(cont.) I had to look away several times in the video to squeal because you are blinding handsome, cute and amazing and your girlfriend is so damn lucky...♥♡
I think it's fine for you to not identify as transgender. Ultimately, transgender people desire their minds and bodies to align (leading with the brain) and you identifying as male is normal because that was your desire as the transitioning transgender.
If I was your close friend, I'd think I'd want to know. Not that it would matter, but it is something about you. it's a part of you. I'd still want to know that part too. I think it's your choice but I would want to know. :]
Being transgendered doesn’t mean you have to come out forever, either. Transgender is your own gender identity (if that’s how you choose to identify) the same way your sexual and affectional orientation are your identities. Transitioning as well as coming out are endless processes but the speed that you take them both at are entirely you choice. :] I hope that helped.
you are giving them the opportunity to learn something personal about you instead of making them (or yourself) feel like you are playing catch-up about something you “should” have told them. Speaking of which, you have no obligation to tell anyone. It was your decision to transition and your decision to come out.
But here is how you get around it: If you decide to come out to a friend who you have been friends with for a while start off something like this: “I have something important to tell you because I trust you (love you) and want to open up about something really personal to me.” And then come out. That way, it makes the experience a positive one –
In terms of talking to people about your choice to transition - it’s your choice! Transitioning is about YOU and only YOU. When you come out to people you are making the choice to open up to them about something deeply personal. I understand how/why you are so concerned about waiting to come out to people – you are worried it might be awkward later or upset them later.
I'm watching your videos from start to finish over time - so this is the most recent vid I've gotten to at this time. Your questions and thoughts about the definition of transgender are huge and not easily answered. There are a lot of things I want to discuss from this video, but I’ll hopefully just make a video about it later.
i'm not transgendered but i love your videos because you're so optimistic and real. you may not be born like how you wanted to be but you're still grateful for everything in spite of it. being born a different gender isn't any different than being born without money or a limb. you have an amazing and supportive family & friends and you just proved to us that we can't have everything in the world but it doesn't mean we should be less happy. thank you so much for making me realise that.
are you FTM? sorry im not trying to be rude. if i never watch this omg i will never know if you Female...i don't know im sorry. be you happy what you do
Those are all wonderful, valuable questions. Nothing in Emily Post's Ettiquette book about that. It's such a new subject there isn't a "best practices" for what should be done. Sharing experiences on YouTube sure helps decide how/what/when to tell or not to tell. I commend you for wanting to be a representative for Transgender. It is nice to not have to hide who you really are, but sometimes it is also safer to be stealth. Constant decisions. Good luck.
WHOAA!! i totally thought you were born a guy all the way then im like wait this dude use to be a chick? no way! so um yea.. haha not much to say :p good job on the video! :]
I worry for my brother's safety, I don't want people to judge/harass/discriminate against him because he was born female. Of coarse people who are closest to him should know but I don't think that he has to come out to the general public . If you were born with a different nose/hair color/webbed toes or fingers would you tell everyone?!?! For me it is a safety thing ...
i think it has to do with gaydar. lol if your gay, you know. like when i saw your picture in related videos, it was immediate to me. if they cant figure it out, then they dont need to know. have them get to know you and if they find out and dont respect it they arent worth it, sweety.
It's the way in which society constructs sexuality and gender that forces people into these kinds of problems everyday. Someone who was born male and identifies as male has a completely invisible gender identity, yet your transgender identity is how society defines you, despite the fact that you have so much more that makes up who you are. Something needs to change!!!
And again, you ARE male. Dude, I had no idea that you were transgender when I first saw one of your videos. You're more masculine than my boyfriend lol
Also, you and your girlfriend are super cute. It's so sweet that you've have a person (actually, it seems you have quite a wonderful group, including your mother) that has stayed with you and supported you through transition. I'm sure many other people going through similar experiences wish for that.
You are how you identify. You feel you're in a place where you've completed your transition and are as much yourself as you want to be. Comfortable. I think that you posting these videos on YouTube is tremendously noble. Sharing your experience of transitioning with everyone and helping educate people who come across your videos is so wonderful and helpful to many. I think you have every right to enjoy the experience of not being questioned by those you meet.
i understand..it's like you're actually born as a male (mentally, emotionally), but whatever you are in the inside is not what you are on the outside.
i'm a pre-t..and i've been trying to work on getting to transition...and i've thought about getting support from LGBT group..but at the same time..i don't consider myself any of those (instead hoping that they can perceive me as a male)..i'm starting to ramble..anyways, hopefully some day i will become a 'he' also
I think that once you're completely comfortable with yourself, because you are a boy and was always a boy, then it won't even pop up in your head - because there is nothing to hide, because you were never hiding anything.
i don't think you have to tell all the people you meet. If there are some friends who you just met but are good friends with you might want to tell them as long as they understand ur male now. Make sure that they understand that before you came out as transgendered is different than now, but that dosen't make you a different person. Am i making sense? maybe? Anyway i just want to say that who ever you r is cool and this is cheesy if they don't accept you they arent ur real friends.
yes be ur self don't im the same allot girls think im cute and i love it baby anyone can just my page too but vids sucks because i need new webcam but i will get one soon but man u look good im happy for u got pretty girl that loves u for u and that great
ok dude i know this is completely beside the point haha
but at like 2:35 i heard your cell vibrate in the video. and i have the same phone cuz i know that vibration for a text. it's so fucking annoying! lol samsung impression right? :P
Good Vid! I'm kind of like you in that fact that nobody in my "new life" except my girlfriend knows and personally I think it's awesome. I did a lot of work to be seen as male because that's who I really am. I'm not telling anyone because I'm a guy with a birth defect so to speak. If I'm not sleepn w/ them then it's not their business to know what's in my pants. I know that if I tell them their perception of me will change and that's not how I want to be seen. Just my opinion...
