Black Women: Я U Raising Mules or Men?

[Neo911ism]

sooooooo true  OMG you hit it on the money

[MrMidnightSpecialist]

I could not have said it better myself. This definitely gives me more confidence to get my college education before marrying any woman. Thanks tmotofga!!!! Great video!!!!

[remdniro]

Tell em again so I don't have to. I see what your saying all day long.....

[Aloebunny]

I wish they would put you on the radio and force black women that are gulity of this to listen all day!

[collie123collie]

Well Said.

[duru08]

wonderfully put big brother.

[tmotofga]

@duru08

Well thank you Sir. Thank you very much. Thank you.

[DCsWiseMan]

Its good to see a older brother speaking on this issue, im a young black man, i look up to you thanks.

[kearlstig1961]

You made some very good points!

[tmotofga]

19 year old honor student was shot and killed over his new touch screen cell phone by a 21 year old bum. This happened on a Marta platform

[sharonanony]

The STRONG BLACK WOMAN, of today comes from a very Weak and impulsive society. SHE IS NOT STRONG, SOCIETY IS SEVERLY WEAK AND MENTALLY Retarded.

WILLIE LYNCH IS A MYTH, AND I WILL NOT EXPLAIN IT HERE. BUT HE IS A MYTH, IF NOT WHY WAS MALCOLM MURDERED, IF WILLIE LYNCHED WORKED? Why was king Murdered? Because Willie Lynch is a Myth, and the psychology is a minor factor, IT IS SOMETHING MORE HIDDEN AND EVIL.

[existenceisrelative]

Interesting thoughts. I appreciate youtube videos that have thought behind them.

[adrusarabi]

This is incredibly true. the part about FDR especially. I know black families that prefer to be women only and raise kids without a male figure. This garbage is promoted on television as well with the phrase..."and she did it all by herself" It sickens me.

[adrusarabi]

Women must learn to distinguish strength from arrogance. Men are not being raised to be men when they are raised by women. Respect and obedience to men is looked down upon in many elements of the Black Community. This needs to stop. Ive seen many a women run, men away with their supposed "Strength". This needs to stop.

[tmotofga]

@NatTurnerIsAlive

I did not need correcting for I agree with you. I have a video called "A Strong Black Woman: Give Me A Break".

Peace.

[tmotofga]

@NatTurnerIsAlive

It wasn't just the women who got raped.

Btw, What has this to do with this conversation?

[2Baiforev]

and what are most black men raising? Nobody because as soon as they get a girl pregnant the head for the hills. Oh my god responsibility for a child!! How can I deal with that!!! How dare you do a video criticizing black woman raising children. what about black men? maybe if these women had help with raising the children everything would be better. black women just need to stop having children with irresponsible men.

[tmotofga]

Damn. Isn't that what I just said?

[DredgePhantom]

70 black women sleep with the same 9 foolish men. Address your whorish sisters actions......

[Mroneofakind1]

you put that well my brother,real talk,true story

[JUNES05]

and i also think that men are the way they are because their mothers teach them to be that way and/or dont correct them....they allow their sons to have multiple girlfriends and in some cases encourage it...they dont mind if he doesnt have a job because he is her "son" and they dont put the same expectancies on their sons as they do with their daughters...but god forbid a man does that to them then it's wrong...mothers have the ability to influence their sons choices in choosing a wife & family

[tmotofga]

@JUNES05 you posses wisdom beyond your years. God Bless.

[JUNES05]

well i have watch 2 of your videos and i do agree with some of the things you say...although i am not black i see that hispanics are doing this as well...i think that women nowadays are very lazy..i may only be 19 but my mother has taught my brother and I to cook, clean and work...and not cook an egg or sweep or work in Mcdonalds...the real meaning of those words, she taught to my brother and I...to be into educating ourselves and to building a real family...too many girls are pooping out babies

[JUNES05]

from bum guys who have no job and who have other children from other women...now I think that the problem goes both ways...i think both a man and woman in todays age should cook but a wife has a job of taking care of the house and loving her family and a man has to protect his family, work for it and help his wife in whatever way he can...i dont think ppl know how to do this anymore

[bevon17]

Can I quote some of your ideas for an essay?

I'm writing an 8 page essay for my English 103 class on how slavery has shaped what is known today as the African American subculture, or better yet, the "black community"

[tmotofga]

Absolutely.

[Ebonyqueenstandup]

We need to stop blaming each other and look at both sides of the story. In our community we are just blowing steam out of our mouth and putting each other down it needs to stop. A good man is one dont exploit our women. From your page I see just negative female shaking there ass and not doing anything productive. You are supporting this and it makes us look bad

[tmotofga]

I know this is not my conversation, but I have to agree with (no doubt I would anyway). I did a video about women dancers and dirty old men who support it. It got flagged by nuts claiming I was showing my own daughters and sisters and I was mad because I got taken for all my money in a booty club.

If these so called good brothers would stop supporting and DEMANDING that any woman seeking a descent man not engage it, it would make a big difference.

