I'm so afraid of child birth. Just the pain :/ i'm 18 and i cant wait to get older and get married and have children. I just don't know if I can do what you did. you're amazing. Congratulations :)
@avatarappa I think it's really normal to be afraid of the pain, especially given the poplar cultural views on birth. There are some wonderful books written on overcoming fear. You could try "Birth Without Fear" or possibly "Birthing from Within". "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" has some wonderful birth stories and advice. You can do it!
@kitkat3449 Biologically? Sure. Whether or not you're personally ready to be a Mom at 18 is a whole other thing, though, and certainly not a question I can answer about a stranger:) It's wonderful that you're interested, though! I'd love to see more young women educated early about all the amazing things our bodies do.
@ReviewCam Oh yes. He's been raised hearing about birth, just like he hears about every other part of life. We also watched videos and talked about it, in preparation.
Is the father the one in the pool with you? Whomever it is, he is so very attentive. And this scares me about giving birth to my child. I dont want to have that much pain...lol
@RedneckGrl92 Yup, he's the Dad and my Husband and he was great! The pain can be rough, but it's manageable. If you're worried about that, you can look into something like Bradley or Hypnobabies.
i got induced and even though i cant remember much i remember wanting to die lol which is bad but in the moment all u can think about is the pain, afterall thats all u does be feeling and at that point i remember saying i dont want a baby anymore but i was nine months tooooo late lol
@isarma42 i've had two inductions, the first was with my little girl she is 6 now and just last year another girl but she came at 5 months so there was nuttin that couldve been done now this time i have a feeling i'll have to get induce again all for they convenience so my plan is to not go to the hospital until i know for sure the baby is really to come out and if i have contractions naturally (i have never felt natural contractions don't know why) id stay home until he is ready
@TheBeloved1one I was induced with my first and it was terrible! With my second, I wasn't induced (planned - and failed - natural hospital birth), but I did finally consent to pitocin because they thought it had been too long and they threatened me with a section. I hadn't felt natural contractions, either, and was worried about not making it to the hospital.
That's a wise decision. Had I stayed home longer, I might've gotten a natural hospital birth. I also wish I'd hired a doula!
@samiam98s Every woman is different and I'm just generally loud. Also, I know a few of those women and some of them told me they edited out the yelling/transition parts:) This video is pretty much exactly how it was.
That pool looks a lot more comfortable than the ones I've seen in other videos. It gives you room to stretch out and have others in there with you. Just curious--were u in a private house or apartment, and did you tell neighbors you'd be laboring at home?
@ReviewCam We were in a townhouse, so closer neighbors than a house, but not as tight as an apartment. Our closest neighbor, who we share a wall with, was at the birth, so I wasn't worried about him:) I didn't warn anyone else, but no one complained.
@isarma42 You have wonderfully supportive and loving friends:) I am also amazed that none of them seemed to freak out but seemed very much in control and supportive of you,
@ReviewCam They did really great, especially considering half of them didn't know a whole lot about homebirth before that experience. We did alot of talking and educating beforehand, too:) Now all of them are big advocates!
@AlyshaHill07 I think I was saying, "I can't, but I am." First I was saying, "I can't do it." and then I'd say, "I am doing it!" The two things blurred together and became a mantra:)
@peachyosucky99 Waterbirth is popular, especially among homebirthers. Pools like this are a much cheaper option than traditional birthing pools. I was indoors because it was very cold out. Had it been Summer, I would've loved an outdoor birth!
Wow!! you are a very strong woman sarah. Who are those guys around you? you were naked. and so was your husband or your bf and that lady too. It seems like nudity is a normal thing for you guys, and there is a kids around, its just weird for me, im not American and never seen stuff like this. Thanks for sharing your experience Sarah.
@debymoraes2006 Humans are animals, though:) I felt much the same with my first, but I hated the needles and monitors. Plus, the drugs have significant risks for mom and baby and can compromise breastfeeding. I have a 9 year old back injury from an epidural. Not worth it, imo. C-sections may hurt less that day, but recovering from major surgery with a newborh - well, that hurts!
I'm so glad your video shows you screaming, telling the truth: "I can't", etc. many home births I've seen make it seem all blissful and pain free!! LOL You go girl :)
@dontworrybwahaha Some births are quieter than others, but I know many women who also say they were very noisy. I also notice many birth videos are heavily edited and mine isn't, so that might be part of it.
