I urge white parents to talk to their children, especially their asian, hispanic, black, etc. children about racism and prejudice, or else you have these children who end up hating themselves because they don't have white skin, straight hair, "round eyes."
Have them around people of their original race and culture and make these connections early. There are some things that you can't teach them about alone.
I don`t think whites shoud adopt non white children(isn`t that what this fella is referring to?). Whites are becoming the underclass, it`s time for Asians, HIspanics and Africans to start adopting poor white kids. And yes, there will be prejudice against those white kids as white become poorer and a small minority. Racism is a word for hate whitey.
I also am a non-white in a mostly white suburb. If you ask me, the difference is that, on a subconscious level, I got to go home an see my skin color, see my hair types, and that made me feel more secure. Just my take.
white people make the dumbest comments! you don't know shit! so stop pretending that you do. if you think black people exaggerate, you can test this theory out yourself by either putting on make up to look black or just wear ethnic clothes and see how long it takes to get service at a store! also being a visible minority or handicapped is much harder when you're a kid than an adult.
@y100269 maybe if the blacks stepped up and started adopting black kids or blacks stopped so many of there kids ending up in care then this problem would not exist . don't blame white families for doing the right thing cause the blacks don't !
@dave2806 really? because i know quite a few black families that are foster parents and have adopted kids, it's just not as obvious because well...they and the kids are black so of course no one is going to think that the kids adopted. And i know a lot more white families that have had their kids taken away and then given back only to be taken away again! then i do black families but maybe that's just were you're from...who knows
There is no doubt that trans-racial adoption is complicated and hard, and has an effect on identity. However, the examples given in the video could and does happen to non-adopted people of color. The inferiority complex can come up with or without adoption, and the eye lid surgery in Asian countries such as Korea with non-adopted Asians attests to this fact.
i want to know if this psychologist is racist and if he harbors racist ideas of himself. why does he exploit his profession with asking these such patronizing questions. of course there is racism and discrimination but what does it come to a point that you go beyond their stupidity and just their idiocracy.
@mollykjody Adopted kids are born outsiders. They dont fully fit in to their white enviroment. Than their own people think they are wierd. They can't speak chinese. There mannerisms and how they carry themselfs can be different from the natural chinese kids. Witch leaves you with no people you feel at home with. Being adopted can be hard but it beats being an orphan.
@mollykjody Actually he did not. The kids confessed to racist experiences themselves. Do not blame the psychologist, you should be mad at the perpetrators
EVERYONE goes through that growing up and as a white kid, even in a mostly white town, I certainly experienced it regularly. I can't believe this doctor is surprised that all the hands went up. This happens to all kids today!
@joshua81em What is it that you went through as a white child in an all white town? You mean white people mistreated you because you are white? I am confused.
If you have a sense of your own idenity, and see yourself as bueatiful human bein and you love and grow and learn and people dont plant the seed in you youll not be aware. Black people produce this in children and adults they wine too much ..thy use it on white guilt so they can get what they want. jobs, school, scholarships, If we are all equal then when are they going to stop being a rasist...............shoe is too tight now
that is so not true. growing up my father told me three things. Love and respect yourself as a woman and you will find a man who does the same, Work hard and earn everything you get and you will feel accomplished and never blame anyone for what you caused yourself. Now, IF YOU WATCHED THE VIDEO, I BELIEVE YOU ARE THE DEFINITION OF RACIST, BECAUSE YOU'VE NEVER MET A BLACK PERSON WHO ACTED LIKE THIS OR TOLD YOU THIS, BUT YOU BELIEVE IT TO BE TRUE ANYWAYS. There is no need for guilt dont feel guilt
The bottom line is that the parents have to be available to listen to their children.
If you ask anyone who experienced racism, bias, or prejudice, they'll tell you the parents make the difference.
I had a student who was adopted from Asia by a Jewish family in NY. The parents said that he was no unaccustomed to kids calling him names, but he didn't have to "suffer in silence." The parents made sure that racist name-calling wasn't tolerated.
