Brian I just like to say that you nailed it with this one.I was having the same issues,but I decided to take her along to my sets.and just like I thought.she saw that I was behaving.and she got bored of going with me.-Dj tko
If a guy's a douche bag, he's a douche bag if he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat. if the woman is insecure, well, then she is it's all doomed.
My ex used to freak out about it. I stopped for a good amount of time. It killed me not to be able to play music as a musician, DJ, and just be the all around entertainer.
Finding a woman with enough self security is hard as it is, but when you do, it'll be worth the wait.
I am in the minority here, as a female DJ, and I've also been married 13 years. My take on trust issues: If you're not doing something that warrants distrust, everything should be fine. A relationship between two people involves adult behavior, trust and equality. It is not about controlling another person's life. If you find yourself involved with someone who feels the need to control you, they have issues, and aren't ready to be in a relationship. The best thing to do is just get out.
you are so right i had the same thing happen in my Relationships with my girl friend of 11 years and i sed come out and see what i am doing and do not tell me when you are come so you see me doing my thing with out now your there to change me
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I am married for 7 years now. At first i think me DJing was a hidden problem for her becuase of jealousy issues. Now I was a Dj going in like you Brian but she was uncomfortable but didnt voice that to me until we had a big blowout about it and the truth came out. But with us sitting down and discussing her concerns we settled the dispute and its all good now. I think Relationship and Djing there has to be an understanding from the start. definate good communication is needed. Agree ???
if the man/woman loves you and wants to make the relationship, they should be able to trust you..they would trust you..but men/women should not take advantage of they and need to keep to there word!!
Every girl I have even bean with I have met while DJing because its when I am happiest and my current relationship (about a year and a half) I met her at a friends party while DJing =) she teases me about having numbers scribled on my hands but they get washed off and we both go to bed happy good luck guys find a woman who loves you and cares about what makes you happy as well as her!
i havnt really thought about this topic at all. my gf is supportive of me being a DJ(even tho im still a beginner). she even recommended me to one of her other friend thats a DJ too, but whenever i have a gig with a good friend of mine thats been my teacher at DJ'ing, she comes along not because of a jealously thing but more of supporting of what i do. i hope she continues to be this way when we're married haha=P
Hey man!! I think this is the "behind the scene" issue with some DJs. Thank you for sharing your point of view. I am one of those guys that turn in to DJing after been in a relationship.
The valid reason for jealousy. You need to take a long hard look at yourself and ask am I openly inviting attention from party-goers and sub-consciously getting myself into situations. If that's the case you need to consider why you are doing this even though you are in a relationship.
Being self employed is stressful in itself. I've had more anxiety attacks this year that I have ever had in my whole life. It's the fear of the unknown and you have to make a conscious effort to stop those gut wrenching emotions from taking over the moment they start. The best help you can get is the have someone behind you, believing in what you do. It inspires confidence and happiness, which what a DJ needs.
In return you give your partner the QT they deserve
If you're trying to juggle a steady job, DJ'ing and have a supporting role in a relationship, you need to set your priorities because you will make yourself ill trying to do all at the same time as not doing a good job at any of them.
Something has to give but it's only you and your moral integrity that will reach the right answer for you.
You've touched on a subject that has been in the papers and news recently, and that is having a good work/life balance. Being able to set aside and make time to live life and not worry about work is such a crucial thing. We all need to take a step back and see if there isn't a balance, we all need to move things around and get our lives in balance.
Perfect timin! ........I had to get my own apartment because my wife was so down on my passion!! ....The negativity she exuded towards my DJing was dragging me down and making me depressed! One thing nobody wants at there special party is a depressed DJ..............I agree with previous comments.......Your better off being alone and happy DJing then with someone who is so insecure and trys to make you into someone your not!!.....Much Thanx Brian.......Your awesome!!
