The Psychophysiology Lab and Biofeedback Clinic at ECU uses biofeedback and psychophysiology to help Americas wounded warriors heal the emotional wounds of war.
I work at the VA & assess vets w/ traumatic brain injury (TBI), dementia, & other neurological disorders (&PTSD as well) 4 degree of cognitive deficits. A very different person comes through my office depending on what theater of war they come from (WWII, VN, Desert Storm, OIF/OEF). Yet the debilitating effects of PTSD and TBI do not discriminate. I showed this video in a talk I gave to civilians on PTSD and TBI. Thank you for giving me something REAL to show ppl who otherwise, had no idea..
@DaniBinegar Thank you for your comment on "Talking PT Blues". It pleases me that you found it useful in your work with folks who are trying to deal with traumatic brain injury. Thank you for being there for these vets and their families.
Nice song Tom.Sadly ,the conflicts involved with marriage.politics and career building are also likely suspects.I doubt very many people are not infected by the disorder in one way or another.
Like the Americans the Israelis have come to know what PTSD means over and over and over again, and like the Americans the Israelis have innocently lived for too long without really knowing about PTSD and what it means. I am an indirect casualty of PTSD and I have recently documented our own personal experience with it in my video "The other Home Coming". It just happens that we here too are playing guitars, I am touched by your song, thank you for saying what you feel so beautifully.
I'm a medically retired Navy corpsman with severe chronic PTSD, and on top of that I have a traumatic brain injury. Apparently the symptoms of the 2 overlap. I'm at 80 percent disabled, and the DAV wants to make it 100%. I felt like the whole song was about me. Thanks for tellin my story.
@DeliberatelyBroken its hard to get 100 % for ptsd and tbi... i have 80 % also and im rated at 100 % due to unemployability...the reason they awarded me that is because i cannot hold gainfull employment...and i have a history of grosely inappropriate behavure...thats why i got 100% pnt with only 80% disability... they have that polict because so many vets cannot function in society but they are only rated at between 70 and 100 % if you have any questions, dont hesitate to contact me...
Mr. TomSmithMusic – I also am a Vietnam era Vet a desk jockey I want to thank you and am surfing YT today but I want you to know I am compiling a disk of my favorite video’s and you will be on it this song I am watching so long after we both are gone I hope the many copies I will give one to each of my children and grandchildren you and I will sort of live on recorded on a BLUE RAY DISK of my favorites, just thought you might take a little pleasure in knowing that. Take Care
ive got ptsd and 100%pnt is what they gave me... now i cant work, posess a weapon and cannot get life insurance and all the cops know me by name...they keep me heavily sedated and thats just to stop me from acting out on one of those mailboxes that resemble ieds... great song. you need to make an album if you havnt already... your words remind me that im not the only one with ptsd...
PTSD is controllable with a proper psychological perspective ( I know this from personal experience) but frequently most people don't have the ability to believe in abstract concepts that allow people to accept what they saw or did. People who don't believe that killing in war is acceptable (many people would freeze when they were about to pull the trigger before modern conditioning) tend to suffer from PTSD when faced with traumatic infliction of violence by or on those they respect.
People try to overcome their unwillingness to kill in many ways, some more successful than others. The result is that many manage to do their jobs in the field but then reevaluate their actions from a civilian standpoint and fail to grasp the context. People can work past it by believing that their actions were right or accepting the loss of friends or civilians as the sad price of war.
@lipovan87 You can say that a woman can work out her PTSD by believing that a dick forced into her vegina against her wish is right and accept it as the sad price of being in the wrong time and place
but... that doesn't really make things any better... no, in fact it doesn't
and most people who do not want to go to the army because they don't want to kill people simply do not go to the army and even risk sitting in jail for it
why? because they believe what they are doing is right
Does that say war is never justified? No. Merely that it must waged with a reasonable cause and within the laws of war for the psychological welfare of the soldiers.
Another aspect is that even much of the military cannot fathom true hostility on the part of other people and whole societies than cannot be won over. The desire to be loved comes in harsh conflict with pure hate and people lose confidence in their own cause.
for i chose not to alianate this person or degredate his being but see him as a disabled (mentally) human being of whom i cannot expect the basic conditions of humanity because he has problems in his brain or whatever that should be fixed
as you can see - no feelings (but, perhaps, empathy, compassion, understanding, forgiveness) are involved in this stage
the alternative is to become inhuman and miss out life i guess
Or perhaps the fullest recognition of the humanity of others is the willingness to acknowledge that some do evil things in the full knowledge of it. That men can choose to be evil as well as good. Rape is never justified but it is part of the world. Some cynicism might be in order.
for example - the mind of a psychopath indicates that a psychopath is unmoved by pain as normal people are
so psychopaths don't care - they can't
on the other hand - there IS treatment for that - which is promising news
i can tell you 100% that the person who assulted me did not want to behave the way he did but was incapable of displaying a normal human being behavior
I can say so for I was there
What you refer to is rage - violent rage - that is uncontrollable
sometimes even teaching a person how to make love can turn him from a guy who rapes his wife 5 times a day because he needs sex and she is supposed to see his needs (in religious cultures such as some muslim i've heard it) to a guy that makes gentle love to his wife and satisfies first her and both him
in western culture he would be considered 'rapist'
Human beings are not born with self-control. As children, we want everything but realistically have to do without. The process is one of desire, inability to meet that desire, acceptance of inability and ignoring the desire (AKA self-control). Some people are not told no and are not brought up in a way that ensures psychological stability and the respect of other people.
A lot of them are stupid which is one reason they can't satisfy their desire a better way.
People do not always think through all the possibilities or in different mindsets. Psychopaths are almost entirely egotistical in that their only concern for pain is themselves. Many of them break down in court full of tears. We assume they are for the victims but rather he cries for himself. I don't know about the neurology of the cases are but even they don't act when faced with the threat of their own death or pain. Rage is controllable. People just don't.
