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  • Start doing public speaking.

  • I am introverted, but I zone a lot and I am never focused. I have a speaking problem, too. I think. Sometimes it is hard...

  • I want a social life I have lost my mates and I have lost my sense of humor. Just want to get involved and want people to want to meet up with me ect.

  • social life social life social life~ i want it!!!

  • there are people that smile at me on the street the thing it is that is the only thing they do i think it seams kind of plan r they saposta say a centence or some thing

  • i love you vanae..you're a beautiful flower

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  • For the dumb fucks who give 'Alcohol' as advice. That was just fucking stupid. Are you trying to tell me that everytime you want to talk to someone you will drink alcohol? Why not go hang yourself while you do it? Cause everyone knows alcohol does kill. This video is meant for those who are in depression, who have been bullied, who can not be able to socialize with others. You may think it's funny, but please have fucking respect for it. Now fuck off.

  • I find that i can be awesome on youtube and facebook, but im a dud in real life.

  • i found a solution to this problem.... and that is watching porn.

  • Even us "old" shy fogies can learn from your videos. Keep up the good work.

  • marry me??

    

  • Social pressure in western world is suffocating

  • Fuck you, I wanna kill myself after this

  • @osomchan no you don't, why would you want to kill urself, no matter what there's no reason to kill urself, if you get bullied then talk to an adult about it, and there's always someone at your school that will talk to you and be your friend.

  • liquid courage

  • just drink alcohol

  • @funcola123

    thats the best way to be social, and get to know people!

  • lol that question is simple, just put a "mask" on and pretend to be some1 else for first impresions, invent some storys to make ppl say "wow!" then after u know them for a while u can be more urself

    ps: never tell them u lied at the beggining xD

  • @Hug0Pro why should you pretend something that you're not? when i meet new people, i'm always just myself. many people don't want to know me well, but they're not worth my time

  • @loonytin cause thats whatsociety is all about derpface, or you think everyone are what they seem? u ca check tht after knowing some1 that person is not who u thought at beggining, she can be a eve better person or a worse one.

    and thats society, if u cant adjust to it ur an outcast, i dont like the rules either but thats how it works. so

    1- mask

    2- then get to know better

    3- if they stick rround, just become good friends, easy pizzi

  • @Hug0Pro so what's the point of getting to know people, if they're just pretending something that they're not?

  • I love your voice :D

  • I'm afraid this doesn't work for me. My problem is a complex trust problem with years of sociopathic family members leading you back and forth in till you settle down and let them bath your brain in their arrogance. I don't trust people, instead I just befriend those that are happy to get by on little social exchange. I go into meltdown if someone confronts me with certain things so even if you set me up with some social makeover it would only be a mess waiting to happen. lmfao

  • smoking weed helps...

  • @LouisianaFowler17

    heeyyyeeaayyeaaayeaaaaaaaaay

    smoke weed everyday

  • @TheRandomGrabber best shit.....ever

  • I've lost faith in American women......I fear im gonna turn out to be that older dude with an obviously foreign hot chick who would be too good for me if she was born in the states

  • why do people love to be social? whats so good about being social?

  • @xzaxx nothing but it helps you on multiple things

  • @xzaxx live with out socializing is depressing and its said people don't live long if they stick to themselves.

  • @xzaxx

    alot of things bro you should look into it

  • @TheRandomGrabber what? what things?

  • @xzaxx

    trust me, if you know more people life is better

    you have more confidence and have a real sense that your appreciated

  • @xzaxx It can get you to meet new people, and never being alone... just by socializing. By not socializing then what is the point of life? Being alone, eating alone, sleeping alone etc? It sure leads to depression later on. Do you not want to meet the love of your life and grow old with her/him? You were born on this earth, and it means you gotta take responsibility for yourself. Everyone deserves to be happy and if you do not like the person it's alright to tell the person to fuck off.

  • @Shootgun01 what about people who chooce to be alone?

  • @xzaxx Well son, the people who choose to be alone will get sad in life later on. Being alone is never the key, happiness is. And well, if you choose to be alone I guess that is your choice. But whenever depression comes to you, do not let depression win. Every human is strong to make a right decision for themselves, and it is never too late.

  • @Shootgun01 This is a very switched off and very 19th century reply. Alone is the new intelligent. Sex is easy to find but if you have to be with someone, you're only focussed on what you've been conditioned to believe.

  • outgoing means going out not to being social!!!

  • your right mr8bally

  • than 5 seconds"

    the next week, "when you see attractive women, keep that eye contact, but add in a smile"

    the next week "eye contact, smile, say hi"

    and so on.

    little steps like these are what we introverts are looking for, dont just tell us to go out and just do it, it doesnt work that way believe me.

