How to Snag an Independent Woman (What She Wants: Even an ENTJ)!

[mocurio]

I like you. You sound like a real lady, who KNOWS what she wants. You aren't one of the ladies who always act naive and happy. For women, I like being with those who are in the real world, down-to-earth, tough, and self-assured, like you. I wish there were more women like you.

[natalieakers]

@mocurio Thank you! And, I have to say- Indeed. There need to be more men who want women like me, because I haven't met very many in my single-life travels!

[samm1809]

Judging in the MBTI and being judgemental are completely different things. Judging simply means you prefer to live (and feel more comfortable with) a decided and planed life based on the information that you already HAVE and get things that need to be done out of the way before you feel comfortable engaging in leisure, whereas the Perceiver prefers to live an open lifestyle, putting off decisions and obligations until absolutely neccesary to gain as much information as possible before acting.

[tacoma200]

I can still hear you accent very well. Eastern Kentucky.

[paulthebob]

ENTJ Male here -- nice video.

Considering doing one myself out of sheer boredom and lack of similar videos, but cannot decide upon topics.

[louea380]

I find the help thing funny. Just because you ask for help doesn't mean you need help! Remember that. As an ENFP, i often ask for help but it's not because i need it, i just realise that most of the time getting help is much easier and sometimes it doesn't make sense not to ask for it.

[silentMorgan500]

Being a judger doesn't mean u just judge people it means u see things as they are while perceiver sees thing as they could be

[existentialistcat]

That's really fascinating, the ENTJ part especially. I'm an INTP and have a connection with ENTJs, because they're so cool and have the drive and people skills that I lack... would you consider doing another video on being an ENTJ?

[natalieakers]

@existentialistcat Yes, I might do another one this week sometime!

[NinjaRunningWild]

It's a hard balance to strike with two truly independent people becoming interdependent based on want and established trust, not codependent based on need and conflation of responsibility. It requires two people who know who they are, what they want, and what they *don't* want as priorities. It takes personal integrity and authenticity for both parties.

*edit* - I wrote this before listening to the entire speech.

[andrew9395]

nice video...you just pretty much confirmed everything I got going in my head about how to handle things...im not too sure it would change the way I would do it too much...but I guess I wouldnt have to..im an INFP. 5/5..here comes this part :D..you have a very nice voice and yur eyes are amazing...hmmm i think you made a subscriber out of me

[natalieakers]

@andrew9395 Thank you! You're a sweetheart!

[natalieakers]

That one almost takes over the EN and T!!! ;-) thanks for watching!

[natalieakers]

That oneL

[natalieakers]

Probably so! That one al

[jebfallen]

that not wanting to look vulnerable and not need anyone is probably the NT need for 'autonomy'

[omegaroyal]

J does not mean prejudice. it means you are quick to make decisions and you follow through. You do not keep your options open and go with the flow.

[tylernautica]

you are definitely a J. Do you not see how outspoken on your way of life you are. you know what you like and express your ways very clear. it seems you are a very black and white person. your values and code of life are strictly in place.

=) you are a true J

[natalieakers]

@tylernautica awwww, thank you. I don't see it, but I notice it more when some clever person points it out! :-)

[tylernautica]

to comment of your idea of the "J" in your personality. The J for judgment does not necessarily mean, you are a judger of people.

it really affects your ability to decide on things. J means you favor one decision always over another. you are very decisive like black and white.

J is the opposite of P. P's have a hard time deciding things, because we tend to see both sides of things and cant make up our minds on decisions because we see the benefits of both choices. therefore we do not judge.

[natalieakers]

@tylernautica Thanks for that. That's definitely right on.

[niilomio]

Do not get intimidated by ENTJ, they are straight meaning no harm personally. You just have to know how to make your arguments. if your argument does not get trough it have probably something wrong.

ENTJ's are cool, they look outside just like how I feel inside ( I am INTJ)..

[zachdyer]

I think you really taught me a lot. I'm an ENFP and whenever I would meet an ENTJ type I would be very interested in them and I would engage in conversation with them. But the way that they were so straight foreword with me made me feel intimidated. I always wanted to connect with an ENTJ because I like the way they think. I think they are smarter than I am.

[natalieakers]

Omg, you nailed it.  Thank you! It's like you know me! haha. Thanks for watching. *Busted*

[raigekimaru]

"I don't know if it's a pride thing" no, it has to do with the Enneagram (another temperament test like MBTI) you're quite obviously an 8, which means that your at your best when you're facing challenges and your biggest fear is being controlled by or dependent on others. you also probably don't like people telling you what to do and are obviously annoyed when people are indirect and flaky with you.