"The most important thing" is appreciating you. He can be ready + still be doing his thing. What's important is abstaining, demand his attention w/out your legs open + so on...
Soooo IDK why this has any dislikes! because it's real shit and it's the stuff that I have decided to be on. The whole time I was just shaking my head in agreeance!! Wisdom is soooo damn sexy so I got a lil hot watching this BAHAHA but good shit!
ok, question. say you really like a guy. but you're really sexually frustrated, can you go have sex with a guy you don't give a shit about while not having sex with the guy you like? coz that would stop you fucking things up with the guy you want..
@TheBgoz If you just gotta get some then I say HELL yeah, do it with someone who you don't care about and do not have sex with the guy whom you like until you guys get into a committed relationship....but real talk! why not just watch a flick, make yourself cum and go to bed???? because if the guy finds out that you banged somebody else and he is NOT getting any then that's a deal breaker.
Its funny how men say that women should keep their legs closed which is a very very good thing by the way, but when a woman doesn't give it up within a month its a problem for him
An old woman once told me that there are two things men want from women, and thats sex and food........so I guess If a chick cooks for a dude then he'll see her as more then just a sex partner lol......but at the end of the day sex is mandatory right?
the more u feed the male ego with how good of a woman u r hes only gunna get more conceited and feel like hes the sht, and u aint goin nowhere cause u begging n feenin to b with him so it really dont matter if ur the perfect independant woman cooking cleaning he still gunna cheat n take forever to commit, if a man wants to wife u he will theres really nothing u can do cant force either that will push him away, just leave hes ass he will b begging if her cares
Until women stop feeding black male egos, you'll be chasing these dudes like that hamster on that wheel in a cage. First of all, most of these dudes aren't concerned about their own future, much less leading that of a future family. So, they use THIS (among many others) excuse as to why you aren't good enough to marry -- BUT, don't fooled! They are afraid of manning up and being a leader in this society, and this is one of the many excuses they use @ the expense of your freedom to be happy.
A man stringing you along with 3 or 4 other women is doing what he wants to be doing. We have to raise our standards. The Bible says A MAN who FINDS a wife, finds a GOOD thing. So why in the world would a man need a woman to convince him of that? Any man worth your future has already evaluated HIS future needs, and what his future will be like. As well as the qualities of a woman who'll fit in it. It's not a woman's job to make a man be comfortable being a man. That should be nature.
@imcafeaulait If you're a woman who has been in a relationship with a man for 4-5 years plus and hasn't seen a ring yet it's because he's getting everything he wants out of marriage w/o the percieved stress of marriage. As a man, If a girl cooked, cleaned, sexed me right every night, and I knew she wasn't going anywhere!?!?! she aint never going to see that ring. "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free".
@FitnessGuru1988 Which takes me right back 2 my original point. PLANNING. A man who has plotted on a successful future, is READY 2 find a suitable wife and lead a family. Sure there's always uncertainties in life, but he's CLEAR on what he wants, and knows he'll be made better w/a GOOD wife and family. He's past trying 2 see how much he can get over w/on some woman that he's 'shackin' w/. Dude I'm talking about is on a mission 2 complete his life, and has a LONG-TERM vision of it.
This dude is ok. But, he acts as if men have so many options and women are so desperate to get a man. First of all, a man may have 3 or 4 women in his corner, but whose to say any of those women are some good? Its not about quanity. Its about quality. In my opinion single men and single women are in the same boat. Yes, men can call up a woman and get sex anytime they want, BUT what makes you think the chick you called is only doing you? QUALITY, is what's important. A real man knows that.
@prettyLibra2010 I hear you but a little boy doesn't grow up with aspirations of getting married, thats for girls. Even hypothecally if the girl is also sleeping with other men, he doesn't care because once a man catagorizes a woman as a jumpoff, her whereabouts and her endeavors aren't his concern as long as he gets his. A man and a woman's goals aren't the same.
i guess i'd rather be single, or find a man that isnt mentally handicapped by his big head and cock. cuz im not gonna waste my youth beating any ignorant SOB's head in when he don't deserve what he could have had in the first place. love is suppose to be equal and it will be with whomever i marry and the dumb SOB that lost me, lost his daughter too cuz there aint no way i'm letting my child be raised by an ignorant selfcentered B!TCH that cant see the value of a human being, not even his child's
i like th video alot, most guys i have come across think i am a bitch because i have my whole life figured out and am too independent for their liking, but thank God i finally met a man who isnt intimidated by my over confidence.thanks for the video, keep up te good work.
i like th video alot, most guys i have come across think i am a bitch because i have my whole life figured out and am too independent for their liking, but thank God i finally met a man who isnt intimidated by my over confidence.thanks for the video, keep up te good work.
@missykris001 Independence is contradictory of relationships. When I hear independent, I hear self-sufficient, and if that is the case, Why do you need me for. Whatever the reason for entering the relationship, love, financial, sexual, there is a need that is looking to be met. As a man, I've never have been intimidated of a woman's "success" but turned off by the arrogance that usually comes with it. I don't care whether you make more than me or not, play your role, if not kick rocks.
ok so iver been with this guy but i jus want him 4 the sex but hes like talkhin about the future and i dont c myself with him long term but i wanna have him now even if i like dating other guys at the same time so how do i let him no i don want long term but i want him here now without hurting his feelings
I don't know if you're still making videos, but I would really like to commend you on putting in effort to communicate with women. Thanks to your talk I have been abstinent going on over a year and I see a major difference in men I use to date versus the men I date now. It's a whole different ball game when sex is not involved and you really do get more respect from the men you encounter. Keep spreading the word brother!
i live in uk and i have seen a few of your videos and am wondering why this guy doesnt have a show his knowledge and inner insight along with his analogy is spot on
this video is saying how it is , you know women do have to make sure they are seen as someting beyond sexual beings and not rushed to quicky into giving sex, the fact of the matter men are very sexually orientated but as a women who has the goal that he wants to conquer you have to hold out til he sees you as someting more
Good vid. Very true! I respect a girl MUCH more if she makes me wait for sex. However I gotta say this video got a little awkward when you were talking all quiet in the black and gray parts... and I'm by myself. LOL but regardless, good video, you made a lot of good points. MORE WOMEN SHOULD LISTEN TO WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY, THAT WAY THEY DON'T KEEP GeTTING PLAYED BY GUYS.
im glad you have such open opinions on the reality that men think about sex first and foremost.. but im glad also that you ACTUALLY seem to respect women and how they feel aswell rather than having this one sides opinion
I am a gay man, but does anyone else find this as BS.. making it seem like ya'll stankin balled asses are worth women's time..this is for desperate females, not the ones who own their life and have men wanting them as their wifey more then she wants him as a hubby.. wake up and get real
Why does this video claim it is no longer available when I try to play it? I thought this video was excellent and now I am angry I can't share it with my younger cousins who need to hear a man's perspective on this topic!
i have a question? i know your vids are geared towards women, but im wondering...hw come men like you (obviously very intelligent & articulate) nvr seem to make videos telling men to keep it zipped & have more respect from THEMSELVES? All this, "men have the disease of horniness" stuff is really kinda demeaning to men. It makes it seem like men are no better than animals who cannot control themselves. Perhaps if MEN were taught to respect their OWN bodies, some of these issues would be resolved.
