For the women who need this advice, it might work- only guys who also need a probationary period will stick around.
However, it's only ONE model of a relationship, with hidden assumptions: first, being good buddies leads to good sex. Not necessarily true- to use a dance metaphor, just because they like each other doesn't mean a tango dancer is going to dance well with a hip-hip fiend. Also, that one can't have "sex with dignity" without a longterm friendship first. True for some, but not all.
For the women who need this advice, it might work- only guys who also need a probationary period will stick around.
However, it's only ONE model of a relationship, with hidden assumptions: first, being good buddies leads to good sex. Not necessarily true- to use a dance metaphor, just because they like each other doesn't mean a tango dancer is going to dance well with a hip-hip fiend. Also, that one can't have "sex with dignity" without a longterm friendship first. True for some, but not all.
berkeleybernie 2 years ago