It good that your Dad is somewhat supportive, My father died when I was 15 and at that age I wasn't really in tune to who I was. My mother actually asked me if I was gay and I still wasn't ready to accept myself.. by the time I did my mother had died. After she died, I found a book that she was reading by Masters and Johnston Homsexuality in Proscective, and I was happy that she made an effort to understand more about what being was like. Though not a book that is easy to read.
fantastic story. i love how each person's coming out tale is unique to the individual, but at the same time there is so much common ground among everyone's experience that it allows stories like yours to really inspire others to be brave and take the next step to being who they are meant to be.
I want to thank you Bryan for allowing us to listen to your story. I am a gay teen in SF and this and your channel have given me real hope. I am not completely out, but it was really nice to hear your experience. Being raised Catholic and going to a Catholic elementary school and a Catholic/ Marianist all boy school, I kinda understand your struggles. I hope when i come out to my parents, we will still be able to have a relationship. Thanks again.
people always know who i am since kids coz i am sissy n love to wear gurl clothes n make-up..frens at skool identified me as gurl..n now i love myself
hey guys :D so i asked this before,but didn't get answer.Can you make a video in the future where you talk about how a straight person can ask their friend if he is gay??Is it better to wait for him to decide whether he wants to tell me or not,or is it better to ask him???I know you're busy but please answer...I'm almost sure my friend is gay and he trys to cover it by telling me lies that he met this girl etc...
@Robbb1981 If he's denying it and lying, he probably hasn't come to terms with it yet, or is afraid. Don't pressure him, let the topic go. He'll tell you when he's ready. :)
If you want to do anything, just tell him that you wouldn't care if he was, let him be comfortable to do it if he is. Let him know that you're his friend. :)
@PenfforddMan i don't know if he denies it or not because i haven't even asked him yet...but sometimes i think he was hinting it.He told me he went to a priest to confess and this priest was recomened from another guy who had done some "gay stuff" and felt guilty...Sounded like a hint to me...i think about asking him only one time and see if he get upset or angry...thanks for your response :)
@Robbb1981 You're welcome. ^_^ If anything, I suppose you could try asking him something to the effect of "Are you gay? I wouldn't care if you were and if you don't want to tell me that's cool too, just wondering." :)
Ease him into it, it makes it a whole lot easier for a guy to come out if the person he's trying to tell is relaxed, friendly, calm and honest. ^_^
That was a very good video. It was cute, true to heart, and loving. When you told me about your dad, that really hit hard cause i know how he must be feeling, but the fact that he turned around really shows how much he loves you, and i think that is the most important thing to a gay man. Their father's are really important to them. It was really nice hearing this story.
The reason why you want to be successful is because most people who denies gay will most likely attack you from what you fail at hence if you are better then them at technically almost everything, there is nothing negative they can say about you nor a gay person!
hey bryan. i have a question for you. i guess first i should explain that my family is catholic, italian, and from louisana! i know- thats a lot of boundaries to hop over. im afraid to come out to grandma. my dad got his homophobia from her. we always go to her house for thanksgiving, and ive always wanted to bring a girl home. i dont see her much since she lives a couple of hours away. im wondering if its best to tell her one on one or with someone else around for moral support?
My parents raise me not to discriminate against anyone, and to see no difference between the love involved in a gay couple or a straight couple. In my opinion that's real parenting.
@Tahlia5 i personally was never raised to hate anyone, i was really good to others and my parents have taught me to be good to others. sad how there's some parents who influenced their kids to hate themselves or others.
@justadude95 no shame on u fucko leave him alone its his choice who the fuck are u to judge him ur nothing ur the shit on the botoom of my shoe fucko fuck you and fuck ur bible bashing tratitions
Hi Bryan I love this video ....I have a girlie ' crush' on u cause u just too cute lol & Jay loves u so much U can see that in all your videos... I just love watching them so stay safe & be happy with your wonderful family
15 years old marriage? O.M.G. My parents have been married since 1971 and they "fight" a lot (I don´t know if this is the proper word in English to say). But all of you really love each other and this is all matters at end. By the way... How old are all of you -PS. kids included ? (Sorry my impoliteness :) Nice family.
Bryan your awesome for a start :) Is that Star Wars Empires at War on you cd rack? It's kind of weird but I feel like I can relate to you. I'm shy, a bit of a nerd ( hope you don't take offense ) and I'm not really affeminate. I only came out to my friends and my parents this year and honestly seeing you and your family really helped me because it showed me that I can have a long time partner and possibly have a family
Oh i'm so glad that you wrote back alot of popular site usally don't comment back! Okay! Love watching you all on youtube. Helped me alot when my 15yr old came out to me still tryn to adjust but all is well! Thats my baby and i will always love him no matter wut! Any advice for a adjusting mother to help me more with this? pic coming soon lol
i hope i have the gut to tell my parents and sisters that im gay.
im turning 27 next year. And i'm from indonesia, which is one of the most populated muslim country in the world. I wish one day Gays and Lesbians will be accepted here and will be treated equally. I'm really glad to have seen your videos about Gay family Values in utube. It makes me Happy everytime i watched it. I feel better now and hopefully It Will Be better for everyone
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How is this normal? Does anyone else see something wrong her, like mental problems rather than make it out to be something normal. Come on you need help. lol, not to sound too mean but this is the truth.
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@depfox because there are two types of happiness, one would be true genuine happiness that abides by nature and how things work and two an illusion type happiness that is put there to fill in a blank hole that is being filled with anything rather than something that follows the rule of gender roll. But you mentioned to me that the kids could of been in foster care so I respect you for that ;)
@alio122000 Well I know you have made up your mind about what is right and wrong and thats ok....I have been with my partner 15 years and he is my better half....I love respect and admire the man he is and plan on spending my life with him. I have two other siblings that are straight and they woud kill to have a relationship like mine.....we are Christians and look forward to the day I get to meet my father and am accepted by him. Plus be carefull when you judge.
If you want to talk about "natural" then you have to realise that homosexuality is just as much part of the human condition and "natural" as heterosexuality. ALL organisms that display sexual dimorphism also display homosexuality.
