I raised my grandchild for 5 years and then my son (the father) moved out with his new girfriend (not the mother because she is in prison). Now he is allowing his gf to control and emotionally discipline his child which I thought was excessive. He then tells me that I need to stay away and keeps her from me for 3 weeks. I am the only "mother" she has known. Now I fear for her safety and mental health!
Ok I'm sorry, but I don't care who you are, anyone hurting my parents I would have no feelings towards. And I'm not saying keeping the GP's away, ASK the PARENTS!!!! In some cases the GP's go to court withOUT even talking to the parents. Do you have kids? Say you didn't trust your or other side GP's. REMEMBER that NOT everyone was as lucky as you were. What if your grandparents tried to take custody away from your parents. And you're parents just let them. What would you think?
So I'm selfish for doing the right thing for MY child!? So you also think that it's okay that for 5 days each month (missing school remind you) to be flown on an airplane, over 3000 miles one way? You believe that is perfectly healthy and normal for a child? And I'm the sick one? I don't use them as weapons, in this case the GP's use the child as the weapon. Remind you NOT all GP's do what's in the best interest for the child.
How am I sick? Because the grandparents in this case, hurt MY child! Remember NOT all grandparents love their grandkids like urs have done (and mine). They don't belong in making decisions for the child that is not theirs. How about the grandparents that use the law for their own selfish own? So you're telling me that the grandparents should raise their GROWN kids kids? Remember your grandparents loved you and let YOUR parents be parents.
Grand-Parents rights are only Grand-Parents rights & arenot Grand-Childrens Rights unless the child not seeing Grand-Parent causes that child emotional distress to be away from the stable Grand-Parent whom the child had a stable and emotionally supportive relationship with.
some children who never know there Grand-Parent do not have a relationship with the Grand-Parent therefore there is no emotional distress for the child as there is no seperation of bond with a Grand-Child who never knew that Grand-Parent
Exactly. The emotional well being over the child as well when the grandparents go against the CP's wishes. Also they only do it because it's ordered and once the order stops they stop being grandparents. How about the parents who move away from the grandparents. Just because the parents move doesnt mean that grandparents have rights to take that child.
The problem with the standard of best interest of the child, as well as the phrase essential to the welfare of the minor child; is that each and every person(including judges) have a different definition of what that is. I won my case against my ex wife and her parents, but not without 2 years in court and $60,000 in legal fees. This is a slippery slope.
@EyeinTeaJay I agree. What about the parents constitutional rights. When you allow a 3rd party to interfere with how the child is raised, you are taking away the parents rights. Con. 1,4,9, & 14. What about the time/suffering/money that can be used towards those kids. The kids see that their grandparents want to take them away from Mom and Dad and will hold a vengeance against the grandparents. Let the parents be parents. Stay out. You didn't give birth so you have no say on those kids.
To the author-Just because YOUR grandparents were like that, NOT all are. Some sets use those kids as pawns. What about the rights of the parents that GAVE birth to the kids? They don't have a right to say how those kids will be raised? My GPs didn't interfere with my parents wishes and I RESPECTED them!!!!!! (The GPs) I have NO respect for some1 who doesn't respect anothers wishes. In all honesty I would have hated my GP's if they would have taken my parents to court.
@Blahme03 what about the parents ??? If a grand parent does nothing but love your kids then why do you use them as weapons? Because you have the POWER to do so. By the way, I would have Loved my grandparents for taking spoiled brats to court because they loved me so much that they could not bare to not ever get to see me. It is the parents of a spoiled generation which is causing this to be an issue.Prior to your generation Parents would never have used their kids as pawns to get what they want
@Blahme03 Your sick ! you would have nothing had it not been for your parents and yet you won't let them LOVE you kids. Sick, Sick Sick ! I cannot even imagine judging my parents to the degree that it would prevent them from seeing my kids if they loved them. What a sick , selfish generation of babies raising babies.
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grandwish 1 month ago
I raised my grandchild for 5 years and then my son (the father) moved out with his new girfriend (not the mother because she is in prison). Now he is allowing his gf to control and emotionally discipline his child which I thought was excessive. He then tells me that I need to stay away and keeps her from me for 3 weeks. I am the only "mother" she has known. Now I fear for her safety and mental health!