Oh yes, I've been through the jealousy issue when I worked the clubs. I am/was a dance club dj, and had my home club and did not jump from one club to another. I knew my customers and they knew me. That's all it was. But the attention I would get made my partner quite upset. All I have to say is that I never did anything to make this person question my commitment to them. So, unfortunately, I continued being a dance club DJ, but as a single person.
This is my solution that works well for me, my wife doesnt like to go to alot of my gigs she will go from time to time, but i have a long time friend that is a female that my wife knows and trusts 100% with me. Now not saying she doesnt trust me alone, but i take this gal with me a lot cause she enjoys going along and just having her there many people think shes my girlfriend or wife and i dont have to deal with the other females nearly as much
Interesting topic. Johnny and I would love to cover this on the Crossfader Show. What if we get on the show the perspectives of the spouses, GF, BF and even Ex partners on the show. What do you think?
Brian you are such a stand up dude and an awesome guy, sorry you had to go through those tough times but it seems to have made you the better person for it!
I went out with two very jealous girlfriends both were not bad looking but very insecure when they knew I was working at a gig they would call me all night asking me what I was doing, they called me when I was on the Mic introducing wedding party or in the middle of the party when people were dancing telling me if there was any sexy women at the event. I know there are DJ's picking up women at the parties.
It all depends on what kind of relationship you have. Some don't mind the first thing that crosses your mind when you see a woman with a bangin' butt is to "bounce a quarter" off of it, as long as you come home with all your change still in your pocket. Others might be ready to divorce you for even thinking that.
In the end, she will support what you do becuz it's part of you. We work while others party. It has nothing to do with dj'ing, and everything to do with compatibility and character.
I will state for the record I have been a DJ since 1984, I still DJ, I have been divorced 5 times but never because of my DJ business I always take my female friend, wife, whatever with me and they become part of the business. I still have a girl friend I have NOT gotten married again in the last 11 years (smart move huh.)I never mix pleasure with business because it's bad for business keeping that in mind I have been able to stay a DJ all these years and I love every job I do. Good job Brian
bRIAN YOU ARE RIGHT ON POINT MY GIRL GOES WITH ON MY GIGS AND HELPS ME OUT TREMENDILY AND SHE HAS NO PROBLEM WITH IT,IN FACT SHE HELPS ME ADVERTISE MY DJ BUSINESS AND SHE THINKS ITS FUNNY WHEN THE OTHER WOMEN TRY TO HIT ON ME, WHEN IM WORKING AND IS NOT JELOUSE AT ALL SO VERY GO POINT YOU MADE BRIAN,VERY GOOD POINT.
its simple. If she cant understand your passion and love then dont even waste your time. Most women will say "your a dj, so you attract alot of hoes" which is true, LOL, but if you cant trust your man in those situations then What the hell are YOU doing?
Being a dj in a relationship is NOT easy. But there are ways to get around that jealousy. Show & Prove. Its easy, if you care and love her, then show her! Build that trust!! if she still doesn't get it then Move on! No need for the HEADACHE!
why do women try to change a man? my wife told me today after 14 years of marriage that she want's me out of the house because it is not working out.. when she partys every night most of the time never comming home. but I could not change that...
Great video Brian. You have to know where you are in your relationship. You have to have support. My fiancee is with me every karaoke show we do. She helps me set up for weddings and other events. The dj business was MY thing and now 5 years later it's OUR thing. We never cramp each other's style and we have a great time together. I couldn't be any happier.
I stopped DJ'n because of my girlfriend. She was upset because I would always be working on the weekend. She met me as a DJ so she knew what she was getting into. Another major problem was my radio show. I had to quit that as well because I would always be at the radio station doing my show.
Unfortunately this seems to be a problem with most DJ's and their partner.
I learned some wise words one time from a long time DJ of over 45yrs for a healthy relationship. There are 2 (invisible) hats. The husband/boyfriend/relationship/family hat, and a DJ/Business hat. This man would stop for 5sec at the door to his home and take off his DJ hat, and put on his relationship hat. This was a reminder to him to never mix work, with home life. This was a great little story I will never forget.
women and men shud get over their insecurities and stop fussing about stuff like "is he gonan cheat with me". It all comes from low self esteem me thinks. So: stop it.
