U no the coolest thing bout guys like this brave young man is wen they come out like this and are proud of them selves ;) I respect u and all others like you that have done the same thing you are very brave for doing this
I get what you mean though, you do wanna come out because you kinda feel guilty for keeping it from them, but on the other hand you're afraid of the outcome.
Your story is pretty similar to mine..in a way. I told my friend indirectly (kinda online, but it was when I was questioning still) and then a day or two later she talked to me for a few mins n was like, "Just to let you know, I don't care about any of that. I won't see or treat you any different." And that nearly made me cry. Then months later in the summer she told me again, "I really don't care if you are. I obviously haven't treated you any differently.."
Holy fuck balls, you've literally taken the words right out of my mouth. I seriously gasped at some of the things you said, because they were my exact experiences too. Every time i've told someone, I shake profusely, Make your friend my roommate, and you have the exact same story. Scared of a reaction, and it ends up in him saying thank you. Wow, thank you so much for posting, it's good to know there are others who have gone through what I have.
You are a very nice and cool person who tells it like it is . I love your hair it is just like my hair and this video helped me to come out to some of my freinds in New York. I have listened to you just not long ago my friends have been faithful and some are ignoring me but now I know who are my chums and thank you! Russ:)
It's excellent that your friend is okay with it. Even if was straight I could never bring myself to associate with a homophobe, even if it was my parents [I know that sound's pretty hardcore, but I'm confident in those feelings], the same goes for racism or any kind of prejudice , but I'll get off my soap-box now.
It's excellent that your friend is okay with it. Even if was straight I could never bring myself to associate with a homophobe, even if it was my parents [I know that sound's pretty hardcore, but I'm confident in those feelings], the same goes for racism or any kind of prejudice , but I'll get off my soap-box now.
That's the way to know who your true friends are an I'm glad your friend was cool with you being gay. Good luck and take it slow for people youtell. Hugs!
I love you, I don't know you but I love you! :) I came out that I liked girls and to this day my mom either doesn't believe me, doesn't wanna believe it, or is just in denial. :L But it's okay, I'll just wait til I'm out of school. Know all of us on youtube (the not-bastards) are here for ya! :D <33
Thank you for this video. I wish I could give you a hug . Gay is a gift. Coming out is a process. Good things happen like tonight, and sometimes bad things happen, but it keeps getting better and the more out and proud you are the less power you give to the haters. Although we will never meet I send you love and best wishes. I hope you find a special guy to share your life.
When I told my best friend, he didnt really believe me. I felt kind of giulty and upset at not telling someone, so I told him, but since im never entirely serious with him, and people have joked about it before and I denied it, he didnt take me seriously. My own fault I guess, but other people who know accepted me very quickly
I hope that one day you will find a partner and know that don't be ashamed of yourself for being gay or anything I meen I came out when I was 14 and I felt so much better and I was happier coming out for me was extremely hard cause if the place I lived, I just hope you are happy and stay happy and to all those who must make fun us gay people they can all go die cause we don't care for there approval it's not there place to tell us we can't like a bot on boy or girl on girl or boy on girl it doe
You should put evrything you said down on paper, Write a book about your story, publish it, sell it, and then, make a movie about your comming out experiance.
I really like this video for some reason. Like, i think that his friend is totally awesome. My best friend, who happens to be a girl, was so surprised and didn't expect it. When i told, she just smiled at me and gave me a hug. So like, im glad for him, but i wish i had a guy friend who wasn't gay that i could talk to about things...that are important. but anywayy, liked the video dude.(:
I don't understand why people watch these movies just to criticize what he's goin through I mean seriously YOU looked it up YOU click on play YOU sat here and watched it and then u criticize,EVERYONE who has in any way negatively criticized this guy is just covering up the fact ur so deep in the closet ur finding clothes u havnt worn since the 3rd grade,grow up and grow some balls and don't be jelous that he could come out and u don't have the balls to -.-
like i came out as bisexual i think in 7th grade and someone was evesdropping on my coversation wit some people and the easedropper told like pratically the whole school and i was embarassed my friends told me they didnt care wether ur gay bi or strate and only the cool kids just made fun of me but not rlly made fun of but rlly judeing wht i did and stuff but in 8th grade i turned out to b gay cuz i liked the idea i love guys and didnt rlly care for girls so yeah my friend took it well but......
"Coming out" is a major turning point in any gay persons life; it can be BOTH rewarding and devastating. It takes a great deal of courage to do so. I am very glad it went well for you; hopefully it will lead to something very rewarding.
How can anyone dislike this? You were so real and honest. I don't even know you and you sound like an incredible, genuine, wonderful human being. Do great things. You will.
dude... ur sexuality molds ur entire life by the way u act, and who you hang out with its a HUGE part of your life and who you are its not worth hiding and no matter how hard u try theyre going 2 identify you as scottie the gay kid in atleast some cases its the way life is cause people r immature... embrace it and prove them wrong.
Scotty, you are an awesome young man. You literally brought tears to my eyes for your bravery, honesty and forthrightness. As many find, the hardness of coming out is nearly always not as bad as your thoughts and fears. This video is going to inspire many, heck - it inspired me and I am probably well over double your age lol. I don't know you, I will never know you - but by God I am proud of you. I so wish you health happiness and the love you so richly deserve. Well Done!
see it the same way as you. My sexuality is a part of me but not entirely me. So glad for you. And I`m just so hyper cause I came out yestarday towards my best friend. And he just handled it better than I did :)
Thanks for sharing your story. It had a positive message. Be your self and think positively in your life. I am glad that I found your video, i enjoyed it.
great vid! If I had internet and youtube at my coming-out time, it would have been a lot easier. A happy New Year to all gays and lesbians and other loveable people - kiss from Switzerland :-o
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Ur the lowest piece of crap life I've ever layed my sorry sore eyes upon u sick weak minded confused piece of garbage. Homosexuals are sick and disgusting! Ur just a stain on the underpants of society Get ready for the dark Forever burning pits of hell u swine!
