be honest about what they do when no one is looking (to a degree).
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
That's probably the most fascinating aspect. The honesty, the vulnerability. Who knew Facebook could be so deep? :-p
waynestock94 2 years ago
@charlottepoet good point. I wonder if voyeurism is either too big of a word or too close to the truth for it to be referred to as "facebook voyeur" instead of "facebook stalker"
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
indulge our noisiness without recourse. yep!
i only stalked one time that i can really think of when a friend of mine defriended me and my husband still had them. turns out they didn't defriend me it was some kind of facebook glitch but for a while i was watchign them...watching them :)
great vid!
charlottepoet 2 years ago
when you say stalk do you mean the kind I concluded to or the general facebook-stalker kind?
Because I'm super guilty of the regular kind (obviously) but I'm not sure I've done much of the more - stalker-y kind :)
It is weird territory, also, when you *did* have permission and now no longer do.
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
i think i am more of a voyeur than a stalker :)
charlottepoet 2 years ago
I hope this video wasn't inspired by my lurking in your live show the other day. Even though I guess I did comment there.
Zik33 2 years ago
Yea, you totally weren't lurking. You admitted how you got there and everything ;)
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
Epic.
That is the best adjective that could possibly describe this video
PHvlogger 2 years ago
Great thoughts! I agree -- making content public, whether it's on Youtube or on Facebook, implies an audience. It's one thing to say "So how was that party I wasn't invited to, but photos of which I was looking at on Facebook?" and another to comment on friends' content.
shessomickey 2 years ago
My interest level in this video you made is.. pretty high.
I'm pretty sure everyone facebook stalks.
Where is that picture at the end from?
glasslighthouses 2 years ago
the picture at the end is from a t-shirt, it is linked in the dooblydoo.
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
At least we can all finally admit to being stalker-like. =D
-Sara
CleverestWitch2188 2 years ago
and when I said "classy"...I was being sarcastic. I don't want you getting the impression that I like any of your videos.
Lurkeymerk 2 years ago
well done. glad i could help.
it is stalkerish, but I'm really ok with that.
(is that stalkerish?)
camdogie 2 years ago
I really don't like how they want us to "reconnect" or even suggest friends. i just dislike the lurking aspect of Facebook, even though I participate in it. I want to delete it, but then that would subsequently delete contact between me and people to whom I actually want to talk! I guess it's just an ongoing cycle.
emmfan09 2 years ago
I favorited this video...so I can watch it easily whenever I want....Shhhh!
5 stars
09porcupine 2 years ago
hahaha...thanks!
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
Just saw this on facebook, classy
Lurkeymerk 2 years ago
Talking to a friend about my youtube videos can be a little odd depending how they feel about it. If they say oh I saw your video and I think it was cool then I'm elated. On the flip side I've had friends say, I saw your video and thought it was a bit creepy, that doesn't leave me with much room for a reaction. It's a topic I've wanted to discuss in a vid, is this creepy?
genericfirstname 2 years ago
making videos is the opposite of creepy. You're putting yourself out there. That reminds me of something in one of justtubed's vlogs ("Everytime I read your vlog it's awkward. It's like Bruno" wtf?)
Maybe those friends aren't comfortable with their role as voyeur?
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
Yeah I think it's exactly that, they project their discomfort onto my behaviour. I don't really mind though, it challenges them. (Hope that makes sense I'm a wee bit tired).
genericfirstname 2 years ago
I think it depends on the relationship you have with a person. If I look at a person's photos and I don't speak to them very often I might not comment because I don't want them to think I'm annoying. It doesn't really make sense because if they did it to me I know I'd be delighted by the interaction. I'm not in the habit of adding people from high school that I didn't bother talking to in highschool, I don't know why those people add me. As for the reconnect function, I close it every time.
genericfirstname 2 years ago
I also understand this, because I do it to...except that I will add people from high school that I didn't really talk to (I won't seek them out, but yeah...) I think that I don't comment on those people because I don't want them to realize I was lurking and think I'm creepy, but, just what you said, I was thinking about it the other way, and I of course wouldn't think that of someone commenting.
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
I love to comment i am a comment whore in fact if there was AA meeting for people who are comment whores I would go daily, with out the interaction of two way comenting i un-subscribe to people after one month unles they are to me very cool,
facebook i dont use often as i dont like to play games, and if some one is not a friend i dont add them, but yesterday i did add an ex who looks as wonderful as she did 10 years ago, and there is a story behind the guy she is with now!
SPRINKLES
PalmOliveSoap 2 years ago
liked this video, and not just because I'm in it.
I don't consider checking people out on facebook as stalking, especially if you accept someone's friendship. You're inviting them to look. BUT if you use the information to stalk, then yeah, it's a problem. There are some people I'm friends with that I could literally follow if I wanted to. "Going to the mall to buy pants!" "JC Penny's has a lot of good deals right now." Those people are asking for trouble. (not from me though, I swear haha!)
