so someone with social anxiety disorder fears people, but does that mean healthy individuals never fear people? aren't people threatening to each other everyday? the people's threats on each other is not only imagined by individuals w/ disorders, their threats on each other is the reality. people hate each other & harm each other daily. so fearing people is not "baseless" or "unreasonable". true, too much fear of people is a disorder (a phobia), but u can't lie and say u've never feared people.
I'm also suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder. And alot of what she's talking abou is basically what I'm dealing with now minus the medication she's taking. I'm at home everyday, I don't go out at all basically, very rarely I do. I don't have any friends I can call that I can hang out and socialize w/ everyday. I'm now pregant and the one guy that who I thought understood and loved me the most just up and left me for another woman. And average people don't understand us SAD people or try to.
Knowing the name, of this horrible thing is better now. Every single day I dare my self challenging to lose that fear.....12 step program is helping (work with your self steem and your soul...or whatever you believe in) and therapy with someone that specialized in this disorder or heart Dr!!!
I'm not alone, many people is in the same position..
dame ever since i failed college last year all have been doing is staying in my house not going out and being an introvert im 20 now have no girlfriend or any friends just wallowing in depression
knowing that you have the disorder is such a huge advantage.i suffered from SA with neurotic anxiety for 7 years..and i dont even know..well the recovery will really take time..and the only way to get rid of it is-- to get rid of it..i know its not easy.but thats the only way...just try to eliminate one symptom at a time or day..just start from the smaller ones to the big ones,,try to resist it..tell yourself that this is not normal..and therefore you ought to do the normal..always pray^^
Jesus can sent you free. he is the only hope to man kind, Jesus said come to me and I will give u a new life! ask Jesus to come to your heart,that Jesus died in the cross so everybody that accept him will have peace and eternal life.
this video really hit home! Thank you for being my inspiration.... I will be here and hopefully out there wherever that may be....... super hugs Cecelia
Anyone tried meds and therapy? Ive had some good success with this combination, but not cured. Also, all you social anxiety sufferers should come and talk to us other on Mapofmates.
I sincerely hope that you find help in ridding this disorder from your life. No one deserves to be held captive by their subconscious. I myself suffer from obsessive thoughts and excessive anxiety, but I know there is hope out there; you just gave it to me
I used to be like this, but I still live like it.....I got over a lot of the anxiety, but it feels like it manifested itself all into a fear of dancing. So much so it governs my life, and it seems like thats all people my age do is go to clubs where dancing is a massive part. So Ive never been for the fear. I would love to go out, and do (to pubs and stuff) but I cannot go to clubs. But I feel like I have to conform and it feels shit.
Idk I've been sitting in my room for the past few years just playing xbox all day and all night, I only go out then I want a drink from the store next to mu house or when I go to my friends house. I dropped out of school because I was a 3rd year sophomore because there was no passing. I only leave my room to go eat/shit/piss and whatever else I have no job and no gf. I'm 17 and I don't know where my life, or lack of, is going...right now it's just me my mom my friend and my weed plants
Makes me feel better to know that I'm not alone. My high school years were exactly like that. Friday and Saturday nights everyone else went out n had fun, I stayed home n on the internet. I wouldnt go by myself out to stores, or eat out in public without feeling shaky, trembling, and racing heartbeat /thoughts. I feel you, and ya exactly me too..only the past year have I been pushing myself and going out of my way to defeat the anxiety. People misunderstand Social Anxiety, unless they have it
I had no social life through 5 years of college. I feel extremely uncomfortable in all social situations. I'm on medication now, but I don't necessarily feel it's the best option. Thanks for posting your video.
im 18 years old and i have been going through the exact same thing for years. it got so bad that in 10th grade i left school and got home schooled and i have been in the house constantly, the only time i leave is when i go to the store with my mom. its a very lonely hard life and not many people understand, this stops me from showing all my potential and who i really am, i have so many dreams i want to have a good life. people like us deserve happiness too.
anti-depressants/anxiety medication is pure poison. to fix social anxiety you need to reprogram your subconscious mind and underlying negative beliefs. doing so will change your automatic responses in social situations. out of a relaxed mind comes intelligence and creativity.
I think you are right. I am now 37, and I have suffered with social anxiety disorder and all of its evil offshoots (depression, loneliness, suicidal tendencies, career/life stagnation) for many, many years. On the rare occasion that I can grab ahold of my thoughts and force my psyche in a more positive direction, the less anxious and more confident I become. But I can't seem to keep my mind there. The holidays are ALWAYS a bad time of year for me, so I'm hurting a lot recently.
@AnthonyJ74 i hear you...hang in there, you're not alone. i have been exeriencing anxiety lately as well. it's weird, i was doing really good for a few months thinking "aha!" i finally found the answer with reprogramming my subconscious, but after the holidays i'm experiencing heart palpitations and anxious, sweaty nervous feelings when i'm around people. i am stuck in a cycle of work, read, internet and facebook. i'm terrified to step out into something new. my heart needs serious healing.
@lightbrownpoop It pains me to say that being on the internet comprises a large part of my day. I have a small group of friends, but truthfully, I don't find the relationships all that satisfying. It's more like me just having a small group of people that I go out with time to time more for the sake of me keeping up the appearance of being social than for any genuine love or closeness with these people. It sucks! I'm a few rungs above being a loner, but I'm not far off!
@AnthonyJ74 i have a few book recommendations for you. "becoming the person you want to be" and "breaking the cycle" by James Richards. they may help in setting you free. peace
Thanks bud. I need a big change. I've suffered way too long. It's like my whole life has taken place inside a small little box. I'm 37, but I feel like I should be 17 in terms of my accomplishments or life experience. Life just hasn't been very fun or fulfilling for me. It's hard to make friends, it's hard to get a life going, it's hard to get a career going -- life is just plain hard! I have a lot of shame and embarrassment as well for having had all of these issues.
wow...dont wanna sound ignorant or stupid, but i didnt know there where so many people with the same problem like me. Guess we just have to fight against it no matter what ( its easier to write it than to do it, but oh well)
I have been battling social anxiety for the past 8 years, but especially since I left for college 5 years ago. It is really tough to live with, not just for the everyday feeling of failure in life, but also the incredible loneliness and associated pain that comes with it. Every time I let the fear control me, it grew stronger, until I was living in a box. I became an agoraphobic, and went out of my house for groceries at 5 am and for class exams. Since then I forced my perceptions to change.
I hate work. I get so nervous when I have to interact with a customer I feel like I'm detached from myself and my mind goes totally blank and I make so many mistakes and then feel like my co-workers don't like me or think I'm an idiot. I feel like I'm a burden on others as well- family members and co-workers. A constant thought I've had is that it would be easier to kill myself then to continue living life afraid of everything. I need help I just don't really know how to go about it. :(
@Vfreak8 i think i have the same problems. i get really scared and uncofortable in fron of people. in my mind i think everyone is looking or thinking negative about me and sometimes i just dont know how to act. or what to do. one time i went with my bf to a restaurant and i left coz i felt people were againts me or looking me bad stuff. u know what i mean. recently ive had suicidal thoughts. about just aking some pills and getting over with,. then some days im so happy. then sad etc
@mrchrmedone I feel like that, too. I'm super happy half the time and ready to kill myself the other half of the time. I feel like I get a little better, then I just totally go the opposite direction. My life is more humiliating than not and it's really hard to deal with. I feel like it's not ok for me to make a mistake ever. But listening to other people that feel the same way I do does make me feel a little better. Not so alone anyway. Which is my main problem.. :)
@Vfreak8 Ooo I'm really sorry about what youre going through..come on now be strong.. suicide is not a solution..think about how many people will suffer ..your parents, family and people that would of talk to you but don't have the courage to..
are the medications you are talking about antidepressants? most doctors love to give them out,like prozac its kick back city to doctors they get free vacations and other things,then they put the blame on you that you dont take them, or your a nonresponder its all crap. a good doc. will run test like t counts and other tests to rull out the problems you may have.and some people psych themselfs out like i will have a panic attact when i go to the store,then you will !you anticipated it.
