Why do girls run away from the nice guys when they always say that's what they want?

[4ingP]

@SirFletcherRedoun1 If you want to get a point across, clarity is best.

[zubizann]

You got it Matt, a player who does not cheat is my Mr Perfect.

[CarissaXo99]

Men and women have a different idea of what a nice guy means. That's the problem.

[sidewaysfcs0718]

step 1: learn to play an electric guitar

step 2: go to a club and play the shit out of every heavy metal ballad possible

step 3: ???

step 4: profit.

[QuirkyGengar]

Because women want to seem smart to other people and have a good character. They only say these things to look better to others. They don't mean "nice guys", they just want men who will treat them horrible, because that is whom they have the most sex with. Having a "reason" to be shown sympathy is also why they do it.

Well that is American Women that is.

Foreign Women actually care about good men and know they will make suitable partners.

Nice guys get foreign women they are the best.

[realmdarkness]

a player who doesn't cheat; that's a oxymoron and therefore doesn't exist

[mweiland27]

These girls are going to be shit out of luck when "nice guys" start cloning females with their looks and equal shyness. Men look at other arenas to obtain what they want. Ladies. quit the bad guy before it's too late.

[Urharra1991]

women are stupid they only want sex girls only want sex,money,and guys for looks and girls are not worth it i gave up on trying to date cus women only want the bad guys and when they finally come around to the nice guys they are ugly and hagrid so thats why i just gave up i got better things to do like hang out with my friends see some movies iam a virgin but oh well at least i have a kick ass life

[datingwomensex]

This guy is right on the money. Everything he is saying here is the truth.

[SUNWOLF62]

Here is the real deal knowledge my friends. Women are nuts. They don't know what they want. They don't know what makes them happy. They are bored every five minutes.They want to be able to do and say anything but you can't do crap.They want to change you and then leave you for another sap. They are nuts. That is about as plain and truthful as it gets. Women are the devils best advocate. Dogs have more love to give than modern day women.

Just get a dog. They are more human than women are.

[livendapast]

@SUNWOLF62 AMEN! My German shepard had more true love and feelings for me that these no good tramps.

[Cap285]

@SUNWOLF62 Perfectly said.

[enjoy90000]

nice guys don't finish last. watch alex coulson videos. this man beats all the bad boys. he approaches women anywhere. you just have to be confident and not nervous and never let the conversation die out or seem desperate. that is the problem with nice guys. they lack confidence and stay always quiet and say they love the girl right away like an obsession person. just watch alex coulson videos and you will see that girls like nice guys

[livendapast]

@enjoy90000 I think the reason why the nice guy is quiet and more reserved is because he's already been rejected a million times. So he has his doubts that know matter what, it's not gonna work. Also being to forward can lead to rejection to. And then you become the "stalker" type in some of these crazy bitches minds. I been on both sides. Now that i choose to stay single, "he must be gay". Most females are insane. And they dont believe in a second chance if you dont act the way they want.

[Bmn72London]

Good video but unfortunately all this dating stuff is old school and outdated.

It requires you to change who you are to be successful. This turns men into fakes and actors. What happens if you are genuinely not an alpha male? What happens then?

A dude from London has come up with a new model where, if you are a Nice Guy, you do not need to change. If you really want to date ladies, check the Amazon book Secrets of the Players: A Guide to Success with Multiple Ladies.

[strongfp]

Ehhh my girlfriend says I am the nicest person she has ever dated and she hasn't given any hints, or what so ever about us breaking up or splitting anytime soon and I have the 'ultimate jerk status' of being a convicted criminal. Being just yourself will get a girl, trying to be the jerk alpha will get you the wrong girl. Your love should be your bestfriend, not a person who wants you as a trophy.

[strangecluesinfriday]

they want what they CANT have;they want what is a challenge UNTIL they have it;they want to chase until they have caught THEN move on and chase again and again;they want to reel a man in doing "seemingly anything that works for him" then gradually take over and control almost every aspect of his life;they want ONLY one man unless they break up..then THEY can move on BUT the man better not DARE;they want to run your life and be sure THEY are in control.WOMEN WANT IT ALL WHILE PRETENDING NOT TO!!!

[Ronnyqt]

Basically girls want guys who treat them like shit until they get sick of them, they'll say that he's a jerk and move on to another guy who treats them like shit.