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[tmotofga]

But alas, these clowns that support it are sexually depraved and the sluts who do it think it is the next best thing to a job

[Ebonyqueenstandup]

You can say like all, "oh she put it up there" but she is like a sister to you. We are all one family we need to stop supporting women that display this type of behaviour. When you see video like this flag them dont allow this behaviour. Dont allow other races to see our women as whore even though they are behaving like one. flag flag flag them hold yourself up to a high-stander. Be a king a warrior dont let anyone put your women down, protect her. Show her that this behaviour is not

[Ebonyqueenstandup]

I know that sister's are to blame for a lot of things. I dont blame black a man because I think it is black women's fault for 95% of what is wrong in our community. WE ALLOWED THIS SHIT TO HAPPEN. TO BLACK WOMEN WE CONTROL EVERYTHING BUT WE DO NOT REALIZE THAT WE DO. WE HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE EVERYTHING STOP. WE NEED TO GO BACK TO THE BASIC AND TEACH OUR SON AND DAUGHTER THE CORRECT WAY OF LIVING AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR ACTIONS AND STOP BLAMING MEN

[chanlately]

AMEN!

[tarchea]

i agree 100% with you!!!

[Ebonyqueenstandup]

Ok, you have some strong points on the other hand working for whom? Owning your own business and working with your community is better then just getting a job.

[untestablechild]

ebony queen do u love and believe there are good black men out here like myself

[Ebonyqueenstandup]

UNTESTABLECHILD

YES

THERE ARE GOOD BLACK MEN AND I SEE MORE GOOD BLACKMEN THEN GOOD BLACK WOMEN.

If you going to ask me this question show that you are a good black man.

ON your page it do not show me that you are.

our black women are exploited enough on youtube by doing it to there self you dont have to promote it Flag it flag FLAG flag . DONOT except this from the sisters. learn your history & put things up to uplift our community

[untestablechild]

u are right im a good black man i dont disrespect my sisters

[Ebonyqueenstandup]

My husband and I have an 18 year old son and we would not tell him just get a job but to own his own business we imbed this in him EVERYDAY. I would never set my son up to say just get a job. He was taught at age 14 on how to sell stuff and not to work for someone who is oppressing black males. Economics in our community is the 1 killer.

[Ebonyqueenstandup]

I agree with you 99% however we need to reframe from telling our CHILDREN just to get a job especially in the black community. Black Youth are set up to fail from birth though a system already set up for them to fail, socially and mentally.

[Ebonyqueenstandup]

The system is set up for black females to get jobs. I am not saying that black males not to work but have the mind set already to start there own business. If you cant get a job, you should be studying and learning how to make a job. WE SHOULD NEVER FORGET SLAVERY NO OTHER RACE DOES BUT THEY ARE TELLING US WE SHOULD. I WOULD NEVER WANT TO FORGET THE INJUSTICE DONE TO MY ANCESTORS Peace, great video you made

[Cobe1976]

Isn't it unsafe to be driving while making a video? C'mon, man

[tmotofga]

Is unsafe to walk and chew gum? Well, maybe for some. I can drive and look into a mounted camera and express thoughts in my mind while driving. It's amazing how the brain can multi task. Try it.

Have you ever been driving and talking to someone?

Same thing.

[longandfirm9]

Also once the male is in debt with back child support the debt NEVER goes away until it's paid off. I know a gut with $60,000 in back child support. It it takes him 30 years to pay it off they will GARNISH his wages for 30 years. What else is this but modern day slavery? You work and don't get but half your money. If you DON"t work the DEBT keeps building,and building. You will pay untill you die. Nothing CAN ERASE THIS DEBT. YOU OWE IT UNTIL it's PAID OFF.

[spucy]

No offense but I really think that we need to get past the going back to slavery argument. Yes may have contributed to our community's situation today but most of today's issues can easily be traced back to the last century. Also I think most people that use that argument don't know as much about slavery as they say they do. (I'm not saying you don't I just don't think it's necessary to draw from the past that none of us experienced.)

[suprthknurse84]

Most importantly, I didn't need and still don't need my children to replace loneliness in my life.. they do provide lots of love...lol..but i'm very balanced and mentally stable and content with being single as long as i'm achieving my goals...WHICH I AM...i got my priorities in order, F*&! WHAT U TALKIN BOUT, TAKE YOUR ASS TO SLEEP.!!!!!..GOODNIGHT/GOODMOR­NING

LOL

[suprthknurse84]

,,,,LOL..but sweetheart...never think your comments even penetrate my core..everyone has missteps ;I am not ashamed or in mourning over anything past or present..GET A CLUE and GET BLACK and most importantly GET LIKE ME and then maybe we can talk on the same

[tmotofga]

Doggone it, I just checked out your channel video. No wonder. Good day.