I have huge problem, looking other people in there eyes. I feel like iam staring and making them uncomfortable. so every social situations even with loved ones I feel so uncomfortable, and I fear that I am a burden to others.
Thank you for sharing, you're very brave and very strong. I know how crippling SAD is. I will think about you and your post here next time that terror grips me when im trying to talk to someone, and i just want to run away instead.
My social anxiety is so bad that I can't imagine myself working as a cashier at any store. I also really try to avoid eating in public places or in front of people.
@WhoAr3You I had social anxiety, though when I finally came out as gay to my family, I was liberated. I am really a social person, though with my anxiety I was held back.
I see that your main problem is going on public places, i have social anxiety but in a really superficial level, never had problem to go public places etc. So let me just state this: People are selfish, they're more concerned about themselves then you or anyone else. So just go be yourself :)
The fact that your talking about it with others means you moving in the right direction for recovery, keep up the good work , if you could wave a magic wand and get over that condition, what would you see?
I'll share a tip that I use in public speaking that calm me down its call ancor basically how it works is you imagine the most relaxing experiences you can remember perhaps moment you where in a hot tub it works like a love song that reminds you of perhaps your x boy friend that's what I call anchor all you do think about calming moment recall as best you can what you see hear feel bring that past calming experience you when you picture squeeze two finger together then say relax do 2 a day..
My version of exposure therapy, is to expose yourself to others! In other words to tell people you have SA. This is especially true during a panic attack. In almost all cases people will like you more for being honest and that will help you.
I'm so glad I started doing research on this subject. I've known that I've had SAD since the first time I heard the term used. It ruins live's, I know I'm missing out on many opportunities because of it and I need help, I've taken a break from college for my fear of interacting and even worse public speaking, I don't go looking for a good job because I simply don't think I'm good enough. Tomorrow I'm making a appointment to see a local doctor, as hard as it will be to talk about this, I need it!
And no I'm not a 14 year old kid looking for attention, I'm a 24 year old (soon to be) college graduate with dreams of a teaching career i will never get with this problem, it's life altering and a serious issue that leads to depression and is sadly goes untreated by the majority of people who posses it. don't be afraid to get help while you are young. If i would have asked for help when i was younger I wouldn't be so unhappy and lost. Don't wait as long as I did!
i have social anxiety disorder and it destroyed my social life and i have no friends now. now i am known as the weird kid that dosen't talk in my school. it sucks
and it is ok to feel down baby it is life no one is ever truely happy but keep moving and just know fear is sometimes is there because you think the worse will hapeen try to change the though tand act despite the fear and if you imagine things will go good it will
why does a beautiful woman and intillegent like you fear of anything please understand you are a good person and good people tend to suffer i know how you feel i m a struglling with this but i will win and you will to
I agree with you Amanda yes Social anxiety does hold the sufferer back from moving forward in there life,but as determined as you are i wish the same for myself to move forward alone and learn to control social anxiety instead of it controlling me, i have to been courageous and not be afraid, i use to be so good with being able to just relax and be with people now i can't even do that
ive just watched this video and am inspired by it.All my life ive been very shy, it began to get worse 2 years ago.I was recently diagnosed with social anxiety disorder and Ive been watching you and others on here talk about it and its like a light went on and I now understand why I dont go to parties, dont walk into town without a friend with me, never make friendships at work etc.knowing there are others out there like me, battling the same thing makes me feel more normal.thankyou :)
I am having a taught problem. Such as I am social anxiety because I have a speech impediment. It affects my life. It makes me sad. People make fun of me and I try and try to do something about it. It turns out I either have a accent or a speech impediment. I feel very low My self of steam is extremely low to the point I wish I had a gun to end it and also, I am in high school I am 17 If my dad took me out to a place to eat and I wanted a hamburger I couldn't say it right it is truely sad nd hlp
@XOPWNDOX I have the same problem. I'm 25 and I have a stuttering problem. so I'm very reluctant to start conversations with new people. the other reason is because I don't fit in with most people just based on my hobbies and interests. It has been difficult but it is becoming easier to deal with.
Sometimes I feel the same way you feel. but I see myself improving everyday and that keeps me going.
So do I, I am 30 this year,and still find it hard to get out of a situation when being teased at even if those are mild jokes. My ability to speak gets crippled around crowds especially extroverts but perfectly fine when I with close friends or very nice people, not to say that extroverts are always jerks. I can't speak on the phone if there's more then 4 to 5 people in my office. I am trying to treat this condition without any meds at the moment and I hope I can improve overtime.
Hey, there is nothing wrong about having SAD. I have it too. I am going into my last year of college and I realized that I have nothing to be anxious about. People have difference perceptions and expectations about other people and they project that onto the social scene. Most of my weekends were either doing papers, projects, video games and not much else. Just think about what it is you want and go for it. Nothing will happen if someone "ignores" you. Just get out there and do what you have to
I feel your pain Amanda because I'm going through this same thing...my family and friends are not supportive of me, and even gossiped about me for being stuck up. I'm sorry, and let me give you a hug because I really understand what you are going through.
Oh my god! You got fired for not talking to other employees...that's discrimination, they can't do that to you!!! You're there to work not make friends with them, and I wish that Managers understand that, but nowadays you have to be outgoing and be somebody that you are not just to get ahead in life.
They should of not fired you! It's not fair at all, and I feel your pain because in my Job the Manager lowered my evaluation for not talking to other employees too. :(
im 27 and I still suffer from this... your not alone. College is hell, I force myself to talk and do my work. I took oxycontin to talk to people or get drunk self medication. no clue what to do now... tired everyday.
Thanks for posting this video. Shows a lot of courage to admit these things and be honest about your social situations. And you're right...you are beautiful.
Hi Amanda, I really *wish* we could be friends in this life, you are exactly like me: pretty and look as if you have it all, but underneath the facade it's a different story, oh how I wish that all of us SAD sufferers in this world could be physical friends, it would be like a dream, someone who is the same and who understands... u are my inspiration! x
taking medicine cannot possible remedy the problem. youll take the medication and feel sedated. then youll have other problems with your body that are thrown out of whack because of those crazy chemicals. I tip my hat to all those who feel these things and have suffered through them. you just have to look into yourself. the treasure is there. easier sed then done though.
i know it sucks.all i do is go to work and come home stay locked into my room because i cant be around people and be out in public.i am 30 yrs now and i have been sober almost 2 yrs now and i used to drink bc of the social anxiety and depression.same here i always text and the only people i talk to on phone or ion person is my family.