Justtubed 2 years ago
That's such a good point. I never considered how much we overshare and how that could lead to danger (though I might have alluded to it in my video)....and people have GPS on their phone that shares that info with fb/twitter ....you would have a super easy time doing so.
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
My college got Facebook in 2004. Within 2 months I had a real stalker. I had to get a restraining order .... not fun.
Needless to say I'm particular about my facebook friends.
SaithJC 2 years ago
Oh my goodness!!
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
i made a fake facebook account so could look at old high school friends and enemies.....but i don't consider myself a stalker, just really nosy.
ShabbyOlives 2 years ago
is it like...you say you are someone you aren't and befriend them? or your profile isn't really filled out? or do you not have to be friends with them to see their stuff.
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
well, i made a fake one and befriended everyone who i coudlnt look at.......hmmmm maybe i am some sort of creep-o, but i cant help it. I like to see where the people I knew in high school are in life, so i can tell whether or not my life up until this point has been a complete fail. compare and contrast. maybe even a venn diagram? just kidding...sort of...
ShabbyOlives 2 years ago
haha, i must admit, i stalk friends of friends in the hopes of making social interaction with them less awkward..... not that it works or anything
earlgreytempest 2 years ago
like...if you know more about them that can guide you when making conversation?
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
I have recently started trying to cut down my friends list and the "Reconnect" box is very helpful for this.
I also like it when facebook will say "reconnect with person you see regularly at work." I talked to her this afternoon facebook, I don't need to type more messages to her now.
I now use twitter to indulge my nosy-ness (nosiness?) instead of facebook. I try and use facebook for interacting with people I actually know (who I then stalk - smaller pool same behaviour).
ashaxberry 2 years ago
I like that idea...if they come up in the reconnect box, you probably don't need them. Ha.
I have experienced that too-- someone who I spend time with in real life on the suggestions "You haven't talked on facebook lately" .... it's like...why is it important that we do our interacting here? Sometimes FB thinks rather highly of itself.
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
People who find me on facebook get to be bored stiff by the gagillions of unoriginal, unartistic, uninteresting pix I have posted of my kids and my garden, not to mention my overly frequent, overly self-occupied, overly dull status updates. Are you tempted, stalker girl? :-D I've been catching up on your vids - think I'm about half-way - and haven't commented on all that I have watched. Should I go back and leave 'just so you know I was here' messages? I don't always have anything to say...
loquaciouskook 2 years ago
hahaha
no, it's not lurking if you comment sometimes:) And thanks for watching my older videos!!!
I understand not wanting to type something if you don't have anything to say. I rarely comment on =3 because my response is never interesting or creative.
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
I can admit that I am facebook stalker,but honestly when your choices are stalk the random people you at least have some general knowing of or play farmville and mafia wars; i willing choose to stalk.
goodgolly2012 2 years ago
I absolutely hate those fb games. For me, that was the day facebook died.
And facebook became so much better to me the day it started allowing you to add more pictures --- and tag people in them to boot? that's about when everyone stopped using myspace :)
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
I wanted to send in something BUT boo I just got home from vacation.
I am guilty of stalking but since I comment then that must mean not such a bad thing then...right?
hshea11 2 years ago
aww, that's ok --- where'd you go on your vacation?
If you comment then it negates the stalking :)
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
I had a conversation with facebook "stalking" with my mom over winter break. She's a teacher at both a middle and highschool, so she has to fend off the kids who see her interacting with her teacher colleagues. One comment I thought was hilarious in this talk we had was, and I quote, "I don't know why [my ex-boyfriends from college] want to be my friend, they probably just want to see if I got fat"
d4dz21 2 years ago
that's hilarious. I bet it is either that, or to see if she is still attractive and potentially interested in them.
I'm a little bit confused. Does she fend off the kids in real life or on facebook? (Does she befriend them on facebook?)
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
She fends them off virtually. I don't think that she would be a licensed teacher anymore if she physically fended off mobs of kids. The school board might look down upon that.
d4dz21 2 years ago
im going to leave a comment so im not a stalker.... hahaha this was a great video! i liked the end about the facebook suggestions so true!
LilMiss19x 2 years ago
:D thanks!
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
W00t! Funny you should make this video, its similar to the one I was going to make for Blogging In Stereo, only you made better points.
Thank you for adding me into the video!
zottepark 2 years ago 2
thanks for helping!
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
Guess its only really stalking if anybody found my face book ,but then again I wouldn't be upset,I would be amaze that they took the time to find me. So now I must go to home depot so I can buy some more dead bolts...hehehehe
Myfkduplilworld 2 years ago
haha....I found Steve on facebook. He hit the ignore button faster than you can say "Emily'sSuchACreeper"
ChateauOfADoubt 2 years ago
@ChateauOfADoubt hahahahaha
Myfkduplilworld 2 years ago