Dude, you are right, if a friend has trouble with you being Gay, then they truely aren't your friends. Besides in my Catholic upbringing, God has a Plan for us, so if he has a plan, then you being Gay is part of it. He made you who you are!! So long as you are happy with yourself!! You have only one person to please, You!
Prayers for Bobby is a GREAT Movie!! Everyone should watch it!! I envy the YOung Gay Men now a days, it was soo different when I started......
Faggots eat poo and want everyone to say "hey that’s ok you were born that way" which is obviously a lie because babies don’t pump ass nor chew the poo
I really like your video! =) maybe one day I will have the courage to say who I am to my parents but now I'm happy cause I said it to my friends and for them it's Ok=)
It's been two years since you made this video, and I hope you have continuted to have good experiences. What a great things the your mother "forced" you to watch "Prayers for Bobby". Usually, I think, it's the other way around! Coming out is kind of like saying, "Look, you may not have noticed, but I have brown hair." It's just another piece of who you are. It's sad that society still makes it so HARD!!
There are so many cute gay guys out there (such as yourself), THAT'S what made being gay easier for me to accept. You may say I'm weird and shallow, but I'm at least comfortable with myself now :)
@Renfiles90 Things are happening for LGBT people today, the likes of which Bobby and I could never conceive! We're not quite there yet, but full inclusion is within sight! It thrills me to know that you will be able to lead an authentic life as a gay man, and will even likely be able to marry the person whom you love, if you so choose! Yeah!!!! May G-D Bless You! Blaine
Heyy .. I got my mum to watch Prayers For Bobby ... it changed my mothers views on me being gay ... it changed my life - made me more confident to be who I AM! ... Because trust me - it aint nice being a shadow all day coz your hiding in the dark.
I have 'Prayers for Bobby' currently recorded on the television and I tried (for a few weeks) to get my mom to see it without actually mentioning the movie: by leading up to it with random comedies and such... never did she see it though. Time's still not right I guess? And that was months ago
Your parents gave mixed signals whereby your parents were against homosexuality because of religion. Then, when you came out they accepted your sexual orientation? I plan to watch Prayers for Bobby, but by your mother's request for you to watch the film, she knew something otherwised why did she ask you to watch the movie?
It's a really nice story and youre are so handsome too. I'm french, it was difficult to listen to you because the sound wasn't high, but by closering my ear from my loudspeakers, it was better. Thanks for you story. Good luck mate
My family is like seriously religious and i'm terrified to tell them i'm gay. I've thought about telling my closest friends but have yet to do it. I don't think i'm ready to deal with it nor do i think they're ready to know.
You are courageous, and i admire so much what you are doing here to help others by honestly reporting on your story, your path that others may follow now more easily.
lol Like it matters if you have a problem with it or not it's what is.How would you like me to say I am a christian and I don't have any problems with overly annoying straight people
DAMM all 3 lousy states u were/are in......buy-bull beatin states.....look up the UCC (united church of christ) they except EVERYONE! ...at 49,I've gotten away from religion -- it seems to poison mankind, and the human Imagination. ..but IF u feel u need it - chk out the UCC.
i love watching coming out videos on youtube, but only a few of them make me cry -- videos, like yours, where religion forces gay youth to look at themselves so harshly. It's really disgusting and makes me more mad then almost anything else. i was lucky not to have to deal with that, but the idea of believing that the ultimate power thought my very nature was wrong is unbearable.
i'm glad you're doing so well now and that your parents changed.
Can we please not have ANY arguments about if being gay is right or wrong?
I'm so sick of it. I'm not gay, these conversations just shouldn't HAVE to exist.
Maybe I'm just at a point in my life where I just don't care. I don't mean to sound like a dick. I just REALLY don't care if someone is gay or not. I just feel like we should live in a modern enough society where it shouldn't even have to be a discussion, it should just be accepted automatically regardless if you think its right or not.
i love your story. i kinda thought u were gay from your previous videos, but in one of them u said u had a blind date with a girl so i was kinda thrown off the gay idea... now this confirms it and im so happy for you. im definitely a huge fan of yours now.