I have encountered a person who suffers psychopathic character pathologies in his behavior so i know very well that stage of bursting with tears for fear of self - and not out of caring for the other.
My point is that psychopaths do not care because they can't - it's their character's deficit.
Yeah, they also (some) feel sorry for themselves that they are practically nearly inhuman.
for example - I told the psycho who assulted me that my
I find it reasonable that they are only the more extreme forms of a wider phenomenon; that most people cannot relate to other human beings and yet desire to. They realize their estrangement is not natural or healthy and seek to find some way to at least believe they care for others. Yet the proof of the depth comes out in life and the seriousness of their actions. Psychopaths may have some normal desires but their ability to act properly in full is nil.
As controlled violence is my profession as a soldier, I still insist that rage and other such impulses are controllable. People just need the right motivation and processes. In doing so, one goes up against one's own sense of aggression which may be greater in some than in others. Even psychopaths have the ability to control it or they would charge at the prosecutor in a trial. They may desire a normal life but I doubt that they could ever achieve it despite the desire.
I can say "rape/war/ violence is never justified but is a part of this world and happens when people do not know - can't seem to demonstrate an alternative way (for rape - having great sex together, attracting those they are attracted to so that they won't be rejected, for war - finding ways to share and live together - not impose selves on others or fight for territory, or religion or whatever)
it will still not enable me or anyone who suffers PTSD to be rid of the syndrom
I would say that war is justified :) (my first use of an emoticon) At some point the desires of different societies are mutually exclusive. Society A wants to be able to invest in mines to provide the raw materials for their industries, society B decides to tax the foreigners for their domestic social programs. After some anger and abuses, war results. That's how the Chilean-Peruvian war for the Atacama desert started and they are still angry over it.
Acceptance can help ease pain, but as long as there is no security, and release of trauma, there cannot be healing
Also - a lot of people who develop PTSD had hidden psychological struggles (personality disorders, tendencies to anexiety or even violent behavior) before the trauma and the trauma triggered the breaking out of ALL problems
And yet some people went thru holocaust and say life is a gift and you should live every day to the
I cannot know anything about other psychological disorders being suffered at the same time. Trauma is a drastic and painful change from what was before and the reaction to that pain may be a defense against threats that no longer exist. The only technique I have seen work is just simply to explain that the environment has changed, that the person isn't crazy and the mind's defense mechanisms. I have only used that for Iraq vets though.
As an Art therapist I was asked to do a presentation on PTSD with Vets. This song was the perfect conclusion to the powerpoint. Thanks for helping me understand
Thank GOD for you, Tom Smith. Your song meant so much to me and I played it for someone I care about that doesn't have PTSD. I do and I think this explains it just fine.
Not to me it aint either,,,,way to go man, fantastic lyrics,you hit the nail on the head. Maybe tonight I'll get some sleep, but this ptsd just makes me weep..My "hidden injuries" seem to seap, into my mind ,that I'd like to keep.,Too many people think this is too deep, and off of a bridge they fear I'll leap,I wish most knew that I'm quite together,,,,,there are just some horrible events,that I dont want to remember..
wow from the first verse you totally describe my PTSD... i wish you all the healing possible in the universe friend... i must favorite this video to try to show other people who just cant understand...
Dude, you FUCKING ROCK! I have complex PTSD and BPD. I love your video and your song! . I'm a singer/songwriter too. I made a video about all the shit going down right now (including the hidden wounds of Veterans) hope you like it. :) Let's all pitch in to right the wrongs!
I have Complex PTSD but I can so relate to this song. I have to go Monday to prove yet again for SSI that I have this ... I'm so sick of having to prove 30 years worth of abuse. I'm on so many meds I cant walk straight and no one give a s*it.
DONT READ THIS Cause It Really Works. YOU WILL GET KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE. TOMORROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. HOWEVER IF YOU DONT POST THIS COMMENT TO AT LEAST 3 VIDEOS YOU WILL DIE WITHIN 2 DAYS. NOW UV STARTED READIN DIS DUNT STOP THIS IS SO SCARY. SEND THIS OVER TO 5 VIDEOS IN 143 MINUTES WHEN UR DONE PRESS F6 AND UR CRUSHES NAME WILL APPEAR ON THE SCREEN IN BIG LETTERS. THIS IS SO SCARY Cuz IT ACTUALLY WORKS THIS reaLLY WORKS
Wow, man, this is one of the best talking blues songs i've ever heard!! Everything about it was great, the subjest matter, the rhythm to your voice, your guitar technique..
Anyways, i'll be subsribing after this song! I have a talkin' blues song myself on here, actually, if you'd be interested in hearing it.
children are brought up now with PTSD as their inheritance from traumatized parents. we're all the walking wounded.
the key is rebuilding trust..........how hard when all has been shattered. but if it's been broken, must believe it can be re-paired.
2 sides - create the whole. around the whole is a protective sheath - that sheath has been nicked and severed. the healing is the journey we've been placed on.
I so appreciate this song and hear what you are saying. Thank you! Im sorry you are going through this and all the others in this world. People need to understand and start caring. Peace bro.
And too often too many people have this crazy idea that PTSD is only from combat. Let's see you get raped, then laughed at by the cops AS you bleed from the rape; or you get assaulted because some guy doesn't "approve" of your physical disability, and though it's on video the cops do nothing and you have to pay for the medical bills from the assault out of YOUR pocket; or you go to jail for defending yourself from a forced home invasion in a state where it's legal to defend yourself.
Or you are being accused for being a stalker who wants a relationship with a guy who assulted you sexually (not physically), put you down and violated you mentally and emotionally because you decided to not shut up and suffer in silence but confront him with his actions until he is aware and gets up to seek help for his psycho problems
And nobody understands why you laugh when they threaten to call the cops on you - maybe it's because you care no more for your life anymore...