Excellent point. This applies not only to DJing but in so many areas. Partners can become envious and resentful of who they are with if they are insecure with their own lives. Be aware of who you are at your core and never compromise that. There will always be someone out there who will appreciate and admire you for who you are. I'd rather be alone and happy with myself than in a relationship and miserable because I cannot be myself.
I started Djing after I got married and had a two kids. My wife has been very supportive and trusting. We have a very healthy relationship she only gets upset if I have gigs back to back or when I buy another piece of expensive gear lol. Sometimes it's hard but I try my best with a normal 8 to 5 job and my djing to spend quality time with my wife and kids because they are the most important me.
great video Brian!!!..I DJ as a sideline and I have brought my wife with me on occasions and now the problem I have is keeping all the intoxicated men away from my wife..double edge sword I guess..love the vids ..keep em' coming!!!
Great video Brian, indeed a good topic that DJ's would struggle with. I am lucky too that my wife knows I love this business and am happiest when DJing, and she can trust me. One of the keys is that the couple trust each other.
I agree with Brian in that a trust issue has much less to do with being a DJ as it does your relationship. Be mindful of what causes her concern and show that your into resolving this. (If you really want to.) Before packing it in make the time to have a long talk with her to try to get at the root of the problem. It's been my experience, that if you get her to talk about what's at the core of her concern, you'll find it's something much easier to deal with than you think. Hang in there!
Great stuff Brian..My wife has been to a few of my gigs and my grown up kids too..They actually said it was boring going to a gig with me to work because once the gig has started i am so busy,,working the playlist or sorting requests that I have no time to talk to them let alone flirt!
So true! I have always had my primary career and my secondary has always been being a DJ. I met my wife when I was DJing at a club. Fast-forward... upon asking her to marry me she stated that I must quit and never look back. How stupid was I?
I decided to resume DJing 11 years later, one more year after we are no longer together and not for the obvious reasons some may presume. Never once have I ever flirted much less cheated on her whether I was DJing, shopping or working out at the gym.
It's a trust issue always. If you are not a man to trust, then it's your fault and you might want to do something about that. You can show her that she can trust you and relie on you in everything you do, not only when you dj. If you are managing your time and staying on top of your relationship, like communicating and keeping honest, then you got nothing to worry about but for if she likes that..Like you said you gotta keep doing what you like, or whose going to like you if you dont like urself
Very well said Brian. I think this will help the younger guys a lot. I think more than half the time it all depends on your woman (or man). Sometimes they won't trust you regardless of what you do. Like you said, its easier going into a relationship already being what you are.
Very good subject Brian. Years ago I was working at the hottest club where I live. I had a good working relationship with the club, plus I had a few friends who came in there on a regular basis. I have always been very open with my friends. At the time, my girlfriend was with me, and she got very upset every time I hugged a gal at this club. One time she pushed her way in between me and another friend whom I've known for many years. I told her flat out not to ever get between me and my friends.
I was a strip club DJ for 16 years. I have always made it clear to EVERY girl that I am with that work must come first. If I date a girl that has a problem with that how I make a living, then they can go pound sand. Unless, they are willing to support me? But then again I do love what I do. I am retired from clubs and I only do mobile and I am very happy. I need to do for me, and my child first. If a girl is willing to be patient, I will make time. But not at the expense of my career.
hey brian - great video... I have been there before with past girlfreinds who did not like me DJ'n all night and every weekend and hanging around woman etc...
I am lucky to have a wife now that loves me and supports me and trusts me!
Hello Brian,
I am looking for a rechargeable Par can light. What do you suggest?