[suprthknurse84]

what does my video channels have to do with anything i don't even know whats there really thats judgement and self-righteousness right there youre a joke LOLyou want to spout the Bible but you're not coming with anything specific.and if u livin' so according to the word..you'd probably be dead by now but you want to pick and choose and interpret it to fit your agenda/ideasYour message to me via posts,and via blog for black women altogether is DEVOID of COMPASSION,ENCOURAGEMENT and UNDERSTANDING

[suprthknurse84]

You say" you made your bed now lie in it" as if i complained...i never dd.. i said thier father is not fully fulfilling his role as a father, but everybody evolves/learns to be a little better... I HAVE A LOT TO BE THANKFUL FOR and my children are NUMBER 1 on that list...I'm a year and a half away from having a master's degree and being a nurse anesthetist.. I AM A STRONG BLACK WOMAN..am PROUD OF IT, and I'm tellin you to get your HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS..TONE DOWN YOUR EGO..

[nothing5630]

@ suprthknurse84 --

You claimed the man you were with wasnt a Mule because he "was educated and had a good job"

Proof that you are one of those black women that believe that money and education is all a man needs to be good. Fact of the matter is -- the guy WAS a mule. YOU bought his lies. You learned the hard way huh?

You're calling tmot the hypocrite yet you are part of the same cycle and problem you are rambling on about -- getting ready to raise three more fatherless black kids.

[suprthknurse84]

you're so self-righteous and judgemental...you didn't even take the time to read my comments...or maybe you're not as smart as YOU THINK YOU ARE and you didn't comprehend them correctly..Old folks like yourself always want to talk/act like their shit don't stank..for all i know YOUR mom or grandma had a baby or two out of wedlock...BE FOR REAL...AND yes I PLANNED MY SON and chose to keep and not abort the twins even though they were an unexpected BLESSING FROM THE LORD

[tmotofga]

I knew it was a waste of time. For the record and then I am done. I have not judged you as a person at all. If you open you eyes, ears and MIND, you will see I only spake of behavior. Have a good life.

[tmotofga]

Children are gifts form God to be treated as such. They are not tools to satisfy your own lust for not being lonely.

They deserve to be raised by both PARENTS. Planning to have a child OUT OF WEDLOCK is the Ultimate slap in God's face. So don't get it twisted. Yes, children are gifts. They deserve better.

No, both of my Grandparents and my parents were married.

[tmotofga]

Lastly, I am not self righteous. I am simply stating what is in my Bible. Don't know what you have been reading. But my sentiments are not Original Thought. It was here before me.

[tmotofga]

None the less, God forgives all. All I was saying was get over it and do better next time. I make mistakes too. The only difference is I blame no one but myself and try to learn from it and not go there again.

If you can't see the compassion and encouragement in that, you are in the wrong house.

[suprthknurse84]

the ultimate slap to God face is you posturing as if you're on his level. Ur very egotistical, but HONEY, you are not all-knowing or full of wisdom.not at allyou're not HIM saying my children are a slap in God's face.the's fightin words..lol..considering HE made them come to be..it was already pre-ordained by Him..AND THEY, NOR I, AM ANY LESS BECAUSE OF MY ACTIONS, THEIR FATHER ACTIONS, OR WHERE THEY COME FROM UNattractive to me but i know somebody gave you some before U married if you are

[suprthknurse84]

my first child we both decided to have him.. he was actually planned and we were engaged just didn't wait on the baby...my other two are twins and they weren't planned ...my birth control failed...it's not all 100%...WHAT'S UR POINT?

[tmotofga]

Under no circumstances do you make kids WITHOUT being married.

If you do, deal with it and don't complain about the man. You chose him, you had premarital sex. You made your bed, sleep in it. In the future, do better next time.

We all fall short. We should learn from it and not complain about it.

It is called Choice and Consequence.

[suprthknurse84]

no home training..and we've never recovered from that...we've gotten more successful(financially, etc.) but our relationships are severely dysfunctional...and now we (especially black men) are reaching out to every other race (white women mostly, it seems)..I COULD GO ON ALL DAY, but NO WOMAN TODAY IS THROWIN A MAN OUT IN ORDER TO RECIEVE BENEFITS...AND TRUST..those benefits aren't all that...i don't deal with mules.. i dealt with men who work great jobs or are educated.their character wascrap

[tmotofga]

Sounds like you have a bone to pick. Since you don't deal with mules, just men with NO character, I will ask you one question. Whose choice was it to have a children out of wedlock, yours or theirs?

[suprthknurse84]

Black men being spirits being broken down by injustices deemed legal/appropriate/necessary because they had no power at the time..then, in the mid-70s/80s the GOVERNMENT/CIA...YES THE GOVERNMENT..brought upon the drug epidemic..mainly crack and heroin.. on the black community..IT'S TRUE...RESEARCH IT...that was the biggest blow .. to us..what followed...motherless or fatherless or completely/practically orphaned children with no sense of the traditional upbringing and values we used to have

[suprthknurse84]

You are old, but that doesn't mean you know what you're talking about. I'm very proud that I can use the term "STRONG BLACK WOMAN". Because that's what I am. I am a single mother of 3(born out of wedlock)..not because I'm a whore, but because I was younger and believed/loved a very skilled liar...where it started...civil injustices and division in the Black community perpetuated/facilitated by "the white man"...we won't go to slavery, but i'll say at least the 60s and 70s..