I think if they are your true friends they won't care. I think they may think you are hiding it from them even if you aren't. That's a difficult situation. I hope it works out for you.
Hey dood, It is cool you came out like this i have a question about surgery Or horomons It would really help, Do you still have a female part, Or is it possible to take horomons Or surgery to get a male part?
if you feel that you're male, then you are....oh the stealth man's dilemma - surely an on-going one! i totally hear what you're saying and many days am in the same exact boat. to come out or not to come out! i've really been playing it by ear and only come out when i feel it's appropriate and when i feel comfortable. ideally, we'd like to have complete control over who knows - some people are going to find out and sometimes we just don't have control over those situations......
something that confused me at the end was "appearance vs. reality" and you saying that you're not fully male.. hmm.. well it's dumb for me to disagree considering this is clearly stated as what it means TO YOU to be trans.. but i consider you (and myself) regardless of where you are in your transition as fully male. and i dont think your appearance goes against reality. now if your gf transitioned, she is clearly female.. then i'd agree with her saying that.
transgender may be part of who you are, but it is not who you are entirely. if you are fully transitioned, i don't see any reason to tell anyone that you were once female... unless you feel like they should know. if they treat you differently because of it then they don't need to be in your life :-)
My problem with the whole thing isn't that people either know or don't know or find out before i tell them; it's the fact that there is this thing that can be known. I hate that this is a fact. I hate that this is within me every day. I also hate that no matter how people find out, if they even do, there's no real way I ever feel good about it. I don't feel like telling people, but at the same time I want them to know but yet not. Not a secret, just to not have it at all.
u'll eventually find a way of telling people who you think need to know without it seeming awkward. It just takes time to feel natural. It used to be hard to tell coworkers & the like that I am gay. Why do they need to know? Now I can bring it up in conversation so it doesn't surprise anyone & I can be really open about it & open to any questions they may have about it @ the same time. U have less opportunity 2 practice "coming out" (cuz u pass so well) but it'll be more natural the more u try
MAAAAANNN!!!! i feel exactly the same way. i feel like maybe i should tell and then im like nah i dont have to and then im like maybe i should tell and then..... you get the drift... its really confusing!!
I just started T 2 weeks ago and when it comes to being stealth to people I'm around now that don't know, I feel like I'm hiding something from them too, it does bother me some, as in a way I feel like I'm lying about being a male (born with male genitals) I'm female to male starting my transitioning and I consider myself male, but yet I feel like I'm hiding my birth sex
You are male! You probably don't routinely tell most people whether you ever had chickenpox or measles. You don't have an obligation to tell them about other medical history.
i think being stealth is still a represintation of being transgender. transguys ARE guys. Does a man with a small penis have to come out to ALL his friends and let them know, "friends family, my genitalia is small." NO, what is the pants does not define the man. You should not feel pressured to tell people any of that,.
@dannyrideshorses that's kinda how I see it. I am stealth to a few people who I know online-only. I get paranoid that one day they will find out through this YouTube channel or through my trans friends on Facebook who don't realise I'm stealth and might say something by mistake. But at the same time I don't see the need to tell everyone, especially people who don't know me in person.
I don't think you're hiding. The best advice I can give you is the advice that someone gave me. You don't need to label yourself to everyone just be yourself. I've kinda adapted a policy of telling those who ask, but then again I'm in a different situation because I'm not living stealth. I wish you the best!
Hey Skylar i'm not sure how this will come across so work with me on it you said you had the top surgery and would you ever have the bottom surgery you said you have a gf is she str8 or gay and when you were a girl did you finnd your self more butch like
Thanks Sky, wat an awesome vid! I identify as bisexual, and ur totally right about constantly having to come out! Ppl just assume I am straight when they meet me, then the topic of bf comes up, and Im like, well, I have a gf actually. Ppl r like REALLY?! The same surprised reaction gets tiring, but like u said it is kinda nice to b like this is who i am, representing the community. Even tho we r dealing with diff situations, we have similar thoughts and feelings about it... :) Thanks again dude
Sky, I understand what you're saying and I respect that, but I personally don't see an obligation to announce yourself to anyone unless you get really close to them. Just my opinion. As far as how you appear, I can tell you as a gay man I find you quite attractive and I don't detect anything feminine about you. It's easy for me to say but I recommend that you don't get so hung up about what people know or don't know. I'm not out but if anyone asks me if I'm gay I tell them the truth.
I struggle with the same basic thing, whether or not to openly identify as trans (especially because I'm really just barely starting to transition). It's safer to keep it a secret and just to what you're doing, but what I ended up realizing was that there were other who were trans but didn't even know how to transition. I came out to be visible and help them and share everything I've gone through just to be able to start transitioning.
i've had this same question in my mind as well and after thinking about it i realized that it's more of me trying to feel better about my insecurities, like I am not completely sold that i am male... the terminology says you are a transsexual male. transgender is a term for gender expression, not for the change of sex basically you aren't transgender, cuz if you were you'd be dressing and acting feminine lol make any sense? (i'm taking queer studies and its really making me think)
you are in a tight spot when it comes to the 'still friends years later and they dont know'. I'm trying to think of what I would do if a close long-term friend of mine told me. I think initially I would feel betrayed and lied to. But I think understanding of how retarded the situation was for you would trump those feelings.