@alio122000 Well, according to virtually all medical health organization it is perfectly normal and not a mental problem. And it is psychologically damaging to try to change someone's orientation. And there is no evidence that meets scientific evidence to show conversion therapy works. So... yeah ;)
@houseofswans1 Maybe so, I am just saying that more and more men in recent years have been "coming out" and becoming more feminine, so thats the problem I am talking about.
@alio122000 I don't view it as a problem that people are beginning to feel more comfortable being themselves. It's psychology unhealthy to stay in the closet (those were the most miserable years of my life) so we should be encouraging people to come out. And is someone is more feminine, I say let them be. It just adds more diversity to our culture.
@alio122000 Hey Buddy, why don't you find someplace where people care about your input because it's obviously not here. If your so against Bryan & Jay's views on things why are you giving this channel so much attention? For the record, you sound like a walking contradiction....oh yeah, one last thing...Merry Christmas!
I am SOOO GLADD that the queers have finally starting to see what MUTANTS they are, and just start killing THEMSELVES. It just saves the decent members the problem of having to deal with them.Hitler had the RIGHT IDEA to just put the queers and mentally retarded to SLEEP. That was VERY HUMANE!
I think my younger brother always knew about me. I tried to come out a few times, but the morning of the actually "coming out", I told everyone that I wanted to have a sort of family meeting because I had something I wanted to tell them. He said to me, "What is it? You like boys?" and he started laughing. Well, nobody was laughing when I told them. Everyone was crying lol.
i love this gay couple, i already watch more than 40 video in two days coz i newly discover this page and still gonna watch more.
bryan i have to tell you that you are so good looking guy and jay is so blessed he got you, and you are so blessed that you got him he is caring. good luck guys and sorry for my english not well.
i love this gay couple, i already watch more than 40 video in two days coz i newly discover this page and still gonna watch more.
bryan i have to tell you that you are so good looking guy and jay is so blessed he got you, and you are so blessed that you got him he is caring. good luck guys and sorry for my english not well.
i just have one thing to say. What is that on your hair ??? really it looks away better without those products lol btw i love your videos and i watch every time i can..... i'm 21 m brazilian and really fans of your videos... i always though about have partner for long and stuffs like that. i dream of build a family and you 2 have showed me that is possiable a gay person build something constractive besides that steriotype of gay beeing prosmiscue and etc.... congrads
Hey Bryan, just stumpled upon this video and I really just want to thank you for posting something like this... I'm also gay, 21 years old, and recently came out to my parents 6 months ago. Your story shares many parallels with my experience but your happiness now goes to show that eventually things work out given the right amout of time. This message is really an inspiration to not only me, but the thousands of other LGBT youth who watch your videos... keep up the great work!!!
.....because after all that my father said that I would never stop being his son no matter what, which made me feel really good. I'm sorry I know I've made this too long but I just wanted to thank you for this it's only been a few days ago that I have found your videos and they are really amazing. Again thank you soo much!!!! ( Sorry it wasn't a video)
Hi, this Cesar 16 years of age from New York. I can't put into words how grateful I am that you are making these videos. It brings hope to my life that I can have a family someday. 2 or 3 weeks ago told my parents that I am bi (it was easier to come out like that). My parents acted bitter sweet. They told me I was confused only because they didn't portray a stereotype of a gay person. They also said that I should not follow this feelings because the more I would become. This was bitter sweet
Great Story ! Sorry for what happen with your mom ,great part i consider responsible for me to be a well adjust adult today is because my mom and sister were always very supportive (and live in UK but im from Brazil ,so over there things used to be rough about those things) hugs
oh one more thing, I loved loved loved the part where you say "....and at work, I just started being honest. And if anyone gave me a hard time about it, they didn't do it to my face." AWESOME!!!
I'm 35 now, & never felt the need to announce it. However, I did tell myself that starting this year, I am going to just be [more] honest meaning if someone ask me "what did you do this weekend", and rather than saying, nothing, which isn't true, I'll just state the truth "I went to Gay Pride".
I told my mom that I am gay but she was like Ohh your not gay, your just saying that and she still believes that even tho i have a boyfriend but i will never tell my dad he would get a gun and kill me.
@vJangoDB Im proud of you for taking the first step to the rest of your life. Your mom is in denial but she knows you are gay and just isnt ready to deal with it. Give her time hopefully she will come around in the future and love all the parts of you. As for you father I am sorry that you have to fear him like you do. If you really belive he would hurt you never tell him. Your friend
@vJangoDB when i told my mom she also told me that and she said my mind is making all of this and that their just ideas and they'll go away with time but i dont blame her cuz she never met a gay man in her life so she dosen't know what it meens to be gay so i had to explain everything to her and when i told her that im ganna be gay for the rest of my life and there is no turning straight
she got angry and she asked me about how am i ganna tell my dad and what would my life end up like
i'm pret-ty scared about coming out. i should always have some fake girlfriend, talk about gals and stuff with friends, i gotta kiss someone i dont love and blahblahblah. i hate feeling like my whole life is a fake. all i wanna do is to be happy. y'all know how tough can that be :P
@bobeyun Don't be fake Bobeyun. You should be who you really are, its the only way to be happy...that said... be safe too. Being yourself does not neccesarily mean coming out to everyone you know in one fell swoop.
@depfox Make sure you are in a safe living situation should the worst case scenario occurr. Then come out to one or two people at a time. and understand that they may be shocked and not let you see it. They may not understand anything about your feelings or experiences and will sometimes say some insane things because of it. Sometimes coming out hurts, sometimes its like dropping the hundred pound wieght you didn't know you were carrying...but over time it does get better
Rewatching because I'm finally, really considering coming out of my little closet.
Thank you so much for sharing you're story - it reminds me a lot of my own (I was in denial for a long time to, AND I also went straight for the books) - it means so much to know there are people out there who have had similar experiences.
