Is Staying In The New Going Out?

[Joan3424]

What is it with YOuTube? Where is my comment?  waaaa it must have gone outside.

Joanie

[andymooseman]

LOL. I know what you mean. Some comments disappear & others appear several times :)

[OhCurt]

I can relate a lot to this. Anymore, I don't feel the kind of regret that I used to when it comes to staying in. Even with the Internet, I would get a little bummed out if I had spent an entire weekend indoors, but with so much quality interaction taking place here, I don't feel like I'm losing out at all. Plus which, this weekend, I'm working off a cold.

:-D

[andymooseman]

I must admit i do sometimes feel a bit of guilt when i realise i've spent the entire weekend indoors. But, as you know, i do like to get out into the fresh air when i can.

I suspect you're like me & find that a walk on the beach blows all of those online cobwebs away.

I hope the cold gets better. It must have been all of that socialising you were doing last weekend!! :)

[oscarbooo]

It depends what you do. If you go in the garden you are going out but are still staying in technically because you are not leaving the boundaries of your house. But it is a tricky question!

[andymooseman]

I was really referring to going outside of the confines of your house & mixing with friends etc :)

[oscarbooo]

Okay.

[petuniabelle650]

I think when you're young, you're sort of like the family dog, ready to jump in the car and go anywhere, Just like a dog, thrilled that something's going on, even if you don't know what it is, exactly. Then when you get older, you just want peace and quiet. I'd rather be home any day of the week.

[andymooseman]

That's a good way of putting it :)

[keineangabe1]

where has my comment gone? suX!

[SunnyDazStormyNitz]

Hi Andy. You really gave us something to talk about the last couple days. We really don't go out much unless the weather is good and we go out on our motorcycle. We're really homebodies anymore.

[andymooseman]

It's always good to get people talking & thinking.

I think as we get older we tend to want to spend more time at home :)

[offcameherhead]

Staying in is definitely the new going out, seeing as drinks have escalated to $7-$8 a pop!

[andymooseman]

That sounds like a very good reason to stay in to me!! :)

[flimflam30]

No it isnt,staying in is the new staying in,like its always been !

[andymooseman]

Fair enough :)

[kenrg]

Staying in saves money on gas (or bus fare), and is much safer: if you're going to have a drink (or three) it's much easier to get home if all it means is walking down the hall. Great point.

[andymooseman]

It certainly saves you money & taxi fares. I spent $20 on taxi fares getting to & from that party. I could have spent that on more beer!! :)

[ButterRivaLs]

My husband and I share a circle of friends from high school. (We attended the same alma mater, though weren't high school sweethearts.) Anyway, at least once a year, we have a sleepover party with most of our group. We've also had camping trips together, as well as yearly 4th of July barbecues. We keep telling and enjoy hearing the same stories over and over. At one of the last sleepovers one guy took out his iPod and hooked it to the home stereo for our dance party. So, we party in together.

[andymooseman]

That sounds really good & it's great that you've all managed to keep in touch & see each other after all this time. I guess those old school stories are shared stories, so they bear re-telling.

I rarely see people i was at school with. Moving away from the area didn't help. But after i left school i made mostly different friends anyway :)

[FroGhandi]

I defintely spend more time indoors than outdoors and the main reason for that is the lack of money.

it's not that i don't like to get outside. it's just everyting i want to do normally revolves around spending money, which makes staying inside a more enjoyable option.

[andymooseman]

Ah, the money. I think that's a deciding factor for a lot of us. Nothing is cheap these days & going out does seem to revolve around spending loads of money doesn't it? :)

[LizBizToo]

lol and add my very social neighbor, who does not watch TV, watches very closely his addicitions to everything; just reconnected himself to online and we had yet another conversation about addiction. I think we'll need more doctors soon who deal with these addictions in particular...really!

