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  • Leave when your fiance gives you an STD and he said he never cheated...

  • @009thequeen Yes, this is a very good reason to leave. I'm sad to hear this if this happened to you.

  • In general, this sounds like good advise, but I think there are other reasons besides physical abuse for leaving. Ongoing emotional and psychological abuse is just as harmful as physical. Emotional withdrawal caused by alcohol or other addictions is not going to allow for mutual growth, especially if there is denial.

  • @MellyJuffin Yes, I agree. I wrote an article called "5 Reasons Why You Might Want to End Your Relationship" and I refer to addiction, emotional abuse, and other reasons.

  • @ElohimLee Thank what you need to do is ask yourself if this guy adds quality to your life, or does he tale qaulity of life away?

    Where will you be in 10 years with him the way it's going? Sometimes it's less lonely to be alone than with a person as you describe.

    This advice I would give for both men and women in relationships.

  • @ElohimLee There are many men who act like a bitch not being a man. I am sorry your dealing with a male that does not know how man-up and just be a man.

    Basically I'm just tired of weak men and women who cannot get their crap together!

    Please tell him that I said he needs to man-up and stop bitching ... tell him to run to work to make money, not his bitching mouth!

  • You are correct, no one has to live with verbal abuse. So I suggest that it is time for you to leave this relationship. You have no control over what he is doing, only what you are doing. However, I also suggest that you also might have some work to do on yourself to move beyond fear and into what would be loving to yourself.

  • What does a guy do when he is just tired of bitching?

    Some guys can be totally stand up responsible men, yet I see too many women bitching when the man is working his ass off ... Nagging is a deal breaker.

  • What about when both parties are living a dysfunctional life. Yea, and the man I am with, makes me want to be a lone. Mental abuse is destructive as well.

    My fiance is an attorney, and he sabotages everything I try to accomplish. He wants to live off my food stamps, he wants whatever I have.

    I have no interest in leaving the relationship with the wrong attitude, just simply leave is all...my end of the system.

  • i found out about the inner bond process on the internet...i wish i had learn about this years ago it would have saved me many many years of pain and heartache....its not to late. i'm willing to take as many courses as possible....i'm unemployed right now...so my finances are limited but i want to do as much as i can. is there a forum to talk to others?

  • @tushay67 The forum is on the member site. If you cannot afford our regular fee for membership, then please call our assistant, Valerie, at 888-646-6362 and she will get you signed on for what you can afford.

    Blessings to you,

    Margaret

  • I concur with psycheeeeee, this is excellent advice. Would the advice remain the same, ie, to perhaps leave, if one of the partners self-harms (mostly for attention/manipulation, I believe) rather than is physically abusive towards the other (although he is very verbally abusive)? I do feel a bit unsafe, but want to help him, though I am not doing a very good job. Is this unwise/impossible? Thanks very much if you have any experience or advice regarding this.

  • @Saff5 Staying to help him is not a good reason to stay. Does he want help? You cannot help someone who does not want help, and if he is self-harming for attention, it sounds like he is very stuck in a wounded place and just wants someone else to take care of him. You need to ask yourself what is loving to you. I suggest that you take our free Inner Bonding course.

  • @innerbond Thank you for your advice. I will take the free Inner Bonding course right away then. Saff

  • @Saff5 Great! It will be a big help to you, and we have many articles on the site about relationships that will also be a help.

  • @innerbond

    Does bond process suggest anything about my fiance being asked nicely for the past 13 years to not leave his snot tissues lay on the floor. It is disgusting, and a dirty habit. I have been nice. He is an adult, and I should not have to ask him one more time to pick up his snot tissues off the living room floor. comments welcome.....because I would just rather walk than put up with it any more.

  • @psycheeeeee Thanks for your comment - I'm pleased it is helpful. Blessings, Margaret

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