been clean for 7 months.after stayin in rehab center for 6 months..my family sent me to saudi thinkin dat drug iz nt easily available ova thr.i had been to rehab for several times.it was my 8th rehab..i am sick n tired of being sick n tired..i am totaly frustrated...but i dun wana take dat shit again...coz i cant afford evrytime n d consequnces..i wana live my life n wana give stand back on my feet.wanna prove i am a worthy one.. dos willin to help me add"happy tobe alive"pls pls pls.help me out
ive been clean four months now, and im the happiest ive been in a long time. i no longer associate myself with anyone from the past and im working hard on becoming a stronger 'me'. as far as relationships go, im been talking to a guy for a couple weeks now and i like him, its not an entire year, but i think dating will help me grow as an individual even if it only lasts a month or so.
My mom gave me crack at the age of two, and im now an aloholic with and addiction to crack since the age of 15, and lifes mean i dont want to quit, so stop sucking dik and get back on it
well anyways im having to deal with my family bullshit right now i just quit 2 days ago and they won't leave me alone they still think im fucking using from fing old parafelnilaha how ever you spell it while im going through fucking hell and they think im using and giving me bullshit the fact is i realized i wanted to quit and i didn't want to almost die again and that was my way of quitting all right man wish you u much luck;)
so my advice for you make sure he wants to quit and not just for youand if he hasn't had a rock bottom yet from his drugs from my experinces he probably won't quit to he either finds himself almost dead or realizes he lost everything else in life that mattered to him but maybenot. it canbe he is just young and trying to enjoy himsef the only way he knows how. this tough i don't know what you should do for fucks sake is was in a coma form heroin and still used when i relearned how to walk lol
it is ones self will whether or they want to quit. we are all addicts in some way maybe not drugs or alcohol even gambling but maybe it might be shopping, eating, sex, and even collecting what ever it is we all have our addictions and our addictions are part of our beliefes where we find complete contention. now my thing is heroin and for me when i get high i like to light a a candle and watch it melt all the way down by myself. now alot of people wouldn't understand that but i do.
Would you mind dating a smoker? Or a smoker that quit? Drug addiction is so overrated making people think it is such a horrible thing while ignoring the most lethal and addicting substance-nicotine ( Which of-course is legal and widely available). My point is that substance abuse should not get in the way of your relationship with this guy. Offer him your support if he is in recovery and advise him to quit if he is addicted. I bet ya whatever drugs he is on they are less harm full than cigs.
Rick this is a tough one. As a newcomer to aa and only a week of sobriety I'll tell it is an emotionall roller coaster for the addict. If you say that you might be able to hook up every now and then I guess that might be good for his frustration cause I know its good for mine. But I don't know if you guys can have sex without an emotional attachment. If he can go for it and good luck!
If he is not working the 12 steps and is not following the program he will without a doubt relapse. He doesnt even know who he is so its hard for him to know how he will really feel in a year. If you love this person, it is best to wait. Be friends and be supportive, make sure he goes to his meetings and do all you can for his recovery. If you care about this person you will put his needs first
Two addicts getting together only presents one fact: the addict is not only dealing with their own new emotions, they are now dealing with a second set of new emotions from the new partner. Its tough to deal with two sets, but it can be done, if your priorities are straight, and the relationship is third after God and the program.
Remember a newly clean/sober addict has little experience dealing with emotions - depending on how long they have used. If the addict has used constantly since adolescence, then you are dealing with an emotional adolescent. I jumped into a relationship my first year, we relapsed together 3 times in nine months. We then decided we would put God and the 12 steps before our relationship. We both have over 3 years now.
I am recovering drug addict. I can tell you based on my experience in Narcotics Anonymous that as long as the relationship is a healthy one and you can be beneficial in his recovery it is acceptable, and you will find out if you attend meetings with him,the people there are not there to tell you how to run your life,only to give love and support! Good luck!
It all depends on how much he is using and what he is using...crack has its own rules..tweek there's little hope..pills are just body and mind numbers..heroin is just nasty and vile..so it all varies on what an how much but if u wana date em do so its hard to have a healthy relationship with extremely hard drugs in the way creating difficult obstacles !
