Bariatric Eating. I am a failure. I am imperfect.

[sleepoptimistic]

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TRY! Either you succeed or you learn a vital lesson. Win - Win

[sleepoptimistic]

(notefromafriend) Failures are temporary situations that teach us necassary lessons. - Life's best lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. So yes, you will fail sometimes. The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant. You'll never be 100% sure it will work but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won't work. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. So get out there and .

[coacoaahhh]

No one is perfect and you don't have to be. I'm not, celebrities aren't, no one is. And that is just fine.

[Nork1994]

lol she mad

[meltingmamamelted]

@Nork1994 LOL She was.

[Papakia666]

People Need brain and not more face painting, more cars and clothes...

[MsLindaEaves]

Not perfect. Had a cookie just now and it was marvelous. Hate me if you will.

[meltingmamamelted]

@MsLindaEaves ME? LOL.

[MsLindaEaves]

@meltingmamamelted :-) Love the Bad Girls Club. For me it's good to walk the curvy and crooked sometimes instead of the straight and narrow everyday. When I deny myself a certain food, eventually I will break down and buy a warehouse club sized container of it. Eating and enjoying one cookie makes more sense.

[cabernetqueen]

i think Dr. Seuss said it best..BE WHO YOU ARE AND SAY WHAT YOU FEEL, THOSE WHO MIND-DON'T MATTER, AND THOSE WHO MATTER--DON'T MIND.

[melitriotcan]

I really wish I lived closer to you. I think you are such a wonderful/Beautiful being. I always look forward to your blogs daily :) xoxoxoxo

P.s. I used to be the type that said, "oh, i'll never do that, i'll eat good even after awhile, i can't go wrong." I never understood the reality of the hardship of "maintaining" until i got to this point. I do screw up and i'm not perfect either, all we can do is put the fork down, realize we did something wrong, and move on.. I love ya girly! xoxo

[xant4141]

I feel for you, can you tell me what is good about you, whats good in your life.

[randjfalcon]

This is crazy. I am about 3 1/2 years RNY post op and I LOVE LOVE LOVE you. I think you are honest, funny as hell, and very informative. Please don't change for the Bariatric-Bots who think we should all be like them. Some of us eat wrong and pay the consequences. We know it's wrong and don't need "them" to look down on us for it. Please keep up the good work and know that you are touching the right people.

[MsLindaEaves]

Every imperfect cell in your body is wondrous! Thank you for being authentic and real. And thank you for pointing me in the direction of Impatient Dieter. And a little secret - I've had a FunYun since surgery. OH NOES!! <3 Ya!

[SOiTiSTrUe]

You need not listen to people like that, they obviously have issues.

[doranda777]

ANd I thought I had problems,Sometimes I feel that I am a failure so that's why I typed it in on this site. And I didn't expect to find sooo many posts like these. o_O

[mjteller]

i dont like your i am a failure, i dont think so - i think the wls community is fantastic, i have just watched your video, i haven't seen any other viseos from you but this is very good and powerful-perhaps that person has not really walked our walk-

no one is perfect, as you read, not even her, she apparently did not realize the negativity involved in her words...anyways, you go girl-YOU ROCK!!!

[lapbandking]

Keep it up. Look how much you have accomplished.

[MySilentSerenity]

LOL!!! I Love it. I had to get out the face mask the other day too. Pimple police were put out on patrol!! Who cares what people say. It's disheartening when people share in kind words. Normally it is validity that you are doing something right, not wrong. Keep up the good work!! I personally do not want to hear from someone who says they are perfect. Because you know what that means. They are closet eaters and they won't do any good to help anyone who is going through somthing that needs help.

[valpars]

Don't let the naysayers get you down. I read your site frequently and have received a lot of helpful information from it. What I love about you is that you are down-to-earth and honest. Keep your chin up and remember you have plenty of people who value your insights. Stay strong!