  • im sorry but if you are trying to change an introvert into becoming more outgoing, you might not just want to tell them "go and meet people".

    thats like telling a deaf person to "just listen" i know, i am an introvert.

    a better way is to have them take small steps that doesnt involve meeting people RIGHT AWAY but instead work on the mental aspect of it. like a good tip is telling them something like, "for a whole week, whenever you see an attractive woman, maintain eye contact for more

  • boobs as a banner = $

    bolts go through cleavage

  • This girl is so articulate when she speaks. It's so impressive and I'm jealous. I need to watch her videos and learn from her, as well as her hand gestures.

  • Like she said, just say hi.

    I knew a guy who would meet beautiful women just by saying hi to them - - it's the weirdest thing, i know.

  • WTF!!!!! if you wanna be more social then just talk

  • Hottie alert

  • Be more social but do not ever forget the real world and life!!!

  • come

  • urine

  • poop

  • @nyc11104 Men are less socially adept than women? Err yeah. Most of the most persuasive and highly connected people in the world are men. You sound like a manhating troll.

  • one question: is your shirt open ALL the way down?

  • i wanna be as out-going as you. you are the coolest chick ever!

  • Hey I dont know if you still get on but i use to be social.. but for some reason whenever i talk to my old friends i talk but the conversation ends quick... lol your pretty by the way :) ANYWAY yea i was wondering if you can tell me maybe why i turned out this way.... yes im more isolated than anything.. like its to the point where at a party i like going outside and be by myself!!! lol that just sucks!!!

  • Hey I dont know if you still get on but i use to be social.. but for some reason whenever i talk to my old friends i talk but the conversation ends quick... lol your pretty by the way :) ANYWAY yea i was wondering if you can tell me maybe why i turned out this way.... yes im more isolated than anything.. like its to the point where at a party i like going outside and be by myself!!! lol that just sucks!!!

  • @Vanae12 All I heard was "blah blah blah blah this is my egotistic mind telling you how to be more "social" blah blah blah blah..." Go read Eckhart Tolle, the problems that need to be solved are in that book. Honestly it's sickening to see how you are giving people the wrong advice...This video won't help anyone who isn't "social" enough to societies standards... No video on youtube will.

  • The Power of Now??

  • @blueDome74 Yes, I've read it 3 times, working on a New Earth. Great books, great advice, and I couldn't be happier. I used to watch videos on youtube about all this stuff, and honestly, it only made things worse. The only answers are in those books. The answers to life itself... Its truly amazing.

  • @Calaxus

    technically, the needle in the hay is the only different thing, surrounded by all the same hay; people just never take a deeper look.

  • FAKE ASS BITCH UGGGGGGGGGG

  • @Specialchimp calm yo self!! :P

  • AND UR A DUMBASS

  • stare at one eyeball of anyone you talk to. Its my chuck norris falocon punch, 

  • FUCK OFF...

  • If you tried to say hello to everyone who walks by you in NYC people will think your insane.

  • @Petefly100 maybe the point is to not care what people think

  • @Petefly100 So true or they'll say go eff yourself it's happened to me

  • Why the fuck can't I just be one of those smooth ass holes who can just walk right up to any chic and make conversation. It's pretty annoying

  • How the hell can you be social with a fucking speech impediment?

  • @XOPWNDOX If a person can have tourettes syndrome and still be social, so can those with speech impediments. I recommend seeing a speech therapist.

  • @XOPWNDOX if you're hot. hot girls with a speech impediment = male bait

  • You can't make yourself be more "extraverted". It drives me a bit nuts how people get this wrong. Introverted doesn't mean anti-social. Introverted simply means you recharge your energy when you are alone. Extraverted means you recharge your energy by being around people. Extraverts TEND to be more social indeed, but introverts absolutely can learn to be social. I am a prime example. Also if you have social anxiety, none of this applies or will help until you change your BELIEFS.

  • @interparadigm So how can a introvert become more outgoing and extro?

  • 4:20 - *Melted

  • i think this is easier if ur attractive like this girl... If ur looking like what aint considered good in society at that time then a negative reaction from a stranger will make u more introverted, protective, & defensive...

  • ILL like to bust a nut in your face!:D

  • Well, believe it or fucking not there are people out there who have nothing to talk about. I'm sure some of these assholes who comment here and laugh at this video were the typical retarded jocks and retarded ''Pink in Ladies'' in high school. How the fuck can you not show some respect for the other people who try so hard to be accepted? Why is that so hard? People basically committ suicide after being bullied. How can that not be awful? So just shut the fuck up and stop making fun of this vid.