Um, why? I think the social stigma against certain words is just silly, anyway, but when I'm in labor I certainly get to say whatever the fuck I want:)
This is why you're awesome, Sarah. The best responses to rather "odd" comments. And, quite frankly, I think you looked & sounded rather hot saying the word fuck - even though, it wasn't exactly a hot moment-lol How ya been, by the way? Ever think about posting more vids of you & the kids? Sort of a "where are they now" sort of thing? ;)
The word FUCK is from Irish law. If a couple were caught committing adultery, they would be punished "For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge In the nude", with "FUCK or "FUCKIN" written on the stocks above them to denote the fact. But, what good does it do for you me or anyone else to know that? Other than "bragging" rights & your condescending comment to Sarah?
You're incredible! And you definitely have some incredible friends too - I can't emagine being that comfortable with more than a few of mine, and I doubt they'd be very helpful in assisting me at a time like that.. Do you all have a certain philosophy or lifestyle, or are you just very, very close??
I know I'm part hippie (although, some people around me tend to aggravate & my "peace symbol" is temporarily taken down). I think you're awesome. But, that word pagan always seemed a bit "extreme" sounding. Evil tone to it.....PAGANS - ROAR!! - LOL
@klwewf I used to feel the same way about the word, but I realized it was mostly negative programming from my church upbriging. The word describes me and now I like it.
The hard part was only about 4 or 5 hours. Counting from the first regular contractions, it was 12 hours, but I wasn't sure I was in labor until pretty far into it:) I'd had regular, low level contractions for weeks.
Yes, I know it can happen. It's not my impression it's something you can decide to have so easily, though. I was certainly open to the idea, but that's not what happened for me. It just hurt:)
LOL i can tell it hurt...well the important thing is that u gave birth to a healthy, beautiful baby and that nothing happened to u either! btw how old is he now?
I feel so happy watching these videos! It makes me want to persuade my wife in the future to do an unassisted! I'm sorry for being nosey, but what do the dots on your belly indicate? I don't know what they mean.......anyway congrats congrats congrats!! ^^
hmm...this one just kind of reiterates for me that the child/ren should not have been there-listening to your mother screaming in absolute agony yelling fuck me i cant and it hurts so bad is just plain not healthy for a child of an age to witness. unless youre trying to scare them out of sex maybe.....again though, big ups to you for doin it the au natural way.
I think it's understandable you'd have that view, given the beliefs of most modern cultures. The reality is that children weren't always shielded from birth or nudity the way they are now and I have no desire to shield mine from those things. Both children present loved the experience and aren't even remotely scarred by it. They both talk about it enthusiastically:)
Children can handle it; as long as they've been prepared and are involved and not ignored they will be find. My daughter was there when her baby bro was born and she was 5...to this day they are close & there's never been sibling rivalry. And she can't wait to have kids of her own....at home!! She is now 22 and still feels the same! Go Natural Birth....rock it hard!! It's not supposed to be easy!!
I witnessed my siblings births at age 6,7,9 and 17. all that it served to do was introduce me to the reality of labour, it made me less scared when it was me, i had some kind of idea what to expect. yes i was a little scared for a few minutes briefly once or twice during the first one i saw, this was quickly relieved by some reassurance and i never ever got scared again. then when it was me, i knew it was normal and ok to scream moan, be scared, be happy, sing dance...do whatever felt right.
In between I was pretty much pain-free, in the way that you can only appreciate when you're in extreme pain and it fully stops:) Near the end, they overlapped and I don't remember much pain-free time, but that wasn't for a while.
It snuck up on me, because I'd had prodromal labor for 5 weeks! In retrospect, regular, easily manageable contractions started around 3 or 4pm. It didn't get hard until 11pm or so.
I said it once, and i'll say it again o.o you are so strong... I am sitting here talking to the video as if you can hear me.. 'wow' is all I can really say to explain how I feel after watching these vids up to this point.
haha, sorry Sarah, I am an eternal optimist and I caught myself several times talking to your video...saying "you can, you can, say you can" over your "I can't"s. I am hoping for a homebirth, I am at 12 weeks only but no complications this far. Great Job dear!
Another amazing video. Instead of holding your legs open, your friends should of been massaging your back pains. You just look so uncomfortable. I really hear you when you say "it hurts". It is extremely traumatic and a pain like no other that completely takes over your body and you are so helpless. My children were all 10lb and I had our last baby girl was induced so it was all very artificial and extremely painful. I had no pain relief either. Your videos should be shown in birthing classes
I'm glad you enjoyed the video. My friends were doing what I asked of them. They were helping support my legs, yes, but there was always someone providing counter pressure on my back. I've never enjoyed massage in labor.