[readysetgo27]

she is unrealistic if she thinks that after wls there will never be a time that something bad wont go in her mouth because there are no perfect people i am 5 months out  i try to stay on tract but to say i will never have suger or any bad is not a healthy mind set so i well be right here watching you! thank you for you great videos

[bridgadeans]

I absolutely adore and love you and your imperfections! I think if we were perfect we wouldn't be here. So you keep on keeping on and rock our socks with your videos!

[valthebutterfly]

I'm not perfect either and I love your imperfect little self!!!!

val AKA **willow**

[jbwbecka]

If eating perfect makes a person act like that, I'll take my once every 3 month donut thank you very much : )

[raineysummer]

yeah- I don't know what that person's malfunction truly is- other than being a drama llama- yeah- if you ever acted "perfect" then you wouldn't have 1/2 the subscribers you have- we love you because you are real- just like your show- it was named reality bites for a reason lol- you rawk chica and we wouldn't want you any other way.

[zoesmybaby]

mmm jelly beans, dear Lord I am not perfect...but I AM very healthy! I know my limits AND correct portion sizes now! Also that doesNT mean I dont exercise, take my vitamins, and drink my fluids...I am 6 months post op and YOU have motivated me to be "good" or at the very least better than I would be without motivation from you and other seasoned vloggers!

[meltingmamamelted]

Keep on keepin' on.

[talltallone]

I don't think you have ever acted the "holier than thou" thing. You are an amazing person who has gone through a lot of shit and come out smelling like a rose.  I admire your perseverance and screw the people who have the attitude. We are all human and we are all different. 'Nuff said.

Thank you for your example and your wealth of information!

[Martha001]

I haven't had even one single Dorito since surgery 18 months ago, but I'd still rather adhere to a life of "everything in moderation" than a life of being a food nazi.

[meltingmamamelted]

...I haven't had Doritos, but I sit here dipping a piece of bread into olive oil. Yeah. It's fcking good too.

[belovedideas]

You're NOT angry? I am. She also had the nerve to say she'd never heard of you (I subscribed to the site just to read the offending thread). The us against them mentality of certain folks creates an unrealistic perfectionistic ideal that all of us mere humans will fall short of because, well, we're human. I'm glad to be on the human team! Loved your Reality Bites vid! Stay strong.

[meltingmamamelted]

Eh. I assumed some bad would come. This, was just WEIRD, coming from a "trusted source" of Bariatric Support.

I do think they are creating an environment that pushes us toward eating disorders, though.

[silliprincesspeachie]

"I do think they are creating an environment that pushes us toward eating disorders, though. "

You can say that again! there are soooo many threads that just scream 'thinspiration' to me.  its almost like they went from compulsive overeating to anorexia

[VANVALIS]

The person who wrote you that needs a beating.

[kristenrumford]

I tell my six year old that there is no such thing as perfect. We all just do the best we can do. As a business women I have to say you are right. One should never ostracize a client. Word of mouth is the best advertisement you can ever get, so why attack the people that keep a roof over your head. That's just counterproductive.

[CreationofClay]

but I am completely offended simply by her self-righteous finger pointing at anyone who lends or finds support in or on a site other than her own. I think that is where her REAL issue is. She wants everyone to follow and bow to her. I'd like to buy her for what she's worth and sell her for what she thinks she's worth. Then maybe I could afford the things she boasts about.

[CreationofClay]

SM loves to look down her nose at us "little people." That's the main reason I no longer blog or shop at her site. Her WL "Success" combined with the money she has places her on this self imposed pedastool. She completely flaunts her money and the perks it brings her. SHE is NOT perfect either. My dr told me no alcohol yet she talks about glasses of wine and so forth, amist her wonderful vacations and oppurtunities her money has brought her. I am not one of those who still eat like I did preop..

[LiLtinee]

Sounds like she has issues. WoW.  I didn't have this surgery as a perfect patient preop, and I haven't become perfect postop. No magical perfection came with it. I've just learned some really healthy habits. Do I have indiscretions? YES! I'm still very human. Fortunately, the surgery helps me limit them and face reality. I hope this post makes sense.