Relapse is NOT part of recovery, it is a fear-inducing tactic used to keep people in 12 step groups. AA tells young, attractive people not to have relationships in the first year in order to isolate them and this makes them vulnerable to predators within the groups. Get your friend out of there!
go out with him, but keep a drug an alcohol free lifestyle. i.e. hang out, go to dinner, ****. but don't have drinks. or other mood altering substances.
I was an addict for 4 years and have been clean for 5 now. I never attended a rehab but for your question, I think that it depends on how serious the relationship is . If he needs you, and needs the extra support then go ahead. Hopefully things work out good for you!!
I'm addict and I'm in aa in Iceland and I just think god make you meet person for a reason and it's unwritten rule and I don't know any person who have not brake this rule I'm mean if you get in love or you like someone so much then why wait you maybe you wont get another chance to get knowing this guy, I have been sober for 2 and half month and I'm dating a guy it's just about how strong he is and if he is weak it's not good beacuse a weak alcoholic can maybe not make the emotion
In more ways than one i've been in your situation. A few years ago I was bi (it's not for me) and i've done much drinking and drugs too. I've tuned myself around from all of that. I'm looking for a girl to settle down with, I don't smoke, drink, smoke pot, do any chems, or anything like that anymore. The only advice I can give is, don't force him. If you care about him, sadly you can't do much to encourage him besides support him. Keep quiet & let him do it himself. Hard I know.
Its important for him to have relationships with people that are clean. As an addict my self I know how hard it is to find people that dont have an addiction to drugs. Any kind of relationship with you would be good for him.
relapse isnt really a part of recovery, its a part of relapsing. recovery is where you're not relapsing. hmmm. any guy with lots of time that i've known for awhile won't date me until i have a year. being a chronic relapser, and if i live by the rules, i'll never date again. so, do what ya want. i dont do rules and anyone who tells ya there's rules to follow havent' heard of suggestions.
Someone soon out of rehab? Why risk being someone's excuse for relapsing? Why let someone in a 12 Step program use their victim mentality to possibly control the relationship..........
it's fine to bend the rules; I'm pretty sure that rule exist for hooking up with other drug addicts, not with someone who never had a drug problem. If two people are dating who both went through drug rehab the chance of relapse is pretty high, but since you don't do drugs and even quit smoking, I don't see it as a big issue.
4. then paste this to 4 other video's, if you do this your crush will kiss you on the nearest friday! But if you read this and did not paste this, then you will have very bad luck
I think that it's not just u who wants to date but he wants to date and try a relationship with you. So becos it started from him too, if u don't step in the relationship, someone else will because the guy you're dating now will be around looking again. Luck may not be so good with him next time cos he might bump into a jerk and he'll fall into the drugs thing again. On the other hand, all relationships with drug abusers I've heard of end up with the partner being beaten up. Relapse will be bad.
I was in a KAISER 12 step program for a year and I did not get into anything with men they where a bigg part of me using (PNP) so in order to save my own life. I stayed a way but after one year and one day i dated then fuck now we are parnters!! I wish you all the best Rick, not to be a jerk but i think you could do much better maybe i guy with a pad!! Hugs not Drugs
I was an addict and it actually helpped me being in a relationship because you have someone to talk to and FUCK to get out the extra frustration!! And yes relaps is SOMETIMES part of recovery but not always!!
Save yourself teh trouble and drop him. If u love him then stay but if u dont drop him now, its just gonna cause u a pain for the whole time period u r with him. His past JUnkie behaviour is gonna really aggravate u
I am a gay NA and AA member. It's not set in stone that you can't date in the first year, however it is HIGHLY RECOMMENDED. It's really risky for addicts to start dating right away because they need have their focus on working on themselves. It's hard for them to deal with all the feelings (ups and downs of a relationship, co-dependency etc.) and responsibilities of dating. It significantly adds to the rate of relapse. I just know it hasn't worked for me and quite a few other people I know.