I get the biological imperatives of human sexuality. I GET IT. but arent we, as humans, more than just our biology? just like we have learned to have manners, cooperate socially, form societies & other behaviors that are indicative of higher thinking, cant we expect better from ourselves when it comes to sexuality? Cant we teach BOTH Men & women to to have self respect & respect for our bodies? When will men finally take the position of TRUE leadership & exhibit control over themselves?
I find it to be so interesting that all you ever hear is men claiming that males are the natural leaders. But when it comes to sexuality, they simply cant control themselves? Yes, women should exercise patience, discernment & wisdom when engaging sexually. But "holding out" so that HE will respect her, is only playing games. She should exercise good judgment as an extension of her feminine STRENGTH, not to ward off male weakness. Women need to own their sexuality & express it with SELF love.
As long as sex is seen as someting that a woman "gives" to a man, & not something that she, herself needs, then it will always be imbalanced. There will alwys be games of manipulation, power & control, with one sex trying to out-maneuver the other. Is the male ego SO fragile, that he simply cannot respect the power of female sexuality? Is her being a "Good Girl", w/o sexual needs of her own, the only way he can respect her? What is it about the male psyche that lends to his being so insecure?
Female selfrespect shouldnt be determined by the behavior of males. it has to start frm deep within...with her KNOWING tht she is not jst a body, not jst a vagina. To use her body as a bartering tool, in exchange for emotional validation from men, will always lead to problems. Young girls shud be taught from birth, their true value, nt just as a way to keep men in line. Sexual discretion should not be a manipulation tactic. A Woman should exercise her RIGHT to DECIDE based on HER needs, not his.
woah there...I'm afraid that behavior on both sides can't be stopped. I don't know what it is, and there are people who set a good example for human kind. As much as you and I dislike lack of self control/respect, and plain old brain-power, I don't see this ending, and I may have even stopped trying to help. So I'm sorry.
It is amazing to me at how many women in my age group (18-25) do not know this. I guess I was blessed to have my father beat this into my head, but everyone isn't so fortunate. I'm going to make sure I send this to all the women I know who needs to see this.
I'm not quite sure, I've received a few emails asking if I have removed it, which of coarse I have not. But when I check it, everything works fine. Either way I'll repost it, just to be sure.
Its a shame that males cannot see females for what they are beyond sex, because as a female I think we want to have sex just as much as any guy- so we end up suppressing our present desires (sex) b?c once we do men will no longer see us as a whole person smh....damn shame.
It's not really about supressing it. We have to get to a mindstate where your urges don't control your every move. It seems hard now because in your mind it's all about the sex. (not say you in particular I'm just speaking in general)
@ESS330 its a sad reality but i mean bein 2 the fact that sex is about as deep as it goes then i think that both sides can and realli should wait because unless they're both just some deep and mature individuals then doing that prematurely is onli gonna lead women down that same deadend path they been goin down 4 so long and is onli contributing 2 the growing number of males seriously living with tha bad habit of havin booty calls...jus somethin 2 think about...respect
@ESS330 "It's a shame that males cannot see females for what they are beyond sex" It's also a shame some woman can't see men beyond their sneakers, cars, jewerly, and bank accounts. We all want to be accepted for who we are and what we believe but just as I must bare my "how much you make/what whip you pushing" cross, you have to bare your GOD DAMN, LOOK AT THAT ASS cross.
@FitnessGuru1988 thats true but at least a woman can hold a conversation with a man without trying to have sex with him or only see him as just a sex object
@ESS330 Completely agreed, I feel the same way. I feel men use the sex thing as an excuse. We have as big a need (sexually) as men do. I really wouldnt fancy massarging a mans ego. If he whips his wotsits out, then what does that tell you about that man? The way I see it is If a woman wants wants a man to be long term then the no go sign is if he's trying to get in there with her for sex forst time around..it goes both ways!
@ESS330 he way I see it is If a woman wants wants a man to be long term then the no go sign is if he's trying to get in there with her for sex first time around..it goes both ways! Its bollocks, its tho as if a woman has to go out her way to please a man! It goes both ways!
Hi! I'm a new subscriber and I just want to say that your videos are awesome! It is truly refreshing to hear a man be helpful and at the same time real(Also you are sexy). I'm a woman who likes to hear it as it is, not how you think I want to hear it with my "sensitive ears". This video in particular hit home with me because I've been single for a long time, but I've definitely had sex with a few guys I liked, wondering why I never made it to the next level! Thanks for your advice!
T, you fuckin rock, this topic hits the nail on da head. i would like to ask u a couple questions myself but im new to this youtube thing and i dont know how to email u
Women keep your legs closed to get respect but peep this, a guy knows which woman he wants to make his wifey and which one his bootycall. the vibe matters.If she delays sex matter but only if the guy wants to take the relationship further. This guy is confusing women. You can close your legs for months, a year but if a guy really really wants to sex you he's gonna persist. If he's hoping for some he'll move on.A guy will play along and be what you want till he gets it simple.I'm a guy.
Before 4:30 you said that if we choose to sleep with a guy (while he is with 2 other women who are sleeping with him) then we deserve the same treatment; not getting his attention (except for a bootycall). Now, I appreciate all of your videos and are grateful that you are taking the time to share this information. At the same time though, I disagree with the whole "deserve" thing. If a women wants to have sex with a man, she can do so. I know that you would probably agree. I guess I just cont.
don't like the idea that women do not have a chance relationship wise with a man if they choose to sleep with him sooner than later.
All these thoughts are going through my mind right now. Like, women do have to work harder to find someone. And, this whole way that a man works seems more like a woman has to please him in order to get him. I hate generalizations. I think that is why I have such a hard time with these topics. Everyone is different. You know what I mean?
I just want to say, your the brother i wish I had growing up, then maybe i wouldn't made such foolish mistakes with these boys/men. Being in the dating world is a trip! So thanks for taking the time to break it down for Young Ladies and Grown Women as well!!!... Respect for yourself is what it comes down to.