I have never had a baby, but those cries so impressive, it must be worse than if they were torturing one is a dreadful thing, Hey Sara, I think it would be good if the boy was with his uncles weezer, I think it is a little small to begin to understand these things, very short hair girl who wants to help you much constantly, it is really very beautiful.
And, I love how at 3:57, you're looking directly at ("us") the camera. And, wow! You sure got a set a lungs on you, sweetie. But, and, I'm NOT being sarcastic - it (the screaming) actually has quite a bit of appeal.
hmmmm you have no idea how much I'm laughing right now...lol I told my husband this morning, "I'm scared..let's not do this" lol Honestly, I believe I will go med free I'm just gonna hire a Doula to keep me grounded and focused. ( OH GOOD LORD HELP ME ) Thanks for the kind responses and I wish you and your family well. Oh wait..what da heck are horse lips??
Have you read much Ina May? If you haven't, now's a great time! Her "Guide to Childbirth" is half fantastic birth stories, but also has a great chapter on the Sphincter Law, which includes horse lips. Basically, the idea is to keep you jaw relaxed - as above, so below:) I'll bet that book would really encourage you right now! Doulas are fantastic, too.
P.S. I'm goin to the hospital just in case... I had my last one at a birthing center with no medication and I thought I would DIE, lol. It took me two years to get over that PAIN!!!!! lol I must say I am proud of you myself but I don't know if I can do it again without meds.
I went to the hospital for the same reasons with Declan and had a whole bunch of interventions I DID NOT want or even really need. That's another reason for the homebirth - I just didn't want the option. In the event of an emergency, our hospital is 5 minutes away and it usually takes at least that long for an emergency section - usually about half an hour. Good luck on your birth! You can do it. You don't need the drugs - why take the risk? You've done it before:)
how many kids you have, sarah?
940powergirl 2 months ago
@940powergirl 2 boys :)
isarma42 2 months ago
Your sons are so cute
MissClavelle 3 months ago
@MissClavelle Thanks!
isarma42 3 months ago
I'm so afraid of child birth. Just the pain :/ i'm 18 and i cant wait to get older and get married and have children. I just don't know if I can do what you did. you're amazing. Congratulations :)
avatarappa 4 months ago 2
@avatarappa I think it's really normal to be afraid of the pain, especially given the poplar cultural views on birth. There are some wonderful books written on overcoming fear. You could try "Birth Without Fear" or possibly "Birthing from Within". "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" has some wonderful birth stories and advice. You can do it!
isarma42 3 months ago
@isarma42 thank you :) i'll definitly note those.
avatarappa 3 months ago
hi mis.sarah i am 11 and would 18 be ok for me to give birth
kitkat3449 5 months ago
@kitkat3449 Biologically? Sure. Whether or not you're personally ready to be a Mom at 18 is a whole other thing, though, and certainly not a question I can answer about a stranger:) It's wonderful that you're interested, though! I'd love to see more young women educated early about all the amazing things our bodies do.
isarma42 3 months ago
Sarah you are So Brave
Jazz2Flower 5 months ago 2
@Jazz2Flower That's a sweet compliment.
isarma42 3 months ago
@IloveCarz12 What a wonderful compliment :) Thanks!
isarma42 6 months ago
Your son looks so compassionate.
Did you prepare him for what he might hear?
ReviewCam 7 months ago
@ReviewCam Oh yes. He's been raised hearing about birth, just like he hears about every other part of life. We also watched videos and talked about it, in preparation.
isarma42 6 months ago
@TheIsabelrox I'm in labor?
isarma42 8 months ago
You had a big baby. Well done. my biggest so far was 9lb 6oz and i had a c/s
ruthrodley 9 months ago
@ruthrodley Thanks! I love big babies.
isarma42 9 months ago
pour sara
theSuzaXD 9 months ago
@theSuzaXD Not poor Sarah! I'm really pleased with my experience.
isarma42 9 months ago
@isarma42 ok ok! sorry. but i'm only 12!
theSuzaXD 9 months ago
@theSuzaXD I wasn't trying to scold you :) No worries.