? Lizzz

[LizBizToo]

BTW, I think many peeps have a change of attitude about partying and going out @ age 45 or so; I've seen alot of people stop drinking, going out so much as they mature...

:)

p.s. thinking of the peeps I know who don't do online. An attorney (security reasons, ha!) A psychic ('privacy' and seeing others' addictions)...a very social educator PhD. (has given away several computers lol)

[andymooseman]

I certainly think that attitudes change as we get older, i know mine have.

There are a lot of reasons for that, far too many for a comment.

Maybe another vlog though!! :)

[LizBizToo]

As with most things in life, I feel its about balance; this new medium is so wonderfully exciting with all its new possibilities; on the other hand, I do have concerns about how it could effect our world without proper balance...lack of exercise effecting health, avoidance of being in relationships that are in the real physical world, I've heard of many marriages that have gone awry over it, have you? So, balance = the key IMO.

[andymooseman]

Balance is important in all aspects of life.

I share your concerns about the effects of staying in too much. Some other people have raised similar issues here.

I'm no expert on relationships, but i constantly see them breaking up. Usually because the partners just give up too easily & take what they see as the easy option, imho :)

[flydarling]

My life has changed recently and I go out more again. I now have mum friends that I have made through the kids, there are two groups and we like to get out about once a month (that means 2 times each month for me). We go to the cinema, theatre, for a meal or just to the pub for a drink and a chat. It's terrific, though sometimes I'm tired and don't feel like making the effort to dress up and get out in the cold. But I always have a great time. Cheers, Lesley

[andymooseman]

I can remember my wife doing something similar. Because you've been cooped up at home for a few years raising the kids, now you have a bit more freedom, so why not exploit it? :)

[LilCav68]

No ocean? *sigh* lol

[andymooseman]

I thought you might all need a bit of a break from all the beach video. But it seems there's just no pleasing some people, he he :)

Never fear, they'll be some more along soon, don't worry :)

[LilCav68]

Aww Andy. I love that you live by the ocean and get to show me. :0)

I just like teasin' ya :0)

[TamHickey67]

Whilst I enjoy going out occasionally, what I don't like is the social apartheid forced on us smokers. It's fine in the summer when you can stand outside the pub or restaurant, but not so good in the winter. On another note,have you noticed that when we're not looking forward to parties that they often turn out to be great?

[andymooseman]

As a non smoker i prefer pubs to be non smoking. But, i do sympathise with you smokers. You do seem to be being ostracised these days.

And yes, i do find that the parties etc that you don't look forward to are often the best. Also some events that you look forward to for ages, quite often disappoint :)

[NaturalTwentyFilms]

Live interaction is so different from internet socializing, even live internet socializing that I suggest we not forget how to talk to people face-to-face. So I do not think staying in is the "new" going out but it might be the "replacement" to going out.

[andymooseman]

That's an important point & you're not the first person to raise it. It's all very well staying in all the time, but we do all need that face to face contact. Hopefully we get that via work etc, but nowadays we're increasingly working from home as well... :)

[NaturalTwentyFilms]

What is your opinion?

[andymooseman]

This video has, as usual, raised several questions & opinions. Some of which i'd thought of & some i hadn't. Because of this i'm thinking about doing another vlog as a sort of follow up. So i hope to tackle your question, amongst others then :)

[charlyandjosh]

To be honest, I probably have more nights in than nights out, but I'd rather that that wasn't the case. Like you say, it's just so much easier to be entertained without leaving your house these days.

On the plus side, it's a lot easier to communicate with other people without leaving the house these days, which is cool. :-)

[andymooseman]

The ease of communicating is certainly a factor in this debate. As some others have said though, because we're not going out so much, we're losing the art of face to face communication :)

[charlyandjosh]

I guess hair is taking over YouTube, but then that's jsut because it's taking over society in general. In a decade or two someone will say that baldness is a sign of virility, and having ridiculously short hair will suddenly be very 'in'.

