if you're confident and you know it clap your hands!

[thesuicidaldino]

are you a girl or guy o.O WHAT DAA FUCKKKK

[CandyPants2789]

Naww... I just imagined you swimming around in a bad after being introduced into a new fish tank! hehehehehhe =P <3

[Val16perks]

i know i am from maine,, n i was pissed they had to vote after it was already signed,

[webbyxx]

omg i hate to be massivly rude, im not trying to. but i always thought aj was a guy, lol. so sorry! i never knew.

[PaintedRavensong]

Like I put on Michelle's video...confidence is sexy!  Great and uplifting video!

[XE03andME]

oh so is that why last time i saw u u gave me a big hug and actually talked to me hahaha ur right for sure confiedence is the most important thing

[AskAJanything]

UMmmm yes last time i saw you i did give you a hug, i even sat with you and talked....no sob stories

[edanstone]

my dad lives in maine.. he voted against the marriage... err oh by the way.. I'm a bit gay.. so that reaaaly urked me that he cant support me and what i want one day

[BillieBaby143]

I'm really shy too lol.. especially in a crowd or group. and sometimes in front of a really pretty girl..lol

[kerkevik]

Hi, gotta say, I totally agree with you. Despite all the s###, depressions, abuses etc... my queer identity has been the one thing that's been a point of stability in my life; the ONLY thing I do have confidence in. Thanks for saying, Ray.

[carbon4807]

I know what you mean. I cut all my hair off. I get a lot of people at first glances looking at me trying to figure out if im a boy or a girl. i really hate it when they look at me like this. Girl clothes are just wierd. But now that i cut all of my hair i just feel uber confident. love you peoples

[metricdisco24]

I know what you mean about being shy. I have decided that I should stop being shy because I don't think it benefits me.  I'm not entirely sure how to do that, but I think it can be done over time.

P.S. You're my new favorite goldfish. Haha. =] And this video is full of win.

[Joemama39YLime]

I am Pretty much the same way AJ, Shy at first !

I know theres many people out there just like that, So its even better when I can relate to you and these videos. They brighten the day and help!

[SeanChapin1]

THANK YOU for talking about Maine taking away gay marriage. I am amazed that very few prominent gay youtubers have even brought up this very important issue, and I am deeply concerned about the apathy and complacency of our LGBT community. I made over 20 various videos supporting Maine's No on 1 campaign, and I wish that more gay people did the same. Again, thank you so much for speaking about about this, and I think you should make an entire video about Maine :).

[Silveracity]

If people can legally get married by traveling to another state, but chose not. Then in my view, they probably do not want to get married.

[SeanChapin1]

Silveracity, I disagree. There are couples who may not be able to afford to travel to another state, and there are other couples who wish to wait to marry in their own state out of pride or out of the principal that it's wrong for a state to deny a couple the fundamental civil right to marry. I am curious to hear what straight couples would say if they had to travel to different state to get married.

[Silveracity]

Yes, it seems wrong to me to deny any couple the right to marriage. But we must live our lives in this world today, and not in the world as it may be tomorrow.

Everyone couple has to decide what is more important, their pride and principals or their love and marriage.

[SeanChapin1]

Silveracity, I think we may disagree on this subject, and I am fine to agree to disagree. I don't think principal is something that I would ever wish to compromise over practicality, as principal carries far more substance and is how we define ourselves and things, and I see it as a matter of not either marriage or principals but marriage based on principals.

[paul20072007]

"baby dyke" LOL

I used to think I was shy too, til I realised that for the most part, I don't really like people!

[sonjunkie]

<3333

[standcm12]

hahaha i liked when you said "baby dyke"

[coffeehead02]

I think we should have a counter of how many times "confident" or "confidence" is said in this video.

[LostInTranslation02]

i think we should take a shot everytime its said haha

[coffeehead02]

Sure fire way to get hammered.

[myxidlexrose]

Oh, AJ. You're just too awesome!

[megsvideos123]

ina group i find im quirte confident and i can hold a conversation

but as soon as it becomes one on one, i become a complete spazz!

[Shmoo06]

I said hi to someone yesterday as I walked by and she responded with "Jesus cares!" Made my day. hahaha.

[bippityboo000]

huh

[shelbysmiiiles]

(2) I think it would help younger girls to see you all talking about and doing other things. From this point-of-view, it seems like being gay is all you're about, but I know it's not. I think seeing you guys talking about other normal, everyday things makes being gay seem more normal to them. Like, "Oh, they're gay, but they're still normal." I don't think enough people do that. This is no way an insult to your channel, though. I've found a lot of comfort in your videos.

[shelbysmiiiles]

(1) I appreciate all the helpful talks about coming out and being confident with being gay and everything, but not every video you make has to be related to being gay just because you're a gay channel.

[leggsXinXaXtopXhat]

when i first cut my hair i was worried i would look like a boy but once it was done i was like yes this is what i want to look like!!

and all my friends were like it was weird at first because the change was so dramatic (i had freakishly long hair) but not they say this hair is a lot more me then the long hair was.

my dad was not happy but this works for me.

also i am very shy but i try to act extra confidant to cover that and after a little while i relax and just feel more confidant.

[nneverwhisperr]

i'm pissed too! this is just what happens when a crowd of stupid people live together. BAD BAD BAD!