@julianawztv Hey everyone. I am currently working on a video and blog series about overcoming social anxiety. I have a PhD in psychology and decided to upload some material because I find so few professionals sharing their advice and expertise. Please look me up and check them out. I hope they will be helpful
Godbless amanda! I am with u 100% we are soo alike I too have SAD AVPD and hate talking on the phone and its like no one understands when I tell them this... I'm so glad to see that you are making progress and hope you will not give up!
use foods that increase naturally Serotonin. I understand what your going through from experience with my Son. I know your going to become the positive social engaged person you feel inside of your self. Be Well Always. and allow your self to sometime act different or be weird to release the pressure in a healthy way,
i don't view "going out to bars, or having lots of friends and always being busy with important people" as things to be pursued anymore. character is lost when a high ideal is given up on the altars of conformity and populairy. i've learned contentment in every circumstance, character building and really just focusing on and programming what i have instead of what i don't. i've learned to like the quiet, peaceful life...i still don't like social conditions, but i try my best to enter in.
I totally understand how u feel, Im 22 years old and I have had social anxiety since junior high. I have lived my life in a constant state of fear. I havent been to any school dances or functions in junior high, high school and now college and I only have one more year left and i have gained nothing, not even one friend. I want to badly to have friends but it feels impossible for me. I have even contemplated suicide several times. i applaud your decsion to make a change, I need to do the same.
@FelicityLeann21 Hey im 22 also. My sad has been so bad, i dropped out of school (was a AAA student), stopped doing all sports (was competing on a national level), and over the past 6 years or so, have spent about 99% of my waking life alone. I feel like im right on the verge of starting a new life for myself. The most helpful things to me have been self therapy, search it on here or google. And Cognitive behavioural therapy. Try all of it, Dont give up, And be patient. nothin can stop you :)
@FelicityLeann21 I didnt mean to sound so arrogant haha, My point is, I lost a lot of things, I will never get some of them back. Yet I have no doubt my best years are ahead of me. I feel like My SAD came about because i didnt really know my true self. Now that im getting to know my inner self more things are becoming clearer progressively. Anyway i hope my story helps you abit :)
Has anyone suggested the scientific approach? A Neurofeedback specialist can analyze the problem by looking at the brain activity. If you have severe activity causing your thoughts to race this will cause severe anxiety. Neurofeedback can unlock the brain. My son has had 26 sessions and is feeling extremely better.
your not alone i have it and i didnt even know it. i rather stay in my room and enjoy my own company. then leave my house i hate going to large places like malls , parks, any place with alot of people. i have major trouble talking to women hell even people in general. i actully got fired from a job for not being talkative with the other employees. the only time i go out is when im with another person if im alone i freak out and break down cuz it seems like everyone is looking at me.
@MrAusty Hey, what's your problem, man? Why do you say that? Do you hate your own life? And are you trying to make yourself feel better over the internet by insulting someone who has it worse than you? People like you are fucking weak.
@extreme1is1me Wow guys, just find people you trust and who accept you for who you are. Hope you all feel better soon. Dont take any stupid medications, like I said find people you can trust and love and who love you. Our society is far too judgmental, try traveling abroad and look at other people who have far less but who are much happier.
I love you so much for this video! I have felt so alone suffering with this, I have lost all my friends, i hate school and my family always say im weird and not normal. its affecting my realationship with my boyfriend we dont go out for meals or the the cinema or anywhere cus i am terrified of being around people! you have made me feel stronger to get through this! I hope one day that it will completly go away and we can be free and normal! :) xx
I love you so much for this video! I have felt so alone suffering with this, I have lost all my friends, i hate school and my family always say im weird and not normal. its affecting my realationship with my boyfriend we dont go out for meals or the the cinema or anywhere cus i am terrified of being around people! you have made me feel stronger to get through this! I hope one day that it will completly go away and we can be free and normal! :) xxxx
I love you so much for this video! I have felt so alone suffering with this, I have lost all my friends, i hate school and my family always say im weird and not normal. its affecting my realationship with my boyfriend we dont go out for meals or the the cinema or anywhere cus i am terrified of being around people! you have made me feel stronger to get through this! I hope one day that it will completly go away and we can be free and normal! :) xxxx
You will be defiantly fine. you will feel as before. I've the same SAD and when ever i have to travel or go out my breathing increase. i lost my love even :). but when ever i see my self in mirror i feel fine. god bless you. cheer up. will pray for u.
You will be defiantly fine. you will feel as before. I've the same SAD and when ever i have to travel or go out my breathing increase. i lost my love even :). but when ever i see my self in mirror i feel fine. god bless you. cheer up. will pray for u.
Please read the books: The highly sensitive person and The introvert advantage. There is nothing wrong with you. You live in a society that suppress your personality. Psychiatrist and the extrovert society do not understand this, and only offer extrovert solutions, like talking to others about it. Please read the books and get your answers from someone who is like you. I am proud to be an introvert and highly sensitive person now that I know why and how to handle it.
i dont have social life either :( but thats not because im shy. i am shy but not that much shy that i cant have social life. its just that i havent found my people. went on school with people that was very different from me. we had nothing in common. i havent find likeminded people like me. and that sucks. i whish i had a social life. :( :(
the sad thing is...no one really takes it seriously...so it becomes a battle that you fight completely alone...and can last for decades...it could lead to a real waste of a life...dont let this stupid shit ruin your life...take control ASAP, read books, search online, do WHATEVER IT TAKES...you can do it forreal...dont worry it is temporary as long as you confront it and dont give up!
I'm 19, started SAD medication when I was 17, it fucking sucked being so numb. But I think it was well worth it. Now, I still have severe SAD, but I can fight with it to live my life. But still, even years later on meds, it's so hard. Thanks for putting this out there.
i love u girl, u said it all, i know a lot of assholes out there "think" well whats the big deal becausae they never ever had to deal with any of this but i just want u to know its a really big deal for me listing to your feelings and thoughts on this and i feel soooooo much better now that ive watched your video because i realate so so much to u girl, and im kind of proud of u for talking about all this.....
how funny, In High school i had an amazing social status, I knew how to be in big groups of people i felt comfortable... But now that im 23 with a 2 year old I can't stand going to parties, I don't like being in public... I feel like people are always looking at me... i only feel safe inside...
You inspire me, keep it up! You're really strong to be able to post something like this. I'm 16 and still in highschool, but your video helped me a lot!
I have trouble finding the motivation and confidence to walk into my school everyday. I always just feel like running and away and hiding behind my computer.
I've also missed a lot. I'm really shy and people ask me why I don't have any friends although I really want friends, I hate being alone. and, still am. I don't talk much, only when I annoy people ;)
hey manda, great for you for doing this video, you are very brave, good that you're making an effort to kick it up the arse :) you've got nothing to lose!
btw, may i ask what triggered your anxiety and how did it affect you? for me, i stopped talking for a while and it took a long time to get back to function again, and im still dealing with it but its not so bad anymore..