@BranPHILhop Isn't the best way to get to Heaven is to be kind and gracious towards ALL of God's creations? You are not God and therefore have no place to judge others.
so.. i jus came out to two of my best friends.... and they were EXTREMELY ACCEPTING, like I was shocked... but they were girls! umm, i have a guy best friend... but I'm scared that he might not like me if i tell him, however he does have a gay brother... and he accepts & sticks up for him.... do u think he'll accept me??? HE IS SUCH A GREAT FRIEND..... and I DON"T WANNA LOSE HIM!!!!
ofcourse he is gonna stick by you he has a brother who is gay and he accepts that if he does not accept you as you are he is NOT a friend of you anyway.
now, if he accepts he's bro he'd most definitely accept you, but if he doesn't which i think would be hiralious, he wouldn't be a true friend of yours at all!! tell him when you're by urselves and he can listen to you totally.
Thanks alot for the advice, and ya i think i'm jus going to tell him next time we're alone.... i'm sick of feeling like i'm holding this back from him... and i guess you're right with the whole if he doesn't accept me, he's not a true friend thing... cuz that wouldn't really make sense.. THANKS ALOT!!!
im not a lesbian myself and i dont know many gay ppl but dont be ashamed! be who you are. Good for you on sharing your feelings and i hope it all works out 4 u!!!! u r a normal person no matter wat ur sexuality and dont let any1 EVER tell you otherwise! xxx
Honestly I disagree, I think its not that big a part of me, when I realised I was gay it never changed who I was, I was the same guy but I just fancied guys was all.
And Honestly the problem society has is that people think if you become gay, you turn into a different species, I mean In my experience with friends being bi and gay, my response was yeah thats great, but also one of it doesnt change who you are and I still love you.
well then you dont understand what i mean - no offense.
look, you said when you realised you were gay, nothing about you changed - of course it didnt! You were always gay, even before you realised it! Its not a bad thing.
All people are shaped by how they view the world - str8 bi gay tran w.e
before you realised you were gay, you were still looking out at the world through those big gay eyes - i agree with you that it doesnt change us into a different person or species - i am the exact same
@2dboy I disagree. Your sexuality is not what makes you, you. Peoples sexuality is but one of many different thing that makes up a person. Just because a person it gay/bi it doesnt mean that all they are. :)
@deadtaco4011 wrong - your sexuality is a very large part of what makes a person who they are. Its psychology 101.
Is it the ONLY thing? Of course not, I never said it was.
I think its sad that so many LGBT are afraid to accept that part of themselves.
so much of the LGBT community seems to be trying way to hard to be straight if you ask me. Personally I dont want to try to be just like the straights so that they can all then accept me. No way. Only on my terms!
@scozta your argument is so flawed! Read any pschology book - our sexuality is a HIGE part of who we are and how we view the world. It doesnt mean you have to "treat is as a big deal". I dont know where you got that little gem.
And if you read any of what I said, i did not say a persons sexuality defines them - but it does play a large part and should not be downplayed just because you want to appease the straight world around u
its part of a spectrum of what makes us who we r and is not bad
whether between a man and a woman, a man and a man, or a woman and a woman
therefore sexuality is unimportant and not a big a deal.
I think what you mean is 'love' - love is a huge part of us, haha dont confuse the two dude
and i have nothing against homophiles, biphiles or heterophiles (phile = love, i wont say homosexuality, bisexuality or heterosexuality because that means sexual attraction)! That's all I have to say!
I wasn't planning on telling my mum I'm bi, but I accidently did it while drunk. I kind of wish I'd told her purposly, and the worst part is that I can't remember her reaction. I don't know how she feels about it but I'm too afraid to bring it up.
It is still too early to tell how well your friend is going to take it. I'm sure he was shocked and only said what he thought would cause less conflict at that time...but it takes a while to reflect on that kind of stuff.
If he accepts you, you're lucky.
There is no "sort of" or "kind of". He either does or doesn't.
I do honestly hope that he turns out to be a true friend..in many cases, people will put their religion/beliefs first...friends second.
I admire the way you did it - you told your friends (those, you care about), parents and just let the others know by gossip and homecoming dance - that was brave fo you ! I wish I would have a friend like you :)
Telling my parents was the hardest thing... they didn't believe me. But i fell in love with my best mate and we've been together for 6 months now. although now she's moving to england :( i am going to miss her so much.
you're adorable and i think it's so great and brave that you went to a dance with a guy! I made sure i waited until i graduated in June to tell anyone and i still don't have enough to come out to my family and a few friends. i wish i was brave like you :)
I Don't Think Ppl Really Care If It's Long Cuz Ur Making A Great Point On Life And It Should Be Told. I'm Bisexual And I Was Scared 2 Tell My Best Friend And When I Did I Was So Sure She Was Going 2 Say Something Like I Don't Wanna Be Ur Friend Any More But She Didnt She Told Me Take She Thought It Was Great And She Was Really Helpful 2 Me. Its Life Live It The Way U Are Not Behind A Lie.
Haha it's actually kind of adorable how you can't stop rambling, probably due to tiredness, but maybe just because it's part of who you are. I tend to be like that too. Congrats on celebrating yourself for who you are. Huge accomplishment - most people never get that far until their dying breath. xoxo
I can understand why you were worried - not many gays like to be associated with the extreme stereotype which is always in the media. It gives straight people the wrong impression and an invalid basis for their prejudice.
im glad you are so open and dont want to make being gay the main part of your personality.. im also glad your not part of the steriotypical gay group who talks in a valley girl accent and stuff... good job:)
i have to say thanks for sharing ur life with us. i, for 1, love that u feel that u can talk openly like this. not everyone can or has someone that we can talk to. and dont worry about being long winded becouse i love hearing ur voice( so sweet)
This kind of honesty is exactly the right way to say it. A best friend who accepts you for all of who you are... awesome. Dancing with the Homecoming King? Two thumbs up too.