Thank you,
Lynn
flh8 1 year ago
. <3
SnakeNickkkk 1 year ago
Brian I just like to say that you nailed it with this one.I was having the same issues,but I decided to take her along to my sets.and just like I thought.she saw that I was behaving.and she got bored of going with me.-Dj tko
dmctimes2 1 year ago
If a guy's a douche bag, he's a douche bag if he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat. if the woman is insecure, well, then she is it's all doomed.
My ex used to freak out about it. I stopped for a good amount of time. It killed me not to be able to play music as a musician, DJ, and just be the all around entertainer.
Finding a woman with enough self security is hard as it is, but when you do, it'll be worth the wait.
RokDAWG1 1 year ago
I am in the minority here, as a female DJ, and I've also been married 13 years. My take on trust issues: If you're not doing something that warrants distrust, everything should be fine. A relationship between two people involves adult behavior, trust and equality. It is not about controlling another person's life. If you find yourself involved with someone who feels the need to control you, they have issues, and aren't ready to be in a relationship. The best thing to do is just get out.
Lefthandedbabe 1 year ago
you are so right i had the same thing happen in my Relationships with my girl friend of 11 years and i sed come out and see what i am doing and do not tell me when you are come so you see me doing my thing with out now your there to change me
then you will see.
Revsounddj 1 year ago
what kind of clamp do i use to mount a american dj dj spot 250 moving head....HELP!!
lightsaviators20 1 year ago
@lightsaviators20 just a normal licht clamp that holds the w8th
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andreasprenen 1 year ago
I am married for 7 years now. At first i think me DJing was a hidden problem for her becuase of jealousy issues. Now I was a Dj going in like you Brian but she was uncomfortable but didnt voice that to me until we had a big blowout about it and the truth came out. But with us sitting down and discussing her concerns we settled the dispute and its all good now. I think Relationship and Djing there has to be an understanding from the start. definate good communication is needed. Agree ???
DJTonyRaw 1 year ago
i have one thing to say on this brain,
if the man/woman loves you and wants to make the relationship, they should be able to trust you..they would trust you..but men/women should not take advantage of they and need to keep to there word!!
only thing i have to say on this subject..
thank you
-alec
alecs12222 1 year ago
Every girl I have even bean with I have met while DJing because its when I am happiest and my current relationship (about a year and a half) I met her at a friends party while DJing =) she teases me about having numbers scribled on my hands but they get washed off and we both go to bed happy good luck guys find a woman who loves you and cares about what makes you happy as well as her!
djfritzentertainment 1 year ago
my wife and I have an understanding, she is fine with the DJing as long as it doesn't lead to me DJing at strip clubs.
nbrska222 1 year ago
Great vid =)
i havnt really thought about this topic at all. my gf is supportive of me being a DJ(even tho im still a beginner). she even recommended me to one of her other friend thats a DJ too, but whenever i have a gig with a good friend of mine thats been my teacher at DJ'ing, she comes along not because of a jealously thing but more of supporting of what i do. i hope she continues to be this way when we're married haha=P
mexkid666 1 year ago
Hey man!! I think this is the "behind the scene" issue with some DJs. Thank you for sharing your point of view. I am one of those guys that turn in to DJing after been in a relationship.
CharlesCasiano 1 year ago
Great video love the subject
bigdaddyproductions1 1 year ago
i lovee djing at after partiess , girls love DJs :D
elconejoperez1 1 year ago
1st up:
The valid reason for jealousy. You need to take a long hard look at yourself and ask am I openly inviting attention from party-goers and sub-consciously getting myself into situations. If that's the case you need to consider why you are doing this even though you are in a relationship.
VVooDz 1 year ago
2nd:
the non-valid reason.
Being self employed is stressful in itself. I've had more anxiety attacks this year that I have ever had in my whole life. It's the fear of the unknown and you have to make a conscious effort to stop those gut wrenching emotions from taking over the moment they start. The best help you can get is the have someone behind you, believing in what you do. It inspires confidence and happiness, which what a DJ needs.
In return you give your partner the QT they deserve
VVooDz 1 year ago
Finally:
If you're trying to juggle a steady job, DJ'ing and have a supporting role in a relationship, you need to set your priorities because you will make yourself ill trying to do all at the same time as not doing a good job at any of them.