Also to Harbinger579, do not worry my friend, I subscribed to your channel, and I totally understand where you are coming from. Take the advice that was given to you by Jay and Bryan. I sort of did the same thing, college years came in and I left to a place 3 hours away from where my parents live AND you can also achieve that because you deserve it like all of us do, to make your own story. Be patient, u have 3 years left to go and you are not alone because we are with you. add me if u want :]
Thanx Bryan for your wonderful story, Im not completely out to my parents, but I did manage to tell my little brother and he understood and is now a great support. As for my father, I havent told him yet, but I will and I think Im strong enough to tell him. As for my mom, Im lucky that she is very understanding and open and I mentioned it once but havent told her that I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year. Your story gives me strength....so Thank you for your courage :]
Yeah, I know. It's just hard to spend the rest of my teen years in pain. I guess I'll just have to ignore their baiting and just concentrate on school so I can go to Santa Monica, CA in a few years.
It makes me feel so horrible when others can say it all worked out. My parents hated it and they refused to believe it, so they wrote it off as a phase. Then they took all objects of my self-expression, claiming they were products of peer pressure. Now, I really wish I could get as far away from them as possible, but I'm 15, I have nowhere else to go, nowhere to run to where I can sort my problems out. God, now I feel like I'm gonna cry. Dammit.
They act that way because they think that they can change it. You and I know that its not going to go away..but they don't know that. Being that you are 15...My advice would be not to push it with them. When you are 18 and no longer in their home you can make the changes in your life that you want to see...its not very far away.
@Harbinger579 listen its not the end of the world dont be upset think of yourself as a maveric for comin out so long a s you persist they will eventually realise that you are who you are i know its a bit of a bummer that tehy cant realise it sooner but they certainly havent expressed any hatred toward you
I love how you went to a book store to help deal. I can totally identify with that. I always thought that the library saved my life. I would spend hours reading books that allowed me to reassure myself rather than hate myself for being gay.
You deserve the happiness you have today Bryan. Coming out to our dads can be a very tricky and scary experience. My father (when he was alive) told me that if i ever turned out gay, he would disown me completely and rip up any pictures (or any other evidence of me) from his house. When i eventually told him, (VERY emotional moment) he accepted me. When he met Nigel, he treated him like more like more a son than me! He became proud eventually and then passed away. *pass the tissues*
Stay strong Bryan we are supporting you all the way.
There are a great number of people in this world that are still hiding it but are ashamed of telling others due to the risk they might get themselves hurt or worst killed.
Thank you so much for sharing this video with us. Congratulations on your marriage.
Omg, i studied that letter in high school, my english teacher asked me to read it in front of the class, i finished it in tears obviously... it makes me realise i couldn't change myself and that I had to finally be honest about who i am as a person and who i wanted to be.
For me, having these feelings is my burden to carry on this earth...lol...sometimes i play around with my best friend (who's a girl) and she seems to be cool with it...idk if i should tell her though cause i think it'll be weird.
The first person I told was my best friend. He stopped talking to me that minute thinking that I was only his friend to get with him, which is not even close. I tried to talk to him but he never would listen so i just stopped caring. That is what is actually holding me back from telling other people now...i dont want to lose anymore friends
Bad coming out experiences are tough to make it through. When you expect the relief everyone else talks about and it's the opposite, it's sort of a slap in the face. Sometimes if you make an educated guess about a person's reaction, it helps. It can also be good to come out to someone that you're not that close to so you don't have as much to lose.
when i came out as a bisexual, i was in a car with my friend and my mom was driving. neither of them knew. Me and my friend were being driven to the mall. It was quiet and boring and i suddenly i remembered i was going to tell her, so i did while she was driving. They both heard, and freaked out a little. I laughed my ass off. My parents didnt care and neither did my friend :D
Shallow comment: Bryan I think you're incredibly hot. The reason why I found your depfox videos was because I was looking up YouTube coming out videos, and you were the most attractive guy of them all so you caught my attention.
Not so shallow comment: After watching the other videos of you and your family I've been so inspired by your efforts and lifestyle. I've fallen in love with your family. I have more to say but I'll comment on your other videos. This was my 1st depfox video though!
You guys have helped me in my darkest days and you guys were the light I thought never would exist!! Thank You. I wish you guys the best and I wish one day that I can have your normal life with a great family, just like you guys!!
I just love the story from both you and Jay! I wrote to you guys not to long ago on your blog and realized that when I sent it I was in a big struggle with coming out to myself.
After watching the equality march on your channel and some others I felt in my heart I have to make a stand for who I am and what I'm about. I told my ex-girlfriend and my world is now changing for the best. I feel like a new person and I am ready to brake down barriers that closed minded people have. My family is next!
thanks for sharing. very interesting video. :D i recently came out to my friend and shes very supportive in a place like mine Philippines were it is very conservative and religious, it is very rare to have people accept you for who you truly are. thanks again for sharing your story.
Bryan and your "housband" you are great and nice! thank you!! And what a woderfull star wars collection!! You know im a sw fan!! Im 37 years old and a didnt coming out to anyone because of terror!! Bye bye
I am sorry your mom said that to you, my father said that to me and I told him "well I am not going to HELL until they build a shopping mall so when you get down there please give them a heads up" It has never been mentioned again!
Goober? Boring? omg. That was fantastic. I just think it is SO damn sad that a child has to face his family with WHO HEY ARE only to be met with tears and disappointment and shame. It breaks my heart. It just breaks my heart. Congratulations on your life. Love the music btw!
Aw bless...I an so sorry for your fear - you do it whatever way you need to. When you want to. Best of luck - but make sure you have support. Friends who accept you and can be there for you to hold you up no matter what happens. Hope it goes well. Big love!
I went to Barnes and Noble (I felt like such a dork too)... it was mostly soft core porn by the way...thats why I turned to the internet and found support like you guys and couver87... So that you for being here for all of us.
hey bryan listen. i'm 12 years old and i know that i am gay. i've only told one person and that is my friend brooke. i think i could definetly use u as an inspiration in life and for the furture. thank you for me and other confused people! :)
P.S. havent u noticed like if a wmoan sees a straight couple see just walks by like "ya watever", but if a woman/man (mostly woman) sees a gay couple, shes all like "o im super happy for u guys ooo i wish i could be like that" ? does that bother you?
