There is nothing wrong with a material expression of care like a gift. It's nice to express our love and friendship with a tangible object like a card or gift at times. It's the over emphasis and blowing it out of proportion IMO that is so wrong.
Not all women buy into it. I was taught from an early age NOT to accept high dollar gifts from men. I had no idea why at the time but it was taught to me long before I had an interested in boys. Not all women think what magazines/tv saw is gospel to live by. Many women what a real relationship and view their love (or friendship, whatever level they are at) to give a man higher than a commodity to be exchanged.
Great video, the commercialization of christmas is disgusting.! A truly impressive mate would be one that is secure enough to not fall for the peer and social pressure to impress others with what they can buy or have bought for them. The market constantly comes up with new ways to drain our wallets like valentines day and others... and a great line of the video is the phrase "buying a service" how true!
We need to learn it's OK and necessary to reject a gift too. They know we will feel obligated and won't want to hurt them by saying No. If someone gives you a gift that has a $ value you are not comfortable with, don't accept it. This is how some Narcs start things out.
The best gift is one from the heart. I bought my brother a switchblade comb for $4 that he loved way more than the $20 remote controlled plane. I love gifts that show an attempt to know me way more than any rocks on a shiny string.
Any of the other women that aren't "the social norm" feel like they're from another planet? If I acted like/claimed to be a princess growing up, my parents would have collapsed laughing. If I complained about boredom, they gave me chores. If I asked for money they told me to go earn it myself,l but didn't mind helping me start whatever business I thought up.
Funny; some truth but also some not so funny facts make this tale cold and calculating. When really everyone is simply led up the garden path into ego land, sad yet very true!
While Men work, build, invent, discover, fix and improve... Women are Parasites.
Women are completely dependent on Men for their survival... offering men the only thing they can offer, their Vagina.
In return for their Vagina women demand a Home, Money, Food, Car, Allimony, Child custody, Child support, and then Social benefits such as food stamps, cash assistance, free housing and if you are a foreign woman...
... cont ... (G00gle: Immigration Laura Granados Martha)
...free immigration, professional certification and employment.
Women, in return for their Vagina demand the right to Falsely Accuse their male partners of Rape or Domenstic Violence and completely destroy his life.
Women are Prostitutes and Destructive Parasites... When Men realize this is happening, how long do you think this will last?
Something to add to it is if you have children, you need to limit yourself too. I see too many young adults out there that are the way they are because they have been spoiled by their parents and got whatever they wanted without having to put up any effort to get it. I think that’s the entire message of the miscreants at the Occupy Wall St thing. They know what they want but don’t want to work for it and are throwing a tantrum.
"Buying too expensive a gift shows a lack of consideration". Hmmm. Don't you think that it could be an individual thing? I've had wealthy boyfriends in the past who had a lot more money than me, and could afford to buy me something more expensive than what I could buy them - I did not feel "uncomfortable" because they could easily afford it. So, when I dated someone whom my resources were greater than his, I did the same thing. I saw a need and responded (out of compassion).
Well sure, I'm not going to tell you how to feel. That was just my perspective.
If the present is merely expensive and not thoughtful or considerate it's in danger of being meaningless (and even demeaning) as money is not an issue for the giver. One might think that their love is being bought.
Also it's good to remember that gift is just a gift. If we can't communicate our love without them, there is hardly any point in giving them.
@slipcurve so true. Hub always finds obscure DVD's that I love. Usually he get's 45's (he's a record fanatic) Once in a while it's worth splurging. How often are you going to find a 45 of "She Loves You" in the original sleeve, right near Valentine's day?
Lets remember what valentines day does too, i think the whole system is designed to promote expectations on material goods and spending money.. and if the gift isnt good enough it can make an already weak relationship suffer even more... Thx for the video James i always Love hear what you have to say...karl tulsa ok..
@karlbuttler Thanks Karl. You are correct about Valentines day too. We need to get back to the basics of what relationships mean and how to go about having one in a healthy manor.
@ayemaya75 These videos should give you the Boost you need to leave him if he is being abusive, i put up with it for Twelve years, and im glad it over, though i miss my kids so much..
Our relationship progressed very slowly - we had been seeing each other for around 7 months at that time. We were still platonic. lol. He also did not give me an engagement ring - however, his father gave me his mother's (husband's grandmother's) VERY nice ring (with the condition that I return it if we break up).
@ayemaya75 I would like to add that he never knew how much I paid for the jacket (until I told him 6 years later), and probably had no idea it was that expensive because he does not go shopping or knows the value of things.
Christmas promotes consumerism! a smart couple would boycott "gift giving" all together. Christmas promoted as the "the season of giving," is a psychological ploy designed to make people feel selfish and alienated from loved ones for not buying them "gifts."