You are awesome - I knew this before I subscribed and this video just confirms it for me. This was a very good video and I am very happy that you had such a positive and loving experience. Looking forward to many more of your videos. : )
glad to see yet another good coming out story from younger gen! there is always hope 8) as im sure you will agree, it's a lifelong process, including the ones you have already come out to. good luck!
Thanks for sharing your story (so far). Having religious parents who thinks homosexuality is a sin is tough. I know that they still think gay sex is a sin but, I have educated them that sexuality is so much more than sex. Also I later fell in love with a woman! I could have sworn that would never happen, that was hard too since I identified myself as gay and was out and all. Today I am not so sure about labels - but accept the diversity in human sexuality. God loves all of us. Live well.
I would say that coming out is different for everyone, but for me personally, coming out was a 3-part deal: Myself, friends, and then the parents/family.
Some people don't have to worry about coming out to themselves, but for a lot of people (I think) it's very much a necessity.
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Thanks for your reply...I have friends at church who struggle with homosexuality but are in our Recovery ministry. They are doing well, working out their faith in progressive sanctification i/o getting into the lifestyle and pursuing it.
My next question: Do you see homosexuality as something you necessarily cannot or will not fight against? Do you believe that it's impossible to resist against? If you want, you can "message" me on this.
Before people "come out" they have usually been fighting or denying who they are for years because they fear how the homophobes will treat them. Do you have any idea what that feels like? Left handed people used to have to hide who they were as well because in religious schools they would be punished for it and be put through "recovery" - which involved tying their left hand behind their back and humiliating them when they used it. Why should we not just accept who we are?
Why would someone fight against something they were born with? Even more: something unmaterial as sexuality cannot be changed regardless of the effort... You can just hide, pretend you are straight, but deep inside your sexuality is always the same.
You couldn't possibly begin to understand. It's people like you who turn young christians away from God. I'm just glad I found freedom from religious BS a long time ago.
If we are saying that "we are born with it", you'd better believe it, as you are not in our shoes to know what it means to be gay.
And I doubt anyone has ever "changed" their sexuality as you say... The most thay can do is foll themselves pretending they're straight. However, sexuality is not defined by appearences, but for what you fell inside, and that said, it's impossible for someone to "erase" his/her homossexuality and "write" a new heterossexuality in themselves out of the blue.
Thanks for sharing your story. Prayers for Bobby is truly an amazing movie! I actually hadn't heard about it either until my mother told me about it. She actually told me that she didn't think that she could watch it because she knew it would make her cry. I talked her into watching it and we both cried. I came out 10 years ago and while the first year was a rough one for my parents, life is so much better now.
Thanks 4 sharing ur Story! I know that this will help some young person that is going through what we went through. So Great Job Darren! U ROCK! and yeah coming out is a process thats seems to continue throughout life! Love Ur SMile! Love&SMiles Tim
It's amazing how just telling one friend can change so much. I'm so glad your parents are ok with it because I was a bit worried they might not. Good Video!
Haha, sorry. I probably didn't make that clear. I came out my senior year in high school to one person. And then slowly a couple months at a time, I starting telling select people and it just increased from there. But I'm only a freshman in college, so really, I've only started coming out for about a year. And thank for watching. I'm sure I'll run into a hitch eventually; there's no way this can go absolutely perfect.
Your hot
MrBuzzynoah 1 month ago
Nice video :)
123moscowman 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
you have pretty blue eyes :) ans you are smart dude
conscious4 5 months ago
damn you're pretty
girliboi 8 months ago
Dude, you are right, if a friend has trouble with you being Gay, then they truely aren't your friends. Besides in my Catholic upbringing, God has a Plan for us, so if he has a plan, then you being Gay is part of it. He made you who you are!! So long as you are happy with yourself!! You have only one person to please, You!
Prayers for Bobby is a GREAT Movie!! Everyone should watch it!! I envy the YOung Gay Men now a days, it was soo different when I started......