isarma42 8 months ago
Is the father the one in the pool with you? Whomever it is, he is so very attentive. And this scares me about giving birth to my child. I dont want to have that much pain...lol
RedneckGrl92 10 months ago
@RedneckGrl92 Yup, he's the Dad and my Husband and he was great! The pain can be rough, but it's manageable. If you're worried about that, you can look into something like Bradley or Hypnobabies.
isarma42 9 months ago
i got induced and even though i cant remember much i remember wanting to die lol which is bad but in the moment all u can think about is the pain, afterall thats all u does be feeling and at that point i remember saying i dont want a baby anymore but i was nine months tooooo late lol
TheBeloved1one 11 months ago
@TheBeloved1one Oh yeah - and inductions are especially rough. My sympathies.
isarma42 10 months ago
@isarma42 i've had two inductions, the first was with my little girl she is 6 now and just last year another girl but she came at 5 months so there was nuttin that couldve been done now this time i have a feeling i'll have to get induce again all for they convenience so my plan is to not go to the hospital until i know for sure the baby is really to come out and if i have contractions naturally (i have never felt natural contractions don't know why) id stay home until he is ready
TheBeloved1one 10 months ago
@TheBeloved1one I was induced with my first and it was terrible! With my second, I wasn't induced (planned - and failed - natural hospital birth), but I did finally consent to pitocin because they thought it had been too long and they threatened me with a section. I hadn't felt natural contractions, either, and was worried about not making it to the hospital.
That's a wise decision. Had I stayed home longer, I might've gotten a natural hospital birth. I also wish I'd hired a doula!
isarma42 9 months ago
contractions are the worse part i felt your pain while watching this
TheBeloved1one 11 months ago
other waterbirths they dont scream as much as u did
samiam98s 1 year ago
@samiam98s Every woman is different and I'm just generally loud. Also, I know a few of those women and some of them told me they edited out the yelling/transition parts:) This video is pretty much exactly how it was.
isarma42 1 year ago
This was absolutely beautiful. good job
MsSb714 1 year ago
@MsSb714 Thanks!
isarma42 1 year ago
4:11 y did u jump
samiam98s 1 year ago
@samiam98s I'm pretty sure I never jumped:)
isarma42 1 year ago
@isarma42 umm yes u did
samiam98s 1 year ago
@isarma42 6:40 Yes u did jump y did u ?
samiam98s 1 year ago
@samiam98s You're right. She jumped twice in a row because her baby was moving, heavens know why! :)
renerocks745 1 year ago
@samiam98s You're right. She did jump. Twice, in fact. :)
renerocks745 1 year ago
@renerocks745 I think we just have a different definition of jumping. I thought @samiam98s meant I stood up and hopped or something.
isarma42 1 year ago
@samiam98s No? I'm unsure where you'd get that.
isarma42 1 year ago
I'm so impressed that you did go through with that!! You are so strong, woman! I had never dared to give birth at all...
rockelisa 1 year ago
@rockelisa Thanks! Women have been doing it for as long as there have been women:)
isarma42 1 year ago
That pool looks a lot more comfortable than the ones I've seen in other videos. It gives you room to stretch out and have others in there with you. Just curious--were u in a private house or apartment, and did you tell neighbors you'd be laboring at home?
ReviewCam 1 year ago
@ReviewCam We were in a townhouse, so closer neighbors than a house, but not as tight as an apartment. Our closest neighbor, who we share a wall with, was at the birth, so I wasn't worried about him:) I didn't warn anyone else, but no one complained.
isarma42 1 year ago
@isarma42 You have wonderfully supportive and loving friends:) I am also amazed that none of them seemed to freak out but seemed very much in control and supportive of you,
ReviewCam 1 year ago
@ReviewCam They did really great, especially considering half of them didn't know a whole lot about homebirth before that experience. We did alot of talking and educating beforehand, too:) Now all of them are big advocates!
isarma42 1 year ago
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AlyshaHill07 1 year ago
@AlyshaHill07 I think I was saying, "I can't, but I am." First I was saying, "I can't do it." and then I'd say, "I am doing it!" The two things blurred together and became a mantra:)
isarma42 1 year ago
@peachyosucky99 Waterbirth is popular, especially among homebirthers. Pools like this are a much cheaper option than traditional birthing pools. I was indoors because it was very cold out. Had it been Summer, I would've loved an outdoor birth!
isarma42 1 year ago
Eh? Your older son was there? Oh. How did he react?
vairaBerlin 1 year ago
@vairaBerlin You can see him in the videos. he did great!
isarma42 1 year ago
@vairaBerlin He handled it all beautifully! He still talks about it happily, nearly 3 years later.
isarma42 1 year ago
It hurt I bet, but you are 100% lucky to have your son support you
LecciLeclerc 1 year ago
@LecciLeclerc He was fantastic:)
isarma42 1 year ago
I am so proud of your son for being there to support you 100% thumbs up for that!!