Christmas itself, as currently practiced, is selfish, and as an eponym is false. It's nothing but societal peer pressure for adults, sponsored by profit chasing corporations.
Christmas promotes consumerism; a smart couple would boycott "gift giving" all together. There's nothing wrong, however, with taking advantage of a Christmas sale to obtain an item for yourself that you need (or want), as opposed to paying more for it before or after the Christmas season. Christmas promoted as the "the season of giving," is a psychological ploy designed to make people feel selfish, and alienated from loved ones for not buying them "gifts." Christmas as an eponym is false.
I hate how people think that Christmas is about spending money on materialistic items. Christmas is about spending time with your loved ones. It doesn't have to be bought from a store to be a gift. I drew a picture for my favorite teacher.
Actually i've told my husband he doesn't have to get me anything because i have him ,but he always gets me something anyway . When i buy him gifts i usually only get him things he needs like socks and the like , he usually won't buy them for himself .
There is nothing wrong with a material expression of care like a gift. It's nice to express our love and friendship with a tangible object like a card or gift at times. It's the over emphasis and blowing it out of proportion IMO that is so wrong.
Lisa9744 2 months ago
@Lisa9744 sorry I meant that reply for Karl.
Lisa9744 2 months ago
Not all women buy into it. I was taught from an early age NOT to accept high dollar gifts from men. I had no idea why at the time but it was taught to me long before I had an interested in boys. Not all women think what magazines/tv saw is gospel to live by. Many women what a real relationship and view their love (or friendship, whatever level they are at) to give a man higher than a commodity to be exchanged.
Lisa9744 2 months ago
Great video, the commercialization of christmas is disgusting.! A truly impressive mate would be one that is secure enough to not fall for the peer and social pressure to impress others with what they can buy or have bought for them. The market constantly comes up with new ways to drain our wallets like valentines day and others... and a great line of the video is the phrase "buying a service" how true!
1n2k3v4m 2 months ago
We need to learn it's OK and necessary to reject a gift too. They know we will feel obligated and won't want to hurt them by saying No. If someone gives you a gift that has a $ value you are not comfortable with, don't accept it. This is how some Narcs start things out.
Lisa9744 2 months ago
The best gift is one from the heart. I bought my brother a switchblade comb for $4 that he loved way more than the $20 remote controlled plane. I love gifts that show an attempt to know me way more than any rocks on a shiny string.
AgapeForgotten 2 months ago
Any of the other women that aren't "the social norm" feel like they're from another planet? If I acted like/claimed to be a princess growing up, my parents would have collapsed laughing. If I complained about boredom, they gave me chores. If I asked for money they told me to go earn it myself,l but didn't mind helping me start whatever business I thought up.
ginastarke2 2 months ago
Hope you enjoy the holidays James.
RenegadeJuggler 2 months ago
Funny; some truth but also some not so funny facts make this tale cold and calculating. When really everyone is simply led up the garden path into ego land, sad yet very true!
TheLetsbegin 2 months ago
While Men work, build, invent, discover, fix and improve... Women are Parasites.
Women are completely dependent on Men for their survival... offering men the only thing they can offer, their Vagina.
In return for their Vagina women demand a Home, Money, Food, Car, Allimony, Child custody, Child support, and then Social benefits such as food stamps, cash assistance, free housing and if you are a foreign woman...
... cont ... (G00gle: Immigration Laura Granados Martha)
VAWAImmigrProstitute 2 months ago
... cont ...
...free immigration, professional certification and employment.
Women, in return for their Vagina demand the right to Falsely Accuse their male partners of Rape or Domenstic Violence and completely destroy his life.
Women are Prostitutes and Destructive Parasites... When Men realize this is happening, how long do you think this will last?
G00gle: Martha Granados Laura Immigration
VAWAImmigrProstitute 2 months ago
Great Message !!
fearoceanstudios 2 months ago
They have been manipulated into being respectable whores.
ghosty426 2 months ago
Something to add to it is if you have children, you need to limit yourself too. I see too many young adults out there that are the way they are because they have been spoiled by their parents and got whatever they wanted without having to put up any effort to get it. I think that’s the entire message of the miscreants at the Occupy Wall St thing. They know what they want but don’t want to work for it and are throwing a tantrum.
maconsumner 2 months ago
Presents should not be too expensive or the other party (and I) will feel uncomfortable. Buying too expensive a gift shows a lack of consideration.