Hey Rick. Personally, Im not addicted to anything other than WoW; but I have a very close and dear friend who for a lot of years, who thanks to her mother, was hooked on drugs and alcohol before she was even 18 years old. She managed to make a full recovery through her own willpower, and through having a good number of people who supported her and cared for her, and is doing REALLY well for herself as well. And, as a bonus, recenely her mom has become completly sober as well. Good luck!
been clean for 7 months.after stayin in rehab center for 6 months..my family sent me to saudi thinkin dat drug iz nt easily available ova thr.i had been to rehab for several times.it was my 8th rehab..i am sick n tired of being sick n tired..i am totaly frustrated...but i dun wana take dat shit again...coz i cant afford evrytime n d consequnces..i wana live my life n wana give stand back on my feet.wanna prove i am a worthy one.. dos willin to help me add"happy tobe alive"pls pls pls.help me out
sooorazroka 7 months ago
ive been clean four months now, and im the happiest ive been in a long time. i no longer associate myself with anyone from the past and im working hard on becoming a stronger 'me'. as far as relationships go, im been talking to a guy for a couple weeks now and i like him, its not an entire year, but i think dating will help me grow as an individual even if it only lasts a month or so.
maverickpoint 1 year ago
My mom gave me crack at the age of two, and im now an aloholic with and addiction to crack since the age of 15, and lifes mean i dont want to quit, so stop sucking dik and get back on it
disguisingdeath 1 year ago
well anyways im having to deal with my family bullshit right now i just quit 2 days ago and they won't leave me alone they still think im fucking using from fing old parafelnilaha how ever you spell it while im going through fucking hell and they think im using and giving me bullshit the fact is i realized i wanted to quit and i didn't want to almost die again and that was my way of quitting all right man wish you u much luck;)
GetMurked88 1 year ago
so my advice for you make sure he wants to quit and not just for youand if he hasn't had a rock bottom yet from his drugs from my experinces he probably won't quit to he either finds himself almost dead or realizes he lost everything else in life that mattered to him but maybenot. it canbe he is just young and trying to enjoy himsef the only way he knows how. this tough i don't know what you should do for fucks sake is was in a coma form heroin and still used when i relearned how to walk lol
GetMurked88 1 year ago
it is ones self will whether or they want to quit. we are all addicts in some way maybe not drugs or alcohol even gambling but maybe it might be shopping, eating, sex, and even collecting what ever it is we all have our addictions and our addictions are part of our beliefes where we find complete contention. now my thing is heroin and for me when i get high i like to light a a candle and watch it melt all the way down by myself. now alot of people wouldn't understand that but i do.
GetMurked88 1 year ago
Would you mind dating a smoker? Or a smoker that quit? Drug addiction is so overrated making people think it is such a horrible thing while ignoring the most lethal and addicting substance-nicotine ( Which of-course is legal and widely available). My point is that substance abuse should not get in the way of your relationship with this guy. Offer him your support if he is in recovery and advise him to quit if he is addicted. I bet ya whatever drugs he is on they are less harm full than cigs.
PhysiologicAli 1 year ago
Rick this is a tough one. As a newcomer to aa and only a week of sobriety I'll tell it is an emotionall roller coaster for the addict. If you say that you might be able to hook up every now and then I guess that might be good for his frustration cause I know its good for mine. But I don't know if you guys can have sex without an emotional attachment. If he can go for it and good luck!
riggsefex 1 year ago
R u still dating him?
thenewkeg10609 1 year ago
@thenewkeg10609 Not at all.
ReallyRick 1 year ago
If he is not working the 12 steps and is not following the program he will without a doubt relapse. He doesnt even know who he is so its hard for him to know how he will really feel in a year. If you love this person, it is best to wait. Be friends and be supportive, make sure he goes to his meetings and do all you can for his recovery. If you care about this person you will put his needs first
jesusislord27 1 year ago
Fuckin faggot
juba323 1 year ago
faggot fuck
PEABALLS 2 years ago
1:10-1:20 lol!
tools747 2 years ago
get back on the shit you gay bitch
gwpa44 2 years ago
Two addicts getting together only presents one fact: the addict is not only dealing with their own new emotions, they are now dealing with a second set of new emotions from the new partner. Its tough to deal with two sets, but it can be done, if your priorities are straight, and the relationship is third after God and the program.
BeigeHolland 2 years ago
Remember a newly clean/sober addict has little experience dealing with emotions - depending on how long they have used. If the addict has used constantly since adolescence, then you are dealing with an emotional adolescent. I jumped into a relationship my first year, we relapsed together 3 times in nine months. We then decided we would put God and the 12 steps before our relationship. We both have over 3 years now.