You did a good job, im proud of you... everyone did a great job.. very supportive people!!
29allaboutmylife 1 year ago
@29allaboutmylife Thanks so much:) I'm really proud of him, too, and thankful for everyone who was there.
isarma42 1 year ago
Oh wow, that sounds like it hurts!
2010gracie 1 year ago
@2010gracie Transition is rough:)
isarma42 1 year ago
Do you have courage. Nude with mans near? But childbirth is a god grace :)
sanh4cker747 1 year ago
@sanh4cker747 Thanks:) Nudity isn't a big deal to us - male or female.
isarma42 1 year ago
Wow!! you are a very strong woman sarah. Who are those guys around you? you were naked. and so was your husband or your bf and that lady too. It seems like nudity is a normal thing for you guys, and there is a kids around, its just weird for me, im not American and never seen stuff like this. Thanks for sharing your experience Sarah.
nornor06 1 year ago
@nornor06 Everyone there was an important person in my life and yes, nudity isn't a big deal to us.
isarma42 1 year ago
You are very strong sarah.
18keyanna 2 years ago 14
@18keyanna I didn't feel strong, then:) You never know your strength until it's tested!
isarma42 2 years ago
thats its traumatic for every one wish have a baby. im 32 weeks and im sure not gone do this. im not animal im a woman and i dont want fell pain .
debymoraes2006 2 years ago
@debymoraes2006 Humans are animals, though:) I felt much the same with my first, but I hated the needles and monitors. Plus, the drugs have significant risks for mom and baby and can compromise breastfeeding. I have a 9 year old back injury from an epidural. Not worth it, imo. C-sections may hurt less that day, but recovering from major surgery with a newborh - well, that hurts!
isarma42 2 years ago
Dont u think that it is not good to swear infront of ur kids?
Snowbuni00luv 2 years ago
@Snowbuni00luv I think curse words aren't any different than other words. Someone decided they have power, so they do.
isarma42 2 years ago
Snowbunni00luv:
Relax. It is just words. The kid is okay. Focus on your own kids and the words they hear and leave others alone.
EllaKathryn 2 years ago 14
How many hours were you in labor for
MsKoool123 2 years ago
@MsKoool123 From the first regular contractions, about 12 hours. The hard labor was only 4 or 5 hours.
isarma42 2 years ago
I'm so glad your video shows you screaming, telling the truth: "I can't", etc. many home births I've seen make it seem all blissful and pain free!! LOL You go girl :)
mochajavalatte 2 years ago 2
@mochajavalatte Oh, I'm sure it is peaceful for some, but people are different and I'm never very quiet.
Anyway, you're welcome:)
isarma42 2 years ago
*noisiest
dontworrybwahaha 2 years ago
Nosiest birth I've ever watched...
dontworrybwahaha 2 years ago
@dontworrybwahaha Some births are quieter than others, but I know many women who also say they were very noisy. I also notice many birth videos are heavily edited and mine isn't, so that might be part of it.
isarma42 2 years ago
it's not good to say 'fuck'
wasabi645 2 years ago
Um, why? I think the social stigma against certain words is just silly, anyway, but when I'm in labor I certainly get to say whatever the fuck I want:)
isarma42 2 years ago
lol you certainly can say whatever you want lady
syrano2005 2 years ago 4
This is why you're awesome, Sarah. The best responses to rather "odd" comments. And, quite frankly, I think you looked & sounded rather hot saying the word fuck - even though, it wasn't exactly a hot moment-lol How ya been, by the way? Ever think about posting more vids of you & the kids? Sort of a "where are they now" sort of thing? ;)
klwewf 2 years ago
@klwewf Thanks:)
Very good and very busy! I keep meaning to update the blogspot, but never seem to get around to it.
isarma42 2 years ago
@isarma42
It's fine to fuck while in labor but do you know what the meaning of fuck really is?I bet you don't most people don't
readinggecko12 2 years ago
The word FUCK is from Irish law. If a couple were caught committing adultery, they would be punished "For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge In the nude", with "FUCK or "FUCKIN" written on the stocks above them to denote the fact. But, what good does it do for you me or anyone else to know that? Other than "bragging" rights & your condescending comment to Sarah?
