Food Pushers? Divas of the world unite!

[Moz2921]

Hi, Mattie! I'm from the Philippines and I adore your videos. I'm 48 and want to stay glamorous forever, like you always say. I've been losing weight by counting calories and it's really hard when people push food on me. Or sometimes when they ask me to eat out with them. Honestly, dieting and eating out, even at a fancy restaurant, just don't go together. Usually, it's the plump people who push food at you. They can't stand to diet, so they feel uncomfortable watching you eat only a little.

[0Living0]

That is so true my husband did the same to me .he says he likes my body like it is, but he made me gain weight try for guys don't look at me now im trying to loss 30p. And im only 4'11 .. He dont wont me to be small agine .hope i can loss it :)

[screaminlisa]

LOL @ family...you're kind of stuck with them...

so true!

[litteringGlitter]

and it blows my mind how some people don't consider a diet of fruits, vegetables, and lean whole foods healthy. it's a cultural thing, i think, how most of us were brought up with the wrong attitudes towards food, which is a hard thing to break unfortunately, and most older people have lived that way so long and are "too far gone" anyways to really bother trying to turn that around... very frusterating for the people that are determined to do so to be around people like that at mealtimes

[litteringGlitter]

sooooo many gals can relate to this kind of thing, but that fact alone is a helpful thing to keep in mind. solidary ladies! i get this kind of thing from my mum, mother in- law, grandmother... i always wondered why they would have a problem with me trying to be healthy AND skinny, since they're the people that are supposed to love and support me. it's like some people don't understand that it IS possible to be healthy and skinny at the same time, as long as you FEEL good and eat well...

[ClassicContent]

Hahaha this is soo true!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[supbraahh]

My co workers always try and make me eat cookies and junk food and then I feel so bloated. :| I'mnot gonna let them push food at me amymore. ^_^

[MrHollick]

I have no trouble with others trying to get me off track, now if I can just figure out how not to push food on myself :)

[NoraDlist]

You're right Mattie sometimes our own family members can be "passive aggressive" with the food pushing, sadly I find I have to stay away from them for a while just to achieve my weight loss goals. So far I've been doing good sticking to mostly raw food smoothies during the day and a sensible meal in the evening. So far I've dropped 23 pounds. :)

[MattieRobertsShow]

@gavindeion Night shift work can wreak havoc on your system, so you need to be as supportive of your adrenal and immune system as you can. I still think Mark Sisson's Primal Blueprint is the ne plus ultra of diets. Get the book...I put it on my Kindle so I can refer to it anytime on my phone. Snacks should be high protein and above all else avoid sugary, high carb, high starch snacks. I have a video on snacks, check it out.

[ssignaturepink]

New york is the HARDEST city to stay skinny. Friends are always wanting to go out to eat or order in. Drinking makes it even harder. My friends drink almost every night of the week, and it sucks when they want to party and I just don't want the extra calories from the 1,000 calorie $3 margarita, they look at me like I'm nuts.

[MattieRobertsShow]

@ssignaturepink I hear you! What a waste of 1000 calories. Instead opt for a glass of white wine and add ice to it or go for light beer if it's a divey joint without decent wine. Better yet, don't feel pressured to drink every time you go out with your friends. We all know the old saw: If they are pressuring you to do something you don't want to do are they really your friends?

[marythestewardess]

Oh Matti, what a timely video. I really needed to hear this sage advice of yours. You're in the very place you need to be with these videos you do. Thank you! for being so supportive and sustaining and loving to your subscribers. We love you back : )

[gamba21girl]

When I was losing weight I went to a diet support group. People there were very resentful of skinny people, so one session the dietitian who ran these meetings talked about "how skinny people think": watching what you eat, planning, etc. Once I started thinkging like a skinny person- I became skinny. So if anyone pushes food at me- I can always say: "Thanks, but I have reached my calorie count for today". Thanks Mattie for all your help! Lots of love from Israel. P.S. Saw you on "White Collar".

[MattieRobertsShow]

@gamba21girl What a great comment. A wonderful way to approach weight loss...think your way skinny!

[emmybeets]

MATTIE :) thank you soo much for making this video :D it means the world to me! sorry im responding so late. this really is amazing.

[MAC2890]

Thank you so much for this. I've had food allergies/sensitivities since 1994, way back before this problem was as widespread as it is now. I've heard all kinds of things such as "It's all in your head" (said by a PhD chemist). What has helped me the most in resisting the food pushers is learning about our ancestral diet as humans (you have discussed this your other videos re the primal diet). My favorite book on this subject is Leben Ohne Brot (Life Without Bread).

[smarin17]

RD says: Once again you are correct. Sadly, I always warn people I counsel to lose weight that they need to be ready to have people become threatened by their achievements. These people, who may be a friend, a parent, a sister, a husband, are simply reminded by your achievement that they too should try to achieve a healthy weight. Some will realize it and admire you and want to learn from you; others will despise your will power-it's sad but a fact of weight loss. Stick to your guns!

[rachbartley58]

Oh.. ahaha not that i haven't written a novel already.. but this post, or the last 5 are from Michigan, USA

[rachbartley58]

When I used to experiment with different things I'd eat, i obviously dropped some weight (even though I was never ever heavy), and some of my family would say, "you're eating like a little bird." "What are you watching your weight for, you're too skinny already." It's comments like that, that drive people over the edge. Mattie had made a comment that you're stuck with family well, i finally said enough is enough and i completely stopped talking to them. It's been almost 2 yrs now. And I'm happy.