Hi. I'm new but am already in love with your show and the way you put things in perspective as far as men and relationships. I do have a question concerning this topic: How do you go about getting respect after the fact? If you have already made the mistake of sleeping with a man you like 2 soon? You said it's an uphill battle but it can be done. I would love to see a video about this. Thanks
naw he on some bullshit b/c there are men who treat women good and men that don't.....point blank!!! you could hold it away for 6 years if dude not into you he's just not into you! you could hold it back for only 6 months if he's not into you he's not into you!!! if he is into you he is!! also, who the hell saves themselves for a man they're only casually dating?! waiting patiently on the side line while he ho around and do whatever!! then he like yeah i'll make her NBR one
A real way to get a man to see you more than sex is simple. Be yourself if your are sweet,loyal,and dedicated to her man, then she wifey material. A man will only treat you a certain way,only if you allow him too. You can't listen to a man telling you how to be a woman,but a woman. If you want to know ask your mother or grandmother she'll tell you the truth.
So are you saying that while he got his honies on the side that you remain different and do right and while you wait patiently he get to have his cake and ice cream too. I know some men that would rather have the wifey type on the side and the other women too.
Please...but who told you that!there is no superior...man or woman,both have a very important role in this society,,,,if you just can recognize,accepted Man brings things woman we need to be complete but...Women has what the man need to be and feel as a real Man you couldnt even feel a Man without chasing the woman that you want to feel inside
I think that men should be trying to persue women because they ahve so many problems that they want to put on us. i dont think its anything a woman can do to get a man, i think that a man knows if he is going to be in a relationship or something. i believe that men catergorize every female they see or meet even if its one of they boys girlfriends she will automatically be in a category of most likely would date her, fucker,love her, like her, and most importantly wife her thats just how i feal
Interesting. Good advice. I have to say as a woman who has pretty much practiced your advice most of my life with the why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free attitude...most men I end up with and have had relationships with have come back to me later saying how much they regret losing me because of stupid things they did that wasted my time (and obviously theirs) because I didn't stick around when they pulled the bs...
but i do exactly what you say, i keep my legs closed and let them know that i'm just not a toy or a "hit it and quit it" i derserve respect just as much as any other human, and if they don't like it then i just don't waste my time with them. but these morals got me a true gentleman for my boyfriend and he respects my morals.
lol, you sound like someone's dad, best ex boyfriend friend or older brother. Some truth but hard to take seriously because you joke a little more than you are serious. So what about the issue of fatherhood vs. motherhood; or mandatory roles expected of women and men.
Just wanted to show my appreciation for this. You are deep brother, and as far as it being commonsense? Commonsense has never been that common. And it's an important message, we need to hear it in different voices, via different mediums, and at many different times. So thank you and keep em coming!
Duuuuh, but thank you for saying it anyway, your vagina is not self worth, your whole self is, steering my ship all the way to success. Marry me please, I love your videos. LOL
I agree with you that you cant be a 2 and ask for a 10. So....I guess its time for me to upgrade ( myself) and bring all my treats to the table, minus the goodies of course.
exactly... Ladies please keep you legs closed. I am now celibate because of that. I am and always have been the prize. You have to see that women. Don't give it up and if he doesn't want to wait then he's not for you. Easier said than done, but doable.
ok lemme find out ppl throughout this comment section are praising your video in 2008. did your parents or other adults not tell you this when you were growing up. or maybe u just wasnt listening ladies. actually i dont think mine did either although i assure you it didnt take that long to figure it out.
so i guess there just isnt enough child rearing & raising goin on in the world these days.
I think we were all told that when we were younger...I know was.
But the thing is, many of us didn't listen/believe our parents because we thought they were old and times are different. So it is still good to hear being restated by someone of your own age in 2008 because sometimes we either forget or ignore our "old" parents...reminders are necessary.
wow I'm mad I'm just discovering ur videos. I'm about to post this to all my slutty friends myspace pages. Lol maybe they will believe it from a guys P.O.V.
This is exactly why im single... im to focus on me and school... and most men come off as sexaholics ... and I just keep it moving... Us women need to be more focus on our self esteem, loving ourselves and education... then worrying about men and sex's.
It's funny, I didn't know what to expect.I'm abstinent for reasons of religion, and I'm a mentor. And I always tell my young ladies... their are plenty of women who have slept with a dude and later regret it. But I can not say that there is even ONE GUY that I'm like "DAG! I SHOULDA gave it up to him! Why didn't I sleep with him? MAN!" Lol.
Hey, what you said really made sense, I appreciate your honesty. I have gone against what you have said completly with my current boyfriend, and unless we are going at it, it feels like he doesn't even notice I'm there.
Ladies, waiting shouldn't just be about the man. Its also about giving urself time to make the decision as to whether he is worth ur time/ energy or not, WITHOUT the distractions sex causes.
Also, when a man wants to settle down, he will have no problem doing so. The male/female ratio is in their favor, so they have the option of poking it wherever until they're ready for something more substantive. Don't give your time or your body to someone who never serious and doesn't ever plan to be.
Thank Yu For The Video..I Needed That 4real...Well From Now Is A New Beginning For Me Well A New Season...Ive Not Engaged In Sexual Activities Since Decemeber 2007!!!!!Im Proud Of MiiSelf..But Honestly You Are A Good Man And Your Advice Is Helpful
again A+! u kno it's more even interestin to prolong the time havin sex n not havin! the way u rule this game give ur man more info abt u. Just as u said u can do it all day long... u will always have time for that! just all gals need to have is control their patience while MAN TRY TO TALK SO SWEEEEET, DAMN! SO JUST KEEP UR LEGS CLOSED! CREATE UR GAME INSTEAD! THNX A LOT FOR UR ATTENTION!
I always knew that keeping your legs closed was crucial. However, my follow through was poor. When I really like someone I think this is it. I look good and I have a good career, of course he is not going anywhere. Unfortunately, it leads to a year of screwing, but not to marriage. I am sick of being a girlfriend. I want to be a wife. Even good guys get caught up in the sex. I see I have to close shop and if Mr. Right doesnt come along at least I have my self respect.
Thanks for the reply. Question... What if you have been in a relationship for a year and the person wants to get married in a year. I want to stop doing it until I get the marriage license! Since we already been there is it to late to stop? He is good to me and I know he loves me, but sometimes I just don't feel special.
Unfortunately everything he says is true. I know from what my g/f's and I talk about is why cant we have sex on the first date and not give a damn about guys just like they dont care about us? and I believe that is why so many women sleep on the first date b/c they are trying to change the double standard. Guess what! The double standard will never go away. Until us ladies have learned and just accepted that fact we will always be single and constantly wonder why he didnt call us the next day.
Well stated. If women would shut the hell up and listen, it would lessen the amount of time they spent griping about 'no good' men. Im glad you are upfront about 'male' issues. Good job!
1) Whats all the licking the lips and eye winks all about?! 2) That was REAL TALK, I have nothing to say against what you said already. 3) This is why I'm single, I ain't got time to be life coaching no nigga towards my pussy - that's real talk.