Children adopted into a different race will experience these differences acutely, because their adoptive families will not look like them either. It's hard enough being adopted by people of the same race, who look like you, but there are still some visual differences, not to mention differences of intellect, ability, political views, religious views, sense of humour, etc. Being adopted, you're always the odd one out. :(
I experienced that and i got called all sorts of names. What child in grade school in the USA doesn't? By 6th grade were got it out of our system and racial crap was out the window. Us kids were friends with who we felt like, because we felt like, and a Sociologist's head would explode trying to assign some sort of formula to that. So i say a big FUCK YOU to race, and all your isms.
Ah that is sad. I don't understand though; is it impossible for a parent to identity and comfort their interracial adopted child about racism? All the videos have so far made it seem liked it'd be impossible for a Caucasian parent to understand, and though I've never been picked on due to my color, I'm sure we've all been picked on in the schoolyard as young children for something. I was teased for having red hair, so couldn't I, at least on a small scale, empathize? Maybe I don't understand.
I think that the main difference is comforting mechanisms. While all of us get teased, the alienation felt by an adoptee for an insult based on physical attributes can be overwhelming. While 2nd gen'ers like myself had "slanty-eyed" parents to tell us its ok, adoptees with caucasian parents get told they are beautiful BECAUSE they are different by...
someone who looks different. This may make them feel better about themselves, but it only accents the alienation initially felt, which I feel accounts for most of the psychological injury. I hope this makes a little sense =) I don't speak for everyone, but these are my honest thoughts on the matter...
I have a daughter from China and experience this with her all the time. A very nice, well educated friend of mine made the slanty eyed gesture regarding my daughter just the other day. I was too stunned to move. I spoke with the woman later. I just want to mention that this has nothing to do with ADOPTION though. It is just pure racism and ignorance.
hai. I'm adopted from Brasil when I was 5 years old. It is so true! But now I'm 20, and I think as a kid, it doesn't bother you so much, but when you're older, and start thinking about all kinds of thinks, then it's more difficult at times! my reaction to 'nicolemama3' is that, for a adopted child is sooo much harder to hear from other kids the way they look, then it is for not adopted kids,so you can't have feel 'the same' as people who are adopted! like the childeren in this video / and me.
hai. I'm adopted from Brasil when I was 5 years old. It is so true! But now I'm 20, and I think as a kid, it doesn't bother you so much, but when you're older, and start thinking about all kinds of thinks, then it's more difficult at times! my reaction to 'nicolemama3' is that, for a adopted child is sooo much harder to hear from other kids the way they look, then it is for not adopted kids,so you can't have feel 'the same' as people who are adopted! like the childeren in this video / and me.
this is so true. But I felt the same thing as a kid and I was with all the same race. Kids just make observations and they are not guided in school as to how to satisfy their curiosity without being silly or hurting feelings.
I urge white parents to talk to their children, especially their asian, hispanic, black, etc. children about racism and prejudice, or else you have these children who end up hating themselves because they don't have white skin, straight hair, "round eyes."
Have them around people of their original race and culture and make these connections early. There are some things that you can't teach them about alone.
yummieyummie123 3 months ago
I don`t think whites shoud adopt non white children(isn`t that what this fella is referring to?). Whites are becoming the underclass, it`s time for Asians, HIspanics and Africans to start adopting poor white kids. And yes, there will be prejudice against those white kids as white become poorer and a small minority. Racism is a word for hate whitey.
pj4today 7 months ago
well done doc!
CrazyNative4 10 months ago
I also am a non-white in a mostly white suburb. If you ask me, the difference is that, on a subconscious level, I got to go home an see my skin color, see my hair types, and that made me feel more secure. Just my take.
exuberantpeace 1 year ago
That is so sad to hear someone going through that at such a young age.