I guess if you gotta figure out what's stressing you more: the secrecy or being perceived as something you're not (not quite male).
i AM in your situation and I battle wuith it all the time I think, do I tell this person before they find out by themselves like others have or are they not going to be around long enough? I think its such a personal think that if it feels right then do it if it doesnt then its got nothing to do with them.
I think your thoughts and internal questions are natural, I'd most likely feel the same way if I was in your position.
If you decide that you don't identify as transgender, does that mean it'll be the end of your video updates since the whole point of them was to document your transition and life as a trans man?
That would suck, I really enjoy your thoughts and your positive attitude, I think we're a lot alike.
But, of course, I'll support any decision you make. You're a good guy. A great guy.
I think in life with every situation is different with different people (sometimes you need to follow your heart) At the end of the day you are you...born male with biological female body...now ur body more suits you. At some point you should be able to just live as you are, and not be ur past. =) good luck
--> on the other hand, being transgender we're already deprived of something when it comes to our masculinity and we should be able to make the most of it. still, in my opinion, if going stealth makes you feel bad in some way, you should consider coming out. you're a great person Sky and people will see that no matter what your sex chromosomes are.
my comment is too long so im gonna have to divide it into 2 comments, sorry. i think i know exactly how you feel. sometimes i have these moments when i'm like really close with my best friends or my parents, having fun or just talking, and it feels so right, but then i remind myself that theres still something im hiding from them and it kind of feels like i'm cheating somehow. and i wonder if it would change something (everything?) if i told them that i was trans. -->
I'm always so amazed when people like you really want to represent the trans community and I must tell you, I envy you on your courage and selflessness because most of the people would just think about themselves. I think it's hard for many, having to tell someone they "used to be" or "were born m/f" because that destroys the main idea and that is that we didn't "used to be",we ARE and the transition wasn't a mask or a disguise,but actually the opposite,our true self is finally on the surface.
i think that because your body was born female and has transitioned into male (or into being perceived as male) does not change the fact that on the inside you have always been as much a man as any average guy. you are currently perceived as what you are on the inside, the body you were born with isn't important to people you meet now because it is not you.
Wow that seems like a tough situation & decision to make.
In my opinion you should bring the subject up to your close friends at school & say "what if you were friends with a transgender person for a while, but you had no idea they were and you found out?" then see how they react to it.
I have to agree with ADDBoy010. You DO NOT need to tell the world you're Trans! Just be YOU! You'll know when, where and who you want to tell. I'm Gay, and I let people meet me and form there own opinions. If I wish to tell them my sexuality, then fine. If not...the world does not end, volcanoes don't erupt and everything is cool. Don't stress or overthink things. You're an attractive guy who has SO MUCH going for himself, and you do have a lot of us rooting for you and we love ya so much! :)
I totally know where you're coming from. I'm pretty much in the same situation! I know a bunch of people here know, but then they've been so awesome about it, that I worry that they don't actually know!
You don't owe it really to anyone to share anything that you don't feel comfortable sharing with them. And if you do end up telling people, I think they should be able to understand why you might not come out and say it first thing.
I struggle with this as well at times. On one hand, I love that people I just meet see me as male and only male. I feel truly comfortable in social settings for the first time in my life. On the other hand, I believe in authenticity. It's hard to be totally authentic to people if they don't know about a huge part of your identity.
Catch-22 I suppose. I don't disclose unless it's necessary, it comes up or occasionally if I feel my experiences can add to a situation or conversation.
Intersex conditions have always been seen as a true medical birth defect by the medical/mental health communities, unlike transgender.
A number of TG people have proposed an official birth defect diagnosis called "Harry Benjamin Syndrome" instead of transgender, but it hasn't really caught on amongst professionals. It might be easier if you could say "I was born with Harry Benjamin Syndrome" (or HBS) rather than to say "I'm transgender." It avoids a whole range of religious/other issues.
Hey man, I don't know about the "I'm not fully male thing".. Like I don't know how you meant to say it or whatever, but you are fully male. Any way, great video. I believe a lot of people can seriously relate to this.
If it's relevant to the topic, and you feel that coming out to people would add some value to the conversation, then sure. Otherwise, it'd be kind of strange to just bring up.
I completely understand what you're saying. I'm stealth and I have a bunch of close friends who don't know I'm trans.
People don't need to know about your past though. When you meet new people, you don't feel the need to tell them that, I dunno, as a kid you used to have different coloured hair or whatever. So why tell them that you used to look different in any other way? You're still the same person.
If it doesn't come up one way or another... Why would you tell them? You don't tell them, oh, that you stole a pack of cigarettes, or that your first girlfriend was an addict, or that you had this really great holiday in Texas, right? Not unless the topic calls for it. I don't think it's important for anyone to know that you were born female for regular daily socialising.
