How Do Others React To Your Weight Loss? * Monday * Em * TheStarvingSoprano * 06 - 01

[fannywest]

I've lost 45 lbs over the last year - from size 22 to size 12 - and ppl go behind my back and ask my husband if I am sick. Its horrible that now that I dont hate myself, everyone else hates it! People don't know how to deal with success. They aren't used to seeing it, esp with weight. I struggled for 11 years with obesity!

[sedmica]

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[ThankfulGuy]

There is not much we can do about the problems INSIDE OTHERS (such as the boyfriend mentioned), but you just have to take care of yourself, first, w/out any guilt. Human beings are funny. The reaction of one partner, friend, family member, co-worker, to another who starts to show results in a weight loss program, can and do often engender JEALOUSY (sabotage). But you just have to say "it is that person's problem, not mine"). Easy to say, a little harder to put into practice. Hang in there! ;-)

[coolbeens21]

it could also be that, he is worried that once you start getting closer to your goal weight you will start to feel like you are too good for him.

But i also think that he should be able to eat bad foods around you if he wants to..

it is YOUR battle to fight.. its reality, people will be eating shitty foods around you all the time, you cant expect him to hold your hand every step of the way.

if you are serious about it, then be strong. don't take orders from a cookie!

[SaerdnaOoOoo]

I think it's alright to be "in control of food", just that there are more ways to get the feeling of control. Some just starve them self sickly and feel amazed and gets delusional. Kinda ... I think it's alright to be somewhat narcissistic, as long as you're not criminal and yeah ..

[hotandinfit]

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[ncfwhitetigress]

I agree with you about all of this. If you need to end your relationship to be a happier, healthier person, there's nothing wrong with that. It's not narcissistic at all.

[TheBeautyofVanity]

We have this fight at our house! LOL

Except that we have been together 10 years...both started thin and take-outs/drinking changed that. I think you need a couple things to go-to on this type of situation. Premaking food for the week to make it easy as takeaway helps. Thinking of bad food as hard drugs helps. Looking at my old big clothing and new goal jeans helps. I did blame my BF for it. Now I blame myself and I feel less trapped by it. I look for my alternatives outside of his actions.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

I like to think "I choose not to eat this" rather than "this is banned"... great comment! x

[lunarain19]

I have a really skinny husband..He eats anything he wants. And I know exactly what you mean about the control with food when they bring it into a house..And your not self possesive its not a bad thing to focus on you!! Don't you dare feel bad for that. You seem like a very awesome person!! I need to start eating healthy again. I do and then I mess up :(

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thanks for your comment! It seems like you are in a big of a difficult cycle with your husband! I just asked my boyfriend to move out (there's a video about it on my personal page called 'Pleasantly Plump') but he's your hubby so different story all together! If I were you, I'd keep reiterating how you need his support and only one time or one suggestion can send you off you healthy regime. Men don't realise this. I admitted I was a food addict to my B/F and he sort of got better.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you for this rocking comment and for the support! x

[KestralSky]

Some people just do not listen, even when it is clear how important something is to you. If he is continuously making you feel like a crappy pile of crap, he is a crap pile himself.

I hate it when I try to communicate to my boyfriend... he listens for a week or so, and then it's back to the old routine. And when the subject is mentioned again, it becomes a nag.

blrugh, how tiring! x

[TheStarvingSoprano]

My BF listens for a week too and then goes back to the old ways. It's unbelievably frustrating! I did a blog about it tonight on my personal channel but have made some changes to our relationship which I think may solve the problem! x

[OlofFromRomania]

my englis is still very not good - but i still enjoy your massage. your ideas and sincerity shine a large light on narrow holes. your pimp is very bad and tempting like what milton shed. he rims me off my mother - who is also unwear of her bomb-like eefect. I no my mother right in heart place but she is lost to my needs. i would willying sacrifice my mother to stop partner jealous. you are lucky in manny ways. i

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you Olof. I hope your mother is kind to you. You must tell her to stop tempting you as it is very difficult to cope with.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

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[rpgjko]

You have to focus on yourself. It's not narcissistic to wanna improve your life and if they can't understand that then they are not a positive influence in your life.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thanks Juno :-) x

[AtomicDiamond]

14 years of smoking and 6 months of being clean is an amazing accomplishment!! most people cant last a single month!!! stay motivated :)

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you so much! Yes, it is an accomplishment and I'm amazed it's been so easy! x

[cornlesscob]

My Hubby also does this now and then but then he's always aware he's done wrong. Partners SHOULD be supportive 100% of the time. You need to sit him down when he's not actually doing it, and tell him how he makes you feel.

