Relationship Advice : How to Handle Rejection

[ominous450]

this is horrible advice. in general if you want to handle rejection you have to play it off without sounding bitter

[NormacHC]

Dr Paul. You annoy me.

[Zorgadoni]

Check out the rotary phone on the table...I don't know why...but that cracks me up.

[nobodysperfect06]

@MegaOrangePenguin i hate how people say or think it is easier to be a guy than a girl, i don't see the logic in that

[MouraVianna]

@nobodysperfect06 nowadays it is hardest to be men, we are being so confused

[nobodysperfect06]

@MouraVianna asking a girl out is okay, it's initiating conversation that is the hardest, keeping it alive, preventing all of the awkward silences, pauses, is harder than starting it

[leekrill]

I got rejected today 12/16/11 :( love= pain taer:(

[lawshorizon]

Being rejected is the third worst thing. The second worst thing is the girl coming back for the attention that you’ve now withdrawn from her. The first worst thing is giving her back the attention only to eventually realize you’ve been sneakily slotted into the friend zone. Warning: Don’t make that fatal mistake!

[MrEndlessly]

When i get rejected i normally react with anger, and completely cut off all contact with the girl. Even if we are in the same class, and then i fucked her friend. Rejection turns you into a monster and im loving it :)

[Amb3rPotter]

Love=pain

[sidsnake17]

women are complicated

[thelolzdude2009]

i had 26 no and only 4 yes -_-

[vanadium3]

@thelolzdude2009 for every 10 there is 1 yes, so you out performed by 1 lol.

[skaterforchrist75]

Well That Makes Me Feel A Whole lot Better!!! :(

[Agent1W]

I knew a guy who once proclaimed he was God's gift to women. I heartily quipped back that I was Satan's gift to women. That was said in jest with a hint of truth: women avoid me like the plague.

No temptations, no seductions, no ulterior motives, no deceptions. Always respectful and giving to women for little to nothing in return. The freedom w/o being in a relationship to act selflessly and rightfully for women. I'm not God's gift to women, otherwise I would never get rejected lol.

[superkulkin2]

¿que a la gene no le gusta ser molesta? Este no conoce a los camperos.

La pava le dice al compi "oye que me estás molestando" y el pavo le sigue molestando, entonces cruza la línea de la molestia y entra en la zona del rechazo, pero hay otro límite, la del acoso.

O sea, que si te rechazan date el piro que lo que viene después es feo.

[1212ofomyzrc]

this advice sucks lol

[stinabeib]

I love how he assumes people watching this are trying to pick up people who have previously been married

[lule29]

YES...LET GO AND MOVE ON...LIFE IS WONDERFUL...

[majornewb]

You're starting to cross that line into harassment... lol

[JamesYoungTV]

Am I the only one that thought that guy was Christopher Walken from a far view?

[I3l4ckSw0rdzm4n]

Maybe I'm being annoying? MAYBE YOU'RE BEING ANNOYING DR. PAUL VEHORN. ALL YOU DO IS SAY RANDOM SHIT.

[foodynik]

This is so partial, im sure everyone who saw this was once in a deeper shit than just a simple rejection !

better than asking oneself what is rejected, ask that gal what she thinks she is rejecting, the guy , the love , or the memory (baggage).

im not paul, paul was an octopus..

thank god im still a human !!!

[93simonk]

His shoes match his socks, which match his trousers,

His drink matches his jewellery

His robe matches his shirt

His lapel matches the couch, which matches the candels. . .

Fuck it,. . . . I think it's cool

[TheDaredevil1968]

@93simonk !!!DAMN!!! --- HIS JEWELRY MATCHES HIS HAIR----

[gunskill20]

girls never reject me i reject them i got better tips then this fool listen to me !

[ubershredder1989]

there are no easy ways to handle rejection. especially if u r rejected by someone u r really interested in. it will always hurt no matter how good u r at dealing with it.

[ubershredder1989]

when you approach a girl and get to know her, the best thing that can happen is she digs you... the next best thing that could happen is she rejects you. the worst thing that can happen, is she digs you and later changes her mind. that happens, and trust me it sucks. so if some of you out there are afraid to approach a girl just because she might not be very interested in talking to you, you are not living your life properly.

[poop494]

TY DOCTOR PAUL!!!!

[Steffenmccrary]

damn your a P.I.M.P

[Samsonnn99]

Thanks.. Dr Paul!!!

[VENICECHIEF]

For guys. more fish in the sea. For gals More worms in the ground.

[ubershredder1989]

@VENICECHIEF fish in the sea are only good if you know how to be a good fisherman.