You shouldn't feel obligated to tell anybody anything about your sexuality if you don't feel it's right. But on the other hand, it IS like you're hiding something from them. I'm gay and I still haven't told my oldest sister who's my half sister. Every time I see her I regret not telling her. And the longer I wait the harder it'll be. But just remember that there's a place and a time and a certain population of people that really shouldn't know for your own good. Damn haters. Good luck!! :)
We seem to think the same way about the topic, and struggle with the same things. I may make a video in the future talking about my feelings on post-transition disclosing of status, ect.
the one wonderful thing about having a sexuality is that you dont have to tell anybody anything unless they ask and when they do say it proud because you went through a hard struggle to get where you are today the blue fairy would be proud im sure
I've been having the same issue... about half of the people in my life know about me, and the other half don't.. I can't quite decide
Way I figure for now, if it ever comes up I'll tell them, no hesitation. Otherwise, taking them aside just to tell them plays it up as though it's a big deal, or should be, or something... and I feel like that contradicts what I try to do.. That's just me though. >>
I do the same thing :) I just try to be true to myself all the time, and if that raises questions or whatever I address them honestly. If people know it's no big deal, as opposed to a whispered secret between friends, they don't tend to treat me differently.
Hey Long time follower first time commenter, my opinion is i think you should come out as what you truely are and people that are assholes will be shown and you will have true friends who don't care! I did this because i'm bisexual and did get a lot of stick....See you next week xx
Exactly, disclosing is not necessary, an obligation or a way to filter in close friends. Many people live stealth without hiding. For many transition unveils to the world what they always knew themselves to be. For some that means disclosure both even after transition, for others it ends at the point their gender feels fully acknowledged. For others it's a small portion of their bodied and/or emotional history that those close to them will know of...it's really different for everyone.
You're a degenerate.
USA4July1776 2 months ago
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You're a freak.
FistofAmerica 2 months ago
@FistofAmerica
hypocrite!!
superstubes 2 months ago
(cont.) I had to look away several times in the video to squeal because you are blinding handsome, cute and amazing and your girlfriend is so damn lucky...♥♡
*_* my eyes! So blinding bright...*_*
HeyLookTheSunSmiled 3 months ago
Sky,
I think it's fine for you to not identify as transgender. Ultimately, transgender people desire their minds and bodies to align (leading with the brain) and you identifying as male is normal because that was your desire as the transitioning transgender.
If I was your close friend, I'd think I'd want to know. Not that it would matter, but it is something about you. it's a part of you. I'd still want to know that part too. I think it's your choice but I would want to know. :]
I had to look
HeyLookTheSunSmiled 3 months ago
Well I'm a gay guy and when I first saw you I swore you were a guy and idc if you were a girl I'd still date you :D
FcknHappyProductions 3 months ago
You have to be proud of who you are. You are perfect! (:
annietwilight 4 months ago
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kneeyuckah 7 months ago
Being transgendered doesn’t mean you have to come out forever, either. Transgender is your own gender identity (if that’s how you choose to identify) the same way your sexual and affectional orientation are your identities. Transitioning as well as coming out are endless processes but the speed that you take them both at are entirely you choice. :] I hope that helped.
-Skye (Haha, our names are so similar!!)
TheSkyeIsLimitless 7 months ago
you are giving them the opportunity to learn something personal about you instead of making them (or yourself) feel like you are playing catch-up about something you “should” have told them. Speaking of which, you have no obligation to tell anyone. It was your decision to transition and your decision to come out.
TheSkyeIsLimitless 7 months ago
But here is how you get around it: If you decide to come out to a friend who you have been friends with for a while start off something like this: “I have something important to tell you because I trust you (love you) and want to open up about something really personal to me.” And then come out. That way, it makes the experience a positive one –
TheSkyeIsLimitless 7 months ago
In terms of talking to people about your choice to transition - it’s your choice! Transitioning is about YOU and only YOU. When you come out to people you are making the choice to open up to them about something deeply personal. I understand how/why you are so concerned about waiting to come out to people – you are worried it might be awkward later or upset them later.
TheSkyeIsLimitless 7 months ago
Hey Sky,
I'm watching your videos from start to finish over time - so this is the most recent vid I've gotten to at this time. Your questions and thoughts about the definition of transgender are huge and not easily answered. There are a lot of things I want to discuss from this video, but I’ll hopefully just make a video about it later.
TheSkyeIsLimitless 7 months ago
At first i thought you was born a guy. i'm happy for you dude :] your awesome...
samiegonewild 7 months ago 2
You, sir, are awesome.
Sophs098 9 months ago
HI, Sky^^
I really like your videos! You are such a great guy^///////////^
Im very curious about the key you are wearing on your neck all the time.
Is it has some special meaning for you? Or its just precious for you?
I know its stupid of me to ask such questions, but I really want to know!!!
Juli6SS 11 months ago
i cant tell... your really frickin cute though!! :)
myballsarebigger 11 months ago
..wait so you have a tiny dick?
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does this mean u have a penis??
fartwordify 1 year ago
It might sound shallow, but your voice is actually pretty awesome! ^^
Speedy636Germany 1 year ago 3
i'm not transgendered but i love your videos because you're so optimistic and real. you may not be born like how you wanted to be but you're still grateful for everything in spite of it. being born a different gender isn't any different than being born without money or a limb. you have an amazing and supportive family & friends and you just proved to us that we can't have everything in the world but it doesn't mean we should be less happy. thank you so much for making me realise that.
nitelife202 1 year ago 7
Wait if you came out to your girlfriend was she bi, or what? I mean did she see you as a guy then or a girl?
