Seems like it is to late for the vast majority of black women for getting married... but how is it that there population continues to grow... are there that many single black moms raising fatherless children? its unbelievable at how well the elites have destroyed the black family
The real truth is that black women sold their souls to the U.S. Dept of Agriculture for foodstamps and other govt assistance in the mid 70's and by the time that on the job training programs came around black women completely turned their backs on God and their grandparents and started claiming that men were holding them back, sisters are doing it for themselves and pu**y hungry a** niggers need to get themsleves white women. Now there are numerous books about what's called The Black Girl Curse.
great points but I think that there are many women out there who think that they need a man to be happy, and thats just not true. women dont NEED a man to be happy. We are complete and capable of happiness with or with out a man in our life. it's okay to want a man, but that fallacy of happiness coming from a man is unhealthy. thats why there are so many women that jump from one relationship to the next, and are never happy being single. I think we must find a balance.
• Here's the thing most guys like women who can think and do for themselves the problem with the "strong independent woman" thing is that their definition of independent is different from guys. ANY little thing that is seen as criticism in intruding on their "independence" which makes them hard to deal with. You try to buy her lunch she takes it as an insult, you say you like her long hair and she wants to cut it she'll say "don't take away my independence"
"strong independent" women don't know how to flaunt their feminine side which is what men are attracted to. We don't date our niggas because we're not attracted to them. And a certain thing about women which is this feminine side of them we find attractive. Independent women try to get men by attracting men the way a man would a woman but it doesn't work like that. Guys dont care about the degrees or cars. Nice to have but we're not attracted to that shit.
A woman bragging about being 'independent' is almost always an example of wasted time - someone who learned to beg for other women's acceptance by buying into whatever buzzwords are selling. 'Independent' is a buzzword. Exceptions aside, a proudly 'independent woman' is just an fearful, unhappy, jaded woman taught to 1) be self-righteous 2) waste her time, and 3) to be without even a single objective principle.
Damn good video... I found this vid on bgol and posted to my facebook, and only got response from 2 married peeps:(.. I live in Atlanta and see this independant/feminist bs erday...u broke the truth down smooth, but the truth hurts!!... Its very refreshing/ and a rarity to get a sista to admit whats really going on... Real talk.. Keep down vids, and u got a brotha in Atlanta whose not caught up n the "MATRIX"
Standing O!!! Everyone wants to feel wanted...and 4 some ladies to continue to say the don't need a man makes us as men go the other way!! That's not inviting at all. Great points....
no offense but ever since beyonces "single ladies" song came out.all u independent women been acting stuck up wen up comes to guys.especially to the nice guys that wana treat u the way u shud be treated.u think every dude u see is bad nd make shit hard on us wen were just tryna be nice
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It has took black women 35 plus years to figure out that this whole totally independent black woman business is pure self-detrimental poison that has yielded a self-inflicted holocaust among blacks which never would have happened if the so called strong black women could have listened to their grandmothers in the 70's, who were to true strong women, for two seconds. However instead, black women have spent nearly a half of a century being complete low lives to people and have become unwanted.
Great points. Maybe a better way to phrase it is that women & individuals should be able to think for themselves.
But it is getting kinda crazy that women in the black community have took this "independent" phenomena to the extremes. Feminism has really screwed up American relationships.
@Evens1 Very well said. I think yours is the best model to counter the poisonous illusion concept of ''Independent woman'' The sad thing is that the very persons who R responsible for guiding females in the right direction have pandored to them instead. I'm talking about PREACHERS. Most preachers I hear are either silent about this corrupt ideology or speak in favor of it.
An Independent woman is a Luciferian doctrine. In a righteous world, a woman went from her father's house straight to her husband's house. The only time a woman was free was when her husband died. Satan via the Gov't & the feminist set up this woman independent crap so you'll would have the freedom to be promiscuous and whore down the place. But God is going to throw cold water on women independence. As it was in the beginning so shall it be in the end. Shalom
@ahbadan Just because a woman is independent doesn't necessarily mark her as a whore...I'm independent, single and celibate and the reason I call myself independent is because I provide for myself as an adult. Not because I "don't need a man" I know when i'm ready God will send a wonderful man who will be willing to take my hand in marriage. Oh and by the way, this world won't be righteous until the second coming, since u seem to be so Christian....Or maybe you forgot.
@relaximdointhis If you are living alone and not a whore my comment should not offend you. If the shoe don't fit don't wear it. Don't stop here and try to defend the whores. Seeing your Beyonce video with Beyonce in those whoreish clothes makes me wonder about your innocence. Nonetheless, I compliment you on your celibate claim and waiting for marriage. That's what all women should aspire to do. Shalom
@ahbadan So since I favorited a Beyonce video my celibacy is questionable? Honey, bye. You are entirely too judgmental and ignorant for me. That really cracked me up.
@relaximdointhis and @ahbadan thanks for all your comments! Let's keep it to the debate at hand and not make it personal :) I, too, was celibate many, many years at one point in time. It IS possible. Yet, now that I'm married, I can't keep my hands off my hubby! Thanks again ya'll! Shalom!
You can't be independent and be in a commited relationship. It just doesn't work that way. If you want monogomy so badly, check the independence at the door. You have to now compromise and be dependent on one another. If you wanna be independent mimic Sex In The City if you want a stable commitment, mimic The Cosby Show or Leave It To Beaver
@SPARKWISDOM 1st I wanna say - u are a very beautifull sista - I dig the hair the nails and everything - 2nd - I have been dumped by 95% of the women I ever been with including an ex wife - all were black - their reasons : I wasn't thuggish enuff - I wasn't a baller - I was too boring because I don't party, club , drink or get high - x wife said I was too aggressive when it came to decisions - she never made any she'd put everything on me so what was I supposed to do - so independence
@SPARKWISDOM isnt the issue in alot of cases its having the wrong mentality - its got me to the point of not trusting women n e more - I had an aversion to black women for a while but I got over that - well my point is: many black women don't make their own minds up they go off of what they see other women have and just want that - I have found soooo many vids on why black men date /lovewhite women and why black women date/love white men - but no vids on why black women love black men
I like that. U did a good job. You are a beautiful woman. to the females yeah the real bruh want a independent woman, we don't want the huge egos. Just like women don't want the huge egos by men. You the boss at work. COOL. Leave your boss attitude at work and bring your wifey and mother attitude home. I don't need a woman bossing me. And I'm not gonna be bossing you.