Something has to give but it's only you and your moral integrity that will reach the right answer for you.
VVooDz 1 year ago
First and foremost Wavey Davey and Blanca Rock!
You've touched on a subject that has been in the papers and news recently, and that is having a good work/life balance. Being able to set aside and make time to live life and not worry about work is such a crucial thing. We all need to take a step back and see if there isn't a balance, we all need to move things around and get our lives in balance.
jasperibe 1 year ago
Perfect timin! ........I had to get my own apartment because my wife was so down on my passion!! ....The negativity she exuded towards my DJing was dragging me down and making me depressed! One thing nobody wants at there special party is a depressed DJ..............I agree with previous comments.......Your better off being alone and happy DJing then with someone who is so insecure and trys to make you into someone your not!!.....Much Thanx Brian.......Your awesome!!
mrstevieray16 1 year ago
LOL i met my wife while i was DJing. she asked me out .
A1partydjs 1 year ago
thats one deep topic bro...
good video!
DJNAVENDU 1 year ago
Oh yes, I've been through the jealousy issue when I worked the clubs. I am/was a dance club dj, and had my home club and did not jump from one club to another. I knew my customers and they knew me. That's all it was. But the attention I would get made my partner quite upset. All I have to say is that I never did anything to make this person question my commitment to them. So, unfortunately, I continued being a dance club DJ, but as a single person.
djben1977 1 year ago
great advice bri :)
patrickman123 1 year ago
This is my solution that works well for me, my wife doesnt like to go to alot of my gigs she will go from time to time, but i have a long time friend that is a female that my wife knows and trusts 100% with me. Now not saying she doesnt trust me alone, but i take this gal with me a lot cause she enjoys going along and just having her there many people think shes my girlfriend or wife and i dont have to deal with the other females nearly as much
tomobilemusic 1 year ago
Interesting topic. Johnny and I would love to cover this on the Crossfader Show. What if we get on the show the perspectives of the spouses, GF, BF and even Ex partners on the show. What do you think?
CrossfaderShow 1 year ago 2
@CrossfaderShow Sounds like a good episode to me!
briansredd 1 year ago 2
Brian you are such a stand up dude and an awesome guy, sorry you had to go through those tough times but it seems to have made you the better person for it!
Blairw85 1 year ago
I went out with two very jealous girlfriends both were not bad looking but very insecure when they knew I was working at a gig they would call me all night asking me what I was doing, they called me when I was on the Mic introducing wedding party or in the middle of the party when people were dancing telling me if there was any sexy women at the event. I know there are DJ's picking up women at the parties.
partyspecialists 1 year ago
It all depends on what kind of relationship you have. Some don't mind the first thing that crosses your mind when you see a woman with a bangin' butt is to "bounce a quarter" off of it, as long as you come home with all your change still in your pocket. Others might be ready to divorce you for even thinking that.
In the end, she will support what you do becuz it's part of you. We work while others party. It has nothing to do with dj'ing, and everything to do with compatibility and character.
BOBBYBLENDZ 1 year ago
I will state for the record I have been a DJ since 1984, I still DJ, I have been divorced 5 times but never because of my DJ business I always take my female friend, wife, whatever with me and they become part of the business. I still have a girl friend I have NOT gotten married again in the last 11 years (smart move huh.)I never mix pleasure with business because it's bad for business keeping that in mind I have been able to stay a DJ all these years and I love every job I do. Good job Brian
davethedj98 1 year ago
bRIAN YOU ARE RIGHT ON POINT MY GIRL GOES WITH ON MY GIGS AND HELPS ME OUT TREMENDILY AND SHE HAS NO PROBLEM WITH IT,IN FACT SHE HELPS ME ADVERTISE MY DJ BUSINESS AND SHE THINKS ITS FUNNY WHEN THE OTHER WOMEN TRY TO HIT ON ME, WHEN IM WORKING AND IS NOT JELOUSE AT ALL SO VERY GO POINT YOU MADE BRIAN,VERY GOOD POINT.
jraymond1000 1 year ago
its simple. If she cant understand your passion and love then dont even waste your time. Most women will say "your a dj, so you attract alot of hoes" which is true, LOL, but if you cant trust your man in those situations then What the hell are YOU doing?