[tmotofga]

49, Old. Good grief. Live some more. Have a good day.

[UltraDOG17]

people are not conscious-minded no more... modern-day slavery. ignorance is bliss

[nancydrew5]

@nothing answer something for me. Who are these women who are 'spreading their legs for these bums? Who are Most of these other women who are avoiding these bums? Who are these bums? What is the age of these bums who are sleeping with these women? What is the age of the women who are sleeping with these bums? Why aren't these bums practicing safe sex? Why aren't the women practicing safe sex. If both practiced safe sex wouldn't be any babies born for you to feel sorry for.

[nothing5630]

@nancydrew5 Cut the non-sense. Both parties need to practice safe sex but the women need to look out for themselves even more because they are the ones that physically give birhth and end up raising this kids the majority of the time.

Who are these women that avoid bums? The races of women that dont have a 70% OOW birthrate. T

here have been shitty men since the begining of time -- just most other women are bright enough to avoid them

[nancydrew5]

@nothing you don't have to be condescending to me by saying my questions are nonsensical just because you don't like what I'm asking. What has your age got to do with anything? A lot of men in your generation tend to have that paternalistic attitude. The onus of responsibility falls to the woman. They are the ones who make the woman stand up in church to admit she is wrong if she has a baby out of wedlock but the guy isn't made to stand up in church to claim responsibility.

[nothing5630]

@ nancydrew5 -- I dont have a paternalistic view -- you just have comprehendion problems. I want you to read what I am about to type her very clearly--- BOTH men and women are responsible for a child (see there I don't have a paternalistic view) but don't expect a bum to stick around if those are the types of men you are choosing to spread your legs too.

If I was a BW with a bunch of illegitimate kids this thought would cross my mind atleast once "hey, why do I keep choosing bums?".

[nancydrew5]

As long as men have this double standard paternalisitc attitude where they don't hold themselves responsible and accountable and are always ready to point the finger at the woman for the state of the black community, we won't make strides to progress. I don't buy into this type of thinking where the man is held less accountable. Let's agree to disagree on this matter. Nothing you say will convince me to your way of thinking just like nothing I say will convince you to how I see things.

[nothing5630]

@nancydrew the reason you don't buy into my way of thinking is because you didnt comprehend it correctly. I didnt say the responsibility should be lessened on the man -- I said these type of men should be AVOIDED IN THE FIRST PLACE.

The men black women choose were bums BEFORE they even got pregnant by them. Why would you expect any bum to stick around? He was a bum to began with.

There have been no good men since the begining of time -- just most women of other groups know to avoid them.

[nancydrew5]

@nothing5630 nah,that's not the reason I don't buy into your way of thinking. Nice try though trying to tell me what my reasons for not agreeing to what you think are and wording it in such a way as to put me down while elevating yourself up as the know it all on this subject. But you say you aren't paternalistic nor condescending. OK...

[nothing5630]

@nancydrew5 is that all you can say? Fair enough. Personally I don't really care. Im one of the decent young BM with my stuff together -- too bad the large majority of bw my age arent up to my standards and wont get me. Good thing i'm open to other races of women. I'm very happy with my date options :)

Ill be the first to admit alot of BM's horrible behaviors but I think alot of black women get what they deserve so I never feel sorry. Pick a bum don't expect to get treated right. Good luck.

[nancydrew5]

@nothing5630 what do you mean is that all I have to say? I said what I wanted to say not what u wanted me to say. It doesn't have to be fair to u. It's 'my' answer. I'm not one of these women who purports to elevating 1 race of people above another. There's good and bad in all races. I think a lot of "BM get what they deserve too. Pick a woman of questionable character and don't expect to get treated right. Good luck" with that.

[nothing5630]

@ nancydrew -- never said that you were a women that elevates one race over another. I agree there are good and bad in all races. I agree BM get what they deserve too -- good thing i'm not one of those BM huh? Lifes good for me.

Thanks for the good luck but I don't need it. Personally i'm already happy with the state of things and my options. :)

[nancydrew5]

@nothing5630 just giving you back the good luck that you wished in your when you replied when you said good luck' I know you didn't say I was a woman who elevated one race above another. You said I have a reading comprehension problem, did you read in my post where I accused you of saying I elevated 1 race of people over another? I was commenting on what I think and feel about that race issue. not what 'you' think I think you dig? lol

[nothing5630]

@nancydrew5 -- all of this rheotoric is perfectly fine. You continue to disagree that black womens choices in bad men arent the reason they get screwed over and i'll stick to reality. I must be doing something right because I dont have the complaints that the majority of black women I hear do about life and dating. Lifes good.

[nancydrew5]

@nothing5630 I said I disagree with 'your stance' with your thinking with what you've written. Stop putting words in my 'writing' OK? Just as you've said I don't comprehend, take your own advice. I disagree with YOU nothing 5630. I disagree with you. OK. I don't care what you do right or wrong, I simply disagree with you. Accept that and let it go. We're strangers in cyberspace stop taking it so personally that I disagree with you. It's OK that I do. Get over it and stop badgering me.