Also, re takeaways, I'm the same and it's the hardest part of losing weight for me, and the hardest part of supporting me for him because still wants them :(

You are the priority and to hell with anyone who isn't behind you all the way because you deserve your health.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Yes, I do sit him down when he does it (I always do) and tell him how I feel. He improves for a few days but it doesn't last long!

Thanks for your support :)

[NaeRae86]

would you bring crack into a recovering crack addicts house? lol so why do people think its ok to bring junk into a food addicts house haha. I understand you!

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you! I only wish my partner would :(

[allisonsfat]

have you had this discussion with HIM? if so and he's not taking your feelings into account you should slap him. lol ;)

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Yes, I've sat down with him and calmly explains my position so many times now! :(

[allisonsfat]

well send him over here and i will give him a talking to... and then slap him! lol

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Ha ha.. gladly! *packing up annoying boyfriend and putting him on a flight to Alison's place* x

[YTSingerTeam]

My mistake...you know what the message was saying...

[sw29366]

You have to put it on the line, no hints or "ifs, buts & maybe's". You have to say, this is where I am, this is where I am going, this is how I am getting there. Are you in or out? Be prepared for the consequences. You are changing as a person and its not fair on others to automatically think they want a new you or will be attracted to the end result. You are not doing it for them. It is a selfish thing sometimes, not saying its the wrong thing.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Yes, you're right! Thank you :)

[Nicsaprincess]

He is a FEEDER.....Dump his Skinny Arse:-)

[AKphoto101333]

we are so alike you have no idea WOW

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you! I feel like warrior right now :)

[katejohnson086]

I couldn't imagine my hubby not supporting me. I think a lot of it does have to do with them being envious of your success. If they really love you they will move past the jealousy and be proud of you and want you to succeed. Good luck everyone!

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you Kate! I think envy does play a big part in it unfortuantely, but I'm not going to let it stop me :)

[cutechoclatechip]

i feel exactly how y ou feel but, i'm married and my husbnad is worst than your boyfriend.. i don't know what to do............

[TheStarvingSoprano]

I guess you need to weigh up the pros and cons and think: "Do I, for the rest of my life, want to live with this?"

[ihellosharon]

Instead of blaming him for bringing the crisps and chocolates, maybe you could have gone out for a walk instead of telling him to go away. Rather than having the food around you to be vanished, maybe you could walk away from when you might think the food may be your downfall.

[msixpackabs]

lol...wrong answer...

lol

com'on Em, you know I love ya....

[TheStarvingSoprano]

And you know I love you too! x

[msixpackabs]

I think God loves me since my comment was not posted.

But unfair and uncalled were the main words!

Definitely is not them, Ian or Corina but we!

We binged like idiots, got fat, can not go back to a god shape and need someone to blame!

I know you agree even if you say you are not.

P.S. You're too hard on men though you pretend them not to be hard on you!

Reward respect with respect!

Respect free will!

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Hi Daniel, I think you are commented based on your views on woman and for arguments sake rather than listening to what I'm saying because you don't really know anything about Ian and me!

[msixpackabs]

I was wondering if you realize how offensive it is for someone to get your down finger anytime you do not agree.

Well it is and I have seen that pictogram on to many of my comments.

And it is time to feel offended!

I will back off and give you the time to rethink your attitude.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Hey Daniel, I think people do the thumbs down if they think a comment was negative or unhelpful. It did seems like you were saying I need someone to blame for being overweight and that I do not respect my partner.. which is rubbish. He in fact does not respect my wishes and if you knew me at all, you would understand that I accept full responsibility for being overweight!

