Consequences of a Narcissistic Mother on her Adult Daughter

[LaCucaracha78]

Is there a "Consequences of a Narcissistic Mother on Her Son"?

[Monikblessed]

Do you Counsel people via telephone?

[JenniferPHendrix]

That's it.... I'm Screwed!

[JenniferPHendrix]

OMG!  This is my mother.... and me.

[GisellaUnforgotten73]

@JenniferPHendrix My story with my mother,too.I am only sorry I found out too late in the game,after years of depression and panic attacks !

[fancyfrenchy]

what about a NPD father?

[kellycat2552]

I am the counter dependent daughter. I would love to leave her totally now she is in assisted living. She has done all you stated here. I got married and she used lies to try destroy my marriage. She is so good at hiding her deeds that all my relatives blame me for everything that went wrong in their lives. thanks to Sam V. I have now become aware of it.So late! Depressing! My life was surrounded by lies, & deceit. She now has me in charge of her finances, and has me where she wants me.SLAVE

[deroseg]

@kellycat2552 I have both mother and father like this. My dad is sick now and I have spent all summer caring for him thru verbal abuse and mistrust. (we wont even talk about what he did to the family) I live with my mother right now, who wants me to take care of her as she is getting older, trying to suck the life out of me. No dont be a slave. Get out of there and dont have to explain ANYTHING to anyone, including your family. If you can afford to, get away and get yor life back. Trust me.

[SuzyZ]

Another thing to thank my mother for - if only she hadn't lost her mind.

[msbonnie37]

two purring cats, does that make for the best life?

[Baronvonorlack]

Very interesting. Anything on sons of NPD mothers?

[NaciremaDreamz]

My mom is definitely a narcissist. She really mindfucked me during my childhood. I was so confused. Anyways thank you for making these videos

[Hawaiiansky11]

Sam: Could you please address the issue of ad NPD parent creating a Golden Child and a Scapegoat and the difference in how they are treated, how they feel growing up, and their personal relationships in adult life? i.e. do Narcissitic mothers tend to idealize sons and villianize daughters / vice versa??

If you have already done so, please direct me to that video. Thanks!!

[deroseg]

@Hawaiiansky11 OMG story of my life. We all live together, all adults. How much more of a mess out of your life could you have, right? Of course I am the daughter. My friends can see what is going on, I can't point it out to my mother and my brother of course they are in denial. If I tried to get away into a healthy relationship, it was cicumvented. Best NOT to trust or tell them anything and plan your getaway to save your sanity.

[kellycat2552]

I am the daughter who had wonderful grandparents. I rejected my mothers treatment of me. I was the invisible child to her. My brother got all the smothering. She couldn't control me at all, so she didn't care about me. I am now married to a narcissist who tried to cheat on me. Because of my ability to disengage I became more interesting to him. Because I threaten him with embarrassment he is now more careful about how he treats me.

[AlyssaGoesToItaly]

@kellycat2552 You really shouldn't threaten him with embarassment. It's not really my place, I know, but I would leave him. Narcissists do not change. So if not for yourself, please leave him for the sake of your children. Trust me, being the object of a narcissist's attention is not the kind of attention you want. If you are really able to disengage, please do so.

[twopurringcats]

I am an adult child of a pair of Narcissists, I am very independent and have spent years in therapy so I wouldn't be a N too. I have empathy. And, I no longer talk to my parents, they just got too aggressive, controlling and derogatory. I would rather be alone..and have been on my own since 17. I gave up on dating/relationships long ago, just couldn't handle them. Life alone is just fine for me. Nobody is judging or cruel..there is peace.

[msbonnie37]

@twopurringcats makes me wonder

[Nadesiko85]

You have just described my mother. Is so hard hearing this, but at least now I know I´m not the problem. Thank you

[msbonnie37]

@Nadesiko85 I LEARNT THIS TONIGHT, I AM NOT THE PROBLEM!!