RobnLV 10 months ago
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Faggots eat poo and want everyone to say "hey that’s ok you were born that way" which is obviously a lie because babies don’t pump ass nor chew the poo
fruitycunt 10 months ago
I really like your video! =) maybe one day I will have the courage to say who I am to my parents but now I'm happy cause I said it to my friends and for them it's Ok=)
LukeTraveller92 11 months ago
It's been two years since you made this video, and I hope you have continuted to have good experiences. What a great things the your mother "forced" you to watch "Prayers for Bobby". Usually, I think, it's the other way around! Coming out is kind of like saying, "Look, you may not have noticed, but I have brown hair." It's just another piece of who you are. It's sad that society still makes it so HARD!!
justanote7 11 months ago
my story has just begun.
makemegood5two 1 year ago
OMG ur sooooooooo fucking HAWT .....YUMMY ... ~^_^~
Gayboiidude43 1 year ago
There are so many cute gay guys out there (such as yourself), THAT'S what made being gay easier for me to accept. You may say I'm weird and shallow, but I'm at least comfortable with myself now :)
dave16124918 1 year ago
Cock sucker
jadyqg12511 1 year ago
you have beautiful eyes ;)
McNessix 1 year ago 3
I want your eyes. Period.
MrC0MPUT3R 1 year ago
People must be blind or deaf if they don't know you're gay.
FinalKH 1 year ago
@Renfiles90
I'm astonished and delighted that surfing the videos all over the "coming out"
archive, people are talking about, and reacting strongly to, Bobby and Mary
Griffiths' story! I was 19 when I learned of Bobbys' suicide and was in shock,
having cared deeply for him!
blainebill39 1 year ago
Renfiles90
When these events occured over 27yrs ago,
almost no one stood up! This sea change or paradigm shift, if you will is
breathtaking! You are so brave and beautiful my friend, and I so pleased
that you've arrived!
Thank you, and may G-D bless you!
Blaine
blainebill39 1 year ago
@Renfiles90
I can't help but being so proud of you my friend! The world you will be
"out" in is a far less hostile place than that which I came out in as a boy!
When I was not yet 18, I met and fell in love with a boy named Bobby
Griffith(Prayers for Bobby). His family at the time was dogmatically
religious, and the pain of the closet was unbearable for him. He took
his own life in 1983! Thankfully that was a long time ago and much has
changed.
blainebill39 1 year ago
blainebill39 1 year ago
Heyy .. I got my mum to watch Prayers For Bobby ... it changed my mothers views on me being gay ... it changed my life - made me more confident to be who I AM! ... Because trust me - it aint nice being a shadow all day coz your hiding in the dark.
jogilvie1103 1 year ago
your not in kansas anymore. your way to prettty for that place...artistically
speaking.
jumbobobcleo 1 year ago
I have 'Prayers for Bobby' currently recorded on the television and I tried (for a few weeks) to get my mom to see it without actually mentioning the movie: by leading up to it with random comedies and such... never did she see it though. Time's still not right I guess? And that was months ago
MrJason300 1 year ago
Thanks for sharing your story =]
MrJason300 1 year ago
your facial hair is PERFECTLY beautiful don't listen to anyone else xx
pinkphlegm 1 year ago
I love your eyes.
GaGaXtinaBey 1 year ago
well, being gay=not a problem. being from kansas=gonna be lots of jokes.
jumbobobcleo 1 year ago
Your parents gave mixed signals whereby your parents were against homosexuality because of religion. Then, when you came out they accepted your sexual orientation? I plan to watch Prayers for Bobby, but by your mother's request for you to watch the film, she knew something otherwised why did she ask you to watch the movie?
petitamipremier 1 year ago
It's a really nice story and youre are so handsome too. I'm french, it was difficult to listen to you because the sound wasn't high, but by closering my ear from my loudspeakers, it was better. Thanks for you story. Good luck mate
G71smile 1 year ago
I (L) Prayers for Bobby best gay movie ever .
adamblogsyou 1 year ago
Nice story. Handsome guy.