@MagicalSunrise1984 ... and people wonder why I am such an asshole and willing to get into fights....LOL!
Stalker? No. Cops simply do not care. The other night I got a ticket for disorderly conduct. Because a man assaulted me. He swung, I didn't. And it's all on video tape. But that's ok, give me the worse of the charges between us. What the hell. Fucking pigs.
But if there is no choice then i fight with might and stop at nothing in the name of what i believe is right
thus - i try to adjust my worldview to fit harmoniously with the world - so that my beliefs will not hurt myself or others - and my fighting for what i believe in will be for the best of all (as much as possible)
I liked your video sir.Everybody deals,with the mental think in different ways.What helped me,was the death poetry of Lincoln.A lot of his poetry,is just madness.I tell people,and show people his poetry,and they can't understand,how someone could overcome that,and get better,and become President.
O.I.F. 1 and I am right there with your tune. The fuckin ringing wont stop. Along with the thoughts. I live in my now but am overtaken by my yesterday that wont go away. My nightmares and alchole. Want sleep, hate the nightmares. Tryed the drugs but damn near killed myself tryin to get back in that blackhawk at 2 in the am. Thank god for my girlfriend. I was 3rd floor in the B's. WTF. Thanks for the song older brother.
its sad to say, but, the V.A. is broken. and all veterans are in danger. your song hits the nail on the head. Why would any young person join the military, "IF" they knew they would be out in the cold, living under a bridge, without medical care, or meds. to end up fighting for decades, to obtain what was promised when they joined ? I fought two years in combat, then returned home to fight 40 years for benifits. no luck yet.
I am a big Dylan fan, I also like Woody Guthrie and Tom Paxton. I posted a video response. Its a bad quality video and the song I have only practiced three or four times. If you listen to the words, it is my own thoughts as someone who suffers the effects of accumulative traumas. If you want I could send you the lyrics with Chords. I taught myself how to play in the last 2 years so I'm not a great guitar player
Beautiful song, the words are as true to PTSD as i can relate, i can't really relate at all but my father has PTSD, served in Vietnam...is unemployable, highly volatile, etc....anyway, I love your song and will spread the word
Send it to the Whitehouse and congress. We the People hear you, Tom. You sing for the majority who want to stop this maddness and truely support our troops. Justice, then peace.
This guy doesn't need to do any mousing for himself, and even if he did---he's still brilliant, a gifted song writer and I think he's absolutely wonderful. He's singing for thousands of people and soldiers who have suffered this affliction. The guy who posted the entry, is just jealous.
How many mouses have you been threw clicking all those times voting for yourself on LWWToday website, LOL we know your trick, but it is a good message but differently not a #1 song.We know how you do it they will drop you down and watch you click yourself back up, why not LOL its cool.
Correct me if I'm wrong Tom, but are you sorta doing a flatpicked version of that three finger strum that Woody did with his various Talkin' Blues songs? It's a fantastic sounding style of playing, and I was wondering if there was any proper name to it so I could look it up online and learn how to do it. Thanks!
My memory of Woody playing several talking blues is always with a flat pick. I was also heavily influenced by watching Tom Rush, Ramblin' Jack Elliot, Bob Dylan, and others. No proper name that I know of. Basically just a "boom chucka" rhythm, with heavy emphasis on walking the lower strings. Is harder to describe than to show. I have several examples of "Talkin' Blues" in my July '07 Newsletter on my web site TomSmithMusic dot com.
Thank you for your kind comment. My best wishes to those for whom this song hits close to home. Please take a look at my YouTube video, "A Prayer for Peace". A special offering for this, and all seasons. -Tom
I too have PTSD,but I was in a different kind of war... in a home i grew up in...I am now 50 years old...doing the best i can living one day at a time.... Keep singing
One of the best anti-war songs I've heard, very witty and it gets the message out. I'd like to see where Bush & the Cheney Gang are going to hide when it's over for them...
I have Complex PTSD, and I agree with the comment before my own. There is no easy fix. But there are people like myself who are recovering out there. It takes a great deal of HARD work to heal hidden injuries, but it is possible. My heart goes out to you all. T
I have a serious case of PTSD also, didnt get it from serving and guess what? I'm told the same thing. Its a real bitch to live with and an easy cure isnt available. They tell me (dont think about it, move on, keep busy)...Hey, Its not the just something our gov is telling vets..good luck my friend, I enjoyed the song.
very well done. I was just searching for some talking blues and had no idea about Neil Young's Living with War, I'll check that out next. You're a good man for helping bring this condition to light.
I had to stop and go smoke. Your song hit me right on..Ihave been dieing with PTSD for 20 years the doctors cant understand PTSD they do not live it meds help some but I feel like I am going to twist off !!!
The victims of the oil occupations have a slight advantage. their neighbours know what they are talking about. even their now enemiesknow that they are talking about.
Loved it! It made me laugh. War's not suppose to be funny, and it isn't, really. It's the warriors themselves that make me laugh, and make so many others cry. I wonder if our present administration ever laughs at itself. If they do, they should be ashamed...very ashamed. Thanks Tom.
Wow! Wish that I was able to open up like you do, but I guess it's a matter of time when one is ready to do so. You gave me perspective and made me realize how important selfdistance is. :-)
I've been very scared about the domestic violence that's going to occur in the U.S. due to PTSD. It's very predictable and the Gov't is cutting all sorts of services that should be available to veterans such as long-term counselling. The Gov't is also not paying for anything in a timely manner which adds to the stress of these soldiers. I'm scared for some of them, I wish there were a way to unprogram the horrors of war.