klwewf 2 years ago 2
what happened at 6:39?
blover33 2 years ago
A contraction?
isarma42 2 years ago
i got shivers watching this video! it kinda scared me the first time i watched it.
jeffria5 2 years ago
Thanks:) Birth can definitely be intense.
isarma42 2 years ago
I love how you just stop screaming long enough to say I love you back to your husband!
brunettebrewer 2 years ago 3
It was funny:)
isarma42 2 years ago
I am curios. Do you plan on having any more children and if so will you consider a home birth again?.. How does the daddy feel about it?
brunettebrewer 2 years ago
We don't plan to have anymore, but if we did it would definitely be at home. My husband is completely supportive of that.
isarma42 2 years ago
woah it must of hurt a lot during the contracions but other than that such a calm atmosphere
LeleBlazie 2 years ago
Oh yeah, it was very comfy. Home is so nice:)
isarma42 2 years ago
i dont have kids so how would i know wht its like
anyways sounds good
if i ever have kids i wanna waterbirth too
LeleBlazie 2 years ago
You're incredible! And you definitely have some incredible friends too - I can't emagine being that comfortable with more than a few of mine, and I doubt they'd be very helpful in assisting me at a time like that.. Do you all have a certain philosophy or lifestyle, or are you just very, very close??
Lyckojazz 2 years ago
Oh thank you:) You know, I'm not sure? Some of us consider ourselves pagan, but not all of us. I suppose we all have a bit of hippie in us.
isarma42 2 years ago
I know I'm part hippie (although, some people around me tend to aggravate & my "peace symbol" is temporarily taken down). I think you're awesome. But, that word pagan always seemed a bit "extreme" sounding. Evil tone to it.....PAGANS - ROAR!! - LOL
klwewf 2 years ago
@klwewf I used to feel the same way about the word, but I realized it was mostly negative programming from my church upbriging. The word describes me and now I like it.
isarma42 2 years ago
wow you had a really big baby! thank God all went well. take care and God bless
jjac31456287 2 years ago
He's a big boy. The thing is, birth normally goes quite well when left alone. They just don't often leave it alone.
isarma42 2 years ago
OMG!!! u are such a strong woman!! u r just soooo amazing!!!
tessa1164 2 years ago
Thanks:)
isarma42 2 years ago
how many hours did it take? and wow u have some big balls lol
nirvanafreak23 2 years ago
The hard part was only about 4 or 5 hours. Counting from the first regular contractions, it was 12 hours, but I wasn't sure I was in labor until pretty far into it:) I'd had regular, low level contractions for weeks.
isarma42 2 years ago
wat a long journey...
but how come u didnt choose to have an orgasmic birth? u know that can happen rite?
nirvanafreak23 2 years ago
Yes, I know it can happen. It's not my impression it's something you can decide to have so easily, though. I was certainly open to the idea, but that's not what happened for me. It just hurt:)
isarma42 2 years ago
LOL i can tell it hurt...well the important thing is that u gave birth to a healthy, beautiful baby and that nothing happened to u either! btw how old is he now?
nirvanafreak23 2 years ago
20 months:)
isarma42 2 years ago
oh and one more thing, i didn't even notice the BF in the background cause it is so normal lol, infact i can't find
edaj84 2 years ago
She breastfeeds him a couple of times throughout the video:) And yes, it is normal.
isarma42 2 years ago
did you have midwife`s around you helping you?
agaragarlove 2 years ago
Nope. As the video description says, those women aren't professionals, just good friends.
isarma42 2 years ago
I feel so happy watching these videos! It makes me want to persuade my wife in the future to do an unassisted! I'm sorry for being nosey, but what do the dots on your belly indicate? I don't know what they mean.......anyway congrats congrats congrats!! ^^
gaarafan93 2 years ago
It's wonderful that you're so supportive of UCing. Hopefully your wife will be on the same page:) The dots are four phases of the moon.
isarma42 2 years ago
Does water help you to diminish the pain? Wherefrom you are? Can you put subtitles in Spanish please?
ksweetdreams 2 years ago
It certainly can:)
I'm from Georgia, in the United States.