My suggestion to the ladies - get your career on and make that money, and the dudes will come later!
in the past everybody knew their place men were men they used to bring food on table and women were having babies,staying at home to take care of them a good housekeeper was a good wife Men were not expecting more even family wanted a woman such.now to be loved for more than sex you have to have a good job,be intelligent,patient,hardworking..the perfect woman dont exist women are like men now they try to live their life on their own
they have their career,basically they dont wait the same things than b4 they are much more today in society.thats why men are frightened they dont managed to have the same role.they just there to make the babies Men expect to find the perfect woman but actually they hate women who succeed or make more money.but they will not value you neither if you dont work or just stay at home.this issue is complex if a man founds a good woman why not respect her enough to stay with her like in the past.
like sex is everywhere men dont care no more the majority just want to use you at the end everyone is unhappy cause a lot of men dont see the good women in front of them some think they have all their life in front of them and ends with anybody who's just around.women too get used and sometimes they rather be alone instead of getting hurt.
anyway the solution for me is Respect when you care and respect someone you value the person and dont see him just like a thing you dont hurt him this goes for men and woman this might be the first step for Love
Yup take my exhusband. I was a singer and could singer really well, he was jealous of that. I mean even if i did get a record deal..did he really think i was gonna drop him for usher or somebody...man please yeah right impossible...if i got rich i was gonna share whatever i hadwith him. What's up with this jealousy thing. Makes no sense.
not DEMAND............... COMMAND his attention with opening ur legs
Anieque 3 weeks ago
"The most important thing" is appreciating you. He can be ready + still be doing his thing. What's important is abstaining, demand his attention w/out your legs open + so on...
richboyisfakecuzidk 1 month ago
as a woman i can say that we women need to stop giving it up so easily then men will respect us...i dont think u need a long video for this
patriciacarrasco 4 months ago
Soooo IDK why this has any dislikes! because it's real shit and it's the stuff that I have decided to be on. The whole time I was just shaking my head in agreeance!! Wisdom is soooo damn sexy so I got a lil hot watching this BAHAHA but good shit!
GetFitAsh 5 months ago
REAL TALK!!!!
Lovelylanee 7 months ago
you made me smile :D
MsToxicAddiction 7 months ago
ok, question. say you really like a guy. but you're really sexually frustrated, can you go have sex with a guy you don't give a shit about while not having sex with the guy you like? coz that would stop you fucking things up with the guy you want..
TheBgoz 8 months ago
@TheBgoz If you just gotta get some then I say HELL yeah, do it with someone who you don't care about and do not have sex with the guy whom you like until you guys get into a committed relationship....but real talk! why not just watch a flick, make yourself cum and go to bed???? because if the guy finds out that you banged somebody else and he is NOT getting any then that's a deal breaker.
GetFitAsh 5 months ago
Lovely :).
GodsGenuineGift 8 months ago
Its funny how men say that women should keep their legs closed which is a very very good thing by the way, but when a woman doesn't give it up within a month its a problem for him
thickjai18 9 months ago
An old woman once told me that there are two things men want from women, and thats sex and food........so I guess If a chick cooks for a dude then he'll see her as more then just a sex partner lol......but at the end of the day sex is mandatory right?
thickjai18 9 months ago
the more u feed the male ego with how good of a woman u r hes only gunna get more conceited and feel like hes the sht, and u aint goin nowhere cause u begging n feenin to b with him so it really dont matter if ur the perfect independant woman cooking cleaning he still gunna cheat n take forever to commit, if a man wants to wife u he will theres really nothing u can do cant force either that will push him away, just leave hes ass he will b begging if her cares
kissme7up 10 months ago
that was lovely real talk...a brotha you kept it real!!!!
Nubia99 10 months ago
His swag is soooo sexy.
majormoviestar2008 1 year ago
YOU sir. Are like a chocolate Dr. Phil. I love it <3 haha And you're totally right about the sex thing. 100% mang.
Serenethunder666 1 year ago
iLOVE THiS THANKS!!!!!
ShunTasia91 1 year ago
iLOVE THiS THANKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ShunTasia91 1 year ago
REAL TALK, I LOVE IT THE TRUTH
hsligng 1 year ago
ur so nice lol
NinJaMamasita 1 year ago
Until women stop feeding black male egos, you'll be chasing these dudes like that hamster on that wheel in a cage. First of all, most of these dudes aren't concerned about their own future, much less leading that of a future family. So, they use THIS (among many others) excuse as to why you aren't good enough to marry -- BUT, don't fooled! They are afraid of manning up and being a leader in this society, and this is one of the many excuses they use @ the expense of your freedom to be happy.
imcafeaulait 1 year ago 3
A man stringing you along with 3 or 4 other women is doing what he wants to be doing. We have to raise our standards. The Bible says A MAN who FINDS a wife, finds a GOOD thing. So why in the world would a man need a woman to convince him of that? Any man worth your future has already evaluated HIS future needs, and what his future will be like. As well as the qualities of a woman who'll fit in it. It's not a woman's job to make a man be comfortable being a man. That should be nature.
imcafeaulait 1 year ago 2
@imcafeaulait If you're a woman who has been in a relationship with a man for 4-5 years plus and hasn't seen a ring yet it's because he's getting everything he wants out of marriage w/o the percieved stress of marriage. As a man, If a girl cooked, cleaned, sexed me right every night, and I knew she wasn't going anywhere!?!?! she aint never going to see that ring. "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free".
FitnessGuru1988 1 year ago
@FitnessGuru1988 Which takes me right back 2 my original point. PLANNING. A man who has plotted on a successful future, is READY 2 find a suitable wife and lead a family. Sure there's always uncertainties in life, but he's CLEAR on what he wants, and knows he'll be made better w/a GOOD wife and family. He's past trying 2 see how much he can get over w/on some woman that he's 'shackin' w/. Dude I'm talking about is on a mission 2 complete his life, and has a LONG-TERM vision of it.
imcafeaulait 1 year ago
This dude is ok. But, he acts as if men have so many options and women are so desperate to get a man. First of all, a man may have 3 or 4 women in his corner, but whose to say any of those women are some good? Its not about quanity. Its about quality. In my opinion single men and single women are in the same boat. Yes, men can call up a woman and get sex anytime they want, BUT what makes you think the chick you called is only doing you? QUALITY, is what's important. A real man knows that.
prettyLibra2010 1 year ago 2
@prettyLibra2010 I hear you but a little boy doesn't grow up with aspirations of getting married, thats for girls. Even hypothecally if the girl is also sleeping with other men, he doesn't care because once a man catagorizes a woman as a jumpoff, her whereabouts and her endeavors aren't his concern as long as he gets his. A man and a woman's goals aren't the same.
