Divorced After 23 Years - How Do I Move On?

[USCSoundCheck]

Ella es una puta. El necesita enojar. Me gusta que está divorciado.

[soocl0se]

I just stumbled across here and decided to listen in. That is the most perfect advice I've heard in awhile. Not totally the advice, but the read on the situation and understanding and interpreting humans. That is EXACTLY why she is acting mad at him. And as earlier stated, it can be as simple as 'people change'.

[Grapes428]

Our judicial system is all written out and when it comes to divorce, 90% of it favors women. So basically if there is a divorce, they can get what they want and the man has to be the one who is going to end up being further in debt later on even if he was the breadwinner or worked his ass off to pay for things. I'll tell you what marriage is a two-way street so if the man was already kissing the woman's ass way more than she was too him, the marriage was already dead in the water.

[babyyyygirlll]

@maleslave that's horrible. I don't get how people can go around beating their lovers.

[001001sith]

People really don't change...people allow themselves to be absorbed with things that emotionally disguise who they really are. When folks reach their senior lives, they long to be who they were when they were small, the days when buying something from the ice cream truck made them smile.

When there is love, there is control. when love is gone, the control is gone.

The transition to love again...like finding the coins to purchase an ice cream cone...before the ice cream truck leaves.

[jehu2011]

some old woman who turns to big daddy state because all the laws favor her. wont it be fun when the laws wont favor anyone? what savages for men you women have created and yes, there will be no local sherifs department to step inbetween you and those savages you have created.............go women's lib and thank you women for trying to be men and denying it only to do it twice as hard next time but failing to be either a man or a woman

[Laineday]

Check out the secret to letting go and moving on site. It will help you handle the pain and confusion around this kind of issue as well as many other emotional headaches!

[JimiB1984]

Most men will marry Miss Right, they just don't know her first name is Always.

[RobertMOdell]

The Holy Scriptures are clear: Whoever lives in continued adultery (true of most re-marriages) will not see the Kingdom of Heaven.

[iam4u2cl8er]

robertMOdell...I am done with your ass. It is obvious that you are a FUCKING RETARD! you think you know more than the holy bible but you dont know shit..IF you are SO INTELLIGENT...TELL ME EXACTLY WERE IT SAYS THAT IF YOU REMARRY YOU ARE LIVING IN ADULTERY AND YOU WILL NEVER SEE THE KINGDOM OF GOD, and dont give me every other passage that has nothing to do with our conversation... OTHERWISE SHUT THE FUCK UP! you are NOT God and you dont know who he will forgive and who he wont!

[RobertMOdell]

Funny how all I do is quote direct bible verses and you decide you need to swear at them. Tells a very clear picture imo.

[iam4u2cl8er]

"MOST" remarriages? Not all? Tell me where it says that it is considered adultery? Adultery is both in physical and mental thing.if you LUST for a woman then you are commiting adultery.You cannot exclude the adultery you have commited in your life just because you havent remarried with a woman.just because its convineint for you! If that is the case then you are guilty of Adultery too! So then are you never going to see the Kingdom of God? You are a total retard! I dont know why I waist my time!

[RobertMOdell]

If you are guilty of lust, then you need to turn away from that sin, repent, call on Jesus to save you (from sin, from yourself). If you are guilty of adultery (such as remarriage without cause) you need to stop comitting that sin and repent. Jesus will forgive any an all sins that are in your past if you both repent and ask forgiveness. Otherwise, all you have left is assurance of a rightious judgement.

[RobertMOdell]

Luke 16:18: "... the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."

Remarriage is adultery.

[RobertMOdell]

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.

[RobertMOdell]

Romans 7:2-8 For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.

[RobertMOdell]

Mark 10:12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.

[RobertMOdell]

What are you saying? That you know more than Jesus does?

[iam4u2cl8er]

THink about it RoberMOdell..Commiting Adultery can be commited in many ways, not just by remarring another woman who has been divorced..Adultery can be commited by looking at another mans wife in lust, another fathers daughter in lust..Well in that case WE ARE ALL GUILTY OF ADULTERY! I and you and everybody has lusted for a fathers daughter at one point in our lives...Are we all doomed to die because according to you, ALL ADULTERS WILL NOT SEE THE KINGDOM OF GOD!! PLEASE!! Dont be stupid! THINK!

[RobertMOdell]

The issue here isn't one of whether or not Jesus can forgive you of your sins. The issue is whether you are forgiven for sins you are currently committing. You are not. If you are living in an Adulterous relationship, you are living in sin, you are not repenting, and therefore you have no forgiveness. Same goes for any other sin. You cannot continue to sin and say that you belong to Christ.