I'm 21 and have suffered from this for nearly 7 years, which means i missed out on my adolescence and alot of my teen years, now i've had enough, im going to make a start..
i salute western ppl. Although some of them have social phobia, they still brave to make videos like this. And they talk clearly. wow. they even look fashionable. i sometimes think that maybe i don't look that bad
I have had SA since middle school. I'm 25 now and my SA prevented me from going to college for a while because my anxiety was the worst in being able to go to class everyday. I have gone back to school and will graduate in just 5 weeks. I can't wait. I understand what you are going through and thanks for posting and sharing.
just keep doing it over n over till fear dosent control u no more i promise overtime u will overcome it n it will be second nature iv sorta been in the same situation just having panic attacks n shit but as u keep fcing ur fear it will have less n less power over u
thanx for the video. im kinda cried watching this. ..im a guy too. but doesnt stop me feeling u same way u feel. i go through this also. social anxiety disorder. ..its hard when u want to achieve goals and dreams in life. . but the thought in the back of your head, that social anxiety gets in the way of things. is hard to overcome. ...but its possible to try to get use too. by taking step by step.
I am 17 and done nothing since leaving school last year. I feel life is not worth living without friends. Even though I have hobbies such as guitar and video games, they can never replace a social life. Over these past few days I am thinking up career ideas so I can get back into studying this year I might try advanced computing as the students might seem quite mature on that course. Maybe I will make at least one good friend. Maybe...
You are such a strong person - really admiring! You are such a good role-model to soo many people out here. I respect you so much! :-) Keep on fighting, you're going to take it all back!! You go girl! :-)
Yeah social anxiety really hinders you from living your life fully. When I used to suffer from social anxiety I stayed at home for most of the time. And when I had to go to work I felt so nervous that I could almost throw up. I rather stayed in bad than go out and meet other people. I totally understand you. So how do you feel now? Did you get better?
There's a small and excellent online depression support group called Depression Hangout that is always open to anyone who is struggling with mental health problems (not just depression). It's run in its own chaotic way by its members who meet regularly in the chat room and it's a great place to seek and provide help and support, make new friends and even just have a laugh. (We all need that too!) To join just go to depressionhangout-dot-blogspot-dot-com.
so someone with social anxiety disorder fears people, but does that mean healthy individuals never fear people? aren't people threatening to each other everyday? the people's threats on each other is not only imagined by individuals w/ disorders, their threats on each other is the reality. people hate each other & harm each other daily. so fearing people is not "baseless" or "unreasonable". true, too much fear of people is a disorder (a phobia), but u can't lie and say u've never feared people.
CosmicCaprice 2 days ago
I'm also suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder. And alot of what she's talking abou is basically what I'm dealing with now minus the medication she's taking. I'm at home everyday, I don't go out at all basically, very rarely I do. I don't have any friends I can call that I can hang out and socialize w/ everyday. I'm now pregant and the one guy that who I thought understood and loved me the most just up and left me for another woman. And average people don't understand us SAD people or try to.
Brivonn3 1 week ago
@Brivonn3 Wow! Get rid of that child before it gets rid of your life and take live the life on the road for a many months.
Social anxiety is gone and no baby to look after to stop you from talking to people!
JimmyTheWiseGuy 5 days ago
Knowing the name, of this horrible thing is better now. Every single day I dare my self challenging to lose that fear.....12 step program is helping (work with your self steem and your soul...or whatever you believe in) and therapy with someone that specialized in this disorder or heart Dr!!!
I'm not alone, many people is in the same position..
LITTLETUTUCUTS 1 week ago
dame ever since i failed college last year all have been doing is staying in my house not going out and being an introvert im 20 now have no girlfriend or any friends just wallowing in depression
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TheAgol07 2 weeks ago
I am always scared people will reject me so I avoid social situations.
But working on it takes an every day approach.
My goals is to speak someone fpur times a week and really start a conversation
arjanbg 3 weeks ago
I feel u dnt worry same thing happening to me...
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knowing that you have the disorder is such a huge advantage.i suffered from SA with neurotic anxiety for 7 years..and i dont even know..well the recovery will really take time..and the only way to get rid of it is-- to get rid of it..i know its not easy.but thats the only way...just try to eliminate one symptom at a time or day..just start from the smaller ones to the big ones,,try to resist it..tell yourself that this is not normal..and therefore you ought to do the normal..always pray^^
38marga 4 weeks ago
Jesus can sent you free. he is the only hope to man kind, Jesus said come to me and I will give u a new life! ask Jesus to come to your heart,that Jesus died in the cross so everybody that accept him will have peace and eternal life.
filipemirandamartins 1 month ago
I usethe internet as an escape from reality to live in my own world. I am terrified of people
felixthemaster1 1 month ago
@felixthemaster1 Reality sucks play games !
TheAgol07 2 weeks ago
@TheAgol07 true!
felixthemaster1 2 weeks ago
this video really hit home! Thank you for being my inspiration.... I will be here and hopefully out there wherever that may be....... super hugs Cecelia
finnjolly 1 month ago
keep going . your inspiring.
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Anyone tried meds and therapy? Ive had some good success with this combination, but not cured. Also, all you social anxiety sufferers should come and talk to us other on Mapofmates.
belindamcgery 1 month ago 3
I sincerely hope that you find help in ridding this disorder from your life. No one deserves to be held captive by their subconscious. I myself suffer from obsessive thoughts and excessive anxiety, but I know there is hope out there; you just gave it to me
InTeNsItYuNdEfInEd 1 month ago
Keep it up and hopefully a great year in 2012.
Blankname101 1 month ago
is it social anxiety if you can actually buy shit but always feel that you sounded/acted weird when you did it?
BigDog91527 1 month ago
I used to be like this, but I still live like it.....I got over a lot of the anxiety, but it feels like it manifested itself all into a fear of dancing. So much so it governs my life, and it seems like thats all people my age do is go to clubs where dancing is a massive part. So Ive never been for the fear. I would love to go out, and do (to pubs and stuff) but I cannot go to clubs. But I feel like I have to conform and it feels shit.
maneatingtoilets 1 month ago
Why is she inside a car...???
Maloperverso 1 month ago
i dont know i look ugly or average...confused i dont know why..i cant talk to people comfortably,that time i thought i am looking stupid..
58mohit 2 months ago
Idk I've been sitting in my room for the past few years just playing xbox all day and all night, I only go out then I want a drink from the store next to mu house or when I go to my friends house. I dropped out of school because I was a 3rd year sophomore because there was no passing. I only leave my room to go eat/shit/piss and whatever else I have no job and no gf. I'm 17 and I don't know where my life, or lack of, is going...right now it's just me my mom my friend and my weed plants
billlibong 2 months ago
Makes me feel better to know that I'm not alone. My high school years were exactly like that. Friday and Saturday nights everyone else went out n had fun, I stayed home n on the internet. I wouldnt go by myself out to stores, or eat out in public without feeling shaky, trembling, and racing heartbeat /thoughts. I feel you, and ya exactly me too..only the past year have I been pushing myself and going out of my way to defeat the anxiety. People misunderstand Social Anxiety, unless they have it
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I had no social life through 5 years of college. I feel extremely uncomfortable in all social situations. I'm on medication now, but I don't necessarily feel it's the best option. Thanks for posting your video.
toeuptoa 2 months ago
You are amazing, a complete inspiration :)
DynDark 2 months ago
Good advice, it takes baby steps to get over SA.
bengo940 2 months ago
im 18 years old and i have been going through the exact same thing for years. it got so bad that in 10th grade i left school and got home schooled and i have been in the house constantly, the only time i leave is when i go to the store with my mom. its a very lonely hard life and not many people understand, this stops me from showing all my potential and who i really am, i have so many dreams i want to have a good life. people like us deserve happiness too.
kellyannluvxo08 2 months ago
I can relate so much to everything you say it's almost like you're talking about me. Weird haha
TheSADdaydreamerr 2 months ago
anti-depressants/anxiety medication is pure poison. to fix social anxiety you need to reprogram your subconscious mind and underlying negative beliefs. doing so will change your automatic responses in social situations. out of a relaxed mind comes intelligence and creativity.
lightbrownpoop 2 months ago
@lightbrownpoop
I think you are right. I am now 37, and I have suffered with social anxiety disorder and all of its evil offshoots (depression, loneliness, suicidal tendencies, career/life stagnation) for many, many years. On the rare occasion that I can grab ahold of my thoughts and force my psyche in a more positive direction, the less anxious and more confident I become. But I can't seem to keep my mind there. The holidays are ALWAYS a bad time of year for me, so I'm hurting a lot recently.