[SnowbirdFlock]

@enterjcs too much information! Nobody wants to read about your sex life! Hahahaha!

[jjtiojohn12]

theres no such thing as a "nice guy" a nice guy to me is a man with no ambitions, no goals, and has a lack of self-respect. a "nice guy" should not be a term used to classify men who are hard workers, self sufficient, and have their own house and car and are educated. those men are not "Nice Guys" these are MEN. if anything, women dont want the average joe who is considered to them a "Nice Guy"

[BlutUndSpiel]

@jjtiojohn12

Gotta love how you assign all sorts of negative qualities to men who are not greedy, domineering or lacking empathy. Having goals and self-respect in addition to being a good fellow are not mutually exclusive.

[mlnc0087]

Good statement made in this video clip however, not necessarily true!! A girl will or at least should like you for exactly who you are weather you're shy, smart, clingy, outgoing or even all the above. Of course there's always going to be those few select minor things that you won't like about each other but that's where working together as a team kicks in. Bottom line, you shouldn't have to act certain ways (as this clip mentions) just so she won't go anywhere. You are who you are.

[purtymusic]

Most of my "nice guy" friends never get girls simply because they're not good-looking enough/ugly and blame it on their "niceness". Combined with a doormat personality, a mediocre-looking nice guy will almost never get a girl. It's harsh, but true.

[9Skateboard7]

She needs to stop talking clearly she wasnt going to win this

[Jackosmack]

Why should a guy stop being himself? Just to attract a chick? Really!? A lot of women have that entitlement thing going for them so that's why they find "nice guys" too "easy" because they get what they want anyway because some dude WILL give it to them, especially if she's hot. Yeah definitely find a girl that likes you for you, sappy or not sappy. Besides if they didn't like sap, why do they always watch all those sappy chick flicks? Lol.

[Relugus]

Sensitivity means you are concerned by other people's feelings and thus are more self-conscious. Confidence is not giving a toss what other people think or feel, making it the OPPOSITE of sensitivity. In order to attain confidence and be "assertive", you must sacrifice at least some sensitivity; you must become less "nice". Becoming assertive requires the reduction of "niceness" as sensitivity and confidence are opposing character traits; to increase one you must reduce the other.

[TheeUnidentified]

The corporate culture exults greed/aggressiveness & superficiality. People conditioned via this warped social enviroment then desire (as status) the worst byproducts hierarchical systems offer (in this context "worst" is considered good, normal, winner, successful, confident) This is why so many rely on those justifying euphemisms necessary for denial: sexual attraction to power & cruelty betray comforting illusions of mainstream gender role & preference. Never underestimate the power of denial.

[Mike32587]

@TheeUnidentified Interesting... are you saying that the actual best, from a moral and loving position, lies somewhere in between what the "corporate culture" preaches and the gender roles given by the mainstream? I'd like some more insight into your thinking here.

[TheeUnidentified]

@Mike32587 No. If one wants to learn about any living thing, one examines the enviro in which it thrives. Corporate culture promotes intellectual & spiritual vapidity while promoting greed, superficiality, competition and the inability to empathize (required traits to be 'successful') Those de-humanizing properties then require cultural psych-Perception Management so that inhumane qualities, common to the culture via their familiarity, are championed as being the opposite of what they are.

[TheeUnidentified]

@Mike32587 (cont) So, honesty is dutifully avoided within the collective un-reality that is only sustained by the sheer number of brainwashed people who submit to the aims of the dominant, overarching systems i.e. capitalism, hierarchy, authoritarianism, Wage Slaves, jock culture, hook-up culture, etc...all mirroring the 'values' of Might Makes Right, Profit Over People, He With The Most Wins, etc. This is why females desire 'jerks;' they're the winners of such systems, even if they only *try*

[TheeUnidentified]

@Mike32587(cont) ...and by "try" I mean, men needn't be well off, of course not! 1% owns 95% of all the wealth in the US, yet this paradigm sets the standard by which dupes are encouraged to seek The American Dream (as George Carlin said, they call it that cause ya gotta be asleep to believe it) To "try" simply equates to what females see as a 'normal' guy. Translation = subordinate to making $ as top priority, can "provide" for the nest, emotionally stunted, objectifies women, "one of the guys"

[TheeUnidentified]

@Mike32587(final) These are observations I've made as the American empire collapses. Democracies fail due to internal apathy and rot, so basically my hypothesis is that the use of The Big Lie by our state-corporate nexus brought about a collective fog of propaganda Americans are culturally trained to perceive as reality. Hence their views/choices/values are grounded in a strength-in-numbers delusion.