[RobertMOdell]

1 John 3:4-6: Everyone who sins breaks the law; in fact, sin is lawlessness. But you know that he appeared so that he might take away our sins. And in him is no sin. No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him.

[RobertMOdell]

1 John 3:8-9 He who does what is sinful is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil's work. No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God's seed remains in him; he cannot go on sinning, because he has been born of God.

[RobertMOdell]

One word: ADULTERY.

Adulterers will not see the Kingdom of God.

[iam4u2cl8er]

@RobertMOdell ..and who are you to judge? So long as you are not God..You have NO right to say who and who isnt going to see God! That is up to the good lord to decide! People who have killed another human being can still be saved and so can Adulterers! God loves us all! He is a forgiving God, and if you really mean your sorry, he will forgive! God Bless!

[RobertMOdell]

You cannot be sorry for a sin that you are continuing to commit. God Himself is the one who has told us that Adulterers will not see the Kingdom of God. God Himself is the one who told us that remarriage is ADULTERY. Adulterers will not see the Kingdom of heaven, JUST AS JESUS SAID. Inform yourself.

[iam4u2cl8er]

@RobertMOdell ..You aparently dont read the bible my friend..Read: 1John 1:9 :it states: "If we confess our sins he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from the unrighteousness!"

Or you could go to John 8: 1-11 read the story of Mary Magdelen : "If anyone of you is without sin, let him cast the first stone!" and Christ tells her "I do not condemn you, Go now and leave your life of sin"

It is you who needs to get informed SON!!

[RobertMOdell]

That's right, "Go now and LEAVE your life of sin". Without repentence (meaning turning away from Adultery) there IS no forgiveness of sin.

[iam4u2cl8er]

@RobertMOdell Hey I gave you some actual passages from the Bible... What kind of sources do you have to back your claims up? NONE! God said "Threw Jesus Christ you will find salvation" and if Christ was the one who said "If you confess your sins, God will forgive you and purify you from the unrighteousness", then I am going to belive him...DEFENATLY NOT YOU! sounds to me like your wife must have cheated on you and now you have a chip on your shoulder towards audultery! God is great, you are not!

[iam4u2cl8er]

@RobertMOdell ...If a person commited Audultery and is done commiting audultery,and is truley sorry for what he or she has done...and asks Christ for forgivness...Jesus will forgive! If a person asks for forgivness and commits audultery again, then that might be another story, but to say ALL ADULTERY is unforgiving is just plain stupid! You look like a complete moron talking like that RobertMOdell! Learn a bit about Jesus and then come back for an adult conversation! God Bless!

[RobertMOdell]

If you knew even the least bit about the Bible, you would know that it says Adulterers will not see the Kingdom of God. And you would know that anyone who marries a divorced woman commits (not committed) Adultery.

[RobertMOdell]

1 Corinthians 6:9-10: Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

[RobertMOdell]

Luke 16:18: "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."

[RobertMOdell]

Luke 13:3 I tell you, no! But unless you repent, you too will all perish.

2 Peter 3:9: The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.

[RobertMOdell]

You cannot be repenting of a sin that you are continuing to commit.

[iam4u2cl8er]

@RobertMOdell..(cont2)...As he was being sacrificed, he still wanted God to forgive those who crusified him...Do you actually think Jesus will not forgive you for commiting Adultery? The passages you have quoted all have forgivness in them if you "repent"...If you REPENT, your sins are washed away and you are REBORN! and start a new life free of sin! God is just and forgiving, he loves us ALL, and is willing to forgive if you truely mean it. Commit adultery~~> Truely REPENT~~> You will be saved!

[iam4u2cl8er]

@RobertMOdell..See, you yourself have said in the Luke passage that if you "repent" you can get forgiveness. 2 Peter has nothing to do with Adultery..it speaks about repentance, wich we all have to do in order to inherit the kingdom of God. Dont put passages up if you dont know what they mean! Luke 16:18 does state that about adultery but Jesus himself forgave Mary Magdelen in Jhon 8: 1-11. So are you saying that Jesus is two faced? that he is only going to forgive some and not others?

[iam4u2cl8er]

@RobertMOdell (cont)...1 Corinthians 6: 9-10 does state that the wicked will not inherit the Kindom of God, but if you keep reading ...in Corinthians 6:11 it states "And such were some of you: BUT, ye are washed, sanctified, and justified in the name of Jesus Christ! <~~ THEY WERE FORGIVEN!! ...So basically you have NOT stated ANYTHING to prove that Jesus will not forgive you if you commit adultery! Jesus himself stated on the cross..."Forgive them father, for they know not what they do!".......

[pigpenthecat]

After reading some of the comments, some of you have been released from horrible and abusive relationships. I can say this because I have been liberated from a hateful person. God does not want either spouse to be in abusive relationships. Some of the people here need to find a life coach or counselor either will help get you passed the anger. It is sad to see anyone in the pain that I am reading here. If you need a life coach, contact me, Blessings,you all are all that you need.