You really have it right. I hope your parents are ok with it, it can be a terrible shock.
And you need a couple really brave str8 friends who will hug you ever day at school, etc. And embarass the potential homophobes to not be homophobes.
do it rigtht, almost everyone will become brave enough to embrace you regardless of your sexuality. In some cases I've heard of gay kids actually becomming so very popular. Prob because they are seen as brave, and a couple good friends drive that home.\
The homecoming king? Wow, that's brave of you both. I hope some day to be able to be as open as you are. The only big hurdles I have left are my parents and my home university. I'm out to basically all my good friends and to the general public here in Germany where I'm doing a semester abroad. It's just that the atmosphere at my uni at home is completely different, and I'm just not ready for that yet.
oh lord, for me, there is no way I could come out, there is just no way, I just refuse to do it, I won't handle it, they day I do it, will the day I'll moving to jungle of africa because I cannot handle it!!
Scotty, you are so kind and good...from now on, your life should be just fine, so no worries and enjoy those great people you are lucky to have in your life.
I'm very nervous about coming out also. Think about it, but then chicken out. Maybe the best thing to do is setting a date when you want to tell the first person.
Maybe coming out day (Oct 11 ?)
aq94b, don't worry about watching porn. Everybody watches porn. Sometimes it's the only outlet you have. And most importantly, DON'T HATE YOURSELF! You have to love yourself first. Then you will be able to deal with everything else.
Go ahead and shake and let your feelings out when you tell someone. I just told my son. I was shaking like crazy and couldn't talk at first. What is it Dad, tell me now, he said. I finally squeeked it out and he said "don't worry about" "I'm cool with it" why didn't you tell me before, he said. A lot off my shoulders. Just let it come out. Shake and shake, just let it go.....
You're very welcome. Again, just let it out. Yes, you will tremble and feel sad, but the person you are telling will see your grief and most likely help you with it. Then you will feel some relief almost immediately....
The last two somewhat apply to me. That's why I ignored my friend for about a year. I thought it was just way too creepy that I came out to my friend who I found cute.
ugh, yea...i am attracted to one of my closest friends and I felt like I should tell him. He said to just keep my thoughts inside and to not hit on him too much...he is a sweetheart, does not mind that I flirt because he knows me more than most people do. It's a very common thing...but for sure something that can be dealt with positively! Peace
I wish it had gone the same way for me. I've been pondering that quandary very very much in the recent weeks, and it occurred to me that he's been telling me he doesn't mind, yet he tends to ignore me. I don't have a crush on him anymore... his ignoring me makes me feel angry, actually. I trusted him and I told him everything, and now whenever I say "Hi" to him, he barely responds (meaning slight wave of hand and eye contact for half a second, nothing more). ::sigh::
Yeah, in case you didn't notice, your knee was completely in that shot. But its okay, you were totally tired. I would not have been able to make a video at four in the morning, I'd probably fall asleep half way through and then everyone could enjoy watching eight hours of me sleeping.
Congrats on the completion of coming out. From now on its not so much as you coming out to someone, now its like, 'Yeah, Ilike guys, you didn't know? Dumbass...'
I came out to my family 1st & it all went well <y cousins & I hang out all the time. My best friend was the most dreaded though. It went great and so did all my other friends. Some thought so already, others had no idea. But, nothing changed, I was lucky. I let people get to know me before I tell them now, I don't act gay or anything, but when I tell them they are usually cool with it.
Great vid. I can't wait to check out the rest and sub to you.
Labels suck and being gay or bi is not a sport,club or hobby - it's all about your inner most personal feelings .... can i come out to you -? - Yay i'm BI! - Aaah i feel so released.
Congrats I'm glad it went well. You should tell your coming out story about your parents/family (if you want too) just curious. I'm one of those people who like to watch those lol.
This guys really a breath of fresh air. I totally agree with him and I'm now in fear of favourating all his vids! hehe :D also: perviness: he hath sexy legs xD
Hi I watched one of your vids the other night. I was impressed. Been following Derek too. You both seem smart and balanced. About your fear of telling that one person, the last one. Perhaps you heitated 'cuz you were afraid that he would not "understand."
Understanding is ALWAYS the tough thing. KNOWing how YOU feel is only possible if he has similar feelings of his own. I see continued intamacy respect acceptance and love as well.
I mean telling everyone. Including family (who still don't know). I guess the problem is that everyone is 100% convinced I'm straight (apart from those I've told). Plus if someone asks me I'll pretend to be straight. Maybe I should stop doing that too! :P
I'm viewing this in the wee hours of Sunday morning so I think your vid is close to 24 hours old. I'll bet you slept very well after coming out to your friend. A huge burden was lifted from you. I'm not surprised that he is okay with you because friends like you don't come along often Scottie. I wish you nothing but the best.
U no the coolest thing bout guys like this brave young man is wen they come out like this and are proud of them selves ;) I respect u and all others like you that have done the same thing you are very brave for doing this
Jdukes014 2 months ago
@Jdukes014 I agree. 100%
msscott73 1 month ago
I get what you mean though, you do wanna come out because you kinda feel guilty for keeping it from them, but on the other hand you're afraid of the outcome.
