Ya when I took the stand in criminal court when I charged my former foster dad of abuse. All 5 of us victims were warned do not show anger. The judge even told me that my anger was not helping my case.
I was never appointed an attorney, and legal aid would not help me. Begged every law firm in Texas for help. Finally I started reading law books and researching in order to get my child back. Luckily my daughter begged an attorney for help that was visiting another client. (My daughter is amazing.) At the VERY discounted price of $300/hr she agreed. Even though I didn't win in court, she made it possible to get my daughter back.
You need a really tough lawyer - one who will do what is right and what you want - many lawyers are too interested in staying friends and sucking up to other lawyers (on the other side) and the judge. Follow your lawyer everywhere and DON'T let them talk to the other side (the enemy) without you being in their presence. Make sure that no communication goes on between lawyers without you getting it - get EVERYTHING (all correspondence, etc.) in writing and make sure you get a copy.
It seems to me if you have a smile on your face they will say you are happy without your child, but if you were sad or crying they would be more likely to feel sorry for you. I know with the Scott Peterson trial in America, he did not get convicted on evidence but by his behavior. Ppl were greatly concerned that he was smiling too much and not showing enough remorse to have a missing wife. Is it different in Canada? Do Canadians prefer to see a smile than the hurt in your heart?
I doubt it's different in Canada but my kids were taken five years ago. If I allowed myself to sit around crying about it and thinking about how much it hurts that I don't have them, I would have killed myself by now. I am trying to be strong despite the loss Ihave suffered.
I'd say after 5 years one has to let go of sadness or it kills you. You need a sense of humour or you become sour. A smile doesn't hide the feelings of the heart.
I agree that one can`t allow this to make them bitter, but I do feel concerned about advising ppl to go to court w/a smile when they are on the brink of losing their kids. Going to court regardless of the reason is always a serious matter. I think smiling through serious matters may easily lead to misinterpretation by the judge and jury. Canadians may be dif. than Americans in this regard,but I truly don`t think an American should go to court smiling when their about to lose their kid.
Well, I have been to court many, many times and always pay attention to the advice of lawyers who do tell you not to make miserable faces in the courtroom as it leaves a bad impression on the judge. Of course a parent is distraught by losing a child but it is no excuse (in the eyes of a judge) to look like you're wallowing in self pity. You must keep your composure in court no matter how much you feel like crying or the judge may think you are emotionally unstable.
Ya when I took the stand in criminal court when I charged my former foster dad of abuse. All 5 of us victims were warned do not show anger. The judge even told me that my anger was not helping my case.
canadaqueen1960 2 years ago
I was never appointed an attorney, and legal aid would not help me. Begged every law firm in Texas for help. Finally I started reading law books and researching in order to get my child back. Luckily my daughter begged an attorney for help that was visiting another client. (My daughter is amazing.) At the VERY discounted price of $300/hr she agreed. Even though I didn't win in court, she made it possible to get my daughter back.
sane2insanity 3 years ago
You need a really tough lawyer - one who will do what is right and what you want - many lawyers are too interested in staying friends and sucking up to other lawyers (on the other side) and the judge. Follow your lawyer everywhere and DON'T let them talk to the other side (the enemy) without you being in their presence. Make sure that no communication goes on between lawyers without you getting it - get EVERYTHING (all correspondence, etc.) in writing and make sure you get a copy.
Tarchomraicer 3 years ago
It seems to me if you have a smile on your face they will say you are happy without your child, but if you were sad or crying they would be more likely to feel sorry for you. I know with the Scott Peterson trial in America, he did not get convicted on evidence but by his behavior. Ppl were greatly concerned that he was smiling too much and not showing enough remorse to have a missing wife. Is it different in Canada? Do Canadians prefer to see a smile than the hurt in your heart?
paisleyyama 3 years ago
I doubt it's different in Canada but my kids were taken five years ago. If I allowed myself to sit around crying about it and thinking about how much it hurts that I don't have them, I would have killed myself by now. I am trying to be strong despite the loss Ihave suffered.
abusiveministry 3 years ago
I'd say after 5 years one has to let go of sadness or it kills you. You need a sense of humour or you become sour. A smile doesn't hide the feelings of the heart.
11Justice 3 years ago
I agree that one can`t allow this to make them bitter, but I do feel concerned about advising ppl to go to court w/a smile when they are on the brink of losing their kids. Going to court regardless of the reason is always a serious matter. I think smiling through serious matters may easily lead to misinterpretation by the judge and jury. Canadians may be dif. than Americans in this regard,but I truly don`t think an American should go to court smiling when their about to lose their kid.
paisleyyama 3 years ago
Well, I have been to court many, many times and always pay attention to the advice of lawyers who do tell you not to make miserable faces in the courtroom as it leaves a bad impression on the judge. Of course a parent is distraught by losing a child but it is no excuse (in the eyes of a judge) to look like you're wallowing in self pity. You must keep your composure in court no matter how much you feel like crying or the judge may think you are emotionally unstable.
abusiveministry 3 years ago