I agree. Young black women are taught to be independent even when they do have good fathers around. Sometimes it up to the point that it's detrimental. I was taught to avoid the opposite sex and focus on my studies. Now I'm not even sure I know how to be in a relationship. Alot of people need to be taught on that
I'm blessed you wore that shirt in this video response. But I digress
I think the problem revolves around a Black man's relationship with his mother. Black women often times were mother and father. So millions of black men are born without any type of separation of the gender roles. Furthermore, Black women are taught to be self sufficient at a very early age. Cook, clean and discipline their siblings.
We see our own mother in you. And that's very confusing to us.
good vid and u look like u have it going on with ur stuff togethr - no fake hair or extreme amounts of makeup and in shape
and yea as a man id like to be respectd in a relationship, i dont need a trophy to raise my kids, i WANT to raise my kids. but most men dont want to keep doing this and that feeling taken for granted as if theres a 'this is what your susposed to do' attitude evn if it is a responsibility of mine, like how you tip a waiter despite the fact theyr doin what they get paid to do
I approve of this video. This explains from a not only independent woman, but a mild-tempered, experienced, and sensible woman. Being independent is not defined by what you own, or how much of a queen you should be treated by expensive things. Before a relationship, more like the engaging conversation begins, you take note on how a person acts, thinks, feels, says, etc. Then ask yourself if that person is someone you would love to wake up to every morning. And ask plenty of questions. My $.02.
Being independent is expected of all of us as grown ups. Too many black women want to be praised for doing so. Just as there are too many black men who want a trophy for raising their kids.
Women who are grown and men who are daddies are just doing their jobs. The conflict comes in when we expect recognition for fulfilling our required duties. We need to accept that we are responsible for these tasks regardless of relationship status, and not hold our partners accountable for saying "good job".
Men don't have a body clock that tells them to hurry up and build a nest. Women now not only want a nest, they want it a certain way, and they want someone else to buy it for them (there are a few financially independent women, but not a majority). If you ladies didn't need a man there wouldn't be this many videos expressing how many of you are upset that you are being without one. The author of this video is right. If you want a man that bad, as Ghandi said, "Be the change you want to see...".
In your relationships with Black Men, too many of you proudly wear the badge of Independence like it's a Congressional Medal of Honor. The problem? There is no glory in starting wars with Black Men that are avoidable, unncessary, too costly, and unwinnable. There is no 'heroes welcome' awaiting you. Independent is the wrong word to be tagging yourSELVES with. The word entails opposite, divison, seperation, and distance, all of which create conflict in your relationships with BM. Relationships..
contd:..are based on INTER-dependency, not independency. Saying you're strong and INDEPENDENT places you in direct opposition with the very men you claim to want to be with. This tag fails more oftentimes then not because the very nature of the word, as it relates to interpersonal relationships with BM, works against you not for you.
that information is a LIE. we should not believe things we are told that "supposedly" apply to us.
the media lies like hell. essence magazine lies like hell, to keep us feeling inadequate so we can keep feeding the economy with our money to feel adequate. they juxtapose the abuse with commercial product advertisements. they have a vested interest in making us feel less valued.
its all an illusion. our lives are real. the men in our lives are real.
You ladies of this generation have shot yourself in the foot with feminism.You wanted"independence",now you have it and all its consequences,live with it hahahahahahahaha
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I am so tired of women claiming that they are "independent" when all they are doing is being a responsible adult. Some women even perceive "being strong" as being tough, demanding, and disrespectful. These qualities are not what makes a women strong and they are not qualities that men find attractive. I find that many black women in the U.S. should find their way back to femininity and stop buying into the "independent woman" pop culture.
I'm glad I found your video.. I'm a little rusty when it comes to dating (been out of a relationship for 14 months)..Knowing it's ok to after what you want..
I don't want to have kids, I don't want to get married, and I don't want a king or a control-freak. I wanted a partner, who sees me as an equal. I got that with my boyfriend and we've been together for almost 5 years.
@gir908922 A-WOMEN!!!! I hear you, why is it so hard for other Sistah! I think there is a lot of mysandry and mysogny going on. People need really need to assess themselves to understand what THEY want and WHO they ARE. I am happy to say that after a lot of years, I finally have the right mate, for right now. I learned that I cannot MAKE the man I desire, and that was my problem, I only saw POTENTIAL and not who they actually were. Peace
Man talk right now. I advise all men Do not even consider marriage until atleast 30. You will most likely mess up your life. It cannot work. Statistics do not lie. Men and women are too different and you will only truly realize this in your mid thirties if you are smart. Divorce Court will rape the man. Time is on your side not the woman's side. Dont rush this thing. You will spend a fortune on the wedding and lose alot in the divorce. Don't do it yourself. Life is too short!!!
@kilahchris SO TRUE!!! REAL TALK!! BROTHERS, I HOPE YOU ARE READING AND PAYING ATTENTION. SISTERS TOO!! Francis Cress Welsing even went so far as to saying we shouldn't have sex until a certain age of maturity. Now I KNOW you won't agree with that one, LOl, but so be it.
Love the vid! I think a balance was lost... It is great that women in general went on (years ago) to higher education, but a balance was shifted and deciding that as a group that good morals are outdated is what went wrong for women. Yes be independent, and do what needs to be done, but respect yourself and know that old saying... he is not going to buy the cow if he can get the milk for free... (I know it's cheezy, but there's not enough celibacy)
yes everybody needs their own for the simple fact that people don't live for ever and when that person dies you need to be able to stand on your own two feet as an adult
I know a lot of black men are fed up with black women.
A strong, independent woman is not a woman with a built bank account, and a husband "kept in check", beaten and destroyed by humiliation and constant drama. That is a selfish, patronizing, haughty, domineering, conceited, pompous WEAK black ____.
I believe that many of the women we often refer to as “independent” should be referred to as phenomenal (Very remarkable; highly extraordinary; amazing.) Isn’t THAT a beautiful definition?
I think that alot of brothers just want to have fun... when talking about marriage and companionship its supposed to be a talk that feels fun sporadic random and interesting and not so much tension!
@SPARKWISDOM - yes everyone should have their own but the words that Black women and men have to incorp into their vocab is "PARTNERSHIP", "COOPERATIVE", "SHARE" forget all the I, me, mine, yours, those words are we neither man nor woman will be married - it's all about Partnership and in regards to wanting u long term a man has to know ur willing to share and u believe in partnership (I got ur back if u got mine) simple! Superman is only in the comics and a woman's role = HELPMATE!