I have no idea how to do subtitles and my Spanish isn't very strong, so probably not.
isarma42 2 years ago
Did contractions hurt(grieve) you? Is not it supposed that it is not necessary to to shout in the childbirth to avoid to spend(consume) energy?
ksweetdreams 2 years ago
Yes, they hurt, hence the yelling. I have no idea about supposed to, but different people manage pain differently.
isarma42 2 years ago
hmm...this one just kind of reiterates for me that the child/ren should not have been there-listening to your mother screaming in absolute agony yelling fuck me i cant and it hurts so bad is just plain not healthy for a child of an age to witness. unless youre trying to scare them out of sex maybe.....again though, big ups to you for doin it the au natural way.
holyjabberwookie 2 years ago
I think it's understandable you'd have that view, given the beliefs of most modern cultures. The reality is that children weren't always shielded from birth or nudity the way they are now and I have no desire to shield mine from those things. Both children present loved the experience and aren't even remotely scarred by it. They both talk about it enthusiastically:)
isarma42 2 years ago
Children can handle it; as long as they've been prepared and are involved and not ignored they will be find. My daughter was there when her baby bro was born and she was 5...to this day they are close & there's never been sibling rivalry. And she can't wait to have kids of her own....at home!! She is now 22 and still feels the same! Go Natural Birth....rock it hard!! It's not supposed to be easy!!
doulasue23 2 years ago 4
I witnessed my siblings births at age 6,7,9 and 17. all that it served to do was introduce me to the reality of labour, it made me less scared when it was me, i had some kind of idea what to expect. yes i was a little scared for a few minutes briefly once or twice during the first one i saw, this was quickly relieved by some reassurance and i never ever got scared again. then when it was me, i knew it was normal and ok to scream moan, be scared, be happy, sing dance...do whatever felt right.
edaj84 2 years ago
Wow. You sure are strong.
What's labor feel like in between those contractions? I've always been curious.
GothFlame 2 years ago
Thanks:)
In between I was pretty much pain-free, in the way that you can only appreciate when you're in extreme pain and it fully stops:) Near the end, they overlapped and I don't remember much pain-free time, but that wasn't for a while.
isarma42 2 years ago
I can't, I can't, I can't...but you did! You amazing person, YOU!!! =)
MegaFlippy 2 years ago
Why do you say you can't? Most women have, throughout history. Many still do:) Women are pretty remarkable.
isarma42 2 years ago
I was so amazed when you said "I CANT!!!" then at the end you said "I did it!" :)
kjnilsd 2 years ago 2
It was an amazing feeling:) I still feel like I can do anything!
isarma42 2 years ago
Hey. It's susieq122 again on another account. Those tattoos are really cool. I can't get them because Im a Jew.
ILOVEBOTTLEDWATER 2 years ago
Thanks:)
isarma42 2 years ago
what are the dots on your stomach?
susieq122 2 years ago
They're tattoos - phases of the moon.
isarma42 2 years ago
when did your labor begin?
xocmx15 2 years ago
It snuck up on me, because I'd had prodromal labor for 5 weeks! In retrospect, regular, easily manageable contractions started around 3 or 4pm. It didn't get hard until 11pm or so.
isarma42 2 years ago
I said it once, and i'll say it again o.o you are so strong... I am sitting here talking to the video as if you can hear me.. 'wow' is all I can really say to explain how I feel after watching these vids up to this point.
snaps4108 2 years ago
Thanks:) Births can be really overwhelming, that I get.
isarma42 2 years ago
I laughed when you yelled it hurts a fuck ton.
warrickgirl37 2 years ago 4
It's definitely funny when I'm not int he middle of it. Of course I didn't think it was funny then;)
isarma42 2 years ago
Yeah, I would not find that funny if I was in labor. Afterwards though, I would laugh a lot.
warrickgirl37 2 years ago
haha, sorry Sarah, I am an eternal optimist and I caught myself several times talking to your video...saying "you can, you can, say you can" over your "I can't"s. I am hoping for a homebirth, I am at 12 weeks only but no complications this far. Great Job dear!
alicebrb 2 years ago 2
That's great:) That's what they were saying to me - not just 'You can', but 'You ARE doing it!' Transition can be rough.