Dont be confused psyco...just be carefull and make good choices. Theres nothing wrong with being gay. trust your heart and be a kid for as long as you can. as for the P.S. why would it bother me? people have opinions about everything and not everyone is honest about theirs. That doesnt have to affect how we live our lives and how we interact with others becaue mayby they dont approve of us.
It good that your Dad is somewhat supportive, My father died when I was 15 and at that age I wasn't really in tune to who I was. My mother actually asked me if I was gay and I still wasn't ready to accept myself.. by the time I did my mother had died. After she died, I found a book that she was reading by Masters and Johnston Homsexuality in Proscective, and I was happy that she made an effort to understand more about what being was like. Though not a book that is easy to read.
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Bryan your so lovely!!!! xxx
Alishia52 1 month ago
fantastic story. i love how each person's coming out tale is unique to the individual, but at the same time there is so much common ground among everyone's experience that it allows stories like yours to really inspire others to be brave and take the next step to being who they are meant to be.
backyardbeachbum 1 month ago
I want to thank you Bryan for allowing us to listen to your story. I am a gay teen in SF and this and your channel have given me real hope. I am not completely out, but it was really nice to hear your experience. Being raised Catholic and going to a Catholic elementary school and a Catholic/ Marianist all boy school, I kinda understand your struggles. I hope when i come out to my parents, we will still be able to have a relationship. Thanks again.
Magic41357 1 month ago
lol you're so shy here Bryan! cute. you've come a long way.
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IIIIlllllll 3 months ago
its hard being transgender coz people dont take u seriously n its hard to be in love relationships..
syafburdeu2 4 months ago 2
people always know who i am since kids coz i am sissy n love to wear gurl clothes n make-up..frens at skool identified me as gurl..n now i love myself
syafburdeu2 4 months ago
u look like a decent lookin father..if i duno u i tot ur str8 man with wife n kids
i'm 21 n transgender n its hard..its better to be gay
syafburdeu2 4 months ago
the first person i told was my best friend
evilian666 4 months ago
@evilian666 that's exactly the same thing i did too. i came out to my best friends. 7 of them. awesome dude!! I'm happy for you.
Blane647 2 months ago
hey guys :D so i asked this before,but didn't get answer.Can you make a video in the future where you talk about how a straight person can ask their friend if he is gay??Is it better to wait for him to decide whether he wants to tell me or not,or is it better to ask him???I know you're busy but please answer...I'm almost sure my friend is gay and he trys to cover it by telling me lies that he met this girl etc...
Robbb1981 5 months ago
@Robbb1981 If he's denying it and lying, he probably hasn't come to terms with it yet, or is afraid. Don't pressure him, let the topic go. He'll tell you when he's ready. :)
If you want to do anything, just tell him that you wouldn't care if he was, let him be comfortable to do it if he is. Let him know that you're his friend. :)
PenfforddMan 2 months ago
@PenfforddMan i don't know if he denies it or not because i haven't even asked him yet...but sometimes i think he was hinting it.He told me he went to a priest to confess and this priest was recomened from another guy who had done some "gay stuff" and felt guilty...Sounded like a hint to me...i think about asking him only one time and see if he get upset or angry...thanks for your response :)
Robbb1981 2 months ago
@Robbb1981 You're welcome. ^_^ If anything, I suppose you could try asking him something to the effect of "Are you gay? I wouldn't care if you were and if you don't want to tell me that's cool too, just wondering." :)
Ease him into it, it makes it a whole lot easier for a guy to come out if the person he's trying to tell is relaxed, friendly, calm and honest. ^_^
PenfforddMan 2 months ago
@PenfforddMan i will be calm and relaxed and ask him when i go to my home town for christmass,thanks :D
Robbb1981 2 months ago
@Robbb1981 You're welcome. :) I hope it all goes well for you and your friend. ^_^
Merry Christmas. :D
PenfforddMan 2 months ago
Great story dude! And I love Star Wars too. I AM YOUR FATHER LUKE!!!
xxHeadRadioxx 5 months ago
That was a very good video. It was cute, true to heart, and loving. When you told me about your dad, that really hit hard cause i know how he must be feeling, but the fact that he turned around really shows how much he loves you, and i think that is the most important thing to a gay man. Their father's are really important to them. It was really nice hearing this story.
Equistta 5 months ago
GAY
Billiammorrison 6 months ago
here's how you come out of the closet-
Improve yourself esteem
be proud of yourself
be able to live independently
show others you are successful
The reason why you want to be successful is because most people who denies gay will most likely attack you from what you fail at hence if you are better then them at technically almost everything, there is nothing negative they can say about you nor a gay person!
gukswar 6 months ago
I love coming out stories.
elvickRULES 6 months ago
hey bryan. i have a question for you. i guess first i should explain that my family is catholic, italian, and from louisana! i know- thats a lot of boundaries to hop over. im afraid to come out to grandma. my dad got his homophobia from her. we always go to her house for thanksgiving, and ive always wanted to bring a girl home. i dont see her much since she lives a couple of hours away. im wondering if its best to tell her one on one or with someone else around for moral support?
hulagurl93 8 months ago
@hulagurl93 I would do it by yourself so that yoiur grandmother doesnt feel ambused
depfox 8 months ago
My parents raise me not to discriminate against anyone, and to see no difference between the love involved in a gay couple or a straight couple. In my opinion that's real parenting.
Tahlia5 9 months ago 8
@Tahlia5 i personally was never raised to hate anyone, i was really good to others and my parents have taught me to be good to others. sad how there's some parents who influenced their kids to hate themselves or others.
timtheloner 5 months ago
bryan is cute :)
jeypilishaz 9 months ago 3
@justadude95 no shame on u fucko leave him alone its his choice who the fuck are u to judge him ur nothing ur the shit on the botoom of my shoe fucko fuck you and fuck ur bible bashing tratitions
MrSwifty2 10 months ago
I love the shirt
DMWolFGurL 10 months ago
OMG!!!! Star Wars!!!! I am a geek too. I have a Star Wars tattoo the logo and Sith written below it. Darkside forever!!!