  • @Shootgun01

    shut up you nerd, grow a pair to stand up for yourself.

    Building a fundation and getting friends is hard FOR EVERYONE and everyone has to work for it, not complain and just hoping to be accepted,

    Dating is different because it is more random and from the heart so interacting with the opposite gender may not be for everyone.

    But to be socially accepted is something everyone can achieve so stop being a lazy fuck and go out there and make some friends.

  • @obliviondj It is a lot easier for some and really hard for others.

  • @obliviondj Are you still dreaming? Haha, please be realistic..EVERYONE will NOT achieve what they want in life. Not everyone will get socially accepted and therefore kill themselves because of it. Wow, are you high? You think i'm talkin for myself? Oh no, I have already achieved my dream. So yes, that's what it really takes to go far in life by being a nerd. So?.. why is that bad? I'm talking for those who have comitted suicide after being bullied. It's a lot harder for some. Stfu.

  • @Shootgun01

    I assumed you were talking about yourself.

    Excuse me if I was wrong.

    And only the weak are unnable to have a decent enough social life.

  • @nyc11104 lmao thats a good one bro/sis xD

  • People are born extroverted or introverted. It's genetic, I can't fucking help it ._.

  • @guyboy625 hey man iv gotten way more social and confidant of my self i got tired of being shy so i forced my self to talk to people trust me it seems impossible to fix but its not it and people like venae help even more to erase a little bit of that shyness so just push nd force yourself to speak

  • i think the bullying that i toke in school has made me feel like no one wants to talk to me =( my mate did ask me if i want to go fishing with him and instead of getting scared and saying now i sayed yes i am scared if his other friends will think badly about me but hopefully i will make a good impersation and bulid confidence. =)

  • Your video is very helpful. What's your phone number?

  • melting huh i seem to do that to women alot it iant the weather its me little lady (SWAG!)

  • Shit prize

  • I don't want to be outgoing, those are the ones who always get killed in Law and Order!

  • leave being social to girls who talk too damn much.

  • can i do you vanae

  • figured id say this: your gorgeous!!!

  • I hate people that talk with their hands.

    

  • @ mr8bally cool now where is my red stamp

  • @StephenCaples- No my mom isn't a women,..idiot. My mom is a woman!

    Also, for the slow folks such as this, I was speaking of the Order that God ordained for Mankind, for Man was created first and women came from the rib of man, therefore...men didn't come from women but rather women came from Man. The two are NOT EQUAL, but respect is due of each other as the Scripture testifies.

  • Your a bit up yourself...lol just sayin

    

  • You can't ''become'' extroverted, it's biological. There's a difference between being extroverted and social. I have become more social in the last few years, but I still gain energy through time alone.

  • You watch Battlestar Glactica? I don't, but I find that hot that you do. Hahaha..

  • STOP TRYING TO TEACH MEN HOW TO BE WOMEN!!! MEN DIDN'T COME FROM WOMEN!! Spirit of a decietful woman!

  • @ObediyahNazir So your mom isn't a women? lmfao

  • SOLUTION: MORE ALCOHOL = MORE SOCIAL...PROBLEM SOLVED

  • @mr8bally LOL. Winning.

  • @Blactor :D hahaha

  • @mr8bally more alcohol = more dead. sure, problem solved.

  • @mr8bally ITS SAD ALL U 77 PPL CANT START OR LIVE WITOUT ALCOHOL...LOL THE NEXT MORNING U'LL 4GET WAT U TALKED ABOUT!!..Next talk grab a bottle LMAO

  • @MrMtz505 1 bottle usually does the trick u must be getting blasted before using this method haha

  • @mr8bally thats for losers. people that have anxiety use the method you said.!

  • @xzaxx i guess thats why the majority of sexual activity occurs after ingesting alcohol ha, and a little does help just dont over do it hahaha

  • not fair, I live in the middle of but fuck nowhere and can't drive

  • Introverts are far more intelligent than Extroverts. Why? Because Introverts know why Extroverts like to talk. Extroverts on the other hand cant understand why Introverts like to be alone. It takes something called "abstract reasoning" to understand someone else s behavior. To understand the way another person acts. Introverts have it. Extroverts don't.

  • @Jsmooth7444 its hard to change who u are no matter how confident u are, even the most confident people such as performers get nervous, guess it depends mostly how u were raised

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  • I'd fuck her.

  • @nyc11104

    This dating "advice" is as hollow as your retort. 

  • i hate to admit this but sometimes i have trouble being sociable with others. im not really shy or anythin, i sometimes just run out of things to say or run out of topics for conversations and im not really a funny, humorous person, i can be but it aint the usual.