HIVVideos 1 year ago
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You are to handsome to be gay. You could get any girl you want
jadyqg12511 2 years ago
So according to you gay guys are supposed to be ugly? You're an idiot.
ilj007 2 years ago 10
damn straight
ThisisPunk 2 years ago
hey lady get your brain in check
ThisisPunk 2 years ago
My family is like seriously religious and i'm terrified to tell them i'm gay. I've thought about telling my closest friends but have yet to do it. I don't think i'm ready to deal with it nor do i think they're ready to know.
ElmundodeGabriel 2 years ago 5
You are courageous, and i admire so much what you are doing here to help others by honestly reporting on your story, your path that others may follow now more easily.
Where have you been? Are you okay?
gaypaths 2 years ago
lol Like it matters if you have a problem with it or not it's what is.How would you like me to say I am a christian and I don't have any problems with overly annoying straight people
cbrun67176 2 years ago
Oh well. I was raised as christian, but I never had problems with my homosexuality (and I kinda realized that in the kindergarten). I guess lucky me.
KUAXAM 2 years ago
prayers for bobby is a great movie, very sad though
steven1steven2 2 years ago
DAMM all 3 lousy states u were/are in......buy-bull beatin states.....look up the UCC (united church of christ) they except EVERYONE! ...at 49,I've gotten away from religion -- it seems to poison mankind, and the human Imagination. ..but IF u feel u need it - chk out the UCC.
rextrek 2 years ago
i love watching coming out videos on youtube, but only a few of them make me cry -- videos, like yours, where religion forces gay youth to look at themselves so harshly. It's really disgusting and makes me more mad then almost anything else. i was lucky not to have to deal with that, but the idea of believing that the ultimate power thought my very nature was wrong is unbearable.
i'm glad you're doing so well now and that your parents changed.
best of luck.
miamlarda 2 years ago
KANSAS PRIDE! i don't even live in kansas hahahaha sorry. nice video!
haha202haha 2 years ago
Can we please not have ANY arguments about if being gay is right or wrong?
I'm so sick of it. I'm not gay, these conversations just shouldn't HAVE to exist.
Maybe I'm just at a point in my life where I just don't care. I don't mean to sound like a dick. I just REALLY don't care if someone is gay or not. I just feel like we should live in a modern enough society where it shouldn't even have to be a discussion, it should just be accepted automatically regardless if you think its right or not.
LanIost 2 years ago 34
THANK YOU! That's what I'm trying to say. It really makes me sad that living in such a progressive country, homosexuality is still an issue.
But thanks for your input
Renfiles90 2 years ago 8
Thanks for your story. Personally, I think you would look a lot cuter without the facial hair ;)
nexttsar 2 years ago
I fully second nexttsar's comment. The facial hair is a pity. If you got rid of it, you would look very cute, and still very manly. :)
ab0kanal 2 years ago
FINE! I shaved it all off, in my recent video. :P Happy? J/k
Renfiles90 2 years ago
i disagree, i like the scruff:)
nadaleex3 2 years ago
i love your story. i kinda thought u were gay from your previous videos, but in one of them u said u had a blind date with a girl so i was kinda thrown off the gay idea... now this confirms it and im so happy for you. im definitely a huge fan of yours now.
~Josh~
sensbully 2 years ago
You are awesome - I knew this before I subscribed and this video just confirms it for me. This was a very good video and I am very happy that you had such a positive and loving experience. Looking forward to many more of your videos. : )
DoubleDareLike 2 years ago
If some one were to take just one thing out of your video they should take to heart your recommendation at the very end. =D
2hot4south 2 years ago
thanks for sharing your story
amandamichels 2 years ago
thank you for sharing. It makes the world a less lonely place...