AnthonyJ74 1 month ago
@AnthonyJ74 i hear you...hang in there, you're not alone. i have been exeriencing anxiety lately as well. it's weird, i was doing really good for a few months thinking "aha!" i finally found the answer with reprogramming my subconscious, but after the holidays i'm experiencing heart palpitations and anxious, sweaty nervous feelings when i'm around people. i am stuck in a cycle of work, read, internet and facebook. i'm terrified to step out into something new. my heart needs serious healing.
lightbrownpoop 1 month ago
@lightbrownpoop It pains me to say that being on the internet comprises a large part of my day. I have a small group of friends, but truthfully, I don't find the relationships all that satisfying. It's more like me just having a small group of people that I go out with time to time more for the sake of me keeping up the appearance of being social than for any genuine love or closeness with these people. It sucks! I'm a few rungs above being a loner, but I'm not far off!
AnthonyJ74 1 month ago
@AnthonyJ74 i have a few book recommendations for you. "becoming the person you want to be" and "breaking the cycle" by James Richards. they may help in setting you free. peace
lightbrownpoop 1 month ago
@lightbrownpoop
Thanks bud. I need a big change. I've suffered way too long. It's like my whole life has taken place inside a small little box. I'm 37, but I feel like I should be 17 in terms of my accomplishments or life experience. Life just hasn't been very fun or fulfilling for me. It's hard to make friends, it's hard to get a life going, it's hard to get a career going -- life is just plain hard! I have a lot of shame and embarrassment as well for having had all of these issues.
AnthonyJ74 1 month ago
all i do is read, listen to brainwave entrainment (with subliminal messages to reprogram my mind) watch youtube videos, check facebook, go to work.
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quote) its taken over theyre life , it's taken over my life ? ! ?
get your life back !! !!
Your sick of it ! !
You can believe all that because it's true...
what isn't true is you have a disorder, you will adapt and change just like evolution, !! you are who you are for now .
It's a bit like a malnourished fruit,it is what it is until its circumstances change ..
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NightClubc 2 months ago
i had this problem since i was 14 when i came to the usa and didnt know any english. no gf ever and just a few friends :(
SainepAgustin 3 months ago
Well, who needs social life anyway? Fuck everyone else, that's what I say.
h777 3 months ago
wow...dont wanna sound ignorant or stupid, but i didnt know there where so many people with the same problem like me. Guess we just have to fight against it no matter what ( its easier to write it than to do it, but oh well)
Silversava2 3 months ago
Amanda I can relate totally. I have days where I manage it well, and days where it's far more difficult.
nxtsprstr 3 months ago
I have been battling social anxiety for the past 8 years, but especially since I left for college 5 years ago. It is really tough to live with, not just for the everyday feeling of failure in life, but also the incredible loneliness and associated pain that comes with it. Every time I let the fear control me, it grew stronger, until I was living in a box. I became an agoraphobic, and went out of my house for groceries at 5 am and for class exams. Since then I forced my perceptions to change.
chirayut 3 months ago
now tell me the truth if you have awkward smile 20 or 15 hrs. a day even you interact w/ one person in your home a visitor,i have severe SAD now
rockwitchdrunk 3 months ago
I hate work. I get so nervous when I have to interact with a customer I feel like I'm detached from myself and my mind goes totally blank and I make so many mistakes and then feel like my co-workers don't like me or think I'm an idiot. I feel like I'm a burden on others as well- family members and co-workers. A constant thought I've had is that it would be easier to kill myself then to continue living life afraid of everything. I need help I just don't really know how to go about it. :(
Vfreak8 3 months ago
@Vfreak8 i think i have the same problems. i get really scared and uncofortable in fron of people. in my mind i think everyone is looking or thinking negative about me and sometimes i just dont know how to act. or what to do. one time i went with my bf to a restaurant and i left coz i felt people were againts me or looking me bad stuff. u know what i mean. recently ive had suicidal thoughts. about just aking some pills and getting over with,. then some days im so happy. then sad etc
mrchrmedone 2 months ago
@mrchrmedone I feel like that, too. I'm super happy half the time and ready to kill myself the other half of the time. I feel like I get a little better, then I just totally go the opposite direction. My life is more humiliating than not and it's really hard to deal with. I feel like it's not ok for me to make a mistake ever. But listening to other people that feel the same way I do does make me feel a little better. Not so alone anyway. Which is my main problem.. :)
Vfreak8 2 months ago
@Vfreak8 Ooo I'm really sorry about what youre going through..come on now be strong.. suicide is not a solution..think about how many people will suffer ..your parents, family and people that would of talk to you but don't have the courage to..
EuropeanGuy87 2 months ago
are the medications you are talking about antidepressants? most doctors love to give them out,like prozac its kick back city to doctors they get free vacations and other things,then they put the blame on you that you dont take them, or your a nonresponder its all crap. a good doc. will run test like t counts and other tests to rull out the problems you may have.and some people psych themselfs out like i will have a panic attact when i go to the store,then you will !you anticipated it.
tryby12 3 months ago
I have huge problem, looking other people in there eyes. I feel like iam staring and making them uncomfortable. so every social situations even with loved ones I feel so uncomfortable, and I fear that I am a burden to others.
allermann1 3 months ago
I'm in the same situation. :'(
TheHitsugoshi 3 months ago
dont look at it as a disoreder. more a reorder than anything. If we get through it(as a whole) it will be an awakening!
jimiBEbandit 3 months ago
Thank you for sharing, you're very brave and very strong. I know how crippling SAD is. I will think about you and your post here next time that terror grips me when im trying to talk to someone, and i just want to run away instead.
CmdrData79 4 months ago
All you guys should come and join us at MapOfMates! Its like facebook for us :) You can find me on the map up in Sweden !
miissmiaa 4 months ago 6
very inspirational :)
bunniehoney 4 months ago
my social anxiety is taking me to the hell.
abcd8132 4 months ago
you are fucking awesome and better then most in my opinion, plus i can relate 100%
malis96 4 months ago
My social anxiety is so bad that I can't imagine myself working as a cashier at any store. I also really try to avoid eating in public places or in front of people.
WhoAr3You 4 months ago 38
@WhoAr3You I had social anxiety, though when I finally came out as gay to my family, I was liberated. I am really a social person, though with my anxiety I was held back.