Good for you for planning a homebirth! I hope you have a fantastic experience.
isarma42 2 years ago
Your little boy sitting on the couch is really cute! He's got a cute little nose and full chubby lips! lol
miracleworker12744 3 years ago
He's pretty awesome:)
isarma42 3 years ago
Another amazing video. Instead of holding your legs open, your friends should of been massaging your back pains. You just look so uncomfortable. I really hear you when you say "it hurts". It is extremely traumatic and a pain like no other that completely takes over your body and you are so helpless. My children were all 10lb and I had our last baby girl was induced so it was all very artificial and extremely painful. I had no pain relief either. Your videos should be shown in birthing classes
cartier56 3 years ago 2
I'm glad you enjoyed the video. My friends were doing what I asked of them. They were helping support my legs, yes, but there was always someone providing counter pressure on my back. I've never enjoyed massage in labor.
isarma42 3 years ago
How long were you in labor?
herlaugh 3 years ago
12 hours if you count from the first regular contractions, but only 5 or so were actually heavy labor.
isarma42 3 years ago
wow why werent any doctors there?
hweil99 3 years ago
Because I don't believe birth is a medical condition.
isarma42 3 years ago
I like the part at the end where you say,"I hate this song.". What song was it?
LilMooMoo987 3 years ago
I can't hear it well enough to tell. Maybe something by Pink? Normally, I love her, but I just wasn't feeling her in labor:)
isarma42 3 years ago
*the clothes r finished drying
^-^
lolz
vjjamz 3 years ago
Yup, towels probably:) We went through loads of towels!
isarma42 3 years ago
omg!your so cute..hahahaha
tsubametori 3 years ago
Thanks:)
isarma42 3 years ago
Congratulations, Sara.
The patience to wait the baby born completely is wonderful.
I Had two babies in home. The first was a Waterbirth too. Only we know the good we made ourselves and our babies.
Kisses
Mamaedydy 3 years ago
Congrats to you, too:) Yes, I big part of natural birth is simple patience - patience and trust.
isarma42 3 years ago
I have never had a baby, but those cries so impressive, it must be worse than if they were torturing one is a dreadful thing, Hey Sara, I think it would be good if the boy was with his uncles weezer, I think it is a little small to begin to understand these things, very short hair girl who wants to help you much constantly, it is really very beautiful.
elmundosegunivan 3 years ago
Births have been family affairs for as long as there have been births. Both boys were welcome and did great. Thanks!
isarma42 3 years ago
i have a qustion what does the belly when it hurts! im jst asking
tayragirl 3 years ago
I'm sorry, I don't understand. "What does the belly when it hurts?" I'm not sure what that means.
isarma42 3 years ago
And, I love how at 3:57, you're looking directly at ("us") the camera. And, wow! You sure got a set a lungs on you, sweetie. But, and, I'm NOT being sarcastic - it (the screaming) actually has quite a bit of appeal.
klwewf 3 years ago
Singing tends to teach good breath control:)
isarma42 3 years ago
U said you cant you cant you cant
and you did
:)
susanaisdabanana 3 years ago
Yes! That's part of what makes it so empowering:)
isarma42 3 years ago
hmmmm you have no idea how much I'm laughing right now...lol I told my husband this morning, "I'm scared..let's not do this" lol Honestly, I believe I will go med free I'm just gonna hire a Doula to keep me grounded and focused. ( OH GOOD LORD HELP ME ) Thanks for the kind responses and I wish you and your family well. Oh wait..what da heck are horse lips??
OnlyOneEpiphany 3 years ago
Have you read much Ina May? If you haven't, now's a great time! Her "Guide to Childbirth" is half fantastic birth stories, but also has a great chapter on the Sphincter Law, which includes horse lips. Basically, the idea is to keep you jaw relaxed - as above, so below:) I'll bet that book would really encourage you right now! Doulas are fantastic, too.
isarma42 3 years ago
P.S. I'm goin to the hospital just in case... I had my last one at a birthing center with no medication and I thought I would DIE, lol. It took me two years to get over that PAIN!!!!! lol I must say I am proud of you myself but I don't know if I can do it again without meds.
OnlyOneEpiphany 3 years ago
I went to the hospital for the same reasons with Declan and had a whole bunch of interventions I DID NOT want or even really need. That's another reason for the homebirth - I just didn't want the option. In the event of an emergency, our hospital is 5 minutes away and it usually takes at least that long for an emergency section - usually about half an hour. Good luck on your birth! You can do it. You don't need the drugs - why take the risk? You've done it before:)
isarma42 3 years ago
what did you try doing 6:39?
jkelly95 3 years ago
I'm doing horse lips to get through a contraction and apparently the pain kicked up a notch:)
isarma42 3 years ago
I liked the horse lips thing. Cute. And, you got a really good rhythm going at one point.
klwewf 3 years ago
The horse lips are amazingly useful! It's a good cue to relax your whole body.
isarma42 3 years ago