@SPARKWISDOM You are the vision of a woman that a real man would loves eternally ......A real man wants a life partner that is independent, strong and supportive. A real man will gladly cater to, appreciate & spoil without a second thought.........I think you are a beautiful person as well as beautiful.......Thank you for standing up and speaking the truth.
@SPARKWISDOM It is a beautiful definition. and you're right.
Now, dont get defensive, you're only a number. When they put 42%, they didnt mean each of that 42% is a replica of you... i'll say you're an outlier... numbers are numbers. accident numbers. election poll numbers. u dont deny those, do you? so how do you get to believe the numbers that hurt others but not you, and refute the ones that dont paint you in a bad picture??? be real...
@SPARKWISDOM I totally agree with your video 100%!!!! I don't know why grown women think that they are something amazing because they are able to pay their own bills....that is what we are supposed to do anyway!!!! I am glad to see another sista with my point of view.
@Tanisha0782 I guess b/c some women who are traditional tend to be less educated. In fact Dr Laura praised a woman who said she was not going to college and only wanted to be a housewife.
@dirtyways100 Wow. I don't know if I could agree with passing up education. My mother was a house wife until my siblings and I went to school....she has a college degree.
OMG I just commented on selima vid about this before I watched your vid she referred us to and I said the exact same thing U said "B independent But a man needs and wants to feel needed just as women but we all like to keep a since of self for ourselves B blessed
Loved the vid and the shirt! Interesting point! It reminds me of how people commend guys for taking care of THEIR kids...thats what they're SUPPOSED to do...afterall they are your kids!
@thickwithapassion LOL! It's funny that I had that shirt on and so many people are watching this video. LOL! Great comment too! Men don't get kudos for taking of their kids, because you're right, that is what they're supposed to do!
TY for better defining what an "Independent woman" is. Most people are independent individuals, so what is so special about a woman who is independent, let alone a black woman who is "independent"? Yes, all women need to be able to pay their bills and provide for themselves before they lean on a guy & visa versa. I'm so sick of that phrase I don't know what to do, b/c it has become an anthem for "black", or "single" women who have declared themselves without need of a man for ANY reason.
@ladyEulaelie I believe that many of the women we often refer to as “independent” should be referred to as phenomenal (Very remarkable; highly extraordinary; amazing.) Isn’t THAT a beautiful definition?
Women who keep their head, choose the right road and strive to do remarkable things & without looking back, are not ordinary but highly extraordinary. These types of women are strong not because of their back kick or their bite, but b/c of their strong will & determination to do what is right and what is smart.
These type of women are strong & Independent because they don't need prideful ignorance, and things they know they can't afford to fool themselves into believing that they are someone significant. They don't need to strap on antlers and wrangle their their man/husbands to gain a sense of importance. They are strong, independent and have TRUE confidence w/in themselves that they can step back and let their man be in control w/o feeling like they have no control.
@ladyEulaelie Sis, I really feel you on this. I prefer to use the term self sufficient. Independent to me means that I stand "ALONE". I am NOT alone, I have a mate, I have a family, I have a daughter and I depend on all of them. Dependence is not necessarily monetary, it can be emotional and spiritual as well. I agree with the Sister.
@ladyEulaelie The reason why the independent thing is such an issue is probably b/c of the gold digger thing. BW are now graduating at a higher rate and controlling most of the market withing the BC. I also notice that for some reason BM are seldom called out for their ghetto behavior, their crimes, etc.
I know this is beside the point but your nails are beautiful. Sis, I hear you. The reason why many sis emphasize the fact that they can take care of themselves is so no one would be trying to call them a "gold-digger". Plus, the status of women have drastically changed since the "70's". Most homes are being headed by women even if she is married. Blk always had to do things 2x or 3x times that of another race just to compete. We act like we don't know where this n' other attitudes began.
@zheahra LOL! Thanks for noticing. It's my little hobby :). As for the attitudes...don't even get me started! I'm going to do a video about how I had to get on my daughters', my bonus daughter and the cousins. They were talking to my son like a DOG! Pissed me off too! Black women have to be taught how to speak to them. If they continue, he'll never want a black woman (even though his momma is kind.) I am really kind to my hubby too.Thanks for watching!
@MsCaribbeanChick I agree with your comments. So really, the statement should be, "I'm willing to submit to a man who won't tell me how to live my life and wants to do what I want." I'm probably being harsh.
"We've (Black people in gen.) have gotten away from being kind to one another. Most BW's look upon BM's through eyes of skepticism and maintain the do unto others before they do unto you mentality. They are tightly wound for action-but-what happens when the action never comes?"
@winnslaw I believe we should be kind to all people. Sounds like you're talking about the Willie Lynch letter mentality. We as a people have been conditioned to tear one another down. We have to recondition our minds to love, trust and assist one another with our endeavors - especially BW with BM. My husband is a wonderful BM that I am as kind as I can possibly be to. He's my BF.
If say you dated a man, (black or not) and he worked and was a responsible adult. You are talking about marriage and family and he says he'd like you to stay home, would you have a problem with that? (Assuming his income can support the lifestyle you both want.)
@1desiretaco I'd stay home and work on my business. I'm a real "go getter" and Entrepreneur so I couldn't see sitting home just doing nothing. We forget that the Proverbs 31 woman "She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard." Either way though I'm not the stay at home, barefoot and naked type. I enjoy working and have worked hard on my career and education.
Keep teching my sisiter in the struggle I am in your corner. I know we will come togerher as one in union as black men and women. We just have to go through this weening out process first.
I think you made some brilliant points on the issue. I happen to think the overbearing "strong woman I don't need a man" argument is in direct opposition to the "submit to your man" (dominance) argument. I think both arguments are the extreme counter-arguments to each other. At the end of the day, IMO, men want to feel needed and valued and women do not want to feel dominated and subjugated.
how are black women independent they live off the governments money=black men paying for it child support money=black man paying for it welfare=black men paying for it section 8=black men paying for it college funds your black fathers paying for it through child support how are black women independent??? and anyways nobody wants these "independent" black women you will continue being lonely
@wahsanen07 are you kidding me? Black men paying for welfare, child support, section 8, college funds, blah, blah, blah...How about ALL taxpayers are paying for ALL the people on welfare, section 8, and all form of gov't assistance. Men that father children have an obligation to support them. Gov't assistance is and should be seen as only temporary NEVER permanent. I am NOT lonely nor am I deceived.