CatFlashBlue 1 year ago
are you FTM? sorry im not trying to be rude. if i never watch this omg i will never know if you Female...i don't know im sorry. be you happy what you do
Naren789 1 year ago
Those are all wonderful, valuable questions. Nothing in Emily Post's Ettiquette book about that. It's such a new subject there isn't a "best practices" for what should be done. Sharing experiences on YouTube sure helps decide how/what/when to tell or not to tell. I commend you for wanting to be a representative for Transgender. It is nice to not have to hide who you really are, but sometimes it is also safer to be stealth. Constant decisions. Good luck.
Hearten7 1 year ago
I'm a transgender woman (mtf). And you are very attractive man! Stay true to who you are. Peace and Love,
Alanna
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you inspire me.
witokia 1 year ago
WHOAA!! i totally thought you were born a guy all the way then im like wait this dude use to be a chick? no way! so um yea.. haha not much to say :p good job on the video! :]
zerokitty1019 1 year ago
I worry for my brother's safety, I don't want people to judge/harass/discriminate against him because he was born female. Of coarse people who are closest to him should know but I don't think that he has to come out to the general public . If you were born with a different nose/hair color/webbed toes or fingers would you tell everyone?!?! For me it is a safety thing ...
aggiemoon 1 year ago
i think it has to do with gaydar. lol if your gay, you know. like when i saw your picture in related videos, it was immediate to me. if they cant figure it out, then they dont need to know. have them get to know you and if they find out and dont respect it they arent worth it, sweety.
SAVANNAH0513 1 year ago
nah you are not hiding!!
ceridawn 1 year ago
Man, this is truley thought provoking stuff!
It's the way in which society constructs sexuality and gender that forces people into these kinds of problems everyday. Someone who was born male and identifies as male has a completely invisible gender identity, yet your transgender identity is how society defines you, despite the fact that you have so much more that makes up who you are. Something needs to change!!!
Shimmygirl304 1 year ago
interesting stuff re your gender choice. you certainly come across as male :)
DexxOnT 1 year ago
As Dr. Seuss once said....
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter."
kennyjburke 1 year ago 16
And again, you ARE male. Dude, I had no idea that you were transgender when I first saw one of your videos. You're more masculine than my boyfriend lol
kennyjburke 1 year ago
Also, you and your girlfriend are super cute. It's so sweet that you've have a person (actually, it seems you have quite a wonderful group, including your mother) that has stayed with you and supported you through transition. I'm sure many other people going through similar experiences wish for that.
benrowandover 1 year ago 4
You are how you identify. You feel you're in a place where you've completed your transition and are as much yourself as you want to be. Comfortable. I think that you posting these videos on YouTube is tremendously noble. Sharing your experience of transitioning with everyone and helping educate people who come across your videos is so wonderful and helpful to many. I think you have every right to enjoy the experience of not being questioned by those you meet.
benrowandover 1 year ago 4
I think I have a crush on you.
ImPotatoes 1 year ago 6
i understand..it's like you're actually born as a male (mentally, emotionally), but whatever you are in the inside is not what you are on the outside.
i'm a pre-t..and i've been trying to work on getting to transition...and i've thought about getting support from LGBT group..but at the same time..i don't consider myself any of those (instead hoping that they can perceive me as a male)..i'm starting to ramble..anyways, hopefully some day i will become a 'he' also
duuud3 1 year ago
I think that once you're completely comfortable with yourself, because you are a boy and was always a boy, then it won't even pop up in your head - because there is nothing to hide, because you were never hiding anything.
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NakunaruHikari 2 years ago
Too much information is one thing, but I don't believe in too much honesty. No need to wear a sign on your chest, share at your own discretion.
FruitSaladStains 2 years ago
i don't think you have to tell all the people you meet. If there are some friends who you just met but are good friends with you might want to tell them as long as they understand ur male now. Make sure that they understand that before you came out as transgendered is different than now, but that dosen't make you a different person. Am i making sense? maybe? Anyway i just want to say that who ever you r is cool and this is cheesy if they don't accept you they arent ur real friends.
BecauseOfTheDay 2 years ago
sorry i repeated myself on here lol i just got my youtube up and going
SuperChris2727 2 years ago
yes be ur self don't im the same allot girls think im cute and i love it baby anyone can just my page too but vids sucks because i need new webcam but i will get one soon but man u look good im happy for u got pretty girl that loves u for u and that great
SuperChris2727 2 years ago
ur just like me i want to get hormones and get my breast remove im just the same as u lol
SuperChris2727 2 years ago
i know how u im transgender i want to take hormones and get a breast reduction
SuperChris2727 2 years ago
ok dude i know this is completely beside the point haha
but at like 2:35 i heard your cell vibrate in the video. and i have the same phone cuz i know that vibration for a text. it's so fucking annoying! lol samsung impression right? :P
avantgarde93 2 years ago
Dude your awesome you r really cool. ^-^
blakbeltkid08 2 years ago
Good Vid! I'm kind of like you in that fact that nobody in my "new life" except my girlfriend knows and personally I think it's awesome. I did a lot of work to be seen as male because that's who I really am. I'm not telling anyone because I'm a guy with a birth defect so to speak. If I'm not sleepn w/ them then it's not their business to know what's in my pants. I know that if I tell them their perception of me will change and that's not how I want to be seen. Just my opinion...
MonsterBoy8813 2 years ago
I'm a straight girl, and holy shit, you are so freaking cute! I would totally go for you. Skin is skin.
whitelark87 2 years ago
I had no idea you were born female.