911assassinate 1 month ago
@WhoAr3You Add me so I can send you a message.
vapemylungs 2 weeks ago
I too have this disorder, hang in there and don't give up.
kristiandwell 4 months ago
hey everyone add me, i am a anxiety sufferer.
amandabanana1 4 months ago
It ruins everything. Spirituality and contolled exposure helps immeasurably.
Bassyswing1 4 months ago
I see that your main problem is going on public places, i have social anxiety but in a really superficial level, never had problem to go public places etc. So let me just state this: People are selfish, they're more concerned about themselves then you or anyone else. So just go be yourself :)
Mursilia 4 months ago
it's probably been said but alcohol is the solution to your problem...
YaBaDji 4 months ago
@MrJaffa2015 wow that was fast...try it,its awesome
BoltaVS 4 months ago
@MrJaffa2015 did you try getting drunk?
BoltaVS 4 months ago
I have no social life either.... I just talk to my parents
mystery8881 5 months ago
The fact that your talking about it with others means you moving in the right direction for recovery, keep up the good work , if you could wave a magic wand and get over that condition, what would you see?
tski007 5 months ago
Hello
tski007 5 months ago
I'll share a tip that I use in public speaking that calm me down its call ancor basically how it works is you imagine the most relaxing experiences you can remember perhaps moment you where in a hot tub it works like a love song that reminds you of perhaps your x boy friend that's what I call anchor all you do think about calming moment recall as best you can what you see hear feel bring that past calming experience you when you picture squeeze two finger together then say relax do 2 a day..
tski007 5 months ago
My version of exposure therapy, is to expose yourself to others! In other words to tell people you have SA. This is especially true during a panic attack. In almost all cases people will like you more for being honest and that will help you.
flouflis1a 5 months ago
if you a bitch man or woman,you have no problem.why a my so sesitive fuck me.
soska247 5 months ago
I'm so glad I started doing research on this subject. I've known that I've had SAD since the first time I heard the term used. It ruins live's, I know I'm missing out on many opportunities because of it and I need help, I've taken a break from college for my fear of interacting and even worse public speaking, I don't go looking for a good job because I simply don't think I'm good enough. Tomorrow I'm making a appointment to see a local doctor, as hard as it will be to talk about this, I need it!
JohnKrashen 5 months ago
And no I'm not a 14 year old kid looking for attention, I'm a 24 year old (soon to be) college graduate with dreams of a teaching career i will never get with this problem, it's life altering and a serious issue that leads to depression and is sadly goes untreated by the majority of people who posses it. don't be afraid to get help while you are young. If i would have asked for help when i was younger I wouldn't be so unhappy and lost. Don't wait as long as I did!
JohnKrashen 5 months ago
i have social anxiety disorder and it destroyed my social life and i have no friends now. now i am known as the weird kid that dosen't talk in my school. it sucks
codgamer690 5 months ago
we have no solution to this disorder but atleast all us sufferers are in this together and very supportive of one another. <3
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vivekapply 5 months ago
and it is ok to feel down baby it is life no one is ever truely happy but keep moving and just know fear is sometimes is there because you think the worse will hapeen try to change the though tand act despite the fear and if you imagine things will go good it will
joshuadiesel 5 months ago
why does a beautiful woman and intillegent like you fear of anything please understand you are a good person and good people tend to suffer i know how you feel i m a struglling with this but i will win and you will to
joshuadiesel 5 months ago
I agree with you Amanda yes Social anxiety does hold the sufferer back from moving forward in there life,but as determined as you are i wish the same for myself to move forward alone and learn to control social anxiety instead of it controlling me, i have to been courageous and not be afraid, i use to be so good with being able to just relax and be with people now i can't even do that
Aries25x 5 months ago
Interesting that she made the video in the car. I always feel secure sitting in the drivers seat of a car.
Dirkzy 5 months ago
Your story sounds like mine
salzwell25 5 months ago
I'm not really a social person either [i'm a 14-year-old Dutch girl] but anyways respect for all of u people <3 ;')
oOninellaOo 5 months ago
Same thing with me I Just stay Home on the interenet In my own litle worlldd lol
And I Found out WHen i had Social Anxeity WHen Iw as 14 :(
mangel1310 5 months ago
ive just watched this video and am inspired by it.All my life ive been very shy, it began to get worse 2 years ago.I was recently diagnosed with social anxiety disorder and Ive been watching you and others on here talk about it and its like a light went on and I now understand why I dont go to parties, dont walk into town without a friend with me, never make friendships at work etc.knowing there are others out there like me, battling the same thing makes me feel more normal.thankyou :)
SuperKmarie2011 5 months ago
I am having a taught problem. Such as I am social anxiety because I have a speech impediment. It affects my life. It makes me sad. People make fun of me and I try and try to do something about it. It turns out I either have a accent or a speech impediment. I feel very low My self of steam is extremely low to the point I wish I had a gun to end it and also, I am in high school I am 17 If my dad took me out to a place to eat and I wanted a hamburger I couldn't say it right it is truely sad nd hlp
XOPWNDOX 6 months ago
@XOPWNDOX I have the same problem. I'm 25 and I have a stuttering problem. so I'm very reluctant to start conversations with new people. the other reason is because I don't fit in with most people just based on my hobbies and interests. It has been difficult but it is becoming easier to deal with.
Sometimes I feel the same way you feel. but I see myself improving everyday and that keeps me going.
gbhZero86 6 months ago
@gbhZero86
So do I, I am 30 this year,and still find it hard to get out of a situation when being teased at even if those are mild jokes. My ability to speak gets crippled around crowds especially extroverts but perfectly fine when I with close friends or very nice people, not to say that extroverts are always jerks. I can't speak on the phone if there's more then 4 to 5 people in my office. I am trying to treat this condition without any meds at the moment and I hope I can improve overtime.
k80sg 5 months ago
Hey, there is nothing wrong about having SAD. I have it too. I am going into my last year of college and I realized that I have nothing to be anxious about. People have difference perceptions and expectations about other people and they project that onto the social scene. Most of my weekends were either doing papers, projects, video games and not much else. Just think about what it is you want and go for it. Nothing will happen if someone "ignores" you. Just get out there and do what you have to
Beechman2129 6 months ago
@AmandasVlog
I feel your pain Amanda because I'm going through this same thing...my family and friends are not supportive of me, and even gossiped about me for being stuck up. I'm sorry, and let me give you a hug because I really understand what you are going through.
EricSchwin22 6 months ago
@extreme1is1me
Oh my god! You got fired for not talking to other employees...that's discrimination, they can't do that to you!!! You're there to work not make friends with them, and I wish that Managers understand that, but nowadays you have to be outgoing and be somebody that you are not just to get ahead in life.
They should of not fired you! It's not fair at all, and I feel your pain because in my Job the Manager lowered my evaluation for not talking to other employees too. :(
EricSchwin22 6 months ago
im 27 and I still suffer from this... your not alone. College is hell, I force myself to talk and do my work. I took oxycontin to talk to people or get drunk self medication. no clue what to do now... tired everyday.
oddsource 6 months ago
Thanks for posting this video. Shows a lot of courage to admit these things and be honest about your social situations. And you're right...you are beautiful.