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mrbiofeedback 3 weeks ago
Thank you Tom.
taurine13 2 months ago
I work at the VA & assess vets w/ traumatic brain injury (TBI), dementia, & other neurological disorders (&PTSD as well) 4 degree of cognitive deficits. A very different person comes through my office depending on what theater of war they come from (WWII, VN, Desert Storm, OIF/OEF). Yet the debilitating effects of PTSD and TBI do not discriminate. I showed this video in a talk I gave to civilians on PTSD and TBI. Thank you for giving me something REAL to show ppl who otherwise, had no idea..
DaniBinegar 3 months ago
@DaniBinegar Thank you for your comment on "Talking PT Blues". It pleases me that you found it useful in your work with folks who are trying to deal with traumatic brain injury. Thank you for being there for these vets and their families.
TomSmithMusic 1 month ago
Your last sentence is true. I am running out of places to hide. Damn government sent us then wants to jail us.
DobermansRock 4 months ago
The New Leaf Programme
Working with Veterans with PTSD
penwarnenlp23 4 months ago
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Freethinker12341 4 months ago
thanks
applesofeyes0 5 months ago
Nice song Tom.Sadly ,the conflicts involved with marriage.politics and career building are also likely suspects.I doubt very many people are not infected by the disorder in one way or another.
Pomiferous 7 months ago
Like the Americans the Israelis have come to know what PTSD means over and over and over again, and like the Americans the Israelis have innocently lived for too long without really knowing about PTSD and what it means. I am an indirect casualty of PTSD and I have recently documented our own personal experience with it in my video "The other Home Coming". It just happens that we here too are playing guitars, I am touched by your song, thank you for saying what you feel so beautifully.
shonymusica 7 months ago
@shonymusica Thank you for your kind comment. Wishing you and your brother healing and peace. PTSD belongs to no nation.
TomSmithMusic 7 months ago
best
terran97 10 months ago
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tanjroy 10 months ago
Great Talkin Blues !
CharmedQuarkZ99 10 months ago
Less is more ! This great performancer knows exactely what that means ! Great job !
Steve / drummer / The New Fools Belgian Bob Dylan Tribute Band
stevetheface 11 months ago
I'm a medically retired Navy corpsman with severe chronic PTSD, and on top of that I have a traumatic brain injury. Apparently the symptoms of the 2 overlap. I'm at 80 percent disabled, and the DAV wants to make it 100%. I felt like the whole song was about me. Thanks for tellin my story.
DeliberatelyBroken 11 months ago
@DeliberatelyBroken its hard to get 100 % for ptsd and tbi... i have 80 % also and im rated at 100 % due to unemployability...the reason they awarded me that is because i cannot hold gainfull employment...and i have a history of grosely inappropriate behavure...thats why i got 100% pnt with only 80% disability... they have that polict because so many vets cannot function in society but they are only rated at between 70 and 100 % if you have any questions, dont hesitate to contact me...
93CFD 8 months ago
Excellent- love your style and your message - very dylan-esque-
craigsportster 1 year ago
Mr. TomSmithMusic – I also am a Vietnam era Vet a desk jockey I want to thank you and am surfing YT today but I want you to know I am compiling a disk of my favorite video’s and you will be on it this song I am watching so long after we both are gone I hope the many copies I will give one to each of my children and grandchildren you and I will sort of live on recorded on a BLUE RAY DISK of my favorites, just thought you might take a little pleasure in knowing that. Take Care
persevere4 1 year ago
ive got ptsd and 100%pnt is what they gave me... now i cant work, posess a weapon and cannot get life insurance and all the cops know me by name...they keep me heavily sedated and thats just to stop me from acting out on one of those mailboxes that resemble ieds... great song. you need to make an album if you havnt already... your words remind me that im not the only one with ptsd...
93CFD 1 year ago
Killing people sucks, I don't care who y'are!
bloosman1 1 year ago
Your video is wonderful and thought provoking
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
Brilliant!
vegan1dmd 1 year ago
Tom, Thanks for expressing what many cannot and to do it without cursing is impressive. Thanks man.
tylerpaulson 1 year ago
PTSD is controllable with a proper psychological perspective ( I know this from personal experience) but frequently most people don't have the ability to believe in abstract concepts that allow people to accept what they saw or did. People who don't believe that killing in war is acceptable (many people would freeze when they were about to pull the trigger before modern conditioning) tend to suffer from PTSD when faced with traumatic infliction of violence by or on those they respect.
lipovan87 1 year ago
People try to overcome their unwillingness to kill in many ways, some more successful than others. The result is that many manage to do their jobs in the field but then reevaluate their actions from a civilian standpoint and fail to grasp the context. People can work past it by believing that their actions were right or accepting the loss of friends or civilians as the sad price of war.
lipovan87 1 year ago
@lipovan87
PTSD is not only something that happens to soldiers who have been through war
It also happens to people who experienced a sexual assult or a violent assult of any sort
People with hidden mental disorders (bi-polar, oversensitivities) might develop PTSD quicker than people who are more mentally strong or stable
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@lipovan87 You can say that a woman can work out her PTSD by believing that a dick forced into her vegina against her wish is right and accept it as the sad price of being in the wrong time and place
but... that doesn't really make things any better... no, in fact it doesn't
and most people who do not want to go to the army because they don't want to kill people simply do not go to the army and even risk sitting in jail for it
why? because they believe what they are doing is right
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
Does that say war is never justified? No. Merely that it must waged with a reasonable cause and within the laws of war for the psychological welfare of the soldiers.
Another aspect is that even much of the military cannot fathom true hostility on the part of other people and whole societies than cannot be won over. The desire to be loved comes in harsh conflict with pure hate and people lose confidence in their own cause.
lipovan87 1 year ago
@lipovan87
What you are saying is interesting.
My personal experience is with sexual assult.
I developed ptsd even thought the assult was not even physical
And it's true that i could not accept it that this person was inflicting violence upon me or that i should inflict violance upon him
I respected him as i do with all human beings
And i suffered great trauma (still do)
So maybe you are right
On the other hand? do i want to be less human?