FitnessGuru1988 1 year ago
i guess i'd rather be single, or find a man that isnt mentally handicapped by his big head and cock. cuz im not gonna waste my youth beating any ignorant SOB's head in when he don't deserve what he could have had in the first place. love is suppose to be equal and it will be with whomever i marry and the dumb SOB that lost me, lost his daughter too cuz there aint no way i'm letting my child be raised by an ignorant selfcentered B!TCH that cant see the value of a human being, not even his child's
Alaina777 1 year ago
Temple Christian just told the truth y'all
kingjulianne1 1 year ago
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i like th video alot, most guys i have come across think i am a bitch because i have my whole life figured out and am too independent for their liking, but thank God i finally met a man who isnt intimidated by my over confidence.thanks for the video, keep up te good work.
missykris001 1 year ago
i like th video alot, most guys i have come across think i am a bitch because i have my whole life figured out and am too independent for their liking, but thank God i finally met a man who isnt intimidated by my over confidence.thanks for the video, keep up te good work.
missykris001 1 year ago
@missykris001 Independence is contradictory of relationships. When I hear independent, I hear self-sufficient, and if that is the case, Why do you need me for. Whatever the reason for entering the relationship, love, financial, sexual, there is a need that is looking to be met. As a man, I've never have been intimidated of a woman's "success" but turned off by the arrogance that usually comes with it. I don't care whether you make more than me or not, play your role, if not kick rocks.
FitnessGuru1988 1 year ago
3:50 thru 4:30...brotha temple u spoke truth that i now use in my evryday walk and talks with tha fairer sex..u da man brotha
onli1reese 1 year ago
Good Video!!!
Capricon18 1 year ago
ok so iver been with this guy but i jus want him 4 the sex but hes like talkhin about the future and i dont c myself with him long term but i wanna have him now even if i like dating other guys at the same time so how do i let him no i don want long term but i want him here now without hurting his feelings
kathleengoldsbury95 1 year ago
I don't know if you're still making videos, but I would really like to commend you on putting in effort to communicate with women. Thanks to your talk I have been abstinent going on over a year and I see a major difference in men I use to date versus the men I date now. It's a whole different ball game when sex is not involved and you really do get more respect from the men you encounter. Keep spreading the word brother!
evapitts 1 year ago
i live in uk and i have seen a few of your videos and am wondering why this guy doesnt have a show his knowledge and inner insight along with his analogy is spot on
this video is saying how it is , you know women do have to make sure they are seen as someting beyond sexual beings and not rushed to quicky into giving sex, the fact of the matter men are very sexually orientated but as a women who has the goal that he wants to conquer you have to hold out til he sees you as someting more
onlinebabeful 1 year ago
Great job!!!!! I am sending this to all my single girl friends.
Hbridget 1 year ago
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this video is better!!!!!!!
Nikolette90 1 year ago
this video is better!!!!!!!
Nikolette90 1 year ago
I'm a 25 year old male Virgin. I'm not scared to say it I'm proud to be one. I educated myself with classes, readings, discussions.
I've learned to love, see, and think about women in a whole new light.
chrisfball12 1 year ago
Really great! I'm subscribing!
5sizes2big 1 year ago
Good vid. Very true! I respect a girl MUCH more if she makes me wait for sex. However I gotta say this video got a little awkward when you were talking all quiet in the black and gray parts... and I'm by myself. LOL but regardless, good video, you made a lot of good points. MORE WOMEN SHOULD LISTEN TO WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY, THAT WAY THEY DON'T KEEP GeTTING PLAYED BY GUYS.
ChewSomeCaps 1 year ago
This cat knows his shit.
kiyimha 1 year ago
you speak the truth, man!
msquestionmark 1 year ago
You are cool and wise. You should have your own tv show by now. Keep up the good work.
mrsotter19 1 year ago 3
youre a fucking idiot. and this is so sad.
rungirl05 2 years ago
im glad you have such open opinions on the reality that men think about sex first and foremost.. but im glad also that you ACTUALLY seem to respect women and how they feel aswell rather than having this one sides opinion
TheArtfulShow 2 years ago 10
Very wise words!
gracieluexo 2 years ago 2
I am a gay man, but does anyone else find this as BS.. making it seem like ya'll stankin balled asses are worth women's time..this is for desperate females, not the ones who own their life and have men wanting them as their wifey more then she wants him as a hubby.. wake up and get real
stylestar07 2 years ago 2
Why does this video claim it is no longer available when I try to play it? I thought this video was excellent and now I am angry I can't share it with my younger cousins who need to hear a man's perspective on this topic!
proverbs31derwoman 3 years ago
he knows exactly what he's talking about.... so honest i love it, Amen!!
princessflo85 3 years ago 2
thats so tru ur good
kissme7up 3 years ago
WOW GREAT ViDEO =)
brittmariediamond 3 years ago
this is so so so true, but what ways can u drum it in his head without tryna brag/show off???
vaselinequeen06 3 years ago
why did you take the video down???? this one was one of my faves....
Knottyboytsir 3 years ago
So True! Speak Brotha!
ShainaW 3 years ago
I could not say dis shit better myself.
kmg030 3 years ago
This video is great. I am going to let my younger sister watch this. She is coming into the dating age.
Protoaxl 3 years ago
He took the video down! what did it say?
quitejaded 3 years ago
man, i was just about to get into this video to find out the REAL answers and it's missing! not fair!
sherribailey75 3 years ago
I like this dude !
force070 3 years ago
patientce game thats wat im weak at :(
7lwa83 3 years ago
Its saying this video has been removed again. you might wanna check into this.
morenabella13 3 years ago 5
i have a question? i know your vids are geared towards women, but im wondering...hw come men like you (obviously very intelligent & articulate) nvr seem to make videos telling men to keep it zipped & have more respect from THEMSELVES? All this, "men have the disease of horniness" stuff is really kinda demeaning to men. It makes it seem like men are no better than animals who cannot control themselves. Perhaps if MEN were taught to respect their OWN bodies, some of these issues would be resolved.
morenabella13 3 years ago 5
I get the biological imperatives of human sexuality. I GET IT. but arent we, as humans, more than just our biology? just like we have learned to have manners, cooperate socially, form societies & other behaviors that are indicative of higher thinking, cant we expect better from ourselves when it comes to sexuality? Cant we teach BOTH Men & women to to have self respect & respect for our bodies? When will men finally take the position of TRUE leadership & exhibit control over themselves?
morenabella13 3 years ago 2
I find it to be so interesting that all you ever hear is men claiming that males are the natural leaders. But when it comes to sexuality, they simply cant control themselves? Yes, women should exercise patience, discernment & wisdom when engaging sexually. But "holding out" so that HE will respect her, is only playing games. She should exercise good judgment as an extension of her feminine STRENGTH, not to ward off male weakness. Women need to own their sexuality & express it with SELF love.
morenabella13 3 years ago 3
As long as sex is seen as someting that a woman "gives" to a man, & not something that she, herself needs, then it will always be imbalanced. There will alwys be games of manipulation, power & control, with one sex trying to out-maneuver the other. Is the male ego SO fragile, that he simply cannot respect the power of female sexuality? Is her being a "Good Girl", w/o sexual needs of her own, the only way he can respect her? What is it about the male psyche that lends to his being so insecure?
morenabella13 3 years ago 2
Female selfrespect shouldnt be determined by the behavior of males. it has to start frm deep within...with her KNOWING tht she is not jst a body, not jst a vagina. To use her body as a bartering tool, in exchange for emotional validation from men, will always lead to problems. Young girls shud be taught from birth, their true value, nt just as a way to keep men in line. Sexual discretion should not be a manipulation tactic. A Woman should exercise her RIGHT to DECIDE based on HER needs, not his.
morenabella13 3 years ago 2
Amen!!! Thats what I'm talkin about!!!
msgigi00 3 years ago
THANK YOU!!! My sentiments exactly.
skullnbonez 3 years ago
THANK YOU!!! My sentiments exactly.
skullnbonez 3 years ago
woah there...I'm afraid that behavior on both sides can't be stopped. I don't know what it is, and there are people who set a good example for human kind. As much as you and I dislike lack of self control/respect, and plain old brain-power, I don't see this ending, and I may have even stopped trying to help. So I'm sorry.