DMWolFGurL 10 months ago
Hi Bryan I love this video ....I have a girlie ' crush' on u cause u just too cute lol & Jay loves u so much U can see that in all your videos... I just love watching them so stay safe & be happy with your wonderful family
Bellalee40 10 months ago
ur really cute :]
tdafan4life 1 year ago
15 years old marriage? O.M.G. My parents have been married since 1971 and they "fight" a lot (I don´t know if this is the proper word in English to say). But all of you really love each other and this is all matters at end. By the way... How old are all of you -PS. kids included ? (Sorry my impoliteness :) Nice family.
Pedrofrombrazil 1 year ago
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They have two kids. I'm not sure of their actual age though. Watch some more of their videos, they are great.
OrthodoxDarwinist 10 months ago
Thanks for sharing your story and I have to say that the wall of Star Wars toys behind you made me smile.
Lexiy76 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing your story Bryan.
pxb353 1 year ago
I LOVE YA'LL TWO MORE THAN YA'LL KNOW. Read my comment I left on your Channel Page, I tried to copy and paste it but it wouldn't let me.
donpappa 1 year ago
Bryan your awesome for a start :) Is that Star Wars Empires at War on you cd rack? It's kind of weird but I feel like I can relate to you. I'm shy, a bit of a nerd ( hope you don't take offense ) and I'm not really affeminate. I only came out to my friends and my parents this year and honestly seeing you and your family really helped me because it showed me that I can have a long time partner and possibly have a family
Imaginary226 1 year ago
You are HOT!
aaronlosing 1 year ago
Oh i'm so glad that you wrote back alot of popular site usally don't comment back! Okay! Love watching you all on youtube. Helped me alot when my 15yr old came out to me still tryn to adjust but all is well! Thats my baby and i will always love him no matter wut! Any advice for a adjusting mother to help me more with this? pic coming soon lol
BlaqueRain7228 1 year ago
Just wanted to know are you star wars fans? I ask because of the toys in the back ground
BlaqueRain7228 1 year ago 5
@BlaqueRain7228 Huge Fans
depfox 1 year ago 9
i hope i have the gut to tell my parents and sisters that im gay.
im turning 27 next year. And i'm from indonesia, which is one of the most populated muslim country in the world. I wish one day Gays and Lesbians will be accepted here and will be treated equally. I'm really glad to have seen your videos about Gay family Values in utube. It makes me Happy everytime i watched it. I feel better now and hopefully It Will Be better for everyone
Cheers
fuguface 1 year ago
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How is this normal? Does anyone else see something wrong her, like mental problems rather than make it out to be something normal. Come on you need help. lol, not to sound too mean but this is the truth.
alio122000 1 year ago
@alio122000 why do you feel that way what is it about people who have found happiness in their lifes a problem with you
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alio122000 1 year ago
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@depfox because there are two types of happiness, one would be true genuine happiness that abides by nature and how things work and two an illusion type happiness that is put there to fill in a blank hole that is being filled with anything rather than something that follows the rule of gender roll. But you mentioned to me that the kids could of been in foster care so I respect you for that ;)
alio122000 1 year ago
@alio122000 Well I know you have made up your mind about what is right and wrong and thats ok....I have been with my partner 15 years and he is my better half....I love respect and admire the man he is and plan on spending my life with him. I have two other siblings that are straight and they woud kill to have a relationship like mine.....we are Christians and look forward to the day I get to meet my father and am accepted by him. Plus be carefull when you judge.
depfox 1 year ago 18
@depfox Actually you just gave me a different angle to look through, and just for that my respect has gone up ;)
alio122000 1 year ago
@alio122000
If you want to talk about "natural" then you have to realise that homosexuality is just as much part of the human condition and "natural" as heterosexuality. ALL organisms that display sexual dimorphism also display homosexuality.
OrthodoxDarwinist 10 months ago 2
@alio122000 Well, according to virtually all medical health organization it is perfectly normal and not a mental problem. And it is psychologically damaging to try to change someone's orientation. And there is no evidence that meets scientific evidence to show conversion therapy works. So... yeah ;)
houseofswans1 1 year ago
@houseofswans1 Maybe so, I am just saying that more and more men in recent years have been "coming out" and becoming more feminine, so thats the problem I am talking about.
alio122000 1 year ago
@alio122000 I don't view it as a problem that people are beginning to feel more comfortable being themselves. It's psychology unhealthy to stay in the closet (those were the most miserable years of my life) so we should be encouraging people to come out. And is someone is more feminine, I say let them be. It just adds more diversity to our culture.
houseofswans1 1 year ago
@alio122000 Sounds to me like the mental problems are coming from u.
5lui5 1 year ago 3
@alio122000 Hey Buddy, why don't you find someplace where people care about your input because it's obviously not here. If your so against Bryan & Jay's views on things why are you giving this channel so much attention? For the record, you sound like a walking contradiction....oh yeah, one last thing...Merry Christmas!
donpappa 1 year ago 4
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NSA666999 1 year ago
I think my younger brother always knew about me. I tried to come out a few times, but the morning of the actually "coming out", I told everyone that I wanted to have a sort of family meeting because I had something I wanted to tell them. He said to me, "What is it? You like boys?" and he started laughing. Well, nobody was laughing when I told them. Everyone was crying lol.
brandoncherrymusic 1 year ago
my dear, you are GORGEOUS!...come out, come out, wherever you are!..lol
sbrownie 1 year ago
Wow...behind you must be your sanctuary of action figures! It's great!
vidhead85 1 year ago
thanks for posting your story -
anthonynewsome 1 year ago
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i love this gay couple, i already watch more than 40 video in two days coz i newly discover this page and still gonna watch more.
bryan i have to tell you that you are so good looking guy and jay is so blessed he got you, and you are so blessed that you got him he is caring. good luck guys and sorry for my english not well.
charingking 1 year ago
i love this gay couple, i already watch more than 40 video in two days coz i newly discover this page and still gonna watch more.
bryan i have to tell you that you are so good looking guy and jay is so blessed he got you, and you are so blessed that you got him he is caring. good luck guys and sorry for my english not well.
charingking 1 year ago
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fag.
theseanmagee 1 year ago
So cool Bryan...... :)
srisweet06 1 year ago
Bryan is a shy guy but boy does he look good on camera ;o)
YEs he dose :]
Tokapy2 1 year ago
I love Amstead Maupin's Tales of City too. & I can see how much recalling that story caused you discomfort. So thank you for sharing your life.