Men and women are now working against each other. Is self-reliance the same as Independence? Women with money are not created equal. some can be a partner while many cannot.
@dantej32 okay...I had to look up MILF and then I saw a lot of inappropriate videos....so I'm not so sure that you said something nice...oh well! Thanks for watching!
@SPARKWISDOM I did not mean it in a pornographic sense. I apologize to you if I offended you. I guess I should have said that you are very good looking woman to have a 13 yr old. I assume that you are not in your 20's. You are very well spoken as well. Peace sis.
your right ALOT of black women and women period are on the DOWN LOW...and i mean ALOT...they are lesbians...no wonder they treat men like shit and think they are above MEN...only lesbians feel that way...and what woman who loves MEN would Abort her babies? NONE.
thats the truth sista....what u just said black women dont want to hear and if they do hear it they will ignore it and go one with what is easy....speak on sista , speak on
@thebattlefield74 It's definitely a battle that most of "us" learn late. We are taught to be so strong and for what? Where does that "strength" get you? All alone and never married...
People need to hook up for the right reasons...
theright1allthetime 2 weeks ago
Seems like it is to late for the vast majority of black women for getting married... but how is it that there population continues to grow... are there that many single black moms raising fatherless children? its unbelievable at how well the elites have destroyed the black family
PunjabiSikhRajput1 5 months ago 2
very well put....
MyrandaLuv1 7 months ago
Good video.
periz21 8 months ago
Well put.
strides00 9 months ago
The real truth is that black women sold their souls to the U.S. Dept of Agriculture for foodstamps and other govt assistance in the mid 70's and by the time that on the job training programs came around black women completely turned their backs on God and their grandparents and started claiming that men were holding them back, sisters are doing it for themselves and pu**y hungry a** niggers need to get themsleves white women. Now there are numerous books about what's called The Black Girl Curse.
pc0p1mp 9 months ago
I love sisters w/ natural Hair!
WizzoPro9476 9 months ago
O MY DAM!!! YOU'RE HOT!!!
WizzoPro9476 9 months ago
great points but I think that there are many women out there who think that they need a man to be happy, and thats just not true. women dont NEED a man to be happy. We are complete and capable of happiness with or with out a man in our life. it's okay to want a man, but that fallacy of happiness coming from a man is unhealthy. thats why there are so many women that jump from one relationship to the next, and are never happy being single. I think we must find a balance.
MonisMind 9 months ago
@NatTurnerIsAlive True.
jhvenus2004 11 months ago
U look familiar- Chicago? What church?
jhvenus2004 11 months ago
I like your video!
lawrence9333 11 months ago
EVERY BLACK MAN ON YOUTUBE NEEDS TO SEE THIS VIDEO ABOUT WHERE BLACK WOMEN GET THEIR FUNKY ATTITUDES THAT WERE SHOW IN THE PEPSI COMMERCIAL:
youtube watch?v=qTT8O41ui8o
mayorofblacktown2 11 months ago
BELSSED
indidesidude 1 year ago
Well spoken.
misterautomatic 1 year ago
• Here's the thing most guys like women who can think and do for themselves the problem with the "strong independent woman" thing is that their definition of independent is different from guys. ANY little thing that is seen as criticism in intruding on their "independence" which makes them hard to deal with. You try to buy her lunch she takes it as an insult, you say you like her long hair and she wants to cut it she'll say "don't take away my independence"
MrTNAfan2010 1 year ago
"strong independent" women don't know how to flaunt their feminine side which is what men are attracted to. We don't date our niggas because we're not attracted to them. And a certain thing about women which is this feminine side of them we find attractive. Independent women try to get men by attracting men the way a man would a woman but it doesn't work like that. Guys dont care about the degrees or cars. Nice to have but we're not attracted to that shit.
MrTNAfan2010 1 year ago 2
A woman bragging about being 'independent' is almost always an example of wasted time - someone who learned to beg for other women's acceptance by buying into whatever buzzwords are selling. 'Independent' is a buzzword. Exceptions aside, a proudly 'independent woman' is just an fearful, unhappy, jaded woman taught to 1) be self-righteous 2) waste her time, and 3) to be without even a single objective principle.
russlindquist 1 year ago
Damn good video... I found this vid on bgol and posted to my facebook, and only got response from 2 married peeps:(.. I live in Atlanta and see this independant/feminist bs erday...u broke the truth down smooth, but the truth hurts!!... Its very refreshing/ and a rarity to get a sista to admit whats really going on... Real talk.. Keep down vids, and u got a brotha in Atlanta whose not caught up n the "MATRIX"
Sixfigganigga69 1 year ago
Sexual immorality is the downfall of all nations, societies, families, and peoples.
Feminism = cruel hoax upon spiritually dead people; blind leading the blind.
objectivealetheia 1 year ago
@objectivealetheia Excellent, to the first part...I'm confused about what you said about "feminism" though. Must be something that i missed...
IceInMySnowCone 1 year ago
Standing O!!! Everyone wants to feel wanted...and 4 some ladies to continue to say the don't need a man makes us as men go the other way!! That's not inviting at all. Great points....
MrDontcrossme 1 year ago 2
nice vid
braggsrt 1 year ago
no offense but ever since beyonces "single ladies" song came out.all u independent women been acting stuck up wen up comes to guys.especially to the nice guys that wana treat u the way u shud be treated.u think every dude u see is bad nd make shit hard on us wen were just tryna be nice
hotsuma4 1 year ago
@hotsuma4 Back in the '80's It was Janet Jacksons 'What Have You Done For Me Lately!' Pop Culture can drive a pathology too.
tonybennett3 1 year ago
So so so so so TRUE sister!!!
onlyjoetee 1 year ago
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MaxwellPayne84 1 year ago
It has took black women 35 plus years to figure out that this whole totally independent black woman business is pure self-detrimental poison that has yielded a self-inflicted holocaust among blacks which never would have happened if the so called strong black women could have listened to their grandmothers in the 70's, who were to true strong women, for two seconds. However instead, black women have spent nearly a half of a century being complete low lives to people and have become unwanted.
pc0p1mp 1 year ago
RELATIONSHIP EQUALS INTERDEPENDENCE
My wife & I just listened to your video several times & we are a little shocked at the contradictions that you made.
LIFE = INTERDEPENDENCE
No matter what Black females have been taught, there is no such thing as independence on this planet. The concept is one that WILL DESTROY many BFs.