BeigeHolland 2 years ago
I am recovering drug addict. I can tell you based on my experience in Narcotics Anonymous that as long as the relationship is a healthy one and you can be beneficial in his recovery it is acceptable, and you will find out if you attend meetings with him,the people there are not there to tell you how to run your life,only to give love and support! Good luck!
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jbuecker71 2 years ago
It all depends on how much he is using and what he is using...crack has its own rules..tweek there's little hope..pills are just body and mind numbers..heroin is just nasty and vile..so it all varies on what an how much but if u wana date em do so its hard to have a healthy relationship with extremely hard drugs in the way creating difficult obstacles !
zak3330 2 years ago
good choice fucker what a pendeho
samuraigraffix 2 years ago
Relapse is NOT part of recovery, it is a fear-inducing tactic used to keep people in 12 step groups. AA tells young, attractive people not to have relationships in the first year in order to isolate them and this makes them vulnerable to predators within the groups. Get your friend out of there!
godlessweasel 2 years ago
Don't let a cult dictate how you live your life.
AzzholesAnonymous 2 years ago
go out with him, but keep a drug an alcohol free lifestyle. i.e. hang out, go to dinner, ****. but don't have drinks. or other mood altering substances.
Commonsense11111 2 years ago
really rick like suckin his boyfriends dick!!
MrJarrod1981 2 years ago
drugs rule why would you want to quit? Your a douch bag anyway you will die from aids not drugs you dick suckers!!!!!
MrJarrod1981 2 years ago
I was an addict for 4 years and have been clean for 5 now. I never attended a rehab but for your question, I think that it depends on how serious the relationship is . If he needs you, and needs the extra support then go ahead. Hopefully things work out good for you!!
deathmetalchick6 2 years ago
it depends somewhat on what he was using.
if he feel's ready to get into a commitment then i wouldn't worry about it
emericacore 2 years ago
Fuck off little dick leave Adam alone!
lulumariemissypu 2 years ago
I'm addict and I'm in aa in Iceland and I just think god make you meet person for a reason and it's unwritten rule and I don't know any person who have not brake this rule I'm mean if you get in love or you like someone so much then why wait you maybe you wont get another chance to get knowing this guy, I have been sober for 2 and half month and I'm dating a guy it's just about how strong he is and if he is weak it's not good beacuse a weak alcoholic can maybe not make the emotion
erlalalala 2 years ago
SILLY FAGGET, DICKS ARE FOR CHICKS!
ryan928 2 years ago
dude if you like each other who gives a shit-
liamhills 3 years ago
As a dedicated drug addict I think people who quit using drugs are weak minded and poor willed. Do not stop using drugs.
todddrouin 3 years ago
well i would say you are weak. because u don't even make the effort to stop. stop trying to advice other people to use drugs!
iM3rLiNi 2 years ago
In more ways than one i've been in your situation. A few years ago I was bi (it's not for me) and i've done much drinking and drugs too. I've tuned myself around from all of that. I'm looking for a girl to settle down with, I don't smoke, drink, smoke pot, do any chems, or anything like that anymore. The only advice I can give is, don't force him. If you care about him, sadly you can't do much to encourage him besides support him. Keep quiet & let him do it himself. Hard I know.
PixelSlayer247 3 years ago
Its important for him to have relationships with people that are clean. As an addict my self I know how hard it is to find people that dont have an addiction to drugs. Any kind of relationship with you would be good for him.
jencas100 3 years ago
relapse isnt really a part of recovery, its a part of relapsing. recovery is where you're not relapsing. hmmm. any guy with lots of time that i've known for awhile won't date me until i have a year. being a chronic relapser, and if i live by the rules, i'll never date again. so, do what ya want. i dont do rules and anyone who tells ya there's rules to follow havent' heard of suggestions.
jim11934 3 years ago
why can't woman see a date as he does??? instaed of all these ridiculous "rules" ugh !! lol
chadjconnell 3 years ago
Someone soon out of rehab? Why risk being someone's excuse for relapsing? Why let someone in a 12 Step program use their victim mentality to possibly control the relationship..........