[nothing5630]

@ nancydrew5 please -- my "stance" is what I typed. My only stance was that alot of BW choose horrible men thats why they get screwed over. If thats the "stance" you disagree with (being thats the only thing I said) than okay hahaha -- Believe what you want. We can agree to disagree. You are the one taking this way too seriously considering the lenghty novel of rambling you just sent to me in a private message.

[nancydrew5]

@nothing sorry for the lengthy personal email I sent to you asking you among other things, why do you keep hammering your belief over my head trying to convince me to accept your belief. Thanks for agreeing that we can "agree to disagree", now will you let it go and stop badgering? LOL you wrote: My only stance was that alot of BW choose horrible men thats why they get screwed over I DISAGREE with this stance all the way and thats my right so get over it already.

[nothing5630]

@nancydrew5 when did I say it wasnt your right to disagree? I didnt hammer my belief over you. You seem to be forgetting that you replied to me first so don't get mad when you are not getting the last word in. That essay of a private message you typed was sad. by the way I thougt you said you "were done"? haha

[nancydrew5]

@nothing5630

I don't know nor do I personally care what type of BM you are or what options you have that's on you or even if you're not one of 'those BM, whoever those BM are. Many people have many options.

[nothing5630]

@nancydrew5 I didnt asked if you cared. Remeber you replied to my comment on this video first. You must have cared about something I said.

Sure alot of people have options but most black women arent part of "these people". The only option many are left with are players, thugs and bums. but they reap what they sow.

Thats why many are miserable or just left alone or crying "bm aint shit".

[nancydrew5]

@nothing5630 I've read all of your comments not just these last two in isolation, I've read not only what you've written but what you're alluding to as well and I just don't agree with your stance and hey, that's OK. nor do I have a comprehension problem just because I don't agree to your stance. I don't agree. This issue isn't cut and dried and there is no one answer to it. I know what you've written, I also know what you didn't write but what was said just as loudly. Agree to disagree.

[nothing5630]

@nancydrew5 so you disagree that alot of black women choose horrible men?-- because that was my ONLY stance. So you think they choose great upstanding citizens that just automatically change into a bum overnight that can't take care of his children? hahhaha okay.

Sure, we will have to agree to disagree. I am not the one getting screwed over by these men anyway. :)

[Debsterism]

Black women are not raising mules, Black men are creating them by running away from their responsibilities. I am tired of hearing Black men blame us for your failures and weaknesses. If Black men got it together and refused to fold like a bad poker hand, they could rule the world. But a cowardly man of weak constitution will be usurped by the women left to do it on their own. We rise to the occasion, men run away. We can rightly say they are stronger stronger than men because we are.

[nothing5630]

@Debsterism -- the fact of the matter is these men that are running away from their children were bums BEFORE the child was born yet the BW still chose to spread her legs wide open to him. There have been no good bums since the beginning of time but most other women know to avoid these men.

Answer something for me -- assuming all these black men are no good why do bw still have the second highest birthrate only outdone by hispanic women? These "punks" are still good enough to fuck right?

[tmotofga]

You obviously took offence to my message and missed the whole point of the video. Have a nice day anyway. Thanks for commenting.

[nancydrew5]

Tmot, if this comment is meant for me, there are many elements of your video that I agree with, but most of my comments were in response to comments posted by others in response to my first initial comment posted and not your video here.

[tmotofga]

This was not for you.

[nancydrew5]

Oops sorry bout that Tmot,, I would only add at the end of your video "Sistas AND Brothas think about who you lay down with before making babies . Both sexes should make better choices in their partners. Both sexes should elevate their standards when choosing their mates and hopefully the offspring will reflect that. Post slavery the onus lies with BOTH sexes to make better choices in their mates and be better parents."

[tmotofga]

I agree.

[nancydrew5]

I'm glad you agree Tmot, but I can't help but notice the number of male posters who are quick to jump on the 'blame the woman' bandwagon for the state of the black community these days as if the black women caused this by themselves. Towards the end of your video, you said 'Sistas, think about who you lay down with. Had you said 'Sistahs AND brotha's maybe this would resonate with both sexes more because BOTH are responsible. Thanks for your thoughts and the thought provoking video.

[tmotofga]

I agree. You are delving into it from both sides whereas I was talking to women only. Sometimes I speak to both and at times one or the other.

I have watched you handle the men who jumped on this. You can hold your own so I left it to you. You said what needed to be said as it was called for. There was nothing for me to add.

Great job.

[nancydrew5]

Thanks Tmot, Again I'm guilty of getting caught up and not letting go. Pray for me that I can stop doing this and get my ego out of the way. Shake the dust off my feet as a testimony and let it go. I do get what you are saying, and thanks for understanding my viewpoints and not ridiculing or condescending or putting them down. but then again, why would you do that. You're the type of man who is above all of that. You don't have to put down others in order to elevate your viewpoints.

[tmotofga]

I have nothing but Love and respect for you because you carry yourself that way. Oh, that is why you don't have to say you are a 'Strong' Black Women. Your character shows that.