Wow, great video.
I think if they are your true friends they won't care. I think they may think you are hiding it from them even if you aren't. That's a difficult situation. I hope it works out for you.
hshea11 2 years ago
Hey dood, It is cool you came out like this i have a question about surgery Or horomons It would really help, Do you still have a female part, Or is it possible to take horomons Or surgery to get a male part?
Kitsukanna 2 years ago
@Kitsukanna
u need to do a surgery to get a male part.
sure ur "weewee" are growing when u taking T but if u want it as a regular size u need to do a surgery.
my tips to u are Google :)
AlexFtm88 2 years ago
...i like to think about it this way - don't feel like you have to hide who you are and leave the burden of curiosity on others - let them wonder!
looking good - keep on keepin' on dude!
iamlukethedude 2 years ago
if you feel that you're male, then you are....oh the stealth man's dilemma - surely an on-going one! i totally hear what you're saying and many days am in the same exact boat. to come out or not to come out! i've really been playing it by ear and only come out when i feel it's appropriate and when i feel comfortable. ideally, we'd like to have complete control over who knows - some people are going to find out and sometimes we just don't have control over those situations......
iamlukethedude 2 years ago
I really liked your video! My best friend is transgender and she is just starting transitioning. It made me very happy to see your video :].
Much love <3
Mishewww 2 years ago
something that confused me at the end was "appearance vs. reality" and you saying that you're not fully male.. hmm.. well it's dumb for me to disagree considering this is clearly stated as what it means TO YOU to be trans.. but i consider you (and myself) regardless of where you are in your transition as fully male. and i dont think your appearance goes against reality. now if your gf transitioned, she is clearly female.. then i'd agree with her saying that.
orangemonkey85 2 years ago
si te doi :) haha ojala hablaras espaniol
i wish u could speak spanish
solitudeana 2 years ago
transgender may be part of who you are, but it is not who you are entirely. if you are fully transitioned, i don't see any reason to tell anyone that you were once female... unless you feel like they should know. if they treat you differently because of it then they don't need to be in your life :-)
lobear539 2 years ago 2
@lobear539 i agree (Y)
solitudeana 2 years ago
have you ever worried that someone you go to school with will come across your videos?
bratlynn27 2 years ago
I have a question. Now that you consider yourself male, are you still transgender? I know thats a dumb question but it is very interesting to me.
Because when I watch your videos- I just consider you a guy like any other guy. I don't think like oh he's transgender, i just think oh hes a guy.
FOBat182 2 years ago 2
My problem with the whole thing isn't that people either know or don't know or find out before i tell them; it's the fact that there is this thing that can be known. I hate that this is a fact. I hate that this is within me every day. I also hate that no matter how people find out, if they even do, there's no real way I ever feel good about it. I don't feel like telling people, but at the same time I want them to know but yet not. Not a secret, just to not have it at all.
MrLiamJH 2 years ago
it seems that he is not a girl actually.
misfittoy16 2 years ago
I was wondering if you were gay... lol. I mean I know your not since your with a girl but that is a cool story.
chetbanks 2 years ago
u'll eventually find a way of telling people who you think need to know without it seeming awkward. It just takes time to feel natural. It used to be hard to tell coworkers & the like that I am gay. Why do they need to know? Now I can bring it up in conversation so it doesn't surprise anyone & I can be really open about it & open to any questions they may have about it @ the same time. U have less opportunity 2 practice "coming out" (cuz u pass so well) but it'll be more natural the more u try
ferdibull 2 years ago
MAAAAANNN!!!! i feel exactly the same way. i feel like maybe i should tell and then im like nah i dont have to and then im like maybe i should tell and then..... you get the drift... its really confusing!!
smithsmithboy 2 years ago
I just started T 2 weeks ago and when it comes to being stealth to people I'm around now that don't know, I feel like I'm hiding something from them too, it does bother me some, as in a way I feel like I'm lying about being a male (born with male genitals) I'm female to male starting my transitioning and I consider myself male, but yet I feel like I'm hiding my birth sex
TaylorBoG 2 years ago
"Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"
if someone freaks out about it if/when they find out, good riddance to them
grlwithabrokensmile 2 years ago 3
I was raised believing that god would strike me with a bolt of lightening if I were gay.
Years later here I am a gay man with this really honest guy Sky as a friend.
ThisBoyTV 2 years ago
Sky:
You are male! You probably don't routinely tell most people whether you ever had chickenpox or measles. You don't have an obligation to tell them about other medical history.
Lloyd
Johnson210000 2 years ago 46
thanks for making this.
i'm liking these topical videos.
b28e 2 years ago 3
I thought you were a guy I would never know if you walked past me on the street.
ImThinkingShhhh 2 years ago
he is a guy
ItsJamesMadame 2 years ago 3
i think being stealth is still a represintation of being transgender. transguys ARE guys. Does a man with a small penis have to come out to ALL his friends and let them know, "friends family, my genitalia is small." NO, what is the pants does not define the man. You should not feel pressured to tell people any of that,.
dannyrideshorses 2 years ago 47
@dannyrideshorses that's kinda how I see it. I am stealth to a few people who I know online-only. I get paranoid that one day they will find out through this YouTube channel or through my trans friends on Facebook who don't realise I'm stealth and might say something by mistake. But at the same time I don't see the need to tell everyone, especially people who don't know me in person.