I used to have really long hair, but my fringe always got in the way, making driving quite difficult. And, err, dangerous.

So are you going to the Manchester gathering Kai?

[charlyandjosh]

Sorry Andy, I've just posted this comment in COMPELTELY the wrong video. How very embarrassing. Serves me right for having so many YouTube videos open at the same time. I'll make a more relevant comment in a moment.

[andymooseman]

LOL I thought it was quite an interesting comment.

Lack of hair is not a sign of virility, it just means you're bald!! That 'fact' was probably made up by a person with a receding hairline :)

[robertpina99]

The answer is, yes. Everyone stays home and meets on web cam. It's the new socializing.

[andymooseman]

So i've heard. I've yet to go onto Stickam etc. I've a feeling they could be very addictive & time wasting :)

[21stCenturyCat]

hmmm, or is going out the new staying in? Ok, probably not but I would say that rather than hit town on a Saturday night I do prefer a couple beers at home and a takeaway (as I do many times with Mr F)

[andymooseman]

Knowing what most town centres are like on an average Saturday night, i'd rather steer well clear personally!!

A couple of beers & a takeaway at home sounds good to me :)

[LeSaMilano]

Love the title! hahaha

Oh I think it's definitely tied up with age - I'm no longer a party goer although once I'm there I'm ok - but after a while of chit-chatting and socializing my mind begins to wander and I look forward to getting home.

I guess I've become much more of a home-body. My going out now means getting outdoors whereas when I was younger meant 'going out'!

[andymooseman]

I also think it's probably an age thing.

As Pippilly said, by our age we've usually "been there & done that", so we don't feel we need to go out so much.

Also a lot of "going out" when we're younger is tied up with searching for a partner. Once that's happened we'd probably rather be alone with that person, usually at home :)

[Pippilly]

Love the Title! I think it is age... I think when we've been there and done that enough times over the decades lol we don't get the umphh to want to go out and do it again. I think staying in these days is way more fun than it used to be, so much to dooooooo and discover right in our own homes

[andymooseman]

The title came to me just as i was about to turn the camera on.

I think in the past there seemed to be far more of a reason to go out. It was where our friends were & where the entertainment was. Not so today & as you say we've all been there & done that haven't we?

Well us old 'uns have anyway :)

[DanPostropheL]

Andy, for me, staying in has been the new going out, but I don't go out that much anyway. The office is 15 feet away from me here. My wife would sure like me to be on here a lot less, but I enjoy meeting folks from around the world. Like you! We would never have met 20 years ago.

-dan'l

[andymooseman]

I'm not sure we would have met 5 years ago!!

But i'm glad we have.

My wife thinks i spend too much time on the computer as well & just can't understand the attraction of a site like YouTube.

Maybe she'll come around one day? :)

[Riverman1971]

Since moving into my new house last year, ive been out...well, not at all really! I used to party every friday and saturday night, getting hideously drunk and ruining the weekends with hangovers, but i dont even want to do that anymore. Dont get me wrong, i still get drunk, but find its cheaper to do it at home.lol so yes, staying in IS definitely my new going out! (now where's that corkscrew?!)

[andymooseman]

Ruining a weekend with hangovers, that brings back some memories!!

And you're right about it being cheaper to drink at home. That's something i forgot to mention.

Funnily enough i'm sitting here with a can of beer myself :)

[twish1999]

After a hard days work i prefer to stay in but on the weekend it is nice to get out, not so much to parties for me, but just to get out and walk or whatever :-)

x hugs x

[andymooseman]

I'm like you & like to get out & have a walk. Even if it's just down to the beach. But, even that takes a bit of effort sometimes. I'm always glad when i do it though :)

[Aaroncast86]

Well, for me it certainly is the new going out but that's mainly because I don't have a close group of friends anymore that I could to go out and do things with.

Aside from that little fact though... I think that there's just as many great memories to be formed doing things 'staying in' as there are while 'going out' ... if that makes sense?