[RyandocDO]

The guys should get a hair cut, work out and get a tan. Be a man. He so feminine its annoying,

[DawnOfTherion]

typical modern day white man

[bigrider2806]

i divorced when my wife walked out on me and the kids for a series of sordid relationships.we where married for 23 years. i have brought the kids up by myself with no help from her. noone will ever tell me that woman do a better job than men in raising children.i work full time,im disabled and get no money from her to help at all. yet my kids have grown to be upstanding happy people who are at uni and doing very well. woman do not have all the answers. fact.

[pigpenthecat]

I hope you have found that you have been released from an abusive spouse. I pray that you have found peace, love and joy. Within yourself, and you are all that you need. You have had many blessings, and you sound like a very caring person. Bless you for doing right by your children. They are lucky to have one good parent.

[iam4u2cl8er]

@bigrider2806 Bless you buddy! I comend you on a great job..Dont worry about the woman that left her. Lead your life exactly the way you have led it and you will be rewarded (although having your children grow up to be outstanding citizens is already a reward in itself) you will still be rewarded..I guarntee you! Good Job!

[pigpenthecat]

@bigrider2806 I just wanted to say hi and hope you are doing well after some time.

I am it has been a journey. Sending you blessings.

[nomadak47]

It looks like my marriage is over. Parkinson's. And because I don't do valentines day.

[headalphafemale]

I was divorced after 37 years when he just up and wanted his freedom and girlfriends, two special and any other possiblities he could find. I'm lost and confused but seem to be better off for it, though I still suffer greatly with a broken heart and depression fits. I'm not like most people and the hope of ever finding someone else in my life at this age isn't likely to happen, unless God allows fantasy lovers to truely exist.

[imhotep1]

Girl, don't you give up. God has bigger and better plans for you. He couldn't appreciate you for the awesome you were. If there were problems, he and you should have worked it out or gone to see a counselor. He will have to answer for what he has done. God bless you!

[TashaFaun]

Is Dan Quebecois?

[BigBlue4U1979]

Marriage is for life i hope God allows more havoc when people try to divorce the lose their jobs or if need be people lose thier lives in a divorce like many women do inorder for people to get it striaght one woman one man one marriage for life

[imhotep1]

I don't wish evil on people, but I do know karma is a ------

[GrenadeChick99]

Oh, I bet you are fun to be around. Your way or else? God's vengence? It's all about keeping the woman under the hammer of man through religion, laws, whatever. Ppl stop paying attention to their relationships. Loss of respect and compassion plays a huge part (not all) in the divorce numbers. Yeah, even after being married for 15 - 20 years, it is still important to have mutual respect, trust, and admiration for each other.

[Roden39]

When I got divorced, my wife said she would fight for custody of the kids.

Took her out with one punch.

[babyyyygirlll]

@Roden39 you hit your wife literaly

[Roden39]

@babyyyygirlll OMG! Please tell me you know its a joke literaly!

[babyyyygirlll]

@Roden39 well okay than i was gonna say thats really messed up

[maleslave1]

@babyyyygirlll my ex married the guy who smacked her around and left me the guy who never touch her go figure

[zenknown]

since I have been married for 36 years..which means i have been married about the same time u've been alive...what could u possibly tell me, in a nutshell...NOTHING!

[TheToltec]

They try and say the man they are with is in the way now. And this new guy is the cure all. I can just use this new guy for sex like men have done with women in the past. How does the "getting even" motif solve this? It just continues a negative cycle. How does subservience to negative emotions solve anything? I have seen women break with their husband who may be a scholar and wanna be with some guy with almost no principles or real intellect. But this new guy has a bigger penis and admires them

[TheToltec]

They want these constant confirmations from the external world. Most women don't go to therapy anymore and they think there is nothing wrong with them. They blame the man for all their complaints, but they are their complaints. Why don't they work on themselves? On the inside? They think their careers is the savior for everything. They give up balancing things out. Most of them are addicted to some TV show that reinforces the behavior. They crush and destroy the good man for a shallow man. Crazy

[TheToltec]

This is a phenomenon that comes from women and not from men. It is about the last ten years or so that it is happening. All of a sudden the women are saying things like "I am holding this or that grudge" or they are saying men have always done this or that. The women are trying to be men. It is terrible because they are not men. They are women. They tear down their homes for admiration and sex. It is dumbfounding. Neurotic. The want this constant attention all of a sudden from the external world

[pigpenthecat]

@TheToltec Men do that too. It is not just one sex or the other. It has to do with themselves and what they are thinking and feeling on the inside. It matters not to them who they hurt or now they hurt others, they only think of themselves and run to somewhere else to fill the void they have in their own hearts and souls. It will not happen until the finally awaken. In between the remaining parent is left holding the kids together and doing the best they can. I would never wish this on anyone.