DannyDefcon 6 months ago
u can do it... if u'r really determined,,, u can achieve ur goal... i understand u .... be strong
adawiya66 6 months ago
i am in the same situation :(..
like what you said.." i just wanna sleep all day"
>.<
jhay0210 6 months ago
Hi Amanda, I really *wish* we could be friends in this life, you are exactly like me: pretty and look as if you have it all, but underneath the facade it's a different story, oh how I wish that all of us SAD sufferers in this world could be physical friends, it would be like a dream, someone who is the same and who understands... u are my inspiration! x
1princess3boys 7 months ago 30
taking medicine cannot possible remedy the problem. youll take the medication and feel sedated. then youll have other problems with your body that are thrown out of whack because of those crazy chemicals. I tip my hat to all those who feel these things and have suffered through them. you just have to look into yourself. the treasure is there. easier sed then done though.
roppasmoka 7 months ago
How can I live a dream, when I'm living a nightmare........
MrTaillac 7 months ago
i know it sucks.all i do is go to work and come home stay locked into my room because i cant be around people and be out in public.i am 30 yrs now and i have been sober almost 2 yrs now and i used to drink bc of the social anxiety and depression.same here i always text and the only people i talk to on phone or ion person is my family.
chaoticdreams1 7 months ago
I have it too. I want to go to a counselor but I'm too scared to even talk to the counselor.
julianawztv 7 months ago
@julianawztv Hey everyone. I am currently working on a video and blog series about overcoming social anxiety. I have a PhD in psychology and decided to upload some material because I find so few professionals sharing their advice and expertise. Please look me up and check them out. I hope they will be helpful
SocialAnxietyDr 7 months ago
I have it too. Hang in there! (:
WhenMelSings 7 months ago
Godbless amanda! I am with u 100% we are soo alike I too have SAD AVPD and hate talking on the phone and its like no one understands when I tell them this... I'm so glad to see that you are making progress and hope you will not give up!
Nellz25 7 months ago
Thers a film called NUMB.its about this disorder.it helpt me alot.
fourdown1 8 months ago
use foods that increase naturally Serotonin. I understand what your going through from experience with my Son. I know your going to become the positive social engaged person you feel inside of your self. Be Well Always. and allow your self to sometime act different or be weird to release the pressure in a healthy way,
MrPeterHaller 8 months ago
I can relate to you soooo much! Don't give up! You will overcome it.
By the way, it's weird how you can do this video, though. Oh, well, this S.A. is awful.
omgbygollywow 8 months ago
i don't view "going out to bars, or having lots of friends and always being busy with important people" as things to be pursued anymore. character is lost when a high ideal is given up on the altars of conformity and populairy. i've learned contentment in every circumstance, character building and really just focusing on and programming what i have instead of what i don't. i've learned to like the quiet, peaceful life...i still don't like social conditions, but i try my best to enter in.
lightbrownpoop 8 months ago
@mimi0674 Totally got diagnosed with IBS the day after you left this comment lol :)
thanks!
Meatlock 8 months ago
@r116100 ya my parents got a divorce last year and I was 15 at the time. It SUCKS.
Cscottrun53 8 months ago
I totally agree with you. 100%
suicunewolf 8 months ago
I totally understand how u feel, Im 22 years old and I have had social anxiety since junior high. I have lived my life in a constant state of fear. I havent been to any school dances or functions in junior high, high school and now college and I only have one more year left and i have gained nothing, not even one friend. I want to badly to have friends but it feels impossible for me. I have even contemplated suicide several times. i applaud your decsion to make a change, I need to do the same.
FelicityLeann21 8 months ago
@FelicityLeann21 Hey im 22 also. My sad has been so bad, i dropped out of school (was a AAA student), stopped doing all sports (was competing on a national level), and over the past 6 years or so, have spent about 99% of my waking life alone. I feel like im right on the verge of starting a new life for myself. The most helpful things to me have been self therapy, search it on here or google. And Cognitive behavioural therapy. Try all of it, Dont give up, And be patient. nothin can stop you :)
Zoonofski 8 months ago
@FelicityLeann21 I didnt mean to sound so arrogant haha, My point is, I lost a lot of things, I will never get some of them back. Yet I have no doubt my best years are ahead of me. I feel like My SAD came about because i didnt really know my true self. Now that im getting to know my inner self more things are becoming clearer progressively. Anyway i hope my story helps you abit :)
Zoonofski 8 months ago
Hi I have sad too and every wprd youbsaid iin thisn video described the wayi ve felt and went through.thanx for posting
tokenrow669 9 months ago
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Has anyone suggested the scientific approach? A Neurofeedback specialist can analyze the problem by looking at the brain activity. If you have severe activity causing your thoughts to race this will cause severe anxiety. Neurofeedback can unlock the brain. My son has had 26 sessions and is feeling extremely better.
Diane9773 9 months ago
your not alone i have it and i didnt even know it. i rather stay in my room and enjoy my own company. then leave my house i hate going to large places like malls , parks, any place with alot of people. i have major trouble talking to women hell even people in general. i actully got fired from a job for not being talkative with the other employees. the only time i go out is when im with another person if im alone i freak out and break down cuz it seems like everyone is looking at me.
extreme1is1me 9 months ago 32
@extreme1is1me You are me! Especially about talking to women.......god I'm such a wuss.
LolVermillion 8 months ago
@extreme1is1me ..use Holosync it's amazing!!
MonkeyMind27 8 months ago
@extreme1is1me they are looking at you. they all are looking and laughing at you hahahahaa
MrAusty 7 months ago
@MrAusty Hey, what's your problem, man? Why do you say that? Do you hate your own life? And are you trying to make yourself feel better over the internet by insulting someone who has it worse than you? People like you are fucking weak.
Thomas94LBT 7 months ago
@extreme1is1me Wow guys, just find people you trust and who accept you for who you are. Hope you all feel better soon. Dont take any stupid medications, like I said find people you can trust and love and who love you. Our society is far too judgmental, try traveling abroad and look at other people who have far less but who are much happier.
pakhazman 5 months ago
I love you so much for this video! I have felt so alone suffering with this, I have lost all my friends, i hate school and my family always say im weird and not normal. its affecting my realationship with my boyfriend we dont go out for meals or the the cinema or anywhere cus i am terrified of being around people! you have made me feel stronger to get through this! I hope one day that it will completly go away and we can be free and normal! :) xx
lotty219 9 months ago
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I love you so much for this video! I have felt so alone suffering with this, I have lost all my friends, i hate school and my family always say im weird and not normal. its affecting my realationship with my boyfriend we dont go out for meals or the the cinema or anywhere cus i am terrified of being around people! you have made me feel stronger to get through this! I hope one day that it will completly go away and we can be free and normal! :) xxxx
lotty219 9 months ago
I love you so much for this video! I have felt so alone suffering with this, I have lost all my friends, i hate school and my family always say im weird and not normal. its affecting my realationship with my boyfriend we dont go out for meals or the the cinema or anywhere cus i am terrified of being around people! you have made me feel stronger to get through this! I hope one day that it will completly go away and we can be free and normal! :) xxxx
lotty219 9 months ago
I'm fed up of having this.. It's gotten so bad now I've not been out of the house for a week, fucking blows.
P.s does anyone get the shits when they start panicing or is this just me?