Jbalangue 1 month ago
Ok I'm sorry, but I don't care who you are, anyone hurting my parents I would have no feelings towards. And I'm not saying keeping the GP's away, ASK the PARENTS!!!! In some cases the GP's go to court withOUT even talking to the parents. Do you have kids? Say you didn't trust your or other side GP's. REMEMBER that NOT everyone was as lucky as you were. What if your grandparents tried to take custody away from your parents. And you're parents just let them. What would you think?
Blahme03 1 year ago
So I'm selfish for doing the right thing for MY child!? So you also think that it's okay that for 5 days each month (missing school remind you) to be flown on an airplane, over 3000 miles one way? You believe that is perfectly healthy and normal for a child? And I'm the sick one? I don't use them as weapons, in this case the GP's use the child as the weapon. Remind you NOT all GP's do what's in the best interest for the child.
Blahme03 1 year ago
How am I sick? Because the grandparents in this case, hurt MY child! Remember NOT all grandparents love their grandkids like urs have done (and mine). They don't belong in making decisions for the child that is not theirs. How about the grandparents that use the law for their own selfish own? So you're telling me that the grandparents should raise their GROWN kids kids? Remember your grandparents loved you and let YOUR parents be parents.
Blahme03 1 year ago
I think if you raised your Grand-Child, I think once custody changes hands you should be entitled to visitation with your Grand-Child
mylovesofmylife 1 year ago
Grand-Parents rights are only Grand-Parents rights & arenot Grand-Childrens Rights unless the child not seeing Grand-Parent causes that child emotional distress to be away from the stable Grand-Parent whom the child had a stable and emotionally supportive relationship with.
mylovesofmylife 1 year ago
some children who never know there Grand-Parent do not have a relationship with the Grand-Parent therefore there is no emotional distress for the child as there is no seperation of bond with a Grand-Child who never knew that Grand-Parent
mylovesofmylife 1 year ago
Exactly. The emotional well being over the child as well when the grandparents go against the CP's wishes. Also they only do it because it's ordered and once the order stops they stop being grandparents. How about the parents who move away from the grandparents. Just because the parents move doesnt mean that grandparents have rights to take that child.
Blahme03 1 year ago
The problem with the standard of best interest of the child, as well as the phrase essential to the welfare of the minor child; is that each and every person(including judges) have a different definition of what that is. I won my case against my ex wife and her parents, but not without 2 years in court and $60,000 in legal fees. This is a slippery slope.
EyeinTeaJay 2 years ago
@EyeinTeaJay I agree. What about the parents constitutional rights. When you allow a 3rd party to interfere with how the child is raised, you are taking away the parents rights. Con. 1,4,9, & 14. What about the time/suffering/money that can be used towards those kids. The kids see that their grandparents want to take them away from Mom and Dad and will hold a vengeance against the grandparents. Let the parents be parents. Stay out. You didn't give birth so you have no say on those kids.
Blahme03 1 year ago
To the author-Just because YOUR grandparents were like that, NOT all are. Some sets use those kids as pawns. What about the rights of the parents that GAVE birth to the kids? They don't have a right to say how those kids will be raised? My GPs didn't interfere with my parents wishes and I RESPECTED them!!!!!! (The GPs) I have NO respect for some1 who doesn't respect anothers wishes. In all honesty I would have hated my GP's if they would have taken my parents to court.
Blahme03 1 year ago
@Blahme03 what about the parents ??? If a grand parent does nothing but love your kids then why do you use them as weapons? Because you have the POWER to do so. By the way, I would have Loved my grandparents for taking spoiled brats to court because they loved me so much that they could not bare to not ever get to see me. It is the parents of a spoiled generation which is causing this to be an issue.Prior to your generation Parents would never have used their kids as pawns to get what they want
MsDezzyzRayz 1 year ago
@Blahme03 Your sick ! you would have nothing had it not been for your parents and yet you won't let them LOVE you kids. Sick, Sick Sick ! I cannot even imagine judging my parents to the degree that it would prevent them from seeing my kids if they loved them. What a sick , selfish generation of babies raising babies.
MsDezzyzRayz 1 year ago
Do you have a daughter named Kara? I think we used to be neighbors...
thatjennchick 3 years ago