[msixpackabs]

Still I will mention I am very thankful to you for all the support you gave me and hope you will realize you can not treat people, who think of you as a friend, depending on your mood.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Hey Daniel, I am grateful for all your support too! This is not personal and I'm not in a bad mood. I am simply a strong person who isn't afraid to voice her opinion if she does not agree with everything someone says as I did not agree with your comment! A woman can be in a good mood and disagree you know. Or are you as sexist as your last video made me believe? LOLOLOLOL :P

[thefatastic5]

You need to calm down Daniel! For a start, I didn't thumb you down. It could have been anyone who watched this video! And second of all, I think it's mean that you gave me lots of 1 stars because someone thumbed you down - there is nothing wrong with someone disagreeing with you in a calm and sensible way.

[hilah83]

my mom is skinny and she brings home sweets, chocolate , cakes and another faty foods. she dosnt know how to support. it will be easyer with her support ,but i doing it anyway,slowly ,but i will get to my goal.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

You mum really needs to think about how you feel. This sounds obvious, but have you sat down with her and had a good heart to heart about this? There's a great tip from "ihellosharon" above this saying to walk away whenever tempted. x

[hilah83]

i try to talk to her meny times,but i feel like i'm talking to the wall.i just gaveup.

[PixieDixieKitten]

Heck no! I'd never sabatoge my weightloss. If my friends aren't happy for me then they aren't friends.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Yes! Exactly! x

[ihrmc]

Em - I know this wasn't the main topic of the video, but I really love your continued patience with your weightloss and that you are willing to take your time to make it permanent. It is very inspiring and it helps me to be less fanatical about losing the my excess weight really quickly. Hugs, Jackie

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you so much - this is my favourite comment of all! I frequently become very disheartened by vloggers who race to lose weight. I don't think it's healthy and I worry because 99% of them will gain the weight back. The hardest part of weight loss is maintaining and I'd rather spend a year just sorting out the little things that stop me from maintaining. Thank you for noticing this :) xx

[ozyroundworld]

Hi Ems, great video as always... For me I'm actually scared to go home and hang out with my old friends that I used to comfort eat with, by the time I'm back in Australia I will probably be at a healthy weight and close to my goal weight and in the past when I have been doing well with getting healthier I notice that pizza is brought over or they organise going to the beach for icecream... I really dont' want to feel out of control again, so hopefully I'll handle everything okay back home

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Hi Rach, I have been avoiding a friend who binge eats and always brings chocolate into my house. She eats everything in site, yet is slim. Sometimes we have to think, "this is for life" and if we don't feel we can control our eating around negative influences, cut ties.. sounds so sad but one life is all we get! x

[emgbear1286]

I totally know what you are talking about! When my husband and I were dating my parents always told me that one day it was going to catch up to him. (Because he was like a twig then) And sure enough, it did! But he has changed his habits and has lost the weight from his gain. But he has worked super hard at losing it! Just hang in there and follow your heart. You will know what is best for you!

[TheStarvingSoprano]

I always say to my boyfriend "it will catch up with you!" He doesn't believe me but he has started to gain weight and it's noticeable. My main concern is his drinking. He drinks too much and isn't secure or independent enough to stop - he does it when I can't give him attention. Thank you for your comment - I will definitely hang in there! x

[strengthwithin82]

Hey Em, I totally know where your coming from. My husband eats absolutely awful. And hes always bringing it around me as well. I have noticed its gettin a little easier for me. I wont drink his soda but i have to make sure I have water at my side. But you have to keep pushing on. I think its great. You know what you want for yourself and your doing it. Major kudos. Take care sweetie.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

I'm so sorry you experience this too! I think it's hard enough that we are trying to change a lifetimes worth of habits, let alone have our partners tempt us. It is so hard to eat a difference diet to a stubborn eater (i.e. our men). I'm going to keep pushing on and so will you! :)

[glamaura]

well done for taking control of your life.. people on the outside who hav never had these issues to deal with cannot understand the battle.. like me.. ive never smoked so i dunno what its like to quit.. well done on that by the way.. but i know its hard from ppl telling me but really i hav no idea! the same with ppl who hav been slim all of their lives.. they dont realise the concentration and strength it takes to take control of the bad eating and fitness habbits.. just keep at it.. xxx

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Hi Kirsty, thank you for being such a gem. And for the support and this lovely comment! x