EXAMPLES
A job = dependence on the owner
A house = dependence on the bank, builders & city.
Eating daily = dependence on the food providers.
No Independence.
EV
Evens1 1 year ago 4
@Evens1. Neva looked at it this way. Very true. Everyone depends on something or someone.
1010tamtam 1 year ago
@Evens1
Great points. Maybe a better way to phrase it is that women & individuals should be able to think for themselves.
But it is getting kinda crazy that women in the black community have took this "independent" phenomena to the extremes. Feminism has really screwed up American relationships.
willia3r 1 year ago
@Evens1 Very well said. I think yours is the best model to counter the poisonous illusion concept of ''Independent woman'' The sad thing is that the very persons who R responsible for guiding females in the right direction have pandored to them instead. I'm talking about PREACHERS. Most preachers I hear are either silent about this corrupt ideology or speak in favor of it.
jhvenus2004 11 months ago
Nicely put.
Moviesmoveme 1 year ago
nice rack
fatesd84 1 year ago
blessed....
TheRamases 1 year ago
An Independent woman is a Luciferian doctrine. In a righteous world, a woman went from her father's house straight to her husband's house. The only time a woman was free was when her husband died. Satan via the Gov't & the feminist set up this woman independent crap so you'll would have the freedom to be promiscuous and whore down the place. But God is going to throw cold water on women independence. As it was in the beginning so shall it be in the end. Shalom
ahbadan 1 year ago
@ahbadan Just because a woman is independent doesn't necessarily mark her as a whore...I'm independent, single and celibate and the reason I call myself independent is because I provide for myself as an adult. Not because I "don't need a man" I know when i'm ready God will send a wonderful man who will be willing to take my hand in marriage. Oh and by the way, this world won't be righteous until the second coming, since u seem to be so Christian....Or maybe you forgot.
relaximdointhis 1 year ago
@relaximdointhis If you are living alone and not a whore my comment should not offend you. If the shoe don't fit don't wear it. Don't stop here and try to defend the whores. Seeing your Beyonce video with Beyonce in those whoreish clothes makes me wonder about your innocence. Nonetheless, I compliment you on your celibate claim and waiting for marriage. That's what all women should aspire to do. Shalom
ahbadan 1 year ago
@ahbadan So since I favorited a Beyonce video my celibacy is questionable? Honey, bye. You are entirely too judgmental and ignorant for me. That really cracked me up.
relaximdointhis 1 year ago
@relaximdointhis and @ahbadan thanks for all your comments! Let's keep it to the debate at hand and not make it personal :) I, too, was celibate many, many years at one point in time. It IS possible. Yet, now that I'm married, I can't keep my hands off my hubby! Thanks again ya'll! Shalom!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Not all men want just 1 thing. You shoudn't assume. Maybe thats why your single.
coolpat2 1 year ago
You can't be independent and be in a commited relationship. It just doesn't work that way. If you want monogomy so badly, check the independence at the door. You have to now compromise and be dependent on one another. If you wanna be independent mimic Sex In The City if you want a stable commitment, mimic The Cosby Show or Leave It To Beaver
pointblank1976 1 year ago 29
@pointblank1976 Great points!!!!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM 1st I wanna say - u are a very beautifull sista - I dig the hair the nails and everything - 2nd - I have been dumped by 95% of the women I ever been with including an ex wife - all were black - their reasons : I wasn't thuggish enuff - I wasn't a baller - I was too boring because I don't party, club , drink or get high - x wife said I was too aggressive when it came to decisions - she never made any she'd put everything on me so what was I supposed to do - so independence
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@SPARKWISDOM isnt the issue in alot of cases its having the wrong mentality - its got me to the point of not trusting women n e more - I had an aversion to black women for a while but I got over that - well my point is: many black women don't make their own minds up they go off of what they see other women have and just want that - I have found soooo many vids on why black men date /lovewhite women and why black women date/love white men - but no vids on why black women love black men
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@pointblank1976 ...so tru. as soon as one person in a relationship start that "me" or "i" stuff in a "WE" situation. its go b a problem.
MemphisFling 1 year ago
@pointblank1976
Thank you thank you
lovesongs103 1 year ago
@pointblank1976 ... 100% right
mba2ceo 4 months ago
It's a shame that most BW aren't as mature and mentally stable as yourself. Very Beautiful and smart sister speaking here!
Artscola 1 year ago
why is everyone talking about her tits??? *confused* what?
Jerzeeloni 1 year ago
Nice tits homegirl is sportin'! Betcha' she wasn't fuckin' her husband too well either, what a shame.
nagone11 1 year ago
I like that. U did a good job. You are a beautiful woman. to the females yeah the real bruh want a independent woman, we don't want the huge egos. Just like women don't want the huge egos by men. You the boss at work. COOL. Leave your boss attitude at work and bring your wifey and mother attitude home. I don't need a woman bossing me. And I'm not gonna be bossing you.
mistanderson 1 year ago
What you said Baby.
laryon 1 year ago
great video!!!
upncmn 1 year ago
If by Blessed you mean great rack, then yes. Because with that shirt, thats all Im noticing, lol.
tidouble1 1 year ago
I agree. Young black women are taught to be independent even when they do have good fathers around. Sometimes it up to the point that it's detrimental. I was taught to avoid the opposite sex and focus on my studies. Now I'm not even sure I know how to be in a relationship. Alot of people need to be taught on that
TheFlyyBohemian 1 year ago
I'm blessed you wore that shirt in this video response. But I digress
I think the problem revolves around a Black man's relationship with his mother. Black women often times were mother and father. So millions of black men are born without any type of separation of the gender roles. Furthermore, Black women are taught to be self sufficient at a very early age. Cook, clean and discipline their siblings.
We see our own mother in you. And that's very confusing to us.
onekutguy 1 year ago
@onekutguy you gonna blame the entire creation of a problem on one side?
viciousrape 1 year ago
good vid and u look like u have it going on with ur stuff togethr - no fake hair or extreme amounts of makeup and in shape
and yea as a man id like to be respectd in a relationship, i dont need a trophy to raise my kids, i WANT to raise my kids. but most men dont want to keep doing this and that feeling taken for granted as if theres a 'this is what your susposed to do' attitude evn if it is a responsibility of mine, like how you tip a waiter despite the fact theyr doin what they get paid to do
DaUnique12 1 year ago
Lace these folks with that game!