[fruitgrrl]

a funky truck is the sexiest!!!

[astrangeone]

Great video as usual! I tend to have two extremes - I'm not comfortable in a bar setting; so basically I shut up. (Even with liquor - I'm a creepy quiet drunk.)

But in another social situation like parties - I tend to talk my ass off. I guess it's the loud noises at bars that puts me off.

Great video, AJ!

[JesiMAKAA]

It is so hard talking to people! I am bisexual and from the midwest so i encounter a lot of hate and stereotypes, Like Oh you are bu then you must be a greedy whore right? And it is something that is so hard for me to talk about and it get red in the face and feel like and idiot but i do it anyway and that is a small step. Great video.

[nicanewnew]

Not just for baby beavers, either, AJ...you and the rest of th bunch are an inspiration and a joy for me as an older, older, older mtf transsexual...it does have to come from within and you always need to nurture and grow that confidence...thanks!

[itsallgoodTV]

the question I have, that I know you've probably answered in previous videos, how do you know that this isn't a phase or the a good option for now, but might really not be the best overall option for your life. for the rest of your life...

[cdlndn]

I'm mad about Maine too, and I'm a Canadian.

[simplayaj]

Dear AJ,

hi :)

[Silveracity]

If you believe in democracy, you have to accept that sometimes the majority will vote against the minority.

You, however have the right to free speech and the right to petition your government for change.

[tetsubo57]

I've made several such videos. I tend to vent my anger about these bigots quietly however. Mostly they just make me sad. Equality under the law for all Americans.

[Ahuva102]

I love your goldfish analogy. Great video, AJ.

[Grahamebs]

So I officially have a youtube crush on you : p

[AnnasuiDolly]

What's going on in Maine?

I know. I live under a rock.

[BleedingEyesOfLove]

They took away gay marriage.

[AnnasuiDolly]

Are you serious?

[gelz4life]

Amazingg video =)

[symmetrynone]

AJ is just spot on.

(see I had to comment twice like a dork!)

[JordmanKNOWS]

I'm the same way. Once i get comfortable in a new setting with people i don't know i'm a lot less shy.

[rebelgurle]

remember i asked you about the hair thing AJ way back when? Yup...i did it and i couldn't be more confident and happy.

[crazymariamlr]

loved it

[superhelen07]

haha what was the edit for?

[AskAJanything]

ran out of space on the camera ;)

[zzzzaah]

Im like a goldfish that way too

[upsidedownfrontwards]

i like you AJ<3

[AskAJanything]

I like u too!

[HEIBAOSHEN]

It's not really confidence, it's just the more you do something the more and quicker your brain will get your thoughts from your brain to your mouth. You seem like a nice enough person, but I think if we can get past the term pretentious term "confidence" maybe at some point this issue of verbal or group expression can begin to be overcome much easier.

[mrssarkazz]

excellent vid!

[technoturtle]

AJ, what kind of truck do you have?

[sunsetlover]

love it, I did a video today about this but I ended up crying in it so I don't think I will post it

[losr18]

i totally agree with you on the whole maine thing...it just makes absolutely no sense whatsoever

and about the shy thing i used to be super shy...now i'm not as shy as before but still a little bit

[jsweet83]

would you rather be naked in public or speak in public

[visualxjinsei]

I would rather speak in public.

[jsweet83]

@jsweet83 please don't flag me

[XdessertORdisasterX]

Dear Maine:

You fail! We're kicking you out of New England. (Rhode Island when are you going to get on the boat?)

Sincerely,

Connecticut, New Hampshire, Vermont

[amojarro1]

are you from San Diego?

[WeirdAl68]

Hey AJ you got a shout out tonight on The Gloves Are Off!

[halfbro]

You? Shy? How is that possible? But seriously, great pep talk. Confidence is something I struggle with everyday. I guess we all do to some degree.

[Gabyvk94x]

Self-acceptance isn't dancing in your room alone, or singing in your car. Self-acceptance has more to do with others. Realizing that you will never be anyone but you, & maintaining uninhibition in front of others. If you are only comfortable with yourself when you're not around others, you're not truly comfortable.

[ValGrl82]

Arg! Maine is pissing me off too!

I mean, the ability for my friends to get married in NO WAY hinders my marriage in any way!! It'll probably be more helpful cause we'd have more married couples to hang out with! ; -P

How in any way is LOVE wrong!

We're not forcing anybody to do something they don't want to do, we're asking for a group of people to have the same rights that everybody else does, SHEESH!

OK, end o' rant :-)

~Val

[bonsophori]

Washingon (state) passed Ref 71! ! Or, it's most likely going to pass.

[casualandfunny]

AJ --

I just subscribed to all the beavs and you inspired it. I'm so glad! I am old enough to be your Mama Beav. . I can't tell you how inspiring you are.

Rock on AJ . . .keep strutting your stuff. I will remember to give shy people a little space so they can acclimate.

[iamangelfire21]

thanks for vids AJ, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic. It gives me hope that things will get better and being happy and being confident on yourself takes time. You are truly and inspiration to me. thanks AJ. mwah!

[MelyssaNOTMelissa]

So true! What an amazing way to think! Ladies we are all ladies lets be proud of ourselves and be confident of what we are, and not bash each other!

[sofita11]

im wid u on maine ... UGH... seriously? i mean COME ON!!!!