[Jazmine375]

Oh sweetie..he is TOTaLLY trying to sabotage you..you know he is!! he's jealous and insecure, and he wants you not to change, so you wont dump him and find someone who is actually good for you. I've soooo been there!!! Theres absolutely nothing wrong with focusing on you ALWAYS.your health and your happiness are important.. You are strong and so worth the effort it takes to improve your life. He's not likely to change..dont let him hold you back.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Hey Jazmine, I'm so unsure about how / what / where / when right now and I still wonder if this is all me! I could really do without the comments saying I'm a narcissist... that fucks me off! Thanks for this ;)

[maeberrie33]

My heart goes out to you Em. I couldn't imagine having the temptation like you are battling. I'm very fortunate in that my hubby is so supportive, and doesn't have anything in the house that I can't have. But it wasn't always like this. I had many sit downs with him to explain that I have no willpower...and I can't handle having the food near me. I just can't say no quite yet. Maybe play this video for your bf. Maybe then he'll "get it" Great video as always. its going to be a good week

[TheStarvingSoprano]

I'm really pleased that you have such a supportive hubby :) I think I do need to show this video to him and perhaps even let him read the comments! It might help. Thank you ! x

[HyeCleo]

emily, i feel like its time for you to take away any distraction so you can focus on your health. You owe it to yourself. No more letting other stand in the way of your success. <3

[TheStarvingSoprano]

You are bang on right! x

[fit2btried]

It's strange how sometimes the people closest to us seem to try to sabotage our positive efforts. I wonder if maybe he is afraid of losing you & isn't consciously trying to get you off track. It gets so darn complicated but maybe you can sit him down and tell him how much you'd appreciate his support and how difficult he makes it for you by all the temptations. You are doing great, Em! I hope Ian comes around!

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Yes, it could be subconscious! Interesting... I have done the "sit down and have a proper conversation" thing with him - more than several times. It works for a day or two and then it's forgotten and we're in a cycle. I hope he comes around. Thanks Deb for the continued support ;)

[thesiegster]

Very powerful stuff, Em.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thanks Greg!

[tinamia1979]

What I miss the most now that I am trying to lose the weight and "eat clean" is not the food so much (well I do miss the food too) but the times that I would spend with my boyfriend eating out or just hanging out eating "bad" food. To me those are my most enjoyable moments. But, its just not worth the way it makes me feel about myself in every other aspect of my life. Your boyfriend may be missing the moments of the two of you enjoying food together. Wishing you the best..Good luck

[TheStarvingSoprano]

You are right about this. My B/F and I did used to cuddle up with a good movie and a yummy takeaway and eat it together and we don't have that in common anymore. He does miss it and a plate of cucumber doesn't really replace it I guess!

Thank you for this angle :)

[LittleMissSlim2009]

Jelousy is the wierdest emotion. I found that many of my friends became distant with me when i lost a lot of weight, and then when i put it all back on + more, they were only to happy to go out together.

As for guys, i would always put my happiness concerning my body first. If they wanted to be with me whilst i was feeling ugly and insecure, then they would be with me for the wrong reasons. I think to have a relationship with an insecure person is extremely difficult.

x

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[TheStarvingSoprano]

Yes! I have a friend who always says "you've lost weight" - every time I see her! And it really fucks me off as she says it when I haven't!! I don't think she'd cope if I was smaller than her. It is SO hard to have a relationship with an insecure person but you're right! He wanted to be with me when I was insecure... that's possible saying something important! x

[SanctifiedHeart]

You...a bad hair day? Never =) You look great. It's hard to have a thin partner when you're trying to lose weight...I can definitely relate. I've had feelings of anger when my Husband would snack and I am watching what I eat. I hope things work out for you two. ((hugs))

[TheStarvingSoprano]

I definitely feel anger at times with Ian for eating unhealthily. I also feel the same for the smoking and then I think; if I were single, would I want a partner with his lifestyle? The answer is no, but I love him. So difficult and thank you for the support! x

[5f00tnothing]

Em, I love your videos, and this one especially! I have friends who make fun of me or who say, "Oh, you're not fat; don't get that" when I choose a healthy option on a menu. I know that the people who react that way (most of them, anyway!) aren't jealous and aren't trying to sabotage me. In the end, though, their intentions don't matter to me. I've decided that that choice is the best for me for various reasons (weightloss, general overall health, etc.), and it has nothing to do with them.