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - Krishnamurti

[AlexRider001]

@TheeUnidentified I've had it with this pseudo-intellectual corporate-government conspiracy crap.

First of all, the very fact that you (and thousands of others like yourself) voice these opinions and are (apparently) smart enough to discover and describe this so-called "fog of propaganda" is proof enough that said fog is hardly effective.

Second of all, even if your description is accurate, what are you doing to help change the system?

Complaining is hardly helpful.

[TheeUnidentified]

@AlexRider001 Perceptions of social reality aren't hinged upon intelligence, but are contingent upon psycho-spiritual makeup & experience shaped by moral radar & capacity to perceive sickness of power, injustice & Consensus Reality propaganda.

And like George Carlin said: "The decay and disintegration of this culture is astonishingly amusing if you are emotionally detached from it. I have always viewed it from a safe distance, knowing I don't belong; it doesn't include me, and it never has."

[AlexRider001]

@TheeUnidentified I never even mentioned intelligence?

"Psycho-spritiual makeup"? "Moral radar"? And I don't agree with the Consensus Reality theory.

It is completely normal and natural for any human being to have a need to feel that he is in some way different from the rest of civilization - talking about "not belonging" is imho nothing more than a manifestation of this need. I also don't agree with there being any decay within civilization as a whole; within a single culture maybe, that's all.

[TheeUnidentified]

@AlexRider001 Given Youtube's character limitation re comments it's impossible to condense complex data into 'factoid' form. Anyone can 'believe' anything they wish, irrespective of whether or not that belief is *informed* or merely 'culturally assumed.' The point is *always* question the most dominant opinions b/c they're often in place at the benefit of the Few over the Many. That aside, humanity's been on a mass suicide race since the mid 20th century. Never underestimate the power of denial.

[AlexRider001]

@TheeUnidentified Your belief (though you may indeed not want to believe this) is, in fact, one of the most dominant opinions. The ideas you describe are neither new nor underground.

I'm not in denial concerning anything - I'm a humanist, and I trust that our current situation is a crisis that will be brooked. People like you seem to forget that the mentioned "Few" are also humans with little interest in ruling the world.

As for the character limitation - condensed or expanded, crap is crap.

[TheeUnidentified]

@AlexRider001 Why this persistent hostility toward me? When one is eighteen yrs old they think they know far more than they do, and generally only want 'answers' without understand *why* those answers.

If you want to converse, all fine and well. I opine, plant seeds, do what I can. I don't offer suggestions for 'change' because I realize people ultimately come to their own via their own experiences.

However, if all you want to do is insult me, then you can go fuck yourself, kid. So long...

[AlexRider001]

@TheeUnidentified I was never hostile or insulting. What does my age have to do with any of this? Don't attempt to get me out of the way via patronization.

You "plant seeds"? Seriously? You sound like you believe yourself to be some kind of newfangled messiah.

I've met dozens of people exactly like you, with the exact same beliefs as yourself. Impressive? Hardly.

I do not and will never share your beliefs, which can hardly be classified as an objective analysis.

Sorry.

[TheCastellan]

@TheeUnidentified

Napoleon, Hitler and Stalin would have been pimps in this modern age, then.

[lovemyman1103]

They don't! I'd much rather have a nice guy. I can't stand assholes!

[troydeancarpenter]

It's simple... guys want nice girls but they end up going after jerks too. Yes, they go after the pretty girls that are less likely to value the average guy's attention and more likely to give somebody the brush off. Women are no different except that they pretend to be. Women go after jerks because they are usually the better looking men. Nice clingly guys are like that because they have no action and are desparate. Most probably because they are shy or unattractive. There ya go.

[BaconLvrs]

I'm confused...well I like this guy. I can tell he likes me from hints like, he stares and smiles at me and shares with me and talks to me a bunch. My friend texted him asking, " Do you like her?" and he said, "no ewwwwwy ewwwwy ewwwwwwy!!!" it hurt me :( and he also asked who he did like and he said he likes another girl that he BARELY talks to!! It's confusing me!!!! HELP!!!!!!

