Flirting and confidence when you call her for the first time

[Cheballer87]

@jenblatt

your face would be sooo red lol

[J0nboi1997]

LOL my name is John 2 .

Pfft I just call 4 my first time 2 day I should hav watch this first :(

[kay19833]

what if her voice was nuetral(not sad and happy neither)?

[Wolverine51324]

I don't like what you're doing here. You must be extremely arrogant to assume that you can take an approach like that without making her think that your feelings are more important than hers. Men who flirt as obviously as that are clearly desperate for something that also happens to give us a bad name for needing it so badly.

[colinheim]

@Wolverine51324 bwahahahahahahaha yeah ok. Maybe you're desperate. For everyone else it's being HONEST about our desires (and not just the sexual ones, but those too). If she doesn't want to tumble then whatever, wasn't meant to happen. If she does, then we're both in for some good times!

[Slance1Himself]

I really like the fact that you always say "thank you" at the end of your videos, I don't why though, I just really do. lol

[QuoGirl]

If a guy I like called me, I'd probably die... happy. haha nah, I'd probably be speechless for a bit if he pulled that line on me without ever revealing himself. THe more he keeps me in suspense, the more I'm likely to want to keep the conversation going even if I didn't know who he was.

[cssaddict17]

@jenblatt

Then you would play it out like you were serious and that it was a good guess.

[CheateRsz]

LOL you made me laugh because of your jokes xD...Good videos, keep up the GOOD WORK, Subscribed.

[amarsbarr]

hahahaha who died? omg my jaw dropped

[DecimusXAM]

exactly- then if someone did die...you offer a shoulder for her to cry on...and then guess what? YOU'RE IN!!!!

[olipop84]

i think I've watched all these videos since yesterday. This fellow is good.

[zalesmanas]

@jenblatt I'd laugh and hang up:) kidding, i'd skip the laugh part.

[159Fender159]

What if i say "who do you think it is?" and she hangs up?

Im serious... /:

[mrgeronimo5]

You are too good, you have given me so much confidence in calling a chick tomorrow, now I know how to start, keep up the good work

[donius22]

dood plz respond.... what if you sound like a girl on the phone, do girls not mind?.... no im not kidding lol

[RedArrow2007]

good advice, one should treat the first call as though they been friends for awhile...

[Druppi92]

nice idea, thanks man ;-)

[BunDaSystem]

looooooooooooooooooool

[POZDRAW]

Hi there, I have a quick question and need answer from someone good and fast! I got Her number from a friend but She doesn't know who I am.. 1 year ago She looked me in the eyes while passing me and She did it twice, wanted Me to approach Her but I had a GF. I would know what to do if I see Her on the street but She lives in another city. If someone know what to do here please tell, since i know that girls don't like to talk with some1 that they don't know. Btw I am 20 and She is 17. Thanks!

[tutani]

First, the only way you should get a girl's phone number is by asking HER... Not by getting it from someone else.. because that way she's gonna find it strange if you call her and see it as a sign of insecurity that you got her number from a friend.

Anyway there's not much you can do, as calling her now would probably not do any good. I'd say you can just hope to bump into her and THEN sort it out. You could aswell ask her number although you already have it :)

[kingofmorocco]

look man i've tried to call girls whom i got their numbers from friends many times before. it didn't work . almost she's gonna feel uncomfortable and she won't feel secure with u . when u see her next time Go to her and try to get her numbe even u already have it and make it fun . girls don't like boaring guys ;)

[crimsonmonie]

What if someone actually did die? WTF

[webweweave11]

Then you say...well cheer it up its natural one day you will die too, wanna go to a bar?

[tutani]

@ webweweave11 No that's a bit too depressing mate, although it's true.

[bradypoirier11]

@crimsonmonie Hahahahahahahahahahahaha

[cssaddict17]

@crimsonmonie

Then you would play it out like you were serious and that it was a good guess.

[licrag]

you should give more advice about how to treat people that is around a girl that you like. Mothers in law could be a pain in the ass.