Insaneymaney2 2 months ago
Your story is pretty similar to mine..in a way. I told my friend indirectly (kinda online, but it was when I was questioning still) and then a day or two later she talked to me for a few mins n was like, "Just to let you know, I don't care about any of that. I won't see or treat you any different." And that nearly made me cry. Then months later in the summer she told me again, "I really don't care if you are. I obviously haven't treated you any differently.."
Insaneymaney2 2 months ago
Holy fuck balls, you've literally taken the words right out of my mouth. I seriously gasped at some of the things you said, because they were my exact experiences too. Every time i've told someone, I shake profusely, Make your friend my roommate, and you have the exact same story. Scared of a reaction, and it ends up in him saying thank you. Wow, thank you so much for posting, it's good to know there are others who have gone through what I have.
lukequincy 3 months ago
anyone who dislikes his vids cause he is gay is a total asshole so dont go looking for videos to dislike them because of how peoples way of life is.
thebuove 4 months ago
You are a very nice and cool person who tells it like it is . I love your hair it is just like my hair and this video helped me to come out to some of my freinds in New York. I have listened to you just not long ago my friends have been faithful and some are ignoring me but now I know who are my chums and thank you! Russ:)
mykind1000 4 months ago
It's excellent that your friend is okay with it. Even if was straight I could never bring myself to associate with a homophobe, even if it was my parents [I know that sound's pretty hardcore, but I'm confident in those feelings], the same goes for racism or any kind of prejudice , but I'll get off my soap-box now.
MrTrty5 5 months ago
It's excellent that your friend is okay with it. Even if was straight I could never bring myself to associate with a homophobe, even if it was my parents [I know that sound's pretty hardcore, but I'm confident in those feelings], the same goes for racism or any kind of prejudice , but I'll get off my soap-box now.
MrTrty5 5 months ago
I could'nt help but notice but was he wareing shorts? And why dose he sound so sad???
KandyKidraver15 6 months ago
That's the way to know who your true friends are an I'm glad your friend was cool with you being gay. Good luck and take it slow for people youtell. Hugs!
Russ
mykind1000 6 months ago
You go girl !!! ;-)
randomsanta 7 months ago
I love you, I don't know you but I love you! :) I came out that I liked girls and to this day my mom either doesn't believe me, doesn't wanna believe it, or is just in denial. :L But it's okay, I'll just wait til I'm out of school. Know all of us on youtube (the not-bastards) are here for ya! :D <33
SasuNaruWillNotDie 8 months ago
you are OK !!!
flaviofenati100 11 months ago
Thank you for this video. I wish I could give you a hug . Gay is a gift. Coming out is a process. Good things happen like tonight, and sometimes bad things happen, but it keeps getting better and the more out and proud you are the less power you give to the haters. Although we will never meet I send you love and best wishes. I hope you find a special guy to share your life.
MichaelPierce2 1 year ago
When I told my best friend, he didnt really believe me. I felt kind of giulty and upset at not telling someone, so I told him, but since im never entirely serious with him, and people have joked about it before and I denied it, he didnt take me seriously. My own fault I guess, but other people who know accepted me very quickly
Xloi63 1 year ago
@Xloi63 Lol, I had the same problem!!! it doesnt really matter, their problem if they dont believe you
danielmartinex 10 months ago
I hope that one day you will find a partner and know that don't be ashamed of yourself for being gay or anything I meen I came out when I was 14 and I felt so much better and I was happier coming out for me was extremely hard cause if the place I lived, I just hope you are happy and stay happy and to all those who must make fun us gay people they can all go die cause we don't care for there approval it's not there place to tell us we can't like a bot on boy or girl on girl or boy on girl it doe
xXPandaMuffinXx 1 year ago
Sooooo Cooooool!
You should put evrything you said down on paper, Write a book about your story, publish it, sell it, and then, make a movie about your comming out experiance.
Gregory
Gregor724 1 year ago
I really like this video for some reason. Like, i think that his friend is totally awesome. My best friend, who happens to be a girl, was so surprised and didn't expect it. When i told, she just smiled at me and gave me a hug. So like, im glad for him, but i wish i had a guy friend who wasn't gay that i could talk to about things...that are important. but anywayy, liked the video dude.(:
Jacob1176 1 year ago
I'm glad it went well. Yeah, coming out is a process. With every person you are friends with, it is different.
jced29 1 year ago
Okay, honey, I totally understand about you and your troubles. I have the same issues right now.
Xavier2343 1 year ago
I don't understand why people watch these movies just to criticize what he's goin through I mean seriously YOU looked it up YOU click on play YOU sat here and watched it and then u criticize,EVERYONE who has in any way negatively criticized this guy is just covering up the fact ur so deep in the closet ur finding clothes u havnt worn since the 3rd grade,grow up and grow some balls and don't be jelous that he could come out and u don't have the balls to -.-
westside9596 1 year ago
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fucking asssiucking useless piece of shit
die
DMMMhelper1of3 1 year ago
thats exactly what i say!
Theweirdunnamed 1 year ago
um... is that your leg?
Azulmine 1 year ago
you went to a dance and your date was homecoming KING?? omg that is straight out of a movie! XD that's so cool. come out with style, I guess.
Aaronthegreatest 1 year ago
like i came out as bisexual i think in 7th grade and someone was evesdropping on my coversation wit some people and the easedropper told like pratically the whole school and i was embarassed my friends told me they didnt care wether ur gay bi or strate and only the cool kids just made fun of me but not rlly made fun of but rlly judeing wht i did and stuff but in 8th grade i turned out to b gay cuz i liked the idea i love guys and didnt rlly care for girls so yeah my friend took it well but......
pegusis110 1 year ago
what the fuck is that your leg in the background?