[voldagar]

@BaconLvrs hes prolly just scared that you dont like him back

[terror324]

@manutdsalfordreds HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!­

[suchafool990]

why do women run away from nice guys? wellp,.....theyre fake and materialistic for starters. shallow, and have entitlement, and severe princess complex's. In other words...theyre scum. XD

[terror324]

@suchafool990 i agree with the fake and materialistic part, because they think they can buy her heart with being overly nice and caring. But "shallow, and have entitlement, and severe princess complex's". What dude have you been seeing?????.............

[ExtremelyClassy]

negative to "players" thats a horrible word choice!!

[Jsmooth7444]

girls only want money. actions speak louder than words the majority of the time. they say they want a nice guy and only date for "love", just want a simple life not caring how much the guy brings in...but the truth is they want somebody who is loaded whether he is a nice guy or a douchebag.

[plumfairyindian]

@krushgutz Good luck with that but I know what I want.

[bellacinderellakk]

i luv nice guys

[tasteslikeginger]

we like bad boys but we want one that does not disregard the law or our feelings and morals. we also like good boys but not the super sappy 'perfect' guy. in other words, girls like a well balanced guy!

[bigstickcop]

@tasteslikeginger sounds to me like you girls, NOT women, are just indecisive.

[rang3r34]

When a woman says "nice guy" it means a spinless man that will put up with her bullshit and never say a word. I too have had this happen to me. Trust me, when a woman gets a reputation as a whore that uses guys there will be far less guys wanting to be with her. That's what my ex did. She talked all this shit about she could find a better guy. Then what happened? A year later she was BEGGING me to take her back. I just walked right by her and acted like I didn't even know her.

[RB902050]

From what I gain from this video is live life as if women don't exist. The old saying "Love comes when you least expect it." And don't be a "Nice guy" (shy, clingy, sad, depressed, desperate, etc.) Woman want a nice guy, not a "Nice Guy".

[SuperGrinningIdiot]

So damn complicated! Be yourself, people! Everyone is this world is attracted to all types of weird and different things. Even if you're hideously deformed, overly-nice, or anything, there's still people who will want to get with you!

[IMusic4Ever]

@SuperGrinningIdiot you know what?you couldn´t be more right.A person is a person and every case is a case.What causes all these issues is one thing:youth.when you have it you feel unstoppable break hearts cheat whatever then once you start to lose that and life teaches you some lessons guess what?that´s right you pride and ego is put aside and you get what you can get.

[4ingP]

@SuperGrinningIdiot Sure doesn't seem like it.

[5ag5]

A player who doesn't play its not a player anymore lol

[NeverMind88888]

@j7512

One more thing I forgot to mention: Girls are always complaining about how the nice guys are usually afraid to stand up for themselves or their girlfriends. This is where girls prefer the assholes over the nice guys. Assholes don't give a shit if they end up being beaten up. At least they're satisfied for having taken a stand. Nice guys have to know when to stand their ground and emit that attitude of passion, showing others they can't be obstacles.

[NeverMind88888]

@j7512

You know how girls are usually complaining that they always get hurt from dating bad boys, and regardless, end up going back for more? This isn't because they enjoy getting hurt (physically/mentally), it's because they are attracted to that confidence and "drama", something the average nice guys tend to neglect and shy away from.

[NeverMind88888]

So, the right terms are the "interesting, outgoing, kind, polite, gentleman-like guy (don't OVER-OVER do this, but you can do it.)" So, the final answer: Don't be an asshole, nor the stereotypical "nice guy". Be nice, fun, interesting, yet know when to stand your ground and don't be afraid to speak your mind against a girl ("asshole's semi-good qualities taken too far"). Be the nice guy with an asshole's confidence.

[NeverMind88888]

@j7512

Noo... girls don't want a half-asshole. Neither would they like a "nice guy". When we usually hear that term, it usually doesn't do itself justice and implies that the guy puts his head down, apologizes for EVERY single little thing (even though he was right) and let's people ride him; he is uninteresting; not outgoing (2nd part -->)

[j7512]

From what I understand after watching this video, girls want an inbetweener, someone who is not a asshole but not really a nice guy? Correct me if I'm wrong, I don't have enough experience to back this theory up.