SUPREMEQUEEN09 1 year ago
you are so cute!! i really hope one day i will be able to find a husband and start a family like you.
abouboo 1 year ago
Omg! Action figures! You gain 50 cool points. LEVEL UP!
Furriesaremine 1 year ago
i just have one thing to say. What is that on your hair ??? really it looks away better without those products lol btw i love your videos and i watch every time i can..... i'm 21 m brazilian and really fans of your videos... i always though about have partner for long and stuffs like that. i dream of build a family and you 2 have showed me that is possiable a gay person build something constractive besides that steriotype of gay beeing prosmiscue and etc.... congrads
melvins168 1 year ago
Hey Bryan, just stumpled upon this video and I really just want to thank you for posting something like this... I'm also gay, 21 years old, and recently came out to my parents 6 months ago. Your story shares many parallels with my experience but your happiness now goes to show that eventually things work out given the right amout of time. This message is really an inspiration to not only me, but the thousands of other LGBT youth who watch your videos... keep up the great work!!!
Boxer666 1 year ago
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Boxer666 1 year ago
13 years of marriage! dangg i guess gay relationships are successful :p
4EverABeyFan 1 year ago
.....because after all that my father said that I would never stop being his son no matter what, which made me feel really good. I'm sorry I know I've made this too long but I just wanted to thank you for this it's only been a few days ago that I have found your videos and they are really amazing. Again thank you soo much!!!! ( Sorry it wasn't a video)
CoMe2TdArKsIdE 1 year ago
Hi, this Cesar 16 years of age from New York. I can't put into words how grateful I am that you are making these videos. It brings hope to my life that I can have a family someday. 2 or 3 weeks ago told my parents that I am bi (it was easier to come out like that). My parents acted bitter sweet. They told me I was confused only because they didn't portray a stereotype of a gay person. They also said that I should not follow this feelings because the more I would become. This was bitter sweet
CoMe2TdArKsIdE 1 year ago
bryan you're such a cutie,
i told my parents im gay in march of 2010 haha. :)
OMFGWTJFBBQ 1 year ago
Great Story ! Sorry for what happen with your mom ,great part i consider responsible for me to be a well adjust adult today is because my mom and sister were always very supportive (and live in UK but im from Brazil ,so over there things used to be rough about those things) hugs
stevevideos2010 1 year ago
BRIAN I LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE !!!!!
bethdominix 1 year ago 2
awww =]
justpostit 1 year ago
oh one more thing, I loved loved loved the part where you say "....and at work, I just started being honest. And if anyone gave me a hard time about it, they didn't do it to my face." AWESOME!!!
I'm 35 now, & never felt the need to announce it. However, I did tell myself that starting this year, I am going to just be [more] honest meaning if someone ask me "what did you do this weekend", and rather than saying, nothing, which isn't true, I'll just state the truth "I went to Gay Pride".
vegasbaby92 1 year ago
Great great great!!!!!
vegasbaby92 1 year ago
What happened with your mother is exactly what I'd be afraid of, but I'm glad you shared your story. Thanks.
dfan 1 year ago
God this is sooooo awkward because my name is Bryan and I am in the closet
But whatever :)
Business47C 1 year ago
I told my mom that I am gay but she was like Ohh your not gay, your just saying that and she still believes that even tho i have a boyfriend but i will never tell my dad he would get a gun and kill me.
vJangoDB 1 year ago 2
@vJangoDB Im proud of you for taking the first step to the rest of your life. Your mom is in denial but she knows you are gay and just isnt ready to deal with it. Give her time hopefully she will come around in the future and love all the parts of you. As for you father I am sorry that you have to fear him like you do. If you really belive he would hurt you never tell him. Your friend
Bryan
depfox 1 year ago
@vJangoDB when i told my mom she also told me that and she said my mind is making all of this and that their just ideas and they'll go away with time but i dont blame her cuz she never met a gay man in her life so she dosen't know what it meens to be gay so i had to explain everything to her and when i told her that im ganna be gay for the rest of my life and there is no turning straight
she got angry and she asked me about how am i ganna tell my dad and what would my life end up like
Artyad95 1 year ago
jesus love you
brndvgh1 1 year ago
ur gay
5dollorfootlong5 1 year ago
You are so lucky
bighairyboy2 1 year ago
Very nice to see and hear! Good luck together!!
Jordandepoorter 1 year ago
'' if any of his kids were gay he would just kill us'' hahaha
deansilverz 1 year ago
i'm pret-ty scared about coming out. i should always have some fake girlfriend, talk about gals and stuff with friends, i gotta kiss someone i dont love and blahblahblah. i hate feeling like my whole life is a fake. all i wanna do is to be happy. y'all know how tough can that be :P
bobeyun 1 year ago
@bobeyun Don't be fake Bobeyun. You should be who you really are, its the only way to be happy...that said... be safe too. Being yourself does not neccesarily mean coming out to everyone you know in one fell swoop.
depfox 1 year ago
@depfox Make sure you are in a safe living situation should the worst case scenario occurr. Then come out to one or two people at a time. and understand that they may be shocked and not let you see it. They may not understand anything about your feelings or experiences and will sometimes say some insane things because of it. Sometimes coming out hurts, sometimes its like dropping the hundred pound wieght you didn't know you were carrying...but over time it does get better
depfox 1 year ago
@depfox
I have great respect for you coming out to your family, I can't bring myself to do it and it tears me up emotionally, I turned 17 in April.