[licrag]

what about mothers in law. You dont give any advice about handling them

[C6CORVETTE07]

there isnt alot of information on this subject

[irishmike007]

If you call a woman for the first time and get her machine, then leave a message...Is it ever ok to call again after not hearing from her?

[coldinfusion]

this one is pretty drastic

[JosephAlexanderTKD]

it would be sad if he called her and she said hello in a sad way then you go and say 'who died?' then she goes and says 'my mum just died you bastard!' LOL

[icanshoot06]

hahahhahahahhahahahahaa imagine that!

[frostypinklover]

who died LOLL!!! thank you sooo much your the BEST!!!!!

[monkeybizwak]

I'ts sometimes better to text message a girl the day after, it helps breaking the ice before calling.

[superstarpatricia]

he's videos are awesome, he is really cute and his advices makes sense....love ya !!!

[stewie711]

is there a more subtle thing to say to a sad sounding girl rather than, "who died?"

[vincent4500]

i phoned a girl up who sounded sad and i said 'who died?', she said "my dad last night" and hung up...for fucks sakes!!

[Mirocomputergenius]

holy crap! u should call her again and make her fell beter

[vincent4500]

it was a joke!

[colemister12345]

haaaa ahahah omg i would been like holy shit wrong number lol

[VenomLeon]

@vincent4500

OMG best thing i've read today

LMAO XD

[Necroman666]

why do you care so much about this "girl" subject.

let me ask you something, do you ever see a video about "how to talk to a guy", how to be nice and shit like that, how to get men.

it's ridiculous, you are being girl's slaves, making a tremendous effort just to hear insignificant "i like you" wich the girl will forgett in the next minute. Nobody really cares, so just care about your own shit, why this necessity to please girls? why do it, if they never make such an effort towards men?

[pinguing]

very good point dude, us guys should let them come to us =P

[Necroman666]

Yes! Open you eyes, my friends!

I have proven it myself! I used to be a very shy guy, and in time i learned this by looking how woman's men act and comparing to how i act, and it's not just a question of how you act, but how YOU THINK.

let me explain you why

[Necroman666]

girls are very emotional and controled by EGO!!! so if you chalenge them by not even noticing them, you will get THEIR ATTENTION in a way you would never imagine!!!

I don't like it, but that's just the way it is!!!i'm sorry but it's a society thing!!!

[Necroman666]

if a guy is constantly trying to please the girl, with oh you are so beaultyfulls you are so this, you are so thats, you are so bla bla bla... you will be considered and ass! and that's how idiot girls can be!

[WickedG5150]

u are gay and cant get any pussy.. dont be mad at everyone because u are insecure.

[Necroman666]

you read anything i wrote before this?

[kdjfnvjvd]

are u serious? Dude, this is the way it is! Women know they dont have to put as much effort as us men because it's just the way of their genetics. Been like that since cavemen!! You see this in nature all the time!! There's an actual science to this. A woman doesn't need a damn "how to get men" vid or book because any decent looking woman aint goin to have any trouble getting men and that's the truth!! ur comment is filled with alot of insecurity and unsureness of the subject.

[putaloco]

lol its just the way it is buddy.

[Necroman666]

dude, you don't really need look confident to feel good about yourself

[wittgenstein83]

Good one Arkady!! Shy people especially always fall into that mistake and never overcome their awkward silence when they begin with "hi, how are you"....you're advice is so true, just avoid introduction and the conversation will so much easily.

[lolwtfl0l]

I've tried the who died before and she said:

"My mother. D:"

Yeah it wasn't very good.

[falloutdude1992]

yep i just thought of that, guys please forget the who died thing

[colinheim]

@lolwtfl0l improbable. If her mom really died then I guess it's the universe's way of sayin' it just wasn't meant to be kekeke

[Gripmasters]

Damn just saw this video too late... just called... but did the standard thing.. and she wanted me call back on another time... Just got her number yesterday...in the supermarket....

[cockyandfunny]

sweet!!!