Being a dj in a relationship is NOT easy. But there are ways to get around that jealousy. Show & Prove. Its easy, if you care and love her, then show her! Build that trust!! if she still doesn't get it then Move on! No need for the HEADACHE!
BoiJeanius 1 year ago
why do women try to change a man? my wife told me today after 14 years of marriage that she want's me out of the house because it is not working out.. when she partys every night most of the time never comming home. but I could not change that...
estebonlouder 1 year ago
respect :)
BigMilan 1 year ago
Great video Brian. You have to know where you are in your relationship. You have to have support. My fiancee is with me every karaoke show we do. She helps me set up for weddings and other events. The dj business was MY thing and now 5 years later it's OUR thing. We never cramp each other's style and we have a great time together. I couldn't be any happier.
Neckwerk2 1 year ago
Hey Brian,
I stopped DJ'n because of my girlfriend. She was upset because I would always be working on the weekend. She met me as a DJ so she knew what she was getting into. Another major problem was my radio show. I had to quit that as well because I would always be at the radio station doing my show.
Unfortunately this seems to be a problem with most DJ's and their partner.
mlo83 1 year ago
I learned some wise words one time from a long time DJ of over 45yrs for a healthy relationship. There are 2 (invisible) hats. The husband/boyfriend/relationship/family hat, and a DJ/Business hat. This man would stop for 5sec at the door to his home and take off his DJ hat, and put on his relationship hat. This was a reminder to him to never mix work, with home life. This was a great little story I will never forget.
~DJ Bo~
djboentertainment 1 year ago 10
@djboentertainment : Great idea for getting a grip on this! I'll try to remember that! Never take home you work...
harlekinFFM 1 year ago
women and men shud get over their insecurities and stop fussing about stuff like "is he gonan cheat with me". It all comes from low self esteem me thinks. So: stop it.
sanmal88 1 year ago
thats y i always take my girl with me wen i do a gig
djpipotheoriginal 1 year ago
@djpipotheoriginal no offense but not a good business move, promoters will def not want to deal with a dj that ALWAYS come with baggage. you get me?
BoiJeanius 1 year ago
@BoiJeanius well shes the one that help me with the stuff that i take shes more like my jop partner we do a 50/50
djpipotheoriginal 1 year ago
Excellent point. This applies not only to DJing but in so many areas. Partners can become envious and resentful of who they are with if they are insecure with their own lives. Be aware of who you are at your core and never compromise that. There will always be someone out there who will appreciate and admire you for who you are. I'd rather be alone and happy with myself than in a relationship and miserable because I cannot be myself.
jeffnice1 1 year ago
I started Djing after I got married and had a two kids. My wife has been very supportive and trusting. We have a very healthy relationship she only gets upset if I have gigs back to back or when I buy another piece of expensive gear lol. Sometimes it's hard but I try my best with a normal 8 to 5 job and my djing to spend quality time with my wife and kids because they are the most important me.
irgarza52 1 year ago
great video Brian!!!..I DJ as a sideline and I have brought my wife with me on occasions and now the problem I have is keeping all the intoxicated men away from my wife..double edge sword I guess..love the vids ..keep em' coming!!!
organisedkonfusion 1 year ago
Great video Brian, indeed a good topic that DJ's would struggle with. I am lucky too that my wife knows I love this business and am happiest when DJing, and she can trust me. One of the keys is that the couple trust each other.
uptownxpress 1 year ago
Great video Brian
DJMIKEYB1000 1 year ago
I agree with Brian in that a trust issue has much less to do with being a DJ as it does your relationship. Be mindful of what causes her concern and show that your into resolving this. (If you really want to.) Before packing it in make the time to have a long talk with her to try to get at the root of the problem. It's been my experience, that if you get her to talk about what's at the core of her concern, you'll find it's something much easier to deal with than you think. Hang in there!
jcaustin2 1 year ago
Best way to go steady with your cash is not to go steady with the girls.
