"Family" Is a Verb -- Not a Noun

[PolitcalIslam]

I familied my children and wife.

[TheLogicJunkie]

@PolitcalIslam Good for you. It has to start somewhere.

[ninincnals]

I will forever wait for more videos from The Logic Junkie, I check weekly thinking there will be a new video :/

[alwazinluv]

Thanks for your videos they are amazingly life changing.

[nielss4]

I love your mind. Subjective logic is very undervalued in society. (I understand that logic by its very nature is not "subjective", however, after a while you come to realise that nothing is completely subjective or objective, but subjective-objective is merely a continuum (like almost everything in life). In my own terms I define objective logic by society's logic based on universally agreed upon "facts", and subjective logic by individual logic based on your own observations.)

[TheLogicJunkie]

@nielss4 I disagree with your terms. My needs as a living creature give me a subjective agenda to survive and to thrive, but my means to achieving that are not the will-powered subjectivism of Leni Riefenstahl's "Triumph of the Will" (I hope). Rather, I try to accomplish my subjective agenda to survive and thrive by heeding a discipline of objectivity with regard to what the world around me really and truly has to offer, and what it truly doesn't.

[TheLogicJunkie]

In short, my goal is to meet my subjective needs by objective means.

[TheRogueMonk]

WITHOUT A DOUBT i forgot to say tha ti agree that ITS AVERB

to love is not about trading

i am working on this myself to tell myself that KINDNESS AND LOVE IS FOR FREE you cant have the bad habit of being a salesman when it comes to kindess and love

its supposed to be FREE YOU GIVE IT AWAY.. but as humans we tend to thin kwe are stupid if we give love and kindness and dont recieve it while these days i see how rediculous i am and i am very glad cause i am reliefed for the fact that i never lose

[TheRogueMonk]

Funny thing you mention thsi i am 27 and i used to think my dad was nothin gshort of superman .. he knew everything and could do everything

TURNS OUT he was not far from that but as you say he does things in ways that are just not right.. mainly because he is human.. i started to question him but now that childish love still came back! and i hought to myself LOVE IS A CHOICE becasue i understand my father and what he has done for me. evaluating the standard does not mean to stop loving

[TheLogicJunkie]

That's great. At the very least, if it turns out we were lucky to have parents who were actually good-hearted people (many parents aren't), then we can come to realize all the challenges they braved in order to provide for us.

[maybetuesday1790]

I've never been there. Is it really that bad? Why do you think that is? So curious.

[TheLogicJunkie]

I don't know precisely why it is, but I can make some guesses. I think it's because that quadrant of the country is probably one of the last places to really be inhabited as promiscuously as everywhere else, and also because the ethnicity of people who originally settled it were Germanic. And Germanic people are a particular group of people who unsettle me the most -- they always give off this very eugenic, supremacist air to me. It's in the way they look at you, talk to you, everything.

[maybetuesday1790]

@TheLogicJunkie I think you might be on to something here. I'm from a certain part of PA that is chalk full of Germanic ancestry. Everything you wrote is so true.There's definitely a "holier than thou" attitude among these people. Did you ever notice how curious they are about a person's ethnicity, especially if it is ambiguous (like mine)?

[TheLogicJunkie]

Most of the Anglo-German ancestry you see throughout the world tends to ultimately originate in the German regions of Angeln and Sachsen, which have come to be labeled as "Anglo-Saxon" over time. Throughout the world and throughout history, they have tended to have an ethno-supremacist agenda to infiltrate, enslave, ethnically cleanse, and establish a highly-developed "Germanics on top" culture, where advanced technologies are largely created to serve them preferentially.

[MrJohnnysakai]

To further illuminate the principle of tar baby: To catch one type of crab, you place a cage, w/o a covering but with bait inside, on the ocean floor. A crab will find its way into the cage and start eating. It is soon joined by another and then another until the cage is full. Long after the bait has gone, the crabs could climb out however, when one tries, the others pull it back in. When it tries again, it's attacked again and again. Those closest to one can at times be the greatest hinderance

[TheLogicJunkie]

Nice description...

[196323100]

Family can be the new word for vampire. When you find the strength to walk away 'family' feels the need to bash due to the fact you do not feel a need to become a cookie cutter model. This said my family gives new meaning to dysfunction.

[TheLogicJunkie]

Family is the most dangerous thing ever -- not because the people in our families are necessarily out to destroy us, but because they could be, yet we are raised with the brainwashing to never think to consider that possibility. So it's a deadly blind spot in our lives.

[196323100]

@TheLogicJunkie Or the need to fit the social masking and the bashing from others when you refuse to accept and integrate the dysfunction into your own life.

The social norm is that the dysfunction should be a shared dna strain between members of the family, You as a person have no right to walk away. Looking into society they have no creditably to their own insanity

[maybetuesday1790]

@196323100 I call them emotional vampires.Did you ever notice how the ones least likely to succeed drain the life out of the "gifted" (for lack of a better word) ones.They drag that one down till there's nothing left. It's called jealousy and envy.They destroy the one who has the lightest heart.

[TheLogicJunkie]

What you are describing is a city called Portland, Oregon. It exists almost completely on that very dynamic.