DonCheadleCorleone 1 year ago
I approve of this video. This explains from a not only independent woman, but a mild-tempered, experienced, and sensible woman. Being independent is not defined by what you own, or how much of a queen you should be treated by expensive things. Before a relationship, more like the engaging conversation begins, you take note on how a person acts, thinks, feels, says, etc. Then ask yourself if that person is someone you would love to wake up to every morning. And ask plenty of questions. My $.02.
ThaGuyver1 1 year ago
Being independent is expected of all of us as grown ups. Too many black women want to be praised for doing so. Just as there are too many black men who want a trophy for raising their kids.
Women who are grown and men who are daddies are just doing their jobs. The conflict comes in when we expect recognition for fulfilling our required duties. We need to accept that we are responsible for these tasks regardless of relationship status, and not hold our partners accountable for saying "good job".
AraBlak 1 year ago
I love your opinion!
tayalynn17 1 year ago
BLESSED oh yes you are gurl
wontwoonetoo 1 year ago
great post thanx sis...r u on facebook?? if so please friend me :)
Sumumba 1 year ago
Men don't have a body clock that tells them to hurry up and build a nest. Women now not only want a nest, they want it a certain way, and they want someone else to buy it for them (there are a few financially independent women, but not a majority). If you ladies didn't need a man there wouldn't be this many videos expressing how many of you are upset that you are being without one. The author of this video is right. If you want a man that bad, as Ghandi said, "Be the change you want to see...".
azmildman 1 year ago
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Made a whole lot of sense... BTW if you disagree with the ABC article, raise your hand if your single.
mrquojo 1 year ago
Made a whole lot of sense... BTW if you disagree with the ABC article, raise your hand if your single.
mrquojo 1 year ago
Maybe the title of this video should read " The Misconception of the Independant Woman".
Watching this video, judging by the title I expected to hear comments on how or why an independant woman can be deceptive........that wasn't the case.
Just a thought...
Cgirl2020
Creditgirl2020 1 year ago
In your relationships with Black Men, too many of you proudly wear the badge of Independence like it's a Congressional Medal of Honor. The problem? There is no glory in starting wars with Black Men that are avoidable, unncessary, too costly, and unwinnable. There is no 'heroes welcome' awaiting you. Independent is the wrong word to be tagging yourSELVES with. The word entails opposite, divison, seperation, and distance, all of which create conflict in your relationships with BM. Relationships..
mrflightrisk 1 year ago
@mrflightrisk
contd:..are based on INTER-dependency, not independency. Saying you're strong and INDEPENDENT places you in direct opposition with the very men you claim to want to be with. This tag fails more oftentimes then not because the very nature of the word, as it relates to interpersonal relationships with BM, works against you not for you.
Nice video, SPARKWISDOM!
AFFHERMATIONS
mrflightrisk 1 year ago
that information is a LIE. we should not believe things we are told that "supposedly" apply to us.
the media lies like hell. essence magazine lies like hell, to keep us feeling inadequate so we can keep feeding the economy with our money to feel adequate. they juxtapose the abuse with commercial product advertisements. they have a vested interest in making us feel less valued.
its all an illusion. our lives are real. the men in our lives are real.
janalyn629 1 year ago
You ladies of this generation have shot yourself in the foot with feminism.You wanted"independence",now you have it and all its consequences,live with it hahahahahahahaha
onlyjoetee 1 year ago
well put
PAYATTENTIONDAMMITT 1 year ago
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I am so tired of women claiming that they are "independent" when all they are doing is being a responsible adult. Some women even perceive "being strong" as being tough, demanding, and disrespectful. These qualities are not what makes a women strong and they are not qualities that men find attractive. I find that many black women in the U.S. should find their way back to femininity and stop buying into the "independent woman" pop culture.
jessicaberry87 1 year ago 3
I'm glad I found your video.. I'm a little rusty when it comes to dating (been out of a relationship for 14 months)..Knowing it's ok to after what you want..
bailey1950 1 year ago
Using that tight shirt to accent those succulent boobs is appreciated. Formidable intellect also.
gvtuber 1 year ago 2
Sis, this is a good vid.
ifama 1 year ago
@ 1.50: 'Your not independent, your just an adult!' you dont get extra koodles for being an adult, thats what they are supposed to do!
coooll!!!
waters129 1 year ago 2
I don't want to have kids, I don't want to get married, and I don't want a king or a control-freak. I wanted a partner, who sees me as an equal. I got that with my boyfriend and we've been together for almost 5 years.
gir908922 1 year ago 2
@gir908922 A-WOMEN!!!! I hear you, why is it so hard for other Sistah! I think there is a lot of mysandry and mysogny going on. People need really need to assess themselves to understand what THEY want and WHO they ARE. I am happy to say that after a lot of years, I finally have the right mate, for right now. I learned that I cannot MAKE the man I desire, and that was my problem, I only saw POTENTIAL and not who they actually were. Peace
ifama 1 year ago 2
Man talk right now. I advise all men Do not even consider marriage until atleast 30. You will most likely mess up your life. It cannot work. Statistics do not lie. Men and women are too different and you will only truly realize this in your mid thirties if you are smart. Divorce Court will rape the man. Time is on your side not the woman's side. Dont rush this thing. You will spend a fortune on the wedding and lose alot in the divorce. Don't do it yourself. Life is too short!!!
kilahchris 1 year ago
@kilahchris SO TRUE!!! REAL TALK!! BROTHERS, I HOPE YOU ARE READING AND PAYING ATTENTION. SISTERS TOO!! Francis Cress Welsing even went so far as to saying we shouldn't have sex until a certain age of maturity. Now I KNOW you won't agree with that one, LOl, but so be it.
ifama 1 year ago
Love the vid! I think a balance was lost... It is great that women in general went on (years ago) to higher education, but a balance was shifted and deciding that as a group that good morals are outdated is what went wrong for women. Yes be independent, and do what needs to be done, but respect yourself and know that old saying... he is not going to buy the cow if he can get the milk for free... (I know it's cheezy, but there's not enough celibacy)
AnnyKeyz 1 year ago
yes everybody needs their own for the simple fact that people don't live for ever and when that person dies you need to be able to stand on your own two feet as an adult
astrozier1 1 year ago
I know a lot of black men are fed up with black women.
A strong, independent woman is not a woman with a built bank account, and a husband "kept in check", beaten and destroyed by humiliation and constant drama. That is a selfish, patronizing, haughty, domineering, conceited, pompous WEAK black ____.
