Parenting with Naomi Aldort - The child is right

[AnomandurReik]

Well maybe i did forget that to mention that was one little devil :D but seriously now i'm a responsible person and a mature one and you shoudln't let kids do what they want ... Cause if you do welll that's how you get muggers killers rapers and all that crap by letting kids do what they want telling them they are right.. Thay start thinking everything they do is right and if they don't do good stuff like steling they still think it is and it's ingraved in them , that thinking...

[Aldort]

@AnomandurReik

All criminals have been punished and spanked as children. This has been statistically proven. It is the oppression of children through the usual control that leads to aggressive and depressed people. However, you are right that children shouldn't just do whatever they want and I don't advocate that they do. Like adults, they have to be caring and responsible and they are, when treated in the way I teach.

[JimmieBluffdweller]

These are principals based upon love. I was brought up like this (with parenting based upon the ideas of A.S. Neill and Wm. Glasser.) I never had academic or social problems and grew up to be a responsible and loving adult in turn, a good citizen and a kind disposition. It is an absurd notion that striking another person is ever acceptable. How can a child learn to be loving and kind when fear and intimidation are used as discipline? Excellent.

[AnomandurReik]

I am not agreeing on what she says ....

"the child is right" . Nope the parents are right because they are the mature ones because it's their house because they are the reason the child was born and it still exists . The parents make the rules and the children follow if not.... Well you fuck em up . My parents beat the crap out of me for every dumb thing a did and i did plenty of them . Thanks to that beating now i'm a better person and understand the meaning of respect and discipline .

[NEWCHILDREN1]

i cant imagine what you went through with those parents of yours, i sre wish you get over this abuse

[Koolvedge]

@AnomandurReik You have been beaten into submission. The free-spirited will to express yourself seems extinguished by the trauma of constant beatings by who you refer to as parents. I apologize and extend feelings of healing to you.

[lovinannah]

It tooks me months to read your book because I cried every couple of pages, remembering my own feelings as a child. Thank you for enlightening me, and for helping me connect with my child.

[mamaofgcjmsl]

Naomi-

I have missed our phone sessions. You amaze me. Thank you for what you are doing for the world.

[viviana37]

There is always a good reason why children behave the way they do. I am still learning to look far beyond the behavior. We are so conditioned to react to a problem making it hard to problem solve.

[MistyWitch2601]

Very helpful. Thanks.

[reignmphoenix]

I've read the book, and many others that follow the same principles and I can tell you it's only been a very short while and my 16 month old has changed dramatically. It could also be the way I see things have changed, but either way, there is much less problems, more love and understanding.

[postmodernhousewife]

gosh, what an brilliant insight! Thank you so very much, this is very helpful.

[JapharDK]

Nice to see/hear other nationalities also talking about the inadequecy of scolding children as a behavioral regulation or intervention. In Denmark we have Erik Sigsgaard and many others on that issue.

Nice!

Also, look for Maria Aarts and family (Holland) angle on adult-child relations...

[JeanieTouchstone]

So helpful! Naomi's books, phone sessions, and teleclasses are helping me the parent I want to be.

[TheOriginalEntz]

You are a wonderful mother :)

[helpful88]

they do everything they dofora good reason excellent

[unschoolnma]

Good stuff!

[pattorngren]

Dear Naomi,

Still coming back to this site and listening to the clip... It's so good when people can understand children and treat them with the compassion they deserve! Warmly, Pat Torngren

[rachelrernst]

Am anxious for The Work for Parents. THANK YOU for ROCRO & introducing The Work of Byron Katie specific to parenting. Seeing The Work done through other people in your book I can mitigate for myself the authoritarian "Do it because I said so" attitude. Working it through the daily situations is challenging, and seeing your video helps get me back into the peaceful headspace where I want to be, the one that's most loving to myself and my child.

[chalidafey]

Dear Naomi,

that's it! Just by answering needs, by understanding and with awareness it DOES work this way.

Chalida Fey

[CynthiaMcNellis]

This is just perfect child raising information and instruction. If we all worked with this attitude of 'there is a good reason for every behavior' for our children and ourselves it would increase understanding, compassion and greatly improve life on this planet. I will send this to others.

[bodhimama26]

Thank you, Naomi, for bringing this important work to parents. -Lauren

[DaynaLeighMartin]

Naomi, thank you for this video! I hope everyone on YouTube watches it! It could change the world!

~Peace & Love, Dayna

[Inesanchondo]

Thank you, Naomi...it is wonderful to "see you." Thank you also for addressing this topic. We have a lot to learn from our children...they are such wonderful teachers.... :)

[pattorngren]

Wonderful Naomi, You show so clearly why looking at children's outward behaviour and rewarding or punishing it, achieves nothing. Thank you for showing so clearly why we need to get to the needs and feelings underneath. Then the problem is solved and everyone wins... Bravo! Pat, South Africa

[polykow]

Naomi You are awesome!! I have counseled a couple of times with you and it was priceless.

[tituscaesar]

so true!! what an enlightened woman & mother!! wish my mother saw things like naomi...i would be a very different and better person now!!

[Ruacello]

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