[PizmoBeach1]

Take it and move on? Gee, why didn't I think of that? What he said, while giving what I assume to be his impression of Hugh Heffner sans blonde bimbos on either side of him, is sound advice... but it's kind of a no-brainer. The problem is HOW TO 'take it and move on' when rejection is so painful that you cling to the rejector out of instinct cuz it's as if the only way the pain will stop is if they take you back? The battle between the brain vs. the heart never ends.

[ubershredder1989]

@PizmoBeach1 thats very true what you said... it pisses me off when people say shit like, "take it, move on...plenty other fish in the sea.... " there is no easy way to handle rejection. its not supposed to be easy. we are humans. if you really like someone and they rejected you, and you didnt feel bad about it, u shud be really worried....

[NeeNuh2o1o]

he was right at the end..take it and move on!!!

[JEEminn3000]

women rejects us bcause our looks (duh)

[JWatyourdoor]

@JEEminn3000 Speaking for myself that's not true.

[kcssnotbubble]

@JEEminn3000

ha ha that's not necessarily true. It just depends on the girl and what she's looking for. I've dated guys I wasn't very attracted to physically.

[JEEminn3000]

@kcssnotbubble women want prince charming (brad pitt) not humpty dumpty (jonah hill)

[connorwcfcmad]

the actual best way to get over a girl honestly is get with another girl helped me a cuple of times now :-)

[connorwcfcmad]

if she rejects u just resort to rape

[lalindabahiana]

this is bullshit. If someone rejects you is because they don't like you. Period. They are not attracted to you. All the other excuses are stupid. You remind him of her, you remind her of his ex, bullshit. He's not into you. There is ONLY one reason why somebody rejects you

[drCasey555]

@lalindabahiana gtfo

[kcssnotbubble]

@lalindabahiana

there's tons of reasons people get rejected. what he said are just examples.

[SHIZENBALL]

u could go screw urself trying to seem like u know all! U LITTLE DICK WAD

[flightofstitch]

sorry but this advice didnt work for me, i feel totally destroyed, unloved and alone

[visionimagify]

I can give you a bit of advice if you need it. Don't feel bad. A man transform into what he desires you know.

[JEEminn3000]

@flightofstitch you're not alone on this,i'm still going there 2day so don't beat urself up the game iz changing and it totally sucks

[iRunWithMyWerewolf]

okay, i have had guy sin the past tht iv rejected for being to sexual and annoying with me. I would ignore their phone calls, tell them in not interested, and everything else but they just couldnt ever get the point!!

[gothdolly84]

You can't replace a family member that rejects you.

[StephonWallace]

or do what i would do and bash her brains into the ground

[maserati1990]

you've never done that before

[StephonWallace]

not into the ground. but into the floor

[maserati1990]

slack

[donreplies]

we wont be alright till we get a better one.

[nameless527]

umm this didnt help, im still hurt, i just love her, i cant just stop the feelings can i?

[killbob409]

I'm In the same boat, I think were Fucked!!

[teh1owner]

I have some wonderful advise.

Go to a porno site, jack off, take a nap. Repeat process.

[fatminihorse123]

ahahaha nice one u pwned dr pauls words

[teh1owner]

Indeed I did :)

[ayaazcyclops]

@teh1owner man...ur a fucking legend! u made my day

[teh1owner]

@ayaazcyclops

You're welcome, my friend.

[Felisha23luv]

@teh1owner  I disagree

[teh1owner]

@Felisha23luv

Or finger yourself. whatever. Don't really care :S

[Felisha23luv]

@teh1owner well i want you to know , that I care about you, and I Love you!

[teh1owner]

@Felisha23luv

Thank you! I love you too :D

[TeeFlick]

im sure your over her my now. thank Dr. paul

[RussX5Z]

I think the best way to deal with depression and rejection is to get authetic real advice from real love doctors and self help gurus and stop being fake yourself stop hanging out with fake people stop listening and getting help from fake people, stop following the B.S. media etc etc etc. Stay away from poison and find the real remedy. Peace.

[pontiacfirebird1997]

or a girl could reject you cus of your looks?

[dallasmavericks100]

Yeah. You right about that Dr. Paul. Someone shouldn't try to force a relationship or friendship or anything like that. The important thing is to keep moving forward. Thank you for the advice.

[nataliaXL]

i got rejected but cant get over it. i wanna stab my phone, but wat if my mom calls?? i cant stop callin him nd then he gets annoyed :/

[apnisse]

His videos are absolute crap. "How to handle rejection"? In 2 minutes he basically just says "just move on". What the hell kind of advice is that?