No. In fact, being MORE human helped me
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@lipovan87
for i chose not to alianate this person or degredate his being but see him as a disabled (mentally) human being of whom i cannot expect the basic conditions of humanity because he has problems in his brain or whatever that should be fixed
as you can see - no feelings (but, perhaps, empathy, compassion, understanding, forgiveness) are involved in this stage
the alternative is to become inhuman and miss out life i guess
i don't know in betweens
but that is also coz i'm bi-pd :(
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@MagicalSunrise1984
Or perhaps the fullest recognition of the humanity of others is the willingness to acknowledge that some do evil things in the full knowledge of it. That men can choose to be evil as well as good. Rape is never justified but it is part of the world. Some cynicism might be in order.
lipovan87 1 year ago
@lipovan87
I have reason to believe that people who do evil are incapable of controlling it
as well:
I have reason to belive that people who DON'T do evil are incapable of controlling it
thus: the level of control which one has over his or her life may vary - and very well define the behavior of that person
some people may learn to own their emotions or impulses or behavior/character
and some struggle and have hard times etc
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@lipovan87
for example - the mind of a psychopath indicates that a psychopath is unmoved by pain as normal people are
so psychopaths don't care - they can't
on the other hand - there IS treatment for that - which is promising news
i can tell you 100% that the person who assulted me did not want to behave the way he did but was incapable of displaying a normal human being behavior
I can say so for I was there
What you refer to is rage - violent rage - that is uncontrollable
it is not
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@lipovan87
about 'right or wrong'
but more of how to avoid it
sometimes even teaching a person how to make love can turn him from a guy who rapes his wife 5 times a day because he needs sex and she is supposed to see his needs (in religious cultures such as some muslim i've heard it) to a guy that makes gentle love to his wife and satisfies first her and both him
in western culture he would be considered 'rapist'
!
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@MagicalSunrise1984
Human beings are not born with self-control. As children, we want everything but realistically have to do without. The process is one of desire, inability to meet that desire, acceptance of inability and ignoring the desire (AKA self-control). Some people are not told no and are not brought up in a way that ensures psychological stability and the respect of other people.
A lot of them are stupid which is one reason they can't satisfy their desire a better way.
lipovan87 1 year ago
@MagicalSunrise1984
People do not always think through all the possibilities or in different mindsets. Psychopaths are almost entirely egotistical in that their only concern for pain is themselves. Many of them break down in court full of tears. We assume they are for the victims but rather he cries for himself. I don't know about the neurology of the cases are but even they don't act when faced with the threat of their own death or pain. Rage is controllable. People just don't.
lipovan87 1 year ago
@lipovan87
You presented important points.
I have encountered a person who suffers psychopathic character pathologies in his behavior so i know very well that stage of bursting with tears for fear of self - and not out of caring for the other.
My point is that psychopaths do not care because they can't - it's their character's deficit.
Yeah, they also (some) feel sorry for themselves that they are practically nearly inhuman.
for example - I told the psycho who assulted me that my
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@lipovan87
feelings for him were based on his giving me the feeling he is pure hearted
he was so excited and wanted me to meet him - and said i am one of the few people who ever noticed that
so i made him feel understood - accepted, loved even
but why do most people do not even see that he wants to be pure hearted? because it's really hard to tell when all he does is hurt others
thus - i have empathy for psychopaths - only i believe they should be treated if it is possible (it is) so
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@MagicalSunrise1984
I find it reasonable that they are only the more extreme forms of a wider phenomenon; that most people cannot relate to other human beings and yet desire to. They realize their estrangement is not natural or healthy and seek to find some way to at least believe they care for others. Yet the proof of the depth comes out in life and the seriousness of their actions. Psychopaths may have some normal desires but their ability to act properly in full is nil.
lipovan87 1 year ago
@lipovan87
that crimes like rape or killings of violance can be avoided
and they CAN be avoided
Concerning rage - well, i believe it is controllable, but you have to practice and know the techniques to control it
it's less difficult for some, and more for some others
for example - a psychpath find it impossible to control impulses and is completely unstopped by inflicting pain upon himself or others
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@MagicalSunrise1984
As controlled violence is my profession as a soldier, I still insist that rage and other such impulses are controllable. People just need the right motivation and processes. In doing so, one goes up against one's own sense of aggression which may be greater in some than in others. Even psychopaths have the ability to control it or they would charge at the prosecutor in a trial. They may desire a normal life but I doubt that they could ever achieve it despite the desire.
lipovan87 1 year ago
@lipovan87
I can say "rape/war/ violence is never justified but is a part of this world and happens when people do not know - can't seem to demonstrate an alternative way (for rape - having great sex together, attracting those they are attracted to so that they won't be rejected, for war - finding ways to share and live together - not impose selves on others or fight for territory, or religion or whatever)
it will still not enable me or anyone who suffers PTSD to be rid of the syndrom
why?
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@MagicalSunrise1984
I would say that war is justified :) (my first use of an emoticon) At some point the desires of different societies are mutually exclusive. Society A wants to be able to invest in mines to provide the raw materials for their industries, society B decides to tax the foreigners for their domestic social programs. After some anger and abuses, war results. That's how the Chilean-Peruvian war for the Atacama desert started and they are still angry over it.
lipovan87 1 year ago
@lipovan87
Because PTSD is about encountering trauma.
Acceptance can help ease pain, but as long as there is no security, and release of trauma, there cannot be healing
Also - a lot of people who develop PTSD had hidden psychological struggles (personality disorders, tendencies to anexiety or even violent behavior) before the trauma and the trauma triggered the breaking out of ALL problems
And yet some people went thru holocaust and say life is a gift and you should live every day to the
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@lipovan87
Fullest
If people could "borrow" ways to deal with their situations and recover - then it can be easier to deal with life
or whatever happens in it
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@MagicalSunrise1984
I cannot know anything about other psychological disorders being suffered at the same time. Trauma is a drastic and painful change from what was before and the reaction to that pain may be a defense against threats that no longer exist. The only technique I have seen work is just simply to explain that the environment has changed, that the person isn't crazy and the mind's defense mechanisms. I have only used that for Iraq vets though.