[fotocopy]

I like ur examples

[mizzlopa]

Good Tip, Apprciate you Arkady

[mgband]

What if, when you ask, "Who do you think this is?" she says like 4 guys' names who are not you? That would make the rest of the conversation a little awkward, no?

[MontgomeryPowell]

XDDDD

[vincecartertorryholt]

lol....yea it would

[deshawnpenrose]

LMAO

[swedishmeat69]

yes, but you need to make sure that doesn't happen. you shouldn't let her guess more than once, and if she gets it wrong then you can say something like

"ha ha, funny (with a hint of sarcasm). it's john."

she says something like: "oh right. sorry john, i didn't recognise your voice."

then you go back to where you were before the unfortunate turn of events and say:

"so, who was it that died?"

or (depending on your first question in the convo.)

"what are you so happy about?"

i hope it helps=)

[YungReg88]

OMG, everything you said to skip was exactly some of the same things that I was doing. No wonder I wasn't getting anywhere. My question is, what if you try to make the girl guess who you are on the phone but she hangs up on you instead?

[k7dq]

fucking nice i love u man i really appreciate ur kindness in delivering us these hard learnt tips.

[Necroman666]

trust me, just be yourself and fuck the rest of the world and you'll get a whole lotta girls, you don't even need not to be shy, just be yourself, trust me, they'll come up to u

[erezike]

being you is being confident in yourself

many arent so confident.

being confident is the ability to have relaxed conversation.

so sitting around doing nothing would get you nothing but selfpity

[aprilshowers495]

I need a man 2 treat me like a queen 8

[thetattytruth]

so does Michael Barrymore

[romeorichie]

ok....but u shud also hav to treat me like a king.

[appolo08]

very nice

[matt1746]

Brilliant videos man.

[arkady39]

How likely is that to happen?

[Wkcstorm7]

lol its so funny when he says "hellwo" then Who died? haha he's great ") very good advice ;)

[JoesRedGuitar]

Well, that'd probably suck big time if somebody died. Hah

[peasinacan]

dud......u get a thumbs up

[0wastedyouth0]

yah unless some did die then your stuck at home jerkin off again

[arkady39]

Thanks, that's a great idea. I wonder if I should make an audio program, dedicated exclusive to phone conversations.

[jadedmasquerade]

but how do you carry on the conversation without material prepared?

[swedishmeat69]

i been checking out alot of websites from pua's, and i can't think of anyone mentioning or giving substantial advise about how to handle the phone calls (which i guess you will have alot once u've learned normal street game well).

it would be very useful!!

and please give your opinion on my suggestion to a guy's problem with this opener...

my suggestion is posted as a reply to a comment written approx. 9 months ago)...

[uploader1010]

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO­OOOOL who died, but what if she says hello normally ?

[davidlikehockey]

I know eh, its funny how he says it hahahaha

[arkady39]

Yes, very likely.

[jesswa4]

It could get kinda awkward if someone actually did die.

[arkady39]

Yes, I bet, but... how likely is that to happen?

[FormulaRX]

Arkady, can you help me out here. Yesterday I was at a club with this girl "Jenny" who is very interested in me but I don't feel the same toward her. All of her friends keep asking me about what I think of her just to try to get us to speed things along. "Jenny" also has a close friend "Stacy" that I actually really like. I got "Stacy's" number but how do I go forward with this knowing that both "Stacy" and I might be hesitant about "Jenny's" feelings if something did start between us???

[arkady39]

I don't see a problem, here. Be honest but nice about the fact that you are not interested in Jenny and don't set false expectations in her, and at the same time talk to Stacy and move forward with her.

[FormulaRX]

Thanks, but I am somewhat close friends with "Jenny". I know she has liked me for a while now but has never openly told me. I think the reason why she is close friends with me is in hopes that it will lead to more than friends, but I don't see it that way at all. If "Stacy" is a good friend to "Jenny", she might not want anything to do with me for the sake of not hurting "Jenny's" feelings. "Stacy" has no idea I like her. She thinks I like "Jenny" and even asked me about her yesterday...*sigh*

[SinbadGallucci]

dont say thank you at the end of your videos

[arkady39]

Why not?