[Blueraptor3030]

Bottom line: treat women like bitches.

[exoticaguy69]

@Blueraptor3030 I agree, I was a nice guy all my life and I worked in a women dominated work place, Now I see what women are all about, They like to play games. They must see this in Cosmopolitan magazines or the book called "THE RULES" I suggest every guy to read this and you'll see exactly what I mean.

[TheStrawbeery]

@exoticaguy69 from one nice guy to another i'ts sad out here the dating scene is terrible and i haven't met an honest women in over 10 years pretty sad huh

[exoticaguy69]

I just wish they would get it over with and say the truth. Women fuck ass holes and loosers when they are young and then they look for a ncie guy to father their bastard children. The nice rich guy who was too stupid to have any game. I'd rather have sex with buttered up bagel

[OrganisationClownX]

Fuck being a Nice Guy. Be a nice guy but don't be a Nice Guy and if you can't work out the difference you got research to do. Motherfucker.

[Apsu72]

A player that doesn't cheat? That don't even exist! That's like a fisherman that don't fish. You hear how stupid that sounds?

[7d7e7f7]

I did all these things and still nothing. Not super nice, maybe be a jerk a bit, but not an a-hole. I've come to the conclusion that girls are just crazy...oh wait...

[Apsu72]

@7d7e7f7; You're right, women ARE crazy! They say 1 thing and do another.

[Sesshoumaru888]

Problem is, even if you are fun and make her laugh, sometimes surprise them, but at the same time you show the nice part of you - THEY STILL DUMP YOU, there are girls like that also.

[WushuKnight19]

They couldn't give a definite answer. Girls don't know what they want after all.

Or maybe the first answer that Matt gave was correct.

[kjordon1]

Women like a guy who is cofident, assertive and nice. The problem is that nice guys tend to be too shy and timid. The bad guys tend to be adventurous and assertive. So they want nice guys but they don't see the bold and sporty aspects in nice guys. So they go for the bad guys. Until they get tired of them and settle down with the nice guys when they are 35.

[TheStrawbeery]

women never like nice guys is bullshit all my friends are single they just don't want us. they love the bad guys.and the nice guys are just leftovers because the bad guys dont' want them. and to prove that women love bad guys scott peterson who killed his wifeand his baby recieve 30 thounsand letters a month from different women across the globe.

[zaneshark]

@TheStrawbeery Couldn't have said it better myself. I still can't wrap that around my head. The fact that that killer gets so many "Love" letters from women. It's amazing. The guy is a creep.

[TheCastellan]

@TheStrawbeery

Hitler, Castro, Dick Cheney, and Ted Bundy must be like Brad Pitt to these women, then.

[TheStrawbeery]

@TheCastellan yep women don't have a conscious at all and they love assholes i should know i been the nice guy and i haven't nmet a honest woman in over 10 years

[TheCastellan]

@TheStrawbeery

I got you beat by nearly 12 years.

[guitarman0365]

@TheStrawbeery they go for the confident asshole type because they honestly cant help it ..people have two aspects to the brain and how they make decisions....the emotial side and the logical side..woman are hardwired to follow their emotions at least most of the time they are....their emotional brain will take over 99 percent of the time over their logical brain. that is why a woman will keep going back to the same dirtbag who keep beating them ...ther logical brain gets silenced

[Ghaz013]

I really liked Matt's story about giving the girl everything, I kind of fell in the same situation but Im learning from it now.....Its a hard lesson to learn and an even harder pill to swallow.

[MrGibert0]

I'm a nice guy with a bad background/past.

I just want to be happy and not fight but I won't take too much shit too...

[Deadmare]

:-P my problem is im too nice like what the guy in the vid said but its hard for me to not be nice lol

[MrXSpeaks]

the truth is that there is a split between what women want in their minds, and what they want at an instinctive level. If a woman likes you at an instinctive level it makes all the difference. in fact, if a woman does not want you instinctively, even if you are married and things seem ok, you are in trouble.

[TheKingsMusician]

i always thought girls liked guys who made them feel good and gave them all the attention...guess i was wrong.

[vastedda99]

BOTTOM LINE: Women are SCHMUCKS! LOL.