DaBossk 1 year ago
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Dude, your sexuality is but a small part of yourself. You're not scotty the gay kid, but scotty the cool kid . ><
deadtaco4011 1 year ago
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Dude, your sexuality is but a small part of yourself. You're not scotty the gay kid, but scotty the cool kid . ><
deadtaco4011 1 year ago
Dude, your sexuality is but a small part of yourself. You're not scotty the gay kid, but scotty the cool kid . ><
deadtaco4011 1 year ago
Beautiful story, enjoyed every second of it. Thank you
dfiant1 1 year ago
A good theme plus nice legs.
Jbb996699 1 year ago
Damn homosexuals these days.
moparbr0z 1 year ago
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You are who you are, and i'm cool with that :-)
sopaman1234 1 year ago
"Coming out" is a major turning point in any gay persons life; it can be BOTH rewarding and devastating. It takes a great deal of courage to do so. I am very glad it went well for you; hopefully it will lead to something very rewarding.
stecoop01 1 year ago
How can anyone dislike this? You were so real and honest. I don't even know you and you sound like an incredible, genuine, wonderful human being. Do great things. You will.
chesterfield1989 1 year ago
dude... ur sexuality molds ur entire life by the way u act, and who you hang out with its a HUGE part of your life and who you are its not worth hiding and no matter how hard u try theyre going 2 identify you as scottie the gay kid in atleast some cases its the way life is cause people r immature... embrace it and prove them wrong.
GottaLoveLikeWoe 1 year ago
If you are coming out to your friends, you are encouraging other boys to be themselves!
You are a very nice person. You don't deserve to be unhappy!
48acar19 1 year ago
Well done i know i will never have the guts to come out but well done for having the guts (unlike me) well done again
moomoo8998 1 year ago
This was an amazingly wonderful story. Thank you.
vinceinburque 1 year ago
Scotty, you are an awesome young man. You literally brought tears to my eyes for your bravery, honesty and forthrightness. As many find, the hardness of coming out is nearly always not as bad as your thoughts and fears. This video is going to inspire many, heck - it inspired me and I am probably well over double your age lol. I don't know you, I will never know you - but by God I am proud of you. I so wish you health happiness and the love you so richly deserve. Well Done!
hunkytim 1 year ago
see it the same way as you. My sexuality is a part of me but not entirely me. So glad for you. And I`m just so hyper cause I came out yestarday towards my best friend. And he just handled it better than I did :)
Trammelbach 1 year ago
Goes to show it's not usually as traumatic as you may have thought.
Congrats on coming out, no matter how late this comment may be:)
Velcan 1 year ago
bro ur lucky for ur best friend
MrLyricblack 1 year ago
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cronaldofan13 1 year ago
There's no normalizing the abnormal no matter how hard they try.
BlackRepublican2010 1 year ago
@ BlackRepublican2010 Being gay may not be the norm, but it is normal.
MrBenji44 1 year ago 2
that leg is scary is it urs im scared
bookaboo123 2 years ago 12
Thanks for sharing your story. It had a positive message. Be your self and think positively in your life. I am glad that I found your video, i enjoyed it.
phycadellic69 2 years ago
That's great, it sounds like you have a crush on your friend?? haha
ANGELliveify 2 years ago
WHY are you wearing your HOOD INSIDE THE HOUSE ??
pompom11 2 years ago
maybe he is cold.
gayweatherman23 2 years ago
great vid! If I had internet and youtube at my coming-out time, it would have been a lot easier. A happy New Year to all gays and lesbians and other loveable people - kiss from Switzerland :-o
zeronackt 2 years ago
Complete coming out to your school at the dance! That's cool. 8)
EdM021 2 years ago
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haha ur a faget
BrandonIsAGoodFella 2 years ago
lol @ leg
luv it tho
whotfsru 2 years ago
You're so adorable <3 Love the leg too.
kingslice75 2 years ago 2
Awesome video! <3
gswimfrk 2 years ago
What's with the leg?
AngryRantingNerd 2 years ago 2
@AngryRantingNerd
Who cares? :D
kingslice75 2 years ago
to all the ppl who keep making fun of him: STFU! he is so nice! i bet if you didn't know he was gay you'd be his friend! stop wasting your time!
EmoStrawberryXB 2 years ago 8
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Ur the lowest piece of crap life I've ever layed my sorry sore eyes upon u sick weak minded confused piece of garbage. Homosexuals are sick and disgusting! Ur just a stain on the underpants of society Get ready for the dark Forever burning pits of hell u swine!
BranPHILhop 2 years ago
@BranPHILhop
Go away.
shazandrew1414 2 years ago
wow ur gay for commenting and waTCHING THE VID suck it....
reinventnv 2 years ago
@BranPHILhop Isn't the best way to get to Heaven is to be kind and gracious towards ALL of God's creations? You are not God and therefore have no place to judge others.
yehyeh22 2 years ago 2
cute leg, too...
NorthnExpressStudios 2 years ago 3
you remind me of michael cera
lillily174 2 years ago
so.. i jus came out to two of my best friends.... and they were EXTREMELY ACCEPTING, like I was shocked... but they were girls! umm, i have a guy best friend... but I'm scared that he might not like me if i tell him, however he does have a gay brother... and he accepts & sticks up for him.... do u think he'll accept me??? HE IS SUCH A GREAT FRIEND..... and I DON"T WANNA LOSE HIM!!!!
danielknows11 2 years ago
ofcourse he is gonna stick by you he has a brother who is gay and he accepts that if he does not accept you as you are he is NOT a friend of you anyway.
tubie33 2 years ago 2
thanks alot for the advice, i'm going to tell him..... i jus wanna get it over with. Thanks!
danielknows11 2 years ago
now, if he accepts he's bro he'd most definitely accept you, but if he doesn't which i think would be hiralious, he wouldn't be a true friend of yours at all!! tell him when you're by urselves and he can listen to you totally.