[thetrophyone]

There is no such thing as positive criticism. A lot of people will say they are trying to help you because they love you, but if you love someone you accept them. Not tell them you wont' get anywhere in life, not what YOU THINK is wrong with them , etc...like I heard. I told these people if they apologized and promised not to do it again we'd be cool, but they look at me like I'm the asshole for sticking up for myself after years of crap. You have to find your own way in this world.

[TheLogicJunkie]

I've definitely been around "friends" who are really just Iagos -- they hiss in your ears that they're such "good friends" because they're "honest enough" to tell you all your shortcomings. But you'll notice that they never highlight your positive qualities -- they always seem to gloss over those, even if 95% of your behaviors are overwhelmingly positive, and that reveals their underlying motivation to be malicious.

[thetrophyone]

well put.

[thetrophyone]

My aunts and uncles would do the same as above but also they'd make a lot of rude comments after I said something like I wasn't even standing there. I can't tell you the number of times I'd go to stick up for myself by talking about my opinion only to have someone SCREAMING at the top of their lungs at me. I can understand my family getting involved if I was shooting heroin, or going to kill/ seriously injure myself or someone else...but their treatment was pure garbage.

[thetrophyone]

I COMPLETELY understand what you are saying. I refuse to talk to my grandparents and a lot of my uncles and aunts because they kept offering rude and unasked for advice. When I was 16, every time I saw my grandparents they'd give me shit about not going to church, looking into other religions, and having long hair. Once when I told them to leave me alone, my grandfather told me , "Okay the rose colored glasses you see the world through..." i.e. calling me stupid.

[thetrophyone]

Dude, you nailed it again! 10 out of 10! I remember a minister told me,"Thou shalt honor thy mother and father" ...If your mother and father are honorable. There's a term for these types of people that make you doubt yourself. They are called," Energy Vampires" because they suck your energy when you are around them. Ever finish a long winded and one sided conversation with someone and then you keep yawning? Energy Vampire.

[TheLogicJunkie]

Thanks... and, yep, they do sound like vampires. That's a great term for it.

[UnstreamedMainstream]

I love how you have to tell yourself, "Moving on." It makes me laugh!

[TheLogicJunkie]

Yeah... *L* I'm a mess like that.

[ElGato2448]

You see, folks like "us" truly see beneath the facade of modern society for what it real is. As a result we become somewhat disheartened & disillusioned with life.

Sound insight, but sometimes I wish I wasn't so insightful because - "ignorance is bliss"!

[eteachout]

Like how you slipped in a John Lennon quote.

[TheLogicJunkie]

Really?  Which one?

[eteachout]

Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans... It's from "Beautiful Boy".

[TheLogicJunkie]

Oh, okay. So, does the phrase originate with that song, or did Lennon borrow it for the song?

[eteachout]

Good question. I'll go ask him.

[TheLogicJunkie]

Here's a shovel. *toss*

[eteachout]

You're not even going to help me dig, you bastard? This is all your fault.

[TheLogicJunkie]

hahahahah

[eteachout]

Death to Mark David Chapman.

[TheLogicJunkie]

What about whoever hired him to amBush and Bush-whack John Lennon?

[eteachout]

May they be doomed to an eternity of listening to Yoko Ono sing.

[vervin1980]

great vid

[TheLogicJunkie]

Thanks.

[jpbroadwater]

I think however much your family has disenfranchised you, they're going to be consistently closer and more loyal to you than everyone else - a few exceptions given.

How come we never see clips outside your room, of your world and your family? As much as I love and respect your videos and comments, I think that would be a positive development.

[TheLogicJunkie]

Well, I don't really know how to carry around a steady-cam in the outside world. Also, I might start doing something like that if I get some better equipment. But right now, I'm back to being a poor student yet again.

[thehmmmm]

It's been awhile. I entirely agree with this video. I loathed having to truck around to family events for people who didn't care about me. They never supported me in particular and so I saw it no more than a time-consuming formality (especially in my huge extended family). If there was a mutual compassion and such I would not mind the sacrifice. My mother was of the totally alien idea that you have to support your family. I don't see how that's fair, especially for those with deadbeat families.

[TheLogicJunkie]

Exactly right. Most "family" is black comedy -- they pile on the saccharine histrionics and melodrama, but there's no real feeling there.

...Just like Robert de Niro's character of Al Capone screamed at Kevin Costner's character of Elliott Ness in "The Untouchables", much of "family" is really "just a lotta talk and a badge".

[thehmmmm]

Unfortunately most of the world has agreed with the idea of serving those to whom you are born. I felt kinda lonely when everyone says "Oh, I cherish my family and would do anything for them." Especially when you tell them you don't feel the same, they question your psychological health.

[TheLogicJunkie]

...That's because the unstated criteria for "mental health" that this society (and, gutlessly, the mental "health" industry itself) operates upon, is what I'll just call the "illusion of majority":

If something only seems to be in the majority (through smokescreen or groupthink bullshit), then that makes it "sane", and everything else is "crazy" and/or "stupid".