Dena

[meltingmamamelted]

You make perfect sense. This surgery has helped immensely, however...

[MoonlitCraft]

You're doing the best you can! Life isn't always going to mold around someone once they've had surgery. You're only human!!!

[tallsmartbeauty]

guy is a jerk who cares..he obviously hasnt watch anything of yours lol

[meltingmamamelted]

Heheheh... IT was a woman.

[meltingmamamelted]

MPHIL-

It was, that's why I was told to go and check it out. It's cool though.

[katiejuly]

Brava, lovely! None of us is perfect and if I thought having the surgery meant never being able to even lick a crumb of doughnut again, I wouldn't have signed up for this. Perfection isn't the goal. Being healthy - including the occassional indescretion! - is. Thanks for keeping it real.

[Goobian]

I just watched your reality bites show as well as this video. I think the best thing in life is to just be honest. You will lose people but also gain people as well. This woman sounds more like a salesperson for GPS then someone like you that wants to help people before and after. Giving people blind faith that everything is going to be perfect with ANY major surgery not just this one is irresponsible and foolish. I think admitting you eat a donut sometimes isn't an awful thing!

[dbaseII]

If this is the person I THINK it is, they are very ill from WLS - from observers, they cannot eat much solids, have severe osteoporosis, have auto immune probs. It's likely jealousy. You have a lot of talent in speaking/writing, you have many followers and it's a compliment that they have chosen you to be on the WLS channel, a group of folks I hold in high esteem. When you get a bit of fame, some folks cannot handle it at all. Don't even think abt the insult. Ignore it. It's BS!

[meltingmamamelted]

No freakin' way. :x Send me a message. There's no way, I'm not "allowed to speak" because I have issues, that would be pot/black.

[dbaseII]

??? in referring to "this person" I was talking about the person who was possibly the one who dissed you. :) you know I think YOU ROCK, Beth!!!

[meltingmamamelted]

I know, I just wondered if you knew who it was.

[dbaseII]

I have a feeling I know... let's put it that way! :)

[MissJanieHere]

wow. that is so sad.

[CreationofClay]

You're right, she did not do her vitamins and supplements like she was supposed to and broke her ankle (?) in a bad motorcycle accident that she admits was worse because of her lack of calcium but I didn't see anyone raking her over the coals. Pfftttt on her! It's really sad because her site does have some great people and bloggers who contribute valuable info but her ugliness over shadows the good.

[SarahWillBeSkinny]

sounds like that person is just looking for an excuse.... ugh.

[sixdumboutlaws]

well, now I know where NOT to shop

[laffleck1]

I appreciate you, as do so many others!! I, too, look forward to your blogs, videos, rants, recommendations... they make me think & question. You state some honest truths that are needed to be looked at. Sorry this happened... any consolation: my s#@t smells like roses... lol

[angdi11]

So sorry this happened. I think you're great. None of us is perfect.

[lilbunny38]

I love you blog!!!! Keep it coming MM, i love your honesty!!!! NO I AM NOT PURFECIT. OH A TYPE O....SEE!!!!

Peace!!!

[mamatika9]

Beth, I always look forward to your videos. You are funny & real and I get a kick out of you! Thanks for posting the fact that you aren't perfect- I have been mislead all along!! :)

Kim

[bratlee2u]

Tell that naysayer to SUCK IT! Jealousy! You are loved and they are jealous of that. You are loved not because you are perfect but because you are REAL. And what is that business of no DSers being allowed on the site.

[Journey2betrhealth]

Well said. Wait, you mean you're NOT perfect? Darn!

Donna:)

[TTCafterRNY]

Beth, Thanks for this. Kristy

[cotysmom]

well, I think you are normal...but perfectly wonderful! I think you are an amazing inspiration for other wls folks and you are very intelligent and well spoken. I think you are wonderful I read your blog also, but never comment. Just brush it off..jealousy can make people do horrible things. (stool softener) lol thanks soooo much for sharing that. You wanna walk/talk..walk like an Egyptian while sucking on a carrot!! Enjoy your life, eat fairly well and enjoy your occassional indulgence! LIVE!