[rachbartley58]

It took me awhile to get to this point too. I love chocolate. I love sweets. But when I was young and growing up, we didn't have sweets like that in the house. It was only on special occasions or holidays so I said I'm going to start that in my household. Every single night, you do not have to have dessert. It would be nice, but it's not realistic. I'm not looking to be a size zero, I am a 2. I am comfortable in my own skin. Sometimes I just wish my family would see that.

[GingaSlappa1]

@rachbartley58 Good for you! Making that a daily habit and the "norm" means that it will be routine and you won't have to worry about type 2 diabetes when you get to be your grammy's age. Don't worry about your grammy and how she looks at what your doing. It's foreign to her & I'm sure had she had the chance to do the same thing to prevent what she's going through with her diabetes, she'd do the very same thing! Way to go for you! Never apologize to anyone for doing the right thing. Ever!

[rachbartley58]

sometimes she can be extremely pushy with things and I felt horrible about myself when I left her house. My husband felt so bad for me but what am i going to do? My grandma suffer from type 2 diabetes and I will not go through some of the things that she does, so i look on every label (if im eating anything processed) and i check to make sure that im not adding any extra added sugar to my diet. If its in the ingredients, i won't eat it. Might sound crazy to some people but it worked for me.

[rachbartley58]

I actually just went up to my grandparents house for a weekend with my husband I just recently changed my diet dramatically. I've been having bad dizzy spells every since high school (I'm 24) and I've changed my diet all around many times just to experiment with what works and what doesn't. My grandma was so disgusted with how i was eating i felt ashamed. I was really upset when I left her house because I ended up eating the things that she wanted me to eat. I love my grandma but..

[silenceophobe]

I went to a diner with my guy friend where most of the food is junk. I ordered a side of tomatoes (I LOVE them). He flipped out and called me an anorexic (I'd lost weight after trying to make healthy decisions!). I ordered a plate of french fries to get him to stop making a scene, but when we left I told him that my food decisions were mine and he was incredibly immature to throw a tantrum over a plate of veggies. Weirdly enough, I decline most of his invites to hang out now.

[MattieRobertsShow]

@silenceophobe OMG...the guy is a nut! You just hang in there with the healthy habits that make you feel good and you'll attract a whole new set of fun, supportive friends. What a drama queen :P And you keep up the good work!!

[GingaSlappa1]

@silenceophobe Good for you for making the decisions that show you love your body and in the long run, you'll come to know guys who will see that and appreciate it. I promise! To thine own self be true and if they don't understand it, they aren't worth the time!

[prettyinholland]

I hate when people say: "you can eat anything because you are so skinny". Well, if I ate just anything, I wouldn't be skinny, duh!!

[MattieRobertsShow]

@prettyinholland So true...happens to me ALL the time! If they only knew how much work it takes -- but so worth it to be healthy and feel good about myself. Stay true to yourself!

[princesssugarplumz]

My parents have friends that are like that. "Don't you want the BBQ ribs? Don't you want more potato salad? This cheesecake is amazing don't you want some?!"

They're foodies, far from health conscious, and very un-supportive. It's a chore eating dinner with them. How many ways can I say "I'm trying to be good to my body and not be battling my weight later in life like you two are" without *actually* saying that? Ugh.

USA.

[szenad2]

@princesssugarplumz it makes it harder when they are friends of the family, because then it sounds rude.

[MattieRobertsShow]

@szenad2 Even so, just kill 'em with kindness. It is hard with folks like that -- just keep on smiling through gritted teeth...and perhaps you'll start having "dinner plans" so you won't have to eat with them...just visit a bit and leave!

[Bunzypoo]

Very true.

[Sadowianka]

my polish grandma does not accept a no when it comes to eating.never. we visit her once a year and i always gain some 4 pounds when i come back...

[rachbartley58]

It took my yrs to get to this point but I finally got comfortable in my own skin and said "No" to my family for the first time in a long time. I'm not afraid to tell my family no, or stop talking about me, or just love me for me. You can't be afraid of that. My grandma lives up north, about 3 or more hrs away and i really don't get to see her but she will get literally disgusted and makes sighs or something when i look at a label on a box. It bothers me so bad but i dont let her get to me now..

[heirloomessentials]

Sometimes a gal has to smile sweetly & stick to her guns! If that doesn't work, turn the tables, show up with a veggie tray and say "I think you should eat this!"

[GingaSlappa1]

I'm trying to eat better but I'm a picky eater AND a diabetic. The mother-in-law actually had the nerve to say to me once "I can't believe you have the extra weight that you do given you're such a picky eater". All I could do was stare at her in disbelief. Sometimes to preserve the peace it's best to smile and walk away.

[rachbartley58]

@GingaSlappa1 .. ahh the mother n' laws.. im sad to say, i was not blessed with the nicest one. We've had our brawls but i've learned that if something she has said is really stuck under my skin, i will be adult enough about it and i will end up saying something, but in a respectful way. It took me 2 1/2 yrs to get to that point. I'm pretty passive aggressive so instead of just ignoring someone, i will let them know what's bothering me. They won't know unless you speak up. 

[history546]

this happens a lot. "I'll feel better if you have something now" or "eat this the same time as me"

[Scoot980]

so true. My boyfriend and mother does this all the time.

[FashionAplenty]

You said it sister! I am always in this situation and can never get out of it. One of my aunts even claimed that I hate food which I don't. Also, it feels awkward when you are persistent in refusing...it gives off a negative vibe...

- Mariam

[DebraMadonna66]

Omg that is so true..great topic,

[annaked]

I live in the south so I have to always say "no thank you" to the food here.