Meatlock 9 months ago
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You will be defiantly fine. you will feel as before. I've the same SAD and when ever i have to travel or go out my breathing increase. i lost my love even :). but when ever i see my self in mirror i feel fine. god bless you. cheer up. will pray for u.
jigarkapasi2004 9 months ago
You will be defiantly fine. you will feel as before. I've the same SAD and when ever i have to travel or go out my breathing increase. i lost my love even :). but when ever i see my self in mirror i feel fine. god bless you. cheer up. will pray for u.
jigarkapasi2004 9 months ago
Please read the books: The highly sensitive person and The introvert advantage. There is nothing wrong with you. You live in a society that suppress your personality. Psychiatrist and the extrovert society do not understand this, and only offer extrovert solutions, like talking to others about it. Please read the books and get your answers from someone who is like you. I am proud to be an introvert and highly sensitive person now that I know why and how to handle it.
ReverendMotherISIS 9 months ago
i dont have social life either :( but thats not because im shy. i am shy but not that much shy that i cant have social life. its just that i havent found my people. went on school with people that was very different from me. we had nothing in common. i havent find likeminded people like me. and that sucks. i whish i had a social life. :( :(
xzaxx 9 months ago
the sad thing is...no one really takes it seriously...so it becomes a battle that you fight completely alone...and can last for decades...it could lead to a real waste of a life...dont let this stupid shit ruin your life...take control ASAP, read books, search online, do WHATEVER IT TAKES...you can do it forreal...dont worry it is temporary as long as you confront it and dont give up!
Since1907baby 10 months ago
words of my life :)
xxLilJXxX 10 months ago
I'm 19, started SAD medication when I was 17, it fucking sucked being so numb. But I think it was well worth it. Now, I still have severe SAD, but I can fight with it to live my life. But still, even years later on meds, it's so hard. Thanks for putting this out there.
nodarp 10 months ago
i love u girl, u said it all, i know a lot of assholes out there "think" well whats the big deal becausae they never ever had to deal with any of this but i just want u to know its a really big deal for me listing to your feelings and thoughts on this and i feel soooooo much better now that ive watched your video because i realate so so much to u girl, and im kind of proud of u for talking about all this.....
777c777 10 months ago
You're kind of like a frosted mini-wheat with a serious side and a non-serious side.
philochristos 10 months ago
im glad im black were more outgoing and cool
dazeguy513 10 months ago
lol white people have everything but hapiness lol serves you right
dazeguy513 10 months ago
how funny, In High school i had an amazing social status, I knew how to be in big groups of people i felt comfortable... But now that im 23 with a 2 year old I can't stand going to parties, I don't like being in public... I feel like people are always looking at me... i only feel safe inside...
tonicrocks26 10 months ago
your beautiful.
Knight222able 10 months ago
You inspire me, keep it up! You're really strong to be able to post something like this. I'm 16 and still in highschool, but your video helped me a lot!
I have trouble finding the motivation and confidence to walk into my school everyday. I always just feel like running and away and hiding behind my computer.
tehrapid 10 months ago
Very to the point.
bananasofcourse 10 months ago
I've also missed a lot. I'm really shy and people ask me why I don't have any friends although I really want friends, I hate being alone. and, still am. I don't talk much, only when I annoy people ;)
meowmeowcat100 10 months ago
If I was at a social event & this girl walked up to me, I'd be happy to talk to her.
MishuTaste 10 months ago
just to let you know you saved my life today! cause i was tired of feeling alone!
microphone53 10 months ago
hey manda, great for you for doing this video, you are very brave, good that you're making an effort to kick it up the arse :) you've got nothing to lose!
btw, may i ask what triggered your anxiety and how did it affect you? for me, i stopped talking for a while and it took a long time to get back to function again, and im still dealing with it but its not so bad anymore..
rickyrickrick1224 10 months ago
I'm 21 and have suffered from this for nearly 7 years, which means i missed out on my adolescence and alot of my teen years, now i've had enough, im going to make a start..
rickyrickrick1224 10 months ago
You're very brave to share this with us. Good luck :)
SophieVeilleux 10 months ago
i salute western ppl. Although some of them have social phobia, they still brave to make videos like this. And they talk clearly. wow. they even look fashionable. i sometimes think that maybe i don't look that bad
mspenelusuk 11 months ago
I have had SA since middle school. I'm 25 now and my SA prevented me from going to college for a while because my anxiety was the worst in being able to go to class everyday. I have gone back to school and will graduate in just 5 weeks. I can't wait. I understand what you are going through and thanks for posting and sharing.
Anniexx86 11 months ago
im going through the same thing. i felt like i was out but im still right back in this hole
HoneyChild 11 months ago
just keep doing it over n over till fear dosent control u no more i promise overtime u will overcome it n it will be second nature iv sorta been in the same situation just having panic attacks n shit but as u keep fcing ur fear it will have less n less power over u
TrueDominguez 11 months ago
Your my new hero. Lots of love! <3 <3
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SocalDNM 11 months ago
thanx for the video. im kinda cried watching this. ..im a guy too. but doesnt stop me feeling u same way u feel. i go through this also. social anxiety disorder. ..its hard when u want to achieve goals and dreams in life. . but the thought in the back of your head, that social anxiety gets in the way of things. is hard to overcome. ...but its possible to try to get use too. by taking step by step.
shapman87 11 months ago
I'm so glad you are remaining optimistic
Sedatl20 11 months ago
GOD bless U Dear...
WGNRSE2011 11 months ago
aww, i feel the same way at the moment, i hope your social life has gotten better
honeykiss1 11 months ago
hugs amanda...from another shy person
BeatlesFetish09 11 months ago
i dont scared when i go outisde its just when someone actully starts a conversation i just feel shy and can only say yes or no
but thank god im starting to talk more but not much i stay in home nealery everday
i feel excatly the same thing you felt hate SAD =,(
kurtanglerocks555 1 year ago
You seem like such a sweetheart. LIVE...I can relate and I thank you for posting this video.
REALIFE25 1 year ago
I am 17 and done nothing since leaving school last year. I feel life is not worth living without friends. Even though I have hobbies such as guitar and video games, they can never replace a social life. Over these past few days I am thinking up career ideas so I can get back into studying this year I might try advanced computing as the students might seem quite mature on that course. Maybe I will make at least one good friend. Maybe...
MrFaulconbridge 1 year ago
@MrFaulconbridge agree. hobbies make life interesting, but friendship is even more important. hang in there :)
BeatlesFetish09 11 months ago
You are such a strong person - really admiring! You are such a good role-model to soo many people out here. I respect you so much! :-) Keep on fighting, you're going to take it all back!! You go girl! :-)
ShugAvery94 1 year ago
Thankyou :)
RedShoes201 1 year ago
Yeah social anxiety really hinders you from living your life fully. When I used to suffer from social anxiety I stayed at home for most of the time. And when I had to go to work I felt so nervous that I could almost throw up. I rather stayed in bad than go out and meet other people. I totally understand you. So how do you feel now? Did you get better?
Andrej
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MrSolmon123 1 year ago
Anyone with S.A.D. :
Listen to: "Anxiety" by the Black Eyed Peas ft. Papa Roach
Read: "Overcoming Social Anxiety & Shyness" by Gillian Butler
then listen to that song again - kick SAD's ass, don't let it kick yours! it is a long process but can be overcome. its all mental. Good luck!!!
ps - you do NOT need any medication
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