barnabirap 2 years ago
Thanks alot for the advice, and ya i think i'm jus going to tell him next time we're alone.... i'm sick of feeling like i'm holding this back from him... and i guess you're right with the whole if he doesn't accept me, he's not a true friend thing... cuz that wouldn't really make sense.. THANKS ALOT!!!
danielknows11 2 years ago
ur welcome^-^
barnabirap 2 years ago
lol you're so cute rambling like that aww you're so tired its 4 AM haha <3
Rickytastic 2 years ago
Thank you:-)
nbtafelberg 2 years ago
im not a lesbian myself and i dont know many gay ppl but dont be ashamed! be who you are. Good for you on sharing your feelings and i hope it all works out 4 u!!!! u r a normal person no matter wat ur sexuality and dont let any1 EVER tell you otherwise! xxx
totalRPattzfreak 2 years ago 2
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Good for you that you have good friends. :-)
LeishaCamden 2 years ago
Your sexuality is a HUGE part of you. Dont be ashamed.
2dboy 2 years ago 40
Honestly I disagree, I think its not that big a part of me, when I realised I was gay it never changed who I was, I was the same guy but I just fancied guys was all.
And Honestly the problem society has is that people think if you become gay, you turn into a different species, I mean In my experience with friends being bi and gay, my response was yeah thats great, but also one of it doesnt change who you are and I still love you.
limetang 2 years ago
well then you dont understand what i mean - no offense.
look, you said when you realised you were gay, nothing about you changed - of course it didnt! You were always gay, even before you realised it! Its not a bad thing.
All people are shaped by how they view the world - str8 bi gay tran w.e
before you realised you were gay, you were still looking out at the world through those big gay eyes - i agree with you that it doesnt change us into a different person or species - i am the exact same
2dboy 2 years ago
@2dboy I disagree. Your sexuality is not what makes you, you. Peoples sexuality is but one of many different thing that makes up a person. Just because a person it gay/bi it doesnt mean that all they are. :)
deadtaco4011 1 year ago
@deadtaco4011 wrong - your sexuality is a very large part of what makes a person who they are. Its psychology 101.
Is it the ONLY thing? Of course not, I never said it was.
I think its sad that so many LGBT are afraid to accept that part of themselves.
so much of the LGBT community seems to be trying way to hard to be straight if you ask me. Personally I dont want to try to be just like the straights so that they can all then accept me. No way. Only on my terms!
2dboy 1 year ago
@2dboy no your sexuality is not a HUGE part of you, its a SMALL part of you, and thats why its no big deal if your str8, gay or bi
when you say its a huge part of you it actually means that person should treat it as a big deal
but like theophi1us said, he has many layers unlinked to his sexuality, his sexuality does not define him
scozta 1 year ago
@scozta your argument is so flawed! Read any pschology book - our sexuality is a HIGE part of who we are and how we view the world. It doesnt mean you have to "treat is as a big deal". I dont know where you got that little gem.
And if you read any of what I said, i did not say a persons sexuality defines them - but it does play a large part and should not be downplayed just because you want to appease the straight world around u
its part of a spectrum of what makes us who we r and is not bad
2dboy 1 year ago
@2dboy sex is such a shallow, meaningless thing
whether between a man and a woman, a man and a man, or a woman and a woman
therefore sexuality is unimportant and not a big a deal.
I think what you mean is 'love' - love is a huge part of us, haha dont confuse the two dude
and i have nothing against homophiles, biphiles or heterophiles (phile = love, i wont say homosexuality, bisexuality or heterosexuality because that means sexual attraction)! That's all I have to say!
scozta 1 year ago
I wasn't planning on telling my mum I'm bi, but I accidently did it while drunk. I kind of wish I'd told her purposly, and the worst part is that I can't remember her reaction. I don't know how she feels about it but I'm too afraid to bring it up.
JohnnyxChrist 2 years ago
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did the prom king fuck you? i wanna get fucked by a prom king now!!
weert6666 2 years ago
your best friend sounds like a true one :)
vivelesmuffins 2 years ago 47
im from n ireland a pretty much ok now. but not when I was younger, im 34
zomboy74 2 years ago
You're very brave to take a guy to your homecomming :)
I considered asking this girl to be my date at our Galla, but I don't dare yet to tell her just how much of a 'date' she would be..
ilovecakexD 2 years ago
have you ever had a boyfriend?
sodapop729 2 years ago
It is still too early to tell how well your friend is going to take it. I'm sure he was shocked and only said what he thought would cause less conflict at that time...but it takes a while to reflect on that kind of stuff.
If he accepts you, you're lucky.
There is no "sort of" or "kind of". He either does or doesn't.
I do honestly hope that he turns out to be a true friend..in many cases, people will put their religion/beliefs first...friends second.
ncPsychosis 2 years ago 3
you're a sweet guy from what i can tell and you have such great courage for going to the dance with a guy.
brundageta 2 years ago 5
I admire the way you did it - you told your friends (those, you care about), parents and just let the others know by gossip and homecoming dance - that was brave fo you ! I wish I would have a friend like you :)
Tarhiel 2 years ago 3
Telling my parents was the hardest thing... they didn't believe me. But i fell in love with my best mate and we've been together for 6 months now. although now she's moving to england :( i am going to miss her so much.
jofasis 2 years ago
How hard is it to tell your parents? I havent yet and i am petrified. I dont even know how im going to tell them.
someonebehatinonme 2 years ago 5
Yeah, I only told my closest friends. After that I kinda had it just spread around, I didn't wanna have to tell every single person I've ever known.
But... I still need to tell my dad.
He's a hardcore catholic... : /
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cocoakrispies27 2 years ago
you're adorable and i think it's so great and brave that you went to a dance with a guy! I made sure i waited until i graduated in June to tell anyone and i still don't have enough to come out to my family and a few friends. i wish i was brave like you :)
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Gays are pointless! They should all fucking die!