[krazzyyo2]

Well I call a girl I met. I tried avoiding the intro part. I was nervous, but since I was making a PB&J sandwich while on the phone, I asked her guess what I am making right now..blah blah..then she says she likes a P&J sandwich, but she buys the jar where the P&J are already mixed. Then I said people who buy the pre mix are lazy..blah blah..we went back and forth at each other. I started out talking about a pretty random thing and it went very well.kept it short too.

[arkady39]

Good job.

[lancekol]

ive been watching a few of your videos,and I really hope this works...

[arkady39]

I would have no problem with that at all. I would let her decide who she wants to be with, as you cannot convince a woman to be with you. The only thing that will make her be with one man or the other is... her desire to be with him.

[pacus123]

Arkady you're just too damn good. Nuff said. I vote you smartest man on youtube. No contest.

[arkady39]

Thanks, you are took kind!

[laetrille]

How do you steal a girl you really like but she has a boyfried???

[arkady39]

You don't! You move on and pursue other women who are single and available. Interfering with others' relationship is rarely` a good idea.

Thanks.

[laetrille]

You are probrably correct but we live in a competitive world and if it was not for competition many things would be wrong.

[arkady39]

Very true, but this is NOT the area of life where you should be competing. Usually it's a waste of energy, time and emotions. Further, the more competitive you are over a woman, the less attractive you will usually appear to her.

[laetrille]

very very true but you are not going to display this kind of behavior you can tapp into her supconcious wihout her even knowing it. Trial and error is the best way to know how to do this.

[arkady39]

I am sure it's works in some cases and for some girls, but... I am not a big fan of that strategy.

[krazzyyo2]

move on..it will not be worth it.

[demonknight66698]

Excellent, it's easy to take things too seriously especially when you're nervous about the first phone call.

[arkady39]

Totally!

[kylethecrackhead06]

your a pretty cool guy with your advice and the tips u give us.

can you make a video on how to actually be more confident with approching women or maybe you have already I just forgot.

btw you are a pretty cool guy

[arkady39]

My pleasure. And remember, it will take more than one tip, trick of self-convincing to overcome nervousness - it's a process that requires work and patience but you are clearly on the right track!

[arkady39]

Good job. Not everyone gets the jokes and not everyone responds the same way to humor. Younger girls are usually more "uptight" and are less capable of handling sarcasm although it's not always the case. Perhaps you should ease on the humor just a bit.

Fear of loss is the worst thing.... have you seen my video "Don't walk on eggshells?" When you are being overly cautious, that's when the majority of problems begin. Don't do it no matter how attractive she is.

[kotk05]

five star advice

[arkady39]

Thanks!

[Funschiniho]

lol you're right, it is boring to hear those dull and cheesy intros, like hi, how are you, etc. Great point to bring up.

Also, loved how you demonstrated how it's better to not do the usual and give a cheeky and funny response and get straight into the action.

Anyways, thanks for this video and your other videos they have been very helpful and have taught me a lot about how to approach woman and look forward to seeing your next video :)

[arkady39]

Whether you should take her to her place depends on the circumstances. Who drove to meet each other and how far, etc...

[arkady39]

Thanks for watching. What you want to achieve is a process, a little bit of work and patience. Start learning today and the skills will come as you learn (and learning is fun too).

[trapordie87]

Good video man...  I can't tell you how much all yours have helped me.....

[arkady39]

Thanks, I am glad to hear that.

[vetmksharani]

Good, as I remember you already said this thing in one of your previous videos...

No worries..Bring it on...

[arkady39]

Wow, good catch. I am repeating myself... well, I hope that reminding the community of certain important things is also useful...

[njikwa]

could you make a video about dealing with nervoussness and courage in approaching women

[arkady39]

Sure, I will address this within a week.