[windheavenX]

*jenn stares at Dann in a lustful way thinking...."please fuck me please fuck me" ahahhahahahaaa

[yomamadontdanz]

Dan is really half German?Hmm,he looks like half a fag to me.

[IronManXXX]

Jennifer is so damn hot..Dan keeps scoping out her rack..I would....would never divorce her!!!!!

[IronManXXX]

Jennifer has awesome tits...wow!

[privtutor]

Justify emotional dissions with logical reasons....I like that. Good point.

[supercomet32]

go find another woman and dont try and be friends...fuck her brains out and do it regularly as for the breakup and needing answers she's a woman and thinks she doesnt have to give you shit....she'll figure out soon enough that it doesnt work that way just dont be around for her to apologize let her die with that guilt...like they say you cant kill em....although it might be better in your head trust me let her destroy her own life

[muta283]

wow...thats some harsh advise!! Is it something about American woman?

[RyandocDO]

@muta283 Yes our laws give them all the power in a marriage.

[SandyFingerboarding]

jen has nice boobs

[bigcoolviking]

I am a break up veteran I have been in love 5 times & had each was a relationship that lasted at least 2 years. I take it treally bad. Its actually worse for me than a close family members death ! I lost my mum when I was 18, that really hurts but its death it's unavoidable! break ups totrture me as I am always saying'what if' this or that, thne kast thing i ever want to do is screw around it just makes you feel even more shallow & hollow! there is no quick fix but there are plenty of fish etc.

[Cinnque]

Dude let her go! Become a Manwhore. Go ask her best friend for a shot of cock. Live!! Do all the things you couldn't do when you're married.

[Minc67]

Yeah my arse. She is the one who left after 23years and refuses to talk to him and NOW the poor guy has to set an example ???? That's the crappiest advise I have ever heard.

[maleslave1]

@Minc67 thats a womens why of thinking why is it the guy if wasnt for my kids i would let my ex get deprted and i would have forgooten about her since my divorice yea iwonder why she act like a bitch some times to me now i know she trying to tell her self that she doesnt need my $ ...any way since then i m better off with out her so to the guy i say FUCK HER and forget the bitch

[DauntingDave]

when a girl thinks that we are moving too fast does that mean she doesnt like me or does she still like me?

[Hendrixicecream]

it means that she is worried and if she goes too fast t will mess it all up so she likes you she's just trying to keep the relationship

[DauntingDave]

thx

[Hendrixicecream]

YOUR SOOO WELCOME!

[JourneyAP68]

I just stumbled upon these videos. Very imformative. Thanks!

[cfarmsrgv]

kill the fuken bitch

[robertdoyle1975]

Hi Dan and Jen. Just wondering what the blue drink is? It looks nice. Hopefully strong alcoholic content. btw, great advice you guys give.

[DanAndJenn]

Blue Raspberry Maritini's ;-) Our drink of choice while filming or doing our live show...

[KevinQ]

Man have any of you guys even majored in physcology or anything like that? Your advice is spot on.

[arequipa1]

good job y'all. one question -- does dan have an accent??

[Catastrophe420]

like duh hes french as fuck

[DanAndJenn]

LOL - yes he does, but it's not French. Keep trying...

[Catastrophe420]

french canadian?

lolllll

[arequipa1]

hmmmmmmm... i knew it wasn't french. i wanna say... somwhere eastern european? inquiring minds wanna know! =]

[DanAndJenn]

Getting warmer...

[DanAndJenn]

OK fine... :-)

Dan's half German / half Italian.

[arequipa1]

awesome! =D

[jeanintro]

Some comments:

First, You guys rock.

Second, I would add to that advice the fact that you need to get your emotions off you. Keeping them in wont help you. Write a letter and burn it. Yell to a picture of her. I don't know, you name it. but that anger or sorrow that you may feel, it won't kelp keeping it inside. Part of moving on is letting your old emotions go and starting new, fresh.

And do not try and start dating before you moved on. You'll hurt yourself, the other person, and maybe more.

[DanAndJenn]

Great comment! It's amazing how powerful it is to write that letter or email - even if you never send it. (especially if you never send it)

[jeanintro]

>>>(especially if you never send it)

That is the deal: I guess you don't want to hurt her, even though she left, and writing a very loaded letter or email may and most likely will hurt her. :P

I so love your vids Dan and Jenn. *sends electronic hugs*

[gossamerwindweb]

good advice. You guys impress me with almost every episode because you are so well-spoken and you know what you're talking about. I love you guys!