ManUtdFoEver 2 years ago
im still waiting... i think im gonna write a letter. lmao
Imnotokay66 2 years ago
You're so cute. I would date you! =)
tyavka 2 years ago 4
I Don't Think Ppl Really Care If It's Long Cuz Ur Making A Great Point On Life And It Should Be Told. I'm Bisexual And I Was Scared 2 Tell My Best Friend And When I Did I Was So Sure She Was Going 2 Say Something Like I Don't Wanna Be Ur Friend Any More But She Didnt She Told Me Take She Thought It Was Great And She Was Really Helpful 2 Me. Its Life Live It The Way U Are Not Behind A Lie.
KareBear2250 2 years ago 2
Awh, you're cute.
And kudos for not only being gay and getting a date to Homecoming that's a boy, but also for showing up wtih the Homecoming King.
XD that's awesome man.
AboutTommie 2 years ago
Where did the leg all of a sudden come from? :D
Congrats on telling your friend - I know how hard it is.
afhdfh 2 years ago 3
Haha it's actually kind of adorable how you can't stop rambling, probably due to tiredness, but maybe just because it's part of who you are. I tend to be like that too. Congrats on celebrating yourself for who you are. Huge accomplishment - most people never get that far until their dying breath. xoxo
XXsilentheatXX 2 years ago 2
I LOVE this, pretty much word perfect in mirroring my own coming out.
huddleformation 2 years ago
idk what to say... that was great dude...
be out, and be proud!! =]
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RRTHA3RD 2 years ago
I can understand why you were worried - not many gays like to be associated with the extreme stereotype which is always in the media. It gives straight people the wrong impression and an invalid basis for their prejudice.
XIVoler 2 years ago 4
That is one hella good friend you got there I would advise you to keep him close due to the scarcity of true friends in the world.
AnimeTW 2 years ago 6
You are sooooo hot! :D
ianIPMian 2 years ago
Thank you for taking the time to make this video. I look up to you.
floooble3 2 years ago 3
im glad you are so open and dont want to make being gay the main part of your personality.. im also glad your not part of the steriotypical gay group who talks in a valley girl accent and stuff... good job:)
lucynskywithdiamonds 2 years ago 4
i have to say thanks for sharing ur life with us. i, for 1, love that u feel that u can talk openly like this. not everyone can or has someone that we can talk to. and dont worry about being long winded becouse i love hearing ur voice( so sweet)
tatrucker5 2 years ago 3
This kind of honesty is exactly the right way to say it. A best friend who accepts you for all of who you are... awesome. Dancing with the Homecoming King? Two thumbs up too.
BlueCatShip 2 years ago 2
You really have it right. I hope your parents are ok with it, it can be a terrible shock.
And you need a couple really brave str8 friends who will hug you ever day at school, etc. And embarass the potential homophobes to not be homophobes.
do it rigtht, almost everyone will become brave enough to embrace you regardless of your sexuality. In some cases I've heard of gay kids actually becomming so very popular. Prob because they are seen as brave, and a couple good friends drive that home.\
lookseeme21 2 years ago 2
The homecoming king? Wow, that's brave of you both. I hope some day to be able to be as open as you are. The only big hurdles I have left are my parents and my home university. I'm out to basically all my good friends and to the general public here in Germany where I'm doing a semester abroad. It's just that the atmosphere at my uni at home is completely different, and I'm just not ready for that yet.
coeurdechoeur 2 years ago
sorry for my awfull writing, I just got nervious just typing it, ...could you imagine it??
lc2051 2 years ago
oh lord, for me, there is no way I could come out, there is just no way, I just refuse to do it, I won't handle it, they day I do it, will the day I'll moving to jungle of africa because I cannot handle it!!
lc2051 2 years ago
Omg HOTT leg!!!
lelodsik12 2 years ago
Scotty, you are so kind and good...from now on, your life should be just fine, so no worries and enjoy those great people you are lucky to have in your life.
Thank you for sharing your story.
tattooedboy04 2 years ago 2
It should be part of what you are but not all of who you are...
soulclipse27 2 years ago
I'm very nervous about coming out also. Think about it, but then chicken out. Maybe the best thing to do is setting a date when you want to tell the first person.
Maybe coming out day (Oct 11 ?)
aq94b, don't worry about watching porn. Everybody watches porn. Sometimes it's the only outlet you have. And most importantly, DON'T HATE YOURSELF! You have to love yourself first. Then you will be able to deal with everything else.
Relax and be yourself......
classic287 2 years ago 2
I can't even think about how people will react without shaking.
carsonmaier14 2 years ago
Go ahead and shake and let your feelings out when you tell someone. I just told my son. I was shaking like crazy and couldn't talk at first. What is it Dad, tell me now, he said. I finally squeeked it out and he said "don't worry about" "I'm cool with it" why didn't you tell me before, he said. A lot off my shoulders. Just let it come out. Shake and shake, just let it go.....
classic287 2 years ago
thanks for the advice.
carsonmaier14 2 years ago
You're very welcome. Again, just let it out. Yes, you will tremble and feel sad, but the person you are telling will see your grief and most likely help you with it. Then you will feel some relief almost immediately....
classic287 2 years ago
is it realy that easy cuase i cant even tell one person i've tryed but i just said something else instead.