[andymooseman]

I think what you've said is going to become more & more common. We are meeting & socialising so much online these days, that we don't go out so much. Our close group of friends is increasingly online & not outside.

I think i can feel another vlog coming on!! :)

[bugsinrug]

Good vid Andy. I think cyberworld has taken away the one on one interaction. We have lost our social skills and I for one miss eye to eye contact and the occasional "real" hug or handshake. hugs, Chris

[andymooseman]

I think you're right about losing some of our social skills. Funnily enough i was talking to somebody at the party i mentioned about handwriting. These days we don't have to write very much do we? What with keyboards & phones etc.

My handwriting has got worse & i get writers cramp quite quickly, i'm just not used to writing anymore.

Does anybody write letters these days? :)

[bugsinrug]

Oh, I used to love getting letters in the mail. I am glad that I saved some from my Dad who passed away in 1996. :-)

[andymooseman]

It's just not the same saving emails is it?

I bet those letters are treasured possessions :)

[popebenadict16]

i havent been out in public since ive had the new tash but gunna try it later

[andymooseman]

Nobody will recognise you anyway, not with a new 'tache :)

[jrsnyderjr]

Don't mind going out to do something outdoors with one person or a few people but I tend to stay away from parties and large gatherings now...so in that sense I "stay in." I'm a bit bored with large social gatherings as I get older, unlike when I was younger, I tend not to want to be bothered with it.

[andymooseman]

I'm a bit like you, i think. When i used to go to parties it was like "why not?" a party was a party & the more the merrier. But, now i tend to want to pick & choose what i do. I'm far more selective & begrudge going to a party because i feel i have to :)

[jrsnyderjr]

Had to chuckle at the anniversary you mentioned, we went to a friend's 60th birthday party recently. I had very mixed emotions about going, felt I had to go, thought "well when I get there I'll enjoy it" but honestly I didn't. I hadn't seen many of the people in years and they seemed so...well, old while I on the other hand was still young and handsome! hahaha! Seriously though, I didn't relate and I understood why, I'm not that much younger but these folks were not interested in anything new.

[andymooseman]

I know what you mean. Some people are just old before their time. I see friends & colleagues of mine, who are the same sort of age as me & they appear & act a lot older. Why?

I try & keep up to date with technology & the world in general & i think that really helps to keep your mind young & active. But if you don't have any interest in that type of thing, what do you do?

Interesting thoughts :)

[ppshautomatic]

yea i reckon staying in is the new going out. Its much more easy to talk to friends online, and theres very little hastle involved nowadays. But i think its still good to get out of the house often :)

[andymooseman]

Oh, i agree that it's always good to get out of the house. There are just so many attractions at home these days & it can work out a lot cheaper too!! :)

[anakin1814]

I have had feelings like that quite often when it's time to go visit ppl...and the thing is, once I get there I always enjoy myself. I think it's just getting the momentum to get going.

I do find that on the weekends and in my spare time, I still always want to get away and go do things to keep things interesting. And then about once a month, I just need a weekend with NOTHING going on to re-center myself and just chill! :)

[andymooseman]

I agree about the momentum thing. I'm usually the same. Once i get there i'm very happy that i bothered. I guess it's really just laziness?

I wonder if it makes a difference if you're single & haven't got quite so much to stay home for? :)

[willyIV]

If you can build a future by living in the moment today, at home (working), then by all means stay out of the rat race and save some commute time! I never had the opportunity or discipline to do that -- and I'd rather be out and about as much as possible.

[andymooseman]

Staying out of the rat race sounds good to me.

As you know, i love to get out & about, but sometimes it just takes a bit of effort to get out there.

But once i do, i'm always glad i did :)

[PappyStu]

Folks should not worry about being too kewl for life... But we do... Getting to be a foggie cures one of this....

[andymooseman]

I know what you mean Pappy :)