CorvixEyes 1 year ago
white people make the dumbest comments! you don't know shit! so stop pretending that you do. if you think black people exaggerate, you can test this theory out yourself by either putting on make up to look black or just wear ethnic clothes and see how long it takes to get service at a store! also being a visible minority or handicapped is much harder when you're a kid than an adult.
y100269 1 year ago 2
@y100269 maybe if the blacks stepped up and started adopting black kids or blacks stopped so many of there kids ending up in care then this problem would not exist . don't blame white families for doing the right thing cause the blacks don't !
dave2806 1 year ago
@dave2806 really? because i know quite a few black families that are foster parents and have adopted kids, it's just not as obvious because well...they and the kids are black so of course no one is going to think that the kids adopted. And i know a lot more white families that have had their kids taken away and then given back only to be taken away again! then i do black families but maybe that's just were you're from...who knows
sparkle2010 11 months ago 2
There is no doubt that trans-racial adoption is complicated and hard, and has an effect on identity. However, the examples given in the video could and does happen to non-adopted people of color. The inferiority complex can come up with or without adoption, and the eye lid surgery in Asian countries such as Korea with non-adopted Asians attests to this fact.
calicoe99 1 year ago
i want to know if this psychologist is racist and if he harbors racist ideas of himself. why does he exploit his profession with asking these such patronizing questions. of course there is racism and discrimination but what does it come to a point that you go beyond their stupidity and just their idiocracy.
mollykjody 1 year ago
@mollykjody Adopted kids are born outsiders. They dont fully fit in to their white enviroment. Than their own people think they are wierd. They can't speak chinese. There mannerisms and how they carry themselfs can be different from the natural chinese kids. Witch leaves you with no people you feel at home with. Being adopted can be hard but it beats being an orphan.
flubno 1 year ago 4
@mollykjody Actually he did not. The kids confessed to racist experiences themselves. Do not blame the psychologist, you should be mad at the perpetrators
emptycell 1 year ago
Interesting video.
DCan1245 1 year ago
2:36 to 2:39 that doctor almost seems to laugh at that part
HercNastyz999 2 years ago
Thats so sad that children or anyone for that matter has to experiance that.
mad7o7 2 years ago 11
EVERYONE goes through that growing up and as a white kid, even in a mostly white town, I certainly experienced it regularly. I can't believe this doctor is surprised that all the hands went up. This happens to all kids today!
joshua81em 1 year ago
@joshua81em What is it that you went through as a white child in an all white town? You mean white people mistreated you because you are white? I am confused.
EbonyNewsChannel 1 year ago
If you have a sense of your own idenity, and see yourself as bueatiful human bein and you love and grow and learn and people dont plant the seed in you youll not be aware. Black people produce this in children and adults they wine too much ..thy use it on white guilt so they can get what they want. jobs, school, scholarships, If we are all equal then when are they going to stop being a rasist...............shoe is too tight now
krglongbourn 2 years ago
that is so not true. growing up my father told me three things. Love and respect yourself as a woman and you will find a man who does the same, Work hard and earn everything you get and you will feel accomplished and never blame anyone for what you caused yourself. Now, IF YOU WATCHED THE VIDEO, I BELIEVE YOU ARE THE DEFINITION OF RACIST, BECAUSE YOU'VE NEVER MET A BLACK PERSON WHO ACTED LIKE THIS OR TOLD YOU THIS, BUT YOU BELIEVE IT TO BE TRUE ANYWAYS. There is no need for guilt dont feel guilt
gbalah162 2 years ago
The bottom line is that the parents have to be available to listen to their children.
If you ask anyone who experienced racism, bias, or prejudice, they'll tell you the parents make the difference.
I had a student who was adopted from Asia by a Jewish family in NY. The parents said that he was no unaccustomed to kids calling him names, but he didn't have to "suffer in silence." The parents made sure that racist name-calling wasn't tolerated.