4tigerking7 2 years ago
how did that go?
aq94b 3 years ago
unlike most gay people, i dont feel good after coming out... maybe its because being gay wasnt the only thing i was hiding lol.
i watch porn
i am attracted to my best friend
i hate myself
that feels better :D
aq94b 3 years ago 5
The last two somewhat apply to me. That's why I ignored my friend for about a year. I thought it was just way too creepy that I came out to my friend who I found cute.
obentomusubi 3 years ago
ugh, yea...i am attracted to one of my closest friends and I felt like I should tell him. He said to just keep my thoughts inside and to not hit on him too much...he is a sweetheart, does not mind that I flirt because he knows me more than most people do. It's a very common thing...but for sure something that can be dealt with positively! Peace
b87gr 2 years ago
I wish it had gone the same way for me. I've been pondering that quandary very very much in the recent weeks, and it occurred to me that he's been telling me he doesn't mind, yet he tends to ignore me. I don't have a crush on him anymore... his ignoring me makes me feel angry, actually. I trusted him and I told him everything, and now whenever I say "Hi" to him, he barely responds (meaning slight wave of hand and eye contact for half a second, nothing more). ::sigh::
obentomusubi 2 years ago
I was attracted to my cousin for about a year. Luckily I'm over it now. I told her and now we are closer than ever.
Agnesiumland 2 years ago
I was attracted to my cousin too. I still am hehehehe
lelodsik12 2 years ago
im in love with my best friend :)
xxsaulalover4everxx 2 years ago
Yeah, in case you didn't notice, your knee was completely in that shot. But its okay, you were totally tired. I would not have been able to make a video at four in the morning, I'd probably fall asleep half way through and then everyone could enjoy watching eight hours of me sleeping.
Congrats on the completion of coming out. From now on its not so much as you coming out to someone, now its like, 'Yeah, Ilike guys, you didn't know? Dumbass...'
That's the best part! =D
~Chance
DaVinciJoel 3 years ago
you rock
bornfromashes2008 3 years ago
I came out to my family 1st & it all went well <y cousins & I hang out all the time. My best friend was the most dreaded though. It went great and so did all my other friends. Some thought so already, others had no idea. But, nothing changed, I was lucky. I let people get to know me before I tell them now, I don't act gay or anything, but when I tell them they are usually cool with it.
Great vid. I can't wait to check out the rest and sub to you.
nbboi1 3 years ago
Yeah - who's knee is that?
Key2Be 3 years ago
Labels suck and being gay or bi is not a sport,club or hobby - it's all about your inner most personal feelings .... can i come out to you -? - Yay i'm BI! - Aaah i feel so released.
Key2Be 3 years ago
You're right, sexuality is not the main feature of our personnality. I like (love) people for their mind and not for their sexuality.
The more I watched your videos, the more I feel close to you (in your way of thinking). I'm really happy if it's easier for you...
starfisher38 3 years ago
Congrats I'm glad it went well. You should tell your coming out story about your parents/family (if you want too) just curious. I'm one of those people who like to watch those lol.
lovelylez86 3 years ago
Nice leg.
promagnum 3 years ago
people shouldn't judge other people because of their sexuality
LGBTedu08 3 years ago 3
LGBTedu08: Only if they fancy them. ;)
ellyunfortunetly 3 years ago
not even then
smithhedgehog 3 years ago
This guys really a breath of fresh air. I totally agree with him and I'm now in fear of favourating all his vids! hehe :D also: perviness: he hath sexy legs xD
ellyunfortunetly 3 years ago 3
yes he hath :-)
smithhedgehog 3 years ago
Yeah, the labeling is irritating. There should be more then being gay.
TwinkleTwinky 3 years ago
Hi I watched one of your vids the other night. I was impressed. Been following Derek too. You both seem smart and balanced. About your fear of telling that one person, the last one. Perhaps you heitated 'cuz you were afraid that he would not "understand."
Understanding is ALWAYS the tough thing. KNOWing how YOU feel is only possible if he has similar feelings of his own. I see continued intamacy respect acceptance and love as well.
Good Job guy! Keep it up!
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joey1948 3 years ago
Coming out to people is always scary.But you definitely feel a burden lifted afterwards.You seem to be handling the issue with class.
jubmarc 3 years ago 2
good 4 you man :)
magicdog200 3 years ago 2
Beautiful story. So glad you are feeling good about coming out and finding your friendships to be deeper and more meaningful as a result.
alloutacash 3 years ago 3
now your whole leg is showing, why are you wearing a hoodie and polo but not pants? are you wearing underwear?
sk8erboi4jc 3 years ago
I told my friends, and about 3 days later 5 of them were gay them selves. Weird o.O...
ichbinstark 3 years ago 5
hahha, that is great
Theophi1us 3 years ago
Hahaha lucky! :) I told about 15/20 people now and still I don't know a single gay person. I guess maybe I should just go for the "big leap"...
Bleeeeeeep 3 years ago 2
You'll meet someone trust me, there were a few I would have never of guessed were gay. BTW what do you mean big leap?
ichbinstark 3 years ago 2
I mean telling everyone. Including family (who still don't know). I guess the problem is that everyone is 100% convinced I'm straight (apart from those I've told). Plus if someone asks me I'll pretend to be straight. Maybe I should stop doing that too! :P
Bleeeeeeep 3 years ago 2
tell them when you feel ready...yeah, stop pretending to be straight, i've had issues with that too but it only damages you in the end.
smithhedgehog 3 years ago
Every 'coming out' video is another step to equality. Keep the momentum up!
reptiles99 3 years ago 2
I Think that you are absolutly the most awesomenessss person ever!!!!!
wowcow123456789 3 years ago
Thanks =]
Theophi1us 3 years ago
I'm viewing this in the wee hours of Sunday morning so I think your vid is close to 24 hours old. I'll bet you slept very well after coming out to your friend. A huge burden was lifted from you. I'm not surprised that he is okay with you because friends like you don't come along often Scottie. I wish you nothing but the best.
alaninnh 3 years ago
Scott - congratulations! I'm glad he took it well. Seems to me people have an initial response and then