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jamfab1 1 year ago
hes my computer teacher!
jbjosh100 1 year ago
As an Art therapist I was asked to do a presentation on PTSD with Vets. This song was the perfect conclusion to the powerpoint. Thanks for helping me understand
wimarymae 1 year ago
Good
gladeator1 1 year ago
Well said and I appreciate you putting together this song,..
InfantryArmyMom 1 year ago
Great job! Nice talkin' blues!
benjaminaaron87 1 year ago
Listen
TheRevGBones 2 years ago
great song....
jonnysep65 2 years ago
That was fantastic!
infectedpo 2 years ago
beuatiful... thank you
bensky5012 2 years ago
I was noding when he talk about his problems. Change President to M O D over here in Englad.
They seat in Warm office while the Dog Soldiers do the job short of Kit .
rochud 2 years ago
What they all said. Keep up the good work. This is awesome.
AlcuinHimself 2 years ago
Thanks for this song Tom,, I keep coming back to hear it,, David
davidvirginvideo 2 years ago
i drink a whole lot.
bloogedy 2 years ago 2
Thank GOD for you, Tom Smith. Your song meant so much to me and I played it for someone I care about that doesn't have PTSD. I do and I think this explains it just fine.
7777Wolfy7777 2 years ago 7
Not to me it aint either,,,,way to go man, fantastic lyrics,you hit the nail on the head. Maybe tonight I'll get some sleep, but this ptsd just makes me weep..My "hidden injuries" seem to seap, into my mind ,that I'd like to keep.,Too many people think this is too deep, and off of a bridge they fear I'll leap,I wish most knew that I'm quite together,,,,,there are just some horrible events,that I dont want to remember..
smile4mejmarie 2 years ago 4
Great job and keep rockin'
lepif22 2 years ago 3
He has it bad.
blackfeatherarchery 2 years ago
wow from the first verse you totally describe my PTSD... i wish you all the healing possible in the universe friend... i must favorite this video to try to show other people who just cant understand...
stumptacular 2 years ago 5
hidden injuries never stay hidden...great job
6orillamask 2 years ago 3
Dude, you FUCKING ROCK! I have complex PTSD and BPD. I love your video and your song! . I'm a singer/songwriter too. I made a video about all the shit going down right now (including the hidden wounds of Veterans) hope you like it. :) Let's all pitch in to right the wrongs!
Peace and Keep on Truckin'!
Delaney
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xxxxxBuddhaxxxxx 2 years ago
I have Complex PTSD but I can so relate to this song. I have to go Monday to prove yet again for SSI that I have this ... I'm so sick of having to prove 30 years worth of abuse. I'm on so many meds I cant walk straight and no one give a s*it.
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Thanks, I watch when I'm gettin to that point of no return and I think nobody cares! You Should Make An Album! HA
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asuncion2stm 3 years ago
Wow, man, this is one of the best talking blues songs i've ever heard!! Everything about it was great, the subjest matter, the rhythm to your voice, your guitar technique..
Anyways, i'll be subsribing after this song! I have a talkin' blues song myself on here, actually, if you'd be interested in hearing it.
BrandonNorth1120 3 years ago 2
perfect subject for the talkin' blues. I hope alot of people get to hear this, because ptsd is much too often overlooked and ignored.
stragglerbird 3 years ago
Great song Tom. You got it.
I'm a disabled vet with PTSD and I couldn't have said it better.
TheUnknownVet 3 years ago 2
This is a fantastic song. As someone who has worked with people who have PTSD, I can understand the message that your sending. Great job!
SaddleSoreSista1 3 years ago 2
you hit it on the head, brother.
thestooty 3 years ago 2
children are brought up now with PTSD as their inheritance from traumatized parents. we're all the walking wounded.
the key is rebuilding trust..........how hard when all has been shattered. but if it's been broken, must believe it can be re-paired.
2 sides - create the whole. around the whole is a protective sheath - that sheath has been nicked and severed. the healing is the journey we've been placed on.
adamatova 3 years ago 3
I hear you, brother.
You're speaking real loud and real clear.
Thank you.
5 stars and a bunch of respect.
Faved and featured.
shas1814 3 years ago 2
I so appreciate this song and hear what you are saying. Thank you! Im sorry you are going through this and all the others in this world. People need to understand and start caring. Peace bro.
mzrockstar2u 3 years ago 3
That is a very powerful piece, man.
peace....
losthills 3 years ago 2
things are gonna get crazy in America,once all these soldiers and "kids" come home,just another Vietnam,fucking tragic :( Good job on this man
RaZoReDbABe 3 years ago
And too often too many people have this crazy idea that PTSD is only from combat. Let's see you get raped, then laughed at by the cops AS you bleed from the rape; or you get assaulted because some guy doesn't "approve" of your physical disability, and though it's on video the cops do nothing and you have to pay for the medical bills from the assault out of YOUR pocket; or you go to jail for defending yourself from a forced home invasion in a state where it's legal to defend yourself.
Coalbunny 3 years ago 4
@Coalbunny
Or you are being accused for being a stalker who wants a relationship with a guy who assulted you sexually (not physically), put you down and violated you mentally and emotionally because you decided to not shut up and suffer in silence but confront him with his actions until he is aware and gets up to seek help for his psycho problems
And nobody understands why you laugh when they threaten to call the cops on you - maybe it's because you care no more for your life anymore...
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@MagicalSunrise1984 ... and people wonder why I am such an asshole and willing to get into fights....LOL!