YearZer02022 1 year ago
it's a good thing to come out... cuz you'll find out who are your real friends =)
precisely, there aren't many of them as I used to believe. thanks to homosexuality that helps me get rid of those faking friends.
Oishasan 1 year ago
Rewatching because I'm finally, really considering coming out of my little closet.
Thank you so much for sharing you're story - it reminds me a lot of my own (I was in denial for a long time to, AND I also went straight for the books) - it means so much to know there are people out there who have had similar experiences.
mazajaria 1 year ago
I like watching these stories. its like hearing a good bedtime story, and like we're not alone.
mike20079 2 years ago 3
Gamer gear, Star Wars shirt, Star Wars figurines... I love you man. I really do.
Wonderful story as well. A little sad at times, but wonderful. Thank you for sharing this with the rest of us. :)
Aurrius1991 2 years ago
still
its cool
real rock..
chenjirong 2 years ago
its not e z now my family hate me just cuz im gay
tEnKaIcHi03 2 years ago
BTW, I was refering to the whole "If you're gay I'll kill you" thing.
LeonSKennedy828 2 years ago 2
I can't believe some parents, I truly can't. If you can't deal with your kids potentially being different, YOU SHOULDN'T FUCKING HAVE ANY!
When you mentioned your dad's attitude my skin crawled.
LeonSKennedy828 2 years ago 21
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You'll eat your kids, you hateful people.
ErnestAngely 2 years ago
...What???
LeonSKennedy828 2 years ago
I love it when gay guy say "my husband" and they actually mean it!
noahsarcooo 2 years ago 36
@noahsarcooo I know really, its the hottest thing on earth! (no joke)
donpappa 1 year ago
Aww! Thanks for sharing your story :-)
Byran is such a cutie! You are a lucky man!!
Good luck to the both of you!
rosserge 2 years ago 2
Also to Harbinger579, do not worry my friend, I subscribed to your channel, and I totally understand where you are coming from. Take the advice that was given to you by Jay and Bryan. I sort of did the same thing, college years came in and I left to a place 3 hours away from where my parents live AND you can also achieve that because you deserve it like all of us do, to make your own story. Be patient, u have 3 years left to go and you are not alone because we are with you. add me if u want :]
Edforchange 2 years ago 2
Thanx Bryan for your wonderful story, Im not completely out to my parents, but I did manage to tell my little brother and he understood and is now a great support. As for my father, I havent told him yet, but I will and I think Im strong enough to tell him. As for my mom, Im lucky that she is very understanding and open and I mentioned it once but havent told her that I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year. Your story gives me strength....so Thank you for your courage :]
Edforchange 2 years ago 2
THANK YOU!
dude, you rock :-)
love from NYC
MOKandRIFF 2 years ago 4
Sheesh, is he cute or what?!
zukelad 2 years ago 3
r u cute so
tEnKaIcHi03 2 years ago 3
Thank you for sharing your story with us.
bigsherm69 2 years ago 2
Yeah, I know. It's just hard to spend the rest of my teen years in pain. I guess I'll just have to ignore their baiting and just concentrate on school so I can go to Santa Monica, CA in a few years.
Harbinger579 2 years ago 2
It makes me feel so horrible when others can say it all worked out. My parents hated it and they refused to believe it, so they wrote it off as a phase. Then they took all objects of my self-expression, claiming they were products of peer pressure. Now, I really wish I could get as far away from them as possible, but I'm 15, I have nowhere else to go, nowhere to run to where I can sort my problems out. God, now I feel like I'm gonna cry. Dammit.
Harbinger579 2 years ago
Hey Harbinger,
They act that way because they think that they can change it. You and I know that its not going to go away..but they don't know that. Being that you are 15...My advice would be not to push it with them. When you are 18 and no longer in their home you can make the changes in your life that you want to see...its not very far away.
depfox 2 years ago
@Harbinger579 listen its not the end of the world dont be upset think of yourself as a maveric for comin out so long a s you persist they will eventually realise that you are who you are i know its a bit of a bummer that tehy cant realise it sooner but they certainly havent expressed any hatred toward you
mdndahoodnawaz 1 year ago
I love how you went to a book store to help deal. I can totally identify with that. I always thought that the library saved my life. I would spend hours reading books that allowed me to reassure myself rather than hate myself for being gay.
ttowert 2 years ago
You deserve the happiness you have today Bryan. Coming out to our dads can be a very tricky and scary experience. My father (when he was alive) told me that if i ever turned out gay, he would disown me completely and rip up any pictures (or any other evidence of me) from his house. When i eventually told him, (VERY emotional moment) he accepted me. When he met Nigel, he treated him like more like more a son than me! He became proud eventually and then passed away. *pass the tissues*
Supportahol 2 years ago 3
Thanks for this remarkable story....
It was so nice to see you on cam...
angelgirl2001 2 years ago
Remarkable story indeed.
Stay strong Bryan we are supporting you all the way.
There are a great number of people in this world that are still hiding it but are ashamed of telling others due to the risk they might get themselves hurt or worst killed.
Thank you so much for sharing this video with us. Congratulations on your marriage.
Stay strong live a happy life.
Alvaro,
AlvaroAndfriends 2 years ago 2
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roverred15 2 years ago
In CA he is
depfox 2 years ago
Omg, i studied that letter in high school, my english teacher asked me to read it in front of the class, i finished it in tears obviously... it makes me realise i couldn't change myself and that I had to finally be honest about who i am as a person and who i wanted to be.