It's like posting a video on "How to overcome painful separations" and then just say "Time heals all wounds".

To hell with this.

[nobodysperfect06]

women have it so much easier

[PennySmart]

@nobodysperfect06 No, women don't have it easier at all.



[nobodysperfect06]

well thats your opinion, personally I think women have it easier because us men always have to initiate everything, take the lead and be the main decision maker in the dating or relationship, like everything is on our shoulders, yeah it may be the man's job, but I resent it.

[nobodysperfect06]

well that is in marriage or after you have a kid, I'm talking about before marriage, just typical normal boyfriend-girlfriend dating, I think there are more guys out there that struggle to get a girlfriend than there are girls who struggle to get a boyfriend

[YouCanJustPretend]

@nobodysperfect06 Suck it up and do it.

[nobodysperfect06]

@YouCanJustPretend yeah i don't see the logic as to why it is "Masculine", part of being a Man to make the first move and initiate, where is the argument to back that up?

[YouCanJustPretend]

@nobodysperfect06 I personally believe that it's a man's role. It has nothing to do with being more masculine or not. Men were made to be the protectors and care givers, whether you believe that or not. It doesn't make sense for the woman to initiate then. Also, it would in fact "demasculinize" the man if she were to take charge while he just sit around. I am very out spoken and an "in charge" kind of girl, and many times that has turned a guy off.

[nobodysperfect06]

@YouCanJustPretend does taking charge, being the dominant one in the relationship, does that mean "being the Boss" in the relationship?

[YouCanJustPretend]

@nobodysperfect06 Not necessarily. Definitely not a "dictator" type of role. Just a man who is sure of himself and of what he wants. If he wants the girl, he'll go and get her. And when he has her, then they can decide things together. It shouldn't be a father-daughter kind of relationship, but a partnership :)

[ratjoker936]

@YouCanJustPretend I'm sorry, but the "men-should-do-the-first-move-­if-not-they-are-not-real-men" stuff is just ridiculous.

I don't see anything bad if a woman makes the first move, it's not the end of the world if it happens, geez...

Grow up. We're not in the 1500 anymore.

[ubershredder1989]

@nobodysperfect06 not really. u get alot of beautiful women out there who are very lonely. simply because they are always waiting for a man to make a move on them. it isnt considered socially acceptable for women to make a move on men

[nobodysperfect06]

for what reasons is it not socially acceptable? but still, I bet if I was a girl, I would have had a boyfriend a long time ago

[ubershredder1989]

@nobodysperfect06 well generally men are expected to make the first acctuall move. girls generally don't go further than making a subtle signal that they may be interested. they are pussies, we're dicks, dicks can handle rejection better.

[nobodysperfect06]

thats debateable, still, I think it's easier for girl to get a boyfriend than it is for a guy to get a girlfriend

[ubershredder1989]

@nobodysperfect06 i dont like this generic approach u have when it comes to getting a boyfriend or a girlfriend, its not an accessory like going to a shop to buy groceries. it has to be someone u like. one doesnt get a GF for the sake of getting a GF... you first take a liking to someone, and eventually they may become ur GF.

[nobodysperfect06]

yeah, but still, it's just that I don't know what I am doing that makes me get rejected, I don't know how to learn from my mistakes

[PizmoBeach1]

@nobodysperfect06 - Not necessarily. Don't confuse getting laid with getting a boy/girl friend. As a chick- I have no doubt that I could go out and get laid tonight, if I wanted to. Just about any girl can find a guy for that pretty easy (cuz, lets face it... you know how you guys are. ha,ha) But finding an acceptable guy to actually have a relationship with, that's something entirely different. I'm not suggesting that it's easier for guys, but it's not a cake walk for girls, either.

[nobodysperfect06]

thats very true, but still, for all the guys/girls out there that are actually in a serious, committed, long-term relationship, have been together for more than a year, the guy was the one that initiated it, so I still think girls have it easier

[Anthonydp]

@nobodysperfect06 yeah if she is hot lol

[Felisha23luv]

@nobodysperfect06 you think so, idk i think it about the same

[BkNvh]

0:17 - 0:24 He is right on the mark!

[IngeGrasdal]

I wrote `their` twice...

Oh, great! Now I won't be able to sleep tonight!

[SmartGuyMan]

LOL!

[IngeGrasdal]

When women rejects me I feel like fucking gouging their eyes out and bury them alive!!!

I am NOT annoying!!

*their

[mecca115]

this is crazy hell.. give me someone as neurotic as I am. we can get along...lol

[69v62]

woman is not going to forget or forgive rejection

[Cattuccino]

LOL