Stalker? No. Cops simply do not care. The other night I got a ticket for disorderly conduct. Because a man assaulted me. He swung, I didn't. And it's all on video tape. But that's ok, give me the worse of the charges between us. What the hell. Fucking pigs.
Coalbunny 1 year ago
@Coalbunny
It is terrible.
I am staying as far away as I can from fights.
But if there is no choice then i fight with might and stop at nothing in the name of what i believe is right
thus - i try to adjust my worldview to fit harmoniously with the world - so that my beliefs will not hurt myself or others - and my fighting for what i believe in will be for the best of all (as much as possible)
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
amazing song!!! i love your lyrics and voice. .. the whole thing is just amazing... thank you.
acousticandrea 3 years ago
Thank you. I just got medically retired for PTSD. Just seems no one who has it can understand. It sucks. it really does.
kafka505 3 years ago 3
Made me cry.
Very sharp
spsycher 3 years ago 2
Matie check out The band Played Waltzing matilda....Love to hear ya do it
coomadoug 3 years ago
O-M-G.
My friends and I LOVE your tunes.
You are my example for our psychology project.
Love you.
lovespell02x 3 years ago
I liked your video sir.Everybody deals,with the mental think in different ways.What helped me,was the death poetry of Lincoln.A lot of his poetry,is just madness.I tell people,and show people his poetry,and they can't understand,how someone could overcome that,and get better,and become President.
stillheretoday 3 years ago
i love your rage
m1n613s 3 years ago
Interesting song, and ever so easy on the ears. support the state of your head, not the head of state?
yorkie2014 3 years ago
Very good tune sir
coomadoug 3 years ago
Presidential Spongeformencephylopathy?
OMG!
Thanks for the tune! ô¿ô
greglawrence 3 years ago
Loved it. My uncle's death went hand in hand with his "hidden injuries" from the Gulf. I know he would have loved this as well.
kozmicblue 3 years ago
O.I.F. 1 and I am right there with your tune. The fuckin ringing wont stop. Along with the thoughts. I live in my now but am overtaken by my yesterday that wont go away. My nightmares and alchole. Want sleep, hate the nightmares. Tryed the drugs but damn near killed myself tryin to get back in that blackhawk at 2 in the am. Thank god for my girlfriend. I was 3rd floor in the B's. WTF. Thanks for the song older brother.
DobermansRock 3 years ago
oh my god fantaetic cant stop listening to this sums up our governments
turnerphil 3 years ago
its sad to say, but, the V.A. is broken. and all veterans are in danger. your song hits the nail on the head. Why would any young person join the military, "IF" they knew they would be out in the cold, living under a bridge, without medical care, or meds. to end up fighting for decades, to obtain what was promised when they joined ? I fought two years in combat, then returned home to fight 40 years for benifits. no luck yet.
cysciborg 3 years ago
I think the lyrics and your guitar sound is very cool and my kinda sound
welcomehappiness 3 years ago
I am a big Dylan fan, I also like Woody Guthrie and Tom Paxton. I posted a video response. Its a bad quality video and the song I have only practiced three or four times. If you listen to the words, it is my own thoughts as someone who suffers the effects of accumulative traumas. If you want I could send you the lyrics with Chords. I taught myself how to play in the last 2 years so I'm not a great guitar player
welcomehappiness 3 years ago
This is great Tom! Very much in the Guthrie tradition...way to pick up the torch.
Bisbonian 3 years ago
Beautiful song, the words are as true to PTSD as i can relate, i can't really relate at all but my father has PTSD, served in Vietnam...is unemployable, highly volatile, etc....anyway, I love your song and will spread the word
pcamjf 3 years ago
This was awesome!!!!!!! 5 stars
dArLeNewk 3 years ago
I'm Vietnam PTSD. Only took them 23 years to approve my claim. Got paid. Still have PTSD.
Now have a son following my footsteps. He joined the Marines. I'm proud of him. And pray he never has this problem.
Thanks for a wonderful song.
Vietnam March 68-69
indyvoter 4 years ago
This is absolutely geat and right on target. Thank you very much.
pauloswego 4 years ago
If you are a veteran, thank you for your service, sir.
What a great talking blues in the grand tradition of Woody and Arlo Guthrie and Bob Dylan.
"Hidden Injury" my ass . . . I see them all too clearly. It's our Preznit and his minions who can't/won't see them.
curiousted 4 years ago
hah! right on man. reminds me of arlo guthrie. *wink* i have ptsd and bipolar. fun times. love your song.
veronica
chatgal222 4 years ago
This is wonderful. You should spread this around.
Nachal4 4 years ago
Thank you sir,
From a vet with PTSD.
Almost 20 years on, I can rationalize all the acts but can't turn off the consequences.
Peace for all
p
newhighinlow 4 years ago
Send it to the Whitehouse and congress. We the People hear you, Tom. You sing for the majority who want to stop this maddness and truely support our troops. Justice, then peace.
foxyphoenix911 4 years ago
This guy doesn't need to do any mousing for himself, and even if he did---he's still brilliant, a gifted song writer and I think he's absolutely wonderful. He's singing for thousands of people and soldiers who have suffered this affliction. The guy who posted the entry, is just jealous.
Dr. Yvonne Vosburgh
Ava, Illinois
chirogirl67550 4 years ago
How many mouses have you been threw clicking all those times voting for yourself on LWWToday website, LOL we know your trick, but it is a good message but differently not a #1 song.We know how you do it they will drop you down and watch you click yourself back up, why not LOL its cool.
tnuc4u 4 years ago
read you Lima Charlie
willjed 4 years ago
im a young british soldier ex who likes the tune
claudbro 4 years ago
Correct me if I'm wrong Tom, but are you sorta doing a flatpicked version of that three finger strum that Woody did with his various Talkin' Blues songs? It's a fantastic sounding style of playing, and I was wondering if there was any proper name to it so I could look it up online and learn how to do it. Thanks!
xavean 4 years ago
Hello xavean,
My memory of Woody playing several talking blues is always with a flat pick. I was also heavily influenced by watching Tom Rush, Ramblin' Jack Elliot, Bob Dylan, and others. No proper name that I know of. Basically just a "boom chucka" rhythm, with heavy emphasis on walking the lower strings. Is harder to describe than to show. I have several examples of "Talkin' Blues" in my July '07 Newsletter on my web site TomSmithMusic dot com.