theskilled99 3 years ago
thanks for sharing...i havent come out fully yet. The first person iv told is someone i work with to
watsup151515 3 years ago
Great vid..thanks for sharing
watsup151515 3 years ago
your so cute i feel bad , i wanna hug u :)
generationgay 3 years ago 2
glad to see yet another good coming out story from younger gen! there is always hope 8) as im sure you will agree, it's a lifelong process, including the ones you have already come out to. good luck!
sleekcartim 3 years ago
Thanks for sharing your story (so far). Having religious parents who thinks homosexuality is a sin is tough. I know that they still think gay sex is a sin but, I have educated them that sexuality is so much more than sex. Also I later fell in love with a woman! I could have sworn that would never happen, that was hard too since I identified myself as gay and was out and all. Today I am not so sure about labels - but accept the diversity in human sexuality. God loves all of us. Live well.
niller2006 3 years ago
May I ask this: Is "coming out" more of self-acceptance of your sexual orientation than announcing that you are homosexual?
jkirton1964 3 years ago
I would say that coming out is different for everyone, but for me personally, coming out was a 3-part deal: Myself, friends, and then the parents/family.
Some people don't have to worry about coming out to themselves, but for a lot of people (I think) it's very much a necessity.
Renfiles90 3 years ago 3
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Thanks for your reply...I have friends at church who struggle with homosexuality but are in our Recovery ministry. They are doing well, working out their faith in progressive sanctification i/o getting into the lifestyle and pursuing it.
My next question: Do you see homosexuality as something you necessarily cannot or will not fight against? Do you believe that it's impossible to resist against? If you want, you can "message" me on this.
jkirton1964 3 years ago
Before people "come out" they have usually been fighting or denying who they are for years because they fear how the homophobes will treat them. Do you have any idea what that feels like? Left handed people used to have to hide who they were as well because in religious schools they would be punished for it and be put through "recovery" - which involved tying their left hand behind their back and humiliating them when they used it. Why should we not just accept who we are?
maitriparamita 2 years ago 2
Thanks for your insight
jkirton1964 2 years ago
Why would someone fight against something they were born with? Even more: something unmaterial as sexuality cannot be changed regardless of the effort... You can just hide, pretend you are straight, but deep inside your sexuality is always the same.
Monomate 2 years ago 2
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jkirton1964 2 years ago
You couldn't possibly begin to understand. It's people like you who turn young christians away from God. I'm just glad I found freedom from religious BS a long time ago.
Renfiles90 2 years ago
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jkirton1964 2 years ago
If we are saying that "we are born with it", you'd better believe it, as you are not in our shoes to know what it means to be gay.
And I doubt anyone has ever "changed" their sexuality as you say... The most thay can do is foll themselves pretending they're straight. However, sexuality is not defined by appearences, but for what you fell inside, and that said, it's impossible for someone to "erase" his/her homossexuality and "write" a new heterossexuality in themselves out of the blue.
Monomate 2 years ago
Thanks for sharing your story. Prayers for Bobby is truly an amazing movie! I actually hadn't heard about it either until my mother told me about it. She actually told me that she didn't think that she could watch it because she knew it would make her cry. I talked her into watching it and we both cried. I came out 10 years ago and while the first year was a rough one for my parents, life is so much better now.
wolfpakk135 3 years ago
Thanks 4 sharing ur Story! I know that this will help some young person that is going through what we went through. So Great Job Darren! U ROCK! and yeah coming out is a process thats seems to continue throughout life! Love Ur SMile! Love&SMiles Tim
marcs501tim 3 years ago
It's amazing how just telling one friend can change so much. I'm so glad your parents are ok with it because I was a bit worried they might not. Good Video!
HonzikzKansas 3 years ago
Congrats. I know it's likely been 8-10 years since you came out but congrats on coming out without a hitch.
HenhousetheRed 3 years ago
Haha, sorry. I probably didn't make that clear. I came out my senior year in high school to one person. And then slowly a couple months at a time, I starting telling select people and it just increased from there. But I'm only a freshman in college, so really, I've only started coming out for about a year. And thank for watching. I'm sure I'll run into a hitch eventually; there's no way this can go absolutely perfect.
Renfiles90 3 years ago