MondoBeno 2 years ago 3
Children adopted into a different race will experience these differences acutely, because their adoptive families will not look like them either. It's hard enough being adopted by people of the same race, who look like you, but there are still some visual differences, not to mention differences of intellect, ability, political views, religious views, sense of humour, etc. Being adopted, you're always the odd one out. :(
Sammicsno 2 years ago
please Doc .....
you 'asked' the children --
you, I hope, did not 'axe' them !
dontmesswiththepress 3 years ago
Oh, shut the fuck up.
johneldewey 2 years ago
Don't be a buffoon. You know damn well what he's saying. Show more respect for a DOCTOR.
johneldewey 2 years ago 4
wow.. she's only 5 and she thought that? omgosh...
jichyi 3 years ago 16
I experienced that and i got called all sorts of names. What child in grade school in the USA doesn't? By 6th grade were got it out of our system and racial crap was out the window. Us kids were friends with who we felt like, because we felt like, and a Sociologist's head would explode trying to assign some sort of formula to that. So i say a big FUCK YOU to race, and all your isms.
just2w4tch 3 years ago
what's wrong with slanted eyes?? that's the different of human being. the problems is not from them but people.
we are not perfect at all. GOD is perfect. STOP RACISM.
really sad to hear that.
benjikino 3 years ago
being different is being beautiful just like being asian with slanted eyes is beautiful.
xrs7 3 years ago
Ah that is sad. I don't understand though; is it impossible for a parent to identity and comfort their interracial adopted child about racism? All the videos have so far made it seem liked it'd be impossible for a Caucasian parent to understand, and though I've never been picked on due to my color, I'm sure we've all been picked on in the schoolyard as young children for something. I was teased for having red hair, so couldn't I, at least on a small scale, empathize? Maybe I don't understand.
aliciaftw 3 years ago
dear AliciaFTW,
I think that the main difference is comforting mechanisms. While all of us get teased, the alienation felt by an adoptee for an insult based on physical attributes can be overwhelming. While 2nd gen'ers like myself had "slanty-eyed" parents to tell us its ok, adoptees with caucasian parents get told they are beautiful BECAUSE they are different by...
jpcho83 3 years ago
someone who looks different. This may make them feel better about themselves, but it only accents the alienation initially felt, which I feel accounts for most of the psychological injury. I hope this makes a little sense =) I don't speak for everyone, but these are my honest thoughts on the matter...
jpcho83 3 years ago
I have a daughter from China and experience this with her all the time. A very nice, well educated friend of mine made the slanty eyed gesture regarding my daughter just the other day. I was too stunned to move. I spoke with the woman later. I just want to mention that this has nothing to do with ADOPTION though. It is just pure racism and ignorance.
sooobored 3 years ago 3
Racism is so taboo that some people won't wanna face it but still exercise it;
lacirca 3 years ago
hai. I'm adopted from Brasil when I was 5 years old. It is so true! But now I'm 20, and I think as a kid, it doesn't bother you so much, but when you're older, and start thinking about all kinds of thinks, then it's more difficult at times! my reaction to 'nicolemama3' is that, for a adopted child is sooo much harder to hear from other kids the way they look, then it is for not adopted kids,so you can't have feel 'the same' as people who are adopted! like the childeren in this video / and me.
girlfabiana 3 years ago
hai. I'm adopted from Brasil when I was 5 years old. It is so true! But now I'm 20, and I think as a kid, it doesn't bother you so much, but when you're older, and start thinking about all kinds of thinks, then it's more difficult at times! my reaction to 'nicolemama3' is that, for a adopted child is sooo much harder to hear from other kids the way they look, then it is for not adopted kids,so you can't have feel 'the same' as people who are adopted! like the childeren in this video / and me.
girlfabiana 3 years ago
this is so true. But I felt the same thing as a kid and I was with all the same race. Kids just make observations and they are not guided in school as to how to satisfy their curiosity without being silly or hurting feelings.
nicolemama3 3 years ago
WOW! that is so sad
billiejean4525 3 years ago
omg omg omg omg sad sad sad...
thandieu222001 3 years ago
this is really sad.
turnbacktime 3 years ago