[stackpoles]

Beth, I look at your blog dailey and love it. You are honest and right to the point. I also want to Thank you. I have tried click, and protein bars from smartforme, and would of never found them products without you.

[mywlsjourney]

I am sorry Beth that someone had to go out of their way to attack. Some people just amaze me (shaking my head) it's negative drama like that that disguists me! Obviously they are just jealous of your success. Pay no attention. Hang in there!

[MissJanieHere]

hey...EX-dorito eater here...but the baked cheetos are starting to sound good! lol!

we are all human and imperfect and need each others support. life is hard and wls is not a cure.

You are an awesome person...keeping it real is why I love watching you! Your reality helps me try harder at this crazy wls post op life. Stay real.

[meltingmamamelted]

Chef Jay's Protein Puffs. It's my next review, well.. close to. NOM.

[MissJanieHere]

can't wait to hear it. the only protein "puff" thing i have around here are the proti snax chili soy snack i got at my surgeons bariatric "store". not bad but not too great either.

[meltingmamamelted]

No, these are good. I made a little dip with Greek Yogurt - and Hello SNACK!

[MissJanieHere]

Hey! I got my box on Saturday for these and you are right they are good! now i need to know how you make your dip so include that info in your product review, girl! hope you have a great week! hugs,jane

[atomx71]

Well Beth just brush your shoulders off hon...not worth the time nor energy!

[meltingmamamelted]

Thank you. I appreciate it.

[winelover215]

Oh ... P.S. I LOVE DORITOS! Since they are made from corn they don't give me gas!! :)

[CreationofClay]

Doritos?!?! *gasp* You're going to hell!! lol

[winelover215]

"Oh I didn't even know you existed until this .... yadda yadda yadda. " What a bunch o crap! She is a joke herself. Don't sweat it! Stay true to yourself and live life!

[meltingmamamelted]

I was in her email box about a week ago - we discussed protein powder. *shrug* She said that she'd heard a lot about me?!

[winelover215]

Can't fix crazy!

[watchmegetskinny]

{{CLAP CLAP CLAP!}}

TOM I am SOOOO with you! AHHAHA

[livinlowcarbman]

I get the negative nannies all the time, Beth, and you learn to realize that it means you are making a difference in the world for the better. Keep your head up, my friend. Your work is AMAZING and nobody can ever take that away from you. Keep up the FABULOUS job you are doing.

[meltingmamamelted]

Thank you Jimmy. Delete and move on, right?

[livinlowcarbman]

Well, sometimes you can get a good laugh about what is written about you if you look at it from the perspective that this really isn't about you. It's more about the insecurities about the inadequacy of the person making the attacks. I've been called every nasty name in the book for simply trying to help people get information about losing weight, so there must be something mentally wrong with anyone who would oppose that.  You stay strong, my friend!

[wormfood92]

**** Her!!!! :OP Your great.........keep those who lift you up. Discard those who don't. Besides the products on her website are overpriced!!

You Awesome and have helped me choose things that I will spend money on. Keep up your great work and the real person you are. That is why we watch. She is a balless wonder that would never admit she has food demons just like the rest of us FAT or THIN!

[meltingmamamelted]

Ah well. I think we all have demons, right?

[allisonpacino]

Which website are a talking about? Yea I'm gonna ask because I'm nosey lol

[allisonpacino]

We are all imperfect...Only one perfect person has walked this earth and we'll never hold a candle to that.

You are doing this community a great service Beth!

[meltingmamamelted]

;) Thank you Allison. (And he gave out carbs, right?)

[sparklepinklady]

Thats funny, he gave out carbs !!! lol

[jillmbooth]

You know, I read what's going on on OH and the person that is posting that crap. I love you! I think you are REAL and funny and smart and I look up to you while navigating my wls journey. In fact I don't like perfect people. They are the craziest people of all. Hang in there and stay imperfect (the way we all like you)!!!!

[meltingmamamelted]

*blush* Appreciate it.