[nancydrew5]

:-) Aww gee thanks Tmot. :-) Likewise!! I know your daughters won't have to say it either. Because you and your wife have raised them that way, just as my parents raised me this way. The men I choose to come into my life reflect my standards.

[nancydrew5]

@Tmot'

Oh, that is why you don't have to say you are a 'Strong' Black Women. "

I plan on joining a triathlon club this fall at my gym so I can say I'm a strong black woman LOL ;-)

[Debsterism]

Black women are not raising mules, Black men are creating them by running away from their responsibilities. I am so tired of hearing Black men blame Black women for your failures and weaknesses. If Black men got it together and refused to fold like a bad poker hand, they could rule the world. But a spineless, cowardly man of weak constitution, no matter what race, will always be usurped by the very women he left to do it on their own.

[Debsterism]

There is no excuse for a man that is about something to turn his back on his children to allow some White folks to take care of them unless he has given up, accepted his uselessness, and is willing to turn over responsibility for supporting his woman and child to the woman to make it on her own without his assistance.

[nothing5630]

@debsterism -- I'll be the first to admit black men screwing up but I will also be the first to admit black women screwing up. Like I said these bm are "no good" but their good enough for bw to spread their legs too over and over again right? The men running out on their children were bums that should have been avoided before the child was even born.

Most of these BW deserve just what they get. I only feel sorry for the children.

[Debsterism]

I keep hearing the weak excuse from Black men that they left home due to FDR entitlement programs. Keep in mind that in the South, black families were denied welfare of ANY SORT, so that excuse is out. Black men left their families because they were weak punks, that is why they left. That was in 1935 brotha. What the hell are Black men in 2009 leaving their women and children for? Because they are still weak punks.

[nancydrew5]

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[nancydrew5]

"How can Black men and women ever come together as a team if Black men continue to berate, demean, and insult the women that are his mothers, his sisters, his lovers, his wives and his daughters? If men truly believe that women are the problem, then DO SOMETHING to effect change. DO SOMETHING besides sit around blaming women. DO SOMETHING besides run your mouth."

by DC

[nancydrew5]

The finger pointing between the sexes is futile and pointless (pun intended) ;-) None of it solves anything. Both men and women have to make better choices, raise their standards and values. Women nor men can do it by themselves. When videos like this gets made, often men take it as an opportunity to woman bash. Blame the woman for the state of the black community while absolving themselves of any responsibility. That is a one sided way of looking at things and not fair to anyone.

[bellafante1]

Why can't women do it by themselves? Is NO or "use a condom" not in their vocabulary? Unless you were forced against your will and became pregnant I see no reason as to why this is preventable by the woman alone. BW don't realize how much influence they have. The reason for MOST men's behavior is purely to get the attention of WOMEN! You dictate what type of behavior in men is desirable. They're just giving you what you asked for in a sense. As the saying goes, "Nice guys finish last!"

[nancydrew5]

Post slavery times. Women don't get pregnant by themselves, women don't become single mothers by themselves. MEN and WOMEN should practice responsible sex, make the choice to marry and have a family together. Why is the blame being put solely on the woman for the state of black family these days? Men are out there freely spreading their seed instead of wrapping it up, they need to take the blame for that too. It takes two to make babies.

[bellafante1]

Yes. Both men and women should be held accountable, but its the WOMEN who are complaining about these "no good" men. That's like complaining about getting sick every flu season when you don't even go to get vaccinated in the first place! There's no argument here; just as you should take necessary precaution to protect your health, you should take the necessary precautions to avoid getting knocked up by a LOSER. Sad thing is MOST women know what kind of man they're dealing with from the start!!!!

[nancydrew5]

Bellafante1 men complain about 'no good women'. Both sexes complain equally. Men complain that women sleep around, but then they go and CHOOSE a certain type of woman to sleep with and make babies with that type of woman. Men can Choose women with morals, character and education, a woman who wouldn't condone sex outside of marriage or single parenthood. Men choose the woman they want to have sex with, knock up and then sit back and complain.

[tmotofga]

Sure you are right. Bravo.

[bellafante1]

I seriously doubt that the complaints are equal on both sides. Everywhere you look whether it be magazines, television shows, or books, they are generally targeted towards black female issues/complaints. Steve Harvey's most recent book "Act Like a Lady , Think Like a Man" is a best-seller!!! And also, MOST of the time its the WOMEN who do the CHOOSING, men are pursuers. MOST BW will pass on ten "good black men" to get to a thug due to reasons such as lack of swagger, too nice, the list goes on.

[nancydrew5]

bellafante, what has steve harvey's book have to do with this situation? Perhaps there is a deficit that should be addressed. Men should have shows targeted towards them becoming better black men. That's not the woman's fault. What this tells me is that women are interested in learning to be better but are men trying to be better men? I don't even want to get into the 'good black men topic. PM me if you want and I'll send you a link that talks about the so called 'good black man'.

[nancydrew5]

Bellafante1

I'll agree to disagree with your stance and leave it alone. We're each entitled to our own view points.

Peace.