Ancient fact.
AppA 1 year ago
get stuck in lads you always feel sick if your true then find out they cheating on you
DjGizzo 1 year ago
WOW GREAT,GREAT SUBJECT GREAT VIDEO POST!!!!!
melpol2005 1 year ago
A House Divided cannot stand it comes with the territory!
DJENTERTAINMENT4LESS 1 year ago
Great stuff Brian..My wife has been to a few of my gigs and my grown up kids too..They actually said it was boring going to a gig with me to work because once the gig has started i am so busy,,working the playlist or sorting requests that I have no time to talk to them let alone flirt!
burtiefusion 1 year ago
So true! I have always had my primary career and my secondary has always been being a DJ. I met my wife when I was DJing at a club. Fast-forward... upon asking her to marry me she stated that I must quit and never look back. How stupid was I?
I decided to resume DJing 11 years later, one more year after we are no longer together and not for the obvious reasons some may presume. Never once have I ever flirted much less cheated on her whether I was DJing, shopping or working out at the gym.
RudeDog66 1 year ago
It's a trust issue always. If you are not a man to trust, then it's your fault and you might want to do something about that. You can show her that she can trust you and relie on you in everything you do, not only when you dj. If you are managing your time and staying on top of your relationship, like communicating and keeping honest, then you got nothing to worry about but for if she likes that..Like you said you gotta keep doing what you like, or whose going to like you if you dont like urself
djmakerz 1 year ago
yea i dont have a girle friend in like 7 years so dont have anny problems with that
ljmike1204 1 year ago
Very well said Brian. I think this will help the younger guys a lot. I think more than half the time it all depends on your woman (or man). Sometimes they won't trust you regardless of what you do. Like you said, its easier going into a relationship already being what you are.
Giggity2007 1 year ago
Great video.
d2tminc 1 year ago
good video
djjade214 1 year ago
Very good subject Brian. Years ago I was working at the hottest club where I live. I had a good working relationship with the club, plus I had a few friends who came in there on a regular basis. I have always been very open with my friends. At the time, my girlfriend was with me, and she got very upset every time I hugged a gal at this club. One time she pushed her way in between me and another friend whom I've known for many years. I told her flat out not to ever get between me and my friends.
rollingthunderdj 1 year ago
hey man been a while but this video is awesome and i had to stop and tell ya , nothing but love man
rickremixx 1 year ago
i can't understand why you'd want to being in a relationship and be a dj. one of the primary reasons i started spinning was to get girls hahaha.
cool vid.
PsychedelicVideos 1 year ago
your cool man thanks for the advice ..
TheKevingranillo 1 year ago
I was a strip club DJ for 16 years. I have always made it clear to EVERY girl that I am with that work must come first. If I date a girl that has a problem with that how I make a living, then they can go pound sand. Unless, they are willing to support me? But then again I do love what I do. I am retired from clubs and I only do mobile and I am very happy. I need to do for me, and my child first. If a girl is willing to be patient, I will make time. But not at the expense of my career.
djprodigypat 1 year ago
Great Video Brian!
LilRichards2 1 year ago
hey brian - great video... I have been there before with past girlfreinds who did not like me DJ'n all night and every weekend and hanging around woman etc...
I am lucky to have a wife now that loves me and supports me and trusts me!
naveen4nse 1 year ago
@naveen4nse
just wanted to let you know I didn't mean to thumbs down your comment but my little one kick my arm and I hit it by accident.
DJrepublicnf 1 year ago
nICE VIDEO
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directsound 1 year ago
Great video! Very true
Snowboarder12109 1 year ago