It's not about the price of the gifts. Instead it's about showing that you care (in other words, you have put some effort and thought into it).
slipcurve 2 months ago 3
@slipcurve BINGO !
begood4000 2 months ago
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@slipcurve
"Buying too expensive a gift shows a lack of consideration". Hmmm. Don't you think that it could be an individual thing? I've had wealthy boyfriends in the past who had a lot more money than me, and could afford to buy me something more expensive than what I could buy them - I did not feel "uncomfortable" because they could easily afford it. So, when I dated someone whom my resources were greater than his, I did the same thing. I saw a need and responded (out of compassion).
ayemaya75 2 months ago
@ayemaya75
Well sure, I'm not going to tell you how to feel. That was just my perspective.
If the present is merely expensive and not thoughtful or considerate it's in danger of being meaningless (and even demeaning) as money is not an issue for the giver. One might think that their love is being bought.
Also it's good to remember that gift is just a gift. If we can't communicate our love without them, there is hardly any point in giving them.
slipcurve 2 months ago
@slipcurve
I agree. Thank you.
ayemaya75 2 months ago
@slipcurve so true. Hub always finds obscure DVD's that I love. Usually he get's 45's (he's a record fanatic) Once in a while it's worth splurging. How often are you going to find a 45 of "She Loves You" in the original sleeve, right near Valentine's day?
ginastarke2 2 months ago
Lets remember what valentines day does too, i think the whole system is designed to promote expectations on material goods and spending money.. and if the gift isnt good enough it can make an already weak relationship suffer even more... Thx for the video James i always Love hear what you have to say...karl tulsa ok..
karlbuttler 2 months ago
@karlbuttler Thanks Karl. You are correct about Valentines day too. We need to get back to the basics of what relationships mean and how to go about having one in a healthy manor.
begood4000 2 months ago
While I was dating my now very toxic husband, I bought him a $200 jacket and he gave me a $6.99 can opener for Christmas, and I still married him.
ayemaya75 2 months ago
@ayemaya75 Well at least the miserable git was a good businessman. Laughing aside, I hope you dumped him and life improved.
NoFaithNoPain 2 months ago
@NoFaithNoPain
Working on it. Not so easy, sometimes.
ayemaya75 2 months ago
@ayemaya75 These videos should give you the Boost you need to leave him if he is being abusive, i put up with it for Twelve years, and im glad it over, though i miss my kids so much..
karlbuttler 2 months ago
@karlbuttler
These videos are helping the process. Sorry that you were separated from your kids.
ayemaya75 2 months ago
@ayemaya75 how long were you dating him when you bought the $200 Jacket ?
begood4000 2 months ago
@begood4000
Our relationship progressed very slowly - we had been seeing each other for around 7 months at that time. We were still platonic. lol. He also did not give me an engagement ring - however, his father gave me his mother's (husband's grandmother's) VERY nice ring (with the condition that I return it if we break up).
ayemaya75 2 months ago
@ayemaya75 Ultimate payback would be him getting too fat to wear the jacket because you fed him so much canned food.
maconsumner 2 months ago
@maconsumner Good one! :D
ayemaya75 2 months ago
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@ayemaya75 Ultimate payback would be him getting too fat to wear the jacket because you fed him so much canned food.
maconsumner 2 months ago
@ayemaya75 I would like to add that he never knew how much I paid for the jacket (until I told him 6 years later), and probably had no idea it was that expensive because he does not go shopping or knows the value of things.
ayemaya75 2 months ago
Happy Kwanzza
gmann1695 2 months ago
Christmas promotes consumerism! a smart couple would boycott "gift giving" all together. Christmas promoted as the "the season of giving," is a psychological ploy designed to make people feel selfish and alienated from loved ones for not buying them "gifts."
Christmas itself, as currently practiced, is selfish, and as an eponym is false. It's nothing but societal peer pressure for adults, sponsored by profit chasing corporations.
FranG1214 2 months ago 6
Christmas promotes consumerism; a smart couple would boycott "gift giving" all together. There's nothing wrong, however, with taking advantage of a Christmas sale to obtain an item for yourself that you need (or want), as opposed to paying more for it before or after the Christmas season. Christmas promoted as the "the season of giving," is a psychological ploy designed to make people feel selfish, and alienated from loved ones for not buying them "gifts." Christmas as an eponym is false.
FranG1214 2 months ago
@FranG1214
I concur. It is also done at the end of the year to increase the GNP/GDP.
ayemaya75 2 months ago
This definately needed to be said.
TheLordmep 2 months ago
Excellent advice!
shallowabyss100 2 months ago
I hate how people think that Christmas is about spending money on materialistic items. Christmas is about spending time with your loved ones. It doesn't have to be bought from a store to be a gift. I drew a picture for my favorite teacher.
ultimatemarvelanddc 2 months ago
Actually i've told my husband he doesn't have to get me anything because i have him ,but he always gets me something anyway . When i buy him gifts i usually only get him things he needs like socks and the like , he usually won't buy them for himself .
ardana777 2 months ago