MyGenesis122 1 year ago
I don't think you're hiding. The best advice I can give you is the advice that someone gave me. You don't need to label yourself to everyone just be yourself. I've kinda adapted a policy of telling those who ask, but then again I'm in a different situation because I'm not living stealth. I wish you the best!
thelys13 2 years ago
Hey Skylar i'm not sure how this will come across so work with me on it you said you had the top surgery and would you ever have the bottom surgery you said you have a gf is she str8 or gay and when you were a girl did you finnd your self more butch like
johhb1 2 years ago
Thanks Sky, wat an awesome vid! I identify as bisexual, and ur totally right about constantly having to come out! Ppl just assume I am straight when they meet me, then the topic of bf comes up, and Im like, well, I have a gf actually. Ppl r like REALLY?! The same surprised reaction gets tiring, but like u said it is kinda nice to b like this is who i am, representing the community. Even tho we r dealing with diff situations, we have similar thoughts and feelings about it... :) Thanks again dude
xpentagonx 2 years ago
Sky, I understand what you're saying and I respect that, but I personally don't see an obligation to announce yourself to anyone unless you get really close to them. Just my opinion. As far as how you appear, I can tell you as a gay man I find you quite attractive and I don't detect anything feminine about you. It's easy for me to say but I recommend that you don't get so hung up about what people know or don't know. I'm not out but if anyone asks me if I'm gay I tell them the truth.
alaninnh 2 years ago
I struggle with the same basic thing, whether or not to openly identify as trans (especially because I'm really just barely starting to transition). It's safer to keep it a secret and just to what you're doing, but what I ended up realizing was that there were other who were trans but didn't even know how to transition. I came out to be visible and help them and share everything I've gone through just to be able to start transitioning.
VanessaVictory 2 years ago
i've had this same question in my mind as well and after thinking about it i realized that it's more of me trying to feel better about my insecurities, like I am not completely sold that i am male... the terminology says you are a transsexual male. transgender is a term for gender expression, not for the change of sex basically you aren't transgender, cuz if you were you'd be dressing and acting feminine lol make any sense? (i'm taking queer studies and its really making me think)
MoeTheFoe 2 years ago
you are in a tight spot when it comes to the 'still friends years later and they dont know'. I'm trying to think of what I would do if a close long-term friend of mine told me. I think initially I would feel betrayed and lied to. But I think understanding of how retarded the situation was for you would trump those feelings.
I guess if you gotta figure out what's stressing you more: the secrecy or being perceived as something you're not (not quite male).
blacksnow42 2 years ago
i AM in your situation and I battle wuith it all the time I think, do I tell this person before they find out by themselves like others have or are they not going to be around long enough? I think its such a personal think that if it feels right then do it if it doesnt then its got nothing to do with them.
Belinda x x
GenderBlenders 2 years ago
I think your thoughts and internal questions are natural, I'd most likely feel the same way if I was in your position.
If you decide that you don't identify as transgender, does that mean it'll be the end of your video updates since the whole point of them was to document your transition and life as a trans man?
That would suck, I really enjoy your thoughts and your positive attitude, I think we're a lot alike.
But, of course, I'll support any decision you make. You're a good guy. A great guy.
MoreChewy 2 years ago 3
I think in life with every situation is different with different people (sometimes you need to follow your heart) At the end of the day you are you...born male with biological female body...now ur body more suits you. At some point you should be able to just live as you are, and not be ur past. =) good luck
btru2urself 2 years ago 3
--> on the other hand, being transgender we're already deprived of something when it comes to our masculinity and we should be able to make the most of it. still, in my opinion, if going stealth makes you feel bad in some way, you should consider coming out. you're a great person Sky and people will see that no matter what your sex chromosomes are.
aar0nthebear 2 years ago
my comment is too long so im gonna have to divide it into 2 comments, sorry. i think i know exactly how you feel. sometimes i have these moments when i'm like really close with my best friends or my parents, having fun or just talking, and it feels so right, but then i remind myself that theres still something im hiding from them and it kind of feels like i'm cheating somehow. and i wonder if it would change something (everything?) if i told them that i was trans. -->
aar0nthebear 2 years ago
ur pretty much a guy since i'm attracted to you and i'm straight btw lol
dissidia123456789 2 years ago
I'm always so amazed when people like you really want to represent the trans community and I must tell you, I envy you on your courage and selflessness because most of the people would just think about themselves. I think it's hard for many, having to tell someone they "used to be" or "were born m/f" because that destroys the main idea and that is that we didn't "used to be",we ARE and the transition wasn't a mask or a disguise,but actually the opposite,our true self is finally on the surface.
Legend4ever91 2 years ago
You are a guy. :) Forsure.
wastingmytime 2 years ago
just b stealth don't worry about the past..... its your past, let it b. no one needs to know your past
cubecalirican 2 years ago
i think that because your body was born female and has transitioned into male (or into being perceived as male) does not change the fact that on the inside you have always been as much a man as any average guy. you are currently perceived as what you are on the inside, the body you were born with isn't important to people you meet now because it is not you.
viciousandchaotic 2 years ago 3
Wow that seems like a tough situation & decision to make.
In my opinion you should bring the subject up to your close friends at school & say "what if you were friends with a transgender person for a while, but you had no idea they were and you found out?" then see how they react to it.