[salvadorianvago]

i was nice to a girl but i guess i got predictable and boring to her....but after many dates and phone calls she kept rejecting me so i fucken flip the other side of the coin and got ugly and asshole than ever then she thought i would beg her to be with me and i dumper her fucken ass for good....she wanted the bad boy...she got what she asked for!!! so ladies please stop fucken around and decide what to fuck you want for good!! later dont complaint if he lets you go!!! thanks...

[animechelle]

They aren't saying to be a douche & start being an ass to girls. Players have a cocky attitude & aren't afraid to go up to a girl & start a conversation w/ her; that shows how much confidence they have, which is actually appealing. All that they're saying is to have a players confidence, not to actually be a player. Cuz when u act like ur the shit ppl start to believe u are. CONFIDENCE IS WHAT MAKES A PERSON SEXY.

[TheCastellan]

Mysterious....that makes no sence. I don't want a 'mysterious' girl. That 'mysterious' girl might just have a butcher knife with your name on it.

Call me odd, but I don't want dating to be a 'challenge', I want to get the girl and that's it. When I want challenge, I'll go play some good chess or do some hyperdiamensional physics equations.

[TheTerminatorevo]

Guess why girls dont like to play games/videogames,they prefer to play with man and manipulate them as they like.We are just their toys.

[TheCastellan]

What if one knows a chick who likes video games?

[TheTerminatorevo]

That would be great.

[sselemaNrM]

Where is this stereotype that girls don't like to play videogames? There are plenty of girls out there that do..

[TheCastellan]

@TheTerminatorevo

And unfortunately, we don't get any power items, 1-Up's, guide books or even a reset button. :P

[TheTerminatorevo]

@TheCastellan 3 years ago i had a deep hate for women,now it's all gone but i still dont trust them

[RNRDOLL]

then live in a country where there's arranged marriages or spend thousands on a mail order Russian bride. You want something but don't want to work for it. But understand when you don't work for it, it carries no value. Make the connection between that and women...and you have your answer as to why women prefer 'the bad boy'. Also bad boy in general is actually a loose term for men who are sexually attractive; because of their high self esteem, low fear of rejection, charisma etc.

[TheCastellan]

You mean as in being rich. :P

[TheKingsMusician]

lol so true dude

[ChromeLocust]

how come so much advice dispensed in the world requires you to stop being who you are? is it some taboo to be yourself? I say ignore the girl who thinks your sappy and let her find out the hard way when she divorces her third douche bag and gets her silicone implants removed at 45. haha suck it you mid-life hags!!

[c00lwatter]

Not really. Problem is we have become a society of people that make women nod (how else do you think Oprah and Beyonce got so rich??). Men have spent so much time molding themselves into images based on women's desires. The main point is just be a man. Be honest. You don't LIKE her cause you don't know her. If she is full of shit, tell her then go away...apologize later if you are truly sorry. Do you see how it works. BE A MAN.

[RNRDOLL]

'being yourself' doesn't mean being timid and shameful. It means having conviction about your personality and not letting anyone, not even a hot chick, sway your beliefs. That's one of the biggest ways to attract women, is to communicate that she has to earn your niceness, you're not gonna give it to her just for being pretty. Nice guys tend to do silly shit like that; changing their whole outlook to agree with hers, thinking it makes her happy. It doesn't.

[blackezi3]

@ChromeLocust So right!! LOL

[Erika445566]

@ChromeLocust lololol..this is true.

[TheCastellan]

@ChromeLocust

She'll need all the silicone she can get, since a lot of these girls who ignore the good guys tend to party, drink, smoke, and do drugs a lot. All that will age her a lot....Lindsey Lohan's such an example. Women who aged beautifully, like Sophia Loren or the late Elizabeth Sladen, did NOT party and drink all night, every night. Those girls aged well and are STILL desirable, even though Sophia's in her 70's, she's still a gorgeous woman, and with class.

[Jackosmack]

@ChromeLocust Man, TOO true. Why should a guy stop being himself? Just to attract a chick? Really!? A lot of women have that entitlement thing going for them so that's why they find "nice guys" too "easy" because they get what they want anyway because some dude WILL give it to them, especially if she's hot. Yeah definitely find a girl that likes you for you, sappy or not sappy. Besides if they didn't like sap, why do they always watch all those sappy chick flicks? Lol.