Not all black women are this way...most aren't.
ladyEulaelie 1 year ago
I believe that many of the women we often refer to as “independent” should be referred to as phenomenal (Very remarkable; highly extraordinary; amazing.) Isn’t THAT a beautiful definition?
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago 7
I think that alot of brothers just want to have fun... when talking about marriage and companionship its supposed to be a talk that feels fun sporadic random and interesting and not so much tension!
FRANCISkid 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM
FRANCISkid 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM - yes everyone should have their own but the words that Black women and men have to incorp into their vocab is "PARTNERSHIP", "COOPERATIVE", "SHARE" forget all the I, me, mine, yours, those words are we neither man nor woman will be married - it's all about Partnership and in regards to wanting u long term a man has to know ur willing to share and u believe in partnership (I got ur back if u got mine) simple! Superman is only in the comics and a woman's role = HELPMATE!
LoveZoneUSA 1 year ago
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LoveZoneUSA 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM From a males perspective your video hits it right on the head in my opinion. Very good and honest points made here!
76malibu81 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM You are the vision of a woman that a real man would loves eternally ......A real man wants a life partner that is independent, strong and supportive. A real man will gladly cater to, appreciate & spoil without a second thought.........I think you are a beautiful person as well as beautiful.......Thank you for standing up and speaking the truth.
dicdaddi 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM It is a beautiful definition. and you're right.
Now, dont get defensive, you're only a number. When they put 42%, they didnt mean each of that 42% is a replica of you... i'll say you're an outlier... numbers are numbers. accident numbers. election poll numbers. u dont deny those, do you? so how do you get to believe the numbers that hurt others but not you, and refute the ones that dont paint you in a bad picture??? be real...
noble92f 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM Sometimes you are indepent as there is NO option to be anything else... you can't just attatch youself to someone!
goodgirlsguide 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM I totally agree with your video 100%!!!! I don't know why grown women think that they are something amazing because they are able to pay their own bills....that is what we are supposed to do anyway!!!! I am glad to see another sista with my point of view.
Tanisha0782 1 year ago
@Tanisha0782 I guess b/c some women who are traditional tend to be less educated. In fact Dr Laura praised a woman who said she was not going to college and only wanted to be a housewife.
dirtyways100 1 year ago
@dirtyways100 Wow. I don't know if I could agree with passing up education. My mother was a house wife until my siblings and I went to school....she has a college degree.
Tanisha0782 1 year ago
@Tanisha0782 Thanks!!! I agree, we are all to be responsible adults!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Well said video sis. Just gained another subscriber.
MissChriss82 1 year ago
@MissChriss82 Thanks for watching and thanks for subbing too!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
OMG I just commented on selima vid about this before I watched your vid she referred us to and I said the exact same thing U said "B independent But a man needs and wants to feel needed just as women but we all like to keep a since of self for ourselves B blessed
LoveMe4ME30 1 year ago
@LoveMe4ME30 LOL! I'm so glad this is getting out!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
I agree totally with your comments.
FinallyFreeToBeMe 1 year ago
@FinallyFreeToBeMe Thanks for watching!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Loved the vid and the shirt! Interesting point! It reminds me of how people commend guys for taking care of THEIR kids...thats what they're SUPPOSED to do...afterall they are your kids!
thickwithapassion 1 year ago
@thickwithapassion LOL! It's funny that I had that shirt on and so many people are watching this video. LOL! Great comment too! Men don't get kudos for taking of their kids, because you're right, that is what they're supposed to do!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM Dont make it any less hard than a woman taking care of her, and we give women kudos all day long.
keeperbooth 1 year ago
Actually that statistic is quite higher
HOODYWOODRECORDS 1 year ago
@HOODYWOODRECORDS you're probably right.
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
@HOODYWOODRECORDS For what age group. What women are we talking about 35? 45?
kmcl11 1 year ago
@kmcl11 (25-60)
HOODYWOODRECORDS 1 year ago
TY for better defining what an "Independent woman" is. Most people are independent individuals, so what is so special about a woman who is independent, let alone a black woman who is "independent"? Yes, all women need to be able to pay their bills and provide for themselves before they lean on a guy & visa versa. I'm so sick of that phrase I don't know what to do, b/c it has become an anthem for "black", or "single" women who have declared themselves without need of a man for ANY reason.
ladyEulaelie 1 year ago 2
@ladyEulaelie I believe that many of the women we often refer to as “independent” should be referred to as phenomenal (Very remarkable; highly extraordinary; amazing.) Isn’t THAT a beautiful definition?
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM
Part 1
Women who keep their head, choose the right road and strive to do remarkable things & without looking back, are not ordinary but highly extraordinary. These types of women are strong not because of their back kick or their bite, but b/c of their strong will & determination to do what is right and what is smart.
continued.
ladyEulaelie 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM
Part 2
These type of women are strong & Independent because they don't need prideful ignorance, and things they know they can't afford to fool themselves into believing that they are someone significant. They don't need to strap on antlers and wrangle their their man/husbands to gain a sense of importance. They are strong, independent and have TRUE confidence w/in themselves that they can step back and let their man be in control w/o feeling like they have no control.
ladyEulaelie 1 year ago
@ladyEulaelie Sis, I really feel you on this. I prefer to use the term self sufficient. Independent to me means that I stand "ALONE". I am NOT alone, I have a mate, I have a family, I have a daughter and I depend on all of them. Dependence is not necessarily monetary, it can be emotional and spiritual as well. I agree with the Sister.
ifama 1 year ago
@ladyEulaelie
well said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
deatha44 1 year ago
@ladyEulaelie The reason why the independent thing is such an issue is probably b/c of the gold digger thing. BW are now graduating at a higher rate and controlling most of the market withing the BC. I also notice that for some reason BM are seldom called out for their ghetto behavior, their crimes, etc.
biblefarce 1 year ago
Note: Watched this again today.
dportis47 1 year ago
I know this is beside the point but your nails are beautiful. Sis, I hear you. The reason why many sis emphasize the fact that they can take care of themselves is so no one would be trying to call them a "gold-digger". Plus, the status of women have drastically changed since the "70's". Most homes are being headed by women even if she is married. Blk always had to do things 2x or 3x times that of another race just to compete. We act like we don't know where this n' other attitudes began.
zheahra 1 year ago 3
@zheahra LOL! Thanks for noticing. It's my little hobby :). As for the attitudes...don't even get me started! I'm going to do a video about how I had to get on my daughters', my bonus daughter and the cousins. They were talking to my son like a DOG! Pissed me off too! Black women have to be taught how to speak to them. If they continue, he'll never want a black woman (even though his momma is kind.) I am really kind to my hubby too.Thanks for watching!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
@SPARKWISDOM Are there any thing the black man can change? Its seems as though its always the woman. Also the point zheahra made seemed to be missed?
sandroeleven 1 year ago 5
@MsCaribbeanChick I agree with your comments. So really, the statement should be, "I'm willing to submit to a man who won't tell me how to live my life and wants to do what I want." I'm probably being harsh.