JephProductions 2 years ago
I have to agree with ADDBoy010. You DO NOT need to tell the world you're Trans! Just be YOU! You'll know when, where and who you want to tell. I'm Gay, and I let people meet me and form there own opinions. If I wish to tell them my sexuality, then fine. If not...the world does not end, volcanoes don't erupt and everything is cool. Don't stress or overthink things. You're an attractive guy who has SO MUCH going for himself, and you do have a lot of us rooting for you and we love ya so much! :)
DaveHFX 2 years ago 2
hey Skyler,
I totally know where you're coming from. I'm pretty much in the same situation! I know a bunch of people here know, but then they've been so awesome about it, that I worry that they don't actually know!
You don't owe it really to anyone to share anything that you don't feel comfortable sharing with them. And if you do end up telling people, I think they should be able to understand why you might not come out and say it first thing.
Anyways, thanks for making this video!
merpezlamor 2 years ago
do you ever wonder if people from your school will stumble upon this? or will stumble upon your myspace and find out there?
KaWeezyy91 2 years ago 3
@KaWeezyy91 yep, and they have. i worry about it sometimes..
skylarkeleven 2 years ago
I struggle with this as well at times. On one hand, I love that people I just meet see me as male and only male. I feel truly comfortable in social settings for the first time in my life. On the other hand, I believe in authenticity. It's hard to be totally authentic to people if they don't know about a huge part of your identity.
Catch-22 I suppose. I don't disclose unless it's necessary, it comes up or occasionally if I feel my experiences can add to a situation or conversation.
Khartoun2004 2 years ago 2
Intersex conditions have always been seen as a true medical birth defect by the medical/mental health communities, unlike transgender.
A number of TG people have proposed an official birth defect diagnosis called "Harry Benjamin Syndrome" instead of transgender, but it hasn't really caught on amongst professionals. It might be easier if you could say "I was born with Harry Benjamin Syndrome" (or HBS) rather than to say "I'm transgender." It avoids a whole range of religious/other issues.
ProFriend 2 years ago 2
Hey man, I don't know about the "I'm not fully male thing".. Like I don't know how you meant to say it or whatever, but you are fully male. Any way, great video. I believe a lot of people can seriously relate to this.
Imoutatthepictures 2 years ago 3
If it's relevant to the topic, and you feel that coming out to people would add some value to the conversation, then sure. Otherwise, it'd be kind of strange to just bring up.
CodyOriole 2 years ago
I completely understand what you're saying. I'm stealth and I have a bunch of close friends who don't know I'm trans.
People don't need to know about your past though. When you meet new people, you don't feel the need to tell them that, I dunno, as a kid you used to have different coloured hair or whatever. So why tell them that you used to look different in any other way? You're still the same person.
RyanTrainboy 2 years ago
IAWTC. This is well said.
kevghst1 2 years ago
If it doesn't come up one way or another... Why would you tell them? You don't tell them, oh, that you stole a pack of cigarettes, or that your first girlfriend was an addict, or that you had this really great holiday in Texas, right? Not unless the topic calls for it. I don't think it's important for anyone to know that you were born female for regular daily socialising.
MrImportrans 2 years ago
You shouldn't feel obligated to tell anybody anything about your sexuality if you don't feel it's right. But on the other hand, it IS like you're hiding something from them. I'm gay and I still haven't told my oldest sister who's my half sister. Every time I see her I regret not telling her. And the longer I wait the harder it'll be. But just remember that there's a place and a time and a certain population of people that really shouldn't know for your own good. Damn haters. Good luck!! :)
ADDBoy010 2 years ago
You became male, you are a male. You aren't lying or hiding it by saying who you are and who you always have been
MokeyBokey 2 years ago 3
We seem to think the same way about the topic, and struggle with the same things. I may make a video in the future talking about my feelings on post-transition disclosing of status, ect.
evanrauhanen 2 years ago
plus if your not sleeping with them they dont nessessarily need to know
marilyndarlingshow 2 years ago
the one wonderful thing about having a sexuality is that you dont have to tell anybody anything unless they ask and when they do say it proud because you went through a hard struggle to get where you are today the blue fairy would be proud im sure
marilyndarlingshow 2 years ago
I've been having the same issue... about half of the people in my life know about me, and the other half don't.. I can't quite decide
Way I figure for now, if it ever comes up I'll tell them, no hesitation. Otherwise, taking them aside just to tell them plays it up as though it's a big deal, or should be, or something... and I feel like that contradicts what I try to do.. That's just me though. >>
TotalGeek42 2 years ago
I do the same thing :) I just try to be true to myself all the time, and if that raises questions or whatever I address them honestly. If people know it's no big deal, as opposed to a whispered secret between friends, they don't tend to treat me differently.
4moralhazard 2 years ago
Hey Long time follower first time commenter, my opinion is i think you should come out as what you truely are and people that are assholes will be shown and you will have true friends who don't care! I did this because i'm bisexual and did get a lot of stick....See you next week xx
SuperKarinaG 2 years ago
@SuperKarinaG my thing about that is i'm not sure its necessary. :/
skylarkeleven 2 years ago
Exactly, disclosing is not necessary, an obligation or a way to filter in close friends. Many people live stealth without hiding. For many transition unveils to the world what they always knew themselves to be. For some that means disclosure both even after transition, for others it ends at the point their gender feels fully acknowledged. For others it's a small portion of their bodied and/or emotional history that those close to them will know of...it's really different for everyone.
hisownworld 2 years ago 4