[bellafante1]

Well that's not going to help anything. Problems that go unfixed tend to GET WORSE. As long as these foolish BW keep WAITING on the no good BM to change their moral character the cycle WILL SURELY PERPETUATE!!!

[nancydrew5]

Bellafante just like you say women should take necessary precautions to avoid getting knocked up by losers, men should take necessary precautions to prevent impregnating a woman of questionable character. "Sad thing is MOST men know what kind of woman they're dealing with from the start!!!!!

[bellafante1]

True but let's examine this a little more.... who are the peolpe complaining about runaway fathers and "no good" men? WOMEN!!!!!!!!! Its not rocket science, just a matter of taking control of YOUR situation!!!!! If YOU the women have complaints, DON"T WAIT ON THE PROBLEM (no good men) TO FIX ITSELF!!!! Yeah, it takes two to make a baby but only ONE to prevent it ;), remember that. So again the question becomes are you gonna take charge of your situation or be HELPLESS AND PASSIVE!!!!!

[nancydrew5]

Bellafante1 you are part of the problem because you are refusing to own up the responsibility that men play just as much of a role in preventing unwanted pregnancies. It takes 2 to prevent a pregnancy, A guy can wear a condom and shouldn't rely on a woman's prevention alone. Who are the people complaining just in this video alone about no good women single raising boys who grow into men who aren't fit to be fathers? Men!!!!

[nancydrew5]

It's not rocket science and you should stop making the onus for responsible sex rest solely on the woman. That's not fair. I totally disagree with that thinking. As long as we have thinking like your we'll continue to perpetuate the issues we have in the black community with the woman being held accountable while the man gets off scott free. Women get pregnant and sure they become single mothers, but if men could get pregnant would it be the same? Men make sexual choices.

[nancydrew5]

Every comment you make about women, I can turn it back on to the men. Men need to take control of their situation and the women they choose to sleep with. Men should stop having sex with 'no good women'. So the question again becomes are you the man gonna take charge of your situation and seek out women who are in line with your values, or continue to sleep with a certain type of woman, refuse to have safe sex, and blame the woman for the state of the black community.

[bellafante1]

True but let's examine this a little more.... who are the peolpe complaining about runaway fathers and "no good" men? WOMEN!!!!!!!!! Its not rocket science, just a matter of taking control of YOUR situation!!!!! If YOU the women have complaints, DON"T WAIT ON THE PROBLEM (no good men) TO FIX ITSELF!!!! Yeah, it takes two to make a baby but only ONE to prevent it ;), remember that. So again the question becomes are you gonna take charge of your situation or be HELPLESS AND PASSIVE!!!!!

[nothing5630]

EXCELLENT points made about the womens choices too.

We hear over and over again about how the black men are comming up short and are no good but we hardly ever hear about the women and their ignorant choices.

The fact is -- Black women still have the second highest birthrate in America only out done by hispanic women. These black men are no-good but they're still good enough to spread your legs to right?

Like this guy said -- make sure this guy has a life and some sense before sex.

[nancydrew5]

@nothing5630 When are we going to hear about the men and their ignorant choices? Most young women are impregnated by men far older than they are, men who should know better. So who should be held the most responsible? Men claim they want a decent woman but when they meet one who will call them on their crap and won't lay down with them, some guys run to the immature young girl to get sex, someone they can manipulate. Men need to take responsibilities for their choices too.

[bellafante1]

That's not true. BOTH should take precaution. I am simply asking to the complainers " Did YOU do EVERYTHING in YOUR power to prevent this?" If not then there's room for improvement....how can you argue with that? Do you really think an immorally flawed guy cares about you getting pregnant? ALSO the boys raised in single parent homes are not burdens to the MEN, they are burdens to the WOMEN they come into contact with. These are the same boys that grow into the "no good men". Its a cycle.

[nothing5630]

@nancydrew5 -- dont even try that with me. BM have been ridiculed and called out on their behavior FOR DECADES now. I will be the first to admit certain black mens shortcommings as opposed to deflecting like many bw when they are called out. Bm have been exposed for years -- now its BW's turn.

[nothing5630]

Solid message. Whether Willie Lynch was a hoax or not -- the exsistance of the psychology of it is still real.

Its been much too long -- break those mental chains.

[TheLuvely25]

PREACH TMOT! Once again Good Job!

[shell7324]

expectations have to be higher. In the white community it is an expectation not an exception that you as a man are the role model and provider for your family. family values should not be a race issue. perceptions need to be changed. i could talk all day. i truely appreciate someone speaking out honestly. Hopefully society as a whole will change, but that must start with the individual and slowly move though the communities eventually making it through to the whole society. peace

[shell7324]

coming from the white community myself, and also having had the opportunity to experience the black community and culture. I can clearly see how our government, society, and the members of the black community are continuing to opress ---( that's not quite right...) condone laziness, promote lack of ambition. why is it that many black men consider themselves successful if they have a car and occasionally see their kids. cont'...

[mayorofblacktown]

It's time for the Men's Movement to solve this "mama's boy" problem! These mama's boys are making a mockery of the strong black men who allow their madness to continue! Black men have been biatches since Willie Lynch invented a literal "recipe" for other white men to learn how to make black men into slaves and sissies!!!