Jrocka7x 3 years ago
It is amazing to me at how many women in my age group (18-25) do not know this. I guess I was blessed to have my father beat this into my head, but everyone isn't so fortunate. I'm going to make sure I send this to all the women I know who needs to see this.
demeriese 3 years ago
This video is the shit. My mom and dad have told me the same thing, always but its good to hear it from somewhere else.
officallyTAI 3 years ago
Hey! what happened to this video? why is it saying its no longer available?
morenabella13 3 years ago
I'm not quite sure, I've received a few emails asking if I have removed it, which of coarse I have not. But when I check it, everything works fine. Either way I'll repost it, just to be sure.
1Luv
GurlTalkkTV 3 years ago
Its a shame that males cannot see females for what they are beyond sex, because as a female I think we want to have sex just as much as any guy- so we end up suppressing our present desires (sex) b?c once we do men will no longer see us as a whole person smh....damn shame.
ESS330 3 years ago 23
So true.
MakeupOnABudget 3 years ago
It's not really about supressing it. We have to get to a mindstate where your urges don't control your every move. It seems hard now because in your mind it's all about the sex. (not say you in particular I'm just speaking in general)
kswiftee 3 years ago
@ESS330 its a sad reality but i mean bein 2 the fact that sex is about as deep as it goes then i think that both sides can and realli should wait because unless they're both just some deep and mature individuals then doing that prematurely is onli gonna lead women down that same deadend path they been goin down 4 so long and is onli contributing 2 the growing number of males seriously living with tha bad habit of havin booty calls...jus somethin 2 think about...respect
onli1reese 1 year ago
@ESS330 "It's a shame that males cannot see females for what they are beyond sex" It's also a shame some woman can't see men beyond their sneakers, cars, jewerly, and bank accounts. We all want to be accepted for who we are and what we believe but just as I must bare my "how much you make/what whip you pushing" cross, you have to bare your GOD DAMN, LOOK AT THAT ASS cross.
FitnessGuru1988 1 year ago
@FitnessGuru1988 thats true but at least a woman can hold a conversation with a man without trying to have sex with him or only see him as just a sex object
thickjai18 9 months ago
@ESS330 Completely agreed, I feel the same way. I feel men use the sex thing as an excuse. We have as big a need (sexually) as men do. I really wouldnt fancy massarging a mans ego. If he whips his wotsits out, then what does that tell you about that man? The way I see it is If a woman wants wants a man to be long term then the no go sign is if he's trying to get in there with her for sex forst time around..it goes both ways!
MsAhhotep 10 months ago
@ESS330 he way I see it is If a woman wants wants a man to be long term then the no go sign is if he's trying to get in there with her for sex first time around..it goes both ways! Its bollocks, its tho as if a woman has to go out her way to please a man! It goes both ways!
MsAhhotep 10 months ago
@ESS330 This isn't true, hon.
Terrigm45 6 months ago
Some females who complain about guys not respecting them really NEED to see this...he simply speaks the truth in this one
laylay7 3 years ago
O wow. I thought every girl knew that you had to keep it closed but they choose not to. Lucky for me I have brothers telling me this already.
FroxieProxie 3 years ago
Hi! I'm a new subscriber and I just want to say that your videos are awesome! It is truly refreshing to hear a man be helpful and at the same time real(Also you are sexy). I'm a woman who likes to hear it as it is, not how you think I want to hear it with my "sensitive ears". This video in particular hit home with me because I've been single for a long time, but I've definitely had sex with a few guys I liked, wondering why I never made it to the next level! Thanks for your advice!
elocin719 3 years ago
video dead?
snoopyloopy 3 years ago
What do u mean by video dead, snoopy?
Terrigm45 3 years ago
video was dead, i refreshed, etc. and it still kept telling me it had been removed or w/e.
snoopyloopy 3 years ago
T, you fuckin rock, this topic hits the nail on da head. i would like to ask u a couple questions myself but im new to this youtube thing and i dont know how to email u
jertamisiharley1 3 years ago
Women keep your legs closed to get respect but peep this, a guy knows which woman he wants to make his wifey and which one his bootycall. the vibe matters.If she delays sex matter but only if the guy wants to take the relationship further. This guy is confusing women. You can close your legs for months, a year but if a guy really really wants to sex you he's gonna persist. If he's hoping for some he'll move on.A guy will play along and be what you want till he gets it simple.I'm a guy.
sdalmat1982 3 years ago 2
so then how do you know when it's (the way he feels) legit? y would a guy keep pursuing a girl just for sex when he can just get it from other women?
blackberry8907 3 years ago
@sdalmat1982 so how can u know if he wants to take u seriously? i mean if thats the most important thing
patriciacarrasco 4 months ago
hm...this video doesn't work for me
bkgangstashawtii 3 years ago
Before 4:30 you said that if we choose to sleep with a guy (while he is with 2 other women who are sleeping with him) then we deserve the same treatment; not getting his attention (except for a bootycall). Now, I appreciate all of your videos and are grateful that you are taking the time to share this information. At the same time though, I disagree with the whole "deserve" thing. If a women wants to have sex with a man, she can do so. I know that you would probably agree. I guess I just cont.
Vuji222 3 years ago
don't like the idea that women do not have a chance relationship wise with a man if they choose to sleep with him sooner than later.
All these thoughts are going through my mind right now. Like, women do have to work harder to find someone. And, this whole way that a man works seems more like a woman has to please him in order to get him. I hate generalizations. I think that is why I have such a hard time with these topics. Everyone is different. You know what I mean?
Thank you though
duniele
Vuji222 3 years ago
I just want to say, your the brother i wish I had growing up, then maybe i wouldn't made such foolish mistakes with these boys/men. Being in the dating world is a trip! So thanks for taking the time to break it down for Young Ladies and Grown Women as well!!!... Respect for yourself is what it comes down to.