  • ouch lol

  • @nyc11104 i'm very sorry if what i'm going to say might offend you, but your comment really is very stupid and narrow minded eventhough you might have ment this as a joke. as a woman i know how it is to be judged by my gender and because of that i don't think it's ok to make this kind of joke without it being cleared up that it's just that.

    if you truly have this oppinion then i'm sorry for you being that narrow minded about your fellow humans ^^

  • HEY!! YOU! BIG MISTAKE! Because extroverts prefer social situations does not mean that introverts are not outgoing....bit mistake alot of people make. Sometimes you CANNOT even tell the difference whe hanging out in groups. It does not mean that they have little or no friends or that they are shy. You're video should only have been titles how to be more OUTGOING....

    I'm an introvert, but I'm not shy at all and I am very outgoing....

  • LMAO !! Quote (in general you know this is a world right?) SOOO TRUE!!!

  • M.I.L.F lol jks

  • i wish u was my girl

  • where were you doin this at. looks like you were doin this inside a tent.

  • LETS GET A HOW TO MAKE SAMMICH

  • ur so beautiful!

  • Looser!

  • omg omg omg..ive always wanted to learn how to be more outgoing?....thank you sweetie...

  • hate social people that don't shut up. I almost always don't give a shit what people have to say about things

  • @nyc11104 yeah so i guess neither gender has the answer

  • sounds reasonable!!

  • Problem for me is that I'm not shy at all with people in public, but when I'm around with my parents I just feel weird.

  • if you say hi to everyone people are gonna make you a retard  XD

  • If you're shy and not confortable with talkin to people... Juz smile...

    I smile..and a dude come up to me and said he really appreciate it.

    But sometimes..when u smile to someone and they dont smile back. ..Juz dnt give a F*..u never noe...Ur smile could make someone day..

  • Thank you very much for your advice. I added both websites to my favorites list and actually browsed through some of the material. I really enjied it very much. Thanks!

  • i was told not to talk to strangers =D

  • You know what? I'm gonna do all this shit. I'm tired of waiting like a needle in a hay stack. Waiting to be found. If you want to be found, you're gonna half to be a hay. You'll have a better chance of being found if you stick out.

  • Too much work. I'd rather stay in my comfort zone, cause then I could just chill and listen to Wu-Tang Clan all day.

  • HHAHAHAHAA YA SLUT!!  XD

  • vanae oh la la 0.0

  • BLABLABLABLABAAAAAA once you came to youtube come up with something really smart JEZZ

  • the big surprise was sex

  • @Plissken07

    your right no one is shy is just negative energy

  • Tip: All of these suggestions only work if you're a hot asian girl.

  • Introverts aren't always shy. Some introverts simply love being alone, not being disturbed, etc. :) And some extroverts cannot be alone.

    So it's not bad to be introvert if you are :)

  • @jesuislepluscool EXACTLY! Society usually looks at someone that is "alone", and then just assumes that that person is "lonely" and a loser and an introvert etc etc all these negative connotations.

    You know what, some people just prefer to be alone NATURALLY and they are completely happy with it.

    Just freakin leave them alone, stop trying to "help" them follow your stupid religion of being a "normal" societal sheep like everyone else.

  • @hyusama Couldn't agree more.

  • Thanks to this I am extrovert now!

  • I know I can be extrovert but fuck my fucking English. I'm still learning and I can't speak fluent. That's why I become shy and introvert.

  • Since you have alot Experience i really need u to PM Me i am in a really Weird Situation

  • I have been introverted my whole life, and it sucks. Like everything else there needs to be a balance. It's nice to be alone sometimes, but honestly being introverted is holding me back in life. Never before has social networking been so important in life. But its not only mental, its physical. My body cramps up and I feel like crap. And you analyze everything you say instead of just saying it with confidence. Why? I tried all of your confidence boosters and they work..but only temporarily.

  • @ltdesp2002 Dude thats so true, fuckin sucks...

  • if you try saying hi to everyone people are gonna think you kinda crazy

  • My stutter made me antisocial.. I don't even want to try to be social because I feel so.. #FAIL

  • @NextLvlProductions i feel ya i stutter when i cant pronounce a word or think of anything and my ADD effects my social life as well since i get distracted and cant focus long on conversations i hate it >.<

  • her surprise is a bj,,, fyi

  • people are boring

    

  • @Metamorphisize bitch ur boring

  • Thanks for the awesome video! I love the "little steps" approach, where you socialize more and more through small talk.

    Robin Michelle

  • your hot!!=p

  • vanae's a cool name