TomSmithMusic 4 years ago
Thanks for this great video. I enjoyed it. I am a disabled Vietnam vet, and I am glad to see your video and others
that speak such eloquent truth.
freeman1947 4 years ago
great video. much truth to it too. and ur guitar playing is awesome. and ur voice is very cool too. it reminds me of johnny cash kinda
krash2012 4 years ago
Right on brother......What you are saying is righteous.
Yvonne Schellenger-Vosburgh
Ava, Illinois
chirogirl67550 4 years ago
Congratulations, Tom. This video is #1 on Neil Young's Living With War website! And well-deserved, it's such a great song.
bulbheadmyass 4 years ago
Thank you for your kind comment. My best wishes to those for whom this song hits close to home. Please take a look at my YouTube video, "A Prayer for Peace". A special offering for this, and all seasons. -Tom
TomSmithMusic 4 years ago
I too have PTSD,but I was in a different kind of war... in a home i grew up in...I am now 50 years old...doing the best i can living one day at a time.... Keep singing
mandycaly 4 years ago
Great:D
4apples 4 years ago
brilliant
libertybelleduut 4 years ago
One of the best anti-war songs I've heard, very witty and it gets the message out. I'd like to see where Bush & the Cheney Gang are going to hide when it's over for them...
desertjournalonline 4 years ago
I have Complex PTSD, and I agree with the comment before my own. There is no easy fix. But there are people like myself who are recovering out there. It takes a great deal of HARD work to heal hidden injuries, but it is possible. My heart goes out to you all. T
musicsmeaning 4 years ago
I have a serious case of PTSD also, didnt get it from serving and guess what? I'm told the same thing. Its a real bitch to live with and an easy cure isnt available. They tell me (dont think about it, move on, keep busy)...Hey, Its not the just something our gov is telling vets..good luck my friend, I enjoyed the song.
lyndelsmith 4 years ago
Great job Brother! Love your song. You hit the nail on the head with that. I really needed this this morning. Thanks Again and God Bless!!!!!
dustingina 4 years ago
Right on the money friend! I hope your music helps you to keep living life, it helps me to keep living mine :)
faheyball 4 years ago
Wrap a song around it and you can stay in control of PTSD (or just about anything else). Nice job. Hang in there, friend.
mab0440 4 years ago
thanks man, i needed that, someone who takes the lighter side of PTSD.
phernic 4 years ago
very well done. I was just searching for some talking blues and had no idea about Neil Young's Living with War, I'll check that out next. You're a good man for helping bring this condition to light.
mystret 4 years ago 2
I had to stop and go smoke. Your song hit me right on..Ihave been dieing with PTSD for 20 years the doctors cant understand PTSD they do not live it meds help some but I feel like I am going to twist off !!!
woodwizzard123 4 years ago
Oh, thanks for doing this.
The victims of the oil occupations have a slight advantage. their neighbours know what they are talking about. even their now enemiesknow that they are talking about.
but north americans don't.
margot980 4 years ago
Loved it! It made me laugh. War's not suppose to be funny, and it isn't, really. It's the warriors themselves that make me laugh, and make so many others cry. I wonder if our present administration ever laughs at itself. If they do, they should be ashamed...very ashamed. Thanks Tom.
Dian Francesca
dianfrancesca 4 years ago
Hi Tom. Congratulations on being #2 on Neil Young's list of top protest songs. I'm hoping you make it to #1 soon. This song deserves it!
bulbheadmyass 4 years ago
A beautiful piece of work. If we don't speak up, who will?
d2music 4 years ago
Thanks Tom I love the lyrics, your singing and guitarplay. It's right on and soothes my anger. Thanks.
artic300 4 years ago
And on top of all that, you've got some nice picking there too.
shantidude 4 years ago
Thank you Tom...you know few will understand - Nobody cares about us but us - always been that way, always will
Trompir 4 years ago
Wow! Wish that I was able to open up like you do, but I guess it's a matter of time when one is ready to do so. You gave me perspective and made me realize how important selfdistance is. :-)
naath9 4 years ago
Excellent Tom! Such a fantastic talkin' blues song! Thanks for your kind words too. Take it easy...but take it!
Chris
xavean 4 years ago
Excellent Tom! Such a fantastic talkin' blues song! Thanks for your kind words too. Take it easy...but take it!
Chris
xavean 4 years ago
I've been very scared about the domestic violence that's going to occur in the U.S. due to PTSD. It's very predictable and the Gov't is cutting all sorts of services that should be available to veterans such as long-term counselling. The Gov't is also not paying for anything in a timely manner which adds to the stress of these soldiers. I'm scared for some of them, I wish there were a way to unprogram the horrors of war.
larkypoo 4 years ago
This is sooo how my husband feels.
You deserve a medal of bravery for putting this out!!!
GaelicMystic 4 years ago
Wow! What a great song this is. The lyrics are absolutely wonderful and the delivery is perfect. Fived, faved and vlog'd.
bulbheadmyass 4 years ago
Love it
quintanablea 4 years ago
Right on!
Lunaintheclouds 4 years ago
Thanks for saying what I couldn't and doing it so well.
rt2brong 4 years ago
Yay Mr. Smith!!!!
tiffanicfunk 4 years ago
Fantastic! When is everyone going to wake up? Play on, Tom!
urtherenow 4 years ago
Great, 5'd and fav'd.
Snorglorf 4 years ago
Brilliant.....visceral
Sooz47 4 years ago