Jazzlynn88 3 years ago
Hi. I'm new but am already in love with your show and the way you put things in perspective as far as men and relationships. I do have a question concerning this topic: How do you go about getting respect after the fact? If you have already made the mistake of sleeping with a man you like 2 soon? You said it's an uphill battle but it can be done. I would love to see a video about this. Thanks
neyaneya21 3 years ago 4
damn... i think ive found my fav channel.. i nevr watch vids in their fullness.. but u got me... i feel u on sum good shit.. thanks for that
1nalawest 3 years ago
naw he on some bullshit b/c there are men who treat women good and men that don't.....point blank!!! you could hold it away for 6 years if dude not into you he's just not into you! you could hold it back for only 6 months if he's not into you he's not into you!!! if he is into you he is!! also, who the hell saves themselves for a man they're only casually dating?! waiting patiently on the side line while he ho around and do whatever!! then he like yeah i'll make her NBR one
msaphrodite23 3 years ago
U R 100% positively correct...tell em!!!
78maine 3 years ago
Entyce you're saying the same thing he's saying. The gender of the person espousing the information is not as important as the message.
mwhytwokay 3 years ago
A real way to get a man to see you more than sex is simple. Be yourself if your are sweet,loyal,and dedicated to her man, then she wifey material. A man will only treat you a certain way,only if you allow him too. You can't listen to a man telling you how to be a woman,but a woman. If you want to know ask your mother or grandmother she'll tell you the truth.
entyce22 3 years ago
So are you saying that while he got his honies on the side that you remain different and do right and while you wait patiently he get to have his cake and ice cream too. I know some men that would rather have the wifey type on the side and the other women too.
indeanfeather 3 years ago
Wow.
I actually learned something .
Thank You.
Seriously.
MoNayToOU 3 years ago
i've never seen a man on here with any thing more valid to speak on than a ps2. i respect your knowledge. thanks for sharing.
justcrystalle 3 years ago
To make it simple, Men are just simply Superior than Women.
Pennys1 3 years ago
Please...but who told you that!there is no superior...man or woman,both have a very important role in this society,,,,if you just can recognize,accepted Man brings things woman we need to be complete but...Women has what the man need to be and feel as a real Man you couldnt even feel a Man without chasing the woman that you want to feel inside
FaraonaHatshepsut 3 years ago
I think that men should be trying to persue women because they ahve so many problems that they want to put on us. i dont think its anything a woman can do to get a man, i think that a man knows if he is going to be in a relationship or something. i believe that men catergorize every female they see or meet even if its one of they boys girlfriends she will automatically be in a category of most likely would date her, fucker,love her, like her, and most importantly wife her thats just how i feal
CharSheKirbyissofly 3 years ago 2
Interesting. Good advice. I have to say as a woman who has pretty much practiced your advice most of my life with the why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free attitude...most men I end up with and have had relationships with have come back to me later saying how much they regret losing me because of stupid things they did that wasted my time (and obviously theirs) because I didn't stick around when they pulled the bs...
fudsank 3 years ago 3
oh wow.
thank you.
i'm only 14.
and guys are already acting like that.
but i do exactly what you say, i keep my legs closed and let them know that i'm just not a toy or a "hit it and quit it" i derserve respect just as much as any other human, and if they don't like it then i just don't waste my time with them. but these morals got me a true gentleman for my boyfriend and he respects my morals.
kdndc 3 years ago 3
OMG I love how you speak...your really worth listening to
genieve05 3 years ago 11
Favoriting this!!! Love it!!! So many females need to see this! I don't understand why they don't get it! Thats how I play the game!
onyxanya 3 years ago
Oh yeah, do you read all those books behind you?
Whoelsedammit 3 years ago
lol, you sound like someone's dad, best ex boyfriend friend or older brother. Some truth but hard to take seriously because you joke a little more than you are serious. So what about the issue of fatherhood vs. motherhood; or mandatory roles expected of women and men.
Whoelsedammit 3 years ago
i luv ur videos i think
u go into deatails & ur just straight forward about what ur sayin..
thanks for the awnsers to my problems kuz ur video solved it..keep speakin out much luv
bA6yCh0ppA 3 years ago
you are making so much sense in this vid..I've been through it to know you're tellin the truth.
poetchick19 3 years ago
Thank you for putting it out there.♥
Kynaa29 3 years ago
i got a comment directed it me. the person i was speaking to has been deleted from the coments. thusly, dumbass, i agree with the speaker.
VIRGOTHE13TH 3 years ago
Just wanted to show my appreciation for this. You are deep brother, and as far as it being commonsense? Commonsense has never been that common. And it's an important message, we need to hear it in different voices, via different mediums, and at many different times. So thank you and keep em coming!
Ladyd2k 3 years ago
Duuuuh, but thank you for saying it anyway, your vagina is not self worth, your whole self is, steering my ship all the way to success. Marry me please, I love your videos. LOL
11432 3 years ago
I agree with you that you cant be a 2 and ask for a 10. So....I guess its time for me to upgrade ( myself) and bring all my treats to the table, minus the goodies of course.
chynadollbitch 3 years ago
Your vidoes are the truth. Also you are funny. Keep it up.
realityspeaking 3 years ago
exactly... Ladies please keep you legs closed. I am now celibate because of that. I am and always have been the prize. You have to see that women. Don't give it up and if he doesn't want to wait then he's not for you. Easier said than done, but doable.
msoyekan 3 years ago 2
bash him in the head with a brick lol....and he will like you lol
klmalliam 3 years ago 5
lmao that was funny
MsDee0821 3 years ago
Very funny!
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
handicaped by the monstrosity of your sex drive lol
klmalliam 3 years ago 4
BEAUTIFUL! It's refreshing to hear this from a MAN'S point of view. WOW. Thank you. I will be sharing this video.
UKGirl808 3 years ago
ok lemme find out ppl throughout this comment section are praising your video in 2008. did your parents or other adults not tell you this when you were growing up. or maybe u just wasnt listening ladies. actually i dont think mine did either although i assure you it didnt take that long to figure it out.
so i guess there just isnt enough child rearing & raising goin on in the world these days.
VIRGOTHE13TH 3 years ago
I think we were all told that when we were younger...I know was.
But the thing is, many of us didn't listen/believe our parents because we thought they were old and times are different. So it is still good to hear being restated by someone of your own age in 2008 because sometimes we either forget or ignore our "old" parents...reminders are necessary.
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
Thank you for the advice
psat21 3 years ago
wow I'm mad I'm just discovering ur videos. I'm about to post this to all my slutty friends myspace pages. Lol maybe they will believe it from a guys P.O.V.
BabyGirl908 3 years ago
This is my fav video from u by far. I think u r very funny, and speak the truth. Keep up the good work. Muah!!!!!
lovablelibra 3 years ago
we practising muslim woman demand you men to see us as more. proud to be a muslim!!!
evawind 3 years ago 2
This is exactly why im single... im to focus on me and school... and most men come off as sexaholics ... and I just keep it moving... Us women need to be more focus on our self esteem, loving ourselves and education... then worrying about men and sex's.