LeMaleHeureux 2 years ago
@LeMaleHeureux which letter is that? i couldn't catch it.
fizyo45 2 years ago
For me, having these feelings is my burden to carry on this earth...lol...sometimes i play around with my best friend (who's a girl) and she seems to be cool with it...idk if i should tell her though cause i think it'll be weird.
riomljr 2 years ago
XD watched this 50 times and I still want to watch it xD
candycane520 2 years ago
The first person I told was my best friend. He stopped talking to me that minute thinking that I was only his friend to get with him, which is not even close. I tried to talk to him but he never would listen so i just stopped caring. That is what is actually holding me back from telling other people now...i dont want to lose anymore friends
bassplayer0101 2 years ago
Bad coming out experiences are tough to make it through. When you expect the relief everyone else talks about and it's the opposite, it's sort of a slap in the face. Sometimes if you make an educated guess about a person's reaction, it helps. It can also be good to come out to someone that you're not that close to so you don't have as much to lose.
theknightswhosay 2 years ago
so many viewers want to see you more often bryan :))
Arado16 2 years ago 3
bryan you are so gorgeous i would french kiss you a hundred times!!! you also have great kids. you are a lucky man, jay. envy
Arado16 2 years ago 3
when i came out as a bisexual, i was in a car with my friend and my mom was driving. neither of them knew. Me and my friend were being driven to the mall. It was quiet and boring and i suddenly i remembered i was going to tell her, so i did while she was driving. They both heard, and freaked out a little. I laughed my ass off. My parents didnt care and neither did my friend :D
000punchline000 2 years ago
The first person in my family I told was my brother too
DavidDSR01 2 years ago 2
Shallow comment: Bryan I think you're incredibly hot. The reason why I found your depfox videos was because I was looking up YouTube coming out videos, and you were the most attractive guy of them all so you caught my attention.
Not so shallow comment: After watching the other videos of you and your family I've been so inspired by your efforts and lifestyle. I've fallen in love with your family. I have more to say but I'll comment on your other videos. This was my 1st depfox video though!
u3q2v 2 years ago 19
Im a lucky man :O)
Jay
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u3q2v 2 years ago
Well in all fairness he's lucky too.
u3q2v 2 years ago 5
thanks for sharing this.you're so lucky to have found each other. :)
MarcusHBP7 2 years ago 6
Bryan is SO handsome :) You are a lovely couple, makes me happy x
ta81uk 2 years ago 23
Great coming out sketch: "The China Buffet" Mark and Mom by Damien1995 ...hilarious.
dogdaysvideo 2 years ago 3
Congrats on your marriage, darling. Thanx for sharing that with us.
UnoSemper 2 years ago 5
Haha, you played Flight simulator ? I use that Joystick to play the game :)
cachdoan 2 years ago 4
You guys have helped me in my darkest days and you guys were the light I thought never would exist!! Thank You. I wish you guys the best and I wish one day that I can have your normal life with a great family, just like you guys!!
Much love, Peace
1hotchicagostud 2 years ago 2
I just love the story from both you and Jay! I wrote to you guys not to long ago on your blog and realized that when I sent it I was in a big struggle with coming out to myself.
After watching the equality march on your channel and some others I felt in my heart I have to make a stand for who I am and what I'm about. I told my ex-girlfriend and my world is now changing for the best. I feel like a new person and I am ready to brake down barriers that closed minded people have. My family is next!
1hotchicagostud 2 years ago
that's a good story
JsaintJ 2 years ago
he seems so cute
gjfranky 2 years ago
Well done :-)
oxforddictonary 2 years ago 2
Is that your gaming set up?
what kind of computer you got?
xXDarkice 2 years ago
cool story
jesusfreaklol1 2 years ago 2
Thanks for sharing your story. it wasn't gooberish :)
downtownfwa 2 years ago
thanks for sharing. very interesting video. :D i recently came out to my friend and shes very supportive in a place like mine Philippines were it is very conservative and religious, it is very rare to have people accept you for who you truly are. thanks again for sharing your story.
CUNT87 2 years ago 2
Bryan and your "housband" you are great and nice! thank you!! And what a woderfull star wars collection!! You know im a sw fan!! Im 37 years old and a didnt coming out to anyone because of terror!! Bye bye
lchiver 2 years ago 5
touching and sweet.
directory90 2 years ago 5
I am sorry your mom said that to you, my father said that to me and I told him "well I am not going to HELL until they build a shopping mall so when you get down there please give them a heads up" It has never been mentioned again!
VenusLovestar 2 years ago 9
What an awesome response.
ellemacamelle 2 years ago 2
Woau! Thank you that was a great video!
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GreenDayFtw0 2 years ago
Goober? Boring? omg. That was fantastic. I just think it is SO damn sad that a child has to face his family with WHO HEY ARE only to be met with tears and disappointment and shame. It breaks my heart. It just breaks my heart. Congratulations on your life. Love the music btw!
ccm800 2 years ago
I am not looking forward to telling my father. I wish I could tell him now, but I know I have to wait until I am on my own.
IAmGoombaSniper 2 years ago
Aw bless...I an so sorry for your fear - you do it whatever way you need to. When you want to. Best of luck - but make sure you have support. Friends who accept you and can be there for you to hold you up no matter what happens. Hope it goes well. Big love!
ccm800 2 years ago
very wise decision Goomba. we wish you luck and a positive outcome. If you ever need anyone to talk to...shoot us an email.
depfox 2 years ago
I went to Barnes and Noble (I felt like such a dork too)... it was mostly soft core porn by the way...thats why I turned to the internet and found support like you guys and couver87... So that you for being here for all of us.
kingfrederick89 2 years ago
hey bryan listen. i'm 12 years old and i know that i am gay. i've only told one person and that is my friend brooke. i think i could definetly use u as an inspiration in life and for the furture. thank you for me and other confused people! :)
P.S. havent u noticed like if a wmoan sees a straight couple see just walks by like "ya watever", but if a woman/man (mostly woman) sees a gay couple, shes all like "o im super happy for u guys ooo i wish i could be like that" ? does that bother you?
psycoman111 2 years ago
Dont be confused psyco...just be carefull and make good choices. Theres nothing wrong with being gay. trust your heart and be a kid for as long as you can. as for the P.S. why would it bother me? people have opinions about everything and not everyone is honest about theirs. That doesnt have to affect how we live our lives and how we interact with others becaue mayby they dont approve of us.
any how...very good luck to you.
Bryan
depfox 2 years ago
no bother just give me a day or 2
depfox 2 years ago