[5f00tnothing]

Sometimes you just need to tell people (and remind yourself) that everyone's relationship with food is different and you've just gotta do what's best for you and that what works for them won't necessarily work for you. If the they persist, then stab them in the eyes with a spork. Or if you don't want to go to jail, just try to ignore them—easier said than done, I know. :)

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you :-) I have definitely experienced people being uncomfortable with my healthy eating. This happened only Saturday night when a slim friend of mine who is jealous of my business, home, life etc... but felt "good" because she is sim, took the micky out of me because I have "given up everything" as she so kindly put it. But, I stuck to it and drank water whilst they gradually made a fool of themselves by getting drunk on cocktails.

[Nicsaprincess]

Love This Video:-)

People are Uncomfortable with me being Fat, so they Complain about that! Then I Go on a Diet, and they Bitch and Complain about that....They Will say Lets go to so and so, Oh Yea You cant go ur on a *DIE-T*

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you beautiful! People are jealous! xx

[schmumpkin]

This took so much courage to share, and I applaud you for it. I just hope that he doesn't come to "emotional blackmail" ("If you love me, you'll do this once in awhile...") When I diet, I also set boundaries of what I will and won't eat, but also the comments and behaviors in regards to my eating and food choices that I will not tolerate from others.

You didn't ramble. You had a lot to share, and you did so eloquently, honestly, and beautifully :) *hug*

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you! He hasn't come to emotional blackmail but he has said things like "why can't I have what I want?" and I explain that it's not that he can't, it's just I can't have it flaunted in front of me, especially not within reaching distance because it still controls me. Thank you for this lovely message and the support! x

[justacameragirl]

temptation is so tricky when it comes to "taking the night off" Richie and I tend to binge together when we decide to get a takeaway. I CAN NOT trust myself not to binge and I talk to him all the time about it. Maybe its a guy thing

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Ian and me have binged together before too... It's a couple-y thing with both looked forward to before and did with a good film and now I don't want to. I can't trust myself around food like that either... I think it might be a guy thing.

[PaulaMaeTaylor]

Obviously, I only know what you talk about in your vlogs & on your blog, so I don't know everything that goes on in your relationship.

Having said that, I believe that your boyfriend is trying to sabatoge your efforts to have e healthier life. I couldn't say the exact reasons (he may not even know), but it could be that he is afraid of losing you if you change & become more confident. Whatever the reason, he is not being helpful & has caused you a lot of pain. You deserve better!!

[TheStarvingSoprano]

It's so hard for me - from the inside - to see what is happening. I doubt myself a lot and at times think it is all my fault and that I'm really difficult to live with and be around... he definitely isn't being hurtful and I'm very confused.... :0(

[coldnor82]

wow tough topic. i really hope your boyfriend will come to the understanding that you (both) being healthy and happy comes above all else especially insecurities. hopefully he can become confidant in himself to the point where he believes you wont dump him cause you lost some weight or start looking for some one else just cause your healthier. we all make our own decisions and if he chooses not to get healthier thats up to him however you should not be faulted for choosing to try. sorry so long.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Hi Justin, thanks for this comment. I hope he comes to the understanding too. Unfortunately, a lot of people see health as how thin or fat we are... I consider myself healthier than my thin boyfriend, even though I'm around 80 pounds overweight but people usually judge the physical as it's so easy to see. He doesn't understand how it's unhealthy for me (and him) because he's thin... I have lots of thinking to do - thanks for your support! :)

[PinkCompass]

Hi Em~ I can totally see your frustrations... you wanna blame him b/c it seems he's purposely tempting you. But I'm really proud of you for sticking to your goals while also keeping your man :) Now that's strength! Having struggled w/ disordered eating for YEARS, I've realized that everything is a choice- foods we choose but also our reaction to others' insensitivity. sometimes... people are really insecure & simply afraid the person they love will change. Keep reassuring him you love him ^^

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you for this so supportive comment!! I do wonder if he's afraid but at times I also think he's probably just unaware... and doesn't understand how it affects me... or even why it should - he's never had a problem with food you see... he's naturally thin!