Willie Lynch was real, while Santa Claus and Easter Bunny is what blacks need to be rejecting as hoaxes!!! AMEN?

So, join our Men's Movement to solve these problems!

[tmotofga]

I like your crusade idea.

I listened to your video and we differ ideologically. I must therefore bow out. I am not into blaming the white man or bitching about a racist society. Racists will always be with us. That is no excuse to not achieve for ones self.

That horse is dead. I am for BM men being men and not looking for someone to blame for their lot in life. I wish you the best.

[2icebaked]

WHAAAAAAAAAHHH!

[carguyinok]

Another one that cuts the BS and gets to the truth. I hope that people understand how in todays world this message hold true for EVERY race.

[marcdaddy33]

excellent post, TMOT... excellent.... VERY IMPORTANT POINTS you made in the description box.... well said.

[barlog20]

One thing people don`t realize is the negative effects not having a father in the house had on black women also.Not having a father in the house made them make bad decisions in who they pick as mates because they never had a father to show them what a real man is which is a guy that works,provide for the family,

and is a good man.And also not having a father in the house also makes alot of women sleep with alot of guys cause she`s looking for the love and affection she never got from her father.

[barlog20]

Great vid but You need more subscribers.I appreciate what your doing.

[RoninSoul75]

Outstanding submission, TMOT. I know character, common sense and other positive traits are not on the top of the list, if at all but I enjoyed the message.

[79followme79]

thanx good message i gotta show some of my female friends this

[stayfresh06]

Co-sign...

[Blackmilitant421]

I love you Tmot....I differ on one statement you made about FDR....during the Truman administration the Black males were still given the welfare money so that the Black family would still be in tacked...but at that time they provided the jobs for Black men like the Tennessee Valley Project......I read that Johnson and Nixon were the ones that changed welfare policy that said that men couldn't be in the house therefore turning us into breeders. I could be wrong but thats what I've heard.

[tmotofga]

You are right. I should have expounded. FDR did not make that a requirement when implemented. Why? because 1. It would have been rejected. 2. White Farmers were receiving welfare as well. They would not have made them leave home.

After the depression, BAM. It was on. Business as usual in the discrimination domain.

During the depression, everyone was suffering. They were too busy to hate. Like now, everyone is suffering, Obama got elected.

Wait for the next BAM! All the middle class.

[marcdaddy33]

no what you heard was correct.... it was the "Great" Society (and the war on drugs) that spelled the death knell for the black family.

[WilBarn99]

I do believe root of the problem is the lack of a in house father for the male child. I also think that leads to much anger of Black males from Black males. Black men are either killing each other or sexually doing one another. A good father will show young Black men how to be a productive member of society.

Women if he does not want to work and does not believe in marriage , do not waste your time with him.

[KidBrotherIsWatching]

Most exellent commentary here, my friend. Lots of wisdom based on simple logic! Thanks for the insights! ~ Aloha.

[YahawahTheGreat]

God's judgment will be great towards black women. Watch.

[myjrpics]

A history instructor of mine once stated that next to plague the second best way to cripple and or wipe out a group of people is not by guns and war, its through the wombs of the women. Truer words have never been spoken.

[RoninSoul75]

Appreciate the logic bomb

[marcdaddy33]

yep... which is why governments and military generals NEVER feel the need to kill off the women the way they do with the men.

[PontVedra]

Men begin to move out of the household to allow the women to receive a check?

So, it's both the woman's and government's fault the black man is not in the home?

Wow. Not a 1+1=2 scenario?Rhetorical.

[sepersr]

Undoubtedly one of the best vlog's out there. You speak the wisdom and truth of what needs to be said. God Bless You Brother T

[JSharmaine]

Great video. 5 *****!!!!

[1helluvanite]

Excellent vid TMOT, I'm glad you addressed this. This epidemic has turned into a pandemic, and something really needs to be done about this, or future generations are gonna be even more screwed up than mine is.

[AJSensei]

Good job as always. Tmonts' Class is in session. You usually give an interesting twist Tmont. It is nice and refreshing to hear your point of view. It is always well thought out.

[jonisadon]

That was very true, and as a history student i agree and fully understand your perception, as i am from the UK, i am not familiar with ur abbreviations, what exactly is FDR?

[tmotofga]

Franklin Delenor Roosevelt.

[PuffyCatTail]

Our gov't uses the same divide and conquer strategy on society as a whole. That way we may not notice what they are really up to.Also, people are working so hard, that they don't have time too figure out what they are up to.

I am concerned about the swine flu vaccine that is on the horizon. It appears that it could be more of a danger to one's health than the flu itself. I was wondering if you had any thoughts on that.

[magirecords2004]

Black on black crime.

Self-hate and overprotective nature of whites + reverse gender roles&wars proves william lynch was not a hoax.

Shalam,

K.

[joegully]

Tmot, it's time for talk radio.

[AJSensei]

Actually we can help him expand his audience.

[ebonybelle]

you are so on target!