1desiretaco 1 year ago
"We've (Black people in gen.) have gotten away from being kind to one another. Most BW's look upon BM's through eyes of skepticism and maintain the do unto others before they do unto you mentality. They are tightly wound for action-but-what happens when the action never comes?"
winnslaw 1 year ago
@winnslaw I believe we should be kind to all people. Sounds like you're talking about the Willie Lynch letter mentality. We as a people have been conditioned to tear one another down. We have to recondition our minds to love, trust and assist one another with our endeavors - especially BW with BM. My husband is a wonderful BM that I am as kind as I can possibly be to. He's my BF.
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
You look good on a ipad :-)
dportis47 1 year ago
@dportis47 silly! I love you Sweetheart.
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
If say you dated a man, (black or not) and he worked and was a responsible adult. You are talking about marriage and family and he says he'd like you to stay home, would you have a problem with that? (Assuming his income can support the lifestyle you both want.)
1desiretaco 1 year ago
@1desiretaco I'd stay home and work on my business. I'm a real "go getter" and Entrepreneur so I couldn't see sitting home just doing nothing. We forget that the Proverbs 31 woman "She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard." Either way though I'm not the stay at home, barefoot and naked type. I enjoy working and have worked hard on my career and education.
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Yes you are blessed with a nice pair of tities,nice video too
whitebitchnigga 1 year ago
man i like your vid sista, you make a lot of sense...i love you lol
lutaninh 1 year ago
@lutaninh thank you!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
@lutaninh LOL! Silly! Thanks for watching!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Great video. Everything you said made perfect sense. Please keep up the good work.
powerman876 1 year ago
@powerman876 Thanks for watching!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
@powerman876 I have another one that I want to do dealing with CNN's article "Women marrying men with less income" ...Thanks for watching!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Good logical perspectives...
logician3 1 year ago
@logician3 thank you and thanks for watching
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Can I be you man?
dportis47 1 year ago
@dportis47 If I can be your woman...*smile*
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Very good!!!!
FruitsP 1 year ago
@FruitsP thank you! Thanks for watching!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Great Video
peacemaker304 1 year ago
well said, strait to the point, sadly BW will never get it.
rikshaw223 1 year ago
@rikshaw223 I hope they do and I'm glad I have.
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Keep teching my sisiter in the struggle I am in your corner. I know we will come togerher as one in union as black men and women. We just have to go through this weening out process first.
Faavor 1 year ago
I think you made some brilliant points on the issue. I happen to think the overbearing "strong woman I don't need a man" argument is in direct opposition to the "submit to your man" (dominance) argument. I think both arguments are the extreme counter-arguments to each other. At the end of the day, IMO, men want to feel needed and valued and women do not want to feel dominated and subjugated.
MsCaribbeanChick 1 year ago
@MsCaribbeanChick Thanks for watching! I can't wait to do another video "Women marrying men with less income" on an article from CNN.
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
how are black women independent they live off the governments money=black men paying for it child support money=black man paying for it welfare=black men paying for it section 8=black men paying for it college funds your black fathers paying for it through child support how are black women independent??? and anyways nobody wants these "independent" black women you will continue being lonely
Washanen07 1 year ago
@wahsanen07 are you kidding me? Black men paying for welfare, child support, section 8, college funds, blah, blah, blah...How about ALL taxpayers are paying for ALL the people on welfare, section 8, and all form of gov't assistance. Men that father children have an obligation to support them. Gov't assistance is and should be seen as only temporary NEVER permanent. I am NOT lonely nor am I deceived.
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Men and women are now working against each other. Is self-reliance the same as Independence? Women with money are not created equal. some can be a partner while many cannot.
Faavor 1 year ago
@faavor Yes, we should not consume what we have NOT earned and welfare (when necessary) is only temporary.
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
Abortion of MALE babies particularly...
SuperbadIsraelite 1 year ago
black women are DYKES they dont admit it but they LOVE women...they are dykes and they hate MEN...not ALL but MOST.
SuperbadIsraelite 1 year ago
Good vid
manweller1 1 year ago
@manweller1 Thank you.
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
this is a MILF. the word BLESSED is REALLY stretched out.
dantej32 2 years ago
@dantej32 okay...I had to look up MILF and then I saw a lot of inappropriate videos....so I'm not so sure that you said something nice...oh well! Thanks for watching!
SPARKWISDOM 2 years ago
@SPARKWISDOM I did not mean it in a pornographic sense. I apologize to you if I offended you. I guess I should have said that you are very good looking woman to have a 13 yr old. I assume that you are not in your 20's. You are very well spoken as well. Peace sis.
dantej32 2 years ago
@dantej32 Aren't you sweet and thank you for apologizing! I'm an "L7" LOL! No, I'm in my 30's thanks for the compliment!
SPARKWISDOM 2 years ago
I think alot of black women are on the "Down Low".
Tsugua21 2 years ago 2
@tsuga21 Really???? I don't know about that one. Interesting though.
SPARKWISDOM 2 years ago
your right ALOT of black women and women period are on the DOWN LOW...and i mean ALOT...they are lesbians...no wonder they treat men like shit and think they are above MEN...only lesbians feel that way...and what woman who loves MEN would Abort her babies? NONE.
SuperbadIsraelite 1 year ago
@superbadisraelite I am unable to comment because I do not know any down low women. Thanks for watching!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
thats the truth sista....what u just said black women dont want to hear and if they do hear it they will ignore it and go one with what is easy....speak on sista , speak on
TheBattlefield74 2 years ago
@thebattlefield74 It's definitely a battle that most of "us" learn late. We are taught to be so strong and for what? Where does that "strength" get you? All alone and never married...
SPARKWISDOM 2 years ago
UGH!! Thank you!
stoney490 2 years ago