NubianGodis 3 years ago 10
Here's one you should consider: HOW TO LET GUYS KNOW YOU'RE OFF LIMITS WITHOUT LOOKING LIKE A BITCH!!!!
jhenerr 3 years ago
lol just smile instead of the latter.
VIRGOTHE13TH 3 years ago
It's funny, I didn't know what to expect.I'm abstinent for reasons of religion, and I'm a mentor. And I always tell my young ladies... their are plenty of women who have slept with a dude and later regret it. But I can not say that there is even ONE GUY that I'm like "DAG! I SHOULDA gave it up to him! Why didn't I sleep with him? MAN!" Lol.
Great stuff one again! Keep It Up!
b2223967 3 years ago 3
So happpy you emphasized "WITH YOUR LEGS CLOSED". Preach!
LaiahIsabelle 3 years ago 5
wow this is good. A lot of women need to hear this, I am just glad its coming from a man so tired of women giving advice on men....
lerato99 3 years ago 8
Hey, what you said really made sense, I appreciate your honesty. I have gone against what you have said completly with my current boyfriend, and unless we are going at it, it feels like he doesn't even notice I'm there.
Your videos are great:)
stephy7299 3 years ago
real talk dat was good guy
nonarapozo 3 years ago 2
thanks for putting that out there man
i already know this myself and much more
but there are lil girls and young women that need to hear this from a man especially a black man
kudooos to u
mmw21111 3 years ago
Ladies, waiting shouldn't just be about the man. Its also about giving urself time to make the decision as to whether he is worth ur time/ energy or not, WITHOUT the distractions sex causes.
Also, when a man wants to settle down, he will have no problem doing so. The male/female ratio is in their favor, so they have the option of poking it wherever until they're ready for something more substantive. Don't give your time or your body to someone who never serious and doesn't ever plan to be.
CameroonianBeauty 3 years ago 2
Thank Yu For The Video..I Needed That 4real...Well From Now Is A New Beginning For Me Well A New Season...Ive Not Engaged In Sexual Activities Since Decemeber 2007!!!!!Im Proud Of MiiSelf..But Honestly You Are A Good Man And Your Advice Is Helpful
MszCanDiiKisseZ 3 years ago
I have worked with men for the past 4 years ladies please take his advice.
deebeautiful84 3 years ago
On the other side of things, some of these men are not worth all that trouble! Make sure that the man is a good'n first.
LoveChari 3 years ago 2
again A+! u kno it's more even interestin to prolong the time havin sex n not havin! the way u rule this game give ur man more info abt u. Just as u said u can do it all day long... u will always have time for that! just all gals need to have is control their patience while MAN TRY TO TALK SO SWEEEEET, DAMN! SO JUST KEEP UR LEGS CLOSED! CREATE UR GAME INSTEAD! THNX A LOT FOR UR ATTENTION!
AinurAdeBlckDI 3 years ago
I knew that was the key to it all along!!!
LoveChari 3 years ago
reall talk right there
GoldenBunny7 3 years ago
Daaamn Bro...I really feel this here video...do your thang peoples!!!U should write a book.GOOD G.A.M.E
BUNNOBB 3 years ago
I always knew that keeping your legs closed was crucial. However, my follow through was poor. When I really like someone I think this is it. I look good and I have a good career, of course he is not going anywhere. Unfortunately, it leads to a year of screwing, but not to marriage. I am sick of being a girlfriend. I want to be a wife. Even good guys get caught up in the sex. I see I have to close shop and if Mr. Right doesnt come along at least I have my self respect.
isisali19 3 years ago 3
My sister you got to keep it on lock, you will then become that wife you desire to be!!
I know this is difficult for some...but you will be okay and no messing around cus that always gets ppl in trouble!
LoveChari 3 years ago
Thanks for the reply. Question... What if you have been in a relationship for a year and the person wants to get married in a year. I want to stop doing it until I get the marriage license! Since we already been there is it to late to stop? He is good to me and I know he loves me, but sometimes I just don't feel special.
okayokayokay07 3 years ago
Thanks for the insight!
creamyalmondz 3 years ago
Unfortunately everything he says is true. I know from what my g/f's and I talk about is why cant we have sex on the first date and not give a damn about guys just like they dont care about us? and I believe that is why so many women sleep on the first date b/c they are trying to change the double standard. Guess what! The double standard will never go away. Until us ladies have learned and just accepted that fact we will always be single and constantly wonder why he didnt call us the next day.
acengelberth 3 years ago 4
Well stated. If women would shut the hell up and listen, it would lessen the amount of time they spent griping about 'no good' men. Im glad you are upfront about 'male' issues. Good job!
KimestryWhitfield 3 years ago
1) Whats all the licking the lips and eye winks all about?! 2) That was REAL TALK, I have nothing to say against what you said already. 3) This is why I'm single, I ain't got time to be life coaching no nigga towards my pussy - that's real talk.
My suggestion to the ladies - get your career on and make that money, and the dudes will come later!
yellinggirl 3 years ago 4
This is real talk. But i don't have no time for this dating mess. Too much work, too much giving,not enuff getting back
Machelle3200 3 years ago
i think that values are not the same nowadays
in the past everybody knew their place men were men they used to bring food on table and women were having babies,staying at home to take care of them a good housekeeper was a good wife Men were not expecting more even family wanted a woman such.now to be loved for more than sex you have to have a good job,be intelligent,patient,hardworking..the perfect woman dont exist women are like men now they try to live their life on their own
tosstara1 3 years ago
they have their career,basically they dont wait the same things than b4 they are much more today in society.thats why men are frightened they dont managed to have the same role.they just there to make the babies Men expect to find the perfect woman but actually they hate women who succeed or make more money.but they will not value you neither if you dont work or just stay at home.this issue is complex if a man founds a good woman why not respect her enough to stay with her like in the past.
tosstara1 3 years ago
like sex is everywhere men dont care no more the majority just want to use you at the end everyone is unhappy cause a lot of men dont see the good women in front of them some think they have all their life in front of them and ends with anybody who's just around.women too get used and sometimes they rather be alone instead of getting hurt.
tosstara1 3 years ago 5
anyway the solution for me is Respect when you care and respect someone you value the person and dont see him just like a thing you dont hurt him this goes for men and woman this might be the first step for Love
tosstara1 3 years ago
Yup...i just rather be by myself. It's not worth it.
Machelle3200 3 years ago
Yup take my exhusband. I was a singer and could singer really well, he was jealous of that. I mean even if i did get a record deal..did he really think i was gonna drop him for usher or somebody...man please yeah right impossible...if i got rich i was gonna share whatever i hadwith him. What's up with this jealousy thing. Makes no sense.
Machelle3200 3 years ago 4