Objectively and independently of all mores of social convention, you are right. But, within those mores, you are wrong.

[TheLogicJunkie]

And, mind you, something doesn't actually have to really be in the majority... BUT, if particular propaganda weasels manage to trick enough suggestible people into thinking that a given pet agenda of theirs really IS in the majority, then those sheep will believe it, fear nonconforming to it, and will fascistically jump on the bandwagon to perpetuate it.

As Ayn Rand so astutely said, though, "A million zeroes is still zero".

[toadenk]

life is like a box of chocolates

never know what kind of shit they gonna give you

does the tin god vibrate when the string is pulled?

[jablomee5]

How Insightful

[CCRoxtar]

I used to hear the Brer Rabbit/Tar Baby story as a kid, & I saw "Forrest Gump" as a teen, so I know what you're talking about. Regarding "family," Malcolm X used to say, "Husband means you take care of your wife. Father means you take care of your children." Ideally, the same people who made you also raise you & teach you right from wrong, but such is not always the case. Indeed, family is as family does, just like "stupid is..." Keep preachin', bro!

[TheLogicJunkie]

*L* Thanks.  Will do.

[WestLake009]

This channel is sooo underrated =)

[TheLogicJunkie]

Heh. Thanks.

[Majinsirdi]

Thanks for this video. Really liked it!

[TheLogicJunkie]

Glad you did.

[rollerpodger]

great vid 5 stars like i always said respect is a two way street

[RRRoalef]

You would absolutely love Stefan Molyneux - Freedomain Radio - stefbot on youtube. He's written a book called UPB - Universally preferable behavior: a rational proof of secular ethics I think you would especially enjoy..  Among other free books and countless podcasts. Atheist, anarchist, rationalist.

[TheLogicJunkie]

Thank you -- I'll check him out. I like stuff like that.

[BeechBumagan]

Make your own mind up on that one, but imo, Molyneux is a cult like figure in the anarchist YT community who you won't like, because he doesn't brook descent from those he disagrees with. A look at the videos of ReIgNoFrAdNeSs on Stefbot to get the other side.

[ZullGostnu]

Molyneux is dishonest in his use of reason. He uses many dishonest arguments.

[sportsbettingman]

You are making a cool "virtual uncle" to my boys. (don't worry about the language...I let them in on the fun and power of swear words) :-) You tell stories in an engaging way.

I'm a nostalgic...so I enjoy all the old "pre-PC police" world.

You could branch off like I have always thought...you are basically born into your wealth, political views, religion, language and much more. (at least until around 17 years old)

5 stars.

[TheLogicJunkie]

Well, thanks... Boys need a good arsenal of swear words. *L* We have to keep the sacred torch of coarseness lit through these dark ages of underhanded weinerdom.

Glad I can be of service. *L*

[ozjthomas]

Momo is awesome. Won't comment on the family thing much, although I found it interesting psychiatry is considering adding a "relational disorder" to the next DSM.

[TheLogicJunkie]

I don't even bat an eyelash at that.

But there's one disorder I guarantee that you'll never see in the DSM: "Pathological Conformity Disorder".

The DSM is a strictly political instrument of the reclusive uber-brats who run this planet, and nothing more. And so, you will never see a "Pathological Conformity Disorder", or a "Corporate Psychopath Disorder".

[ozjthomas]

I saw this program once- the malignant egophrenia of George Bush. You are spot on there, it is largely an agent of social control.

[TheLogicJunkie]

It's a sad world, that you can't just default to feelings of safety and trust. Nature compels the predator.

[MadBadVoodo]

Five Stars!!

[5amGordon]

My grandmother had a cat named Tar Baby. I was wondering where she got that name.

[TheLogicJunkie]

Well, during his presidential campaign, John McCain got in a bit of trouble for referring to some morass issue (I forget which it was) as a "tar baby". And, of course, the Bolsheviks demonized him in the media, calling him a "racist" for using that term, which "clearly and only refers to black people".

I, however, beg to differ -- it's a generic term, meaning "morass". Of course, he could've also said "morass", but nobody ever asked me what I thought.

[Donkeyhawk]

McCain Lieberman would have been a great ticket instead of that cum dumpster Palin he decides to throw her into the mix... she should sit on my penis.

[TheLogicJunkie]

*LOL*

Actually, she may be crazy quilt, but I do think she's hot.

[Donkeyhawk]

I like the Freudian logic , everyone wants to fuck their mom and kill their father... hehehehe my mom's let herself go, so at this point in my life I just wanna fuckin kill my dad.

[djdevil0000]

EXACTLY, swear 2 god you gotta do like 2 more parts 2 this logicjunkee. ive been trying to find good information about this realization and the only thing i could find was my own introspective information. Dude i know you arent completely satisfied with this one video. trust me it do us all a favor if you went into more detail in another video or mor example, not becasue i didnt get it but because more people are having this problem with there "family" than anyone wants to admit. GREAT VID!

[Donkeyhawk]

Life is like a box of chocolates, you end up with those fucked up ones with the pink shit in the middle.

[TheLogicJunkie]

*L*  And who knows what the pink shit is made of.

[sonnybrakes]

keep up the good work.