[sahnie82]

no! although it can get that way if ppl take it too far... i'm talking about give and take on both sides- a tease here or there... not constantly... that would make a person miserable.

[sahnie82]

That guy was right, we girls do want players who don't cheat. It's the truth. Also no girl wants a desperate guy, meaning he would do anything, give you everything to be with you- like men, we like to chase too... not as much as men do, but we do need a challenge to keep it interesting.

[HotSiracha]

does interesting mean being miserable

[ChromeLocust]

yes, don't listen to this horse shit.

[TimB1234567]

what do you mean by a player

[TheCastellan]

Interesting how if a guy is 'nice', he automatically is labeled "boring". Like if I went, "You're a nice girl? Then you must weigh like 300 pounds, have buck teeth and smell like cheese, and be boring." I doubt you'd like me to assume that, yes, ladies? :)

[RNRDOLL]

As a guy, I know they are both right..its exactly what I do; Have interaction with other girls but never cheat. Nothing is better than staying true to your word to her, while at the same time fulfilling SOME of those deep down male fantasies. In the end, she's turned on knowing other girls may desire me..but I come home with her, only her.

[Ericbranson3]

@RNRDOLL you seem to know quite a bit about this. what would you do if you liked this girl but she had a boyfriend and you only saw her like once a week at her workplace-what kind of things would you say and do?

[RNRDOLL]

Honestly be careful--if she books on him for you..chances are she'll also do that to you for someone else. Think about that.

For me its not so much in what I say, its more what I do. I'll walk in casually, disengaged a little. Acting like seeing her is a by the way thing subtly and just talk normal. Maybe tease her about her work uniform, playfully. Just make fun playful convo! Chances are if you make it so that she enjoys your company over her bf's...you're in.

[Ericbranson3]

@RNRDOLL yeah, i did think about that. maybe she's in a bad relationship or something who knows. I appreciate that advice, i'm going to use it : p

[RNRDOLL]

Hey its no biggie man, anything I can do to help...I was there too and will never forget how much I learned from that time in the 'trenches'. Just keep it in your mind women aren't mythical creatures, they just react to certain things different than us and their attraction isn't based off pure logic like us. You have to grab her emotions and take her for a ride on them, then's shes all yours! Looks, money..all that shit, is secondary to your ATTITUDE.

[ATD909]

24/m/CA

I find it hilarious that i keep see'n your post on "nice guy" videos...

...I also find it hilarious that I agree with almost everything you've said in the ones i've read lol.

[TheCastellan]

@sahnie82

Players who don't cheat?

That's one of the most contradictory terms I have ever heard, Sahmie.

[WeTrustChrist]

"because they don't want nice guys until they're about 35" Try 45, it's not until they're looks go downhill COMPLETELY that they then want the "nice guys". That's the cruel joke on "nice guys". Women want to be with them...AFTER they lose their looks.

[TheCastellan]

One tried that with me, she invited me to lunch, and she tried her moves, I said to her, "you had your chance 10 years ago, and you blew it. If I were you, I'd go spend more time raising my bastard daughter and make sure she don't become like me." I then left and told the resturant hostess that she'd pay the bill.

Got me a free lunch and told the fat fuck what she can go do with herself.

[j7512]

@TheCastellan YOU ARE DA MAN!

[TheCastellan]

@j7512

I think Tom Lycus would have sent me a medal, or at least a t-shirt, if I called his show and told him that. :)

[j7512]

@TheCastellan Standing Ovation more like!

[TheCastellan]

@j7512

I would hope so.

Though I'd still like a free t-shirt or a mug. :3

[j7512]

@TheCastellan HAHAHA funny guy I'm going to add you as a friend!!

[blade004]

@TheCastellan Well done good sir! :) 

[xubarze]

@TheCastellan You sir, and a god among men. That must have been fucking sweet.

[TheCastellan]

@xubarze

Just did what I had to do.

[TGosling1234]

thats pretty obvious paula

cause they still like there ex

and its the worst feeling ever

its hard enough to get over someone as it is, and seeing them with someone else just makes it so much worse

[paulababe1985]

why do exs tend to get jealous when they see their ex with someone else?? can you answer this!!