[LilySue02]

Dealing with unsupportive people is awful! It's hard enough just to face daily food and mind battles. I have to have a heart to heart with a friend about this topic and unfortunately she felt that parting ways was better since we no longer had FOOD in common. Apparently there wasn't much of a relationship there to begin with. People who really love you and want to see you succeed will find ways to support you, not hold you back or hinder your success! Sending you best wishes!

[TheStarvingSoprano]

I think if you had to part ways with this friend, there definitely wasn't much of a relationship to begin with! Thank you for this lovely comment :)

[craftykas]

my dear you shouldn't worry bcause you cannot be any good to others when you aren't even being good to yourself..... if he cannot support you without comments like that then he is obviously not on the same page as you at this time.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

this is how I feel as well! I wonder if he ever will be on the 'same page' as me! Thanks for your support :)

[ColeeLocks]

Also, I think its stupid to believe we can ever truly please others by what we do or don't do. I've learned through heartbreak it's never ever enough, as most people are unfulfilled within themselves, thus, can only be truly fulfilled from within themselves. Everything else is just a fleeting emotion, pleasure pain, satisfaction or dissatisfaction....another fleeting emotion, soon to be replaced by one of stronger force or importance. It's all a bit poetic to me actually ;-) Loved the video!!!

[TheStarvingSoprano]

You are a poet at heart! This is beautiful. Where is your blog?

[ColeeLocks]

Thanks, I need to stop fooling myself and just start writing :-) I know I know, I keep procrastinating. I'm going to sign up for tumblr today.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Yes! Please do!! You can also set up subscribe by email for people who don't follow tumblr - I'll let u know how x

[ColeeLocks]

You make excellent points in this video. I think people confuse self-love with selfishness and narcicism. Society seems to take pride in self-sacrifice, just look as Jesus....it all makes no sense to me. I'll be the first to say I seem like a narcissistic selfish bitch to some people but I will be a healthy sexy and successful bitch in the end, who wont die young depressed and unfulfilled... Please yourself, life recognizes it, and gives more opportunity for self fulfillment.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Hi Colee. thanks for these comments. I like the way you say "but I will be healthy, sexy, successful bitch in the end" - TRUE!

[ahealthierme]

I can completely relate. I dont know what to tell you Em, but whatever you have been doing, keep it up. There is power in your accomplishments. Forget what he does, you are doing amazing and every time you say no when the tempation is right in your face, you are empowering yourself and your weight loss journey. Good luck!!!

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Thank you for this. I'm trying to forget what he does but it is so hard because nothing is easy - everything I say / suggest... isn't rewarded with understanding and the simplest things become difficult. I guess I'll figure it out in time! Thanks for your support :)

[dreamnqueen64]

I couldnt have someone so negative in my life. Looks like your fighting an everyday battle with him which is making it so hard on you & driving you nuts. He should want you happy & healthy & stop tempting you.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

It's strange because we have these serious conversations, he makes changes for 2-3 days and then he'll bring a lot of junk home.. it's a cycle. I don't think it's going to break - maybe it's him that has to go!

[lin55385]

I know exactly how you feel. Who would you choose to be with if your boyfriend was not there - probably a non drinker/smoker with a healthy regime and eating habits. If it's important to you, don't make the sacrifice for the sake of someone who doesn't support you. Do you have a network of friends locally who can support you in the meantime?

[TheStarvingSoprano]

I think I would probably want to be with someone who was health conscious as what our partner likes to eat, heavily influences ourselves. To be honest, I do have friends but my biggest support is myself and youtube x

[Cintaku78]

Good on you for quitting smoking! I quite in October right before I started my weighloss journey. Ciggs are so yucky. Sounds like you are in a serious situation with your boyfriend. I would have a very serious conversation with him and tell him exactly what you told us. Good luck.

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Hey, thanks for the congrats! I've had several conversations with him and think I might just ask him to watch this video! Thank you for your support :)

[sushicatny]

i don't like unsuportive people, give him a warning and if it contiues, kick him to the curb...

[TheStarvingSoprano]

Yes! The warning was issued yesterday :)