BeauJames59 3 years ago
icant believe ur respones u guys must be from california......sodom and gommora
2007wranglersahara 3 years ago
Go for it, Rick! And if you do have sex... film it and post it on... wait... nevermind.
landshark77 3 years ago
I say you ought to go for it. The worst that could happen is you learning something.
greenchickenfries 3 years ago
it's fine to bend the rules; I'm pretty sure that rule exist for hooking up with other drug addicts, not with someone who never had a drug problem. If two people are dating who both went through drug rehab the chance of relapse is pretty high, but since you don't do drugs and even quit smoking, I don't see it as a big issue.
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1. Say ur name 10x
2. Say ur mom's name 5x
3. Say ur crushes name 3x
4. then paste this to 4 other video's, if you do this your crush will kiss you on the nearest friday! But if you read this and did not paste this, then you will have very bad luck
ChenkoSkates 3 years ago
I think that it's not just u who wants to date but he wants to date and try a relationship with you. So becos it started from him too, if u don't step in the relationship, someone else will because the guy you're dating now will be around looking again. Luck may not be so good with him next time cos he might bump into a jerk and he'll fall into the drugs thing again. On the other hand, all relationships with drug abusers I've heard of end up with the partner being beaten up. Relapse will be bad.
gattonero583 3 years ago
I was in a KAISER 12 step program for a year and I did not get into anything with men they where a bigg part of me using (PNP) so in order to save my own life. I stayed a way but after one year and one day i dated then fuck now we are parnters!! I wish you all the best Rick, not to be a jerk but i think you could do much better maybe i guy with a pad!! Hugs not Drugs
Cali love....
jaelove1978 3 years ago
Have you read the book, "Dry : A Memoir"
Augusten Burroughs? It will answer all your questions about recovery and the hell of getting into a relationship with someone in rehab.
mguilfordtx 3 years ago
well ill say this,Be Careful. It Will Work. Trust Me ;3 DATE AND HAVE SEX. and make an xtube video. Roflmfao.
on topic again, Make sure you dont have any drugs neer him or anything,Be Careful,
Yeah the first one is cruicial. So yeah. its kinda obvious and stuff. Take it slow. and stuff but idk what else to say lol.
good luck i guess :]
logandude60 3 years ago
I was an addict and it actually helpped me being in a relationship because you have someone to talk to and FUCK to get out the extra frustration!! And yes relaps is SOMETIMES part of recovery but not always!!
danandshelle 3 years ago
Agreed. Take slow and be there for him. I know it might be get hard, but that's why you should stay close and firm.
Nuolimieli 3 years ago
yeah i'd wait a while...he has to work on himself first before he has time to work on a relationship.
TheBeeOBee 3 years ago
FAGGOT!!
airplane123456789 3 years ago 2
get rid of him like a cold brotha, u will thank me lata
Hannaygf 3 years ago
Give him a shot
markytunjic 3 years ago
get rid of him
lopchand 3 years ago
Thanks for your response!!!
I would see if there is true love there. IF there is none in the next while and his past is haunting him i would move on.
steroidssavedmylife 3 years ago
drop him before he steals your tv for smack
Kumuthagirl 3 years ago
im not going to talk about my addictions but in my opinion you should give him a go and see what happens thats the only way to do anything
missbraindamage 3 years ago
Lose the loser
jonas911fan 3 years ago
Save yourself teh trouble and drop him. If u love him then stay but if u dont drop him now, its just gonna cause u a pain for the whole time period u r with him. His past JUnkie behaviour is gonna really aggravate u
bindashee 3 years ago
I'm addicted to Oxycontin, I sniff 80mg's all day. Bill W can suck my balls....
ApachePiL0T 3 years ago
I am a gay NA and AA member. It's not set in stone that you can't date in the first year, however it is HIGHLY RECOMMENDED. It's really risky for addicts to start dating right away because they need have their focus on working on themselves. It's hard for them to deal with all the feelings (ups and downs of a relationship, co-dependency etc.) and responsibilities of dating. It significantly adds to the rate of relapse. I just know it hasn't worked for me and quite a few other people I know.
revelationxx 3 years ago
Hey Rick. Personally, Im not addicted to anything other than WoW; but I have a very close and dear friend who for a lot of years, who thanks to her mother, was hooked on drugs and alcohol before she was even 18 years old. She managed to make a full recovery through her own willpower, and through having a good number of people who supported her and cared for her, and is doing REALLY well for herself as well. And, as a bonus, recenely her mom has become completly sober as well. Good luck!
duckieforever 3 years ago